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- Alexa Pena: Everybody wants to be successful. Everybody wants financial freedom. Everybody wants the beautiful house, the nicer car, the ability to travel whenever they want, and the freedom to spend time with their families. But there's something that we don't talk enough about. What happens when you're doing everything you think you're supposed to be doing and nothing seems to be working? What happens when you start the business but nobody's buying? When you put your heart into something and it's failing, when you have been working months, years and the results aren't reflecting the effort you've been putting into it, are we supposed to just stop? Do you convince yourself that maybe entrepreneurship isn't for you or that that dream that you have isn't for you? Or do you actually start asking yourself different questions that allow you to get to a different answer? Now, in our last conversation, we've talked about how to keep going when everything feels like it's falling apart. And I shared some difficult things that I have personally been experiencing. But today I want to take that conversation into another area of our lives because whether you're already running a business or thinking about starting one or simply trying to create a different financial reality for you, your family, you are going to need resilience. And I want to share four principles that have helped me create the success that I have personally experienced because it has not been something that I take for granted. And it certainly hasn't been something that looked the way that I expected. Now I've mentioned this with you guys before, but I came from a background of everything that I have right now having to earn it. I didn't grow up with my parents. I grew up with my grandparents. We were living in a storage room at one point. And there were times when I was living with one of my family members where we didn't know where our next meal was going to come from. We didn't know where things were actually going to end up. And the uncertainty that that created. Was definitely something that had me on my toes at all times. And overall, the results that I have today weren't created by the same habits, the same beliefs, decisions I had when I first started. I had to become a completely new version of myself. Now, this is the first pillar I want to get into. If you want a different outcome, you need to change your inputs. Now This is really where I want you to just understand that we are people that we're constantly putting in the same things into our life because we create habits, right? And how can we expect something different than what we have already been accustomed to? So if you spend three hours scrolling on social media every night, but you're telling yourself that you want to start a business. How are those actions supporting the future you're asking for? If you're constantly surrounding yourself with people who discourage your dreams and that are influencing you to make decisions that are out of alignment from the goal that you actually want, how can you make that a reality? If you're unwilling to learn a new skill or have an uncomfortable conversation and Show up and take the risk anyway. How can you expect your life to change? And this is where Brian Tracy talks about it, Neville Goddard talks about it, Dr. Joe talks about it. All the people that I consider the greats in our times share this. Input, this could be your habits, your beliefs, are going to lead to the next part, which is the process, your actions, what are you learning? And as a result, You will have an output, which is the result of what you're looking to achieve. So input plus process is going to equal your output. Now, this is where really our beliefs influence what we notice. And this is really where behavioral feedback loops become a real thing. Now, I want you to get very clear, and I want you to notice the decisions that you make on the day to day. The behaviors that you repeat consciously or unconsciously, those behaviors can reinforce your beliefs for better or for worse. But make an important distinction: changing inputs doesn't guarantee a better outcome every time. Sometimes we have a strategy or feedback from the market, resources, and overall knowledge that we are taking into consideration. That Could be the difference between continuing to do the same exact thing every single time and actually getting a different output. So I want you to ask yourself, if somebody watched how you spend your days over the last seven days, what identity would they say you currently have and what future would they say you're trying to create? Because if you're someone that wants the nice house, the nice car, the nice bank account, the financial freedom that all of that brings, is the life that you're living on a day-to-day actually in alignment with the output that you're seeking to receive. And we've talked about this before. God is never going to give you more than you can handle. So you can pray and you can ask God, please bless me, please give me more opportunities, please help me. But if you're not the person that is showing up with the strength that is actually going to be able to make that reality happen, why would God give you the keys to the car when you're not ready to drive? Now, pillar number two, you reap what you sow. But what are you actually planting? Now, this is where we need to understand there's a principle that I think is incredibly important, which talks about. Laws of the universe. I've talked about the law of correspondence. I've talked about the law of the overall the frequency that you have, the law of attraction, the law of vibration. And this is where really we need to start getting very crystal clear. And when I say that, I want you to think beyond just money. And I want you to ask yourself: what are you planting into your mind every day? What are you planting into your relationships? What are you planting into your business? What are you planting into your future? What are you planting into your health? And you see, once we can understand that, this allows us to see that constant distractions are going to reduce focus and are going to increase inconsistency, right? When you're resentful and when you're comparing yourself, that is going to lead to emotional exhaustion and you're going to have strained relationships. Now, as you develop your skills, that is going to allow you to have greater opportunities, greater outputs. When you have service and generosity as the forefront, no longer are you just asking, what can I get from me? But now you're asking, how can I serve at the highest level? And we've talked about this before. When you're someone that is looking to make an impact in the world, you need to stop asking how can you receive more? And you need to ask, how can Can I serve more? That is the key distinction. And I will share with you every single time when people ask me, how is it that you're closing as many deals as you're closing? This happened when COVID was going on. When COVID was happening, a lot of agents dropped out of the real estate market because they weren't selling, because it was so hard to get an offer accepted. At that time, it was one of my peak years. As the interest rates right now, as I speak, my interest rates right now are in about the 7%. If you compare COVID interest rates, where we're like in the two, three percent, that is pretty much double the amount of what people were paying at that time. And here's the crazy part. I still have people buying hand over fist right now because I'm not just asking what can the person do for me. I'm asking how can I deliver value to the market. Now Consistency and discipline is going to be the thing that's going to allow you to get there. There's a lot of people that sometimes pray they're praying for a harvest while they continue planting seeds that do nothing for their future. And this is where really we need to understand that overall, when it comes to the energy that you're looking to attract, I want you to start asking: Am I planting seeds that support the life that I want? Or am I repeatedly Feeding the patterns that I am trying to escape. Now, pillar number three, your reason for success has to be bigger than your desire for success. Now I'm gonna say that again. Your reason for success has to be bigger than your desire for success. Well, what does that mean, Alexa? Okay. This is where really emotional centerpiece of understanding that we can want a beautiful house. We can want a nice car, we can want more financial freedom. There's nothing wrong with wanting to experience more abundance. But what happens when those things aren't enough to motivate you anymore? What happens when the business becomes exhausting? When you get rejected, when you're questioned whether any of this is actually providing results. Now, this is really where we need to understand the difference between a goal and And an actual compelling why. And anybody that's anybody in the business space, in the motivation space, in the results space is going to tell you that you just having a goal is never going to be enough because you need to be someone that actually has a bigger why than what you can even explain. Now, a goal is what you're working toward. A compelling why is deeper meaning that makes the effort worthwhile. You could share your experience of building a business while raising your children and how the desire to create opportunities, freedom, and a legacy for your family has influenced your motivation. But maybe you're not building a business simply because you want to make more money. Maybe you're trying to change the financial trajectory of your family. Maybe you want to create opportunities for your children that you have. Had or that you have yet to have. Maybe you have a gift that could help thousands of people. Maybe you're trying to prove to yourself that circumstances you came from do not have to define who you are. Now, overall, if your reason for building something only exists when everything is going well, what will sustain you when everything is going wrong? Now, the last pillar that I want to get into right now is unconditional faith. This is really where we talked about this in one of our last episodes, but it's the mindset of be, do, and have. Who are you right now? How are you showing up right now in order for you to do the action, in order for you to have the thing that you want? Again, one of the biggest things I have had to learn personally is that. I can't base my faith entirely on what I see in my external reality. Because if my faith only exists when I'm getting the outcome I want, is that actually faith? Because faith is the believing of something that is yet to have been experienced. And this is really where you need to understand that faith versus certainty is extremely important to understand. Faith doesn't mean knowing exactly how everything is going to unfold. And this is where we need to understand that sometimes in life, the only thing that we actually know for sure is how we're reacting to the things that are going to happen. You see, you don't know if tomorrow you lose someone that you love deeply. You don't know if tomorrow you lose your job. You don't know if tomorrow something happens that isn't ideal. What you do know is how you're going to react. Are you going to continue to show up? Or are you going to give up? Now, maybe you don't know how your business is going to grow right now. Maybe you don't know where your next client is going to come from. Maybe you don't know how long it's going to take, but you can still choose to become the woman who prepares, who learns, who takes action and continues to trust in God. So this is going to be your resilience to results glowprint. And I'm gonna give you these action steps here. So if you want to write them down, I highly recommend you do. But the first thing is remember, define your outcome. What specific results do you want to create in the next 90 days? And get very crystal clear on that. Number two, audit your inputs. What are you currently doing that supports or undermines that outcome? So if you're wanting to lose weight, but you have a bunch of Twinkies in your nightstand. That's probably not going to be the best input. We need to get crystal clear on what is an actual audit that we can do of our life so that we can change what we're seeing in our reality. Now, number three, connect to your deeper why. Who benefits from your success and why does this goal matter beyond the result itself? Is maybe you watching your weight going to allow you to live so that you can take care of your grandkids later in life? Is you maybe making more money going to allow you to serve and help some of those poor little defenseless children that are in the streets, animals that are wandering around that have no food? That could be a bigger than you why. And number four, make a faith-backed action plan. What action will you take this week and how will you respond if the result disappoints you? Because remember, overall. This is where you need to get crystal clear on what is the person that you're looking to become and what are the new changes that you need to do in your life in order for that to become a reality. And for the next seven days, I want you to stop measuring your worth by the results that you're receiving. And I want you to start paying attention to the actions that you're taking. Are you showing up? Are you learning? Are you making a decision that supports your goal? And when something doesn't work, are you willing to learn from it? rather than allowing it to define you. And overall, I want you to understand this is where you get to decide what is the reality you're going to experience. You're going to have moments where you're going to wonder if you made the right decision. You're going to have moments when the results aren't reflecting the amount of work you've been putting in. That doesn't automatically mean that you're failing. Sometimes you just need a new strategy. Sometimes you just need more education. Sometimes you just need a mentor. Sometimes you just need rest. And sometimes you simply need to give the process more time. But what I don't want you to do is to allow one difficult season to convince you that you're incapable of creating something meaningful. Because the woman that you're becoming isn't developed only through the victories. She's also developed through the decisions she makes when things Are not going according to plan. Your greatest breakthrough, my friend, may not be the moment in your business where everything finally falls into place. It actually may be the moment you realize that the setbacks no longer have the power to make you abandon who you're becoming. And remember, if nobody has told you this before, remember that you are loved, you are worthy, and you can absolutely manifest. Anything you want. You are capable of living the life that God is asking for you to discover. I'll talk to you on the next one.