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Why They Block You and Wait On You To Reach Out To Them · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  So why do narcissistic people block you and then wait on you
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  to reach out to them? Why are narcissists always
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  seemingly playing this blocking, unblocking game and wanting you,
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  you, you, you to be the one that reaches out to them?
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  Why the hell do they do this? That's what we're talking about
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  today, y'all. Of course, if you're new here,
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  I'm Lee Hammock. I'm a diagnosed narcissist, and
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  we'll go to another episode of These Narcissists Go.
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  Let's go. Welcome back, welcome back,
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  welcome back yo. Let's get it.
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  Make sure if you have not already to check out my YouTube
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  channel, The Mental Illness Podcast.
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  can find it on YouTube and your favorite on Spotify as well.
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  YouTube, Spotify, everywhere y'all.
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  But what is going on y'all? The blocking unblocking game by
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  a toxic narcissistic person can be extremely annoying as hell.
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  Let's keep it hot and ready y'all.
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  So many of y'all have dealt with this right with that toxic
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  narcissistic bastard well out of nowhere.
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  Just block you right? Block you out, block you
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  everywhere and then act like nothing happened and then like
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  block you. Not even everywhere.
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  Block you on the phone but leave your e-mail unblocked.
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  They'll block your e-mail and leave the phone unblocked.
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  They'll stop responding on the parenting app and wait for you
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  to text them. They'll block you on Instagram
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  but not on Facebook. They'll block you on Facebook,
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  but not on Snapchat. They'll block you on Snapchat
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  but not on WhatsApp. Why the hell do they do this?
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  Y'all? What?
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  Why? What is the point here?
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  Why are they doing this right here?
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  The main reason why you get them to do this, why you get them to
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  doing this? Because they want you to chase
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  them like you an IG baddie. Like they like like like they
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  are an IG baddie. They are an IG baddie wanting
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  you to chase after them. I'm sorry y'all, but seriously,
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  that's exactly what they want to do.
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  They want you to chase them like the IG baddie.
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  What's going on tomorrow? How you doing?
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  But this is this. This is the mentality y'all.
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  This is the mindset behind it because they feel like in order
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  to teach you a lesson, in order to get my point across, I'm just
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  going to cut off most of the communication, right?
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  Most of it, not all of it, most of it.
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  I'm going to leave you a little window to be able to reach out
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  to me with. Because if you can reach out to
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  me, that means you validated me. You reaching out to me means
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  that you are validating me. So before y'all keep reaching
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  out to these people, before y'all keep reaching out to them,
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  before y'all do all of that, make sure that you understand
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  what you're doing. Because if you reach out to me,
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  if I block you and you chase me, whatever I have done to you is
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  OK. And whatever we might have been
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  arguing about, you see what I'm saying?
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  Whatever you're we're going to argue about or whatever the case
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  may be, like that's done now and nothing else is going to happen.
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  It's completely over. It's done with.
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  We will not bring this up again. Because you chased me, didn't
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  you? Didn't you?
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  In my mind, if you are not OK with the behaviors, if you are
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  not OK with how anything went down here, then you would not be
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  talking to me. That's how the mind of a
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  narcissist works right there. Y'all Like seriously, if you are
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  not OK with it, then why are you talking to me?
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  I Yeah, matter of fact, if you're not OK with it, why are
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  you going? Why are you circumventing a
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  block? What's wrong?
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  Little Why are you circumventing a block now?
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  Yeah, Rose, if you block them, they will lose their minds.
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  Some of them will absolutely lose their minds, go crazy,
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  threaten or harm you. They'll do a lot of different
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  things, right? Because that's the mentality and
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  whatnot, right? This is what happens.
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  This is the, the, the, the mind state it goes into and how they
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  operate and what they'll continue to do sometimes, right?
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  This is how they operate. This is what they do.
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  So they'll keep doing this type of stuff because they feel like
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  this is going on. But yeah, opposite can't be
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  true. You can't block me.
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  How dare you? How dare you block me?
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  I'm the, I'm the king here. And what the old boy said, I, I,
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  I'm the king here. This is what goes on.
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  This is what happens like you have to be in position right
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  here to deal with this. You get a lot of talks to people
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  that do this right here. 2 years, two years.
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  Well, I appreciate it. I blocked mine 2 days ago.
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  I think I'm finally done. I hope I don't break don't
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  break, don't say I hope I don't. Don't break.
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  Prepare, don't wait around. Y'all seriously prepare, don't
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  wait around because the more you wait around for them, the more
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  that I'm just telling you they'll just come back into your
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  life. But the narcissist, like I said,
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  when they're blocking you, yeah, let's let's be real.
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  Let me keep let me let me take it from this angle right here.
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  Sometimes if they block you, they are absolutely like done.
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  Sometimes they block. If they block you everywhere,
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  they might absolutely be done. Let's keep you out.
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  Y'all know I got to keep it high.
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  I got to keep it ready. So sometimes if they do block
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  you, they might be finished with you.
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  You might. Hey, I'm, I don't make the
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  rules. I'm just telling you, but that's
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  the mentality. If I block you, I might be done
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  with you. So we would be wary of that.
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  This might be the final discard as some people call it, right?
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  I know the I have a different perspective on the final
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  discard. I'll do another video on, but in
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  my mind, if I block you, then sometimes on everything I'm
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  done. This is over.
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  This is done with. There's no more, There's no need
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  for you to reach out to me anymore because we are done
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  here, right? That's there's no more need to
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  do that it at all. But a lot of times they are
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  blocking. If they block you and they
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  leave, oh, it's kind of like if they close the door and they
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  leave the window open, they expect you to climb through the
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  window. If I close the door and I leave
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  the window unlocked, I expect your empathetic ass to climb
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  through the window. I expect you to climb through
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  the window and come back to me. That's what I expect.
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  I expect you to chase me. Because guess what?
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  Guess what happens if you don't chase me?
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  Guess what happens if you don't chase me?
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  You don't love me. You don't love me.
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  I don't put look, you don't love me in.
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  But you don't love me, did you? You never really love me because
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  you didn't chase after me. You didn't call me.
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  You didn't text me. You didn't do nothing.
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  You never really loved me, did you?
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  Because if you love me, even though I blocked you everywhere,
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  you would come to my house, you would pop up on me.
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  You would ride by my house, you would pop up my job, you would
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  harass me. You know what crazy thing is?
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  If you start to call them and text them, guess what?
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  Guess what happens to you? They can screenshot whatever you
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  send. They can screenshot all the
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  calls. They can record you when you pop
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  up on the right. They can record you when you pop
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  on. And they can do all of this
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  stuff. And then they can make it seem
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  like you are the aggressor here. You see what I'm saying?
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  They can make it seem like you are a psycho.
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  You are crazy. Look, I blocked her and she's
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  calling me. I blocked this man and he popped
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  up at my job. He's crazy.
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  Even though you don't tell something to them.
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  You see what I'm saying? So something that's why I tell
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  people don't if they block you, I will be very hesitant on
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  reaching out unless there's kids or something involved in the
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  situation right here, right? Unless it's kids or someone else
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  involved in the situation. His baby mom is also in on his
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  shenanigans. Yeah, they always, almost always
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  are, right? Bella says, should I forget my
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  dog and property? So this is the one of the tough
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  situations right here. Safety always first, right?
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  You don't want to go back and risk your life for some property
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  or your. I know some people will disagree
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  with this or your dog sometimes, right?
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  If the dog is going to be taken care of, sometimes you might
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  have to escape, right? Sometimes you might have to
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  escape without your animals, without you because you had to
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  survive first, right? Safety first I've seen people
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  actually saw a story very recently when somebody went back
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  for the for the dog. They end up losing their life.
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  I saw I can't I wish I could find that story and they're
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  losing their life. Matter of fact, I think he was
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  she she tried to leave and he was threatening to harm the dogs
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  and she said take me instead, and she and he and he ended up
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  taking her right. I got to find that story, but
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  it's kind of wild, y'all. So I would say I would.
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  I know people will feel bad when I say this, but yeah, sometimes
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  you might have to leave without the dogs, right?
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  Or the belongings, right? Some people have escaped with
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  just their clothes on their back or whatever the case may be.
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  So it just really depends, right?
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  But back to the top of your hand.
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  If they block you, they won't. Yeah.
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  I'm just telling you. Let me y'all know.
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  I'll keep it real over here. If they block you, let them
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  block you. Don't go begging a narcissistic
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  bastard to unblock you because you have some more words to say.
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  I got something that's I got to say.
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  I got something to need to be here.
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  I, I this, what I have to say needs to be heard.
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  They need to hear what I say. I don't get, they ain't going to
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  block me because a lot of times what they'll do, they'll block
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  you, right? And then they'll unblock you
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  just to play games with you. They'll block you and then
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  they'll unblock you. And you'll notice lately, why do
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  they keep unblocking? Why do they keep blocking me and
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  unblocking me? I was like, because you noticed,
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  didn't you, didn't you? Why do they keep blocking me,
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  unblocking me? Because you noticed it.
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  How do you know they unblocked you if you're not looking,
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  right? If they didn't send, they
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  unblock you and send you a message.
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  If they unblock you and text you, if they unblock you and
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  call you, if they didn't unblock you and like a picture or a
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  photo or old status from 77 weeks ago.
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  How do you know they unblocked you?
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  Unless you're going looking for them.
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  That's why they unblocked you, because they want you to wonder.
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  They want you to be curious. They want you to reach out.
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  Oh, I see you unblocked me. You must not be mad anymore.
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  Blocked again. They want to, then they'll block
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  you again. You respond to them, you
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  acknowledge, like I said, you have some type of
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  acknowledgement and then they'll just block you again.
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  This is how it goes y'all. I'm just telling you, this is
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  how it goes in the mind. If they want to play games, they
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  absolutely want to play games with you and I.
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  I'm not saying that y'all want to play with them, but hey, So
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  now this way it goes, ain't it? I despise him.
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  I bet I came back. What's going on, Joey?
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  He asked me to call him. When I did, it went to
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  voicemail. Then he messaged me to tell me
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  to stop calling him and leaving him a voicemail.
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  There you go. See how he set you up?
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  You see how he set you up? Literally right here?
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  Set you up. Stop calling me, April.
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  Damn, I told this girl stop calling me she won't stop it.
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  He did a real number on me and completely rewired my brain for
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  the negative while I was with him one day recently something
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  changed in myself and never chased him again.
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  A good job. He also did the unblock, block,
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  unblock. I stopped looking.
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  I'm never going around. There you go, power up your kids
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  have some happiness. There you go right there.
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  But I'm telling you that's the way it goes.
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  Right there is a who's at it is a cat and mouse game.
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  It absolutely is. It absolutely is.
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  I caught him cheating last time he was living with me for a
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  year. He pushed me to buy a home and
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  then he married. Then he married with an older
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  woman in France. I've caught him cheating and I
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  told him to leave. He's now in he's in France now
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  and he made a fake Facebook account making videos speaking
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  bad about me. I called him to ask him to stop.
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  He told me he wants to take my house for me and live my There
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  you go. See bait.
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  He's trying to bait you sometimes.
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  Sometimes the only way to get him to stop is to reach out to
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  him, ain't it? It's the you weren't you weren't
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  supportive enough me yeah, you can never support a narcissistic
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  person enough. Y'all there's not enough support
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  in the world for narcissists because there you can bend over
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  backwards forward sideways and then they say you didn't go hard
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  enough for them. It's crazy in the beginning
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  stages of leaving minor. Any advice?
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  Well be safety first, prioritize, prioritize your
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  safety 1st. And also I have a course called
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  finding your why. It's about leaving a
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  narcissistic relationship. Well, I have two courses.
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  I have a course called understanding the seven stages
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  of a narcissistic relationship. And I also have finding your why
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  healing from narcissistic abuse. Check those.
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  You can check those out at mentalillness.net.
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  off at courses.mentalillness.net and these courses, they have
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  helped hundreds of people. Y'all, I'm just telling you now
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  and I also have a support group as well called the mental
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  healers that we do zoom calls. We I answer all of the I answer
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  all the questions that get dropped in the group and things
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  like that. Joy's in my group.
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  See Joy's in my group right here.
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  So minor called me today and yesterday I ignored his calls.
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  I emailed you as well. You e-mail.
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  I got to check my emails. I'll check them.
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  I'll check them today when I go to hub off of here.
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  But yeah, she's in my group anyway, y'all, I do have to hop
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  off this thing. I got to pick my son up from
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  school. It is about we got 320.
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  I got to leave and get in, get in that wait line.
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  Make sure to check out, like I said, if you haven't already,
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  check out my podcast on YouTube. It's all the mental illness
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  It's called follow the mental illness podcast.
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  I just dropped the link in the bio.
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  I do all my interviews over there.
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  I talked to so many people I'm about to do more story times on
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  this channel because y'all don't click on the podcast and I
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  posted it here. So I got to move it to a whole.
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  I had to move it to his whole other his own channel, his own
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  It's on Spotify as well. Spotify or YouTube.
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  All my interviews will be there. I'm still talking doing
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  Just hit that subscribe button. Y'all be safe, take care of
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  yourselves, and as always y'all been telling this is out.
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  Peace. You're welcome, You're welcome,
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  You're welcome.