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The Difference Between Growing up in Africa vs America · Earn Your Leisure

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  Speaker 1: An illegal alien from Guatemala charged with raping a child
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  Speaker 1: in Massachusetts. An MS thirteen gang member from Al Salvador
• 0:07
  Speaker 1: accused of murdering a Texas man of Venezuelan charged with
• 0:11
  Speaker 1: filming and selling child pornography in Michigan. These are just
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  Speaker 1: some of the heinous migrant criminals caught because of President
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  Speaker 1: Donald J. Trump's leadership. I'm Christy nom the United States
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  Speaker 1: Secretary of Homeland Security. Under President Trump, attempted illegal border
• 0:28
  Speaker 1: crossings are at the lowest levels ever recorded, and over
• 0:31
  Speaker 1: one hundred thousand illegal aliens have been arrested. If you
• 0:35
  Speaker 1: are here illegally, your next you will be fined nearly
• 0:39
  Speaker 1: one thousand dollars a day, imprisoned, and deported. You will
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  Speaker 1: never return. But if you register using our CBP home
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  Speaker 1: app and leave now, you could be allowed to return legally.
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  Speaker 1: Do what's right. Leave now. Under President Trump, America's laws,
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  Speaker 1: border and families will.
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  Speaker 2: Be protected sponsored by the United States Department of Homeland Security.
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  Speaker 3: So what we built.
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  Speaker 4: I want to ask you about the festival before then,
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  Speaker 4: let's go through this. You're born in America. Wll yeah?
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  Speaker 4: Were you born eighty eight? You're born in eighty eight
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  Speaker 4: in ninety five. You go to Africa, Ghana for seven
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  Speaker 4: years yep. So that's like what like third grade something
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  Speaker 4: like that.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, second second grade, second grade grade up until like
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  Speaker 3: I came back when I was in eighth grade, So.
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  Speaker 4: You go from second grade to eighth grade, which effectively
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  Speaker 4: is like where you're actually growing up. So you're growing
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  Speaker 4: up in Ghana, come back in for high school in
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  Speaker 4: New York, yep.
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  Speaker 3: Went to Walton High School, high school for teaching professions
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  Speaker 3: in Walton was high school side of the high school,
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  Speaker 3: inside of the so you know, we were wore uniforms. Crazy.
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  Speaker 3: But you know, even like transitioning between coming back from
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  Speaker 3: Ghana to go to school, it was a culture shop
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  Speaker 3: because I hear students talking back to teachers.
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  Speaker 4: That's what I was doing. So it's like, all right,
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  Speaker 4: you like French Martana. He he moved to the Bronx Morocco, Africa,
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  Speaker 4: but he just was in there for twelve years and
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  Speaker 4: they moved. So it's not as you were in America
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  Speaker 4: in the Bronx, went to Ghana and came back to
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  Speaker 4: the Bronx. How was that for you? As far as
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  Speaker 4: a culture shock is concerned. And we have another friend
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  Speaker 4: from Nigeria, and he was saying, like in Nigeria, that's
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  Speaker 4: real popular. Like parents make sure that their kids go
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  Speaker 4: back to their country for a couple of years just
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  Speaker 4: they don't want them to lose the culture. And they
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  Speaker 4: don't even live with them, like they'll sit them with
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  Speaker 4: an aunt or an uncle.
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  Speaker 3: I lived with my grandmother and my uncle. So I
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  Speaker 3: lived with my uncle the first couple of years and
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  Speaker 3: then with my grandmother, which was an experience. My uncle
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  Speaker 3: hustled in Japan as in he left Ghana to go
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  Speaker 3: to Japan to learn how to make money. So he
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  Speaker 3: moved back to Ghana to start his own businesses. But
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  Speaker 3: it was very different that because I'm not with my parents,
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  Speaker 3: I don't really know him as an uncle like that.
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  Speaker 3: I just met him when I moved into his house.
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  Speaker 3: You know, we're living in a house that is in
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  Speaker 3: Medina's own goal. It's very different than the people we
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  Speaker 3: go to school with who are all living in like luxury.
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  Speaker 3: So my dad kind of in his mind he did
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  Speaker 3: that purposefully because he wanted us to be able to
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  Speaker 3: have that balance at the time, I'm not gonna lie.
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  Speaker 3: They didn't like it. I just it was just kind of
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  Speaker 3: like I didn't understand why they would leave us here.
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  Speaker 3: You know, every once in a while, like they'll make
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  Speaker 3: us feel happy by like shipping us a bunch of
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  Speaker 3: boxes of cereal or like powdered milk. You know, you know,
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  Speaker 3: you know, it just kind of made you take an
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  Speaker 3: appreciation for like being able to go to a corner
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  Speaker 3: store and get like a gallon of milk or get
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  Speaker 3: a bag of chips, or a quarter soda after the
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  Speaker 3: quarter of water or something like that. Back then, so
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  Speaker 3: whenever we would get to come back for the summertime
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  Speaker 3: with the best times right because then you get to
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  Speaker 3: go back to Ghana and go to school and show
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  Speaker 3: them all the new kicks, showed them all the new gear,
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  Speaker 3: tell them like all the new music that's going out. Yeah,
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  Speaker 3: you're the man when you when you have that, I
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  Speaker 3: guess proximity to abroad in Ghana during those times, you
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  Speaker 3: were the man, Like you know what I mean, it
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  Speaker 3: was it was very very impopular. I think the Internet
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  Speaker 3: has kind of changed that because now they can see
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  Speaker 3: everything as we see it. But back then, you know,
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  Speaker 3: you were the man because you kind of brought them
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  Speaker 3: culture that they didn't really have access to.
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  Speaker 2: So yeah, it was interesting.
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  Speaker 3: So and I think we came right around nine to eleven,
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  Speaker 3: we moved back to us and my pops was like,
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  Speaker 3: you know, do you guys want to stay? Like yeah,
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  Speaker 3: like you know, and you know, we stayed, and it
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  Speaker 3: was it was a culture shop because going to school,
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  Speaker 3: like I knew about the clothes, like you know, my
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  Speaker 3: brother would let me hold his Jordan's I'll never forget.
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  Speaker 3: You know. That's the reason why to this day, I'm
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  Speaker 3: still trying to find the cool grade elevens because my
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  Speaker 3: dad my brother would let me rock the I know,
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  Speaker 3: but it's cool. The threes are my favorite, so you
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  Speaker 3: know our rockers, you know. And you know, the thing
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  Speaker 3: that connected all of us was hip hop. Like you know,
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  Speaker 3: at the time, I think Jada Kiss and Beanie Seagulls.
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  Speaker 4: Was was going at it.
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  Speaker 3: And my brother was like always putting us on to
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  Speaker 3: like the music, letting us know what's going on. So
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  Speaker 3: you know, that was the one thing I could connect
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  Speaker 3: with them on because know we were talk to be
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  Speaker 3: demeor like to teachers, Like you couldn't talk back to
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  Speaker 3: a teacher, you couldn't look at him in an eye
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  Speaker 3: because you were afraid that you would get beat and
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  Speaker 3: I was in Ghane they would beat. It was so
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  Speaker 3: back here people were just cursing that teachers. I was on.
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  Speaker 5: I've seen I was on out the end of.
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  Speaker 2: That look at like you talking to the teacher like
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  Speaker 2: like you know what I mean.
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  Speaker 3: So it was it was an interesting you know culture,
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  Speaker 3: culture shock at the time because I wasn't used to
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  Speaker 3: that for a very long time. I couldn't understand how
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  Speaker 3: people were talking to teachers like that at the time.
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  Speaker 3: How quickly did you adapt to that? Uh, you know,
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  Speaker 3: I never talked back to it. I think one time
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  Speaker 3: in high school. But that's what that was out of anger, man,
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  Speaker 3: somebody trying to play me.
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  Speaker 2: You know.
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  Speaker 3: You know in high school they was throwing paper. Those
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  Speaker 3: are those are the things that's like the only five
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  Speaker 3: ever had in high school and you know that. But
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  Speaker 3: outside of that, like you know, it was it was
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  Speaker 3: dangerous then because it was a lot of gangs. And
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  Speaker 3: did you did you did.
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  Speaker 4: You have issues like embracing your African because like you said, now,
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  Speaker 4: it's a vibe as far as afrobeats has really you know,
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  Speaker 4: it made it cool, but back then, you know, kids
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  Speaker 4: is ignorant and cruel and just people, which is ignorant
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  Speaker 4: in general. So I see I've personally seen like African
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  Speaker 4: kids getting teased. Yeah, like you know what I'm saying,
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  Speaker 4: and it is Looking back on it, that's something that's
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  Speaker 4: very missing.
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  Speaker 1: An illegal alien from Guatemala charged with raping a child
• 8:10
  Speaker 1: in Massachusetts. An MS thirteen gang member from Al Salvador
• 8:15
  Speaker 1: accused of murdering a Texas. Man of Venezuelan charged with
• 8:19
  Speaker 1: filming and selling child pornography in Michigan. These are just
• 8:23
  Speaker 1: some of the heinous migrant criminals caught because of President
• 8:27
  Speaker 1: Donald J. Trump's leadership. I'm Christy Noman, the United States
• 8:30
  Speaker 1: Secretary of Homeland Security. Under President Trump, attempted illegal border
• 8:35
  Speaker 1: crossings are at the lowest levels ever recorded, and over
• 8:39
  Speaker 1: one hundred thousand illegal aliens have been arrested. If you
• 8:42
  Speaker 1: are here illegally, your next you will be fined nearly
• 8:46
  Speaker 1: one thousand dollars a day, imprisoned, and deported. You will
• 8:50
  Speaker 1: never return. But if you register using our CBP home
• 8:54
  Speaker 1: app and leave now, you could be allowed to return legally.
• 8:57
  Speaker 1: Do what's right. Leave now. Under President Trump, America's laws,
• 9:02
  Speaker 1: border and families.
• 9:04
  Speaker 2: Will be protected sponsored by the United States Department of
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  Speaker 2: Home Madsecurity.
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  Speaker 4: Fortunate, but I've seen it happen and in any group
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  Speaker 4: of people, right, that's just happens. Like so, I guess
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  Speaker 4: sometimes you either like drill down on just like becoming
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  Speaker 4: you just have a pack of people, or sometimes you
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  Speaker 4: just try to assimilate and you try to get away from.
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  Speaker 2: Who you are.
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  Speaker 3: Nah, I couldn't do that. My parents had a restaurant.
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  Speaker 3: It was really well known that this is a restaurant.
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  Speaker 3: When I came back from Ghana, I had an accent.
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  Speaker 3: It was thick, like you know what I mean. But
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  Speaker 3: you know it was just jokes, right, So if somebody
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  Speaker 3: joked on me, I joked on them like I'm African
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  Speaker 3: but I'm flying, you like those kind of things working
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  Speaker 3: back then, Like you know what I'm saying, but you
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  Speaker 3: know what I'm saying. It would just be like quick jokes.
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  Speaker 3: And then eventually, you know, kids are shallow and that
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  Speaker 3: they didn't really joke on you if it was fly
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  Speaker 3: like or if you had like a little bit of
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  Speaker 3: money or something like that, it was like the one
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  Speaker 3: thing that let them know. And then also like I had,
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  Speaker 3: I have a very big family in the Bronx, like
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  Speaker 3: you know what I mean, seven brothers, eight brothers, mad
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  Speaker 3: cousins like you know what I mean.
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  Speaker 2: So it wasn't.
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  Speaker 3: Something that people wasn't I wasn't an outcast. I wasn't
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  Speaker 3: something that like I don't remember ever getting picked on,
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  Speaker 3: like you know, because you know, my big brother will
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  Speaker 3: come on maybe once in the eighth grade, you know,
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  Speaker 3: I got picked brother came up to this something you
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  Speaker 3: don't forget, Yeah, so you don't forget that, like you
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  Speaker 3: know what I'm saying. But like I always had people
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  Speaker 3: in my community that was like always gonna hold it down.
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  Speaker 3: And I knew the blocks, like right on Burnside Avenue,
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  Speaker 3: that's our neighborhood. Like people knew, like my whole family.
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  Speaker 3: Nobody really messed with my po Dominicans up there. All
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  Speaker 3: of them know like who my pops is and who
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  Speaker 3: my block, like my brothers are and my family is.
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  Speaker 3: They don't really Cedric Avenue, you know, right there at
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  Speaker 3: birth of hip hop, you know, right by Walton. Now
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  Speaker 3: you know, we grew up there. So my cousins were
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  Speaker 3: there and they were in the neighborhood for a long time.
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  Speaker 3: Nobody really messed with us, like you know. So it
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  Speaker 3: was really just about being able to get from high
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  Speaker 3: school to home, right, So being able to bypass that portrait.
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  Speaker 5: People really don't understand that being and it's something I
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  Speaker 5: had to learn, right, So we went to school out here.
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  Speaker 5: But like when I started teaching it and I started coaching,
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  Speaker 5: I'm so used to being transported to and from like
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  Speaker 5: like a game, by a school bus until I realized,
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  Speaker 5: I gotta take the five train, yep, and I gotta
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  Speaker 5: take two train, and I gotta take the bus. And
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  Speaker 5: it's like you're susceptible to everything. But then you forget
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  Speaker 5: like the kid who's getting on the bus at ten
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  Speaker 5: years old, or the training. He's susceptible to everything too.
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  Speaker 5: So like that being in New York City, like those
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  Speaker 5: things you don't even think. You're just kind of like,
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  Speaker 5: all right, this is part of life.
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  Speaker 3: I didn't realize it was trauma until I got to
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  Speaker 3: Syracuse because university, yeah, Syracuse, Like you would go through
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  Speaker 3: the Metal Texas.
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  Speaker 2: To go to school. Yep.
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  Speaker 3: You know there was a time I didn't even go
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  Speaker 3: to the second floor because DDP was there. Like you
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  Speaker 3: know what I'm saying. It was just like if you
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  Speaker 3: were black, you was you know, anything can happen. Or
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  Speaker 3: the non bus or the twenty two bus, you know,
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  Speaker 3: people coming from Kennedy, right from Kennedy, then you meeting
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  Speaker 3: with people going from Walton on the four train, coming
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  Speaker 3: people from Evander. It was just like so many different
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  Speaker 3: ways that it was dangerous that you know, it was
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  Speaker 3: an interesting time, but you know, thankfully, like you know,
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  Speaker 3: for me, I was always a pretty good student. But
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  Speaker 3: also like because I had my family, you know, I
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  Speaker 3: didn't really have that many problems. I knew people in Roosevelt,
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  Speaker 3: knew people in all of these schools, that like will
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  Speaker 3: always hold it down for me and a family, So
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  Speaker 3: we never had much worries, you know what I mean.
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  Speaker 3: You know, my dad told us how to defend ourselves
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  Speaker 3: as well in the block as well, so we was
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  Speaker 3: always good. But it was definitely a culture shop because
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  Speaker 3: it was something I didn't have to worry about in Ghana.
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  Speaker 3: Like you know, in Ghana, all I had to worry
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  Speaker 3: about was going to school, the driver come pick us up,
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  Speaker 3: take us home, the food we made for us. You know,
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  Speaker 3: maybe they are in our clothes for us, to wash
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  Speaker 3: our clothes for us on the weekend. I didn't have
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  Speaker 3: to worry about any of that. When I came to
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  Speaker 3: back to America, it was just kind of like reality about,
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  Speaker 3: you know, knowing how to protect yourself in that time.
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  Speaker 3: I think New York is completely different than it was
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  Speaker 3: when I was growing up in high school from you know,
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  Speaker 3: from my perspective now, maybe I'm just kind of in
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  Speaker 3: what way, I just don't think it's as deep, you know,
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  Speaker 3: I remember it was. I just remember like it's more
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  Speaker 3: dangerous a change, no, but I just I remember like
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  Speaker 3: it was a thing to not we are red.
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  Speaker 4: Oh yeah, the gang thing, the gang thing that was
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  Speaker 4: early stages of the game. Yeah, so that was like heavy.
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  Speaker 4: They were still like tripping off of colors like that now,
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  Speaker 4: but it's still that still.
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  Speaker 3: I remember like being afraid to get a book fifty
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  Speaker 3: like you know, that was that was that was a
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  Speaker 3: real feel, right so, and I feel like I don't
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  Speaker 3: necessarily know that that is a thing that I'm like
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  Speaker 3: afraid to do. Like I don't know a block in
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  Speaker 3: New York City that I'm afraid to walk on. Back
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  Speaker 3: then it was like yo, I don't know about going there.
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  Speaker 4: But she was also a kid though too.
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  Speaker 2: That's what I'm saying.
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  Speaker 5: Your environment, that's all you know. It's like said eight
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  Speaker 5: block radius. We don't leave here, and if we do,
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  Speaker 5: we better be on God if we leave here.
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  Speaker 3: Absolutely, So, I mean it was interesting. I think that
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  Speaker 3: all of that just kind of made me who I am,
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  Speaker 3: and and all of that has seeped through in the
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  Speaker 3: way I've developed the business and how I'm thoughtful about
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  Speaker 3: how we invite people, how we extend our relationships to
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  Speaker 3: like two different people that we collaborate with and have
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  Speaker 3: them come back to Donna, because it's really just to
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  Speaker 3: kind of show them that there's a completely new world
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  Speaker 3: where you can just kind of like walk freely. Give
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  Speaker 3: me one of my joys is like walking in Dohna
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  Speaker 3: and seeing my friends that are now from Ghana just
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  Speaker 3: walk in the streets just being and I love that
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  Speaker 3: for them.
• 14:22
  Speaker 1: An illegal alien from Guatemala charged with raping a child
• 14:26
  Speaker 1: in Massachusetts. An MS thirteen gang member from Al Salvador
• 14:30
  Speaker 1: accused of murdering a Texas man of Venezuelan charged with
• 14:34
  Speaker 1: filming and selling child pornography in Michigan. These are just
• 14:38
  Speaker 1: some of the heinous migrant criminals caught because of President
• 14:42
  Speaker 1: Donald J. Trump's leadership. I'm Christy Noman, the United States
• 14:46
  Speaker 1: Secretary of Homeland Security. Under President Trump, attempted illegal border
• 14:50
  Speaker 1: crossings are at the lowest levels ever recorded, and over
• 14:54
  Speaker 1: one hundred thousand illegal aliens.
• 14:56
  Speaker 2: Have been arrested.
• 14:57
  Speaker 1: If you were here illegally, your next next you will
• 15:00
  Speaker 1: be fine nearly one thousand dollars a day, imprisoned and deported.
• 15:05
  Speaker 1: You will never return. But if you register using our
• 15:08
  Speaker 1: CBP home app and leave now, you could be allowed
• 15:11
  Speaker 1: to return legally. Do what's right. Leave now. Under President Trump,
• 15:17
  Speaker 1: America's laws, border and families will be protected.
• 15:20
  Speaker 2: Sponsored by the United States Department of Homeland Security,