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Speaker 1: Day one of unschooling and I've got my kids helping
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Speaker 1: me to clean the car out. Day two of unschooling
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Speaker 1: and we're at the park learning how to have fun.
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Speaker 1: Now they're going to go grocery shopping with me and
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Speaker 1: we're going to learn about reading labels.
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Speaker 2: Wait, let me see if I heard that correctly. You
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Speaker 2: said that you removed your kids from school so they
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Speaker 2: could clean your car?
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Speaker 1: Teaching them hard work, taking care of the things that
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Speaker 1: you love, that you need, and also just needed the
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Speaker 1: car cleaned.
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Speaker 2: Okay, I just wanted to make sure I got that right.
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Speaker 2: So there's this movement out there called unschooling, where parents
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Speaker 2: are removing their kids from school to teach them a
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Speaker 2: curriculum that's based on the things that each kid is
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Speaker 2: personally interested in. It's sort of like homeschooling with less standardization,
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Speaker 2: which sounds like a great idea initially. I mean, kids
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Speaker 2: should be developing a habit of self-study by focusing on
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Speaker 2: skills they naturally want to learn, but understand that this
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Speaker 2: is the internet, and because of that, people are obviously
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Speaker 2: going to have a bunch of opinions that they haven't
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Speaker 2: thought too much about. and trying to figure out how
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Speaker 2: to let go of what my idea of school is.
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Speaker 1: What if they really do need algebra and I don't
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Speaker 1: teach them algebra? So the fears that you have are
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Speaker 1: so normal. Okay. And algebra is not something everybody on
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Speaker 1: earth needs to know.
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Speaker 3: Actually, you do need algebra.
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Speaker 2: Not knowing algebra is how dumb people get trapped by
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Speaker 2: credit card debt because they don't know how to calculate
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Speaker 2: percentages and yearly interest rates. Algebra is also how you
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Speaker 2: understand how much you're getting screwed by taxes. But anyway,
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Speaker 2: this is the unschooling narrative. Public school teaches a bunch
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Speaker 2: of things that kids don't necessarily need, so some parents
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Speaker 2: are taking matters into their own hands to create a
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Speaker 2: lesson plan that's more true to life. That being said,
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Speaker 2: let's get back to Kelsey, who was the first girl
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Speaker 2: I showed, and hear what her lesson plan is.
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Speaker 1: Yes, we're going to be doing reading and writing and
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Speaker 1: math and maybe science, but it's not going to look
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Speaker 1: the same as traditional public school. It's going to be different.
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Speaker 2: Okay, so we're doing reading and writing and math, and
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Speaker 2: we might learn some science, maybe, if there's time. And
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Speaker 2: Kelsey's plan is going to be different from regular school.
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Speaker 2: But how is it going to be different?
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Speaker 1: We are going to the library, maybe some thrift stores
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Speaker 1: to find some books just to read. We're going to
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Speaker 1: make it a point in our nighttime routine to read
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Speaker 1: every single night. So read, writing, math, and just doing
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Speaker 1: it in different ways and just sitting down as you
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Speaker 1: normally would in public school. So follow me.
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Speaker 2: So you're gonna go to a thrift store like Goodwill
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Speaker 2: to buy some books that smell like pesticides and old people,
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Speaker 2: and you're going to read every night, kind of like
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Speaker 2: people do in school, but it's going to be different
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Speaker 2: from school? Did you actually do any research on this
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Speaker 2: before you made this decision for your kids? I mean,
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Speaker 2: this chick is all over the place and knows so
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Speaker 2: little about teaching that she's unaware that you don't need
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Speaker 2: to go to the library to learn things. You can
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Speaker 2: just look them up on the internet. And the fact
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Speaker 2: that she doesn't know this means that she has, like,
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Speaker 2: never tried to learn anything on her own. Does she
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Speaker 2: even know how to set a schedule or discipline herself
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Speaker 2: to build a curriculum so that her kids don't just
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Speaker 2: waste time doing nothing all day?
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Speaker 1: No.
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Speaker 2: Kelsey's philosophy about teaching, let's watch her carry out an
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Speaker 2: actual lesson.
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Speaker 1: Now they're going to go grocery shopping with me, and
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Speaker 1: we're going to learn about reading labels. We're going to
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Speaker 1: learn about math and money and spending your money wisely.
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Speaker 1: When you're buying groceries, you need to make sure that
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Speaker 1: the quality of it is good. So turn it over
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Speaker 1: on each one. Make sure that there's no molded ones.
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Speaker 1: Make sure they all look pretty good. And if they.
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Speaker 4: Do, put them in their buggy.
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Speaker 5: Nice.
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Speaker 3: Make sure the fruit is not moldy. Now, do we
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Speaker 3: know what mold is?
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Speaker 2: Well, no, because she hasn't shown her kids a moldy
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Speaker 2: fruit so they would know what to avoid, but I'm
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Speaker 2: sure they will.
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Speaker 3: Magically be able to figure that out. Let's move on.
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Speaker 6: You see the.
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Speaker 1: Prices on them right here? You typically want to make
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Speaker 1: sure that you pick the lowest price, and if it's
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Speaker 1: a low price and it looks like it's a good apple,
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Speaker 1: like Honeycrisp are good apples, we can get a bag
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Speaker 1: of those.
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Speaker 2: Wow, thank God Captain Obvious was there to tell her
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Speaker 2: kids they should try to buy the food with the
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Speaker 2: lower price instead of the higher price if they want
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Speaker 2: to save money.
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Speaker 3: What would they do without you?
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Speaker 1: When you're reading the labels, I want you to notice
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Speaker 1: where it says includes added sugars.
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Speaker 6: How many does that say?
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Speaker 1: Zero on that one and 15 on... So we don't
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Speaker 1: want sugars, right? So you're going to get that one.
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Speaker 2: Geez, lady, give your kid time to answer when you
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Speaker 2: ask them a question. Oh wait, I think she realized
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Speaker 2: that she forgot to teach them numbers and reading before.
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Speaker 3: This, so they couldn't actually give an answer. Excellent.
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Speaker 2: But again, how is this different from school? Instead of
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Speaker 2: letting them study what they want, you're forcing them to
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Speaker 2: learn the material that you want them to learn, which
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Speaker 2: were just daily chores that you had to get done.
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Speaker 2: And then when it comes to the answers, you just
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Speaker 2: have them memorize stuff, which is exactly what school does.
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Speaker 2: There's no teaching them critical thinking skills or allowing them
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Speaker 2: to discover things on their own through trial and error.
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Speaker 2: You're just telling them what to say. At least with school,
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Speaker 2: they would get a teacher who was somewhat qualified to
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Speaker 2: have them memorize stuff. All right, now I need to
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Speaker 2: see how we got here. Why did she think this
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Speaker 2: would be a good idea? What's her backstory?
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Speaker 6: Yes, I'm a felon. I'm gonna tell you guys the
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Speaker 6: story of how I.
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Speaker 1: Became a felon.
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Speaker 3: Wow, that escalated quickly.
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Speaker 2: Apparently, she was charged with a felony at age 16
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Speaker 2: and served 30 days in jail for armed robbery and
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Speaker 2: attempted murder after she drank and did drugs.
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Speaker 3: Anything else?
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Speaker 1: Eric and I had a spicy sight about six months ago,
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Speaker 1: and we stopped. We did it for a couple of years.
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Speaker 1: Some months we were making $ 40, 000. The money was great.
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Speaker 1: We were really excited about it. We felt like it
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Speaker 1: was bringing the fire back into our relationship.
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Speaker 2: Of course, I should have expected that. She also said
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Speaker 2: that she was a sugar baby in a different video.
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Speaker 2: But now all the negligence makes sense. She has a
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Speaker 2: history of making bad decisions. Also, apparently this unschooling idea
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Speaker 2: from Kelsey is a relatively new thing, And her kids
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Speaker 2: were in school, or at least one of them was,
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Speaker 2: but she took them out. You can tell it was
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Speaker 2: a recent decision she made on impulse from how little
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Speaker 2: of a game plan she has. However, all this begs
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Speaker 2: the question of, what was the final straw for public school?
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Speaker 2: And to answer that, here's Kelsey talking about a problem
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Speaker 2: that she had with her son's teacher.
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Speaker 1: The other day, or a couple weeks ago, she sent
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Speaker 1: home in his folder a piece of paper that that
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Speaker 1: had a signature side and a date side. And she
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Speaker 1: told him, didn't say nothing to me, told him to
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Speaker 1: tell me.
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Speaker 7: I needed to take his homework out of his folder
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Speaker 7: every single night, sign and date this piece of paper,
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Speaker 7: and send it back to her every single day. Now, listen,
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Speaker 7: I took that piece of paper out and I said,
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Speaker 7: I'm not doing that, baby.
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Speaker 1: I have four kids and I run a massive business.
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Speaker 6: Through social media.
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Speaker 1: I don't have time, literally.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, because that makes sense. Spending two minutes checking homework
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Speaker 2: is too hard. so of course the logical conclusion is
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Speaker 2: to pull the kids out of school entirely and become
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Speaker 2: a full-time teacher, right? Well, maybe, but personally, I have
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Speaker 2: at least a little faith in humanity, so I'm pretty
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Speaker 2: sure that she can understand that becoming a full-time teacher
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Speaker 2: is more work than signing her kids' homework, so there
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Speaker 2: must be some other reason for why she's doing what
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Speaker 2: she does. That being said, let's watch more of her
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Speaker 2: unschooling content to see if we can figure it out.
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Speaker 1: There's so many comments in my comment section about, well,
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Speaker 1: what if they want to be.
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Speaker 3: A doctor or a lawyer? And I think I've already
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Speaker 3: mentioned this before one time already, but, like.
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Speaker 1: The likelihood of my kids wanting to do something that
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Speaker 1: they don't see that I'm normalizing is very slim.
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Speaker 3: Come on, guys.
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Speaker 2: You see, my kids are too dumb to want to
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Speaker 2: become doctors and lawyers when they grow up, and they're
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Speaker 2: too lacking in individual thought to do anything outside of
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Speaker 2: what I tell them, which is why I'm unschooling them
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Speaker 2: so they can get their education from the Goodwill discount bin. Geez,
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Speaker 2: this chick does not care about her kids at all.
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Speaker 1: On top of I'm very proactive inside of my profession
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Speaker 1: and my career of being an entrepreneur, they're likely going
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Speaker 1: to follow that path because they're going to see how successful.
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Speaker 2: Right, because entrepreneurs have always been known to love learning
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Speaker 2: by memorizing answers, and they always follow the rules or
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Speaker 2: follow instructions.
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Speaker 1: Also, you didn't have to follow instructions.
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Speaker 2: Anyway, now I think we have the actual answer for
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Speaker 2: why she took her kids out of school. Kelsey works
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Speaker 2: some sort of herbal lifestyle pyramid scheme where she sells
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Speaker 2: supplement powder, and she's trying to push her kids towards
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Speaker 2: that or use them to promote it, which is why
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Speaker 2: she calls them her downlines.
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Speaker 1: The point to this is I want my kids to
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Speaker 1: live a good life, and I want to create a
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Speaker 1: legacy for the rest of my downline of my family.
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Speaker 2: A downline is a sales term for a person who
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Speaker 2: you recruit onto your team, who you then get a
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Speaker 2: percentage of every sale they make. This is a core
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Speaker 2: feature of pyramid and multi-level marketing schemes. where the higher
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Speaker 2: up you are and the more worker bees you have
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Speaker 2: under you, the more passive income you make. So a
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Speaker 2: lot of people involved in pyramid schemes spend time trying
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Speaker 2: to recruit the suckers who bought their product into also
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Speaker 2: becoming their downline. Actually, it seems like a couple of
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Speaker 2: these unschoolers, for some reason, want to turn their kids
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Speaker 2: into entrepreneurs or do some sort of sales job for
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Speaker 2: a family business.
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Speaker 5: We're not raising worker bees.
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Speaker 1: We're not raising yes-men or kids that jump through hoops
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Speaker 1: or take orders.
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Speaker 6: We're raising free-thinking entrepreneurs by living this way.
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Speaker 4: I was on the phone with my web designer and
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Speaker 4: Wiley asked me a question and I thought I would
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Speaker 4: share it with you so you could learn more about
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Speaker 4: what unschooling means in a family business.
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Speaker 2: So I don't think it's a coincidence that so many
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Speaker 2: of these unschooling influencers are trying to sell their viewers something.
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Speaker 1: If anyone is ever posting about a perfect lifestyle that
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Speaker 1: seems too good to be true... It probably is, and
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Speaker 1: they're probably just trying to sell you something.
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Speaker 2: It looks to me like Kelsey, as well as these
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Speaker 2: other moms, are using the unschooling trend to become an
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Speaker 2: influencer who uses her kids for fame like the family
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Speaker 2: vloggers do, which is why they'll end a lot of
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Speaker 2: their videos with promotions.
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Speaker 4: Nobody does it better than me because nobody cares more
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Speaker 4: than me, and I have a lot more free stuff
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Speaker 4: on this coming your way.
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Speaker 8: Follow me, don't lose me, you'll only get it here.
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Speaker 2: Anyway, this is why Kelsey has a number of mom
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Speaker 2: influencer videos where she's like, I'm so frugal with my
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Speaker 2: money because when I shop, I can feed a family
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Speaker 2: of six on $ 250 a week. Where in that same video,
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Speaker 2: she talks about buying pasture-raised eggs and organic meat, which
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Speaker 2: are some of the most expensive items at the store.
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Speaker 2: So she's obviously lying about how good she is at
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Speaker 2: saving money. And months later, she said that her budget
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Speaker 2: is actually twice that at $ 500 a week.
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Speaker 3: Which sounds far more accurate.
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Speaker 1: And I believe this is going to be the best
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Speaker 1: thing I've probably ever done for my kids. And I'm
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Speaker 1: really excited. I'm going to record everything. So if you're
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Speaker 1: not following me, you definitely should be because I am
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Speaker 1: documenting the fuck out of this experience because I have
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Speaker 1: been feeling in my heart for a very long time
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Speaker 1: that public school is just not, it's just not it.
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Speaker 2: So naturally, Kelsey went viral for saying a bunch of
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Speaker 2: dumb stuff and impulsively jumping into a new lifestyle that
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Speaker 2: she did no research on. And when people criticized her,
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Speaker 2: this was her response.
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Speaker 6: Things have just gotten completely out of control on my
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Speaker 6: social media and people dragging my name and my original
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Speaker 6: intention was to just share how I'm going through this
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Speaker 6: as I'm learning to unschool, as I'm learning what works
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Speaker 6: best for us, not coming from a place of being
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Speaker 6: an expert.
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Speaker 1: And any videos that you see of me, I'm just
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Speaker 1: simply sharing what I've done so far. And people frown
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Speaker 1: upon that. They think that I'm making my kid stupid
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Speaker 1: or something.
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Speaker 2: I don't see how this is such a shock, considering
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Speaker 2: that a day or two earlier, you basically implied that
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Speaker 2: your kids are too done to pick their own career paths.
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Speaker 2: So it seems like a lot of people are unhappy
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Speaker 2: with Kelsey, including the unschooling community, because yes, there is
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Speaker 2: an unschooling community, and they're mad at Kelsey because she's
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Speaker 2: making them look bad. And to be honest, the people
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Speaker 2: who are in favor of unschooling don't always have bad takes.
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Speaker 2: That thing that mom from the beginning said about not
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Speaker 2: needing algebra was kind of stupid, and I found myself
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Speaker 2: disagreeing with her a lot when I was researching for
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Speaker 2: this video. But here she is talking to some unschooled kids,
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Speaker 2: and one of them said this.
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Speaker 1: Are there any classes that would interest you if you
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Speaker 1: were in school?
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Speaker 2: Science.
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Speaker 1: I don't even know if I would then, because half
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Speaker 1: the time you're reading from a book, you're not actually
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Speaker 1: experimenting and going outside and stuff.
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Speaker 6: I don't know. Right, yeah.
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Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, it's totally different to read everything in theory
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Speaker 1: versus hands-on experiences.
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Speaker 3: Right.
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Speaker 2: You can read books at home or learn about theory
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Speaker 2: on YouTube. If you're going to have a teacher there,
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Speaker 2: then you should be doing a lot more practical stuff
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Speaker 2: because that will ultimately be far more memorable to students.
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Speaker 2: Retention plummets when you don't give people an experience to
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Speaker 2: connect to with your lesson. Not to mention that stuff
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Speaker 2: like Common Core Math is child abuse. I mean, some
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Speaker 2: of these standardized teaching methods are so obviously a stupid
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Speaker 2: way to teach kids... that I have a hard time
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Speaker 2: believing that they are intentionally stupid and schools are purposefully
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Speaker 2: disconnecting lessons from real-life examples so that corrupt people in
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Speaker 2: government who are in charge of this stuff can pretend
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Speaker 2: that they're teaching kids something without actually teaching them something.
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Speaker 5: I just don't believe that a public school standardized curriculum
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Speaker 5: and even most private schools, are not honoring enough of
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Speaker 5: the individual's journey. And not only is there a risk
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Speaker 5: of children's curiosity and sense of wonder and creativity being crushed,
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Speaker 5: I believe that that's happening for the majority of kids
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Speaker 5: who participate in standardized education.
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Speaker 3: Correct.
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Speaker 2: I believe that school is very good at demoralizing kids,
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Speaker 2: as well as getting them to dislike important self-educating activities,
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Speaker 2: like reading, because more focus is put on proving that
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Speaker 2: you read books like The Odyssey, which is a great story,
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Speaker 2: by the way, instead of focusing on getting students interested
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Speaker 2: in the material. Like, I swear I've sat through classes
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Speaker 2: where teachers take Greek mythology, which contains some of the
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Speaker 2: most interesting stories known to man, and make them so
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Speaker 2: boring that I'm falling asleep during the class. How do
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Speaker 2: you take stories that are so popular that people have
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Speaker 2: retold them for over 2,000 years and make.
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Speaker 3: Students hate them?
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Speaker 2: That's like doing a class on the Avengers movies and
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Speaker 2: teaching it so poorly that your students can't stay awake
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Speaker 2: during the lesson. The reason that you hate reading is
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Speaker 2: because schools force teachers to constantly make kids prove that
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Speaker 2: they're doing the assignment. So instead of just reading chapters
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Speaker 2: 1 and 2 and moving on with my life like
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Speaker 2: I would do if I was reading a book on
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Speaker 2: my own, I now have to basically memorize 5 to
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Speaker 2: 10 questions that my teacher assigned so I can find
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Speaker 2: the answers while I'm doing the assignment to prove to
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Speaker 2: the teacher that I read the book. which means that
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Speaker 2: instead of enjoying things like the opening scene of Avengers
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Speaker 2: Infinity War, I'm sitting there waiting to see some nonsense
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Speaker 2: like what socket of the Infinity Gauntlet that Thanos puts
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Speaker 2: the Space Stone into, because that's question three on my
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Speaker 2: homework assignment.
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Speaker 3: I used to hate this when I was in school.
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Speaker 2: Not only does this make reading a pain, but it
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Speaker 2: effectively spoils what happens in the book. Teachers in my
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Speaker 2: middle school would assign questions like, which Marvel character does
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Speaker 2: Thanos talk to before he pushes Gamora off a ledge?
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Speaker 8: Geek.
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Speaker 2: Thanks for ruining the surprise. So yeah, I have a
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Speaker 2: lot of problems with public school, but I don't think
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Speaker 2: this unschooling stuff is a solution either, as it basically
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Speaker 2: only works under special conditions, like both of your parents
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Speaker 2: already being teachers.
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Speaker 5: Courtney is an elementary school teacher by trade. She has
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Speaker 5: a teaching certificate, and she used to work as a
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Speaker 5: music and arts and special ed teacher. I worked as
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Speaker 5: an outdoor educator. And so we both have a background
15:46
Speaker 5: in education of sorts.
15:48
Speaker 2: Yeah, of course this works for your kids. Teaching is
15:51
Speaker 2: your profession. But how would you scale this? Well, you can't,
15:55
Speaker 2: which is why I think that when these people talk
15:56
Speaker 2: about unschooling, they should instead talk about homeschooling rights or
16:00
Speaker 2: talk about ways that schools can promote self-education like a
16:03
Speaker 2: free study period for an hour where teachers teach kids
16:06
Speaker 2: how to research topics and set skill-building goals for things
16:09
Speaker 2: that they are personally interested in. Talking about stuff like
16:12
Speaker 2: this would be much better for society as a whole
16:15
Speaker 2: instead of promoting a style of learning that will effectively
16:18
Speaker 2: result in tons of kids being far behind their peers
16:20
Speaker 2: who went to public school and essential subjects like reading, writing,
16:24
Speaker 2: and math, which are the fundamentals for every other skill.
16:27
Speaker 2: Being behind in these skills can damage years of their
16:30
Speaker 2: lives as they try to catch up.
16:32
Speaker 3: Well, if they catch up. And speaking of, next we
16:35
Speaker 3: have a TikTok mom who goes by Onami.
16:37
Speaker 8: So we don't teach our children anything.
16:40
Speaker 4: Everything that they learn is in response to either their
16:43
Speaker 4: interests or their questions. We have no curriculum.
16:46
Speaker 8: We have no school hours. We really just.
16:48
Speaker 4: Respond whenever they want to know something and do our
16:51
Speaker 4: best to make sure they really get it.
16:53
Speaker 2: I can see we're already off to a great start.
16:55
Speaker 2: No lesson plans, no set times for learning each day,
16:58
Speaker 2: and we only teach things our kids.
17:00
Speaker 3: Ask us to teach.
17:01
Speaker 2: Well, gee, I hope your six-year-old is a genius who
17:04
Speaker 2: always knows the right questions. Otherwise, he's going to miss
17:07
Speaker 2: out on a lot of essentials that his same-age peers
17:09
Speaker 2: will have already mastered long before.
17:11
Speaker 4: And my big fear about free schooling was that if
17:14
Speaker 4: my kids only went towards what they were interested in,
17:17
Speaker 4: saving all of their real estate only for things they're
17:19
Speaker 4: interested in, not cramming it with anything necessary, I was
17:23
Speaker 4: concerned that they would never be interested in things like
17:25
Speaker 4: reading and writing and math.
17:27
Speaker 2: Wait, she wasn't going to teach them how to read
17:29
Speaker 2: and write unless they asked? Again, these are the most
17:32
Speaker 2: fundamental skills in learning. as in you can't learn other
17:35
Speaker 2: skills without knowing how to read and write, and she
17:38
Speaker 2: wasn't going to give them any sort of guidance as
17:40
Speaker 2: a parent by saying something like, hey, maybe you should
17:43
Speaker 2: learn this stuff first, otherwise you won't be able to
17:45
Speaker 2: read the ingredients for a recipe or be able to
17:47
Speaker 2: count the number of cups of flour that you need
17:49
Speaker 2: to make cookies.
17:50
Speaker 4: My son's six, and it took some patience and not
17:53
Speaker 4: comparing myself to other moms, but this is his book.
17:56
Speaker 1: Look at this.
17:57
Speaker 6: Lamp.
17:58
Speaker 1: Egg. Jar. Jar.
18:06
Speaker 5: Lion.
18:08
Speaker 4: This is him doing this by himself, copying down words
18:14
Speaker 4: from other places, asking us more. Same with addition. Mom,
18:17
Speaker 4: what's seven plus five? It will come at the right time.
18:24
Speaker 2: Am I crazy or is this not impressive at all
18:26
Speaker 2: for a six-year-old? I would be concerned if this were
18:29
Speaker 2: my child. He can't write the letters correctly or from memory,
18:32
Speaker 2: yet she literally is jumping for joy over four words.
18:36
Speaker 2: when he should be reading and writing full sentences by
18:38
Speaker 2: six years old. Like, he's way behind. Well, I mean,
18:42
Speaker 2: he's extra behind, considering that public school teaches kids at
18:45
Speaker 2: a snail's pace. The benefit of homeschooling is that kids
18:48
Speaker 2: are supposed to learn way faster, so actually, he should
18:51
Speaker 2: be writing paragraphs that contain his own thoughts and ideas,
18:54
Speaker 2: and not single words that he copied down from his
18:56
Speaker 2: coloring book.
18:57
Speaker 1: So it's true.
18:58
Speaker 4: My son cannot read at age six.
19:02
Speaker 3: Wait, was he even able to read the words that
19:04
Speaker 3: he copied down? This is bad.
19:06
Speaker 2: I think I was reading and writing basic sentences at
19:08
Speaker 2: five years old, and I was by no means ahead
19:11
Speaker 2: of my peers. Her son is like a full year
19:14
Speaker 2: behind other six-year-olds, which is a huge deal because the
19:17
Speaker 2: skills that you learn during childhood are additive, and if
19:20
Speaker 2: you learn things late, then you potentially will miss out
19:22
Speaker 2: on exponential growth, which means that as an adult, you
19:26
Speaker 2: will have to spend years catching up to kids whose
19:28
Speaker 2: parents didn't do this to them. But like I said
19:30
Speaker 2: with Kelsey, this all begs the question of, How did
19:33
Speaker 2: we get here? Why is she so negligent when it
19:36
Speaker 2: comes to her kids? And the short answer is lots
19:39
Speaker 2: of drug abuse.
19:40
Speaker 8: I was super bulimic, gnarly alcoholic.
19:45
Speaker 4: Luckily was such an alcoholic that like I couldn't get
19:48
Speaker 4: addicted to heroin.
19:40
Speaker 8: I mean, I guess people could have figured.
19:43
Speaker 4: That out with the glazed over eyes, the forehead tattoo,
19:47
Speaker 4: the pentagram thing on her palm, and the YouTube channel
19:51
Speaker 4: where she teaches sex magic.
20:09
Speaker 2: This is all behavior of a drug addict. Now, people
20:12
Speaker 2: don't just become addicted out of nowhere, so why did
20:14
Speaker 2: she do this to herself? Well, it's kind of a
20:17
Speaker 2: long story that's explained in this video here, but to
20:20
Speaker 2: sum it up, Onami was a member of a doomsday
20:22
Speaker 2: cult until she was 13 years old. A doomsday cult
20:25
Speaker 2: is a cult where they think the end of the
20:26
Speaker 2: world is coming, and Onami reports that she experienced multiple
20:30
Speaker 2: ends of the world that the cult would just forget
20:31
Speaker 2: about and move on to the next apocalypse after being
20:34
Speaker 2: proven wrong. More importantly, and very sadly, she also reported
20:38
Speaker 2: that she was sexually abused pretty much daily until she
20:41
Speaker 2: left the cult at 13.
20:42
Speaker 3: It actually seems like.
20:43
Speaker 2: The group was a lot more about that than it
20:45
Speaker 2: was about the doomsday stuff. It was only during a
20:47
Speaker 2: moment that the cult stupidly let her outside that she
20:50
Speaker 2: realized that something was up.
20:52
Speaker 4: I had gone to CVS pharmacy with a few of
20:55
Speaker 4: the other girls and this guy showed up. And so
20:58
Speaker 4: he was trying to hug me and stuff while I'm
21:01
Speaker 4: waiting in the line at CVS.
21:03
Speaker 8: And I was like... get away from me.
21:07
Speaker 4: And as I was walking out of the house, I mean,
21:10
Speaker 4: as I was walking out of the pharmacy, like a
21:12
Speaker 4: woman came running up after me and she's like, Hey, like,
21:15
Speaker 4: are you okay? Is that guy bothering you? Do you
21:17
Speaker 4: know that guy? And I was like, nah, you know,
21:19
Speaker 4: my parents, like, you know, whatever. And she's like, no, like,
21:22
Speaker 4: are you, are you okay? Like, is this, are you
21:26
Speaker 4: all right? She's like, I'm going to give you my number. Like,
21:28
Speaker 4: if you need anything, like call me. And he saw
21:32
Speaker 4: that happen, and when I got home, I got in.
21:34
Speaker 8: Such huge trouble.
21:36
Speaker 4: That was, like, the first time that I had ever had, like,
21:39
Speaker 4: interaction with the outside world, and somebody was like.
21:42
Speaker 8: Hey, like, maybe that's not normal, or maybe that's not okay.
21:46
Speaker 2: So it seems like it was kind of a horrible experience,
21:48
Speaker 2: and I'm sorry all that happened to her. Fortunately, she
21:51
Speaker 2: was able to escape at 13. However, if you've had
21:54
Speaker 2: a very traumatic childhood like that, and you're going to
21:56
Speaker 2: have kids, then you need to undergo lots of therapy...
22:00
Speaker 2: and you also need to be taking extreme levels of
22:02
Speaker 2: direction from normal society. This is not the time to
22:05
Speaker 2: be inventing new programs for your kids or doing things
22:08
Speaker 2: that are radically different from the norm. The reason for
22:11
Speaker 2: that is because the traumatic childhood will heavily skew your
22:14
Speaker 2: sense of what's healthy, which makes it very likely that
22:17
Speaker 2: if you deviate from the norm, you will do so
22:19
Speaker 2: in a way that will cause your kids harm.
22:21
Speaker 4: You know, I grew up in a cult, so I'm
22:22
Speaker 4: always terrified of starting my own cult or being a
22:25
Speaker 4: cult leader, but we've managed to avoid that, uh, Which
22:28
Speaker 4: is good. We just like never do group activities with anybody.
22:32
Speaker 2: But you are kind of doing that, though. In this case,
22:35
Speaker 2: she was referring to clients, which as far as I've seen,
22:37
Speaker 2: she's not creating some sort of cult around them. However,
22:40
Speaker 2: that's not the same case with her kids, who she
22:42
Speaker 2: is definitely using to promote her coaching business. Pretty much
22:46
Speaker 2: all of the unschooling influencers that I found, except for
22:48
Speaker 2: this guy, were throwing their kids into videos, followed by,
22:52
Speaker 2: buy my book or whatever they were selling. so I
22:55
Speaker 2: have my doubts about the authenticity of most of the
22:57
Speaker 2: people promoting this lifestyle. As for Onami, it's not just
23:01
Speaker 2: her business that sells a weird sex-magic entrepreneur course, but
23:05
Speaker 2: she's also very inappropriate in front of her kids.
23:07
Speaker 3: For example, I've found things like.
23:09
Speaker 2: Videos of her twerking in front of them, and, I mean,
23:12
Speaker 2: you grew up in a sexually inappropriate environment, why are
23:15
Speaker 2: you bringing that behavior to your kids? I've also watched
23:18
Speaker 2: her let her kids, who I believe are three and
23:20
Speaker 2: six years old, handle dangerous tools like a full-sized kitchen knife,
23:24
Speaker 2: before their hands are big enough to hold it properly,
23:27
Speaker 2: and before they have good enough fine motor skills to
23:29
Speaker 2: use proper techniques so they don't hurt themselves. Last, I'm
23:33
Speaker 2: very concerned that she has talked publicly about how she
23:35
Speaker 2: wants to isolate them from outside influences, kind of like
23:38
Speaker 2: a cult would.
23:39
Speaker 4: But I was able to retire my husband the second
23:41
Speaker 4: we met. We've never been, we don't have nannies. We
23:45
Speaker 4: don't have cleaners. We don't have anything. We're with our
23:47
Speaker 4: kids all the time. This is my like trauma response.
23:50
Speaker 4: I'm like, I'm not leaving my kids with other people.
23:54
Speaker 4: And that's just how, that's just how we're doing it.
23:57
Speaker 2: This is also something that Kelsey, the first girl I showed,
24:00
Speaker 2: said she was doing to her kids too. In fact,
24:03
Speaker 2: she's made multiple TikToks on it.
24:04
Speaker 1: We don't actually need socialization skills.
24:08
Speaker 6: We need to know how.
24:09
Speaker 1: To communicate, which you can do with your parents. We
24:11
Speaker 1: need to know how to connect, what you can do
24:14
Speaker 1: with your parents, and those are skills that you take
24:17
Speaker 1: for the rest of your life to make friendships.
24:19
Speaker 2: Kelsey also said in a different TikTok that she's fine
24:22
Speaker 2: with her kids not knowing how to socialize because she
24:25
Speaker 2: never leaves her house and she's still happy and successful. Well,
24:29
Speaker 2: the first thing people should know about self-reported mental health
24:32
Speaker 2: is that people are terrible at diagnosing their own mental state.
24:35
Speaker 2: In one video, Kelsey will talk about how happy she
24:37
Speaker 2: is being socially isolated all day, While in other videos,
24:41
Speaker 2: she'll talk about how she dated a physically abusive narcissist
24:44
Speaker 2: when she was a sugar baby, and about how bad
24:46
Speaker 2: her mental health was when she used to run a
24:48
Speaker 2: spicy website. So, uh, no, I don't think you're actually happy,
24:52
Speaker 2: and I don't think keeping your kids away from a
24:54
Speaker 2: social environment is good for them, considering that social skills
24:57
Speaker 2: are the most important skills you can have, as you
25:00
Speaker 2: literally will not be able to find a job without them,
25:02
Speaker 2: or build good friendships, or find a good relationship partner,
25:05
Speaker 2: even if you suck at everything else.
25:07
Speaker 3: Now, going back to Ms.
25:08
Speaker 2: Forehead Tattoo, the crazy thing is that she does have
25:09
Speaker 2: some awareness of what's going on here, but she's completely
25:12
Speaker 2: disconnected when it comes to her kids.
25:34
Speaker 4: It's so unfortunate that your life can start as a
25:38
Speaker 4: pattern that other people put on you. But if you
25:40
Speaker 4: don't learn how to break those patterns, no matter where
25:44
Speaker 4: you go, they're going to come with you. No matter
25:46
Speaker 4: what you do, they're going to come with you. You
25:48
Speaker 4: can meet a wonderful partner and be in a marriage
25:53
Speaker 4: that you love with somebody that really loves you. And
25:56
Speaker 4: if you haven't broken that pattern, you will die. Force
26:00
Speaker 4: them to show up.
26:01
Speaker 8: As the other half of that pattern.
26:03
Speaker 4: You will force them to abuse you. You will force
26:06
Speaker 4: them to abandon you. Even if they're not doing it,
26:09
Speaker 4: you'll feel it and it'll be just as bad.
26:12
Speaker 2: I'm actually very surprised that she said that. It was
26:15
Speaker 2: the most mentally stable thing I heard from her. It's
26:17
Speaker 2: just too bad that she doesn't realize this for her
26:19
Speaker 2: kids because the primary way that you save yourself from
26:22
Speaker 2: poor mental health is through relationships and through feedback from
26:26
Speaker 2: other people. severely limiting those relationships is not good for
26:29
Speaker 2: her children. Outside of all this, I actually don't have
26:33
Speaker 2: a problem with the fundamental idea of unschooling. I think
26:36
Speaker 2: public school is incredibly inefficient and has a lot of problems. However,
26:40
Speaker 2: making your curriculum, whenever my kids ask me something I
26:43
Speaker 2: tell them, is not a good game plan. Adults are
26:46
Speaker 2: there to help kids speedrun through common information, so they
26:50
Speaker 2: don't have to spend a decade of their lives reinventing
26:52
Speaker 2: the wheel. Waiting for your kids to ask you how
26:55
Speaker 2: to read stunts their ability to move on to things
26:57
Speaker 2: they actually want to learn, because ultimately, the goal is
27:00
Speaker 2: to build a lifestyle where you're interested in self-education so
27:04
Speaker 2: that you continue learning new skills whether you're in school
27:06
Speaker 2: or not. And really, the only way to motivate yourself
27:09
Speaker 2: to study is to find useful skills that you are
27:11
Speaker 2: naturally interested in. You aren't going to work hard if
27:14
Speaker 2: you don't like what you're doing. Fortunately, there are a
27:16
Speaker 2: lot of things to do, so pick one. Then, when
27:19
Speaker 2: it comes to getting good, of course you have to
27:21
Speaker 2: discipline yourself to practice on a daily basis, But don't
27:24
Speaker 2: forget that it's also important to use techniques that speed
27:27
Speaker 2: up how quickly you learn. Time is limited, so efficiency
27:30
Speaker 2: is key. When I was in college, I could spend
27:33
Speaker 2: three hours staring at a picture of a heart to
27:35
Speaker 2: try to memorize the anatomy of it. Or, I could
27:38
Speaker 2: watch a five-minute video on YouTube about the heart five times,
27:41
Speaker 2: memorize it like I'm memorizing the lines of my favorite movie,
27:44
Speaker 2: and be done in 25 minutes. It's crazy how much
27:47
Speaker 2: faster modern technology can help you learn and retain information,
27:51
Speaker 2: So a part of self-studying is spending time improving your
27:54
Speaker 2: learning strategy so that you can learn more information in
27:57
Speaker 2: a fraction of the time. Flashcard apps that work on
28:00
Speaker 2: your phone and your PC like Brainscape are excellent for that.
28:03
Speaker 2: I also like making my own YouTube playlist to help
28:05
Speaker 2: me quickly find information that I need to review, and
28:09
Speaker 2: personal Discord servers or Google Docs are a great way
28:12
Speaker 2: to take notes that can be shared with all your devices. Anyway,
28:15
Speaker 2: that's enough workflow advice. So thanks for watching, follow me
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