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How Priorities Change with Age · Let's Ask the Mamas!

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  We got a question for American mamas. Dear mama's, what was something you
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  felt was really important when you were younger, but as you've gotten older,
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  isn't near as important to you? Well, let's ask our American mamas.
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  Alma Mama, she said, and joining us now are American mama's Terry Nedeville
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  and Kimberly Burleson. I am man, this is a great question. I'm
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  really looking forward to. What is something that was really, really, really
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  important to you but is not as important to you now. I think for
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  a lot of people, they'll feel like me. When I was younger,
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  it was all about money. It was about having things, having the big
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  home, having the kids in private schools. It was all about all the
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  monetary things. And then two thousand and eight I almost lost my child,
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  my son, and at that moment, none of it mattered. I didn't
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  care about any of it. And that's been who I've been for the rest
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  of my life. Those things do not matter. It's our relationships, our
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  people, our loves that matter. Oh that's so true. That's so good.
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  That's so good. I think you're right. I think a lot of
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  people are gonna that's gonna really you know, resound with it. It's a
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  young thing. It's a young person thing to want. It's all about wanting
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  and having the big thing and all the showy stuff. And let me ask
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  you a question. In that process that you're going through when your son was
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  was sick, what was it? Was it an instantaneous everything switched or was
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  there a process and you realized and you looked back and you went, oh,
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  wait a minute. I tell you it was so instant because at that
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  time I had lost my dad eight months before that. So I took over
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  his company and I told my family, y'all got to take a back seat.
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  Mom's got to focus on this company. That became my focus, the
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  company, the magazine, Going, Going, Going. So I literally put
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  my family on the back seat. And then in that moment when I when
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  well, everything that has into stone happen, the regret I felt was so
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  overwhelming that I didn't care about any of that stuff. I didn't care about
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  the company, I didn't care about the money, I didn't care about shareholders.
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  I wanted my child. That's all I wanted in life at that moment.
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  And then he, thank God, survived what he was going through,
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  and that has been our life ever since. Has been living and savoring our
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  family and what we had, and got rid of the magazine, got rid
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  of all those things that mattered, stopped worrying about having a bigger house,
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  happier than what I had. Everything was happier. I was happier. This
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  is really interesting. So the pastor of my church, we've had him on
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  the show, James Ifinis, he said something long time ago. I thought
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  it was really interesting. He says, when you get in yoke with Jesus,
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  you're either going to get what you want or he will change what you
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  want. Wow. And he talks about how when he was growing up,
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  there was a car that he always wanted. He's never told us what car
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  it was, but there's a car you always wanted. And finally, when
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  he was making some money, he went to go buy the car. He
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  told the salesman say, you're a lucky day. I already know a car
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  I want. And he goes and he sits in the car. As soon
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  as he sits in the car is like, I do not want this car.
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  And he got up and he walked out. Wow, because that was
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  no longer what he wanted. Jesus had changed his heart. Here's here's another
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  way he talks about it, says, how many times have you cried over
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  somebody that broke up with you or that you couldn't have that? Today you
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  were so thankful, Yes, thank God for broken roads things. Yes,
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  yes, you said that. We talked about that this morning. We did.
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  We talked about how you know you only you're only as happy as your
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  status child. So when something's going on with one of your children that's not
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  great, you focus on that. And we were saying how it's so interesting
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  because when you get past that point and they reached this great place of success
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  or you know, it's leading catapulting them into their own destiny, and you
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  see the way things unfolds, you're like, why did I Why did even
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  worry about that? God is in ultimate control. It's so easy. He's
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  in charge of the journey. Yeah, it is, it is. And
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  I think for me it would be if I could do it all over again,
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  I wouldn't sweat the small stuff, the little things that would get to
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  me that that maybe I would, you know, want to confront somebody or
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  you know, my husband or whatever, And I look back and think,
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  why did that even bother me? Who cares. It all works itself out.
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  So for you, Kimberly, it was things that you actually wanted terry.
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  For you, it's things that bothered you, that you that aren't meaningless.
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  Yes, like the little things. And you know it wasn't my whole
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  life because I you know, I usually you know, I'm pretty easy when
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  it comes to things. But I think about, especially my marriage, if
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  I look back at some of the things that I thought was a big deal,
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  that that harmed our relationship or hurt my heart, I look back now
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  and I'm like, well, why did that bother me? I wish I
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  could let that go back then so that you know that, so that I
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  didn't look so childish, because it really doesn't matter the m. Kimberly's right.
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  What matters is your family health and leaving a legacy that your children can
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  be proud of. That's very very good. I've been trying to think about
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  this answer. We're not sure. I'm not sure I have it, except
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  that maybe this is the closest I get my career goal. At one point,
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  I wanted to be the best TV meteorologists in Texas. That was my
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  goal, and I missed it by one state. You are here in Louisiana.
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  I don't want to. I don't want to. That's not my objective
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  anymore. My objective has changed. You know. We're working on this show
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  and trying to to share the ideology behind conservatives and the infusion of faith in
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  that. That's that's the goal now. I think that's the beauty of life.
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  You just evolve and grow and develop into who you're meant to be for
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  God. If you like to ask our American Mama's a question, go to
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  our website American ground Radio dot com slash Mama's and click on the ask the
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  Mama's button turned out of Kimberly Burlist and thank you so much. Thanks U.