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Big Steve Prohaska - I Witnessed The Cartel Attack My Parents · Cats & Pudding with Jennifer Dilandro

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  Speaker 2: Afternoon, everyone, and welcome to this episode of Cats of Pudding.
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  Speaker 2: And today I have a great guest, Stephen Prohaska, and
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  Speaker 2: he has written this fabulous book.
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  Speaker 3: It's called a book often two millionaire. That's amazing.
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  Speaker 2: So you have majored one from an often to a
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  Speaker 2: millionaire in a generation. Basically, Yes, that's amazing. And that's
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  Speaker 2: like the American dream. And it's still still going still.
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  Speaker 3: It's still alive, yes, ma'am. That's great. Tell us a
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  Speaker 3: little bit about his stories.
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  Speaker 4: So I was born in Cali, Colombia. My family was
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  Speaker 4: gunned down in front of me in the kitchen. Uh,
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  Speaker 4: and then I ran out the kitchen and I ran
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  Speaker 4: to the closest church. Two nuns took me in, cleaned
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  Speaker 4: me up, and I was in the orphanage for about
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  Speaker 4: a little less than a year, give or take. And
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  Speaker 4: then I was adopted by two doctors from America that
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  Speaker 4: flew to Colombia adopted me, and then I came to
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  Speaker 4: the States and then.
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  Speaker 2: Zing.
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  Speaker 3: And was it the gun down because of the cartel?
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  Speaker 4: Yes, my uncle used to work for the cartel. Which
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  Speaker 4: cartel gun down my family. I couldn't tell you, yes,
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  Speaker 4: but my uncle worked for the cartel.
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  Speaker 3: So this time it was like Escobar.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, the eighties. I'm forty two. It happened with five
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  Speaker 4: or six during the eighties, was in charge the Choa family.
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  Speaker 4: A lot of the there's another there's a couple of
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  Speaker 4: serious cartos. Yeah, a lot of corruption, a lot of
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  Speaker 4: drug being moved into America. That was when the president
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  Speaker 4: at that time made certain laws and restrictions on the
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  Speaker 4: drug tead the drug trailers. Yeah, passing laws and restrictions.
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  Speaker 4: And unfortunately that was the time I was a young
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  Speaker 4: kid and my family was involved in moving drugs for
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  Speaker 4: the cartel.
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  Speaker 3: Yes, crazy and you you were there when they were.
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  Speaker 4: Yes, I was there. I don't know all the details
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  Speaker 4: I remember. I mean when you read the book. There
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  Speaker 4: are certain situations like I used to see my father
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  Speaker 4: and my uncle arguing because my father wanted us out
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  Speaker 4: of the you know, the drug business. But you know,
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  Speaker 4: we we were living poor. And you say you have
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  Speaker 4: to do whatever it takes to take care of your family.
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  Speaker 3: It happens. That's what it usually happens.
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  Speaker 2: You know, good people sometimes do good things that they
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  Speaker 2: have to take care of their family.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, it's just when you get put in that position.
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  Speaker 4: So understand, I didn't know all the details, but I
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  Speaker 4: knew they were fighting. And then, you know, the day
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  Speaker 4: before my family got killed, we packed our suitcases. I
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  Speaker 4: knew that we were going to move somewhere. I didn't
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  Speaker 4: know where.
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  Speaker 1: Uh.
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  Speaker 4: And then the following day that's when you know, trucks
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  Speaker 4: pulled up, you know, shots fired throughout the kitchen, and
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  Speaker 4: then you know, little I still have ptsdtail is day.
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  Speaker 5: Thank God, Well, you were you were saved for a reason.
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  Speaker 5: God saved you. I truly believed that. I truly believe that.
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  Speaker 5: How So, now you moved to America and.
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  Speaker 4: You were how old I was about six six and seven,
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  Speaker 4: and you just acclimated right away or so what happened
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  Speaker 4: was there was a process of being adopted. So when
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  Speaker 4: I went on the airplane for the first time with
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  Speaker 4: my new parents, it was I was kicking and screaming
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  Speaker 4: as a little boy. You know me, I'm speaking in Spanish.
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  Speaker 4: They're kidnapping me, They're taking me. I mean, I just
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  Speaker 4: lost my parents. Like I didn't believe or trusted anybody.
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  Speaker 4: Uh So when we flew, we came into I don't
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  Speaker 4: remember which airport. I went to Hartford, Connecticut from Kylie, Columbia,
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  Speaker 4: and then we drove and got into a car and
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  Speaker 4: we drove to Trumble, Connecticut. And that was my first
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  Speaker 4: that I came when I first got adopted and came
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  Speaker 4: to this country, I had my first bed, first house.
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  Speaker 4: I have my own bathroom, I had my own pillow.
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  Speaker 4: It was the world to me. Wow, you know, but
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  Speaker 4: at the same time, I didn't know. I didn't trust anybody.
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  Speaker 4: It took some time. I slept. The first pairs of
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  Speaker 4: shoes I got that my mother bought me. I had
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  Speaker 4: them on for a week because in the orphanage, kids
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  Speaker 4: steal your stuff. You don't know everything I had, I
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  Speaker 4: kept close. So she told me about six seven days
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  Speaker 4: in it's okay, and take your sniggas up. No one's
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  Speaker 4: gonna take them. So that was an anxiety for me.
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  Speaker 4: Then I had to learn how to eat properly. They
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  Speaker 4: gave me three meals a day. There was times that
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  Speaker 4: I was a little kid. I would I didn't know that,
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  Speaker 4: you know, I was getting free food that the parents
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  Speaker 4: are gonna feed me breakfast, lunch, and dinner. I would
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  Speaker 4: go run into the woods and grab bark and eat
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  Speaker 4: bark because I didn't I didn't I didn't know. I
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  Speaker 4: didn't understand meals throughout the day. Snacks you gotta go
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  Speaker 4: in refrigerator to grab food. So I had to learned.
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  Speaker 4: I had to learn how to use spoons, utensils. I
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  Speaker 4: didn't have any of that, So I learned that for
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  Speaker 4: a few years when I first came to America. Then
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  Speaker 4: I got into the school system, had to overcome certain challenges,
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  Speaker 4: learn English. I learned English. I started realizing my skin.
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  Speaker 5: Color young thank god, it's still.
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  Speaker 4: Tough, still tough. Went through the same problems that other
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  Speaker 4: kids go through, but mine was a little bit different
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  Speaker 4: because I had a language barrier. I was realizing my
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  Speaker 4: parents weren't the same skin color that I was. My
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  Speaker 4: clothes that was given to my parents. Wasn't the nicest clothes,
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  Speaker 4: but I was thankful because they were closed. Coming from
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  Speaker 4: I'm from, I didn't have clothes, so it was all
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  Speaker 4: at once. But little by little I grew. I became stronger.
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  Speaker 4: You know. I started selling candy bars, flipping candy bars.
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  Speaker 4: I was eight nine years old.
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  Speaker 5: You're an entrepreneur that I was forced to be.
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  Speaker 4: I was forced to be. It started when I was
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  Speaker 4: playing flag football. I had to sell candy bars for
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  Speaker 4: the football team to raise money for the uniforms and everything.
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  Speaker 4: And I come home with five hundred thousand dollars, you know,
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  Speaker 4: eight nine years old, and my mother took the money away. Mom,
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  Speaker 4: what are you doing my money? I earned this, my money.
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  Speaker 4: She took it away from me because she told me
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  Speaker 4: there's a correct way to make money, Okay, so she
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  Speaker 4: started guiding me the entrepreneur route.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: Well, my dopted my mom. Yes, yes, yes, And then
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  Speaker 4: that that was the beginning of the journey of the
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  Speaker 4: entrepreneurship world for me. And then that's when I got older.
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  Speaker 4: I started taking business classes. I got introduced into the
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  Speaker 4: stock market. I was fifteen uh one thousand dollars into
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  Speaker 4: McDonald's Nike investing into under Armour, Microsoft out.
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  Speaker 5: The big, the big, the big, the big blue chip.
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  Speaker 4: I mean back then they weren't big. I mean now
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  Speaker 4: everyone's got an iPhone. I invested in that thirty years ago,
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  Speaker 4: so it's different. But I made a lot of my
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  Speaker 4: money there and I was guided by my mother and father.
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  Speaker 4: And then when I graduated high school, I finished my
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  Speaker 4: college degree and I realized. I went to Southern and Hamidon, Connecticut,
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  Speaker 4: got a business management degree with minor human performance in
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  Speaker 4: business marketing. Then I started my master's degree. I stopped
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  Speaker 4: that and then I had my first son. So I
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  Speaker 4: was learning myself as a young man, being a new father.
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  Speaker 4: And then I jumped into the entrepreneurship world. I got
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  Speaker 4: into the nightclub business. Bought my first nightclub. I was
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  Speaker 4: twenty five twenty six in Danbury, Connecticut. Then I built
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  Speaker 4: another nightclub and then had a couple of associates and
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  Speaker 4: not listened to me what to do. Ended up in
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  Speaker 4: federal prison. And then I retired for a little bit,
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  Speaker 4: and then I got into the trucking game. Got a
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  Speaker 4: box truck, worked with my best friend. Then I bought
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  Speaker 4: eighteen wheelers and then I got into a TV show
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  Speaker 4: and podcast industry filmed my pilot Single Fathers, which I'm
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  Speaker 4: currently trying to get on air. I got a podcast,
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  Speaker 4: Parental Vision. Shout out to my team in Tiana Caprice,
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  Speaker 4: my host, and.
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  Speaker 6: You said, you have the parents on Single Parents on
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  Speaker 6: the podcast.
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  Speaker 4: So the podcast Parental Vision is parents for It's a
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  Speaker 4: podcast for parents where parents can share their stories so
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  Speaker 4: other parents can learn and be better parents for their kids.
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  Speaker 4: Because what I realized with my kids is they're gonna
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  Speaker 4: have experiences with other kids, and those experiences really stem
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  Speaker 4: from the parents in the home.
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  Speaker 5: That's true.
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  Speaker 4: So I'm trying to educate everyone as far as the parents.
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  Speaker 4: You know, it's okay to be, you know, a great parent.
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  Speaker 4: That's cool. Back in the day, how one parent was
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  Speaker 4: doing one thing, another parent and another thing, people really
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  Speaker 4: didn't talk about it. Now there's programs out there, there's
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  Speaker 4: groups out there. But I just want the world to
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  Speaker 4: know that there's a platform for parents to talk about
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  Speaker 4: certain things. I can learn from you being a mother,
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  Speaker 4: this young gentleman, how he is as a father. I
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  Speaker 4: can learn certain things that I can apply for my kids.
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  Speaker 6: So I mean, you know, I think parents need more support.
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  Speaker 6: I think that and you know that that that we
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  Speaker 6: don't get, you know, as far as and it's difficult
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  Speaker 6: these days because two parents have to work. You know,
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  Speaker 6: mom can't stay home and raise the kids anymore. You know,
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  Speaker 6: that's the situation that I got that I was in.
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  Speaker 6: I mean, I was forced into the situation, you know.
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  Speaker 6: And but you know I had a husband who went
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  Speaker 6: to went to federal prison, not once, but twice. You know,
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  Speaker 6: almost I lost everything, basically bank almost bankrupt, almost lost
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  Speaker 6: my I had to go bankrupt, lost my house almost.
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  Speaker 5: Thank god, race to the God. I did it. I
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  Speaker 5: just you know, had to pick myself up. Thank God.
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  Speaker 6: I had a good career and I was able to
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  Speaker 6: stem off from that. I have my MASS, two Masters
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  Speaker 6: at my MBA. I'm a nurse practitioner now my PhD.
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  Speaker 6: Well my doctor right now. I went through twenty years
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  Speaker 6: of schooling. I have a lot of school But I've
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  Speaker 6: always feel that education is important because that's one thing
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  Speaker 6: that people cannot take away from you, to take everything
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  Speaker 6: from you, but they cannot take away with what's in.
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  Speaker 4: Here that's right.
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  Speaker 5: And you know, and I don't always.
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  Speaker 6: Agree with every every every career needs a college education.
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  Speaker 5: I don't believe in that.
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  Speaker 6: I think, as you're an entrepreneur, if you have a
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  Speaker 6: business mind, you have a business mind.
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  Speaker 4: You can't be that's right, business that you don't.
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  Speaker 5: That's it.
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  Speaker 6: So you don't have to go to business school. It
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  Speaker 6: is good if you need it for certain things. Maybe
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  Speaker 6: you know, if you're working on the stock market or
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  Speaker 6: you work in something like that, you can see that.
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  Speaker 6: But otherwise there's certain certain things you don't need to
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  Speaker 6: go to college learn on your own, and you need
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  Speaker 6: to have it or you don't.
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  Speaker 5: You need to have a business mind.
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  Speaker 4: Not I learned that from me. I learned that while
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  Speaker 4: I was going to college, and then when I left school.
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  Speaker 4: I'm not against college like you said, but I do
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  Speaker 4: believe in education, and I believe just because you have
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  Speaker 4: an education doesn't mean you're intelligent.
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  Speaker 6: No, there's a lot of edu idiots in this world, yes,
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  Speaker 6: and a lot of people who go and waste a
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  Speaker 6: lot of time and money in school.
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  Speaker 5: That's where the college is.
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  Speaker 6: In the last twenty over twenty five years, they've made
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  Speaker 6: it so important for everybody to go to college, and
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  Speaker 6: they put everybody in debt.
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  Speaker 5: It was done by design. It was done by design,
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  Speaker 5: and you know, who's rich.
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  Speaker 6: The colleges are rich, that's right, and everybody else is broke,
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  Speaker 6: and then everybody wants their college education paid back. I'm like, dude,
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  Speaker 6: I'm not paying back your college education because you decided
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  Speaker 6: to take underwater basket weaving true woman studies in Southeast
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  Speaker 6: Asia when you live in the United States.
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  Speaker 5: I'm sorry, I am sorry.
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  Speaker 6: I'm not being an idiot, but I'm not. I'm just like,
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  Speaker 6: you chose that path, then you should pay for it.
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  Speaker 6: I'm not going to pay for your stupidity.
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  Speaker 5: That's see.
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  Speaker 4: I believe that you have to find that throughout your
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  Speaker 4: own way and then you'll learn about that. When in
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  Speaker 4: my book From Orphan to Millionaire that the different stages
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  Speaker 4: I went through mentally. Oh, I got pushed, you know,
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  Speaker 4: from my parents because they have PhDs doctors. But that
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  Speaker 4: was good for the pushing. But I found my own way. Dad,
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  Speaker 4: I'm not this is this is so my father they're
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  Speaker 4: both college professors. So my mother had three PhDs mathematics, psychology.
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  Speaker 6: Well that you have to have education to be a
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  Speaker 6: to be a yeah, or profession education.
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  Speaker 4: So they pushed education and research, which is good on me.
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  Speaker 4: But school wasn't just a fit for me. And I
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  Speaker 4: did the school thing. I did the corporate it was
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  Speaker 4: a fortune five hundred. I worked at Sherwin Williams for
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  Speaker 4: a couple of years. Myself. It wasn't for me. I
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  Speaker 4: made everyone else above me money. And when I understood
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  Speaker 4: the structure of the hierarchy of the corporate world, I
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  Speaker 4: was like, no, this is not for me. I'm gonna
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  Speaker 4: work hard.
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  Speaker 5: That's why I stopped working.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm not gonna make you more money.
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  Speaker 5: I'm gonna.
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  Speaker 6: And I said, why am I making new money and
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  Speaker 6: they're not giving me when I'm helping you bring everybody
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  Speaker 6: into all the doctors in to do surgery and the
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  Speaker 6: surgery center because they liked me.
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  Speaker 5: Then where where?
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  Speaker 4: Why?
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  Speaker 5: And why not getting I said, well, I'm just gonna
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  Speaker 5: I'm out. See that's unfortunately, and that's what happened.
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  Speaker 6: And I was making a good set, I was making
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  Speaker 6: a big salary, and you know, but the hospitals have
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  Speaker 6: become all corporate now, and that's what happened. We were
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  Speaker 6: I was director of nursing in a surge of center.
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  Speaker 6: I also worked at the hospital too, And I said,
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  Speaker 6: you know what, I said, I how am I building
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  Speaker 6: your business? I should be building my own and and
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  Speaker 6: that's what happened. And that's why I said, let me
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  Speaker 6: take the chance, and I started my own business.
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  Speaker 5: And now I have four.
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  Speaker 6: Now, yeah, I got four going on five. Yeah, because
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  Speaker 6: I can't even believe I did it. I'd sit back
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  Speaker 6: and think like, how the hell did I get here?
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  Speaker 5: But I did it.
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  Speaker 1: No.
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  Speaker 4: I did the same thing when I got out of
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  Speaker 4: the when I finished college, I found it wasn't for me,
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  Speaker 4: started landscaping business, started working the nightclubs, great money, you
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  Speaker 4: know I did. I had to sell my uh certain
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  Speaker 4: contracts because I had a partner that was an alcoholic,
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  Speaker 4: already drunk at six in the morning. This isn't for me.
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  Speaker 4: I'm not gonna be able to make a lot of
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  Speaker 4: money with this guy.
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  Speaker 6: What do you feel about that? You're a businessman, You
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  Speaker 6: would you rather be independent?
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  Speaker 4: And it's hard hard. I've had three partners in my
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  Speaker 4: life and that's over a half a million dollars with
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  Speaker 4: each partner. What I look at now is characteristics of
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  Speaker 4: an individual. Because on paper, we can take care of
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  Speaker 4: certain business things. There'll be a higherarchy instruction on certain things.
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  Speaker 4: But your characteristic of how you're going to handle things
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  Speaker 4: is what's not on paper. So for example, when I
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  Speaker 4: was a partner in my nightclub, we were on paper,
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  Speaker 4: you know, it was a forty nine to fifty one percent,
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  Speaker 4: But I was the face of the nightclub. My partner wasn't.
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  Speaker 4: There were certain rules and regulations that we had behind
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  Speaker 4: the scenes. For example, if we got into a disagreement,
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  Speaker 4: there was a we have a verbal warning. The second
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  Speaker 4: thing would be a written warning to each one of us.
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  Speaker 4: Then the third one would be going home with pay
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  Speaker 4: out of being his partner for eight seven eight years,
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  Speaker 4: I got sent home maybe once. So what happened was
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  Speaker 4: is that he understood my characteristics and then my my
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  Speaker 4: likes and dislikes, because that stems over what I do
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  Speaker 4: on my off time affects my business.
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  Speaker 5: Absolutely.
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  Speaker 4: People don't understand that. That's why you see some of
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  Speaker 4: the top football actors if they get in trouble off
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  Speaker 4: the screen or off the field, they're gonna lose endorsements,
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  Speaker 4: They're gonna lose money.
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  Speaker 5: So I always so I was.
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  Speaker 4: Groomed to make sure I was always clean in that aspect.
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  Speaker 4: I'm trying to be as professional as possible. Uh. And
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  Speaker 4: As to answer the question, is business as I get older,
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  Speaker 4: I now look more deeply into that. For example, if
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  Speaker 4: a man or woman approaches me on certain businesses, I
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  Speaker 4: mean I'm offered businesses left and right. I have money
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  Speaker 4: in different businesses. I just can't give my time. I'm
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  Speaker 4: not a partner. I'm an investor.
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  Speaker 6: Uh.
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  Speaker 4: If I'm working on a project, it's typically mine because
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  Speaker 4: I'm putting my own time and I can't get that back.
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  Speaker 4: I look into pure.
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  Speaker 5: The problem is that the time people don't understand how
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  Speaker 5: val As you.
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  Speaker 4: Get more money and as you increase your business, you
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  Speaker 4: will of course you know that woe for being no.
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  Speaker 5: No, no, that's okay, that was their time today. That's
• 16:02
  Speaker 5: not whine.
• 16:04
  Speaker 4: But I still apologize.
• 16:05
  Speaker 5: This is my fun, this is my fun time something
• 16:08
  Speaker 5: that it's.
• 16:09
  Speaker 4: Still valuable to everybody.
• 16:10
  Speaker 5: It is.
• 16:11
  Speaker 4: But I learned as I get older, I can't give
• 16:13
  Speaker 4: my time out. So what I do is I schedule myself.
• 16:17
  Speaker 4: I try to do it very strictly, and where I can,
• 16:19
  Speaker 4: you know, pay someone to do something, I let them
• 16:21
  Speaker 4: do that and I give to the time for my kids.
• 16:24
  Speaker 6: Hard to let go of that, though, because was there
• 16:26
  Speaker 6: had let go delegating to other.
• 16:29
  Speaker 4: Things, not only delegating that's hard to understand.
• 16:34
  Speaker 5: You control freak.
• 16:35
  Speaker 4: Sometimes a Microman is sometimes saying, oh, I'm always a Capricorn.
• 16:43
  Speaker 4: So the thing is is that when you get at
• 16:45
  Speaker 4: certain levels, you can't do everything. Trump then build everything himself,
• 16:50
  Speaker 4: and he.
• 16:50
  Speaker 5: Had other people.
• 16:51
  Speaker 6: Of course, you can't build it all, but your it's
• 16:54
  Speaker 6: your idea.
• 16:54
  Speaker 5: That's where I think.
• 16:55
  Speaker 6: Sometimes it's for people to let go of it and
• 16:57
  Speaker 6: delegate because you're always afraid.
• 16:59
  Speaker 4: It's hard because it's your baby.
• 17:00
  Speaker 6: Yes exactly, it's your child, like you're raising it to
• 17:04
  Speaker 6: grow up, and you know you don't want to just
• 17:05
  Speaker 6: let it go out there.
• 17:06
  Speaker 5: I want it to own with somebody else's right, and
• 17:09
  Speaker 5: then they get it into drugs. They do.
• 17:11
  Speaker 6: You know, it's just like a metaphor, but it's true,
• 17:14
  Speaker 6: Like it's like your you.
• 17:16
  Speaker 5: It's hard to let go.
• 17:17
  Speaker 6: It was hard for me to let go where I
• 17:18
  Speaker 6: had to bring other people into my practice.
• 17:21
  Speaker 4: To work, to work for me, for me to be honest.
• 17:24
  Speaker 5: I have them.
• 17:24
  Speaker 4: Now for me it's a little bit easier because I
• 17:27
  Speaker 4: keep the same people around me. What I'm now doing
• 17:30
  Speaker 4: is I'm subbing out or out get in contact with
• 17:33
  Speaker 4: a certain professional. When I wrote the book from orphan
• 17:36
  Speaker 4: a millionaire. I surrounded myself with certain authors, certain people
• 17:40
  Speaker 4: that have done certain projects. When I filmed my pilot,
• 17:43
  Speaker 4: I hired a production crew that did movies before I
• 17:47
  Speaker 4: educated myself on certain contracts. I reached out to certain
• 17:50
  Speaker 4: connections that were in the field. So I'm educating myself
• 17:54
  Speaker 4: and I'm putting up my own money for these projects,
• 17:56
  Speaker 4: and now I'm just guiding it to where it needs
• 17:59
  Speaker 4: to be. You're sounding like me, We're similar, We're similar.
• 18:04
  Speaker 4: You know, that's maybe the business mind, you know, you.
• 18:06
  Speaker 6: Know, people don't understand how that a lot of people
• 18:09
  Speaker 6: don't have a bit, They don't have a business mind.
• 18:11
  Speaker 5: They think they do, but they don't.
• 18:13
  Speaker 4: You know, when it hits you in your face, hit
• 18:14
  Speaker 4: you in the face, you get that built. Oh so
• 18:17
  Speaker 4: who wants to be in charge you? Who's in charge you?
• 18:20
  Speaker 4: People don't realize, oh yeah, you got the money. I'm
• 18:23
  Speaker 4: the last person to get paid to remember that.
• 18:25
  Speaker 5: People don't understand capitalism.
• 18:26
  Speaker 6: They think they're just because And it's so funny when
• 18:28
  Speaker 6: people come and work for you, they're like it's so
• 18:30
  Speaker 6: hysterical that they're.
• 18:31
  Speaker 5: Like, oh, well I helped you. No, no, you didn't.
• 18:33
  Speaker 5: I'm I'm my business. No I am.
• 18:35
  Speaker 6: Yes, you work for me, Yes, people like your services,
• 18:38
  Speaker 6: but I am the business.
• 18:39
  Speaker 5: I'm the mastermind. Took the risk.
• 18:43
  Speaker 6: I hired everybody. And this is why I love that you.
• 18:46
  Speaker 6: I mean and I And I'm gonna have to call
• 18:47
  Speaker 6: Donald on this. I'm sorry, but and I'm going to
• 18:50
  Speaker 6: show where I agree with him. And you know, companies
• 18:53
  Speaker 6: should get tax breaks because they give people your jobs,
• 18:56
  Speaker 6: they have the ideas, they take risks. How you're not
• 18:59
  Speaker 6: going to have jobs they create for me too? How
• 19:03
  Speaker 6: do you not not run an economy that way you wanted?
• 19:05
  Speaker 5: Too?
• 19:06
  Speaker 4: Crazy? Is I had a situation so I owned a
• 19:08
  Speaker 4: trucking company. I had about six eighteen wheelers, and I
• 19:12
  Speaker 4: would pay my drivers the most money I could pay.
• 19:15
  Speaker 4: Now I'm getting hacked from the state for paying X
• 19:19
  Speaker 4: amount of dollars which I was fighting for my drivers.
• 19:22
  Speaker 4: I'm fighting for my drivers to get money. Now they're
• 19:24
  Speaker 4: busting my chops. I'm thinking they don't understand this, But
• 19:28
  Speaker 4: see now I don't. I don't say anything because they're
• 19:30
  Speaker 4: not the ones owning their trucks. They're working for Oh Steve,
• 19:33
  Speaker 4: I'm gonna work for someone else, So go work for
• 19:35
  Speaker 4: somebody else, and I had a I'm not gonna say who,
• 19:38
  Speaker 4: someone that used to work for me that said, Steve,
• 19:40
  Speaker 4: time is money. I go, it's funny. I know I'm
• 19:43
  Speaker 4: the one.
• 19:43
  Speaker 5: Paying you exactly.
• 19:44
  Speaker 4: You don't think I don't know that really, But it's okay,
• 19:48
  Speaker 4: that's all right.
• 19:49
  Speaker 5: You know what.
• 19:50
  Speaker 6: You know what I in fifteen years being a business, I.
• 19:54
  Speaker 5: I know this.
• 19:55
  Speaker 6: People people overstep a little bit. They get a little
• 19:58
  Speaker 6: too comfortable with you.
• 20:01
  Speaker 5: You know, I.
• 20:03
  Speaker 6: Have everybody. I have a lot of people that work
• 20:05
  Speaker 6: for me that are friends and my family. Obviously my
• 20:09
  Speaker 6: children work for me. Listen, it's very hard to navigate
• 20:14
  Speaker 6: because certain people have working for me. They know when
• 20:17
  Speaker 6: I am in my office, when that door, when I
• 20:19
  Speaker 6: come through that door, I'm your boss.
• 20:20
  Speaker 5: I'm not your friends.
• 20:21
  Speaker 4: I get it.
• 20:22
  Speaker 5: That's it.
• 20:23
  Speaker 4: How does that with the kids, because I'm starting that
• 20:25
  Speaker 4: with my oldest son.
• 20:26
  Speaker 6: My older daughter gets offended when I say something to her,
• 20:29
  Speaker 6: but she's starting.
• 20:30
  Speaker 5: Not to understand that this is business. And I'm at
• 20:33
  Speaker 5: your mother.
• 20:33
  Speaker 6: When I walk through here, I'm your employee, and I
• 20:35
  Speaker 6: expect more from you because you are my daughter.
• 20:38
  Speaker 4: Exactly, I expect.
• 20:39
  Speaker 6: You to even do better like I even have to
• 20:42
  Speaker 6: tell you that, like you get my kids like in
• 20:44
  Speaker 6: my employees.
• 20:45
  Speaker 5: See if my kids get chastised more than they do.
• 20:47
  Speaker 4: And that's why I'm very hard on my kids.
• 20:49
  Speaker 5: Are you kidding me? Like what are you doing? Like
• 20:52
  Speaker 5: you should know this. I shouldn't have to tell you.
• 20:54
  Speaker 5: And it's true. I'm horter on them than anybody else.
• 20:57
  Speaker 4: My oldest son just did an internship at my podcast, Parental.
• 21:01
  Speaker 5: Vision, and than anybody else too.
• 21:04
  Speaker 4: They're very successful.
• 21:05
  Speaker 5: That's why they're successful.
• 21:06
  Speaker 4: So it's you got to give and take. But I
• 21:09
  Speaker 4: ask about you and your child on that because I'm
• 21:12
  Speaker 4: now in the realm of doing that with my oldest.
• 21:13
  Speaker 4: My oldest is sixteen. He'll be seventeen next month. So
• 21:18
  Speaker 4: now now he's getting all dat out, he's gonna finish
• 21:20
  Speaker 4: school early because he's doing great. He's beating all the
• 21:23
  Speaker 4: other kids. He'll finish six months ahead of all the
• 21:25
  Speaker 4: other kids.
• 21:26
  Speaker 5: Does he want to go to college, No, we're not.
• 21:27
  Speaker 4: Going to college. I'm gonna give I want him to
• 21:29
  Speaker 4: get some bs job and then he's gonna come work
• 21:32
  Speaker 4: for me. Then we're gonna build up. To be honest
• 21:35
  Speaker 4: with you, when he turns seventeen, the goals. He's gonna
• 21:37
  Speaker 4: have his first multi family. I'm gonna help him get
• 21:39
  Speaker 4: his first multi family. He's gonna take care of the paperwork,
• 21:42
  Speaker 4: he's gonna take care of the property, he's gonna line
• 21:44
  Speaker 4: things up.
• 21:44
  Speaker 5: So is that what your main business is? That what
• 21:46
  Speaker 5: your main business is now is real?
• 21:47
  Speaker 4: No, I'm actually it's not my main business. But I'm
• 21:49
  Speaker 4: actually in the process of closing my first apartment building.
• 21:53
  Speaker 4: But I make a lot of money on the stock market.
• 21:55
  Speaker 4: To be honest with you, I got all these projects,
• 21:58
  Speaker 4: you know, but I'm taking honey out and doing projects.
• 22:01
  Speaker 4: And then I got this project TV show trying to do.
• 22:03
  Speaker 4: I got the book out. I want to do a movie.
• 22:06
  Speaker 4: I was already in a movie. I'm working on a
• 22:09
  Speaker 4: target too.
• 22:10
  Speaker 5: It's thing that I want to do is get into acting.
• 22:13
  Speaker 5: I want to be an actor at fifty four years old.
• 22:15
  Speaker 6: Gods, I know I can't, but that's what I always loved.
• 22:18
  Speaker 6: I always loved love that and production and you know.
• 22:21
  Speaker 4: Looks pretty cool too.
• 22:22
  Speaker 5: It looks cool.
• 22:24
  Speaker 6: I want to do it now where I could enjoy
• 22:26
  Speaker 6: it now. It's not like I'm doing it because I
• 22:29
  Speaker 6: want to. I think I'm going to get an Oscar.
• 22:31
  Speaker 6: You know what I mean, Yeah, because I enjoy it.
• 22:33
  Speaker 6: I like, I am creative. I do like to write,
• 22:36
  Speaker 6: I do have great ideas.
• 22:37
  Speaker 5: I am. I am an artist. What I do. I'm
• 22:39
  Speaker 5: gonna I do both tax and fills and it sounds funny,
• 22:42
  Speaker 5: but I have to be an artist to do it.
• 22:44
  Speaker 6: So I have I have a I have a minor
• 22:46
  Speaker 6: in in in and fashion design. So I also am
• 22:50
  Speaker 6: very I'm very creative.
• 22:52
  Speaker 5: Like as far as you gotta let me know how
• 22:54
  Speaker 5: do I look?
• 22:54
  Speaker 4: Because I need your tips.
• 22:55
  Speaker 5: Look, I think you look amazing.
• 22:57
  Speaker 6: I think you look very suave, tony soprano thing. I
• 23:03
  Speaker 6: love it, you know, I listen, that's from my neck
• 23:05
  Speaker 6: of the woods. But yeah, I mean, you know, I'm
• 23:08
  Speaker 6: very creative too, So I I think that I have
• 23:10
  Speaker 6: to do that. And once I start feeling like I'm
• 23:13
  Speaker 6: not being creative anymore, like not that I don't love
• 23:15
  Speaker 6: what I do. Still I do, but now I'm starting
• 23:17
  Speaker 6: to get bored.
• 23:18
  Speaker 4: I get it.
• 23:19
  Speaker 5: I'm like, now I'm going to move to something else.
• 23:21
  Speaker 4: Now, let me ask you a question. How do you
• 23:23
  Speaker 4: prioritize certain projects in your life?
• 23:27
  Speaker 5: Well, I have to.
• 23:28
  Speaker 6: I have to my money and it's got to be
• 23:31
  Speaker 6: the priority. So business has to be priority. I mean,
• 23:33
  Speaker 6: obviously my children are number one, but my business has
• 23:35
  Speaker 6: to because that's how the children A world go a
• 23:38
  Speaker 6: mixed the wheels turn right. I have to that's the
• 23:41
  Speaker 6: most important. If that that stops, If that stops, everything stops.
• 23:45
  Speaker 4: And I asked that because I go through that as
• 23:47
  Speaker 4: well when my kids doing book I do book signings
• 23:50
  Speaker 4: now in Connecticut Barnes and Noble. You can get my
• 23:53
  Speaker 4: book from Orphan to Millionaire Barnes and Noble right here,
• 23:57
  Speaker 4: Barnes and Noble, walmart ingram Sparks. Yeah, that's my immunization
• 24:04
  Speaker 4: paperwork right there. But the reason why I asked because
• 24:08
  Speaker 4: I'm getting booked out for book signings and I'm now
• 24:11
  Speaker 4: doing speeches and motivational speaking, uh, to help motivate you know,
• 24:16
  Speaker 4: high school students, colleges. I would like to get into
• 24:19
  Speaker 4: the corporate speaking as well to motivate the workers. And
• 24:24
  Speaker 4: uh we go from there with you know, the sky's
• 24:26
  Speaker 4: the limit and I'm going after every dream, checking in
• 24:28
  Speaker 4: one by one and that's your.
• 24:30
  Speaker 5: Next that's the next check, next little bit.
• 24:32
  Speaker 4: But the real big one, to be honest with you,
• 24:34
  Speaker 4: is I really want to get my TV show in there,
• 24:37
  Speaker 4: the single Fathers that I have a pilot pitch deeck
• 24:40
  Speaker 4: whole portfolio. U. The teaser did quite well, Uh, got
• 24:45
  Speaker 4: good stats on that. But I want to get that
• 24:48
  Speaker 4: out there in the publics of the public and see
• 24:50
  Speaker 4: parenting from the father's perspective.
• 24:53
  Speaker 5: I think that's that's a great perspective. It's always from
• 24:56
  Speaker 5: the mother's perspective.
• 24:57
  Speaker 4: It is. It's not knocking the mother's mother do a
• 25:00
  Speaker 4: great job, but we do father Yes, we do. There's
• 25:03
  Speaker 4: fathers out there that do a great job as well
• 25:05
  Speaker 4: and not so great. I want to show all that
• 25:10
  Speaker 4: I'm working on it. I'm working on it well.
• 25:12
  Speaker 5: So as long as you show both sides, because they're
• 25:14
  Speaker 5: all great. But there's also a lot of shitty.
• 25:16
  Speaker 4: Of course, of course, of course, and.
• 25:18
  Speaker 6: I'm not saying that to be its sexist or being.
• 25:21
  Speaker 4: Oh that's just the facts.
• 25:22
  Speaker 6: But then there's a lot of shitty mothers out there too.
• 25:24
  Speaker 6: Oh yeah, I'm not going to say that.
• 25:26
  Speaker 5: There's not we.
• 25:26
  Speaker 4: Won't talk about that, But we won't talk about that.
• 25:29
  Speaker 6: I don't know, listen, anybody, I cannot when I see
• 25:32
  Speaker 6: women who don't prioritize their kids first that really bothers me.
• 25:35
  Speaker 5: I don't know how that they can't. You have to
• 25:37
  Speaker 5: prioritize them.
• 25:38
  Speaker 4: My kids are first.
• 25:39
  Speaker 5: My kids are number.
• 25:40
  Speaker 6: One, and like I said, my business is up there
• 25:42
  Speaker 6: because that's the that's how I keep the wheels turning.
• 25:46
  Speaker 5: I have to because that helps.
• 25:48
  Speaker 4: So let me ask you a question based off of that.
• 25:50
  Speaker 4: Do you spoil your kids more? Or do you teach
• 25:53
  Speaker 4: and groom them?
• 25:55
  Speaker 5: I don't know what do you think? Do you think guys? Well,
• 26:00
  Speaker 5: I think I.
• 26:01
  Speaker 6: Spoil them to a point, but no, I don't think
• 26:06
  Speaker 6: but they're respectful.
• 26:07
  Speaker 5: They're very respectful.
• 26:08
  Speaker 6: My children, My children, my children or educated, they went
• 26:12
  Speaker 6: to school.
• 26:13
  Speaker 5: They don't do drugs, they don't drink, they're not they're
• 26:16
  Speaker 5: not they're.
• 26:17
  Speaker 4: Not doing stupid, stupid shit.
• 26:19
  Speaker 6: So you know, I have to say that they're responsible,
• 26:22
  Speaker 6: you know, respectful for the most part. Sometimes they get
• 26:25
  Speaker 6: out of line, but they're girls.
• 26:26
  Speaker 4: The reason why I asked that is because you're so
• 26:28
  Speaker 4: successful on that. I go through that with my kids.
• 26:31
  Speaker 4: I spoil my kids like crazy, but I expect a
• 26:33
  Speaker 4: lot from my kids.
• 26:33
  Speaker 6: I think I spoiled them because of what they went
• 26:35
  Speaker 6: through because I felt like I didn't I wasn't able
• 26:40
  Speaker 6: to give them my time because I had to work.
• 26:42
  Speaker 6: I understand, and I think that in a way, my
• 26:45
  Speaker 6: youngest one kind of resents me for the fact that
• 26:47
  Speaker 6: I wasn't there with her like that I wasn't home
• 26:50
  Speaker 6: doing the whole pta and hanging out with their mothers
• 26:53
  Speaker 6: from school. By the way, I didn't want to hang
• 26:54
  Speaker 6: out with any of the mothers from school because they're
• 26:56
  Speaker 6: all I didn't want to get it.
• 26:58
  Speaker 5: Just drop your kidd off. Why do you have to
• 26:59
  Speaker 5: come in my house and hang out with me too.
• 27:01
  Speaker 5: I don't want to hang out.
• 27:01
  Speaker 4: With you out.
• 27:04
  Speaker 5: I don't. I don't.
• 27:05
  Speaker 6: I have nothing in common with these women. I don't
• 27:08
  Speaker 6: want to. I am not a stay at home mom.
• 27:09
  Speaker 5: I work. I mean I had my I had one.
• 27:11
  Speaker 6: Of these mothers walk up to my daughter one day
• 27:14
  Speaker 6: and ask her, why do you have a nanny?
• 27:15
  Speaker 5: Oh, because because because my health I want. That's why
• 27:20
  Speaker 5: I have a nanny. That's why.
• 27:21
  Speaker 6: Because I work, I don't stay at home and and
• 27:24
  Speaker 6: my husband takes care of me.
• 27:25
  Speaker 5: I don't think twenty dollars.
• 27:27
  Speaker 4: I don't feel bad because I don't cut my own
• 27:28
  Speaker 4: grass on my house.
• 27:29
  Speaker 6: Staying home and being a mother is the hardest job
• 27:33
  Speaker 6: in the world. I did it if it's I stayed
• 27:34
  Speaker 6: at home for the first ten years of my daughter's life.
• 27:37
  Speaker 5: I work part time, and let me tell you, I
• 27:39
  Speaker 5: am such.
• 27:40
  Speaker 6: A better mommy when I'm at work because then I
• 27:42
  Speaker 6: become mommy dearest when I'm home, like I said, wengers, Yeah.
• 27:46
  Speaker 4: I asked, because I'm going through that myself and my
• 27:50
  Speaker 4: kids on that. I'm now my oldest son, he'll be seventeen.
• 27:53
  Speaker 4: Like I said, I'm starting to groom him in certain
• 27:56
  Speaker 4: fields that he wants to pursue. So I'm doing the
• 27:59
  Speaker 4: same thing that my mother and father did for me.
• 28:01
  Speaker 4: All they did was they found what I was good at,
• 28:04
  Speaker 4: being an entrepreneur, and they just fed it.
• 28:06
  Speaker 5: Well, that's what I'm trying to do that.
• 28:08
  Speaker 4: That's why I asked you.
• 28:09
  Speaker 5: I'm trying to do that with a nineteen year old.
• 28:11
  Speaker 6: But I think that because when they unless they really know,
• 28:14
  Speaker 6: some kids just.
• 28:15
  Speaker 5: Know what they want to do. They do know, and
• 28:17
  Speaker 5: then you just support them, right, and then some of
• 28:19
  Speaker 5: the kids they really don't. They don't got to.
• 28:21
  Speaker 4: Find themselves and they got to find that.
• 28:23
  Speaker 5: I'm not sending you to a four year college.
• 28:25
  Speaker 6: That question one hundred thousand a year to go find
• 28:27
  Speaker 6: yourself and be a pund I'm not doing that.
• 28:30
  Speaker 4: I agree with you.
• 28:30
  Speaker 5: That's not happening. Like, dude, I am not doing Get.
• 28:33
  Speaker 4: A job, learn about yourself, learn the world.
• 28:35
  Speaker 6: Community college, and go play like listen. The first year
• 28:37
  Speaker 6: of my first time I went to college, went to
• 28:39
  Speaker 6: barok I got a full ride of Brooke. Guess guess
• 28:41
  Speaker 6: what my GPA was and guess what happened. I still
• 28:43
  Speaker 6: I still got my degree though it was two point
• 28:48
  Speaker 6: I just made it through from academic through five.
• 28:51
  Speaker 5: I made it through okay, and I got a full ride.
• 28:54
  Speaker 6: And then the next the next time I went back
• 28:55
  Speaker 6: to school, I went through well.
• 28:57
  Speaker 5: The first year actually, I sat and played cards for
• 28:59
  Speaker 5: the first year. That's what I did.
• 29:00
  Speaker 4: You're learning the ropes. You're free, You're free, You're trying
• 29:03
  Speaker 4: to find yourself, and then the next go around you.
• 29:06
  Speaker 6: But if my parents had to pay for that and
• 29:08
  Speaker 6: I was down there, you know that would never flow ever.
• 29:13
  Speaker 6: And I tell my daughter that too, my youngest one.
• 29:15
  Speaker 6: I'm like, dude, I don't care. I understand to go.
• 29:20
  Speaker 6: I said, college is is a privilege, not you don't
• 29:24
  Speaker 6: have to go to college. That's right, you know, and
• 29:27
  Speaker 6: you need to go. If you're going to go, you're
• 29:29
  Speaker 6: not going just to school around just because you want
• 29:31
  Speaker 6: four years of just the trip off to find yourself.
• 29:34
  Speaker 4: That's right.
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  Speaker 5: Go find your way. You go get a job and
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  Speaker 5: go work.
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  Speaker 4: Guess it's funny you say that I learned more in
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  Speaker 4: the business world just you know, working in a fortune
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  Speaker 4: five hundred company Sherwyn Williams, owning my landscaping business and
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  Speaker 4: a bounce at a nightclub. Uh, and then owning my
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  Speaker 4: own nightclub, and then promoting and marking my own nightclub.
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  Speaker 4: You know, I learned a lot just all the authors
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  Speaker 4: writing this book. I had to go through whole process
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  Speaker 4: with my team. I didn't realize that royalties and all
• 30:03
  Speaker 4: the people don't realize things. There's things behind the scenes,
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  Speaker 4: Attorneys on royalties, which companies, who's representing you? You know
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  Speaker 4: what I mean, How you're gonna market it, who's gonna
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  Speaker 4: who's gonna sell your book, who's gonna do a whole
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  Speaker 4: bunch of things.
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  Speaker 5: To do anything anything new is hard, But you did
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  Speaker 5: it right.
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  Speaker 4: I did it. I'm blessed. I'm blessed because to be honest,
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  Speaker 4: to be honest with you, I wanted to write this
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  Speaker 4: book because I wanted to inspire others through telling my story.
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  Speaker 6: And that's a true American dream story. So American dreams
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  Speaker 6: could still come true, and maybe people couldn't have that
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  Speaker 6: again these days, maybe.
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  Speaker 5: We'll be able to well.
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  Speaker 4: I just like I said, I just want to inspire
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  Speaker 4: anyone that's having a difficult time other that's work, raising
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  Speaker 4: your kid, your job, you're feeling down, you're about to
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  Speaker 4: lose your house, you can still make it. Listen. I
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  Speaker 4: had no food, I had no place to live. I listen,
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  Speaker 4: my family got killed in front of me. You can't
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  Speaker 4: tell me anything. To be honest with you, I'm not
• 30:56
  Speaker 4: trying to be cockas are you not telling me anything?
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  Speaker 6: Parents both died. I was an often. I was an
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  Speaker 6: orphan by the time I was six seventeen years old.
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  Speaker 6: I had had Yeah. My husband went to jail for
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  Speaker 6: ten for ten years of my marriage.
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  Speaker 5: I lost almost lost my life.
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  Speaker 6: I almost lost my Like I said, I almost lost
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  Speaker 6: my house, I almost everything. I almost lost my life
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  Speaker 6: because I didn't know what to do. I didn't know
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  Speaker 6: if if my kids were better without That made.
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  Speaker 4: You strong, And I'll tell you right now, you're a monster.
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  Speaker 4: In the business world because you have to be you.
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  Speaker 5: Have to be. It's so true, you have to be
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  Speaker 5: a monster.
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  Speaker 6: But now I want to kind of I want I
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  Speaker 6: wanted to kind of now start going off and.
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  Speaker 4: See that made you to who you are, to be
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  Speaker 4: able to be successful in those you know ventures.
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  Speaker 5: The hard times helped you be successful.
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  Speaker 3: Right.
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  Speaker 5: If we got coddles, we might not be here right now. Right.
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  Speaker 4: That's that's why I asked you about.
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  Speaker 5: Pushing the broom and talk listen.
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  Speaker 4: I don't mind anyone pushing the broom. Just you know,
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  Speaker 4: shoot for the stars, that's.
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  Speaker 5: What I'm saying.
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  Speaker 6: Yeah, I don't mean to say it like that. I'm
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  Speaker 6: saying you you should strive it. If you're going to work,
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  Speaker 6: be your back work and and take pride in what
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  Speaker 6: you do. Amen, no matter what it is, take pride
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  Speaker 6: in it.
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  Speaker 4: Everything you do.
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  Speaker 5: You need to take pride in it.
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  Speaker 6: Because you don't, it's never gonna it's never gonna pass,
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  Speaker 6: and you're never gonna go past your dream. So tell
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  Speaker 6: everybody see where you can find this wonderful book.
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  Speaker 5: And I hope I get a copy, because.
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  Speaker 4: Yes, this is for you. I bought them for everybody
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  Speaker 4: here of course, I'll sign that everyone can purchase you know,
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  Speaker 4: from Orphan a Millionaire on Ingram, Sparks, Barnes and Noble, Walmart.
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  Speaker 4: And then make sure you check out my website, Big
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  Speaker 4: Steve Big Moves dot com. I'm all over social media,
• 32:34
  Speaker 4: Big Steve Big Moves, uh TikTok, Instagram, Facebook, Steve Parhaska
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  Speaker 4: and check out the podcast Parental Vision and you see
• 32:43
  Speaker 4: everything that I got going on. We'll set that up.
• 32:45
  Speaker 4: I'll have my guys, right, Yes, incredible story.
• 32:50
  Speaker 6: I think I need to write a book to but
• 32:52
  Speaker 6: sure time maybe one day, but this I can't let
• 32:55
  Speaker 6: me read your book first. I want to see how
• 32:56
  Speaker 6: good the writers did you write it?
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  Speaker 4: Write it?
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  Speaker 5: Somebody help you?
• 33:00
  Speaker 4: Right, I had a team help me.
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  Speaker 5: Okay, but they were all your thoughts down on pape.
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  Speaker 4: Of course, to be honest with you.
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  Speaker 6: It was I'm surprised that you would let somebody else
• 33:08
  Speaker 6: help you write because you're.
• 33:09
  Speaker 4: No see the thing, and you know what I got
• 33:11
  Speaker 4: angry about that. I go, what what's going on here?
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  Speaker 5: No?
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  Speaker 4: I hired you, guys, Steve. You're the one that has
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  Speaker 4: your thoughts, your life experiences. So it was a lot
• 33:19
  Speaker 4: of phone calls, a lot of meetings, typing emails or going.
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  Speaker 6: Back a lot of stuff that you didn't want to
• 33:25
  Speaker 6: go back to that we live again a little bit.
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  Speaker 4: Sometimes it was some parts were hard, the very beginning
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  Speaker 4: of losing my parents, you know, it was hard, you know,
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  Speaker 4: but that made me who I am. It's it really is.
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  Speaker 4: That's why I say, no one can tell me anything
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  Speaker 4: on anything, you know. And that's why I wrote it
• 33:41
  Speaker 4: because I want to inspire you ever.
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  Speaker 5: Blame anybody, put yourself. Oh and what was me?
• 33:45
  Speaker 6: Stories a parent? And people be like, oh, I do
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  Speaker 6: this because my parents would divorce. No, you choose to
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  Speaker 6: be the way you want to be.
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  Speaker 4: And it's funny when I know something. So I had
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  Speaker 4: a book signing Saturday at a Waterbury, Connecticut Barnes and Noble.
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  Speaker 4: My cousin drove down from Jersey three hours just to
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  Speaker 4: see me, gave me a huggin kiss, almost had me
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  Speaker 4: crying because she said, your mother would be proud, you know,
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  Speaker 4: and my father would be proud because they were hard.
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  Speaker 4: They were hard on me, Like listen, if it was
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  Speaker 4: someone else, they would went to drugs, kill themselves, absolutely
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  Speaker 4: mentally tough.
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  Speaker 5: Checked out. You wouldn't even see you later, right, now.
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  Speaker 4: So it was it was touching for me because well,
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  Speaker 4: don't get me wrong, some behind closed doors sometimes I
• 34:29
  Speaker 4: want to sit down and you know what I mean.
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  Speaker 5: Sometimes but it's okay, it's okay, and it's rough. It
• 34:35
  Speaker 5: is rough. It's not easy to growing up without your parents.
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  Speaker 6: Well, I can't wait to read the book, and thank
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  Speaker 6: you for comy and tell everybody where they could find you.
• 34:43
  Speaker 4: You can find me on social media Big Steve Big
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  Speaker 4: Moves dot com, my social media Big Steve Big Moves,
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  Speaker 4: Instagram and TikTok, and then my Facebook Steve Prahaska. And
• 34:53
  Speaker 4: make sure you check out my podcast Parental Vision, and
• 34:56
  Speaker 4: then you can see my teaser single Fathers. Hopefully it
• 34:59
  Speaker 4: comes out soon. And thank you for having me.
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  Speaker 6: Thank you for coming on. And I can't wait to
• 35:04
  Speaker 6: read the book. I'm so excited. I wanted to take
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  Speaker 6: a picture with you.
• 35:07
  Speaker 5: Of course, you just have a haircut like this.
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  Speaker 4: A bowl cut. A man fired, bloone, you're fired.
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  Speaker 5: They seduced it like that's swimming a little right?
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  Speaker 4: Oh man, you what's crazy? This was taken before my
• 35:22
  Speaker 4: very first haircut.
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  Speaker 6: It's cute though, it's a cute picture. It's I know,
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  Speaker 6: it's a. It's a hard picture.
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  Speaker 4: It has all the dates and everything on the side
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  Speaker 4: at the start.
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  Speaker 5: Of your story.
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  Speaker 6: You know, this is great. This is where it began.
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  Speaker 6: Thank you for coming on Steve, who.
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  Speaker 4: Was a great pleasure, and thank you for having me.
• 35:40
  Speaker 6: Everybody, welcome to Kats Are Pudding and this was a
• 35:42
  Speaker 6: great episode.
• 35:43
  Speaker 5: And please you can.
• 35:44
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  Speaker 5: have a great day. That was good.