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Sisters + scale talk: pregnancy weight gain with my sister, Christa · SAY GRACE | Weight Loss + Health for Overwhelmed Women- Stress, Busy, Consistency, Realistic, Motivation, Starting Over, No Restrictions

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  On today's episode of Say Grace, I have a special guest, my baby sister, Krista Carpenter.
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  At the time of this recording, Krista is 38 weeks pregnant with her first baby,
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  and I am 16 weeks pregnant with my third.
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  Today, we're going to dive deep on pregnancy weight gain and all the emotions
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  and changes that come with having a baby.
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  Y'all, we have been planning this episode since before we knew I was even thinking
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  about trying to get pregnant.
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  And so we are really excited to be able to do it together.
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  Let's get started. Hey, Krista. Hey, everybody.
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  All right. So y'all, by the time this airs, Krista will have had this baby.
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  And so one of the fun, maybe not so fun for me, parts about her pregnancy is
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  she is not finding out the gender.
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  I'm like, I do not understand. And, like, it was so funny when we realized,
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  like, we'll know the gender of my baby before we'll know the gender of hers.
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  And that is a wild, wild experience. Wild, wild.
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  And so we don't know. We don't know if Chris is having a girl or a boy.
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  But by the time this airs, we will find out. That's wild to think about.
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  I know. I have like chills thinking about this.
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  I mean, it could happen in any moment at this point. So.
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  Okay. And so I know we know if it's a girl, what the name is.
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  We're not landing on a boy name until if it's a boy. No, we know the boy name. You do?
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  Yeah. Yeah, we know the boy name. When did y'all decide?
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  I don't know. There was one day I was like, Kyle, we have got to sit down and
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  talk about names. It was soon after my sister.
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  So Kyle's twin brother and his wife just recently had their first baby.
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  November 22nd, I think, is the birth date. And so, I don't know,
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  something about seeing that baby and being like, okay, our turn is next.
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  And we have got to nail down.
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  So what we did was with the girl and the boy, we did our top fives.
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  And we ranked them. He would rank it and then I would rank it.
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  And our girl, our boy was like spot on for like, really?
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  Yes. Like both of our number ones was it. So I was like, okay, well that's it.
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  And the girl name, so the first name we both love, like it's just going to be what it is.
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  But the middle name is what we kind of like was giving us confusion.
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  And so my top was his least.
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  Oh crap. And his top was my least. Oh crap.
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  And so we just kind of met in the middle of what the middle name of the girl
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  is going to be. So we have both gender names nailed down at this point.
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  Love that. Unless we like look at the child and be like, that ain't. That's not it. Yeah.
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  But yeah. So we're ready in that department. Maybe me and Jess need to do that.
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  Like a rank. And we got a long time.
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  And I'm not stressing about it. But we're like kind of coming up with a loose list, you know.
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  And it's just like really we're not on the same page. I'm like,
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  oh, I love that. He's like, oh, no.
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  Yeah. There was multiple times that Kyle suggested a name and I was like,
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  is this a joke like are you being serious.
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  So i mean and i'm sure he thought the same about me right okay if okay when with jess,
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  If it was a boy, like, this has been a for real, for real conversation.
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  Like, you're about to die. I don't know that you know this. But, like,
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  since we got pregnant with Sarah Mason, before we, like, knew she was a girl,
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  the boy name that Jess had picked and said consistently for 10 years is Sebastian.
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  Wait, are you serious? That's almost as worse as Ernest.
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  That's what Kyle wanted to name our son, Ernest.
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  Nickname earn oh my god like what
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  are you like i don't understand sebastian
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  sebastian and i'm like are you
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  asking for him to be a porn star like what
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  i mean and i don't know even to this
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  day chrisa like i don't know if he's like low-key kidding you
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  know because sometimes jess can just like be funny but like
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  not laugh if he's continuing to bring it up 10
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  years later i'm thinking that's like a real thing
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  so i'm like you know if it
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  was a boy of course i would want i wanted to name this
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  one like james edward shall be the third like i wanted you
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  know and he was like i would love that and like calm trip
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  he no but he was not about that he was not about
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  that no way no how not using his name whatever so we
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  were going to go back and forth and i'm going to what like fight for his name his
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  start his name you know the third and he's going to
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  fight for sebastian like no the lord knew we could
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  not do that no blessed you with another girl yes so
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  by the time this airs you guys will have heard my
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  story and our journey to getting pregnant with this third but i do want to give
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  you a chance to kind of hear chris's story and just like because it's it's a
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  beautiful thing i know a lot of our clients and a lot of our listeners saw the
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  video of your announcement to our family and like how i freaked out and i think you know.
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  People just don't always realize all the behind the scenes stuff of like what
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  comes, like where that excitement stems from.
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  And so I would love for you to share a little bit, whatever you're comfortable with. Yeah.
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  And I'll just do like a small insight of what we've been going through.
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  But and I'm sure maybe people have picked up on some things of some past podcasts
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  that Constance have recorded just about like hormone health and really just
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  like rejuvenating your body.
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  Yeah, to better serve you.
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  And so I went a few years, probably about four and a half years without a cycle.
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  And so I didn't really think much about it until I was ready to get pregnant. Right.
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  And so that journey of recovering my cycle was long and hard.
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  And then once I finally recovered it, it wasn't very consistent.
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  So we did have to go in and start taking medicine. Okay, I do want to pause
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  there, because, like, your journey being long and hard, like,
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  I think, oh, I want to talk about it.
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  Okay, let's talk about it. And we can edit it if we need to edit it.
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  But, like, you chose not to go the traditional OB recommends starting birth control route. Right.
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  Which is, you know, in this day, very unique.
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  You got very educated and you
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  knew it was the hard route you know what I mean and
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  so I think there's just something to be said about that but like nothing
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  against medication and nothing against you know anything in your OB all I mean
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  we want an OB that has our best interest at heart and I believe yours does and
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  did and all the things but like it was just something she felt really passionate
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  about like she felt like I knew
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  my I know my body can do this and I'm willing to be patient with it and.
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  See and so I just
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  think it speaks volumes about like who you
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  are and how how you approach things because like
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  everybody wants the quick fix the easy with everything with
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  weight loss with you know any like my god that's why you know plastic surgery
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  and all this stuff is just so prevalent right now because we all want the instant
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  gratification and so for you it wasn't just like I just want to pause and because
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  it wasn't just like and then I got my cycle back and like no ma'am No, it was a very,
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  very long and emotional journey.
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  And it stemmed just from my lifestyle.
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  And I just had to change my lifestyle.
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  And I couldn't just do it all at once, because I think I would have 100%.
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  So it took time to, you know, get really still with myself and, and make the changes.
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  And so one of the some of the things that I had to do was limit my exercising eat more calories like,
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  certain type of macronutrients that I was purposefully probably avoiding for reasons.
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  And then I, you know, met with a lot of, so what I had was called hypothalamic amenorrhea.
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  And so I met with a lot of, I guess, professionals in that because what it was,
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  was people, my OB kept telling me that I had PCOS and I just knew that that
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  was not like the correct diagnosis.
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  And so I started researching really long and hard and I came across hypothalamic amenorrhea.
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  Different OB from now. Correct. She changed OBs after all this.
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  I have seen so many OBs since this journey. She has found the one she loves. Yes.
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  So, yeah, I just did a lot of research and had to have support with that and
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  accountability with that.
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  And so, yeah, even when I did recover my cycle, they were still very,
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  very inconsistent. They would be like 42 days.
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  They would be 36 days. They would be I mean, it was a celebration that like
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  my cycle had come back to an extent, but it was not ideal for having a baby.
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  Right. Because like the ovulate my ovulation was just like so unpredictable.
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  Yeah. So unpredictable. Like we were still celebrating. Man, y'all. She would tell.
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  It's like, I'm bleeding. I feel like a woman again.
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  It was insane. And then like one little thing, like if I were to walk a little
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  bit more or like maybe add a little bit more exercise, it would like go away.
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  So it was a very, very touch and go.
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  And so then it got to a point where I was like, OK, I do want to utilize medication
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  because it's there for a reason.
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  And Kyle and I were ready. We were, I mean, I'm 32, not to say that like age
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  matters, but I know that I know it don't and I'm going to be right there with you when I'm 38.
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  But I do know that Kyle and I want to have multiples, hopefully.
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  And so I just wanted to go ahead and like start our family.
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  And so once I felt like I could mentally handle all of this,
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  because I mean, like going through body changes was really hard.
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  That was a lot of work that I had to do mentally.
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  Because she had to eat more calories and eat more macros. I had to gain weight.
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  What happened? She gained weight. I had to gain some weight.
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  And so that was hard and difficult. And I went through a lot of,
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  you know, therapy about it and all the things.
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  So once I felt like my emotions could handle it, Kyle and I decided to start
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  taking medication to help make my ovulation more predictable.
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  And so I started medication with my OB, and we did about three rounds of that, and it never worked.
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  And then she suggested that we go see an infertility doctor here in town.
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  And so we did that, and he was a lot more...
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  Detail-oriented. I mean, my
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  OB, like, she's wonderful, but that's just not her, like, her specialty.
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  So we would go and see our infertility clinic doctor, and he was able to kind
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  of, like, let me know, like, how I was progressing with the amount of medicine
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  I was taking in the milligram.
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  And, like, he ran all of these, like, blood tests and all of that.
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  And so we did that for about four times, and I did actually successfully get pregnant once,
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  and then we had a chemical pregnancy which was devastating that was back in
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  January and then then we got pregnant in April and that was obviously wonderful
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  celebrations but also comes with a lot of fear and I know Constance understands that like,
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  to no end after you lose a baby you know
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  it's hard to get your hopes up yeah you know especially since
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  yeah it was just it's anybody that's
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  been through any sort of loss understands yeah you know and so can you talk
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  about yeah okay i'm gonna talk about um and i don't want to talk about the doctor
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  like who it was because it has nothing technically to do with him but and not
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  a reflection of him at all.
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  He's been great. He was great. He was. He was.
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  So Kyle and I got a positive pregnancy test on Palm Sunday, which I think is just so sweet.
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  And so how it works when you are working with an infertility clinic is they
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  want you to come in immediately.
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  So I came in on Monday and they checked for my HCG levels and they want them
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  to double every 48 hours.
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  And so we were on track. I went on Monday, Wednesday, and Friday.
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  And my numbers rose. They doubled, if not more, every time, which was very good.
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  And then that following Tuesday, the doctor wanted me to come in and get my
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  first ultrasound, which very early, probably like, what, four or five weeks at that point.
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  Yeah, you would have probably seen like a sack. Yeah, and so really all they
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  said when they came in for my ultrasound was, we just want to make sure baby's in the right place.
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  Baby was in the right place baby was measuring correctly so
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  we had a good appointment and so they wanted me to do a final hcg
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  test and before i left for
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  that appointment and they're like we'll call you with the results or you know
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  send them in your portal so that afternoon we did
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  get a call that said that our hcg had like plummeted like dropped tremendously
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  and that i was having another miscarriage which was just like obviously devastating
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  yeah it was probably one of the worst nights I've had in a while just because
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  like your hopes are up like I literally just saw the baby.
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  On the ultrasound like less than and where you
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  were keeping i was keeping piper our middle sister's
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  youngest so i know you're just sitting there thinking like yeah i'm so hormonal
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  y'all i'm so sorry oh yeah i know you're just sitting there thinking like finally
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  like this is gonna happen this is gonna be my future yeah like and i had piper
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  in my in my arms when they called me.
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  And so she was crying she wasn't
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  feeling good and i was just at first i was like what did i
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  get myself like I can't have
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  breakfast I'm pregnant like it was
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  a very emotional yeah it was a very emotional day
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  but they called me and said that my HCG
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  levels had dropped and so to expect
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  to miscarry oh yeah they said you know I had to
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  take progesterone to because that was because of my
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  miscarriage in the past so they were like
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  take your you know stop taking your medications you should start bleeding
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  within the next couple of days and I was like okay and so
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  of course Candace came to pick Piper up I was
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  a mess told her about it called my
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  mom told her about it and then that night
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  was just a very emotional night for Kyle and I and
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  so I didn't have the chance to tell Constance but the next morning I did
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  text her and tell her about it and so
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  I was on the way to work pulled up and into work which
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  everybody's like why did you go to work the next day I
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  was like I was literally on autopilot like I just didn't
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  even know yeah I was so numb to
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  it all like it was just I don't know and so I got a call from my doctor specifically
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  him and said that he was so sorry for the trauma that he's put us through I
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  thought he was just like calling me to check on you yeah I was like well that's
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  nice you know but he was like I'm so sorry for the trauma that we've put you through.
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  But there has been an error in the lab and you're actually still pregnant.
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  And so...
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  If you can imagine the emotions, I'm like, am I mad at you? Am I happy at you?
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  Do I even believe you? Do I believe you?
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  Yeah, it was just like the wildest. It was the wildest experience and feelings.
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  And I really have worked hard to not let that define this pregnancy.
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  But it was a very, it was a very hard time.
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  And I couldn't be excited about our pregnancy for a long time,
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  which is why it did take me a while to tell my family and so at this point everybody
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  in my family my sisters and my mom think that I'm miscarrying right and so she
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  drops off the radar yeah like and so we're just my mom oh my god oh my god I
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  don't know if I've told you this but like.
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  Mom called she's calling right now okay we're talking about her and she knows
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  that my phone just rang but she called me like every few days like have you
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  talked to Krista like how do you think what do you think how do you think she's
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  just not really talking to me much she's not really answered.
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  And I'm like, Mom, I think she's just like dealing with her grief,
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  how she wants to deal with it.
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  Like, you know, and so we all she just, Krista just dropped off the radar.
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  And this is very much how you are. Like, we just, you just have to have your space.
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  So we just gave you your space. You know what I mean? Yeah. So I.
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  Then so after that we were I was seeing the
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  doctor every week up until like eight weeks and
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  you know there was always like something not looking
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  right you know so gosh it gave us so much anxiety
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  if Kyle could have gone like our entire pregnancy without
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  telling somebody but I was like I'm literally showing like I have to say something
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  at the point when we started telling people but anyway so we it's called you
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  graduate from your infertility doctor at around week eight and so But then we
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  went to our regular OB office and everything looked perfect.
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  The environment was so much better.
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  Like I just didn't have any type of like trauma related to like I haven't even
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  told my OB about what happened.
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  I don't know if I've ever told you that. But I did not want to bring that energy into.
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  She doesn't know to this day. She does not know until this day.
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  Because like I was like I just don't think it's going to help the situation.
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  You know like it's not the doctor's fault. You don't want to skew her opinion of him.
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  Of the doctor does do so much amazing work
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  yes and so we just needed to like walk
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  out of that in the lab it was like a very weird
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  it was an unfortunate it was an unfortunate thing i mean it was not yeah there
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  was like a new trainee and they forgot to like double the numbers and like i
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  mean it was just it was an accident but it was a big accident it's a big accident and so.
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  All that to say we had an ultrasound with my OB everything looked good and we
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  wanted to wait until like our.
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  Not gender but genetic testing came back before we
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  told our family and so that is the extent
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  of my sister's reaction so like
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  I mean you have I don't know if you can find it
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  some I don't know wherever it is but you can find it on
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  the internet like but so it's
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  my my birthday my so my birthday is June 3rd
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  and Chris's husband Kyle's birthday is June 11th and
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  so in our family we have such a massive family and you know our babies are glory
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  is going to share a birthday with your baby yes 100 um but so in our family
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  we're so big that it's like okay whose birthday is this month or around this
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  time and like we kind of put them all together and celebrate that way and so
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  kyle and i both it was our birthday celebration and it was so funny because like you had been,
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  kind of under the radar like for months and even like just went over to help
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  kyle with something And at some point during that time, and he came home and he was like, babes,
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  Cha-Cha is struggling.
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  That was probably the worst I have felt.
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  And it was morning sickness. I was nauseous so bad.
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  And like, I guess Jess just thought I was... He thought you were mourning.
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  He thought you were depressed.
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  I looked like hell.
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  I felt like hell. Like, it was terrible. I'm concerned about Cha-Cha. laughing.
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  And so anyway because none of us knew right
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  so okay so it's my birthday and kyle's birthday and
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  so we're sitting by each other at the table
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  and like you know my mom's got this cake and then
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  so krista goes outside i just got a little cake for
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  kyle like i just yeah he just loves campbell's
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  cakes i just got a little special cake she
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  hands the phone to jess and it's like can you record this so
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  anyway you know everybody's singing happy birthday to
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  kyle and i and then krista walks in with this cake
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  and sets it down like in front of us
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  and so i can see it and it says what's
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  it say happy birthday daddy or something it says happy birthday and then it
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  says husband yeah and then the d spells out dad like drop down like a scrabble
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  board yeah it was a scrabble board so it says like happy birthday husband dad
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  and then at the bottom it said baby carpenter coming soon yes and,
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  Constance lost her mind.
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  Because like you have okay we were literally at the pool like not even excuse me y'all.
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  Three hours ago, like, talking about, you know, I really think that,
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  like, if you joined this mom's group.
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  Oh, yeah. It was a mom's group for pregnancy loss. Loss, yeah.
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  And I was just like, mm-hmm.
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  And then I remember looking at her, like, going, oh, my God, her boobs are so big.
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  But in my mind, y'all, so because I've been through a miscarriage, I know.
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  Like, your body reacts. When your HCG reaches such a high level,
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  which hers had before they called her and told her she was going to miscarry.
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  It takes a long time to come
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  back down to zero and you cannot try to have another
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  baby until it's down to zero so I knew
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  that like this timing like looking at
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  her and thinking oh my god her boobs are so big I'm like there's no way she's
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  pregnant like there's no way because there's the timing she hasn't had enough
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  time and so same for like I'm re I'm looking at this cake and I'm thinking okay
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  I'm so excited but also like how am I seeing this right like am I'm sure like
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  is she Just get a positive test today.
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  Like, you know, like, and I know her and I know she wouldn't have put that on
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  a cake if she had just gotten a positive test today.
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  You know, it was just like a really out of body experience.
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  And she had poor hazel in her arms and like
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  shook her up like a like a bottle of like
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  a can of coke it was the best y'all it
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  was it was quite like i still go back and i watch it
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  and i cry i cry every time i watch it like it was just
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  like the best most like unexpected surprise you know because like that was truly
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  y'all had traveled a little bit before that so that was like truly the first
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  time you had came out from under your rock since april was the our little birthday
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  party and it was like oh my god you know I don't know it was just it was it was insane so.
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  Since then it's been fabulous it's been
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  great I cannot complain about my pregnancy I just I mean I've dealt with what
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  normal people you know deal with first first trimester was you know the nausea
• 23:32
  and the tired yeah oh gosh the fatigue and when I would want to eat it would
• 23:38
  not be like like, nutrient-dense foods by any means.
• 23:41
  It was, like, peanut butter and jelly sandwiches. I wanted a Gordito,
• 23:44
  like, those Gordito chips, I guess, like, snacks.
• 23:48
  Yes, because y'all ate those like crazy when we were kids. Yes, and so I ate those a lot.
• 23:54
  Like, I don't know, pretzels is still something that I just,
• 23:56
  like, love during pregnancy.
• 23:58
  Yeah, so, like, just not feeling well. It was really hard for me to cook any time. Yeah.
• 24:04
  I don't know if you felt this way in your first trimester, but like I would
• 24:08
  eat a good meal if someone else prepared it for me.
• 24:11
  Like, I don't know if you remember, like when I would go to mom's,
• 24:14
  I probably even before y'all knew I was pregnant, like I was just,
• 24:16
  I felt like I was eating a lot because I didn't know the next time I was going
• 24:19
  to be able to eat because I would have to fix it. Yeah.
• 24:22
  Yeah. But the fact that mom was fixing it or like when Kyle fixed it or if we
• 24:26
  went out to eat, like I just would like eat a lot at once just because like.
• 24:31
  For me, the act of preparing the meal turned me off to the meal.
• 24:34
  And I'm still kind of going through that a little bit. It's so bad.
• 24:38
  You know, just like, I don't, I do not want to cut the chicken.
• 24:41
  I do not want, you know, like, I don't want to look at all this before it gets
• 24:44
  put together and cooked, you know.
• 24:46
  It's something about still, though, preparing a meal. I, like, have had no...
• 24:51
  Energy, motivation to like try a new recipe.
• 24:54
  Y'all like I was making bread every week for like a year.
• 24:59
  And as soon as I got pregnant, I stopped making bread.
• 25:02
  Would you eat bread? A hundred percent. But I did not want to make it.
• 25:06
  I would have rather go to Whole Foods and get it.
• 25:08
  Like I just did not like I have not been motivated in the kitchen.
• 25:13
  Like I have not been inspired.
• 25:15
  And I'm really hoping because like we've been eating a lot of like chicken nuggets,
• 25:19
  like air fried chicken nuggets like things that are heated
• 25:22
  up like a lot of just
• 25:25
  like rice bowls that are just like i'll cook the
• 25:27
  thighs and then i'll cook the chicken and veggies and just put it yeah it's
• 25:31
  just been like super easy super simple foods well i think that's good too when
• 25:35
  the baby comes i think when the baby comes you will do that for a little while
• 25:39
  but then it's like i don't know i think it's different for everybody but for
• 25:43
  me with both kids it was like there was a moment i woke up i felt And I'm like, okay,
• 25:47
  I'm going to get back into my groove because it makes me feel good.
• 25:50
  I feel like I've got some control over my day or whatever.
• 25:55
  But yeah, I will say, because, you know, in my first trimester is when I was
• 26:00
  due to make the next batch of recipes.
• 26:03
  That would have been a nightmare. It was quite a hell on earth.
• 26:06
  That would have been a nightmare for me.
• 26:07
  If you asked me next year to reflect back on 2025 and what the worst part about
• 26:12
  it was. That would be the day.
• 26:14
  It was so hard for me. And then the smells.
• 26:19
  You had to have so many different dishes prepared. So like all the different smells and like.
• 26:24
  And like, and then like, you know, I didn't want to waste all the food.
• 26:28
  So I was like trying to feed it to my family. And I'm just like,
• 26:30
  y'all are going to eat this. Mom's going to have a sandwich.
• 26:33
  I'm going to have a peanut butter sandwich. It was so bad. It was so bad.
• 26:37
  And so, and that was sad to me because I love, that's usually what I love.
• 26:40
  But I do think I pulled off some pretty good recipes. I had a lot of help on
• 26:44
  the flight back from Vegas.
• 26:45
  Kylie was like, OK, let's look at these. Let's come up with some ideas.
• 26:49
  You had a really good batch this time, like some good soups. I mean.
• 26:55
  I still haven't tried the coffee cake, but I really want to try making that.
• 26:59
  Yeah, it's good. So, yeah, you did good. You pulled three for sure.
• 27:03
  Okay. So, kind of, what do you have anything to say about anything else? Well, no.
• 27:08
  Yeah, just, I guess, like, what topic do we want to cover now?
• 27:11
  Moving into the, like, weight gain. Weight gain, okay. And, like, the things.
• 27:14
  Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. I mean, I was just talking about, like, our first trimester.
• 27:18
  Yeah. But other than that. And so, yeah, I think this is what,
• 27:21
  this is so, this is a great transition because, So this was different for me and you.
• 27:26
  And this has been the case for me literally every pregnancy.
• 27:29
  In your first trimester, you didn't gain any weight. Like none, right?
• 27:33
  I may have gained like three pounds. I mean, it wasn't, I really don't think I did.
• 27:39
  But it was just because I was not hungry.
• 27:42
  So for me, in every first trimester, I have gained anywhere from like eight to,
• 27:52
  with with sarah mason like when
• 27:56
  i was there it was probably at least 15 pounds no
• 27:59
  okay let me look back i have my i have my
• 28:02
  note okay okay because
• 28:06
  let me tell you why because for me with every
• 28:09
  pregnancy it's been like if i'm not full then i'm nauseous oh yeah so for me
• 28:16
  when i'm nauseous like the thought of eating like i probably didn't do it correctly
• 28:21
  but like if i was nauseous i literally could not eat yeah like i couldn't yeah
• 28:26
  with sarah mason i started.
• 28:30
  At 125 by week 15
• 28:33
  I was at 138 I gained 13 pounds
• 28:37
  do you document it I did I did week by
• 28:40
  week I did not do that I did week by week and you
• 28:44
  know it was really great though for me because when I
• 28:47
  was trying when I got pregnant with glory like you
• 28:50
  you've done great but like I ate like I like I
• 28:53
  ate like I had lost my mind when I was pregnant with Sarah Mason like I'm
• 28:56
  talking I would eat things like I'll go over to McAllister's and get the full.
• 28:59
  Size muffaletta like not the half with the
• 29:02
  salad or whatever but again a muffaletta in itself is like stupid high
• 29:05
  in calories I would get the full size you know yeah any excuse that
• 29:08
  was back when all the gourmet popsicles were just coming on
• 29:11
  the scene oh yeah my my co-workers would be like y'all wanna go
• 29:13
  get a popsicle I mean you know like we the kind that have the
• 29:16
  cream in it not the not the not the fruit kind yeah
• 29:19
  I mean just any excuse to eat I was eating
• 29:22
  I would hit Sonic every day on the way home and get a
• 29:25
  chocolate milkshake like oh my god that sounds like taco bell i
• 29:28
  mean i was doing crazy stuff and so i paid for it
• 29:31
  you know what i mean and like and so with i'm
• 29:34
  glad i did it so that with glory i could see like okay i'm
• 29:37
  tracking a little bit better this time you know my weight had
• 29:40
  something to compare to right yeah so with glory
• 29:43
  in my first trimester i gained i still gained though about eight
• 29:47
  i guess eight pounds because i was still kind
• 29:50
  of doing the same thing trying to eat what to prevent
• 29:53
  nausea just maybe I wasn't having
• 29:56
  like Taco Bell and a milkshake and you know what I mean yeah you're trying to
• 29:59
  be a little bit more intentional about yes yeah and so I think what then your
• 30:03
  your gain was mainly in my second trimester yeah because I mean that's when
• 30:09
  my appetite really came back and yeah.
• 30:14
  But I really, I really did try and try and eat like protein when I could.
• 30:21
  But yeah, I would say that my, my appetite really increased on my second trimester.
• 30:26
  And that's whenever I get, and I was thinking through our questions.
• 30:30
  Like, I feel like I gained the most during my second trimester,
• 30:33
  but my body composition changed the most in my third.
• 30:37
  Like my, obviously my stomach has gotten bigger and I feel like my thighs in
• 30:40
  my thigh area has gotten bigger in my third trimester. But, like,
• 30:44
  my weight hasn't changed as much.
• 30:47
  As much on the scale. Yeah, on the scale. So, it's, like, very,
• 30:50
  very weird. And I even asked my doctor. I was, like, I know that,
• 30:53
  like, the baby is gaining, like, half a pound to a pound at this point.
• 30:56
  But, like, I'm not. Is that okay?
• 30:59
  And she's, like, absolutely, that's okay. Like, that's normal.
• 31:02
  And so, yeah, it's just been weird. Yeah.
• 31:06
  And she was like, one day you'll be up four pounds.
• 31:09
  And then the next day you'll be back down two pounds. And then the next day,
• 31:13
  like, it's just weird how your body just like reacts to, I guess,
• 31:18
  what it's doing. Well, yeah, it's fluid.
• 31:19
  It's just hormonal fluctuations. It's all kinds of stuff going on in there.
• 31:23
  But it's really hard because, right, you get on the scale.
• 31:27
  And I talk about this with our clients all the time. Like our clients,
• 31:30
  especially the ones that are exercising or maybe had like a lot of salt the
• 31:33
  night before. You know, you get on the scale and you see, oh,
• 31:36
  my God, I gained two pounds since yesterday. Like, what is happening? I'm doomed.
• 31:41
  Circumstances. That's what you did. But, yeah, you've got to reflect on,
• 31:44
  like, okay, maybe, Constance, did you have enough water yesterday?
• 31:48
  Or, Krista, did you work legs yesterday? Because that still applies, right?
• 31:52
  Like, you're still lifting weights. You're still exercising.
• 31:55
  And so it still applies to your weight shifts or your weight gain or whatever.
• 31:59
  And so I think that's so funny you said that about your body composition.
• 32:04
  And I obviously don't think I'm done with my shifts by any means at 16 weeks pregnant.
• 32:08
  But for me, I guess because my body has done this so many times before,
• 32:13
  because, you know, I was pregnant.
• 32:16
  This will be my fourth pregnancy, right? And.
• 32:21
  It was like immediately in my first trimester, like immediately my stomach started
• 32:26
  to grow and my boobs got huge.
• 32:29
  And so. Your body's like, I've done this before. Yeah, like we know what to do.
• 32:32
  You know what I mean? Like I have a friend, a small group friend,
• 32:34
  and she's pregnant and she is actually a little ahead of me.
• 32:38
  I think she's like 18 weeks and I'm like 16.
• 32:40
  And my stomach is way bigger than hers. And like she started with a flat stomach just like I did.
• 32:45
  And like mine's way bigger than hers, but this is her second pregnancy. Yeah.
• 32:48
  And so it's just kind of crazy how like my pants, my blue jeans stopped fitting
• 32:53
  at like nine weeks. And you're like, oh, my gosh.
• 32:56
  You know, it's such an emotional like it's such a mind like F or whatever, you know.
• 33:03
  And so for me, though, I did. I'm like I did in my first trimester this time.
• 33:08
  I really do feel like I did even better eating wise than I did with Glory.
• 33:13
  But the weight was still there. And I think a lot of it is like I mean,
• 33:16
  your body tissue. And your body's going to do what the body needs to do in order
• 33:20
  to, like, provide for your baby. Like, that's what I've learned.
• 33:25
  Like, I just remember the whole, there was a whole month in October.
• 33:30
  Kyle and I were home maybe one weekend.
• 33:33
  And we were, so we were eating out a ton. And I was very surprised at,
• 33:38
  like, and I mean, I was eating cinnamon rolls.
• 33:39
  I was eating, you know, you saw me eat at the beach trip.
• 33:42
  Like, I mean, I was eating what I wanted to eat. but it's
• 33:45
  like my body just gained what it needed to gain
• 33:48
  like i didn't i thought that i was going to come home
• 33:51
  and like be at least 10 pounds heavier and i really wasn't like
• 33:54
  so i just feel like your body really does
• 33:58
  like put on the weight that it needs
• 34:01
  in order to sustain one i think there's periods of your pregnancy that it does
• 34:05
  need more yeah you know like i what you just a few weeks ago you went through
• 34:08
  this i could not stop eating hungry oh my gosh i could not stop eating but now
• 34:14
  I'm at the point 38 weeks pregnant you don't want to eat I don't want to eat a lot at all.
• 34:19
  But I'm sure it'll, like, change again by the time I have this baby,
• 34:21
  you know? So it's just like. I don't know. You probably ain't going to want to eat much.
• 34:25
  But when the baby comes and you start breastfeeding, you're going to feel like
• 34:29
  a garbage disposal. That's what everybody says. You know?
• 34:31
  That breastfeeding hunger.
• 34:34
  Oh, my gosh. God willing, if I can breastfeed, is worse than, like, pregnancy.
• 34:39
  It is another level. Which makes sense. I mean, it's crazy what your body goes through.
• 34:44
  And, like, it's so funny. I look back on my my weight tracker
• 34:47
  with both girls and there's a point in
• 34:50
  the second trimester I can't remember I'm like hellbent
• 34:54
  I'm like I'm not gonna let that happen this time but I mean honestly like you said like
• 34:57
  I really can't I can't make that choice
• 35:00
  like I can't decide my good friend she
• 35:03
  said that like her first pregnancy she tried to eat
• 35:06
  well and she she exercised through like
• 35:08
  her entire pregnancy and then she didn't
• 35:11
  so much do that on her second pregnancy because she had like a baby and
• 35:14
  she said i gained the exact amount of weight i truly
• 35:17
  just think that like your body is going to
• 35:20
  gain it's going to use what it needs yeah when you
• 35:23
  eat right but there's a there is a point with both girls between like 20 20
• 35:29
  weeks and like 26 27 weeks i gained like oh my gosh it's like for both of them
• 35:38
  i gained like almost nine pounds.
• 35:42
  Like in in five weeks or
• 35:45
  whatever five or six weeks and so it was like and I remember
• 35:48
  what I remember it happening with glory because I remember thinking
• 35:51
  I'm not doing anything like I'm not eating any different like oh my gosh and
• 35:56
  and at that point in my pregnancy with her I remember thinking like it's gonna
• 35:59
  be just like last time I'm gonna gain 60 pounds you know what I mean and so
• 36:04
  I don't know you just never know like what the baby's doing what the body needs
• 36:08
  you know but I know I know to anticipate that for.
• 36:11
  Pregnancy but then it's crazy you remember though
• 36:14
  like if you go back and look at your my pictures or and i've
• 36:17
  because i like look at people on instagram all the time like that is when they start
• 36:20
  seeing a belly bump like that is when you physically start looking pregnant
• 36:24
  between like 22 weeks and like 26 weeks you're like oh like she's pregnant right
• 36:29
  you know so that's the baby's growth spurt like you actually have your placenta
• 36:35
  your uterus all of these things are like.
• 36:38
  Overdrive like there is just like that's when it starts
• 36:41
  expanding right I mean that makes sense it does make sense
• 36:44
  and then and then though for both girls it was like I
• 36:47
  kind of I had a stand still for a while after that it was like weeks of no change
• 36:52
  in fact with Gloria I went down and then came back up just like he said like
• 36:55
  so anyway I think for any mamas that are listening I just think it's so important
• 36:59
  because you really don't know what to expect and sometimes it's like I don't know about you,
• 37:05
  but I've gotten hit with a lot of influencers and stuff like, oh,
• 37:11
  want to gain a healthy amount of weight during your pregnancy?
• 37:14
  Want to gain muscle and lose fat during your pregnancy? That's not the goal.
• 37:19
  Right. But it's just like, so then I'm like looking at these people like,
• 37:22
  wait, you know, people are actually signing up for that crowd.
• 37:25
  And it's like, so you can get really caught up in the words of other people
• 37:29
  and the influence of other people.
• 37:30
  And when you have not been through it, you don't know.
• 37:34
  Like, you know, there's so many questions about it and how your body's adapting
• 37:38
  and is it going to ever go back to normal and all the things.
• 37:41
  And so I do, I did pull this off the internet though. I want to,
• 37:44
  I just want to kind of say it here because I think it's very important.
• 37:47
  It is normal to gain weight. Like if you are a normal weight before you get
• 37:52
  pregnant, the recommended weight gain is anyone, anywhere from 25 to 35 pounds. and so again like,
• 38:00
  Even still with that, it's like each person is different and your doctor will
• 38:05
  let you know if there's an issue or a concern.
• 38:08
  If you're working out consistently, if you're lifting weights during that time,
• 38:12
  I would dare to say you may gain more and that's just fine.
• 38:15
  But anyway, so with that, the baby ends up weighing about seven to eight pounds, right?
• 38:21
  The placenta is about a pound and a half.
• 38:24
  It's about two pounds of amniotic fluid. Okay, increased blood volume in itself
• 38:29
  accounts for three to four pounds.
• 38:31
  Okay, increased body fluids accounts for two to three pounds.
• 38:36
  Your uterus grows. Like, y'all, I swear I told Jess, I'm like,
• 38:40
  I got five pounds in each boot.
• 38:41
  I mean, like, your breasts, your boobs. Hey, your wish came true.
• 38:45
  Right, except after this baby comes, I'm going to be like, three babies,
• 38:50
  three breastfed babies.
• 38:51
  Like, what are we going to do? Calling somebody to help me fix them, you know.
• 38:56
  And then, of course, fat stores. Okay. Like, and so I think this is the one,
• 39:00
  the fat stores is like where people don't, they're like, oh, I don't want to gain fat.
• 39:04
  No, but you need to. You have to.
• 39:07
  For postpartum. Right. Like you have to. To be able to, number one,
• 39:12
  just like have the energy to deliver the baby and then recover afterwards.
• 39:18
  But then also for the breastfeeding, like, you know, a lot of people talk about
• 39:23
  like, oh, when I breastfed, I lost all this weight and blah, blah, blah.
• 39:26
  It's so weird, the difference. It is weird. But, like, to breastfeed,
• 39:31
  you have to have stored fat.
• 39:33
  Like, if you lost a ton of weight and you had, like, no fat stores,
• 39:37
  then your milk supply would drop.
• 39:39
  Like, it functions off of fat.
• 39:41
  And even people who lose a lot of weight in their breastfeeding journey,
• 39:46
  and, you know, they do have less in their fat stores, they'll notice that their milk is thinner.
• 39:52
  You know it's not and so then you're like oh my god I'm not supplying enough
• 39:56
  fat for the baby like it's all kinds of crazy stuff you know so,
• 40:01
  It sucks. It sucks to say I could gain anywhere from five to nine or even more
• 40:05
  pounds. I know with Sarah Mason, I gained more pounds of fat than nine pounds.
• 40:10
  And that sucks. But also, even the fat serves its purpose, you know,
• 40:15
  which is why you may crave the chocolate milkshake or the whatever.
• 40:19
  You know what I mean? Yeah.
• 40:21
  100%. And I didn't realize that, because, I mean, this is my first time.
• 40:26
  And so, like, gaining extra fat storage because, like, I mean,
• 40:31
  yeah, your appetite is going to increase when you breastfeed.
• 40:36
  But, like, you don't have a lot of time, like, I've heard, to,
• 40:39
  like, eat. And so, like, your body is providing.
• 40:42
  Yeah, like, you're not going to prepare a meal. No.
• 40:44
  And so, like, if you did, like, accidentally, like, skip a meal,
• 40:48
  that's not a good thing. But, like, your body will have those fat stores to,
• 40:52
  like, help you try and at least write. Right. That's right. Yeah. Yeah.
• 40:57
  So, I mean, it helps you provide what you need to provide. And like I tell I
• 41:01
  tell women this all the time.
• 41:04
  Your body is designed or the way our body is designed is absolutely freaking incredible.
• 41:08
  And so God designed us, like as women, we are designed to provide for a baby,
• 41:17
  like not just to grow a baby in our uterus, right?
• 41:20
  But like there are things about our body that is designed to provide for the
• 41:25
  baby regardless, even if we aren't providing for ourselves.
• 41:30
  So what that means is, is if like you just say, I'm not going to eat,
• 41:35
  you know, I'm not going to eat. I'm just going to be in a calorie deficit, whatever.
• 41:39
  Okay, cool. But you're going to shrivel up. Your bone density is going to be ruined.
• 41:44
  Your hair is going to start falling out. Your skin's going to look like crap. But you may still...
• 41:50
  You know, produce breast milk, but like your body's going to make that the priority.
• 41:54
  You know what I mean? Like your body is going to, it's the same in your pregnancy.
• 41:58
  That's why you can see, I mean, we don't see it very often, but you could see
• 42:01
  little shriveled up girls with big old pregnant bellies. Yeah.
• 42:05
  Like their arms look like twigs, but they still got a belly and they'll have
• 42:08
  healthy babies. I mean, that's the reason why a lot of people have postpartum
• 42:11
  hair loss too, is like the body's priority is not to like grow beautiful like hair.
• 42:17
  It's to provide for your baby. And so the nutrients is just not going to your hair anymore.
• 42:21
  And if you don't, if you're not giving your body enough of the nutrients or
• 42:25
  enough of the calories or enough of the macros or whatever, it chooses to give
• 42:28
  it to the baby. Where it's going to go, yeah. And so.
• 42:31
  And I learned all that with hypothalamic amenorrhea. Like, you know,
• 42:35
  like that is the reason why I was not having a cycle was because that was not
• 42:38
  a, that was not something that my body felt that was important.
• 42:42
  Like it was like the calories were going to making my heart beat.
• 42:46
  Right. Making my brain think.
• 42:48
  Priorities. yeah like movement like all of
• 42:50
  that like it completely took my my cycle
• 42:53
  away and so like going into this next
• 42:58
  chapter of my life of like gaining weight during pregnancy and then the journey
• 43:03
  of going to try and lose the weight after pregnancy like I hope to go into it
• 43:08
  with like a brand new perspective of it's not about bouncing back it's not about
• 43:14
  the abs and the you know getting back into your workout routine, like.
• 43:18
  The jump of it it's about like literally nourishing your
• 43:22
  body nourishing your baby and like rejoicing and
• 43:25
  like what just happened like you literally just like and
• 43:28
  healing what yes exactly like and I think that's the same with everything right
• 43:33
  it's what we talk about here with weight loss all the time it's like the slow
• 43:37
  consistent effort right which is what you had to do to get your cycle back it's
• 43:42
  like you couldn't just take a bunch of supplements which is exactly why you
• 43:46
  didn't want to take the birth control, right?
• 43:47
  Because you knew, I know I can build my way back there.
• 43:52
  Well, the birth control was just essentially going to be a band-aid. Right.
• 43:55
  Like it wasn't giving me anything that I needed other than giving me a cycle
• 43:59
  so that like I wasn't going to get, what is it, bone density loss or whatever.
• 44:05
  Like that was literally their only main concern. I'm like, that's not my main concern.
• 44:08
  My main concern is like to have a cycle so that I can ovulate and like,
• 44:12
  it wasn't even like, they weren't even doing it out of the...
• 44:16
  The sake of like me being able to get pregnant they were doing it
• 44:19
  out of the sake of like letting me have a bleed you
• 44:21
  know yeah so yeah it's just
• 44:25
  but yeah and and two like a lot of a lot of
• 44:27
  women with the hypothalamic amenorrhea situation
• 44:31
  they can regain their cycle back in a
• 44:34
  month but they are eating insane in no
• 44:39
  judgment yeah i just know my personality and
• 44:42
  my mental capacity could not do that like you
• 44:45
  would have reverted back oh 100 and so like slow
• 44:48
  and steady was the way that i wanted to go and and enjoy like be okay in the
• 44:54
  process of it and i think it'll be the exact same way with postpartum yeah and
• 44:59
  to your body will thank you for it obviously because it will be able to distribute
• 45:02
  the nutrients and all the things even a little more evenly you know than,
• 45:08
  otherwise yeah so i don't know but even even even still like with all that being
• 45:15
  said like it's still hard i think
• 45:17
  for mentally like and emotionally for me and you both like and i think.
• 45:22
  With Glory, I put a lot of pressure on myself and I'm really trying hard not
• 45:25
  to be so that way this time around.
• 45:29
  But like when I am out here, like as a weight loss coach and I'm pregnant and
• 45:35
  I'm seeing myself get bigger, you know what I mean? It's just kind of like,
• 45:40
  oh, my God, can people even value my opinion?
• 45:43
  Like, you know, I know, I know. But the negative creeps in like the devil creeps
• 45:48
  in and like tells me like, you
• 45:49
  know, you've got to look a type of way and you've got to be a type of way.
• 45:52
  Way and like and so I think but also think
• 45:55
  on the flip side of you know
• 45:58
  like someone being able to look at you and
• 46:01
  be like she is gaining a healthy amount of weight and that's inspiring
• 46:04
  right you know that is what you
• 46:07
  need to stand for 99% of the time that's where I live yeah so
• 46:10
  like you know I don't think anybody's like expecting you just because you're
• 46:13
  a weight loss coach to not gain weight like you have to gain weight you will
• 46:17
  gain weight it's just like part of it yeah and I think that not only like in
• 46:22
  pregnancy but like in your other teachings and like just the way that you,
• 46:28
  are about weight loss it's like realistic like that is the it's a realistic
• 46:34
  weight loss so you're gonna i hope like mirror a realistic weight gain when
• 46:39
  it comes to pregnancy because that's what people need to see is like the.
• 46:45
  Yeah. Like the realistic. The honesty about it.
• 46:48
  Yes. Which I mean, which is what above all like that is where I stand about everything.
• 46:53
  Like even though it sucks, like even though I hate getting bigger,
• 46:55
  like I still I'm going to be like, this is what I'm eating and this is how I'm doing.
• 46:59
  And this because. And if you're doing it, it's OK.
• 47:02
  That's right. You know, like if you're doing it too, it's OK. And it's just a season.
• 47:06
  And that's what I was talking to one of my good girlfriends the other day about
• 47:09
  it. She was asking me if I've dealt. It was so weird.
• 47:11
  She texts me asking if I've dealt with, you know, body image
• 47:14
  issues through pregnancy and i'm like absolutely and like
• 47:18
  every every part of pregnancy is
• 47:21
  a season and it's so temporary and it's not going to last
• 47:23
  forever and like so every if you do choose
• 47:26
  to like weigh yourself through pregnancy i i chose two
• 47:29
  and you are choosing to too but some people don't
• 47:33
  but when you step on that scale and you do see the weight gain
• 47:35
  like don't let it like ruin your day like this is
• 47:38
  part of it and it's a beautiful journey and
• 47:42
  it's not like your current it's not like it's that's
• 47:45
  going to be your weight for the rest of your life you know like it's not
• 47:47
  like you're doing it like out of like your
• 47:51
  body is naturally gaining weight like you're not
• 47:53
  doing it because like I mean maybe you are eating some cheeseburgers
• 47:57
  and some yeah some milkshakes but like that's okay too you know like I don't
• 48:03
  know it's just it's been very pregnancy and weight gain has been very healing
• 48:08
  for me and it is I'm doing it for like an amazing purpose and like seeing my body.
• 48:16
  Get bigger in different parts and like causing my body get bigger has been like really cool to like,
• 48:24
  I mean you always just like what is my partner thing yeah you know and like
• 48:27
  he's been great with it like I was gonna talk about that I was gonna bring that up like.
• 48:33
  You know, I think it really sucks. Like, I think it's very helpful the day and
• 48:38
  age that we're in where we can, like, easily see other people's, like, on Facebook.
• 48:43
  People post questions in groups and, or, like, an Instagram influencer will
• 48:47
  just put her opinion out about certain things.
• 48:49
  And so one thing that I felt like, I felt, triggered's not the right word because
• 48:54
  I'm not triggered, but I'm just maybe just bothered by is, like,
• 48:58
  I'm in some groups for moms on Facebook.
• 49:01
  And like people will post like my husband
• 49:05
  told me I'm pregnant right and
• 49:08
  my husband told me that like he doesn't you know find
• 49:11
  me attractive anymore because he doesn't you know think let me tell you something
• 49:15
  I mean I know I would oh my god it's like but so I'm reading it like oh that
• 49:23
  poor girl because like I just don't have a husband like that right this man
• 49:25
  he wild out here and so So, I mean, you know,
• 49:29
  and so, but I'm thinking.
• 49:33
  Okay, someone who may not have a Kyle or a Jess that are a little more vocal
• 49:38
  or maybe a little more whatever, they're then immediately wondering that.
• 49:43
  Like, they're pregnant and they're
• 49:43
  like, oh, my God, wait, does my husband really think that about me too?
• 49:46
  And, you know, and I just, I feel for that, like that influence,
• 49:52
  no matter what it is, right? Like, same, same.
• 49:55
  This one is what one that really got me when I was pregnant with Sarah Mason.
• 49:59
  And, like, Facebook wasn't really that hopping with this kind of stuff back
• 50:02
  then. I think I must have been reading it in, like, baby.
• 50:06
  There used to be, like, you know how red it is now?
• 50:09
  There used to be, like, baby threads like that. Like, I can't remember the name
• 50:12
  of it, but it would be, like, baby.com. I don't know. And so you could go in there and, like.
• 50:18
  Track alongside other women who are pregnant at the same time
• 50:21
  that you were and they would just talk about different things and and so
• 50:24
  I remember reading a lot and also a
• 50:27
  lot of people in my life would were verbally saying
• 50:31
  to me well I hope you said goodbye to
• 50:34
  your body because you're never gonna get it back again you
• 50:37
  know like I was I was fit like you
• 50:40
  until I got pregnant I was and so in my
• 50:42
  mind I'm thinking well this is the end this is the end of it all
• 50:45
  you know what I mean and so that turned out to obviously not be the
• 50:48
  case for me you know but they're rejecting.
• 50:51
  Like or projecting their unhappiness
• 50:55
  on you like the fact that they could not lose their
• 50:58
  weight they're projecting that on you to like set you up for
• 51:00
  failure like that is so unfortunate that
• 51:04
  like people like that exists right right but
• 51:07
  I think if you're easily influenced which I think I really was
• 51:10
  when I was pregnant with sarah mason yeah you know it's
• 51:13
  like you can just accept that as
• 51:16
  it's going to be the truth i mean imagine that like if our
• 51:19
  mom and our grandma and i told you
• 51:22
  and everybody around you told you like well you're
• 51:25
  just gonna be that way you're gonna have that saggy skin you know
• 51:28
  like you would just kind of be like well i guess i mean i
• 51:31
  guess i guess that's my my story right yeah and
• 51:34
  so it's just it was one of the biggest lessons for me i think
• 51:37
  as a as a 20 something year old in everything
• 51:40
  right because now if somebody tells me oh your business is
• 51:43
  gonna fail because x i'm gonna be like watch this you know
• 51:46
  what i mean like it because it made
• 51:49
  me realize that a lot of wisdom quote wisdom people have if it comes from a
• 51:55
  negative place like that it's it's probably just their lack of like perspective
• 52:01
  on life it's not necessarily that they tried their hardest in whatever that topic may be, you know?
• 52:08
  And so, but anyway, I think.
• 52:11
  Regardless, like when we have so much of that information just coming at us,
• 52:15
  whether we're asking for it or not.
• 52:17
  And then on top of that, looking in the mirror, you know, getting dressed, Lord have mercy.
• 52:22
  I am like, and Jess has been so sweet right now.
• 52:25
  I'm in the midst of like really trying to, in the past two pregnancies I have had,
• 52:31
  like, I've had to kind of rearrange my closets, you know, but this pregnancy,
• 52:36
  this closet in this house is big enough that I can probably just like shove
• 52:39
  all my clothes over and put pregnancy clothes but like I don't want to I you
• 52:43
  know I want them out of my sight so just made room in his closet and he's like you can put all your,
• 52:47
  two little clothes in my closet and
• 52:51
  you know we're gonna fold some up and put them away and just I'm in the
• 52:54
  process of like really getting myself a what's it
• 52:56
  called a staple wardrobe because it's hard
• 52:59
  to like try on a pair of joggers and
• 53:02
  be like dang these are a little tight I'm like these are doggers yeah
• 53:06
  but they go right over my belly button which is like almost
• 53:09
  you can't see it almost already you know what i
• 53:11
  mean so just i did that yesterday no two days ago i haven't really done that
• 53:18
  much like i didn't organize my closet as much during pregnancy but now that
• 53:22
  i'm on the about to be postpartum all of my extra small leggings are in a different room yeah all of my like,
• 53:30
  that's good I just I don't want the pressure of it like I think that I think
• 53:36
  that I'm going into postpartum like a lot more.
• 53:40
  I don't know the word. Protective of yourself. Yes. Then I have dealing with pregnancy weight gain.
• 53:46
  You know, like I've enjoyed buying new clothes. Let me tell you.
• 53:50
  Yeah. No, but that's true. But I can see that because for you in the pregnancy
• 53:55
  weight gain, I can see how you would rationalize like, well,
• 53:58
  just like you've been right here saying like, I mean, it's got to happen pretty much, you know.
• 54:02
  So, no, I can't fit my extra small leggings right now.
• 54:05
  You know what I mean? But I could see how as soon as that baby comes out, you may want to change.
• 54:10
  You may want to be tempted to flip that mindset. Yep.
• 54:14
  And so I love it. I mean, it's about being proactive and like protecting yourself.
• 54:19
  And I learned a lot of that.
• 54:21
  I mean, this, I was talking to Constance about like weight gain and numbers and like all of that.
• 54:27
  And I will say, so I did have to gain weight before I got pregnant.
• 54:31
  But during pregnancy, I've gained about 20 pounds. and so prior to that though I had to gain like.
• 54:39
  Close to 10 pounds to even get my cycle back like
• 54:42
  somewhere between like seven to 10 pounds and that that
• 54:47
  gain weight gain was harder than any this
• 54:49
  of this weight gain that I've gained like during pregnancy because
• 54:53
  like I know I was doing it for a reason but
• 54:55
  there wasn't like there was not a life inside of me
• 54:58
  that was like giving me the peace of okay like
• 55:02
  this is fine like this is what I'm supposed to
• 55:05
  do and so you know it's hard
• 55:08
  for me to be like okay well really gained x amount but like
• 55:11
  my goal is to just be like healthy and
• 55:14
  like I pray that my cycle comes I've thought about that like my cycle coming
• 55:17
  back after I'm done breastfeeding and like what that journey is going to be
• 55:21
  like and like is it going to come back naturally and like so it's just it's
• 55:26
  it's just a it's just a journey weight weight gain period no matter what,
• 55:32
  season you're in pregnant or not like it's just
• 55:36
  it's just a journey and I don't I don't think you
• 55:38
  always have to be like I love this journey I'm on you
• 55:41
  know like I think it's it's really okay to be like this isn't my favorite you
• 55:48
  know I mean I it is not my favorite now but it is my favorite like the trade-off
• 55:52
  is so like this baby has been fluttering all around this week and I'm like oh
• 55:56
  my god like for me I'm like this is the last time I'm gonna get to feel this like I think Like,
• 56:00
  I'll just take these extra, you know, eight pounds so far and, like.
• 56:04
  Be okay with that. You know what I mean?
• 56:07
  And enjoy what I've got. And, like, and so same, just.
• 56:10
  It's okay to kind of not be okay with all of the process, but still try your
• 56:17
  best to, like, soak it all in. And find beauty in it somewhere.
• 56:21
  I mean, there is beauty in it somewhere.
• 56:23
  It's just, like, you have to have the perspective to, like, find it. Yeah.
• 56:26
  And I will say with, like, if you are listening and if you are pregnant or whatever,
• 56:32
  then you're obviously somewhat familiar with our process here and,
• 56:37
  like, how we do weight loss. and like you're gonna lose the weight.
• 56:41
  And I think that's something that's so, like in my first pregnancy with Sarah
• 56:44
  Mason, like I didn't have this business when I was pregnant with Sarah Mason.
• 56:46
  Like I didn't, I really didn't have the experience and the knowledge and any
• 56:50
  of the things that I do now, right?
• 56:51
  And so I think it's,
• 56:55
  It was hard for me to be like, oh, my gosh, am I going to lose the weight? You know what I mean?
• 56:59
  Whereas now I'm like, I know I'm going to get this weight right back off.
• 57:03
  And so, like, if you're listening, you have to know. Like, you'll get it off.
• 57:06
  And I personally loved my body more after I had Glory than I have ever.
• 57:11
  I don't know why. Like, maybe just because, again, like, maybe some of what
• 57:14
  you're talking about, like, going through the acceptance of yourself at either size and all that.
• 57:19
  And your body just did an incredible thing. you
• 57:23
  know like you have a whole new appreciation for
• 57:26
  your body I feel like after you have a baby and like
• 57:28
  going through labor and like so whether or not you're like below the
• 57:31
  weight that you were or a little over or right at like I just feel
• 57:34
  like you find a new appreciation for your body right well and
• 57:37
  then it's ability to recover and heal and
• 57:40
  then like get back to something you are cool with looking
• 57:43
  at yeah you know in the mirror like
• 57:46
  it is it's it's such a
• 57:49
  cool thing to just be able to watch and see how your body
• 57:52
  can transform you know in positive
• 57:55
  ways whether you're gaining or losing
• 57:58
  you know and so yeah if you're listening you're pregnant and it's like oh my
• 58:02
  gosh am I gonna yes yes you will yes you will if you put your mind to it yes
• 58:06
  you will you will get your body back you will gain your muscle back you will
• 58:09
  you know feel confident and comfortable again but like chris was saying like
• 58:13
  it just takes time it's not gonna happen the month after you have your baby.
• 58:17
  Those who are, who do bounce back and they look like they haven't had a baby
• 58:21
  a month after, I'm like, you're a freak.
• 58:23
  Like what? Well, and that was one thing that I was literally just about to say
• 58:27
  is do not compare your journey to someone else's.
• 58:30
  I mean, like there's a lot of girls that I follow on Instagram who is kind of
• 58:33
  pregnant around the same time of me and some of them have already had their babies.
• 58:37
  And I mean, just like you said, they literally look like they haven't even like had a baby. And I'm like.
• 58:44
  Well, that's interesting, but it's genetics. Like a lot of it is so genetic.
• 58:50
  Like how you gain the weight, how you lose the weight, where you gain the weight. And how tall are they?
• 58:56
  Exactly. How tall are they? They're like model women.
• 58:59
  Like, you know, and it's just, and that too, like when I say I've gained X amount
• 59:04
  of weight, like I'm literally 5'2". Yeah.
• 59:07
  So like my, and my sister is like taller than me.
• 59:12
  So like it's just like body compositions you just don't
• 59:15
  that's why i was kind of like do we talk about numbers or
• 59:17
  not because i just don't want anybody to compare their journey
• 59:20
  to our journey and like all of that but like that is the
• 59:23
  least that's the least thing that you need to do postpartum is
• 59:27
  compare your journey whether that's when it
• 59:29
  comes to your body whether that comes to whether or not you can breastfeed or
• 59:32
  not whether your baby's sleeping yeah like it's just
• 59:35
  the comparison game can wreck the joy and like
• 59:38
  i'm gonna try and be very protective of that like during
• 59:41
  postpartum so I love it yeah
• 59:44
  I don't know it's just I've been doing a lot of like
• 59:47
  mental preparation every year that's good
• 59:51
  I mean it really is so good because you just and you'll have time for that too
• 59:55
  when with the baby like you may be a little more tired but you know there's
• 59:58
  gonna be a lot of sitting and reflecting and like I think we've we talked about
• 1:00:02
  this a little bit like you don't want to waste it on scrolling and looking at
• 1:00:07
  other people and other things and like You know,
• 1:00:09
  you really want to soak it all in and be in that time and be in that moment with your baby.
• 1:00:14
  You know what I mean? And so I do think.
• 1:00:18
  A lot of moms with littles can use their idle time with their baby, right?
• 1:00:23
  And it's sweet. But like, what are you consuming in your other hand,
• 1:00:27
  you know, while you're sitting and breastfeeding or rocking or whatever, you know?
• 1:00:33
  And it can steal your joy if you're looking at another mama who has lost weight
• 1:00:37
  faster than you or who's talking about their baby sleeping better than you.
• 1:00:41
  Or their milk supply is incredible.
• 1:00:43
  Or, you know, you just never know what you're looking at out there because,
• 1:00:45
  my God, it's all out there wide open.
• 1:00:48
  And who's to say that it's even true? That's a fact, Jack.
• 1:00:53
  Like, who is to say it's even true?
• 1:00:57
  Like, all of these influencers, like, and I do love it because it gives me kind
• 1:01:02
  of perspective of like, okay, this is what my nights are going to be like, or like, whatever.
• 1:01:06
  But like, they're setting their cameras up and like, spend the night with,
• 1:01:09
  you know, spend the day with me whenever I'm XYZ.
• 1:01:12
  And I'm like, is this real? like how
• 1:01:15
  are you doing all of this six months or six weeks postpartum
• 1:01:19
  like how are you like I'm like a hundred
• 1:01:21
  percent going to like sit my
• 1:01:25
  butt on the couch like enjoy every moment of that downtime and like you have
• 1:01:32
  to remember because I know this as a as the in just in the industry in general
• 1:01:38
  but like which is why I mean people people are always like you need to get a
• 1:01:42
  like to know it or whatever you need.
• 1:01:44
  And I'm like, if you follow me, you know, I'm always like, I'm not an influencer,
• 1:01:48
  but I really love this chopper.
• 1:01:50
  Here's the link, you know, because like, I do want y'all to know the things
• 1:01:53
  I love because I think they're super helpful. But like.
• 1:01:56
  There comes a point with an influencer where it becomes your income, right?
• 1:02:00
  And then when it becomes your income, you're now on a mission to keep that income, right?
• 1:02:07
  And so then there are all these other people out there teaching you how to best
• 1:02:12
  get eyes on you and have people seeking you for their needs, right?
• 1:02:18
  And so what's the best way to do that?
• 1:02:21
  Well, give them something that looks like desirable.
• 1:02:24
  So I'm like, you're a hot mess express six weeks postpartum.
• 1:02:27
  And you got a girl who's going to get her hair done and cleaning the house and,
• 1:02:31
  you know, got a baby sleeping through the night.
• 1:02:33
  And so what do you think you're going to be drawn to when you're in your tears
• 1:02:37
  and you've had three hours of sleep last night and you feel like your grays
• 1:02:40
  are showing? And like, what do you think?
• 1:02:42
  You know, and so she is, these people are purposefully drawn.
• 1:02:45
  You know, crafting these images. Manipulating.
• 1:02:50
  Right. So then you go to their page and she's like, oh, this noisemaker is the
• 1:02:55
  answer to all the problems.
• 1:02:57
  This is how you get, you know, me, my life, you know, by getting this noisemaker
• 1:03:02
  and getting all your hours of sleep or whatever it may be.
• 1:03:05
  You know, so it's. You got to just be very cautious with the things that you're consuming.
• 1:03:12
  Yeah. And that's why, like, I have been so back on back and forth about the
• 1:03:15
  brick, the brick, like, especially like postpartum, because like,
• 1:03:19
  I do know to a certain extent that some of this information is great and it's very knowledgeable.
• 1:03:24
  And it's, you know, if you're if you're consuming the right things, it can be very helpful.
• 1:03:28
  Yeah. But then on the flip side of that, it can be very damaging at the same time. And like, yeah.
• 1:03:35
  I mean, I think what's the harm in getting the brick? Yeah.
• 1:03:37
  You know, versus just like not getting it. I mean, you know,
• 1:03:40
  like I bricked my phone this morning and it was so helpful, you know,
• 1:03:45
  because since we got home from the trip, I've just been kind of like,
• 1:03:48
  and then Thanksgiving week, I've just been off my game.
• 1:03:50
  And so I bricked, but then I did a story on the girls' lunchbox.
• 1:03:55
  So I had to like walk over there and unbrick so I could do the story,
• 1:03:59
  you know, but that was fine because it's still.
• 1:04:01
  It's work related. It kept me 45 minutes out of my social media first thing
• 1:04:05
  this morning, which that's what I needed, you know.
• 1:04:08
  So, yeah, you could brick and, you know, rock your baby and not have the social and whatever.
• 1:04:15
  I think it would be very good to, like, have it at night. Because,
• 1:04:17
  like, there's nothing at night that I would probably be buying a lot of things.
• 1:04:21
  Like, trying to get a book or something that I would rather read during the night feedings.
• 1:04:26
  Like, I know you gave me that one book and it's by my bedside right now.
• 1:04:30
  But, like, you know, maybe just, like, not doom scrolling at night during feed.
• 1:04:35
  Right. Because like the biggest lie, we had this conversation on a PFM Plus call last week.
• 1:04:40
  Like I had them kind of walk, I had them do a 24-hour day recall of like.
• 1:04:46
  Yesterday, if yesterday was a basically normal day for you, I want you to write
• 1:04:50
  down exactly what you did every hour.
• 1:04:52
  And then I want you to go back and fill in even in between the hours.
• 1:04:55
  Like, what did you do all day yesterday?
• 1:04:57
  Because a lot of times we want to tell ourselves we don't have the time to exercise
• 1:05:01
  or prep our lunches or whatever.
• 1:05:03
  Cook food. Right. Yeah. But then it's like, but you did have time to comment
• 1:05:07
  on every post we had. That's a real wake up call right there.
• 1:05:11
  Yes. You know, and part of it, Krista, is like, I'm going to put them on blast
• 1:05:14
  out here. But a part of it is my clients, the main ones that are like,
• 1:05:18
  I didn't have time. I don't have time. I'm like, you saw every story I posted
• 1:05:22
  this weekend. Yeah. Because I can see that you saw it.
• 1:05:25
  You know what I mean? And so it's like, I know if you're looking at my story,
• 1:05:28
  how many other stories are you looking at?
• 1:05:29
  You know? And so it's just one of these, like, you need to face yourself and
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  face, like, do you not have time?
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  Or do you not have maybe the discipline? Or do you not have the desire?
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  Or like just like the simple, like, thought of it. Like, I remember when you
• 1:05:43
  would say, like, are you, like, if your baby is, like, playing a soccer game
• 1:05:47
  or have soccer practice, like, are you doom scrolling in your car or do you
• 1:05:50
  have the opportunity to walk?
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  Like, some people are like, well, dang, I didn't even think about that, you know?
• 1:05:56
  Or they're thinking of that time, which is as their downtime.
• 1:06:00
  Downtime, yeah. Which is what a lot of my clients will say. Like,
• 1:06:05
  I'm like, what do you do for, like, your mindset?
• 1:06:08
  Like, what do you do? you know, because you do have kids and you do work a full-time
• 1:06:11
  job and it really is stressful and I get it. But like, what's your time?
• 1:06:14
  You know what I mean? What do you do to like make sure you are mentally healthy
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  or physically healthy or both, right?
• 1:06:20
  And it's like, well, you know, it always goes back to at night,
• 1:06:24
  my husband watches sports in the living room or whatever, and I'm in the bed
• 1:06:27
  already and that's my time.
• 1:06:29
  And I'm like, what's that filled with? You on TikTok. Yeah.
• 1:06:33
  You know what I mean? And so that is not...
• 1:06:36
  That is you filling your brain with more things. It's not you emptying your brain.
• 1:06:41
  And someone who is overstimulated and stressed out and exhausted probably too,
• 1:06:47
  like, we don't need to get on TikTok and find a new recipe we think we should try.
• 1:06:51
  And then swipe and then fill. And then, okay, yeah, sure. Like funny things too come across.
• 1:06:56
  And y'all know us and you and Candice and things that are so freaking funny.
• 1:07:00
  But it's like, and then you swipe again. And then there's like an influencer
• 1:07:03
  who's advertising this new outfit. I feel like crap because you can't afford X, Y, Z.
• 1:07:08
  And then you're like going down this rabbit hole or maybe you buy it and you
• 1:07:11
  really don't need to be buying it.
• 1:07:12
  And like, it's just. Or like, yeah, like, okay, she's got these new jeans she
• 1:07:16
  loves. And then like, you're like, oh, wait, I want those. But like,
• 1:07:18
  did you even need jeans? Like, would you have thought?
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  Would you have thought I need to get a new pair of jeans? If you wouldn't have
• 1:07:23
  seen that. If you hadn't have seen that. Yeah, exactly.
• 1:07:25
  So it's just. And then. But if you think about the amount of information that
• 1:07:29
  comes flooding into your brain all at once.
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  Literally an hour or two before you go to sleep. Of course you're not sleeping
• 1:07:34
  through the night. Like, you're not getting good rest.
• 1:07:37
  And you didn't have you time. Yeah. That is so different.
• 1:07:41
  Where was I? Oh, I was at like a, we had some widows from church come and talk to the moms.
• 1:07:48
  It was so insightful. But one of the women that were teachers there,
• 1:07:52
  she was a previous teacher.
• 1:07:53
  And her biggest piece of advice was to limit iPads. Like, don't really give your kid an iPad. Yeah.
• 1:08:00
  And she said, even if you have to put them in front of the TV,
• 1:08:03
  that's better than an iPad.
• 1:08:05
  Because with an iPad, she was talking about how so many kids these days have attention disorders.
• 1:08:11
  And we adults do, too. You know, and she was talking about it.
• 1:08:14
  It's because of this swipe in, swipe out information that we are constantly doing.
• 1:08:18
  She said, at least with a TV show or with a book, you're focused in.
• 1:08:23
  It comes to an end, but you're focused in on the same topic.
• 1:08:27
  You know what I mean? So like at least with a book, you would be reading the same plot line.
• 1:08:33
  With a show, it's not like you're watching a cooking show and then a garden
• 1:08:37
  show and then a documentary and then a, you know, it's like you're focused on this cooking show.
• 1:08:43
  And there's a plot and there's a way it progresses. There's a beginning and then there's an end.
• 1:08:48
  And then there's, yeah. And so it's kind of the same, like, even if your you
• 1:08:52
  time is watching Netflix, a show on Netflix, that is better than this constant scroll and swipe.
• 1:09:00
  It's so true, Constance, because I've always thought, like, I've always wondered
• 1:09:03
  that, like, if I'm on my phone before I go to bed, I can feel my anxiety.
• 1:09:09
  But, like, and I've always been this way. Watching TV literally puts me to sleep.
• 1:09:14
  And so like I don't under I've never really like
• 1:09:17
  understood it because it's still like the quote unquote blue light
• 1:09:20
  and you still have like the overstimulation yeah I mean ideally we would
• 1:09:22
  just turn the lights off and fall asleep naturally like that would be
• 1:09:25
  number one but I'm a hundred percent like
• 1:09:28
  if I wake up I've done this multiple times being pregnant
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  like if I wake up at two o'clock and I just cannot go back to sleep I
• 1:09:34
  will get up go into the living room turn on the tv
• 1:09:36
  and I will be asleep in two minutes but if you were on your phone you'd be up
• 1:09:40
  till the Exactly and I've always wondered Why that is and that is why Because
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  our brain is trying to keep up with the information We're feeding it and we're
• 1:09:48
  not giving it A moment to like lull You know because I mean like yeah Seinfeld
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  That's what I put on it's just like It's just like,
• 1:09:55
  You were so T.J. Harris daughter. I'm so 88 years old.
• 1:10:00
  Y'all, this is, again, this is pre-recorded, but this is in the spot.
• 1:10:05
  Last week, this spot, what is it? Your Spotify age?
• 1:10:08
  Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah. Her age came out at 88. Literally 88.
• 1:10:12
  And Constance's Neighbors came out at 18. I was like, that is humbling.
• 1:10:17
  Mine was 27 and you're 88.
• 1:10:20
  But, yeah, because, I mean, it really does. i think
• 1:10:23
  it like correlates with okay seinfeld means sleep yes you know it's just like
• 1:10:29
  the the noises for babies or whatever like this this certain noise means sleep
• 1:10:35
  but like when i'm on my phone it is not that way at all because your brain does
• 1:10:39
  not have a chance to wind down and again like,
• 1:10:42
  ideally tv wouldn't be it either right like ideally but like you know a lot
• 1:10:46
  of people will say like okay i'm gonna try a new bedtime routine and they do
• 1:10:50
  try to go from that constant scroll to like staring up at the ceiling,
• 1:10:54
  you know, and that's, that is a huge shift and that's hard.
• 1:10:57
  And for me, I feel like if I'm just laying in bed.
• 1:11:02
  With nothing on, that is giving me all the opportunity to think of what I need to be doing.
• 1:11:07
  Like all just, but then whenever there's like a show on, I'm able to just like
• 1:11:11
  kind of cut my brain off, you know, and just like one thing to focus. Yeah.
• 1:11:15
  I'm just like, oh, this is nice. Right.
• 1:11:18
  It's so weird, but that's very, that explains it like so well.
• 1:11:23
  Well, and it, and there's just, there's so much more that goes into it.
• 1:11:26
  Just like how your nervous system responds to those things. And then like,
• 1:11:30
  okay, do you see like just the craziest stuff?
• 1:11:33
  Like if that influencer you're following has, you know, a husband who was doting
• 1:11:38
  on her in this video. And then like you're bringing, you're thinking,
• 1:11:40
  my husband don't do it on me like that. And you're bringing up a fight that you had the day before.
• 1:11:43
  And like, you know, there's so many rabbit holes and so much trauma,
• 1:11:47
  like little T or big T trauma that could just bubble up right there while you're
• 1:11:51
  laying there trying to fall asleep. Literally from like a 20 second TikTok. Yes.
• 1:11:54
  Or Instagram reel. It's not something we're registering. It's not like we're
• 1:11:57
  laying there going, oh, my God, my husband doesn't love me. Like,
• 1:12:00
  that's not what we're registering in the moment.
• 1:12:02
  Right. But it's all these things bubbling up inside of us. Because,
• 1:12:06
  again, that's our brain's job.
• 1:12:08
  Our brain's job is if a thought comes, it's trying to protect us from it.
• 1:12:12
  It's trying to, you know, so then how's it going to protect us from that thought?
• 1:12:16
  It's going to go negative. That's just how it does. You know what I mean?
• 1:12:19
  Unless we force it positive. and so truly like you you don't know what a good
• 1:12:24
  service you would be doing to yourself by literally just putting your phone
• 1:12:27
  down and watching love is blind.
• 1:12:30
  That is the end that is the end of this podcast just listen just watch love is blind,
• 1:12:37
  and all your worries will go away but you know you won't wake up with the to-do
• 1:12:43
  list a mile long and that anxiety you're talking about and all this stuff like
• 1:12:46
  it's just yeah it's wild it's absolutely well.
• 1:12:50
  I love that. Okay, this took a turn. So anyway, here we are.
• 1:12:55
  And now we're in some minutes in.
• 1:12:57
  Okay, but is there anything else about pregnancy and weight gain?
• 1:13:00
  And I think we have really hit it all.
• 1:13:03
  Yeah, I think we talked a little bit about, too, just like the uncomfortability
• 1:13:07
  of like getting dressed.
• 1:13:08
  And, you know, all of that just like comes and goes with pregnancy.
• 1:13:13
  I think it's just like you're not the only one experiencing it. Let's put it that way.
• 1:13:17
  That's right. And I do think, which I told Justice, you know,
• 1:13:21
  he's so frugal and he hates that I say that.
• 1:13:25
  And he has come a long way, right? But, like, he hates to spend a dollar.
• 1:13:29
  Can I just tell you, like, even getting his Christmas list for mom,
• 1:13:32
  I'm like, bruh, mom. This was mom's, in the words of Sarah Mason, bruh.
• 1:13:36
  Sarah Mason is going bruh, bruh.
• 1:13:40
  But my mom has asked me probably four or five times for Justice's Christmas list.
• 1:13:44
  And I'm like, you have got to give me a list. Like, and so I've just been out
• 1:13:47
  here buying whatever I think he needs, you know, because he won't give me a
• 1:13:50
  list. He hates to spend money, but or spend other people's money.
• 1:13:53
  He just hates material things.
• 1:13:57
  And so.
• 1:13:59
  With this, like with this pregnancy thing and at the point that I'm in right
• 1:14:03
  now, I've been kind of like nervous because I mean, we are, we just got back
• 1:14:06
  from that trip and we are buying Christmas and I'm like, but I need,
• 1:14:11
  I gotta, I gotta get some clothes. Yeah.
• 1:14:13
  Like I hate it. And he's just like, babe, do that to get, to be comfortable
• 1:14:18
  because like things like my sports bras, they hurt.
• 1:14:21
  They're cutting me because my boobs have gotten so freaking big.
• 1:14:24
  And so I'm like, okay I could
• 1:14:27
  just you know avoid my sports bras but
• 1:14:30
  then I'm like no I want to work out like I want to move my
• 1:14:33
  body and I don't want to correlate moving my
• 1:14:37
  body with being uncomfortable in my clothes yeah you know what I mean and so
• 1:14:41
  just the little acts of things like that like getting panties that you need
• 1:14:45
  bigger panties get panties that are bigger if you need sports bras get sports
• 1:14:48
  bras put away the things that don't fit get blue jeans that like me and you had this conversation.
• 1:14:54
  Last week about okay i really like these maternity
• 1:14:57
  jeans they look real and my god you'll have to feel them when you when we
• 1:15:00
  get off of here they're so soft but they were so
• 1:15:03
  expensive and it's like do you like them have you tried them
• 1:15:06
  i have they're a little long and so i'm just wait
• 1:15:09
  i'm kind of i've ordered another pair to compare yeah but
• 1:15:12
  anyway just like allowing yourself to do
• 1:15:15
  what you can to be comfortable in this season it doesn't have to be 30 new pieces
• 1:15:21
  of clothing you know what I mean but just like the basics that you need to feel
• 1:15:26
  most comfortable so that you aren't waking up looking in the mirror seeing your
• 1:15:30
  belly seeing you know and then also.
• 1:15:33
  Squeezing into clothes yeah it's very difficult you know having a hard time
• 1:15:37
  breathing all throughout the day like whatever it may be you know I mean whenever
• 1:15:41
  I was getting like it's been hard for me to get dressed because to go to work
• 1:15:45
  because like I am on my like I've bought like three pairs of tennis shoes since
• 1:15:49
  I've been pregnant three or four because.
• 1:15:52
  Usually I could, like, wear cute shoes to work. Ain't no way.
• 1:15:56
  The days that I have tried to wear semi-cute non-tennis shoes to work,
• 1:16:01
  I regret it so, so bad. She's on her feet all day.
• 1:16:05
  And so, and then, like, trying to, like, somewhat look kind of cute and not,
• 1:16:09
  like, rolling into the work in my PJs.
• 1:16:12
  Like, you know, which I have some days.
• 1:16:14
  I mean, I'm wearing sweatpants to work some days. And, like,
• 1:16:17
  that's just going to be what it's going to be until this baby gets here.
• 1:16:21
  And so just, yeah, finding things
• 1:16:23
  that make you feel comfortable in the uncomfortable places of pregnancy.
• 1:16:28
  I really think this time around with.
• 1:16:31
  This pregnancy it was different with the last few
• 1:16:34
  or whatever but i think this time around in this season because it is
• 1:16:37
  winter i'm loving the leg
• 1:16:40
  and we talked about this like the leggings with knee knee
• 1:16:43
  high boots you know and then whatever i need to put on top like
• 1:16:46
  because the leggings just give my belly room to just bring
• 1:16:50
  you know and the boots make me feel cute
• 1:16:53
  put together right and then yeah and then you can just you know
• 1:16:56
  interchange the sweater right so easy and then
• 1:16:58
  like in the day-to-day like right now I have on a set and
• 1:17:01
  all my sets still fit they're gonna fit all the way you know for
• 1:17:04
  a while now because the bellies are looser you know
• 1:17:07
  so my day-to-day I'm just wearing sweats but like
• 1:17:10
  even pajamas like you know
• 1:17:13
  I bought so many pajamas but it's like so nice it
• 1:17:16
  is so nice I don't
• 1:17:20
  even care like and that is what all I want for
• 1:17:23
  Christmas is just lounge wear like give me all the pjs
• 1:17:25
  mom accidentally sent me a link to a pair
• 1:17:28
  of pajamas I think she's getting for you I think I don't know
• 1:17:31
  yeah I asked for pajamas from like what's this for yeah she
• 1:17:34
  never wrote me back mom I don't know how to use her she probably didn't
• 1:17:37
  even mean to call you no she probably didn't so yeah just you know doing like
• 1:17:44
  taking the time out for yourself and you know doing what you need to make yourself
• 1:17:51
  most comfortable and to like there's been a lot of women that I've talked to and they're like, oh,
• 1:17:56
  I didn't even want to get dressed when I'm pregnant. Like I didn't even put on makeup.
• 1:17:59
  Like that's not doing you any services either. You know, like try and.
• 1:18:04
  Try and enjoy that because it truly is such a beautiful thing.
• 1:18:08
  Like seeing a woman pregnant, I don't care who you are. It is beautiful.
• 1:18:12
  And so like trying to make yourself feel good by like putting on some mascara,
• 1:18:18
  like doing your hair, that in and of itself will make you feel better.
• 1:18:22
  Feel better. Like on the days I don't wear makeup, I don't want to come out
• 1:18:25
  the house. I don't want to see anybody like because I'm just I don't come on
• 1:18:28
  stories because I just don't.
• 1:18:30
  I'm like, I don't I don't want anybody to see me like this. No,
• 1:18:32
  so it's like, okay, if it takes you putting on makeup to feel like the act of
• 1:18:37
  going to the grocery store isn't as awful, then do it. You know, like, yeah.
• 1:18:43
  I went through that with a season when I was mainly a stay-at-home mom after Sarah Mason.
• 1:18:48
  Like, I was also, I kind of, you know, at first when you leave your full-time
• 1:18:51
  job, you're like, yes, I'm never wearing a bra and makeup again.
• 1:18:54
  And, like, it's liberating at first.
• 1:18:56
  But then after some months go by, you're like, when was my first shower or wash my hair?
• 1:19:03
  Yeah. So I had to go through this season where, like, even when I was staying
• 1:19:07
  at home all day and I knew it was just me and Sarah Mason at home,
• 1:19:09
  like, truly, we may go to the park and that's it. Like, I would still get up and get myself ready.
• 1:19:13
  You know for the mental aspect of it more than anything
• 1:19:16
  yeah so all right
• 1:19:19
  y'all this was a long one but it was a good one yes i've
• 1:19:22
  been looking forward to this i knew we were gonna do it again we
• 1:19:26
  talked about almost as soon as she got pregnant but who knew who knew
• 1:19:29
  i was gonna be pregnant you were gonna be pregnant too which has been such
• 1:19:31
  a fun fun journey yes i never
• 1:19:34
  i threw it out of the window i'm like i'm never gonna be pregnant with
• 1:19:37
  any of my sisters like canis had you
• 1:19:40
  know by the time i was pregnant she had she
• 1:19:43
  had just had a one-year-old yeah i mean and so i was
• 1:19:46
  just like well i guess i'll just do this on my own but i
• 1:19:50
  think been a fun surprise i think it's gonna be
• 1:19:53
  even more fun like after they're here oh 100 i
• 1:19:56
  don't know like they'll have each i mean i love that because hazel is canis's
• 1:20:00
  oldest is three and a half and glory i mean they are besties glory's about to
• 1:20:05
  be six and even with that age gap they still are like having so much so even
• 1:20:09
  our babies with Piper is going to be perfect still.
• 1:20:14
  God, I just don't even know what this baby's going to be, y'all.
• 1:20:17
  It is going to throw a wrench into things. I'm saying it. If it's a boy.
• 1:20:22
  I'm saying it in the public.
• 1:20:25
  Gonna be a girl we'll see like i think
• 1:20:27
  it's gonna be a girl even though
• 1:20:31
  you're kind of carrying like it's supposed to be a boy because your
• 1:20:35
  belly is just like i don't know but my doctor says that's not a true thing like
• 1:20:39
  the the way your belly sticks out or how you know some people's what do they
• 1:20:43
  say if your belly pokes more out it's a boy but if your belly is more wide it's
• 1:20:47
  a girl if it's more straight out it's a boy you're more straight out but i still think it's a girl,
• 1:20:54
  If it's a boy, though, we're going to be wild up in here.
• 1:20:59
  Wow. We don't have any. I mean, Candace has two girls. I have two girls.
• 1:21:02
  I'm pregnant with a girl.
• 1:21:04
  Kyle is designed. Krista's Kyle is designed to be a girl.
• 1:21:09
  But I will say, since Amy and Cody had their little boy, I think that would
• 1:21:13
  be very special, too. That would be sweet. Very, very special.
• 1:21:15
  Yeah. So I'm good with either.
• 1:21:18
  It's going to be great either way. It's going to be great either way.
• 1:21:22
  All right, y'all. Well, as always, remember to say grace and I can't wait for
• 1:21:27
  Christmas. Merry Christmas.
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• 1:21:37
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