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Season 2 - Episode 254 - A foolish man · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the Good Morning From the Chicken Coop Podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and master mindset
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  coach. Filled with inspiration,
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  distinctions, perspectives, and possibilities, we help you to
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  cultivate a mindset that leads you to create the best version
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  of yourself you could ever imagine.
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  Join Kim every morning from one of her favorite happy places,
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  her chicken coop along with all her chickens.
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  Hey, everybody. Good morning from the chicken
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  coop. So it has often been said that
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  a. Foolish man shares his problems.
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  And boy oh boy, isn't that true. When you start talking about
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  your problems and you start complaining about things and you
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  start that. Wheel in, roll it in motion.
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  It's very hard to. Stop it and people whether they
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  will tell you. The truth or not, believe that
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  you. Are a complainer.
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  I don't care what people tell you.
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  It's the case. Now, I'm not saying you can't
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  share your problem in if it's in the right environment.
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  I'm not saying that at all. But what I'm saying is when you
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  go and you complain about something, you can't take those.
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  Words back When you tell someone something, the toothpaste is
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  out. Of the tube, my friends, and
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  it's not going back. Years and years ago, I was
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  dating a man in college. And I complained to my mother
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  about him, I said. Oh, he's, you know, he he's just
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  so arrogant. He thinks he knows everything.
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  And I went on this whole tirade about who he was as a person.
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  And then of course, as as life would have it.
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  You know, I was still dating him.
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  And I had to. Introduce my mother to him.
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  She had not met him at that point, but I was just
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  complaining about him and I would regularly complain about
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  him. And then I brought him over and
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  I said, oh, you know, I'm going to come by want you to be able
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  to meet him. And my mother was not nice to
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  him. Now, anyone who knows or knew my
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  mother before she passed. Away knew that my mother was
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  nice to everybody, but I had done such an excellent job of
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  complaining about him that my mother could not see him.
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  In any other light other than the light that I painted him,
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  and it jaded her perspective. And I wasn't going.
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  To be able to undo that, I had done it.
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  I complained to the point where my mother had accepted that as
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  the. Reality now I was very young.
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  Maybe he was some of those things.
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  Maybe I was a lot to handle. I've been told I'm extra extra.
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  So, you know, maybe it was me. Maybe it was just.
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  The timing of who he was. At that point in his life, and
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  maybe it was the timing of who I was at that point, but the.
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  Point of the story, my friends, is that because?
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  I did such an excellent job of complaining about it.
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  It was it. And it was ugly and it was
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  unnecessary, and I didn't need to do any of that.
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  It cast a shadow of. And over time, I know every
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  single one of us listening right now is absolutely able to recall
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  a point, a pinnacle shift. When you did the same thing and
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  you know I shouldn't have said anything, I should have just
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  kept quiet. Or you know, if you're in a
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  relationship with someone and you are not enjoying your
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  relationship and you complain to people around you about that
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  person. And then you still see them.
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  You never end the relationship. They know you're unhappy and
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  they'll always come up to you. Even if you're in a happy
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  moment, they'll come up to you and they'll go.
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  So how's it going? Are you guys OK now?
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  I know it's really rough and they're doing it because they
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  want to be caring most of the time.
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  Sometimes they like to be pot stores and they want to see
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  people in pain. And and there are those people
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  out there, my friends, they're there, but in most cases they're
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  trying to be nice. But you're in.
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  Like, I'm in a good head space right now.
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  It's good. And you try to shut it down, but
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  they don't let you because you've set the tone.
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  You've set the tone. Over the years I have really
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  cultivated this. I do not complain about things.
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  I do not complain because if I complain, it's not only out
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  there to manifest and grow and fester and become something
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  bigger because I'm putting energy to it.
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  It's also I'm giving other people permission to know what's
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  in my head at the darkest of times.
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  And I don't think that that's helpful.
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  It's not going to help me heal it.
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  Now, that's not to say you can't go and talk about things to
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  someone who's going to help you shift out of it, whether it's a
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  therapist, whether it's a psychiatrist, whether it's a
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  code, whatever. Of course, in the right
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  environments you should do those things.
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  If it's a trusted person who's not just going to hold you, you
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  know, hostage for the one moment or the multiple moments you have
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  about a subject and and they're going to help you, great.
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  But what I'm talking about is just that chronic complaining
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  that sets a tone. And it's not a tone that you
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  want to keep. So you've got to be careful with
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  it. Watch out for it and don't be a
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  foolish man sharing his problems.
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  Stop that, own it and do something to fix it.
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  Alright my friends, I will talk to you tomorrow and I hope you
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  have a blessed day. Bye.