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E 272: Reclaiming Your Worth: The Courage to Believe You Matter Guest Sue Bowles · Adult Child of Dysfunction

• 0:47
  Well,
• 0:47
  hello
• 0:47
  everybody,
• 0:48
  and
• 0:48
  welcome
• 0:48
  back
• 0:48
  to
• 0:49
  another
• 0:49
  episode
• 0:49
  of
• 0:49
  Adult
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  Child
• 0:50
  of
• 0:50
  Dysfunction.
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  Today
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  we
• 0:51
  have
• 0:51
  with
• 0:52
  us
• 0:52
  Sue
• 0:52
  Bowles.
• 0:53
  She
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  is
• 0:53
  on
• 0:54
  a
• 0:54
  mission
• 0:54
  to
• 0:54
  break
• 0:55
  the
• 0:55
  stigma
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  around
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  mental
• 0:56
  health.
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  Using
• 0:57
  her
• 0:57
  story
• 0:57
  of
• 0:58
  trauma
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  and
• 0:58
  redemption,
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  she
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  gets
• 0:59
  to
• 0:59
  the
• 1:00
  heart
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  of
• 1:00
  the
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  matter
• 1:00
  where
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  true
• 1:01
  change
• 1:02
  happens.
• 1:02
  She
• 1:02
  empowers
• 1:03
  others
• 1:03
  as
• 1:03
  a
• 1:04
  master
• 1:04
  life
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  and
• 1:04
  mental
• 1:05
  health
• 1:05
  coach,
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  author
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  and
• 1:06
  speaker.
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  Welcome,
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  Sue.
• 1:09
  Thanks
• 1:09
  for
• 1:10
  having
• 1:10
  me,
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  Tammy.
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  I'm
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  looking
• 1:11
  forward
• 1:11
  to
• 1:11
  this.
• 1:12
  Oh,
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  you're
• 1:12
  very
• 1:12
  welcome.
• 1:13
  You
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  know,
• 1:13
  it's
• 1:13
  funny
• 1:14
  because
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  that
• 1:14
  was
• 1:14
  like
• 1:14
  your
• 1:14
  short
• 1:15
  bio
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  and
• 1:15
  then
• 1:16
  it
• 1:16
  was
• 1:16
  fun.
• 1:16
  I
• 1:16
  looked
• 1:17
  back
• 1:17
  down
• 1:17
  and
• 1:17
  I
• 1:17
  started
• 1:18
  reading
• 1:18
  all
• 1:18
  your
• 1:18
  other
• 1:18
  stuff
• 1:19
  and
• 1:19
  I'm
• 1:19
  like,
• 1:19
  that
• 1:19
  gets
• 1:20
  to
• 1:20
  the
• 1:20
  heart
• 1:20
  of
• 1:20
  sue
• 1:21
  down
• 1:21
  here
• 1:21
  where
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  it
• 1:22
  says,
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  having
• 1:22
  done
• 1:23
  the
• 1:23
  hard
• 1:23
  work
• 1:23
  from
• 1:24
  healing
• 1:24
  from
• 1:24
  multiple
• 1:25
  traumas,
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  sue
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  now
• 1:26
  defines
• 1:27
  the
• 1:27
  effect
• 1:27
  of
• 1:27
  life
• 1:27
  offer.
• 1:28
  Life
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  altering
• 1:29
  events
• 1:30
  have
• 1:30
  on
• 1:30
  her.
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  The
• 1:31
  events
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  no
• 1:31
  longer
• 1:32
  define
• 1:32
  sue.
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  She
• 1:33
  defines
• 1:33
  them.
• 1:34
  That's
• 1:35
  when
• 1:35
  you.
• 1:35
  And
• 1:35
  we'll
• 1:35
  go
• 1:36
  into
• 1:36
  all
• 1:36
  this,
• 1:36
  but
• 1:36
  I
• 1:37
  was
• 1:37
  like,
• 1:37
  wow,
• 1:37
  that's
• 1:37
  a
• 1:38
  powerful
• 1:38
  bio
• 1:38
  down
• 1:39
  at
• 1:39
  the
• 1:39
  bottom.
• 1:40
  Sue
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  founded
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  My
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  Step
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  Ahead
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  and
• 1:42
  is
• 1:43
  chief
• 1:44
  instigator
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  behind
• 1:45
  the
• 1:45
  new
• 1:45
  Dare
• 1:46
  to
• 1:46
  Believe
• 1:46
  movement,
• 1:47
  nurturing
• 1:48
  others
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  to
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  dare
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  to
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  believe
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  that
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  you
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  matter.
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  I'm
• 1:50
  just
• 1:50
  going
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  to
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  jump
• 1:51
  right
• 1:51
  in
• 1:51
  and
• 1:51
  start
• 1:51
  to
• 1:52
  talk
• 1:52
  about
• 1:52
  that
• 1:52
  because
• 1:53
  nothing
• 1:53
  better
• 1:53
  than
• 1:53
  a
• 1:53
  movement
• 1:54
  going
• 1:54
  on
• 1:54
  with
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  something
• 1:55
  positive.
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  So
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  tell
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  us
• 1:56
  about
• 1:57
  that.
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  Sure.
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  I,
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  in
• 1:59
  my,
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  I've
• 2:00
  been
• 2:00
  on
• 2:00
  a
• 2:00
  healing
• 2:01
  journey
• 2:01
  for
• 2:01
  a
• 2:02
  long
• 2:02
  time
• 2:03
  and
• 2:03
  while
• 2:03
  we're
• 2:03
  getting
• 2:03
  to,
• 2:04
  we'll
• 2:04
  get
• 2:04
  into
• 2:04
  the
• 2:04
  backstory.
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  A
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  lot
• 2:06
  of
• 2:06
  my
• 2:06
  healing
• 2:06
  journey
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  really
• 2:07
  didn't
• 2:07
  start
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  earnest
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  until
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  2014.
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  So
• 2:09
  at
• 2:10
  the
• 2:10
  time
• 2:10
  we're
• 2:10
  recording
• 2:10
  this
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  just
• 2:11
  11
• 2:11
  and
• 2:11
  a
• 2:12
  half
• 2:12
  years
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  ago.
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  And
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  in
• 2:14
  the
• 2:15
  course
• 2:15
  of
• 2:15
  that,
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  it's
• 2:17
  been
• 2:17
  a
• 2:18
  lot
• 2:18
  through
• 2:18
  that
• 2:18
  and,
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  and
• 2:19
  I've,
• 2:19
  I've
• 2:20
  been
• 2:20
  able
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  to
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  narrow
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  it
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  down
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  to
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  one
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  core
• 2:23
  question
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  that
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  makes
• 2:24
  the
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  difference
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  for
• 2:25
  every
• 2:26
  person.
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  And
• 2:27
  the
• 2:27
  hard
• 2:28
  truth
• 2:28
  is
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  that
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  until
• 2:29
  someone
• 2:29
  can
• 2:30
  answer
• 2:30
  this
• 2:30
  question
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  in
• 2:31
  a
• 2:31
  positive,
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  that
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  bedrock,
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  affirmative
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  way,
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  permanent
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  life
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  change
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  cannot
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  and
• 2:36
  will
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  not
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  happen.
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  And
• 2:38
  that
• 2:38
  is
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  a
• 2:38
  heavy,
• 2:39
  all
• 2:39
  inclusive
• 2:40
  statement.
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  And
• 2:41
  when
• 2:41
  I
• 2:41
  ask
• 2:41
  this
• 2:41
  question,
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  you
• 2:42
  will
• 2:42
  understand
• 2:43
  the
• 2:43
  weight
• 2:43
  of
• 2:43
  it.
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  The
• 2:44
  question
• 2:44
  is
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  simply
• 2:45
  this.
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  Do
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  you
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  believe
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  that
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  you
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  matter?
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  Because
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  yes,
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  it's
• 2:52
  important
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  that
• 2:53
  others
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  believe
• 2:54
  in
• 2:54
  you.
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  But
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  until
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  you
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  can
• 2:57
  say
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  it
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  yourself,
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  yes,
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  I,
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  I
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  believe
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  in
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  me.
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  That's
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  where
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  change
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  happens.
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  Because
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  when
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  you
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  believe
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  in
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  yourself,
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  that's
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  when
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  you
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  show
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  up
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  for
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  yourself.
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  Be
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  that
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  in
• 3:09
  whatever
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  way
• 3:09
  that
• 3:09
  looks,
• 3:10
  boundaries,
• 3:11
  communication,
• 3:12
  maybe
• 3:13
  counseling
• 3:13
  or
• 3:13
  seeing
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  a
• 3:14
  life
• 3:14
  coach
• 3:15
  or
• 3:15
  whatever
• 3:15
  it
• 3:16
  takes
• 3:17
  to
• 3:18
  get
• 3:19
  where
• 3:19
  you
• 3:19
  want
• 3:19
  to
• 3:20
  do,
• 3:20
  whatever
• 3:20
  it
• 3:21
  takes
• 3:21
  to
• 3:21
  get
• 3:21
  where
• 3:22
  you
• 3:22
  want
• 3:22
  to
• 3:22
  go.
• 3:24
  All
• 3:24
  of
• 3:24
  that
• 3:25
  is
• 3:26
  summarized
• 3:26
  in
• 3:26
  how
• 3:27
  you
• 3:27
  answer
• 3:27
  that.
• 3:27
  Question.
• 3:28
  I
• 3:29
  was
• 3:29
  on
• 3:29
  with
• 3:29
  a
• 3:29
  client
• 3:29
  this
• 3:30
  week
• 3:30
  and
• 3:30
  I
• 3:30
  asked
• 3:30
  her
• 3:30
  that
• 3:31
  question
• 3:31
  and
• 3:32
  she,
• 3:32
  she
• 3:32
  thought
• 3:32
  a
• 3:32
  minute,
• 3:33
  she
• 3:33
  said,
• 3:34
  I
• 3:34
  do.
• 3:36
  That
• 3:36
  hesitation
• 3:37
  though,
• 3:38
  was
• 3:38
  revealing.
• 3:39
  And
• 3:40
  that's
• 3:40
  what
• 3:40
  we're
• 3:41
  digging
• 3:41
  into,
• 3:42
  you
• 3:42
  know,
• 3:42
  as
• 3:42
  a
• 3:42
  coaching
• 3:43
  client,
• 3:44
  because
• 3:45
  other
• 3:45
  people
• 3:45
  say,
• 3:45
  yes,
• 3:46
  I
• 3:46
  believe
• 3:46
  I
• 3:46
  matter.
• 3:47
  How
• 3:48
  it
• 3:48
  shows
• 3:48
  up.
• 3:48
  Boom,
• 3:48
  boom,
• 3:49
  boom.
• 3:49
  So
• 3:49
  the
• 3:50
  Dare
• 3:50
  to
• 3:50
  Believe
• 3:50
  movement
• 3:51
  is
• 3:51
  all
• 3:52
  about,
• 3:52
  about
• 3:53
  asking
• 3:53
  people
• 3:54
  and
• 3:54
  empowering
• 3:55
  people
• 3:56
  and
• 3:56
  encouraging
• 3:57
  people
• 3:57
  and
• 3:57
  equipping
• 3:58
  people
• 3:58
  is
• 3:58
  the
• 3:58
  better
• 3:59
  way
• 3:59
  to
• 4:00
  deal
• 4:01
  with
• 4:01
  those
• 4:01
  questions.
• 4:02
  So
• 4:02
  the
• 4:02
  website
• 4:02
  daretobelievemovement.com
• 4:05
  is
• 4:06
  designed
• 4:06
  for
• 4:06
  people
• 4:07
  to
• 4:07
  kind
• 4:08
  of
• 4:08
  do
• 4:08
  some
• 4:08
  self
• 4:09
  work.
• 4:09
  There
• 4:10
  are
• 4:10
  a
• 4:10
  lot
• 4:10
  of
• 4:11
  free
• 4:11
  articles
• 4:12
  and,
• 4:12
  and
• 4:13
  downloads
• 4:13
  on
• 4:14
  there,
• 4:14
  worksheets
• 4:15
  to
• 4:15
  kind
• 4:16
  of
• 4:16
  start
• 4:16
  dealing
• 4:17
  with
• 4:17
  fear
• 4:18
  and
• 4:18
  imposter
• 4:19
  syndrome
• 4:19
  and
• 4:20
  selft
• 4:20
  talk
• 4:20
  and
• 4:21
  boundaries
• 4:21
  and
• 4:22
  all
• 4:22
  these
• 4:22
  things
• 4:24
  that
• 4:24
  can
• 4:24
  get
• 4:24
  in
• 4:25
  the
• 4:25
  way
• 4:26
  of
• 4:26
  being
• 4:26
  able
• 4:27
  to
• 4:27
  answer
• 4:27
  that
• 4:27
  question.
• 4:28
  Yes.
• 4:29
  And
• 4:29
  it's
• 4:29
  designed
• 4:30
  so
• 4:30
  that
• 4:30
  people
• 4:31
  maybe
• 4:31
  they're
• 4:31
  not
• 4:31
  quite
• 4:32
  ready
• 4:32
  to
• 4:32
  contact
• 4:33
  a
• 4:33
  life
• 4:33
  coach
• 4:33
  or
• 4:34
  contact
• 4:34
  a
• 4:34
  counselor
• 4:35
  or
• 4:35
  for
• 4:35
  some
• 4:36
  reason
• 4:36
  they
• 4:36
  feel,
• 4:36
  oh,
• 4:36
  I
• 4:36
  don't
• 4:37
  need
• 4:37
  this,
• 4:37
  but
• 4:37
  I
• 4:37
  still
• 4:38
  have
• 4:38
  this
• 4:38
  issue.
• 4:38
  That's
• 4:39
  great.
• 4:39
  Not
• 4:39
  everybody,
• 4:39
  you
• 4:40
  know,
• 4:40
  needs
• 4:41
  to,
• 4:41
  needs
• 4:41
  to
• 4:42
  solicit
• 4:42
  that
• 4:42
  extra
• 4:43
  help,
• 4:44
  but
• 4:44
  sometimes
• 4:44
  we
• 4:45
  all
• 4:45
  still
• 4:45
  need
• 4:45
  support.
• 4:45
  And
• 4:46
  that's
• 4:46
  what
• 4:46
  that
• 4:46
  website
• 4:46
  is
• 4:46
  all
• 4:47
  designed
• 4:47
  to
• 4:47
  be.
• 4:48
  That's
• 4:48
  awesome.
• 4:48
  And
• 4:49
  just
• 4:49
  the,
• 4:50
  the
• 4:50
  fact
• 4:50
  that
• 4:51
  some
• 4:51
  people
• 4:51
  can
• 4:51
  answer
• 4:52
  it
• 4:52
  so
• 4:52
  quickly.
• 4:53
  Like
• 4:53
  when
• 4:53
  you
• 4:53
  say,
• 4:53
  you
• 4:53
  know,
• 4:54
  when
• 4:54
  you
• 4:54
  said
• 4:54
  to
• 4:54
  me,
• 4:54
  do
• 4:54
  you
• 4:54
  matter?
• 4:55
  I'm
• 4:55
  like,
• 4:55
  of
• 4:55
  course
• 4:55
  I
• 4:55
  do.
• 4:56
  Like,
• 4:57
  you
• 4:58
  know,
• 4:58
  there's
• 4:58
  no
• 4:58
  hesitation.
• 4:59
  Like
• 4:59
  you
• 4:59
  said,
• 5:00
  I
• 5:00
  also
• 5:00
  have
• 5:01
  my
• 5:01
  clients.
• 5:01
  Sometimes,
• 5:02
  you
• 5:02
  know,
• 5:02
  it's
• 5:02
  the
• 5:02
  same
• 5:02
  thing.
• 5:03
  There's
• 5:03
  that
• 5:03
  psychologist
• 5:04
  that
• 5:04
  always
• 5:04
  says,
• 5:04
  you
• 5:05
  know,
• 5:05
  you
• 5:05
  can
• 5:05
  trick
• 5:05
  your
• 5:06
  mind
• 5:06
  and
• 5:06
  I
• 5:06
  say
• 5:07
  the
• 5:07
  same
• 5:07
  thing,
• 5:07
  but
• 5:07
  you
• 5:07
  can't
• 5:08
  trick
• 5:08
  your
• 5:08
  body.
• 5:08
  So,
• 5:09
  so
• 5:09
  say
• 5:09
  those
• 5:10
  words
• 5:10
  to
• 5:10
  yourself,
• 5:11
  like,
• 5:11
  picture
• 5:11
  your
• 5:12
  best
• 5:12
  favorite
• 5:13
  food
• 5:13
  in
• 5:13
  the
• 5:13
  whole
• 5:13
  world.
• 5:14
  And
• 5:14
  how
• 5:14
  does
• 5:14
  that,
• 5:14
  you
• 5:15
  know,
• 5:15
  how
• 5:15
  does
• 5:15
  that
• 5:15
  make
• 5:15
  you
• 5:16
  feel?
• 5:16
  Makes
• 5:17
  you
• 5:17
  feel
• 5:17
  warm
• 5:17
  and
• 5:17
  fuzzy.
• 5:18
  And
• 5:18
  then
• 5:19
  say
• 5:19
  to
• 5:19
  yourself,
• 5:19
  I
• 5:20
  deserve
• 5:20
  all
• 5:20
  good
• 5:21
  things.
• 5:21
  And
• 5:22
  then
• 5:22
  sit
• 5:22
  with
• 5:22
  that.
• 5:23
  So
• 5:23
  in
• 5:23
  your
• 5:24
  case,
• 5:24
  you
• 5:24
  could
• 5:24
  do
• 5:24
  that
• 5:24
  as
• 5:25
  a
• 5:25
  test
• 5:25
  for
• 5:25
  all
• 5:25
  of
• 5:25
  your
• 5:26
  clients.
• 5:26
  Just
• 5:26
  say
• 5:27
  to
• 5:27
  yourself,
• 5:28
  I
• 5:28
  matter.
• 5:30
  And,
• 5:31
  and,
• 5:31
  and
• 5:31
  feel
• 5:32
  it
• 5:32
  in
• 5:32
  your
• 5:32
  body.
• 5:32
  Because
• 5:33
  if
• 5:33
  you
• 5:33
  don't
• 5:33
  truly
• 5:34
  believe
• 5:34
  it,
• 5:34
  even
• 5:34
  if
• 5:34
  you
• 5:35
  think
• 5:35
  you
• 5:35
  do
• 5:35
  on
• 5:35
  a
• 5:35
  superficial
• 5:36
  level,
• 5:37
  if
• 5:37
  you
• 5:37
  don't
• 5:37
  truly
• 5:37
  believe
• 5:38
  it,
• 5:38
  you're
• 5:38
  going
• 5:38
  to
• 5:38
  get
• 5:38
  a
• 5:39
  gut
• 5:39
  punch
• 5:39
  or
• 5:39
  a
• 5:39
  clench
• 5:40
  in
• 5:40
  your
• 5:40
  jaw
• 5:40
  or
• 5:41
  your
• 5:41
  shoulders
• 5:42
  are
• 5:42
  going
• 5:42
  to
• 5:42
  tighten
• 5:42
  or
• 5:43
  something
• 5:43
  is
• 5:43
  going
• 5:43
  to
• 5:44
  happen.
• 5:45
  So
• 5:46
  because
• 5:46
  you
• 5:46
  can't
• 5:47
  fool
• 5:47
  your
• 5:47
  body.
• 5:47
  And
• 5:48
  sometimes
• 5:48
  just
• 5:49
  asking
• 5:49
  that
• 5:49
  simple
• 5:50
  question,
• 5:50
  I'm
• 5:50
  sure
• 5:50
  makes
• 5:51
  people
• 5:51
  go,
• 5:51
  yeah,
• 5:52
  I
• 5:52
  matter.
• 5:52
  But
• 5:53
  it's
• 5:53
  like,
• 5:53
  well,
• 5:53
  if
• 5:53
  your
• 5:53
  shoulders
• 5:54
  just
• 5:54
  went
• 5:54
  up,
• 5:55
  you
• 5:55
  definitely
• 5:56
  have
• 5:56
  some
• 5:56
  hesitation
• 5:56
  or
• 5:57
  some.
• 5:59
  Yeah,
• 5:59
  I
• 6:00
  kind
• 6:00
  of
• 6:00
  do.
• 6:01
  But,
• 6:01
  yeah,
• 6:02
  no,
• 6:02
  and
• 6:02
  that's.
• 6:03
  Go
• 6:03
  ahead.
• 6:05
  In
• 6:05
  the
• 6:05
  case
• 6:05
  of
• 6:05
  my
• 6:05
  client
• 6:06
  on
• 6:06
  client
• 6:07
  this
• 6:07
  week,
• 6:07
  when
• 6:08
  I
• 6:08
  asked
• 6:08
  that
• 6:08
  question,
• 6:08
  there
• 6:08
  was
• 6:09
  that
• 6:09
  hesitation
• 6:10
  and
• 6:10
  the
• 6:10
  answer
• 6:10
  was
• 6:12
  I
• 6:12
  do,
• 6:14
  but.
• 6:16
  Then
• 6:16
  there
• 6:16
  was
• 6:17
  the.
• 6:17
  But
• 6:17
  I
• 6:18
  still
• 6:18
  struggle
• 6:18
  with
• 6:19
  okay.
• 6:19
  And
• 6:20
  I
• 6:20
  said,
• 6:20
  and
• 6:20
  that's
• 6:20
  what
• 6:21
  we're
• 6:21
  going
• 6:21
  to
• 6:21
  work
• 6:22
  on.
• 6:22
  Because
• 6:23
  when
• 6:23
  you,
• 6:24
  when
• 6:24
  you
• 6:24
  can
• 6:24
  answer
• 6:25
  that
• 6:25
  question
• 6:26
  said
• 6:26
  positive,
• 6:27
  affirmative,
• 6:28
  bedrock
• 6:29
  way.
• 6:30
  And
• 6:31
  she
• 6:31
  doesn't
• 6:31
  have
• 6:31
  the
• 6:32
  bedrock
• 6:32
  yet.
• 6:33
  She,
• 6:33
  she's
• 6:33
  got
• 6:34
  that
• 6:34
  foundation,
• 6:34
  but
• 6:34
  it's
• 6:35
  still
• 6:35
  getting
• 6:35
  solid
• 6:35
  because
• 6:36
  there's
• 6:36
  still
• 6:36
  the
• 6:36
  chattering
• 6:37
  going
• 6:37
  on
• 6:37
  in
• 6:37
  the
• 6:38
  mind.
• 6:38
  And
• 6:38
  that's,
• 6:39
  that's
• 6:39
  what,
• 6:39
  what
• 6:39
  she
• 6:40
  and
• 6:40
  I
• 6:40
  are
• 6:40
  working
• 6:40
  on.
• 6:41
  That's
• 6:41
  the
• 6:41
  power
• 6:42
  of
• 6:42
  that
• 6:42
  question
• 6:42
  that
• 6:43
  gets
• 6:43
  to
• 6:43
  the
• 6:43
  core
• 6:44
  to
• 6:44
  be
• 6:44
  able
• 6:45
  to
• 6:45
  identify
• 6:45
  what
• 6:46
  are
• 6:46
  the
• 6:46
  hurdles,
• 6:47
  what
• 6:47
  are
• 6:47
  the
• 6:47
  obstacles,
• 6:48
  what
• 6:48
  are
• 6:48
  the
• 6:49
  struggles,
• 6:49
  the
• 6:50
  remnants
• 6:50
  of
• 6:51
  life
• 6:51
  experience
• 6:52
  that
• 6:52
  are
• 6:53
  still
• 6:53
  getting
• 6:53
  in
• 6:53
  the
• 6:53
  way
• 6:54
  it.
• 6:54
  And
• 6:54
  because
• 6:55
  that's
• 6:55
  what
• 6:56
  we
• 6:56
  want
• 6:56
  to
• 6:56
  deal
• 6:56
  with.
• 6:56
  Because
• 6:57
  until
• 6:57
  you
• 6:58
  can
• 6:58
  answer
• 6:58
  that
• 6:58
  question
• 6:59
  in
• 7:00
  that
• 7:00
  manner,
• 7:00
  positive,
• 7:01
  affirmative,
• 7:02
  bedrock,
• 7:03
  you
• 7:04
  might.
• 7:04
  It's
• 7:04
  going
• 7:04
  to
• 7:04
  be
• 7:04
  herky
• 7:05
  jerky.
• 7:05
  You
• 7:05
  might
• 7:05
  make
• 7:05
  progress
• 7:06
  for
• 7:06
  a
• 7:06
  while.
• 7:07
  Then
• 7:07
  that
• 7:07
  selft
• 7:08
  talk
• 7:08
  or
• 7:08
  whatever,
• 7:08
  this
• 7:09
  chatter
• 7:09
  is
• 7:09
  going
• 7:09
  to
• 7:09
  come
• 7:09
  back.
• 7:10
  Then
• 7:10
  you
• 7:10
  go
• 7:10
  and
• 7:11
  it's
• 7:11
  going
• 7:11
  to
• 7:11
  be
• 7:12
  push
• 7:12
  me
• 7:13
  for.
• 7:13
  For
• 7:13
  you.
• 7:14
  That's,
• 7:14
  that's
• 7:14
  what
• 7:14
  I
• 7:14
  mean
• 7:15
  by
• 7:15
  that.
• 7:15
  I
• 7:15
  mean,
• 7:15
  at
• 7:15
  the
• 7:16
  end
• 7:16
  of
• 7:16
  the
• 7:16
  day,
• 7:16
  the
• 7:16
  selft
• 7:16
  talk
• 7:17
  is
• 7:17
  your
• 7:17
  subconscious,
• 7:18
  and
• 7:18
  that's
• 7:18
  where
• 7:19
  the
• 7:19
  true,
• 7:19
  true
• 7:21
  thinking
• 7:21
  is.
• 7:21
  That's
• 7:21
  where
• 7:22
  the
• 7:22
  true.
• 7:22
  Not
• 7:22
  the
• 7:22
  true
• 7:22
  thinking,
• 7:23
  but
• 7:23
  the
• 7:23
  true
• 7:23
  belief
• 7:24
  is.
• 7:24
  So
• 7:25
  until
• 7:25
  you
• 7:25
  can
• 7:26
  make
• 7:26
  that
• 7:26
  rise
• 7:27
  and
• 7:27
  change
• 7:27
  that
• 7:28
  level.
• 7:28
  Yeah,
• 7:29
  you're
• 7:29
  right.
• 7:29
  I
• 7:30
  call
• 7:30
  it,
• 7:30
  I
• 7:30
  just
• 7:30
  call
• 7:30
  it
• 7:31
  the
• 7:31
  not
• 7:31
  enough.
• 7:32
  So
• 7:32
  it's
• 7:32
  like,
• 7:32
  you
• 7:32
  know,
• 7:32
  people
• 7:33
  in
• 7:33
  my,
• 7:34
  my
• 7:34
  niche,
• 7:34
  or
• 7:35
  I
• 7:35
  guess
• 7:35
  you
• 7:35
  could
• 7:35
  say
• 7:35
  my,
• 7:36
  my
• 7:36
  village,
• 7:36
  my
• 7:37
  tribe,
• 7:37
  whatever
• 7:37
  it
• 7:37
  is.
• 7:38
  I
• 7:38
  started
• 7:38
  primarily
• 7:39
  with
• 7:39
  adult
• 7:39
  children
• 7:40
  of
• 7:40
  alcoholics,
• 7:41
  and
• 7:41
  now
• 7:41
  it's
• 7:41
  adult
• 7:42
  children
• 7:42
  of
• 7:42
  alcoholics
• 7:43
  and
• 7:43
  dysfunctional
• 7:43
  families,
• 7:44
  hence
• 7:44
  the
• 7:44
  podcast
• 7:45
  name.
• 7:46
  And.
• 7:46
  But
• 7:47
  the
• 7:47
  underlying
• 7:48
  result
• 7:48
  is
• 7:49
  all
• 7:49
  the
• 7:49
  same.
• 7:49
  People
• 7:50
  just
• 7:50
  don't
• 7:50
  feel
• 7:51
  worthy.
• 7:51
  They
• 7:51
  just
• 7:51
  don't
• 7:52
  feel
• 7:52
  good
• 7:52
  enough,
• 7:52
  smart
• 7:53
  enough,
• 7:53
  pretty
• 7:53
  enough,
• 7:53
  fun
• 7:54
  enough,
• 7:54
  happy
• 7:54
  enough,
• 7:55
  whatever
• 7:55
  it
• 7:55
  is.
• 7:55
  They
• 7:56
  just
• 7:56
  have
• 7:56
  the
• 7:56
  not
• 7:56
  enough.
• 7:57
  And
• 7:58
  you're
• 7:58
  right.
• 7:58
  Until
• 7:59
  they
• 7:59
  can
• 7:59
  fully
• 8:00
  embrace
• 8:00
  that
• 8:01
  and
• 8:02
  with
• 8:02
  no
• 8:03
  hesitation
• 8:03
  and
• 8:04
  no
• 8:04
  physiological
• 8:05
  response
• 8:06
  to
• 8:06
  saying
• 8:07
  how
• 8:07
  I
• 8:07
  matter,
• 8:08
  like
• 8:08
  I
• 8:08
  really
• 8:08
  matter.
• 8:09
  That's.
• 8:10
  That's
• 8:10
  an
• 8:10
  amazing,
• 8:10
  amazing
• 8:11
  movement
• 8:11
  and
• 8:11
  I
• 8:12
  love
• 8:12
  that.
• 8:12
  So
• 8:13
  what
• 8:13
  was
• 8:13
  your
• 8:14
  biggest,
• 8:15
  I
• 8:16
  guess,
• 8:16
  in
• 8:16
  your
• 8:17
  healing?
• 8:18
  Was
• 8:19
  it.
• 8:19
  Did
• 8:19
  it
• 8:19
  start
• 8:19
  later?
• 8:20
  Your,
• 8:21
  I
• 8:21
  guess,
• 8:21
  adversity
• 8:22
  that
• 8:22
  you
• 8:22
  had
• 8:22
  to
• 8:23
  heal
• 8:23
  from?
• 8:23
  Or
• 8:23
  did
• 8:24
  that
• 8:24
  start
• 8:24
  very
• 8:24
  young?
• 8:26
  Oh,
• 8:26
  it
• 8:27
  started
• 8:27
  really
• 8:27
  young.
• 8:27
  Like
• 8:28
  age
• 8:28
  7.
• 8:29
  Okay.
• 8:29
  I
• 8:29
  am
• 8:30
  a
• 8:30
  child.
• 8:30
  I'm
• 8:30
  a
• 8:30
  childhood
• 8:31
  rape
• 8:31
  survivor.
• 8:32
  I
• 8:32
  was
• 8:32
  raped
• 8:32
  by
• 8:32
  a
• 8:33
  classmate
• 8:33
  when
• 8:33
  I
• 8:33
  was
• 8:33
  seven
• 8:34
  years
• 8:34
  old,
• 8:35
  and
• 8:35
  I
• 8:35
  kept
• 8:36
  a
• 8:36
  senior
• 8:37
  secret
• 8:38
  by
• 8:38
  a
• 8:38
  classmate
• 8:39
  at
• 8:39
  7.
• 8:40
  Yes.
• 8:41
  After
• 8:41
  school
• 8:41
  one
• 8:41
  day,
• 8:42
  held
• 8:42
  against
• 8:42
  my
• 8:42
  will
• 8:43
  for
• 8:43
  45
• 8:43
  minutes,
• 8:44
  and
• 8:45
  I
• 8:45
  didn't
• 8:45
  tell
• 8:45
  anybody
• 8:46
  for
• 8:46
  15
• 8:47
  years
• 8:47
  until
• 8:47
  my
• 8:47
  senior
• 8:48
  year
• 8:48
  of
• 8:48
  college.
• 8:49
  So
• 8:50
  you
• 8:50
  can
• 8:50
  only
• 8:50
  imagine.
• 8:51
  And
• 8:52
  then,
• 8:52
  yes,
• 8:53
  there
• 8:53
  was
• 8:53
  other
• 8:53
  sexual
• 8:54
  abuse
• 8:54
  that
• 8:54
  happened
• 8:55
  in
• 8:55
  between
• 8:55
  there
• 8:55
  from
• 8:55
  a
• 8:56
  neighborhood
• 8:56
  kid.
• 8:57
  Ultimately,
• 8:58
  I
• 8:58
  was
• 8:58
  raised
• 8:59
  in
• 8:59
  an
• 8:59
  alcoholic,
• 9:00
  dysfunctional,
• 9:00
  emotionally
• 9:01
  abusive
• 9:01
  home.
• 9:02
  Did
• 9:03
  an
• 9:03
  intervention
• 9:03
  on
• 9:03
  dad.
• 9:04
  Mom
• 9:04
  and
• 9:04
  dad
• 9:04
  divorced
• 9:05
  after
• 9:05
  34
• 9:05
  years
• 9:06
  of
• 9:06
  marriage
• 9:08
  in
• 9:08
  the
• 9:08
  course
• 9:08
  of
• 9:09
  all
• 9:09
  that,
• 9:09
  and
• 9:10
  I
• 9:10
  know
• 9:10
  that
• 9:10
  goes
• 9:11
  past
• 9:11
  high
• 9:11
  school,
• 9:11
  but
• 9:13
  I
• 9:13
  developed
• 9:14
  an
• 9:14
  eating
• 9:14
  disorder.
• 9:14
  I'm
• 9:15
  in
• 9:15
  recovery
• 9:15
  from
• 9:15
  an
• 9:15
  eating
• 9:16
  disorder.
• 9:17
  I've
• 9:17
  struggled
• 9:18
  with
• 9:18
  depression.
• 9:18
  I've
• 9:18
  struggled
• 9:19
  twice.
• 9:20
  I've
• 9:20
  considered
• 9:20
  ending
• 9:20
  my
• 9:21
  life.
• 9:22
  I've
• 9:23
  dabbled
• 9:23
  in
• 9:23
  cutting.
• 9:23
  So
• 9:24
  there's
• 9:24
  been
• 9:24
  a
• 9:24
  whole
• 9:25
  gamut.
• 9:27
  And
• 9:27
  I
• 9:27
  am
• 9:27
  here
• 9:28
  now
• 9:28
  leading
• 9:28
  the
• 9:29
  Dare
• 9:29
  to
• 9:29
  Believe
• 9:29
  movement.
• 9:30
  So
• 9:32
  what?
• 9:34
  It
• 9:34
  took
• 9:35
  a
• 9:35
  long
• 9:35
  time
• 9:36
  to
• 9:37
  not.
• 9:38
  It's
• 9:38
  actually
• 9:38
  something
• 9:38
  my
• 9:38
  counselor
• 9:39
  and
• 9:39
  I
• 9:39
  are
• 9:39
  talking
• 9:39
  through
• 9:40
  right
• 9:40
  now
• 9:40
  that's
• 9:40
  been
• 9:41
  really
• 9:41
  powerful
• 9:42
  is
• 9:43
  that
• 9:43
  I
• 9:43
  had
• 9:44
  taken
• 9:44
  on
• 9:44
  an
• 9:44
  identity
• 9:45
  of
• 9:45
  hurt,
• 9:46
  and
• 9:46
  I'd
• 9:47
  not
• 9:47
  thought
• 9:47
  of
• 9:47
  it
• 9:48
  that
• 9:48
  way
• 9:48
  before,
• 9:49
  and
• 9:49
  that's
• 9:50
  been
• 9:50
  really
• 9:50
  revolutionary
• 9:51
  for
• 9:51
  me.
• 9:52
  And
• 9:52
  so
• 9:52
  we're
• 9:52
  only,
• 9:52
  like,
• 9:52
  six
• 9:53
  weeks
• 9:53
  into
• 9:53
  this,
• 9:54
  and
• 9:54
  I'm
• 9:54
  like,
• 9:55
  that
• 9:55
  has
• 9:55
  just
• 9:55
  really
• 9:56
  rocked
• 9:56
  my
• 9:57
  world.
• 9:57
  And
• 9:57
  it
• 9:57
  is
• 9:58
  so
• 9:58
  true.
• 10:00
  And
• 10:01
  so
• 10:01
  while
• 10:01
  I
• 10:02
  say
• 10:02
  I
• 10:02
  define
• 10:03
  the
• 10:03
  effects.
• 10:03
  Yes.
• 10:04
  It
• 10:04
  doesn't
• 10:05
  mean
• 10:05
  the
• 10:05
  effects
• 10:05
  aren't
• 10:05
  still
• 10:06
  lingering.
• 10:07
  And
• 10:09
  my
• 10:09
  healing
• 10:09
  has
• 10:10
  been
• 10:10
  so
• 10:10
  deep
• 10:11
  and
• 10:11
  so
• 10:11
  profound
• 10:13
  to
• 10:13
  get
• 10:13
  me
• 10:14
  to
• 10:14
  the
• 10:14
  point
• 10:14
  of
• 10:14
  being
• 10:15
  able
• 10:15
  to
• 10:15
  say,
• 10:15
  yes,
• 10:15
  I
• 10:16
  believe
• 10:16
  I
• 10:16
  matter,
• 10:17
  and
• 10:17
  I
• 10:17
  believe
• 10:17
  I
• 10:17
  matter
• 10:18
  so
• 10:18
  much
• 10:18
  that
• 10:18
  I'm
• 10:18
  out
• 10:18
  doing
• 10:19
  this
• 10:19
  and
• 10:19
  bringing
• 10:19
  other
• 10:20
  people
• 10:20
  along
• 10:20
  for
• 10:20
  the
• 10:21
  ride.
• 10:21
  Yeah.
• 10:21
  It
• 10:22
  doesn't
• 10:22
  mean
• 10:22
  I
• 10:22
  don't
• 10:22
  struggle.
• 10:23
  It
• 10:24
  means
• 10:24
  I
• 10:24
  have
• 10:24
  a
• 10:24
  support
• 10:25
  team.
• 10:26
  I
• 10:26
  have
• 10:26
  great
• 10:26
  support,
• 10:27
  and
• 10:27
  I
• 10:27
  have
• 10:28
  the
• 10:28
  right
• 10:28
  resources
• 10:29
  that
• 10:29
  support
• 10:30
  me
• 10:30
  while
• 10:31
  I
• 10:31
  keep
• 10:31
  moving.
• 10:31
  You
• 10:32
  mentioned
• 10:32
  earlier
• 10:32
  about
• 10:32
  my
• 10:32
  step
• 10:33
  ahead.
• 10:33
  It's
• 10:34
  the
• 10:34
  business
• 10:34
  name,
• 10:35
  and
• 10:35
  the
• 10:35
  concept
• 10:35
  behind
• 10:36
  that
• 10:36
  is
• 10:36
  you
• 10:37
  only
• 10:37
  have
• 10:37
  to
• 10:37
  be
• 10:37
  a
• 10:37
  step
• 10:38
  ahead
• 10:38
  to
• 10:38
  help
• 10:38
  the
• 10:38
  person
• 10:39
  behind
• 10:39
  you.
• 10:40
  I'm
• 10:40
  reaching
• 10:40
  back
• 10:41
  to
• 10:41
  my
• 10:41
  counselor
• 10:41
  to
• 10:42
  keep
• 10:42
  dealing
• 10:42
  with
• 10:42
  remnants.
• 10:44
  Excuse
• 10:45
  me
• 10:45
  while
• 10:46
  I
• 10:46
  can
• 10:46
  reach
• 10:47
  back
• 10:47
  to
• 10:47
  someone
• 10:48
  else
• 10:48
  who's
• 10:48
  still
• 10:49
  starting
• 10:49
  their
• 10:50
  healing
• 10:50
  journey.
• 10:51
  And
• 10:51
  together,
• 10:51
  we
• 10:52
  have
• 10:52
  a
• 10:53
  human
• 10:53
  chain
• 10:53
  of
• 10:53
  support.
• 10:54
  That's
• 10:55
  the
• 10:55
  power
• 10:55
  of
• 10:55
  my
• 10:56
  step
• 10:56
  ahead.
• 10:57
  Because
• 10:57
  oftentimes
• 10:58
  when
• 10:58
  we
• 10:58
  are
• 10:58
  hurt,
• 10:59
  when
• 10:59
  we
• 10:59
  are
• 11:00
  broken,
• 11:01
  wounded,
• 11:01
  recovering,
• 11:02
  trying
• 11:03
  to
• 11:03
  figure
• 11:03
  out,
• 11:03
  who
• 11:03
  the
• 11:04
  heck
• 11:04
  am
• 11:04
  I
• 11:04
  now?
• 11:04
  That.
• 11:05
  Fill
• 11:05
  in
• 11:05
  the
• 11:06
  blank.
• 11:06
  Right.
• 11:08
  With
• 11:08
  that,
• 11:09
  we
• 11:09
  tend
• 11:10
  to
• 11:10
  think,
• 11:10
  well,
• 11:11
  I
• 11:11
  have
• 11:11
  nothing
• 11:11
  to
• 11:11
  offer
• 11:12
  anybody.
• 11:12
  I
• 11:13
  don't
• 11:13
  have
• 11:13
  it
• 11:13
  figured
• 11:13
  out.
• 11:14
  I'm
• 11:14
  hurting
• 11:15
  myself.
• 11:15
  I'm
• 11:15
  still
• 11:16
  broke,
• 11:16
  and
• 11:16
  I'm
• 11:16
  still
• 11:17
  angry,
• 11:17
  and
• 11:17
  I'm
• 11:18
  messed
• 11:18
  up.
• 11:18
  And
• 11:18
  all
• 11:18
  this
• 11:18
  is
• 11:19
  all
• 11:19
  affecting
• 11:19
  me.
• 11:20
  How
• 11:20
  can
• 11:20
  I
• 11:20
  help
• 11:20
  somebody
• 11:21
  else
• 11:21
  when
• 11:21
  I
• 11:21
  don't
• 11:21
  even
• 11:22
  have
• 11:22
  my
• 11:22
  own
• 11:22
  craft
• 11:22
  together?
• 11:24
  And
• 11:24
  the
• 11:24
  power
• 11:24
  is
• 11:25
  that
• 11:25
  you
• 11:26
  have
• 11:26
  lived
• 11:27
  life
• 11:27
  experience,
• 11:29
  some
• 11:30
  people
• 11:30
  may
• 11:30
  say,
• 11:31
  meaning
• 11:31
  they've
• 11:31
  had
• 11:32
  a
• 11:32
  meaningful
• 11:32
  life
• 11:32
  experience.
• 11:33
  But
• 11:33
  every
• 11:33
  life
• 11:34
  experience
• 11:34
  is
• 11:34
  meaningful.
• 11:35
  Every
• 11:36
  single
• 11:36
  one.
• 11:36
  While
• 11:36
  you
• 11:37
  are
• 11:37
  still
• 11:37
  figuring
• 11:38
  out
• 11:38
  your
• 11:38
  stuff
• 11:39
  and
• 11:39
  finding
• 11:40
  your
• 11:40
  new
• 11:41
  identity
• 11:41
  after
• 11:42
  the
• 11:42
  trauma
• 11:43
  and
• 11:43
  the
• 11:43
  healing
• 11:44
  and
• 11:44
  discovering,
• 11:45
  this
• 11:45
  is
• 11:45
  who
• 11:45
  I
• 11:45
  am,
• 11:46
  and
• 11:46
  this
• 11:46
  is
• 11:46
  why
• 11:47
  I
• 11:47
  matter,
• 11:48
  you
• 11:48
  can
• 11:49
  still
• 11:49
  take
• 11:49
  what
• 11:49
  you
• 11:50
  have
• 11:50
  learned
• 11:50
  up
• 11:50
  to
• 11:50
  now
• 11:51
  and
• 11:51
  help
• 11:52
  somebody
• 11:52
  else
• 11:52
  who's
• 11:53
  just
• 11:53
  starting
• 11:53
  their
• 11:53
  journey.
• 11:55
  That's
• 11:55
  the
• 11:55
  power
• 11:55
  of
• 11:56
  my
• 11:56
  step
• 11:56
  ahead.
• 11:57
  That's
• 11:57
  how
• 11:57
  we
• 11:57
  break
• 11:58
  the
• 11:58
  stigma
• 11:58
  around
• 11:58
  mental
• 11:59
  health,
• 11:59
  is
• 11:59
  that
• 11:59
  you
• 11:59
  don't
• 12:00
  have
• 12:00
  to
• 12:00
  have
• 12:00
  it
• 12:00
  all
• 12:00
  figured
• 12:01
  out.
• 12:01
  You
• 12:01
  only
• 12:02
  have
• 12:02
  to
• 12:02
  be
• 12:02
  a
• 12:02
  step
• 12:02
  ahead.
• 12:03
  I
• 12:04
  love
• 12:04
  that.
• 12:05
  I
• 12:05
  love
• 12:05
  that.
• 12:06
  And
• 12:06
  you
• 12:06
  know,
• 12:07
  it's
• 12:07
  funny,
• 12:07
  because
• 12:07
  I
• 12:08
  didn't.
• 12:08
  Not
• 12:08
  that
• 12:08
  I
• 12:08
  took
• 12:09
  a
• 12:09
  while
• 12:09
  to
• 12:09
  embrace
• 12:09
  that
• 12:10
  concept,
• 12:10
  but
• 12:10
  I
• 12:10
  remember
• 12:11
  when
• 12:11
  I
• 12:11
  first
• 12:11
  started
• 12:11
  getting
• 12:12
  into
• 12:12
  the
• 12:12
  coaching
• 12:13
  realm.
• 12:13
  I
• 12:13
  mean,
• 12:13
  I
• 12:14
  have
• 12:14
  had
• 12:14
  a
• 12:14
  coaching
• 12:14
  certificate
• 12:15
  for
• 12:15
  20
• 12:16
  years,
• 12:16
  but
• 12:16
  I've
• 12:17
  only
• 12:17
  been
• 12:17
  coaching
• 12:17
  for
• 12:18
  a
• 12:18
  couple.
• 12:19
  And
• 12:19
  I
• 12:19
  can
• 12:19
  remember
• 12:20
  them
• 12:20
  saying,
• 12:20
  well,
• 12:20
  you
• 12:20
  only
• 12:20
  have
• 12:21
  to
• 12:21
  be
• 12:21
  one
• 12:21
  step
• 12:21
  ahead
• 12:22
  of
• 12:22
  the
• 12:22
  people
• 12:22
  in
• 12:22
  front
• 12:23
  of
• 12:23
  you.
• 12:24
  And
• 12:24
  I
• 12:24
  was
• 12:25
  like,
• 12:26
  I
• 12:26
  don't
• 12:26
  know,
• 12:27
  like
• 12:27
  my
• 12:27
  mother
• 12:27
  being
• 12:27
  a
• 12:28
  child
• 12:28
  psychiatrist,
• 12:29
  I'm
• 12:29
  like,
• 12:29
  no,
• 12:29
  she
• 12:29
  needed
• 12:30
  to
• 12:30
  know,
• 12:30
  like,
• 12:30
  thousands
• 12:31
  of
• 12:31
  things,
• 12:31
  a
• 12:32
  state.
• 12:32
  You
• 12:32
  know
• 12:32
  what
• 12:32
  I
• 12:32
  mean?
• 12:32
  But
• 12:33
  when
• 12:34
  I
• 12:34
  finally
• 12:34
  broke
• 12:35
  it
• 12:35
  down
• 12:35
  and
• 12:35
  figured
• 12:36
  out
• 12:36
  what
• 12:36
  that
• 12:36
  they
• 12:36
  were
• 12:37
  actually
• 12:37
  saying,
• 12:38
  it
• 12:38
  was
• 12:38
  true.
• 12:38
  I
• 12:38
  mean,
• 12:39
  you
• 12:39
  don't
• 12:39
  have
• 12:39
  to
• 12:39
  have
• 12:39
  it
• 12:40
  all
• 12:40
  figured
• 12:40
  out.
• 12:40
  You
• 12:40
  can
• 12:41
  be
• 12:41
  going,
• 12:41
  and.
• 12:42
  And.
• 12:42
  Because
• 12:43
  at
• 12:43
  the
• 12:43
  end
• 12:43
  of
• 12:43
  the
• 12:43
  day,
• 12:44
  it's
• 12:44
  not
• 12:44
  all
• 12:44
  figured
• 12:45
  out
• 12:45
  ever.
• 12:46
  I
• 12:46
  mean,
• 12:46
  you
• 12:46
  can
• 12:47
  get
• 12:47
  to
• 12:47
  a
• 12:47
  very,
• 12:47
  very,
• 12:48
  very
• 12:48
  good
• 12:48
  place,
• 12:49
  but
• 12:49
  then
• 12:49
  God's
• 12:50
  gonna
• 12:50
  say,
• 12:50
  hey,
• 12:50
  by
• 12:50
  the
• 12:51
  way,
• 12:51
  let
• 12:51
  me
• 12:51
  unravel
• 12:51
  something
• 12:52
  else.
• 12:53
  Yep.
• 12:55
  For
• 12:55
  me,
• 12:55
  that
• 12:55
  identity
• 12:56
  of
• 12:56
  hurt.
• 12:56
  Yeah.
• 12:57
  You
• 12:57
  know
• 12:58
  what
• 12:58
  I
• 12:58
  mean?
• 12:58
  It's
• 12:59
  like,
• 12:59
  let
• 12:59
  me.
• 13:00
  Let
• 13:00
  me
• 13:00
  just
• 13:00
  give
• 13:00
  you
• 13:00
  one
• 13:01
  more
• 13:01
  thing
• 13:01
  that
• 13:02
  you're
• 13:02
  ready
• 13:02
  to
• 13:02
  handle
• 13:03
  now.
• 13:03
  Like,
• 13:03
  you
• 13:04
  have
• 13:04
  the
• 13:04
  tools.
• 13:04
  Exactly.
• 13:05
  I
• 13:06
  mean,
• 13:06
  and
• 13:06
  that's
• 13:06
  just
• 13:06
  how
• 13:07
  healing
• 13:08
  works.
• 13:08
  I
• 13:08
  mean,
• 13:08
  that
• 13:08
  it's.
• 13:09
  It's
• 13:10
  two
• 13:10
  steps
• 13:10
  forward,
• 13:10
  three
• 13:11
  steps
• 13:11
  back,
• 13:11
  five
• 13:11
  steps
• 13:12
  forward,
• 13:12
  two
• 13:12
  steps
• 13:13
  back.
• 13:13
  But,
• 13:13
  yeah,
• 13:13
  you're
• 13:13
  right.
• 13:14
  And.
• 13:14
  And
• 13:15
  that
• 13:15
  there
• 13:15
  is
• 13:15
  power
• 13:16
  in
• 13:16
  that.
• 13:16
  There
• 13:16
  is
• 13:16
  power
• 13:17
  in
• 13:17
  making
• 13:17
  the
• 13:18
  chain
• 13:18
  and
• 13:18
  everybody.
• 13:20
  And
• 13:20
  if
• 13:21
  nothing
• 13:21
  else,
• 13:22
  that
• 13:22
  person
• 13:22
  that's
• 13:23
  one
• 13:23
  step
• 13:23
  behind
• 13:24
  you
• 13:24
  is
• 13:25
  looking
• 13:25
  at
• 13:25
  you
• 13:26
  for
• 13:26
  hope
• 13:26
  because
• 13:27
  you're
• 13:27
  one
• 13:27
  step
• 13:27
  ahead
• 13:28
  of
• 13:28
  them.
• 13:28
  So
• 13:29
  they
• 13:29
  know
• 13:29
  they
• 13:29
  can
• 13:29
  be
• 13:29
  one
• 13:30
  Step
• 13:30
  ahead
• 13:30
  of
• 13:30
  where
• 13:30
  they
• 13:30
  are
• 13:31
  right
• 13:31
  now,
• 13:31
  if
• 13:31
  nothing
• 13:32
  else.
• 13:32
  Exactly.
• 13:33
  That's
• 13:33
  exactly
• 13:34
  it.
• 13:34
  Someone.
• 13:35
  We
• 13:35
  get
• 13:35
  to
• 13:35
  be
• 13:35
  lighthouses
• 13:36
  of
• 13:36
  hope.
• 13:37
  That's
• 13:37
  what
• 13:37
  I
• 13:37
  call
• 13:38
  it.
• 13:38
  Because
• 13:39
  someone
• 13:39
  else
• 13:39
  is
• 13:40
  just
• 13:40
  discovering
• 13:41
  and
• 13:41
  coming
• 13:42
  to
• 13:42
  understand.
• 13:43
  I've
• 13:44
  had
• 13:44
  stuff
• 13:44
  happen
• 13:44
  in
• 13:44
  my
• 13:45
  life
• 13:45
  that's
• 13:45
  not
• 13:45
  supposed
• 13:46
  to
• 13:46
  happen.
• 13:47
  What
• 13:47
  am
• 13:47
  I
• 13:47
  supposed
• 13:48
  to
• 13:48
  do
• 13:48
  with
• 13:49
  this?
• 13:49
  How
• 13:49
  do
• 13:49
  I
• 13:49
  handle
• 13:50
  this
• 13:50
  overwhelming.
• 13:52
  I
• 13:52
  can't
• 13:53
  even
• 13:53
  tell
• 13:53
  you
• 13:53
  what
• 13:53
  my
• 13:53
  first
• 13:54
  step
• 13:54
  is.
• 13:55
  But
• 13:55
  wait,
• 13:56
  you
• 13:56
  know
• 13:56
  what?
• 13:57
  Sally
• 13:57
  was
• 13:57
  just
• 13:58
  telling
• 13:58
  me
• 13:59
  about
• 14:00
  her
• 14:01
  journey
• 14:01
  and
• 14:02
  where
• 14:02
  she
• 14:03
  started
• 14:03
  getting
• 14:03
  help
• 14:04
  and
• 14:04
  what
• 14:04
  brought.
• 14:04
  Maybe
• 14:05
  I
• 14:05
  can
• 14:05
  ask
• 14:06
  her.
• 14:07
  She's
• 14:07
  suddenly
• 14:08
  safe
• 14:09
  because
• 14:09
  she's
• 14:10
  shared
• 14:10
  her
• 14:10
  journey.
• 14:11
  I
• 14:12
  didn't
• 14:12
  hear.
• 14:12
  Sally's
• 14:12
  got
• 14:12
  it
• 14:13
  all
• 14:13
  figured
• 14:13
  out.
• 14:13
  Has
• 14:13
  master's
• 14:14
  degree
• 14:14
  and
• 14:14
  a
• 14:14
  PhD
• 14:15
  hanging
• 14:15
  on
• 14:15
  the
• 14:15
  wall.
• 14:16
  What
• 14:16
  I
• 14:16
  heard
• 14:17
  is
• 14:18
  Sally
• 14:18
  took
• 14:18
  the
• 14:19
  first
• 14:19
  step
• 14:20
  to
• 14:20
  find
• 14:20
  healing.
• 14:21
  And
• 14:21
  I'm
• 14:21
  trying
• 14:22
  to
• 14:22
  figure
• 14:22
  out
• 14:22
  that
• 14:23
  first
• 14:23
  step
• 14:24
  so
• 14:24
  maybe
• 14:24
  Sally
• 14:25
  can
• 14:25
  help
• 14:25
  me.
• 14:26
  Yeah,
• 14:26
  that's
• 14:27
  what
• 14:27
  it's
• 14:27
  about.
• 14:28
  No,
• 14:28
  and
• 14:28
  that
• 14:28
  is.
• 14:29
  That
• 14:29
  is
• 14:29
  so
• 14:29
  powerful.
• 14:30
  Like,
• 14:30
  and.
• 14:31
  And
• 14:31
  that's
• 14:31
  kind
• 14:31
  of
• 14:32
  in
• 14:32
  the
• 14:32
  realm
• 14:32
  of
• 14:33
  where
• 14:33
  I
• 14:33
  am
• 14:33
  with.
• 14:34
  You
• 14:34
  know,
• 14:34
  for
• 14:35
  the
• 14:35
  longest
• 14:35
  time,
• 14:35
  I
• 14:35
  didn't
• 14:36
  call
• 14:36
  myself
• 14:36
  a
• 14:36
  coach,
• 14:37
  but
• 14:37
  everybody's
• 14:37
  like,
• 14:37
  why
• 14:38
  not
• 14:38
  you
• 14:38
  coach
• 14:38
  everybody?
• 14:39
  I
• 14:39
  was
• 14:39
  just
• 14:40
  a
• 14:40
  friend.
• 14:40
  I
• 14:40
  was
• 14:40
  everybody's
• 14:41
  friend,
• 14:41
  you
• 14:41
  know,
• 14:42
  And.
• 14:43
  But
• 14:43
  I
• 14:43
  had
• 14:43
  lived
• 14:44
  experience.
• 14:44
  And
• 14:44
  I
• 14:45
  remember
• 14:45
  my
• 14:45
  very
• 14:45
  first
• 14:46
  coaching
• 14:46
  client,
• 14:46
  she
• 14:47
  said
• 14:47
  to
• 14:47
  me,
• 14:47
  tammy,
• 14:47
  I've
• 14:48
  been
• 14:48
  going
• 14:48
  to
• 14:48
  therapy
• 14:48
  for
• 14:48
  11
• 14:49
  years,
• 14:49
  given
• 14:50
  that
• 14:50
  woman
• 14:50
  $110
• 14:51
  a
• 14:51
  week
• 14:51
  for
• 14:51
  11
• 14:52
  years
• 14:52
  and
• 14:52
  18
• 14:53
  years,
• 14:54
  you
• 14:54
  told
• 14:54
  me
• 14:55
  more
• 14:55
  about
• 14:55
  why
• 14:55
  I
• 14:56
  am
• 14:56
  the
• 14:56
  way
• 14:56
  I
• 14:56
  am.
• 14:57
  And
• 14:57
  you
• 14:57
  gave
• 14:58
  me
• 14:58
  a
• 14:58
  tip
• 14:59
  that
• 14:59
  will
• 14:59
  literally
• 15:00
  change
• 15:00
  my
• 15:00
  entire
• 15:01
  life
• 15:01
  in
• 15:01
  18
• 15:02
  or
• 15:02
  in
• 15:02
  18
• 15:03
  minutes,
• 15:03
  she
• 15:03
  said.
• 15:04
  And
• 15:05
  I
• 15:05
  said,
• 15:06
  because
• 15:06
  I
• 15:06
  was
• 15:06
  you,
• 15:09
  you
• 15:10
  know,
• 15:10
  I
• 15:10
  mean,
• 15:10
  I've
• 15:11
  been
• 15:11
  there,
• 15:11
  I've
• 15:11
  done
• 15:11
  it.
• 15:12
  I
• 15:12
  was
• 15:12
  you.
• 15:13
  And
• 15:13
  there.
• 15:14
  Yeah,
• 15:14
  that's.
• 15:15
  That's
• 15:15
  so
• 15:15
  powerful.
• 15:16
  So
• 15:17
  one
• 15:17
  of
• 15:17
  the
• 15:17
  questions.
• 15:17
  And
• 15:17
  I
• 15:18
  know
• 15:18
  I
• 15:18
  always
• 15:18
  put
• 15:18
  on
• 15:18
  the.
• 15:19
  And
• 15:19
  I'm
• 15:19
  gonna.
• 15:19
  I
• 15:19
  bounce
• 15:20
  around
• 15:20
  a
• 15:20
  lot,
• 15:21
  so
• 15:21
  bear
• 15:21
  with
• 15:21
  me.
• 15:22
  Go
• 15:22
  for
• 15:22
  it.
• 15:23
  I
• 15:23
  never
• 15:23
  know
• 15:23
  what's
• 15:23
  gonna
• 15:24
  download.
• 15:24
  Like,
• 15:24
  I
• 15:24
  don't
• 15:25
  know
• 15:25
  what
• 15:25
  people
• 15:25
  need
• 15:25
  to
• 15:26
  hear.
• 15:26
  But
• 15:28
  one
• 15:28
  of
• 15:28
  the
• 15:28
  questions
• 15:29
  that
• 15:29
  you
• 15:29
  asked
• 15:29
  me
• 15:30
  or
• 15:31
  you
• 15:31
  put
• 15:31
  as
• 15:31
  a
• 15:32
  question
• 15:32
  to
• 15:32
  ask
• 15:32
  you
• 15:33
  was
• 15:33
  about
• 15:34
  how
• 15:34
  do
• 15:34
  you
• 15:34
  have
• 15:34
  the
• 15:35
  courage,
• 15:35
  I
• 15:35
  guess,
• 15:36
  to.
• 15:36
  Or
• 15:36
  how
• 15:36
  do
• 15:37
  people
• 15:37
  have
• 15:37
  the
• 15:37
  courage
• 15:38
  to
• 15:38
  share
• 15:38
  their
• 15:39
  story
• 15:40
  when.
• 15:40
  Without
• 15:40
  being
• 15:41
  afraid
• 15:41
  of
• 15:41
  what
• 15:41
  people
• 15:41
  are
• 15:42
  going
• 15:42
  to
• 15:42
  think
• 15:42
  of
• 15:42
  them?
• 15:44
  Yeah,
• 15:45
  and.
• 15:46
  And,
• 15:47
  yeah.
• 15:47
  And
• 15:47
  it's
• 15:47
  different
• 15:48
  for
• 15:48
  each
• 15:48
  person.
• 15:50
  I
• 15:50
  think,
• 15:50
  you
• 15:50
  know,
• 15:51
  some
• 15:51
  of
• 15:51
  it.
• 15:51
  Yes.
• 15:51
  Gets
• 15:52
  down
• 15:52
  to
• 15:52
  that.
• 15:52
  How
• 15:52
  do
• 15:52
  you
• 15:53
  answer
• 15:53
  the
• 15:53
  question,
• 15:53
  do
• 15:53
  I
• 15:53
  believe
• 15:54
  I
• 15:54
  matter?
• 15:55
  Because
• 15:55
  when,
• 15:56
  again,
• 15:56
  when
• 15:56
  you
• 15:56
  can
• 15:57
  answer
• 15:57
  that
• 15:57
  question,
• 15:57
  you
• 15:57
  realize
• 15:58
  that
• 15:58
  there's
• 15:58
  something
• 15:59
  bigger
• 15:59
  going
• 15:59
  on
• 16:00
  than
• 16:01
  the
• 16:01
  story.
• 16:02
  But
• 16:02
  I
• 16:02
  think
• 16:02
  when
• 16:02
  you're
• 16:02
  first
• 16:03
  starting
• 16:03
  out
• 16:03
  that
• 16:03
  story,
• 16:04
  when
• 16:05
  you're
• 16:05
  first
• 16:06
  coming
• 16:06
  to
• 16:06
  an
• 16:07
  awareness
• 16:07
  that
• 16:07
  something
• 16:08
  has
• 16:08
  happened
• 16:09
  that
• 16:09
  wasn't
• 16:10
  supposed
• 16:10
  to
• 16:10
  happen,
• 16:11
  and
• 16:11
  you
• 16:12
  need
• 16:12
  to
• 16:12
  know
• 16:12
  it's
• 16:12
  not
• 16:12
  your
• 16:12
  fault,
• 16:13
  that's
• 16:13
  the
• 16:13
  first
• 16:13
  thing.
• 16:14
  That
• 16:14
  is
• 16:14
  the
• 16:15
  first
• 16:15
  thing.
• 16:17
  And
• 16:17
  you
• 16:18
  have
• 16:18
  worth.
• 16:19
  And
• 16:20
  sometimes
• 16:21
  it
• 16:21
  takes
• 16:22
  being
• 16:22
  desperate
• 16:23
  enough
• 16:24
  to
• 16:25
  just.
• 16:25
  I
• 16:25
  don't
• 16:26
  care.
• 16:26
  This
• 16:26
  is
• 16:26
  where
• 16:26
  I'm
• 16:26
  going.
• 16:27
  And.
• 16:27
  And
• 16:28
  I
• 16:28
  just
• 16:28
  need
• 16:28
  to
• 16:29
  do.
• 16:29
  I'm
• 16:29
  holding
• 16:30
  on
• 16:30
  with
• 16:30
  all
• 16:30
  I
• 16:31
  got
• 16:31
  because
• 16:31
  this
• 16:31
  is
• 16:31
  all
• 16:31
  I
• 16:31
  got
• 16:32
  to
• 16:32
  hang
• 16:32
  on
• 16:32
  to.
• 16:33
  And.
• 16:33
  And
• 16:34
  for
• 16:34
  me,
• 16:34
  I
• 16:35
  got
• 16:35
  desperate
• 16:36
  enough.
• 16:36
  For
• 16:37
  me,
• 16:37
  I
• 16:37
  went.
• 16:39
  There's
• 16:39
  a
• 16:39
  retreat
• 16:40
  program.
• 16:40
  That's
• 16:40
  where
• 16:41
  all
• 16:41
  my
• 16:41
  healing
• 16:41
  started
• 16:42
  was,
• 16:42
  was
• 16:42
  a
• 16:42
  retreat
• 16:43
  program
• 16:43
  called
• 16:43
  Walking
• 16:44
  Stick
• 16:44
  Retreats.
• 16:45
  And
• 16:46
  I
• 16:47
  was
• 16:47
  dealing
• 16:47
  with
• 16:47
  the
• 16:47
  rape
• 16:48
  for
• 16:48
  the
• 16:48
  first
• 16:48
  year.
• 16:50
  And
• 16:50
  now,
• 16:50
  mind
• 16:50
  you,
• 16:51
  my
• 16:51
  counselor
• 16:51
  and
• 16:51
  I
• 16:51
  have
• 16:52
  been
• 16:52
  talking
• 16:52
  for
• 16:52
  six
• 16:53
  years
• 16:54
  and
• 16:54
  we
• 16:54
  comment
• 16:54
  now
• 16:55
  that
• 16:55
  we
• 16:55
  had
• 16:55
  to
• 16:55
  get
• 16:55
  me
• 16:56
  stronger
• 16:56
  in
• 16:56
  the
• 16:57
  present
• 16:58
  before
• 16:58
  we
• 16:58
  could
• 16:59
  go
• 16:59
  back
• 16:59
  to
• 16:59
  the
• 16:59
  past.
• 16:59
  And
• 17:00
  that's
• 17:00
  an
• 17:00
  important
• 17:01
  step.
• 17:02
  Yes.
• 17:02
  And
• 17:03
  so.
• 17:04
  But
• 17:04
  I
• 17:04
  think
• 17:04
  for
• 17:05
  me,
• 17:05
  I
• 17:05
  got
• 17:05
  desperate
• 17:06
  enough.
• 17:06
  And
• 17:06
  I
• 17:06
  think
• 17:07
  sometimes
• 17:07
  that's
• 17:07
  what
• 17:07
  it
• 17:08
  takes,
• 17:08
  because
• 17:09
  that
• 17:09
  chatter
• 17:10
  of
• 17:10
  someone
• 17:10
  else's
• 17:10
  opinion
• 17:11
  of
• 17:12
  that
• 17:12
  fearful
• 17:13
  fear
• 17:13
  of
• 17:13
  rejection
• 17:14
  and
• 17:14
  all
• 17:15
  those
• 17:15
  things
• 17:16
  having
• 17:16
  to
• 17:16
  come
• 17:17
  face
• 17:17
  to
• 17:17
  face
• 17:18
  with
• 17:18
  the
• 17:19
  ugliness
• 17:19
  of
• 17:20
  what
• 17:20
  has
• 17:20
  happened
• 17:20
  to
• 17:20
  you,
• 17:21
  of
• 17:21
  what
• 17:21
  you've
• 17:22
  experienced,
• 17:23
  that's
• 17:24
  part
• 17:24
  of
• 17:24
  your
• 17:24
  story.
• 17:25
  It
• 17:25
  is
• 17:25
  not
• 17:26
  your
• 17:26
  whole
• 17:27
  story.
• 17:28
  It's
• 17:28
  a
• 17:29
  huge
• 17:29
  chapter
• 17:30
  and
• 17:31
  you're
• 17:31
  writing
• 17:31
  more.
• 17:32
  Please
• 17:32
  hear
• 17:32
  that.
• 17:33
  But
• 17:34
  trying
• 17:34
  to
• 17:34
  come,
• 17:35
  not
• 17:35
  trying
• 17:35
  to.
• 17:35
  But
• 17:35
  coming
• 17:36
  face
• 17:36
  to
• 17:37
  face
• 17:37
  with
• 17:37
  that
• 17:39
  requires
• 17:40
  some
• 17:40
  desperation
• 17:41
  of.
• 17:41
  I'm
• 17:42
  not
• 17:42
  willing.
• 17:42
  It's
• 17:43
  what
• 17:43
  I
• 17:43
  call
• 17:43
  holy
• 17:43
  dissatisfaction.
• 17:44
  I'm
• 17:45
  not
• 17:45
  willing
• 17:45
  to
• 17:45
  stay
• 17:46
  here.
• 17:46
  I
• 17:47
  don't
• 17:47
  care
• 17:47
  what
• 17:47
  the
• 17:47
  heck
• 17:48
  it
• 17:48
  takes.
• 17:48
  I
• 17:49
  am
• 17:49
  poor.
• 17:50
  I'm
• 17:50
  going
• 17:50
  forward.
• 17:51
  And
• 17:51
  if
• 17:51
  you
• 17:52
  want
• 17:52
  to
• 17:52
  come
• 17:52
  with
• 17:52
  me,
• 17:52
  great.
• 17:52
  But
• 17:53
  this
• 17:53
  is
• 17:53
  where
• 17:53
  I'm
• 17:53
  going.
• 17:54
  And
• 17:54
  y'
• 17:54
  all
• 17:55
  can't
• 17:55
  handle
• 17:55
  it
• 17:55
  if
• 17:55
  you're
• 17:55
  not
• 17:56
  going
• 17:56
  to
• 17:56
  come
• 17:56
  with
• 17:56
  me,
• 17:57
  because
• 17:57
  you're
• 17:57
  not
• 17:57
  going
• 17:57
  to
• 17:58
  know
• 17:58
  who
• 17:58
  comes
• 17:58
  out
• 17:58
  on
• 17:59
  the
• 17:59
  other
• 17:59
  side,
• 17:59
  because
• 18:00
  I
• 18:00
  want
• 18:00
  something
• 18:01
  better
• 18:01
  than
• 18:01
  this.
• 18:01
  And
• 18:01
  I
• 18:02
  think
• 18:02
  that's
• 18:02
  what
• 18:02
  a
• 18:03
  lot
• 18:03
  of
• 18:03
  it
• 18:03
  comes
• 18:03
  down
• 18:03
  to.
• 18:04
  Because
• 18:04
  until
• 18:04
  then,
• 18:05
  yes,
• 18:05
  that
• 18:06
  chatter
• 18:06
  is
• 18:06
  going
• 18:06
  to
• 18:06
  be
• 18:07
  in
• 18:07
  the
• 18:07
  mind
• 18:07
  and
• 18:07
  that
• 18:08
  fear
• 18:08
  and
• 18:08
  that
• 18:08
  hesitation
• 18:10
  and.
• 18:10
  And
• 18:10
  it
• 18:10
  comes
• 18:10
  down
• 18:11
  to
• 18:11
  putting
• 18:11
  yourself
• 18:12
  first
• 18:12
  and
• 18:12
  being
• 18:13
  desperate
• 18:13
  enough
• 18:13
  to
• 18:14
  every
• 18:14
  chat
• 18:14
  for
• 18:14
  help.
• 18:15
  And
• 18:15
  even
• 18:16
  in
• 18:16
  the.
• 18:16
  You
• 18:16
  know,
• 18:16
  I
• 18:17
  was
• 18:17
  just,
• 18:17
  in
• 18:17
  my
• 18:17
  last
• 18:17
  podcast
• 18:18
  episode,
• 18:18
  we
• 18:18
  were
• 18:19
  talking
• 18:19
  about
• 18:19
  how
• 18:19
  it's
• 18:20
  sad
• 18:20
  that
• 18:21
  so
• 18:21
  many
• 18:21
  people
• 18:21
  have
• 18:21
  to
• 18:22
  hit
• 18:22
  that
• 18:22
  rock
• 18:22
  bottom
• 18:23
  where
• 18:23
  they
• 18:24
  contemplate
• 18:24
  their
• 18:24
  own
• 18:24
  life
• 18:25
  or
• 18:25
  they're
• 18:25
  cutting
• 18:25
  or
• 18:26
  they're
• 18:26
  doing
• 18:26
  these
• 18:26
  things
• 18:26
  as
• 18:27
  self
• 18:27
  mutilation
• 18:28
  because
• 18:28
  at
• 18:28
  the
• 18:28
  end
• 18:28
  of
• 18:28
  the
• 18:29
  day,
• 18:29
  it's
• 18:29
  a,
• 18:29
  it's
• 18:30
  a
• 18:30
  shame.
• 18:30
  It's
• 18:30
  a,
• 18:31
  it's
• 18:31
  a
• 18:31
  shame
• 18:31
  spiral.
• 18:32
  And
• 18:32
  it
• 18:33
  just
• 18:33
  gets
• 18:33
  so
• 18:33
  bad.
• 18:34
  But,
• 18:35
  you
• 18:35
  know,
• 18:36
  I
• 18:37
  tell
• 18:37
  people
• 18:37
  sometimes
• 18:38
  when
• 18:38
  I
• 18:39
  say,
• 18:39
  you
• 18:39
  know,
• 18:39
  share
• 18:39
  your
• 18:40
  story.
• 18:40
  If
• 18:40
  you
• 18:40
  don't
• 18:40
  share
• 18:41
  it
• 18:41
  to
• 18:41
  other
• 18:41
  people
• 18:41
  to
• 18:42
  start
• 18:42
  with,
• 18:42
  share
• 18:42
  it
• 18:42
  in
• 18:43
  a
• 18:43
  journal.
• 18:43
  Do
• 18:43
  anything
• 18:44
  you
• 18:44
  can
• 18:44
  to
• 18:44
  get
• 18:44
  it
• 18:44
  out
• 18:44
  of
• 18:45
  your
• 18:45
  business
• 18:45
  body.
• 18:45
  I
• 18:46
  mean,
• 18:46
  sit,
• 18:46
  you
• 18:47
  know,
• 18:47
  you
• 18:47
  don't
• 18:47
  want
• 18:47
  to
• 18:47
  relive
• 18:48
  it,
• 18:48
  but
• 18:48
  come
• 18:49
  to
• 18:49
  terms
• 18:49
  with
• 18:49
  the
• 18:50
  fact
• 18:50
  that
• 18:50
  it
• 18:50
  did
• 18:50
  happen
• 18:51
  and
• 18:51
  it
• 18:51
  was
• 18:51
  ugly
• 18:52
  and
• 18:52
  write
• 18:52
  about
• 18:52
  it
• 18:53
  and,
• 18:53
  and
• 18:53
  then
• 18:53
  rip
• 18:54
  up
• 18:54
  those
• 18:54
  pages
• 18:54
  and
• 18:55
  throw
• 18:55
  them
• 18:55
  away
• 18:56
  until
• 18:56
  you're
• 18:56
  in
• 18:57
  the,
• 18:57
  the
• 18:57
  vicinity
• 18:58
  of
• 18:58
  somebody
• 18:59
  that
• 18:59
  you
• 18:59
  trust
• 19:00
  enough
• 19:00
  to
• 19:00
  actually
• 19:01
  vocalize
• 19:01
  it
• 19:02
  and
• 19:02
  verbalize
• 19:02
  it
• 19:03
  and
• 19:03
  put
• 19:03
  it
• 19:03
  into
• 19:03
  words.
• 19:05
  And,
• 19:06
  and
• 19:06
  I
• 19:06
  think
• 19:06
  that's
• 19:06
  a
• 19:07
  very
• 19:07
  important
• 19:07
  step
• 19:07
  too.
• 19:08
  You
• 19:08
  know,
• 19:08
  when
• 19:08
  people
• 19:08
  go,
• 19:09
  oh,
• 19:09
  you
• 19:09
  got.
• 19:09
  I've,
• 19:09
  I've
• 19:10
  had
• 19:10
  people
• 19:10
  go,
• 19:10
  I.
• 19:11
  Who,
• 19:11
  who
• 19:11
  am
• 19:11
  I
• 19:11
  going
• 19:11
  to
• 19:12
  tell?
• 19:12
  Like,
• 19:12
  get
• 19:13
  in
• 19:13
  a
• 19:13
  safe
• 19:13
  place.
• 19:14
  Have
• 19:15
  that
• 19:15
  person,
• 19:15
  whether
• 19:15
  it's
• 19:16
  a
• 19:16
  coach,
• 19:16
  a
• 19:16
  friend,
• 19:16
  a
• 19:17
  mentor,
• 19:17
  a
• 19:17
  guidance
• 19:18
  counselor,
• 19:18
  if
• 19:18
  you're
• 19:19
  still
• 19:19
  a
• 19:19
  teenager,
• 19:20
  whoever
• 19:20
  it
• 19:20
  is,
• 19:21
  someone
• 19:22
  that
• 19:22
  you
• 19:22
  trust
• 19:23
  with
• 19:24
  the
• 19:24
  small
• 19:24
  things
• 19:25
  so
• 19:25
  that
• 19:25
  you
• 19:25
  know
• 19:26
  that
• 19:26
  you
• 19:26
  can
• 19:26
  trust
• 19:26
  them
• 19:26
  with
• 19:26
  the
• 19:27
  big
• 19:27
  things.
• 19:28
  Right?
• 19:28
  Yeah.
• 19:29
  And
• 19:30
  to
• 19:30
  that
• 19:30
  point
• 19:30
  as
• 19:30
  well.
• 19:31
  Being
• 19:32
  desperate
• 19:32
  doesn't
• 19:33
  mean
• 19:33
  that
• 19:33
  you're
• 19:33
  ready
• 19:34
  to
• 19:34
  take
• 19:34
  your
• 19:34
  life.
• 19:35
  Oh,
• 19:35
  no.
• 19:35
  Considering
• 19:36
  that
• 19:36
  being
• 19:37
  desperate
• 19:37
  means
• 19:37
  I
• 19:38
  don't
• 19:38
  want
• 19:38
  to
• 19:38
  stay
• 19:39
  where
• 19:39
  I
• 19:39
  am.
• 19:40
  And
• 19:40
  I
• 19:40
  am
• 19:41
  willing
• 19:41
  to
• 19:41
  do
• 19:41
  whatever
• 19:42
  it
• 19:42
  takes
• 19:42
  to
• 19:43
  get
• 19:43
  to
• 19:43
  a
• 19:43
  new
• 19:44
  place.
• 19:45
  And
• 19:45
  I
• 19:45
  want
• 19:45
  to
• 19:45
  make
• 19:46
  that
• 19:46
  delineation
• 19:46
  because
• 19:47
  there,
• 19:48
  yes,
• 19:48
  there
• 19:48
  were
• 19:48
  a
• 19:48
  couple
• 19:49
  times
• 19:49
  that
• 19:49
  I
• 19:49
  was
• 19:50
  rock
• 19:50
  bottom
• 19:50
  like
• 19:51
  that.
• 19:51
  But
• 19:52
  when
• 19:52
  I
• 19:52
  finally
• 19:53
  entered
• 19:54
  into
• 19:54
  healing,
• 19:56
  it's
• 19:56
  2008.
• 19:57
  I
• 19:57
  lost
• 19:58
  a
• 19:58
  friend
• 19:58
  three
• 19:58
  years
• 19:58
  prior.
• 19:59
  I
• 19:59
  was
• 19:59
  grieving
• 20:00
  her
• 20:00
  as
• 20:00
  if
• 20:00
  it
• 20:00
  was
• 20:00
  yesterday.
• 20:01
  And
• 20:01
  my
• 20:02
  eating
• 20:02
  disorder
• 20:03
  behaviors
• 20:03
  were
• 20:03
  starting
• 20:03
  to
• 20:04
  come
• 20:04
  up
• 20:04
  again.
• 20:04
  When
• 20:05
  it
• 20:05
  had
• 20:05
  been
• 20:05
  fine
• 20:05
  for
• 20:05
  a
• 20:06
  while,
• 20:06
  my
• 20:07
  pastor
• 20:07
  connected
• 20:07
  me
• 20:08
  with
• 20:08
  somebody
• 20:08
  named
• 20:08
  Amanda.
• 20:09
  I'm
• 20:09
  still
• 20:09
  with
• 20:09
  her
• 20:09
  now.
• 20:10
  And
• 20:12
  like
• 20:12
  I
• 20:12
  said,
• 20:13
  we
• 20:14
  had
• 20:14
  to
• 20:14
  spend.
• 20:14
  I
• 20:15
  didn't
• 20:15
  know
• 20:15
  what
• 20:15
  a
• 20:15
  boundary
• 20:16
  was.
• 20:16
  I
• 20:16
  didn't
• 20:16
  know
• 20:17
  how
• 20:17
  to
• 20:17
  stand
• 20:17
  up
• 20:17
  for
• 20:18
  myself.
• 20:18
  That's
• 20:19
  what
• 20:19
  I
• 20:19
  had
• 20:19
  to
• 20:19
  get
• 20:19
  desperate
• 20:20
  about
• 20:20
  first
• 20:20
  was
• 20:21
  I'm
• 20:21
  letting
• 20:22
  everybody
• 20:23
  manipulate
• 20:23
  me
• 20:23
  and
• 20:24
  walk
• 20:24
  all
• 20:24
  over
• 20:24
  me
• 20:24
  as
• 20:25
  if
• 20:25
  I
• 20:25
  don't
• 20:25
  even
• 20:26
  exist.
• 20:27
  I
• 20:27
  don't
• 20:27
  even
• 20:28
  know
• 20:28
  who
• 20:28
  I
• 20:28
  am
• 20:29
  and
• 20:29
  I'm
• 20:30
  just
• 20:30
  not
• 20:31
  willing
• 20:31
  to
• 20:31
  stay
• 20:31
  here
• 20:32
  anymore.
• 20:33
  Yep,
• 20:33
  that
• 20:33
  was
• 20:33
  what
• 20:33
  my
• 20:33
  desperation
• 20:34
  looked
• 20:34
  like
• 20:34
  for
• 20:35
  me
• 20:35
  because
• 20:35
  that
• 20:36
  then
• 20:36
  fueled.
• 20:36
  I
• 20:37
  don't
• 20:37
  care.
• 20:37
  Whatever
• 20:37
  it
• 20:38
  takes,
• 20:38
  this
• 20:38
  is
• 20:38
  what
• 20:39
  I'm
• 20:39
  doing.
• 20:39
  Yep.
• 20:40
  And
• 20:40
  it
• 20:40
  looks
• 20:41
  like
• 20:41
  you
• 20:41
  said
• 20:41
  it
• 20:41
  Looks
• 20:41
  different
• 20:42
  for
• 20:42
  absolutely
• 20:42
  every
• 20:43
  single
• 20:43
  person.
• 20:44
  And
• 20:44
  some
• 20:44
  people.
• 20:45
  The
• 20:45
  girl
• 20:45
  I
• 20:46
  talked
• 20:46
  to
• 20:46
  before
• 20:46
  it.
• 20:47
  Was
• 20:47
  it
• 20:48
  her?
• 20:48
  I
• 20:49
  don't
• 20:49
  want
• 20:49
  to
• 20:49
  say
• 20:49
  her
• 20:49
  rock
• 20:49
  bottom,
• 20:50
  but
• 20:50
  the
• 20:50
  point
• 20:50
  that
• 20:50
  she
• 20:50
  finally
• 20:51
  said
• 20:51
  something's
• 20:52
  got
• 20:52
  to
• 20:52
  give
• 20:52
  had
• 20:52
  to
• 20:53
  do
• 20:53
  with
• 20:53
  her
• 20:53
  children.
• 20:55
  A
• 20:55
  lot
• 20:55
  of
• 20:55
  times,
• 20:55
  it
• 20:56
  is
• 20:56
  the
• 20:56
  children
• 20:56
  that
• 20:57
  do
• 20:57
  it.
• 20:57
  That
• 20:57
  was
• 20:58
  kind
• 20:58
  of
• 20:58
  what
• 20:58
  happened
• 20:58
  to
• 20:58
  me.
• 20:59
  I
• 20:59
  was
• 20:59
  just
• 20:59
  kind
• 20:59
  of
• 20:59
  going
• 21:00
  through
• 21:00
  life
• 21:00
  being
• 21:00
  a
• 21:01
  little
• 21:01
  doormat.
• 21:02
  I
• 21:02
  had
• 21:02
  done
• 21:02
  everything
• 21:02
  they
• 21:02
  told
• 21:03
  me
• 21:03
  to
• 21:03
  do
• 21:03
  and
• 21:04
  that
• 21:04
  I
• 21:04
  didn't
• 21:05
  think
• 21:05
  I
• 21:05
  was
• 21:05
  capable
• 21:05
  of
• 21:05
  even
• 21:06
  doing
• 21:06
  because
• 21:06
  I
• 21:06
  was
• 21:07
  always
• 21:07
  told
• 21:07
  I
• 21:07
  would
• 21:07
  be
• 21:07
  nothing.
• 21:08
  But
• 21:08
  I
• 21:08
  married
• 21:09
  someone,
• 21:09
  and
• 21:09
  I
• 21:09
  was,
• 21:10
  like,
• 21:10
  getting
• 21:10
  ready
• 21:10
  to
• 21:10
  have
• 21:10
  a
• 21:11
  baby,
• 21:11
  and
• 21:11
  then
• 21:11
  all
• 21:11
  of
• 21:11
  a
• 21:11
  sudden
• 21:12
  I
• 21:12
  was
• 21:12
  like,
• 21:13
  holy
• 21:14
  crap,
• 21:14
  I
• 21:14
  don't
• 21:14
  know
• 21:15
  how
• 21:15
  to
• 21:15
  be
• 21:15
  a
• 21:15
  mom.
• 21:16
  Like,
• 21:16
  I
• 21:16
  can't
• 21:17
  do
• 21:17
  this.
• 21:17
  I
• 21:17
  can't.
• 21:17
  You
• 21:18
  know?
• 21:18
  And
• 21:18
  that
• 21:18
  was
• 21:19
  like,
• 21:19
  I
• 21:19
  got
• 21:20
  to.
• 21:20
  I
• 21:20
  got
• 21:20
  to
• 21:21
  change
• 21:21
  or
• 21:21
  I.
• 21:22
  Or
• 21:22
  I'm
• 21:22
  going
• 21:22
  to
• 21:22
  end
• 21:22
  up
• 21:23
  being
• 21:23
  my
• 21:23
  mother
• 21:23
  and
• 21:23
  being
• 21:24
  my
• 21:24
  father.
• 21:24
  That's
• 21:25
  not
• 21:25
  what
• 21:25
  I
• 21:25
  want
• 21:26
  to
• 21:26
  do.
• 21:27
  And
• 21:27
  here's
• 21:28
  the
• 21:28
  cool
• 21:28
  part.
• 21:28
  When
• 21:29
  you
• 21:29
  get
• 21:29
  to
• 21:29
  that
• 21:29
  point
• 21:29
  of
• 21:30
  something's
• 21:31
  got
• 21:31
  to
• 21:31
  give,
• 21:31
  that's
• 21:32
  when
• 21:32
  you
• 21:32
  start
• 21:32
  answering
• 21:32
  that
• 21:33
  question.
• 21:33
  Do
• 21:33
  you
• 21:33
  believe
• 21:34
  that
• 21:34
  you
• 21:34
  matter
• 21:34
  in
• 21:35
  a
• 21:35
  positive
• 21:35
  way?
• 21:36
  Yeah,
• 21:36
  I
• 21:36
  matter
• 21:37
  enough
• 21:37
  that
• 21:37
  I'm
• 21:37
  going
• 21:37
  to
• 21:37
  make
• 21:38
  a
• 21:38
  change
• 21:38
  and
• 21:38
  I'm
• 21:38
  going
• 21:38
  to
• 21:38
  do
• 21:38
  whatever
• 21:39
  it
• 21:39
  takes
• 21:39
  to
• 21:39
  help
• 21:39
  me
• 21:39
  get
• 21:40
  that
• 21:40
  change
• 21:40
  made.
• 21:41
  Yeah.
• 21:42
  Yeah.
• 21:43
  And
• 21:43
  it
• 21:43
  didn't
• 21:44
  come
• 21:44
  immediately
• 21:44
  after
• 21:45
  I
• 21:45
  realized
• 21:45
  I
• 21:45
  had
• 21:45
  to
• 21:46
  change
• 21:46
  it.
• 21:46
  Still,
• 21:46
  that's
• 21:47
  that
• 21:47
  part
• 21:47
  that
• 21:48
  did.
• 21:48
  Do
• 21:48
  you
• 21:48
  matter?
• 21:48
  It
• 21:49
  didn't
• 21:49
  still
• 21:49
  come.
• 21:50
  I
• 21:50
  was
• 21:50
  26,
• 21:50
  and
• 21:51
  that
• 21:51
  part
• 21:51
  didn't
• 21:51
  come
• 21:51
  till
• 21:52
  I
• 21:52
  was
• 21:52
  about
• 21:52
  35,
• 21:53
  honestly,
• 21:54
  like,
• 21:54
  truly
• 21:55
  come.
• 21:56
  But
• 21:56
  I
• 21:57
  was.
• 21:57
  Didn't
• 21:57
  matter.
• 21:57
  I
• 21:58
  still,
• 21:58
  at
• 21:59
  that
• 21:59
  point,
• 21:59
  you
• 21:59
  know,
• 22:00
  I
• 22:00
  might
• 22:01
  not
• 22:01
  have
• 22:01
  been
• 22:01
  doing
• 22:01
  it
• 22:01
  for
• 22:02
  myself,
• 22:02
  but
• 22:02
  I
• 22:02
  was
• 22:02
  doing
• 22:03
  it
• 22:03
  for
• 22:03
  them.
• 22:04
  And
• 22:04
  that
• 22:04
  was
• 22:04
  okay
• 22:04
  to
• 22:05
  me
• 22:05
  at
• 22:05
  that
• 22:05
  point
• 22:06
  until
• 22:06
  I
• 22:07
  realized
• 22:07
  I
• 22:07
  had
• 22:07
  to.
• 22:08
  It's
• 22:08
  all
• 22:08
  in
• 22:08
  here.
• 22:10
  I
• 22:11
  couldn't
• 22:11
  answer
• 22:11
  that
• 22:12
  question
• 22:12
  positively
• 22:13
  until
• 22:15
  five
• 22:15
  or
• 22:15
  six
• 22:16
  years
• 22:16
  ago.
• 22:17
  And,
• 22:18
  and.
• 22:18
  And
• 22:19
  oddly
• 22:19
  enough,
• 22:20
  that's
• 22:20
  about
• 22:21
  when
• 22:21
  I
• 22:21
  started
• 22:21
  the
• 22:22
  movement,
• 22:23
  when
• 22:24
  I
• 22:24
  started
• 22:24
  realizing
• 22:25
  this.
• 22:26
  This
• 22:27
  is
• 22:27
  the
• 22:27
  bottom
• 22:27
  line
• 22:27
  of
• 22:28
  it
• 22:28
  all.
• 22:29
  This
• 22:29
  is.
• 22:30
  This
• 22:31
  is
• 22:31
  the
• 22:31
  centerpiece
• 22:32
  around
• 22:32
  everything
• 22:32
  which.
• 22:33
  How
• 22:33
  you
• 22:33
  answer
• 22:33
  that
• 22:34
  question.
• 22:34
  Everything
• 22:34
  else
• 22:34
  revolves
• 22:35
  around
• 22:35
  that.
• 22:35
  It's
• 22:36
  like,
• 22:36
  I
• 22:36
  need
• 22:36
  to
• 22:37
  get
• 22:37
  this
• 22:37
  out
• 22:37
  to
• 22:37
  other
• 22:37
  people
• 22:38
  because
• 22:38
  it's.
• 22:39
  Yeah,
• 22:39
  it
• 22:40
  makes
• 22:40
  the
• 22:40
  difference.
• 22:41
  Well,
• 22:41
  and
• 22:41
  you
• 22:42
  had
• 22:42
  a
• 22:42
  purpose
• 22:42
  at
• 22:42
  that
• 22:42
  point
• 22:43
  that
• 22:43
  had
• 22:43
  given
• 22:43
  you
• 22:43
  a
• 22:44
  purpose.
• 22:44
  Oh,
• 22:44
  yeah,
• 22:45
  just
• 22:46
  that
• 22:46
  one
• 22:46
  statement,
• 22:47
  you
• 22:47
  know,
• 22:47
  And.
• 22:48
  And
• 22:48
  knowing
• 22:48
  that
• 22:48
  that
• 22:49
  was
• 22:49
  your
• 22:49
  message,
• 22:49
  that
• 22:49
  was
• 22:50
  your
• 22:50
  mission.
• 22:50
  And
• 22:51
  I
• 22:51
  don't
• 22:52
  know
• 22:52
  whether
• 22:52
  you
• 22:52
  got
• 22:52
  a
• 22:52
  God
• 22:53
  download
• 22:53
  or
• 22:53
  however
• 22:54
  you
• 22:54
  got
• 22:54
  your
• 22:54
  download,
• 22:55
  but
• 22:55
  you
• 22:55
  Got
• 22:55
  it.
• 22:56
  It's
• 22:56
  a
• 22:57
  God.
• 22:57
  God
• 22:58
  gives
• 22:58
  me
• 22:58
  a
• 22:58
  lot
• 22:58
  of
• 22:58
  downloads.
• 23:00
  God
• 23:01
  likes
• 23:01
  to
• 23:01
  hijack
• 23:01
  my
• 23:01
  journal,
• 23:02
  I'll
• 23:02
  put
• 23:02
  it
• 23:02
  that
• 23:02
  way.
• 23:03
  Yeah,
• 23:03
  he
• 23:03
  really.
• 23:04
  He's
• 23:04
  a
• 23:05
  pretty
• 23:05
  good.
• 23:05
  He's
• 23:06
  good
• 23:06
  at
• 23:06
  that.
• 23:06
  That's
• 23:07
  for
• 23:07
  sure.
• 23:07
  He
• 23:07
  is
• 23:08
  for
• 23:08
  sure.
• 23:08
  Yes.
• 23:10
  So
• 23:10
  I
• 23:11
  love
• 23:11
  that.
• 23:13
  So
• 23:13
  in
• 23:14
  the
• 23:14
  pursuing,
• 23:14
  I'm
• 23:14
  just
• 23:15
  going,
• 23:15
  I'm
• 23:15
  asking
• 23:15
  some
• 23:15
  of
• 23:15
  your
• 23:16
  questions
• 23:16
  because
• 23:16
  they're
• 23:16
  very
• 23:16
  good
• 23:17
  questions.
• 23:18
  And
• 23:18
  I
• 23:18
  like
• 23:18
  this
• 23:18
  podcast
• 23:19
  to
• 23:19
  really
• 23:19
  give
• 23:20
  some
• 23:20
  people
• 23:20
  some
• 23:21
  tangible
• 23:21
  things
• 23:22
  and
• 23:22
  strategies.
• 23:23
  What
• 23:24
  do
• 23:24
  you
• 23:24
  think
• 23:24
  are
• 23:25
  the
• 23:25
  three
• 23:25
  most
• 23:25
  critical
• 23:26
  things
• 23:27
  people
• 23:27
  need
• 23:28
  to
• 23:28
  keep
• 23:28
  pursuing
• 23:29
  for
• 23:29
  healing
• 23:30
  and
• 23:30
  growth?
• 23:31
  The
• 23:31
  three
• 23:32
  biggies.
• 23:33
  Now,
• 23:38
  See,
• 23:39
  the
• 23:39
  first
• 23:39
  thing
• 23:39
  is
• 23:39
  continue
• 23:40
  to
• 23:40
  own
• 23:40
  your
• 23:40
  story.
• 23:41
  Okay?
• 23:43
  Because
• 23:44
  your
• 23:44
  story
• 23:44
  is
• 23:44
  going
• 23:44
  to
• 23:45
  continue
• 23:45
  to
• 23:45
  develop
• 23:46
  and
• 23:46
  there
• 23:46
  may
• 23:47
  be
• 23:47
  things
• 23:47
  that
• 23:48
  you
• 23:49
  don't
• 23:49
  like
• 23:49
  about
• 23:49
  your
• 23:50
  story
• 23:51
  that
• 23:52
  come
• 23:52
  back
• 23:52
  to
• 23:53
  come
• 23:53
  out
• 23:53
  of
• 23:53
  the
• 23:53
  shadows
• 23:54
  ten
• 23:54
  years
• 23:54
  later.
• 23:55
  And
• 23:56
  continuing
• 23:56
  to
• 23:56
  own
• 23:57
  the
• 23:57
  story,
• 23:57
  it's
• 23:58
  continued
• 23:59
  to
• 24:00
  acknowledge
• 24:01
  that,
• 24:01
  okay,
• 24:01
  this
• 24:01
  is
• 24:02
  part
• 24:03
  a
• 24:03
  chapter.
• 24:05
  It's
• 24:05
  a
• 24:05
  few
• 24:05
  sentences
• 24:06
  in
• 24:06
  the
• 24:06
  chapter.
• 24:07
  It's
• 24:07
  not
• 24:07
  the
• 24:07
  whole
• 24:08
  book.
• 24:09
  Because
• 24:09
  sometimes
• 24:10
  when
• 24:10
  you're
• 24:10
  going
• 24:10
  along
• 24:11
  and
• 24:11
  you're
• 24:11
  right,
• 24:11
  right,
• 24:12
  and
• 24:12
  everything,
• 24:12
  something,
• 24:13
  you
• 24:13
  almost
• 24:13
  feel
• 24:14
  like
• 24:14
  the
• 24:14
  rug
• 24:14
  got
• 24:14
  pulled
• 24:14
  out
• 24:15
  from
• 24:15
  out
• 24:15
  of
• 24:15
  you,
• 24:15
  and
• 24:15
  you're
• 24:15
  like,
• 24:16
  I
• 24:16
  thought
• 24:17
  I
• 24:17
  was
• 24:17
  done.
• 24:19
  And
• 24:19
  then,
• 24:20
  you
• 24:20
  know,
• 24:20
  it
• 24:20
  can,
• 24:20
  it
• 24:21
  can
• 24:21
  be
• 24:21
  a
• 24:21
  spiral.
• 24:22
  And
• 24:23
  when
• 24:23
  you
• 24:23
  continue
• 24:24
  to
• 24:24
  own
• 24:25
  your
• 24:25
  story
• 24:25
  and
• 24:26
  see
• 24:26
  it
• 24:26
  as
• 24:26
  part
• 24:28
  of
• 24:28
  you,
• 24:28
  but
• 24:29
  not
• 24:29
  all
• 24:30
  of
• 24:30
  you,
• 24:30
  it's
• 24:31
  easier
• 24:31
  to
• 24:31
  say,
• 24:31
  okay,
• 24:32
  that
• 24:33
  one
• 24:33
  caught
• 24:33
  me
• 24:33
  off
• 24:33
  guard,
• 24:34
  but
• 24:35
  I'm
• 24:35
  not
• 24:35
  where
• 24:35
  I
• 24:36
  was
• 24:36
  and
• 24:36
  I
• 24:37
  can
• 24:37
  take
• 24:37
  what
• 24:37
  I've
• 24:37
  learned.
• 24:38
  Look
• 24:38
  at
• 24:38
  this.
• 24:38
  Apply
• 24:39
  it,
• 24:41
  acknowledge,
• 24:42
  grow,
• 24:42
  heal,
• 24:43
  and
• 24:43
  keep
• 24:44
  moving
• 24:44
  so
• 24:44
  it
• 24:45
  doesn't
• 24:45
  become
• 24:45
  a
• 24:46
  roadblock.
• 24:46
  So
• 24:47
  I
• 24:47
  think
• 24:47
  that's
• 24:47
  the
• 24:47
  first
• 24:47
  thing,
• 24:47
  is
• 24:48
  continue
• 24:48
  to
• 24:48
  own
• 24:48
  your
• 24:48
  story.
• 24:50
  Second
• 24:51
  thing
• 24:51
  is
• 24:51
  community.
• 24:52
  Having
• 24:52
  people
• 24:53
  in
• 24:53
  your
• 24:53
  life
• 24:54
  now,
• 24:54
  that
• 24:54
  doesn't
• 24:54
  mean
• 24:55
  have
• 24:55
  20
• 24:55
  people
• 24:55
  that
• 24:55
  you're
• 24:56
  telling
• 24:56
  everything
• 24:56
  to,
• 24:57
  right?
• 24:57
  That
• 24:57
  might
• 24:57
  be
• 24:58
  one
• 24:58
  or
• 24:58
  two
• 24:58
  trust
• 24:59
  people,
• 24:59
  just
• 25:00
  like
• 25:00
  Tam
• 25:00
  was
• 25:00
  saying
• 25:01
  earlier.
• 25:01
  Might
• 25:01
  be
• 25:02
  a
• 25:02
  counselor,
• 25:03
  pastor,
• 25:03
  friend,
• 25:04
  you
• 25:05
  know,
• 25:05
  a
• 25:05
  life
• 25:05
  coach,
• 25:06
  you
• 25:06
  know,
• 25:06
  a
• 25:06
  family
• 25:07
  member,
• 25:07
  whoever
• 25:07
  that
• 25:08
  is.
• 25:08
  But
• 25:09
  develop
• 25:09
  those
• 25:09
  relationships
• 25:10
  where
• 25:11
  you
• 25:11
  can
• 25:12
  be
• 25:12
  real
• 25:12
  with
• 25:13
  them,
• 25:14
  where
• 25:14
  you
• 25:14
  can
• 25:14
  be
• 25:14
  authentic,
• 25:15
  where
• 25:16
  you
• 25:16
  know
• 25:16
  you
• 25:16
  are
• 25:16
  accepted
• 25:17
  and
• 25:18
  loved
• 25:19
  and
• 25:19
  loved
• 25:20
  enough,
• 25:20
  where
• 25:20
  they're
• 25:21
  not
• 25:21
  going
• 25:21
  to
• 25:21
  let
• 25:21
  you
• 25:21
  stay
• 25:22
  where
• 25:22
  you
• 25:22
  are,
• 25:23
  because
• 25:24
  that's
• 25:24
  an
• 25:25
  important
• 25:25
  part,
• 25:26
  too,
• 25:26
  is
• 25:27
  to
• 25:27
  surround
• 25:27
  yourself
• 25:27
  with
• 25:28
  a
• 25:28
  few
• 25:28
  people
• 25:29
  who
• 25:29
  love
• 25:29
  you
• 25:29
  enough
• 25:29
  to
• 25:30
  put
• 25:30
  it
• 25:30
  on
• 25:30
  the
• 25:30
  line
• 25:31
  and
• 25:31
  love
• 25:31
  you
• 25:32
  enough
• 25:32
  to,
• 25:32
  to
• 25:32
  help
• 25:33
  challenge
• 25:33
  you
• 25:33
  and
• 25:34
  push
• 25:34
  you
• 25:34
  and,
• 25:34
  and,
• 25:35
  and
• 25:35
  encourage
• 25:36
  you
• 25:36
  and
• 25:36
  lift
• 25:37
  you
• 25:37
  up
• 25:37
  because
• 25:37
  they
• 25:38
  know
• 25:38
  what
• 25:38
  else
• 25:39
  you
• 25:39
  are
• 25:39
  capable
• 25:40
  of.
• 25:41
  And
• 25:41
  then
• 25:41
  I
• 25:42
  think,
• 25:42
  third
• 25:43
  thing,
• 25:44
  to
• 25:44
  continue
• 25:44
  to
• 25:45
  grow
• 25:45
  is
• 25:46
  to
• 25:46
  continue
• 25:46
  to
• 25:46
  have
• 25:47
  an
• 25:47
  attitude
• 25:47
  of
• 25:47
  Curiosity
• 25:48
  to
• 25:48
  not,
• 25:49
  not
• 25:49
  come
• 25:49
  back.
• 25:50
  Well,
• 25:50
  I've
• 25:50
  got
• 25:50
  myself
• 25:51
  all
• 25:51
  figured
• 25:52
  out
• 25:52
  now.
• 25:52
  I
• 25:52
  don't
• 25:53
  need
• 25:53
  counseling.
• 25:53
  I
• 25:54
  got
• 25:54
  all,
• 25:54
  you
• 25:54
  know,
• 25:54
  and
• 25:54
  suddenly
• 25:55
  you
• 25:55
  become
• 25:55
  a
• 25:56
  little
• 25:56
  prideful
• 25:57
  and
• 25:57
  then
• 25:57
  you
• 25:58
  can
• 25:58
  set
• 25:58
  yourself
• 25:58
  up.
• 25:59
  But
• 25:59
  if
• 25:59
  you
• 25:59
  continue
• 25:59
  to
• 26:00
  have
• 26:00
  that
• 26:00
  attitude
• 26:00
  of
• 26:01
  curiosity
• 26:01
  of,
• 26:02
  you
• 26:03
  know,
• 26:03
  now
• 26:03
  why
• 26:04
  am
• 26:04
  I
• 26:04
  feeling
• 26:05
  this?
• 26:05
  And
• 26:06
  not
• 26:06
  beating
• 26:06
  yourself
• 26:07
  up
• 26:07
  over
• 26:08
  why
• 26:08
  you're
• 26:08
  feeling
• 26:09
  something,
• 26:09
  maybe
• 26:09
  you're
• 26:10
  triggered
• 26:10
  over
• 26:10
  something
• 26:11
  that
• 26:11
  is.
• 26:11
  Okay,
• 26:12
  triggers
• 26:13
  happen.
• 26:13
  That's
• 26:13
  part
• 26:13
  of
• 26:14
  your
• 26:14
  story,
• 26:14
  is
• 26:14
  part
• 26:14
  of
• 26:15
  life.
• 26:16
  And
• 26:17
  what
• 26:17
  tools
• 26:17
  have
• 26:17
  you
• 26:18
  used,
• 26:18
  what
• 26:19
  tools
• 26:19
  have
• 26:19
  you
• 26:19
  learned
• 26:20
  and
• 26:20
  developed
• 26:20
  that
• 26:21
  you
• 26:21
  can
• 26:21
  apply
• 26:21
  now?
• 26:22
  And
• 26:22
  if
• 26:22
  it's
• 26:23
  a
• 26:23
  trigger
• 26:23
  where
• 26:23
  you're
• 26:24
  just
• 26:24
  not
• 26:24
  able
• 26:24
  to
• 26:24
  dig
• 26:25
  out,
• 26:26
  that's
• 26:26
  where
• 26:26
  that
• 26:26
  community
• 26:27
  comes
• 26:27
  in.
• 26:28
  That's
• 26:28
  where
• 26:29
  that
• 26:29
  continue
• 26:30
  continual
• 26:31
  thing
• 26:32
  of
• 26:32
  okay,
• 26:32
  you
• 26:32
  know,
• 26:33
  what
• 26:34
  else
• 26:34
  can
• 26:34
  I
• 26:34
  learn
• 26:35
  about
• 26:35
  me?
• 26:36
  That's
• 26:36
  where
• 26:36
  that
• 26:36
  comes
• 26:37
  in.
• 26:38
  My
• 26:39
  neighbor
• 26:39
  across
• 26:39
  the
• 26:40
  street
• 26:40
  passed
• 26:41
  away
• 26:41
  early
• 26:41
  December.
• 26:42
  She
• 26:42
  was
• 26:42
  grandma
• 26:43
  of
• 26:43
  the
• 26:43
  neighborhood.
• 26:44
  I
• 26:44
  knew
• 26:44
  my
• 26:44
  grandma.
• 26:45
  We
• 26:45
  would
• 26:46
  go
• 26:46
  over
• 26:46
  and
• 26:46
  help
• 26:46
  Fran
• 26:47
  with
• 26:47
  her
• 26:47
  trash
• 26:48
  and
• 26:48
  you
• 26:48
  know,
• 26:49
  and,
• 26:49
  and
• 26:50
  mail
• 26:50
  and
• 26:50
  whatever
• 26:51
  else.
• 26:51
  And
• 26:51
  my
• 26:51
  brother
• 26:51
  would
• 26:52
  shovel
• 26:52
  the
• 26:52
  driveway
• 26:52
  and
• 26:52
  everything.
• 26:54
  And
• 26:55
  it
• 26:56
  was
• 26:56
  coming
• 26:56
  up
• 26:56
  on
• 26:57
  three
• 26:57
  weeks
• 26:58
  before
• 26:58
  it
• 26:59
  was
• 26:59
  gonna
• 26:59
  be
• 27:00
  a
• 27:00
  30
• 27:00
  anniversary.
• 27:00
  Lose
• 27:01
  my
• 27:01
  dad.
• 27:01
  Right.
• 27:02
  Two
• 27:02
  days
• 27:02
  after
• 27:02
  Christmas,
• 27:03
  we
• 27:03
  lost
• 27:03
  him
• 27:03
  December
• 27:04
  27,
• 27:04
  19,
• 27:05
  20,
• 27:05
  22.
• 27:06
  So
• 27:06
  that
• 27:07
  really
• 27:07
  triggered
• 27:08
  me
• 27:08
  and
• 27:08
  it
• 27:09
  set
• 27:09
  me
• 27:09
  on
• 27:09
  a
• 27:09
  bit
• 27:09
  of
• 27:09
  a
• 27:10
  tailspin
• 27:11
  and
• 27:11
  I
• 27:12
  couldn't
• 27:12
  re.
• 27:12
  I,
• 27:13
  I
• 27:13
  knew
• 27:13
  it
• 27:13
  was
• 27:13
  a
• 27:13
  trigger.
• 27:14
  I
• 27:14
  acknowledged
• 27:15
  it.
• 27:15
  But
• 27:15
  I,
• 27:15
  it,
• 27:15
  it
• 27:16
  was,
• 27:16
  it
• 27:16
  was
• 27:16
  just
• 27:17
  there.
• 27:17
  I
• 27:18
  was
• 27:18
  already
• 27:18
  coming
• 27:18
  up
• 27:19
  on
• 27:19
  anniversary
• 27:19
  time
• 27:20
  among
• 27:20
  the
• 27:20
  holidays.
• 27:22
  So
• 27:22
  even
• 27:22
  though
• 27:22
  I've
• 27:23
  got
• 27:23
  all
• 27:23
  this
• 27:24
  knowledge
• 27:24
  and
• 27:24
  I'm
• 27:25
  doing
• 27:25
  all
• 27:25
  these
• 27:25
  things
• 27:25
  and
• 27:26
  I've
• 27:26
  been
• 27:26
  in
• 27:26
  counseling
• 27:26
  with
• 27:26
  Amanda
• 27:27
  for
• 27:27
  so
• 27:27
  long,
• 27:27
  I've
• 27:28
  learned
• 27:28
  so
• 27:28
  much,
• 27:29
  so
• 27:30
  need
• 27:30
  her
• 27:30
  to
• 27:30
  help
• 27:30
  me
• 27:30
  dig
• 27:30
  out
• 27:31
  that
• 27:31
  one.
• 27:31
  It's
• 27:32
  going
• 27:32
  to
• 27:32
  happen.
• 27:32
  That's
• 27:33
  where
• 27:33
  that
• 27:33
  community
• 27:33
  comes
• 27:34
  in.
• 27:35
  Absolutely.
• 27:37
  I
• 27:37
  love
• 27:37
  that.
• 27:38
  So
• 27:38
  just
• 27:38
  to
• 27:39
  recap,
• 27:39
  I'm
• 27:39
  going
• 27:39
  to
• 27:39
  recap
• 27:40
  for
• 27:40
  the
• 27:40
  listeners.
• 27:41
  So
• 27:41
  the
• 27:41
  three
• 27:41
  steps,
• 27:42
  and
• 27:42
  she
• 27:42
  said
• 27:42
  this
• 27:43
  is
• 27:43
  the
• 27:43
  three
• 27:43
  most
• 27:44
  critical
• 27:44
  steps
• 27:44
  to
• 27:45
  heal
• 27:45
  and
• 27:45
  continue
• 27:45
  to
• 27:46
  grow
• 27:46
  is
• 27:47
  own
• 27:47
  your
• 27:47
  story.
• 27:48
  Continually
• 27:49
  own
• 27:49
  your
• 27:49
  story.
• 27:50
  Get
• 27:50
  the
• 27:50
  community,
• 27:51
  develop
• 27:51
  your
• 27:51
  relationships
• 27:52
  and
• 27:52
  continue
• 27:53
  to
• 27:53
  grow.
• 27:54
  Because
• 27:54
  you're
• 27:54
  right,
• 27:54
  you
• 27:55
  never,
• 27:55
  it's,
• 27:56
  it's
• 27:56
  never.
• 27:56
  There's
• 27:57
  no
• 27:57
  stop
• 27:57
  sign
• 27:58
  to
• 27:58
  healing.
• 27:59
  And
• 27:59
  there's
• 27:59
  really,
• 27:59
  I
• 28:00
  mean
• 28:01
  that's.
• 28:02
  If
• 28:02
  you
• 28:02
  have
• 28:02
  a
• 28:02
  purpose,
• 28:03
  it
• 28:03
  should,
• 28:03
  you
• 28:03
  should
• 28:04
  continue
• 28:04
  to
• 28:04
  want
• 28:05
  to
• 28:05
  grow
• 28:05
  anyway
• 28:06
  to
• 28:06
  get
• 28:06
  to
• 28:06
  better
• 28:07
  and
• 28:07
  better
• 28:07
  and
• 28:08
  just
• 28:08
  being
• 28:08
  a
• 28:09
  better
• 28:09
  person.
• 28:09
  I
• 28:10
  mean
• 28:10
  that's
• 28:10
  just.
• 28:10
  Should
• 28:10
  be
• 28:11
  human
• 28:11
  nature
• 28:11
  when
• 28:12
  you've
• 28:12
  got
• 28:12
  everything
• 28:12
  else
• 28:13
  aligned
• 28:13
  and
• 28:13
  you're
• 28:14
  not
• 28:15
  trying
• 28:15
  to
• 28:15
  survive.
• 28:17
  And
• 28:17
  it's
• 28:18
  similar
• 28:18
  to
• 28:18
  what
• 28:18
  we
• 28:18
  said
• 28:18
  earlier.
• 28:19
  About
• 28:19
  the
• 28:19
  self
• 28:20
  talk
• 28:20
  is
• 28:20
  the
• 28:20
  key
• 28:21
  with
• 28:21
  those
• 28:21
  three
• 28:22
  things
• 28:22
  we
• 28:22
  just
• 28:22
  talked
• 28:23
  about
• 28:23
  that
• 28:24
  helps
• 28:24
  ward
• 28:25
  off
• 28:26
  negative
• 28:26
  self
• 28:26
  talk.
• 28:27
  I
• 28:27
  could
• 28:27
  have
• 28:28
  been
• 28:28
  beating
• 28:28
  myself
• 28:28
  up.
• 28:29
  I
• 28:29
  can't
• 28:29
  believe
• 28:30
  France
• 28:30
  death
• 28:30
  is
• 28:31
  really
• 28:31
  taking
• 28:31
  me
• 28:32
  down
• 28:32
  the
• 28:32
  ride
• 28:32
  so
• 28:32
  much
• 28:33
  and
• 28:33
  kind
• 28:33
  of
• 28:33
  just
• 28:33
  get
• 28:34
  down
• 28:34
  on
• 28:34
  yourself
• 28:35
  or.
• 28:36
  I'm
• 28:36
  owning
• 28:37
  that
• 28:37
  part
• 28:37
  of
• 28:38
  my
• 28:38
  story.
• 28:39
  I
• 28:39
  still
• 28:39
  hurt
• 28:40
  over
• 28:40
  losing
• 28:41
  my
• 28:41
  dad
• 28:42
  and
• 28:42
  Fran's
• 28:43
  passing
• 28:44
  hurt.
• 28:44
  And
• 28:44
  it
• 28:44
  magnified
• 28:45
  my
• 28:46
  hurt
• 28:46
  all
• 28:46
  the
• 28:47
  more.
• 28:48
  And
• 28:48
  that's
• 28:48
  part
• 28:49
  of
• 28:49
  my
• 28:49
  story
• 28:49
  now.
• 28:49
  I
• 28:50
  don't
• 28:50
  like
• 28:50
  it,
• 28:50
  but
• 28:51
  what
• 28:51
  have
• 28:51
  I
• 28:51
  learned?
• 28:52
  Who
• 28:52
  can
• 28:53
  I
• 28:53
  turn
• 28:53
  to
• 28:54
  and
• 28:54
  how
• 28:54
  can
• 28:54
  I
• 28:55
  continue
• 28:55
  to
• 28:55
  grow
• 28:55
  from
• 28:55
  this?
• 28:57
  Absolutely.
• 28:58
  I
• 28:58
  love
• 28:58
  that
• 28:59
  message.
• 28:59
  Love
• 29:00
  it.
• 29:00
  Thank
• 29:00
  you
• 29:01
  so
• 29:01
  much
• 29:01
  for
• 29:01
  that.
• 29:03
  So
• 29:04
  I'm.
• 29:04
  I
• 29:04
  had
• 29:05
  a
• 29:05
  question
• 29:05
  too.
• 29:05
  I
• 29:05
  actually
• 29:06
  had
• 29:06
  a
• 29:06
  couple
• 29:06
  questions
• 29:07
  while
• 29:07
  you
• 29:07
  were
• 29:07
  talking
• 29:07
  and
• 29:08
  then
• 29:09
  you.
• 29:10
  I
• 29:10
  got
• 29:10
  to,
• 29:11
  I
• 29:11
  got
• 29:11
  sidetracked
• 29:12
  listening
• 29:12
  to
• 29:12
  you
• 29:13
  because
• 29:13
  your,
• 29:13
  your
• 29:13
  explanation
• 29:14
  was
• 29:14
  so
• 29:15
  good.
• 29:15
  I
• 29:16
  love
• 29:16
  too
• 29:16
  that
• 29:17
  your
• 29:17
  mission,
• 29:17
  and
• 29:17
  I
• 29:18
  see
• 29:18
  it
• 29:18
  right
• 29:18
  there,
• 29:18
  is
• 29:18
  breaking
• 29:19
  the
• 29:19
  stigma
• 29:19
  around
• 29:20
  fate,
• 29:20
  around
• 29:21
  faith
• 29:21
  and
• 29:21
  mental
• 29:21
  health.
• 29:24
  The
• 29:25
  faith
• 29:25
  and
• 29:25
  mental
• 29:25
  health
• 29:26
  part
• 29:26
  does.
• 29:26
  I
• 29:26
  know
• 29:27
  I
• 29:27
  just
• 29:27
  did
• 29:28
  a
• 29:28
  summit
• 29:28
  last
• 29:29
  December
• 29:29
  called
• 29:29
  Shattering
• 29:30
  Stigmas
• 29:31
  and
• 29:31
  it
• 29:31
  was
• 29:31
  all
• 29:31
  about
• 29:31
  like
• 29:32
  rewording.
• 29:33
  I
• 29:33
  had
• 29:33
  like
• 29:33
  45
• 29:34
  speakers.
• 29:34
  Come
• 29:34
  on
• 29:34
  there,
• 29:35
  I'll
• 29:35
  send
• 29:35
  you
• 29:35
  a
• 29:35
  copy
• 29:35
  of
• 29:35
  it.
• 29:36
  And
• 29:36
  had
• 29:36
  like
• 29:36
  45
• 29:37
  speakers
• 29:37
  all
• 29:37
  come
• 29:38
  on
• 29:38
  and
• 29:38
  talk
• 29:38
  about
• 29:38
  different
• 29:39
  stigmas,
• 29:39
  about
• 29:39
  different
• 29:40
  things.
• 29:41
  When
• 29:41
  you
• 29:41
  say
• 29:41
  the
• 29:42
  stigma
• 29:42
  around
• 29:43
  faith
• 29:43
  and
• 29:43
  mental
• 29:44
  health,
• 29:45
  explain
• 29:45
  that
• 29:45
  to
• 29:45
  me
• 29:46
  because
• 29:46
  I'm
• 29:46
  just
• 29:46
  seeing
• 29:47
  for
• 29:47
  the
• 29:47
  people
• 29:47
  that
• 29:47
  aren't
• 29:48
  looking.
• 29:48
  I'm
• 29:48
  looking
• 29:48
  at
• 29:49
  her
• 29:49
  banner
• 29:50
  in
• 29:50
  the
• 29:50
  back
• 29:50
  of.
• 29:50
  Behind
• 29:51
  her.
• 29:53
  So
• 29:53
  I'm
• 29:53
  a
• 29:53
  Christ
• 29:53
  follower.
• 29:54
  And
• 29:54
  so
• 29:55
  my
• 29:55
  faith
• 29:56
  perspective
• 29:56
  comes,
• 29:56
  comes
• 29:57
  from,
• 29:57
  from
• 29:57
  a
• 29:57
  Christian
• 29:58
  perspective.
• 29:59
  And
• 30:00
  unfortunately
• 30:03
  there
• 30:03
  are
• 30:04
  many
• 30:04
  people
• 30:04
  who
• 30:05
  still
• 30:05
  believe
• 30:05
  that
• 30:06
  mental
• 30:06
  health
• 30:07
  struggles,
• 30:07
  which
• 30:07
  are
• 30:08
  normal
• 30:08
  for
• 30:08
  everybody,
• 30:09
  are
• 30:10
  a
• 30:10
  faith
• 30:11
  problem
• 30:11
  or
• 30:11
  a
• 30:12
  prayer
• 30:12
  problem.
• 30:13
  And
• 30:13
  while
• 30:14
  those
• 30:14
  certainly
• 30:15
  come
• 30:15
  into
• 30:16
  play,
• 30:16
  that
• 30:16
  is
• 30:17
  not
• 30:17
  an
• 30:17
  all
• 30:18
  inclusive
• 30:18
  answer.
• 30:20
  So
• 30:20
  I
• 30:20
  address
• 30:21
  the
• 30:21
  intersection
• 30:22
  of
• 30:22
  faith
• 30:22
  and
• 30:23
  mental
• 30:23
  health.
• 30:24
  Because
• 30:24
  we
• 30:25
  live
• 30:25
  in
• 30:25
  a
• 30:25
  fallen
• 30:25
  world
• 30:26
  and
• 30:28
  we
• 30:28
  are
• 30:28
  still
• 30:29
  susceptible
• 30:29
  to
• 30:30
  the
• 30:30
  consequences
• 30:31
  of
• 30:31
  sinful
• 30:32
  natures
• 30:32
  of
• 30:33
  every
• 30:33
  person.
• 30:34
  So
• 30:34
  when
• 30:35
  someone
• 30:35
  is.
• 30:37
  Someone
• 30:37
  does
• 30:37
  harm
• 30:38
  to
• 30:38
  you
• 30:38
  in
• 30:39
  some
• 30:39
  way
• 30:40
  that
• 30:40
  hurts,
• 30:41
  you
• 30:42
  are
• 30:42
  still
• 30:43
  susceptible
• 30:43
  to
• 30:44
  those
• 30:44
  effects.
• 30:46
  And
• 30:46
  it's
• 30:47
  more
• 30:47
  than
• 30:47
  just
• 30:47
  praying
• 30:48
  it
• 30:48
  away.
• 30:49
  It's
• 30:49
  more
• 30:49
  than
• 30:50
  just
• 30:50
  you
• 30:50
  don't
• 30:50
  have
• 30:50
  enough
• 30:51
  faith.
• 30:51
  Those
• 30:52
  comments
• 30:52
  only
• 30:54
  beat
• 30:54
  somebody
• 30:54
  down
• 30:55
  when
• 30:55
  they're
• 30:55
  already
• 30:56
  hurting
• 30:56
  and
• 30:57
  don't
• 30:57
  know
• 30:57
  who
• 30:58
  is
• 30:58
  safe.
• 30:59
  So
• 30:59
  what
• 30:59
  I
• 31:00
  aim
• 31:00
  to
• 31:00
  do,
• 31:00
  what
• 31:01
  my
• 31:01
  step
• 31:01
  ahead
• 31:01
  is
• 31:01
  about,
• 31:02
  what
• 31:02
  the
• 31:02
  Dare
• 31:03
  to
• 31:03
  Believe
• 31:03
  movement
• 31:04
  is
• 31:04
  about,
• 31:04
  is
• 31:05
  creating
• 31:05
  safe,
• 31:06
  safe
• 31:07
  places
• 31:07
  to
• 31:08
  have
• 31:08
  the
• 31:08
  hard
• 31:08
  conversations.
• 31:09
  On
• 31:10
  my
• 31:10
  YouTube
• 31:10
  channel,
• 31:11
  I
• 31:11
  am
• 31:12
  very
• 31:12
  open
• 31:12
  about
• 31:12
  my
• 31:13
  story.
• 31:13
  I
• 31:14
  will
• 31:14
  share
• 31:15
  old
• 31:16
  stuff,
• 31:16
  you
• 31:16
  know,
• 31:16
  old
• 31:17
  experiences,
• 31:17
  new
• 31:18
  stuff.
• 31:18
  I
• 31:18
  Shared
• 31:19
  a
• 31:19
  few
• 31:19
  different
• 31:19
  videos
• 31:20
  about
• 31:20
  how
• 31:20
  France,
• 31:21
  France
• 31:21
  passing
• 31:21
  triggered
• 31:22
  me
• 31:22
  because
• 31:22
  it's
• 31:23
  real
• 31:23
  life,
• 31:24
  because
• 31:24
  I
• 31:24
  want
• 31:25
  to
• 31:25
  create
• 31:26
  that
• 31:26
  safe
• 31:26
  space.
• 31:27
  It
• 31:28
  does
• 31:28
  not
• 31:28
  mean
• 31:28
  I'm
• 31:29
  not
• 31:29
  a
• 31:29
  Christ
• 31:29
  follower.
• 31:30
  It
• 31:30
  doesn't
• 31:30
  mean
• 31:30
  I
• 31:30
  don't
• 31:31
  have
• 31:31
  enough
• 31:31
  faith.
• 31:32
  It
• 31:32
  means
• 31:33
  I
• 31:33
  hurt.
• 31:34
  It
• 31:34
  means
• 31:34
  I
• 31:34
  love
• 31:35
  and
• 31:35
  I
• 31:35
  hurt.
• 31:35
  And
• 31:36
  I'm
• 31:36
  trying
• 31:36
  to
• 31:36
  figure
• 31:37
  out
• 31:37
  how
• 31:37
  to
• 31:37
  manage
• 31:38
  that.
• 31:39
  That's
• 31:39
  what
• 31:39
  it
• 31:40
  means
• 31:40
  now.
• 31:40
  I
• 31:40
  manage
• 31:41
  it,
• 31:41
  yes.
• 31:41
  With
• 31:42
  my
• 31:42
  faith
• 31:42
  in
• 31:43
  Christ.
• 31:44
  And
• 31:44
  that
• 31:44
  certainly
• 31:45
  gets
• 31:46
  me
• 31:46
  through.
• 31:47
  It's
• 31:47
  also
• 31:48
  not
• 31:48
  a
• 31:48
  panacea
• 31:49
  to
• 31:49
  say,
• 31:49
  oh,
• 31:50
  just
• 31:50
  whitewash
• 31:50
  this
• 31:51
  and
• 31:51
  you'll
• 31:51
  be
• 31:51
  fine.
• 31:51
  Yeah.
• 31:52
  No,
• 31:53
  that
• 31:53
  denies
• 31:54
  what,
• 31:54
  that
• 31:55
  denies
• 31:55
  what
• 31:55
  reality
• 31:56
  is.
• 31:57
  And
• 31:57
  Christ
• 31:57
  was
• 31:58
  all
• 31:58
  about
• 31:58
  the
• 31:58
  truth.
• 31:59
  Yep,
• 32:00
  absolutely.
• 32:01
  Actually,
• 32:01
  one
• 32:01
  of
• 32:01
  my
• 32:01
  talks
• 32:02
  and
• 32:02
  that's
• 32:02
  why
• 32:02
  I
• 32:02
  kind
• 32:03
  of
• 32:03
  asked.
• 32:03
  One
• 32:03
  of
• 32:03
  my
• 32:03
  talks
• 32:04
  in
• 32:04
  the,
• 32:04
  in
• 32:04
  the
• 32:05
  stigma
• 32:05
  summit
• 32:05
  that
• 32:06
  I
• 32:06
  did
• 32:06
  in
• 32:06
  December
• 32:07
  was
• 32:07
  about,
• 32:07
  that
• 32:08
  was
• 32:08
  about
• 32:08
  growing
• 32:09
  up
• 32:09
  in
• 32:09
  certain,
• 32:10
  you
• 32:10
  know,
• 32:10
  religions
• 32:11
  where
• 32:11
  it
• 32:11
  was,
• 32:12
  if
• 32:12
  something
• 32:12
  happened,
• 32:13
  if
• 32:13
  something,
• 32:13
  even
• 32:13
  if
• 32:13
  something
• 32:14
  bad
• 32:14
  happened
• 32:14
  to
• 32:14
  you,
• 32:15
  you
• 32:15
  know,
• 32:15
  pray
• 32:15
  and
• 32:15
  forgive,
• 32:16
  pray
• 32:16
  and
• 32:16
  forgive,
• 32:16
  pray
• 32:17
  and
• 32:17
  forgive.
• 32:17
  And,
• 32:18
  and
• 32:18
  that
• 32:18
  doesn't
• 32:19
  always
• 32:19
  fix
• 32:20
  every,
• 32:20
  you
• 32:21
  know,
• 32:21
  I
• 32:21
  mean,
• 32:21
  yes,
• 32:21
  it's,
• 32:21
  it's
• 32:22
  a
• 32:22
  huge
• 32:22
  part
• 32:23
  of
• 32:23
  it.
• 32:23
  And
• 32:23
  I
• 32:23
  always
• 32:24
  say
• 32:24
  like
• 32:24
  when
• 32:24
  people
• 32:25
  like,
• 32:25
  well,
• 32:25
  we've
• 32:25
  got
• 32:25
  you
• 32:25
  through
• 32:26
  and
• 32:26
  I'm
• 32:26
  like
• 32:27
  myself
• 32:27
  and
• 32:27
  God,
• 32:28
  you
• 32:28
  know.
• 32:28
  Yes.
• 32:29
  But
• 32:30
  at
• 32:30
  the
• 32:30
  same
• 32:30
  time,
• 32:30
  when
• 32:31
  you're
• 32:31
  having
• 32:31
  a
• 32:31
  mental
• 32:32
  health
• 32:32
  crisis
• 32:34
  to
• 32:34
  just
• 32:34
  be
• 32:34
  told,
• 32:35
  you
• 32:35
  know,
• 32:35
  pray
• 32:36
  and
• 32:36
  pray,
• 32:37
  just
• 32:37
  pray
• 32:37
  more.
• 32:39
  You're
• 32:40
  den
• 32:40
  when
• 32:40
  that
• 32:40
  is
• 32:41
  said,
• 32:41
  you're
• 32:41
  denying
• 32:42
  the
• 32:42
  emotions
• 32:42
  that
• 32:43
  God
• 32:43
  has
• 32:43
  created
• 32:44
  in
• 32:44
  you.
• 32:45
  Right.
• 32:45
  And
• 32:45
  that,
• 32:46
  that's
• 32:46
  not
• 32:46
  authentic.
• 32:48
  Nowhere
• 32:48
  in
• 32:48
  the
• 32:48
  word
• 32:49
  do
• 32:49
  I
• 32:49
  say
• 32:49
  do
• 32:49
  I
• 32:50
  see,
• 32:50
  hide
• 32:50
  your
• 32:50
  emotions.
• 32:51
  Nowhere
• 32:51
  do
• 32:52
  I
• 32:52
  say
• 32:52
  see,
• 32:52
  fake
• 32:53
  it
• 32:53
  so
• 32:53
  you
• 32:53
  make
• 32:53
  it.
• 32:54
  And
• 32:54
  yet
• 32:54
  how
• 32:54
  many
• 32:55
  of
• 32:55
  us
• 32:55
  try
• 32:55
  to
• 32:55
  live
• 32:56
  by
• 32:56
  that
• 32:57
  because
• 32:57
  of
• 32:57
  the
• 32:58
  insecurity,
• 32:59
  because
• 32:59
  of
• 32:59
  the
• 33:00
  rejection,
• 33:00
  because
• 33:01
  of
• 33:01
  the
• 33:01
  non
• 33:02
  acceptance
• 33:03
  of
• 33:03
  people.
• 33:04
  And
• 33:04
  I'm
• 33:04
  going
• 33:04
  to
• 33:04
  get
• 33:05
  really
• 33:05
  bold
• 33:05
  here
• 33:06
  because
• 33:07
  our
• 33:07
  struggle
• 33:08
  makes
• 33:09
  them
• 33:09
  uncomfortable.
• 33:11
  That's
• 33:12
  really
• 33:12
  what
• 33:12
  it
• 33:12
  is.
• 33:13
  Yep,
• 33:14
  it
• 33:14
  is.
• 33:15
  I'm
• 33:15
  blow
• 33:16
  the
• 33:16
  lid
• 33:16
  off
• 33:16
  that.
• 33:17
  No,
• 33:17
  that's
• 33:18
  at
• 33:18
  the
• 33:18
  end
• 33:18
  of
• 33:18
  the
• 33:18
  day.
• 33:19
  Exactly.
• 33:19
  And
• 33:20
  that's,
• 33:20
  you
• 33:21
  know,
• 33:21
  that
• 33:21
  was
• 33:21
  the
• 33:21
  whole
• 33:21
  concept
• 33:22
  of
• 33:22
  my
• 33:22
  entire
• 33:23
  summit
• 33:23
  was
• 33:24
  people
• 33:25
  steer
• 33:26
  away
• 33:26
  and
• 33:26
  avoid
• 33:27
  and
• 33:28
  condemn
• 33:28
  what
• 33:28
  they
• 33:29
  don't
• 33:29
  understand
• 33:30
  or
• 33:30
  they
• 33:30
  don't,
• 33:31
  you
• 33:31
  know,
• 33:31
  and,
• 33:32
  and
• 33:32
  it
• 33:33
  just
• 33:33
  makes
• 33:33
  everything
• 33:33
  more
• 33:33
  uncomfortable.
• 33:34
  And
• 33:34
  it's
• 33:35
  just
• 33:35
  like,
• 33:36
  and
• 33:36
  they're
• 33:36
  not.
• 33:36
  Willing
• 33:37
  to
• 33:37
  learn
• 33:38
  or
• 33:38
  consider
• 33:39
  that
• 33:40
  their
• 33:42
  view
• 33:42
  of
• 33:42
  whatever
• 33:43
  they
• 33:43
  think
• 33:44
  faith
• 33:44
  life
• 33:45
  should
• 33:45
  look
• 33:45
  like
• 33:46
  isn't
• 33:47
  as
• 33:47
  whitewashed
• 33:47
  as
• 33:48
  it
• 33:48
  really
• 33:48
  as,
• 33:49
  as
• 33:49
  they
• 33:49
  want
• 33:49
  it
• 33:49
  to
• 33:50
  be.
• 33:50
  It's
• 33:50
  not
• 33:50
  all
• 33:50
  black
• 33:50
  and
• 33:51
  white.
• 33:51
  Absolutely.
• 33:52
  It's
• 33:52
  muddy,
• 33:53
  it's
• 33:54
  dirty
• 33:55
  and
• 33:55
  that's
• 33:56
  why
• 33:56
  Jesus
• 33:56
  is.
• 33:58
  Then
• 33:58
  that's
• 33:58
  life,
• 33:59
  though.
• 33:59
  Absolutely.
• 34:00
  Well,
• 34:00
  this
• 34:00
  has
• 34:01
  been
• 34:01
  super
• 34:01
  fun,
• 34:01
  Sue.
• 34:02
  So
• 34:03
  tell
• 34:03
  people
• 34:03
  if
• 34:04
  they
• 34:04
  want
• 34:04
  to
• 34:04
  work
• 34:04
  with
• 34:04
  you
• 34:04
  or
• 34:05
  get
• 34:05
  your
• 34:05
  information
• 34:06
  or
• 34:06
  tell
• 34:06
  them.
• 34:07
  Where
• 34:07
  do
• 34:07
  we
• 34:07
  find
• 34:07
  you?
• 34:09
  Yeah.
• 34:09
  Best
• 34:09
  places@sioux
• 34:10
  bowls.com
• 34:11
  if
• 34:11
  you're
• 34:11
  watching
• 34:11
  the
• 34:12
  video,
• 34:12
  the
• 34:12
  website's
• 34:13
  right
• 34:13
  there
• 34:13
  on
• 34:13
  my
• 34:13
  screen
• 34:14
  as
• 34:14
  well.
• 34:15
  You'll
• 34:16
  find
• 34:16
  the
• 34:16
  links
• 34:16
  to
• 34:16
  everything
• 34:17
  else,
• 34:17
  the
• 34:17
  YouTube
• 34:18
  channel
• 34:18
  and
• 34:18
  everything
• 34:18
  right
• 34:19
  there.
• 34:19
  But
• 34:19
  please
• 34:19
  reach
• 34:20
  out
• 34:20
  to
• 34:20
  me,
• 34:20
  Siouxballs.com
• 34:21
  you
• 34:21
  can
• 34:21
  email
• 34:22
  me.
• 34:22
  There
• 34:22
  all
• 34:23
  kinds
• 34:23
  of
• 34:23
  other
• 34:23
  stuff
• 34:23
  there
• 34:24
  for
• 34:24
  you
• 34:24
  as
• 34:25
  well.
• 34:26
  Perfect.
• 34:26
  And
• 34:27
  I
• 34:27
  appreciate
• 34:27
  you
• 34:27
  so
• 34:28
  much
• 34:28
  for
• 34:28
  coming
• 34:28
  on.
• 34:28
  But
• 34:28
  before
• 34:28
  you
• 34:29
  go,
• 34:30
  one
• 34:30
  last
• 34:31
  message.
• 34:31
  And
• 34:31
  you
• 34:31
  have
• 34:32
  given
• 34:32
  so
• 34:32
  many
• 34:32
  tips
• 34:33
  and
• 34:33
  little.
• 34:33
  Little,
• 34:34
  you
• 34:34
  know,
• 34:35
  little
• 34:35
  tricks
• 34:36
  and
• 34:36
  stuff
• 34:36
  in
• 34:36
  there,
• 34:36
  but
• 34:37
  what's
• 34:37
  your
• 34:37
  final.
• 34:38
  What
• 34:38
  is
• 34:38
  your
• 34:38
  big
• 34:39
  message
• 34:39
  for
• 34:39
  everybody?
• 34:41
  Just
• 34:41
  repeat
• 34:42
  it.
• 34:42
  Wow.
• 34:43
  So
• 34:43
  many.
• 34:43
  Yeah,
• 34:45
  I.
• 34:45
  I
• 34:46
  usually
• 34:46
  say,
• 34:46
  dare
• 34:46
  to
• 34:47
  believe
• 34:47
  you
• 34:47
  matter.
• 34:47
  Which
• 34:47
  is.
• 34:48
  Is
• 34:48
  what.
• 34:48
  What
• 34:48
  I
• 34:49
  want
• 34:49
  to
• 34:49
  say?
• 34:49
  Yes.
• 34:50
  Dare
• 34:50
  to
• 34:50
  believe
• 34:51
  you
• 34:51
  matter.
• 34:51
  And
• 34:53
  if
• 34:53
  you're
• 34:54
  not
• 34:54
  there
• 34:54
  yet,
• 34:56
  take
• 34:57
  your
• 34:57
  next
• 34:57
  step.
• 34:58
  Just
• 34:59
  one
• 34:59
  step.
• 35:00
  It
• 35:00
  doesn't
• 35:00
  matter
• 35:01
  how
• 35:01
  big
• 35:01
  or
• 35:02
  small.
• 35:02
  That
• 35:02
  is
• 35:02
  just
• 35:03
  your
• 35:03
  next
• 35:03
  step.
• 35:04
  What
• 35:04
  is
• 35:04
  your
• 35:05
  next
• 35:05
  step
• 35:06
  ahead?
• 35:07
  Everybody
• 35:07
  needs
• 35:08
  encouragement.
• 35:08
  And
• 35:09
  on
• 35:10
  my
• 35:10
  website,
• 35:10
  you
• 35:11
  go
• 35:11
  to
• 35:11
  siboz.com
• 35:12
  I
• 35:12
  have
• 35:13
  what
• 35:13
  I
• 35:13
  call
• 35:13
  Humpty
• 35:13
  Help,
• 35:14
  which
• 35:14
  is
• 35:14
  a
• 35:15
  weekly
• 35:15
  encouragement
• 35:16
  text
• 35:16
  I
• 35:16
  send
• 35:16
  out.
• 35:17
  You
• 35:17
  can
• 35:17
  sign
• 35:17
  up
• 35:17
  for
• 35:17
  that
• 35:18
  for
• 35:18
  free.
• 35:18
  Maybe
• 35:19
  that
• 35:19
  is
• 35:19
  your
• 35:19
  next
• 35:20
  step,
• 35:20
  to
• 35:21
  just
• 35:21
  reach
• 35:21
  out
• 35:21
  and
• 35:22
  just
• 35:22
  get
• 35:22
  a
• 35:23
  text
• 35:24
  that
• 35:24
  just
• 35:25
  helps
• 35:25
  you
• 35:25
  get
• 35:25
  through
• 35:25
  the
• 35:25
  week.
• 35:26
  And
• 35:27
  then
• 35:27
  in
• 35:27
  that,
• 35:28
  it
• 35:28
  helps
• 35:28
  you
• 35:29
  take
• 35:29
  your
• 35:29
  next
• 35:29
  step,
• 35:30
  nurture,
• 35:31
  take
• 35:31
  whatever
• 35:32
  that
• 35:32
  next
• 35:32
  step
• 35:33
  is.
• 35:34
  And
• 35:34
  if
• 35:34
  there's
• 35:34
  some
• 35:34
  way
• 35:35
  that
• 35:35
  I
• 35:35
  can
• 35:35
  be
• 35:35
  on
• 35:35
  that
• 35:36
  journey
• 35:36
  with
• 35:36
  you,
• 35:36
  I
• 35:36
  would
• 35:37
  welcome
• 35:37
  that
• 35:38
  because
• 35:38
  I
• 35:38
  believe
• 35:39
  in
• 35:39
  you
• 35:40
  and
• 35:40
  I
• 35:40
  want
• 35:40
  to
• 35:40
  help
• 35:41
  you
• 35:41
  get
• 35:41
  to
• 35:41
  the
• 35:41
  point
• 35:42
  where
• 35:42
  you
• 35:42
  dare
• 35:43
  to
• 35:43
  believe
• 35:43
  in
• 35:43
  you
• 35:43
  as
• 35:44
  well.
• 35:45
  Oh,
• 35:45
  yeah.
• 35:45
  Thank
• 35:45
  you
• 35:46
  so
• 35:46
  much.
• 35:46
  Because,
• 35:46
  yes,
• 35:47
  when
• 35:47
  you
• 35:47
  believe
• 35:47
  in
• 35:47
  yourself
• 35:47
  and
• 35:48
  you're
• 35:48
  willing
• 35:48
  to
• 35:48
  bet
• 35:48
  on
• 35:48
  yourself
• 35:49
  and
• 35:49
  everything
• 35:49
  you
• 35:49
  do,
• 35:50
  it's
• 35:51
  a
• 35:51
  world
• 35:51
  of
• 35:51
  difference.
• 35:52
  It
• 35:52
  most
• 35:52
  certainly
• 35:53
  is.
• 35:54
  So
• 35:54
  what
• 35:54
  is
• 35:54
  that
• 35:54
  called?
• 35:54
  Hump
• 35:55
  Day
• 35:55
  Help.
• 35:56
  Hump
• 35:56
  Day
• 35:57
  Help.
• 35:57
  Yes.
• 35:57
  When
• 35:57
  you
• 35:57
  go
• 35:57
  to
• 35:58
  my
• 35:58
  website,
• 35:58
  you'll
• 35:58
  see
• 35:58
  that.
• 35:59
  You'll
• 35:59
  see
• 35:59
  a
• 35:59
  little
• 35:59
  thing
• 35:59
  come
• 36:00
  up.
• 36:00
  You
• 36:00
  just
• 36:00
  click
• 36:00
  on
• 36:01
  that.
• 36:01
  It'll
• 36:01
  take
• 36:01
  your
• 36:02
  name
• 36:02
  and
• 36:02
  your.
• 36:02
  Your
• 36:03
  name,
• 36:03
  I
• 36:03
  think,
• 36:03
  name,
• 36:04
  email,
• 36:04
  and
• 36:04
  phone
• 36:04
  number,
• 36:05
  and
• 36:05
  then
• 36:05
  it'll
• 36:05
  send
• 36:06
  a
• 36:06
  text
• 36:06
  and
• 36:06
  everything.
• 36:07
  Every
• 36:07
  Wednesday
• 36:08
  morning,
• 36:08
  you
• 36:08
  get
• 36:09
  it
• 36:09
  every
• 36:09
  Wednesday.
• 36:10
  So
• 36:10
  I
• 36:10
  think
• 36:10
  that's.
• 36:12
  Yeah.
• 36:12
  No,
• 36:12
  I
• 36:12
  mean,
• 36:13
  but.
• 36:13
  And.
• 36:14
  But
• 36:14
  you
• 36:14
  don't
• 36:15
  even
• 36:15
  know
• 36:15
  the
• 36:15
  ripple
• 36:15
  effect
• 36:16
  of
• 36:16
  something
• 36:16
  like
• 36:16
  that
• 36:17
  and
• 36:17
  what
• 36:17
  that
• 36:17
  does.
• 36:17
  And
• 36:17
  I
• 36:18
  try
• 36:18
  to
• 36:18
  tell
• 36:18
  people
• 36:18
  that,
• 36:19
  like,
• 36:19
  with
• 36:19
  the
• 36:19
  energy
• 36:19
  they
• 36:19
  put
• 36:20
  in
• 36:20
  the
• 36:20
  world
• 36:20
  or
• 36:20
  the
• 36:20
  smiles
• 36:21
  or
• 36:21
  the
• 36:21
  shirts
• 36:21
  that
• 36:22
  people
• 36:22
  wear
• 36:22
  that
• 36:22
  say,
• 36:23
  you
• 36:23
  know,
• 36:23
  smile,
• 36:24
  Jesus
• 36:24
  loves
• 36:24
  you.
• 36:24
  And
• 36:25
  it
• 36:25
  says
• 36:25
  it
• 36:25
  on
• 36:25
  the
• 36:25
  back,
• 36:26
  you
• 36:26
  know,
• 36:26
  so
• 36:26
  only
• 36:26
  the
• 36:26
  people
• 36:27
  behind
• 36:27
  you
• 36:27
  can
• 36:27
  see
• 36:27
  it.
• 36:29
  You
• 36:29
  never
• 36:29
  know
• 36:30
  when
• 36:31
  there's
• 36:31
  somebody
• 36:31
  out
• 36:32
  there
• 36:32
  that
• 36:32
  wants
• 36:32
  to
• 36:32
  be
• 36:32
  telling
• 36:33
  their
• 36:33
  story
• 36:33
  or
• 36:33
  wants
• 36:34
  to
• 36:34
  be
• 36:34
  heard
• 36:34
  or
• 36:34
  wants
• 36:35
  to
• 36:35
  be
• 36:35
  seen
• 36:35
  or
• 36:35
  just
• 36:36
  wants
• 36:36
  to
• 36:38
  get
• 36:38
  better.
• 36:38
  And
• 36:39
  so
• 36:39
  anything
• 36:40
  positive
• 36:40
  that
• 36:41
  you
• 36:41
  can
• 36:41
  do,
• 36:41
  like,
• 36:42
  something
• 36:42
  like
• 36:42
  that,
• 36:42
  just
• 36:42
  getting,
• 36:43
  getting
• 36:43
  a
• 36:43
  text
• 36:44
  every
• 36:45
  Wednesday
• 36:45
  morning,
• 36:45
  you,
• 36:46
  you
• 36:46
  have
• 36:46
  no
• 36:46
  idea.
• 36:47
  It's
• 36:47
  probably
• 36:47
  saved
• 36:47
  lives
• 36:48
  and
• 36:48
  you
• 36:48
  don't
• 36:48
  even
• 36:48
  know
• 36:48
  it.
• 36:49
  It's,
• 36:49
  that's
• 36:50
  the
• 36:50
  ripple
• 36:50
  effect
• 36:50
  of
• 36:51
  putting
• 36:51
  positivity
• 36:51
  into
• 36:52
  the
• 36:52
  world.
• 36:53
  So
• 36:53
  I,
• 36:54
  I,
• 36:54
  I,
• 36:55
  I,
• 36:55
  I
• 36:55
  love
• 36:55
  the
• 36:56
  interaction
• 36:56
  I
• 36:56
  get
• 36:56
  with
• 36:56
  people
• 36:57
  because
• 36:57
  they
• 36:57
  write
• 36:57
  me
• 36:57
  back
• 36:57
  and
• 36:58
  somebody
• 36:58
  wrote
• 36:59
  today,
• 36:59
  and
• 36:59
  we're
• 36:59
  going
• 36:59
  to
• 36:59
  get
• 36:59
  on
• 36:59
  a
• 37:00
  call
• 37:00
  tomorrow
• 37:00
  because
• 37:01
  it's,
• 37:01
  it's
• 37:01
  meeting
• 37:02
  needs,
• 37:02
  and
• 37:02
  that's
• 37:02
  what
• 37:02
  it's
• 37:03
  all
• 37:03
  about.
• 37:03
  That's
• 37:04
  exactly.
• 37:04
  And
• 37:05
  like
• 37:05
  you
• 37:05
  said,
• 37:05
  we,
• 37:06
  we
• 37:06
  live
• 37:06
  in
• 37:06
  a,
• 37:06
  in
• 37:07
  a
• 37:07
  broken
• 37:07
  world.
• 37:08
  Systems
• 37:09
  are
• 37:09
  broken,
• 37:09
  People
• 37:09
  are
• 37:10
  broken,
• 37:10
  and
• 37:10
  they
• 37:11
  need
• 37:11
  all
• 37:11
  the
• 37:11
  help
• 37:11
  they
• 37:11
  can
• 37:12
  get.
• 37:12
  So
• 37:12
  thank
• 37:13
  you
• 37:13
  so
• 37:13
  much
• 37:13
  for
• 37:13
  coming
• 37:13
  on.
• 37:14
  I
• 37:14
  appreciate
• 37:14
  you.
• 37:15
  And
• 37:16
  for
• 37:16
  everybody
• 37:17
  else
• 37:17
  out
• 37:17
  there,
• 37:18
  like
• 37:18
  she
• 37:18
  said,
• 37:19
  just
• 37:19
  take
• 37:19
  one
• 37:20
  step,
• 37:20
  ask
• 37:21
  yourself,
• 37:21
  close
• 37:21
  your
• 37:22
  eyes,
• 37:22
  put
• 37:22
  your
• 37:22
  hand
• 37:23
  on
• 37:23
  your
• 37:23
  heart,
• 37:23
  and
• 37:23
  ask
• 37:24
  yourself,
• 37:24
  what
• 37:25
  do
• 37:25
  I
• 37:25
  need
• 37:25
  right
• 37:26
  now?
• 37:26
  And
• 37:27
  then
• 37:27
  go
• 37:27
  do
• 37:27
  one
• 37:28
  thing
• 37:28
  that's
• 37:28
  going
• 37:29
  to
• 37:29
  get
• 37:29
  you
• 37:29
  closer
• 37:29
  to
• 37:29
  that.
• 37:30
  Go
• 37:30
  do
• 37:30
  one
• 37:31
  thing
• 37:31
  for
• 37:31
  yourself,
• 37:32
  because
• 37:32
  you
• 37:32
  so
• 37:33
  deserve
• 37:33
  it.
• 37:33
  I
• 37:33
  think
• 37:33
  at
• 37:34
  the
• 37:34
  end
• 37:34
  of
• 37:34
  my,
• 37:34
  my
• 37:34
  little
• 37:35
  outro
• 37:35
  for
• 37:35
  my
• 37:35
  podcast
• 37:36
  says,
• 37:36
  you
• 37:36
  know,
• 37:36
  I
• 37:37
  think
• 37:37
  the
• 37:37
  last
• 37:37
  sentence
• 37:38
  in
• 37:38
  it
• 37:39
  is,
• 37:39
  and
• 37:39
  you
• 37:39
  are
• 37:40
  way
• 37:40
  more
• 37:40
  than
• 37:41
  enough
• 37:41
  right
• 37:41
  here,
• 37:42
  right
• 37:42
  now.
• 37:43
  Exactly.
• 37:44
  Thank
• 37:44
  you.
• 37:44
  Thank
• 37:45
  you
• 37:45
  so
• 37:45
  much.
• 37:45
  Thank
• 37:45
  you,
• 37:46
  Tim.
• 37:46
  You're
• 37:47
  welcome.
• 37:47
  You
• 37:47
  have
• 37:47
  a
• 37:47
  blessed
• 37:48
  day.
• 37:48
  Thank
• 37:49
  you.