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How to Review then reward and reset (S5) S27:E7 Friday · Inspirations for Your Life

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All right, guys, so this is Friday, July
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3rd, 2026, one day before Fourth of July,
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and if you guys did not know this,
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tonight is actually going to be the time
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that they're actually dropping the ball at 11
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.59 p.m., because it's going to kind
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of be like a New Year's, because, well,
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the United States is turning 250, basically this
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day tomorrow on July 4th.
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So, yeah, definitely check that out later on.
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All right, so it is so great to
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have you here with me, and this is
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season five, it's episode number 27, series five,
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episode, it's actually show 27, excuse me, and
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it's episode number seven, it's Friday.
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Welcome, everyone, to another inspiring episode of Inspirations
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for Your Life.
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I am your host, John C.
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Morley, serial entrepreneur, engineer, marketing specialist, video producer,
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podcast host, coach, keynote speaker, graduate student at
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Montgomery State University, passionate lifelong learner, and so
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grateful now to be a published author.
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Every Friday gives me great pleasure to end
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up the week, because tomorrow we have a
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brand new master topic.
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We can rush into the weekend and basically
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forget what happened, or we can pause for
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just a moment, okay, and reflect and use
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the week as fuel for the next one.
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Today, I want to share a framework that
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has helped me and countless successful people continue
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growing.
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It is simple, review, reward, reset, review, reward,
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reset, pretty easy, right?
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Review, reward, reset, and so let's kick this
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show off, all right, everyone?
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So number one, weekly review turns days into
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progress.
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We need to be able to review, so
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I mean, I think that's just an important
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thing.
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We have to understand how we review, and
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I think that's an important thing for a
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lot of us to basically understand, okay?
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So without any kind of reflection, guys, the
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days just kind of, well, they kind of
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blur together, right?
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Reviewing your week transforms experiences into lessons, and
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lessons into momentum.
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See, a lot of times people don't want
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to look at the lesson.
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I'll tell you why, because they harp on
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what they did wrong, but really what they
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want to do is we want to harp
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on what we did right, and then figure
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out what we did wrong, but we want
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to figure out how we can change that
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and not make that a whole ordeal.
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Just figure out what tweak we can do,
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and I think that can help a lot
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of us, but I know sometimes if you're
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a perfectionist, which I used to be, it's
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hard to embrace these kinds of things, right?
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It just becomes very, very hard.
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So that's very important to definitely understand, and
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yeah, so let's go ahead and kick this
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off with our next point, because the next
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point is very important.
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Number two, look back to learn, not to
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beat yourself up.
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That's really what I'm saying.
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We want to look at what we did
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wrong, and then we want to make the
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choice to actually embrace what changes we can
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make.
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Now, do not become your own worst critic.
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Study your week with curiosity instead of guilt.
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I think a lot of people, when they
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get guilt, it's like, oh my gosh, I
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don't think I can do this anymore.
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I don't know what I'm going to do.
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And I think those are important things that
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a lot of people, they don't understand necessarily
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what that is.
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And I think that's hard for a lot
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of people to understand what that is or
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how that works, but we really need to
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understand that and embrace it with curiosity instead
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of guilt.
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Because you see, growth begins when you replace
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judgment with learning, and I know that's hard
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for a lot of people to embrace, okay?
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But it's important to understand that and know
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what's going on.
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And hopefully, that'll get you guys to become
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better versions of yourself every single day.
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And I'm not going to tell you it's
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going to be easy, because nothing, guys, is
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ever easy, right?
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Nothing is ever easy.
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But I can tell you that it's important
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that you understand what's going on and why
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things are going on a certain way, because
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that can help and affect your trajectory going
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forward.
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Number three, guys, ask yourself, what did I
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let go of this week?
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I think when we think about letting go,
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it causes a lot of people to get
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emotional and it causes people to fear things.
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Maybe you released a fear, an excuse, or
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perhaps a distraction.
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Every new level requires letting go of something
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that no longer serves you anymore, and I
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think that's an important thing.
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When something goes, something else will always fill
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it.
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Now, it may not fill it right away,
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and I think that's another important thing.
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Don't worry if it doesn't fill it right
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away.
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It will eventually fill it, I promise, okay?
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But it might just take a little time
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before that void does get filled.
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Number four, guys, ask yourself, where did I
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level up this week?
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You see, growth is often subtle.
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Notice where you became more patient, more disciplined,
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or more confident.
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Those moments matter most.
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I know a lot of us say, gee,
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look, I did this wrong, I did this
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wrong, I did this wrong, and now what
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am I supposed to do?
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And I get that, guys, but we really
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have to embrace the concept of who we
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are, all right?
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The concept of who we are, and what
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we're doing, and why we're doing certain things,
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because I think that matters the most for
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everyone.
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But I think sometimes we just, we miss
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that whole concept.
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And I feel that if we miss the
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concept, then it's going to be like, how
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do we get back on our feet, okay?
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I think it's important to understand, okay, that
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people have to be who they are, and
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they have to learn from mistakes, okay?
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That's a very important thing to know.
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And I'm going to tell you that it's
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something that you can do every single day.
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But I know a lot of people, they
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get scared because they figure that they can't
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do something.
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And it's not that they can't.
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It's just like Henry Ford said a long
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time ago, if you believe you can't, you're
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right.
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And if you believe you can, you're also
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right.
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So we have to basically believe we can.
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That's what Henry Ford said.
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And so we want to embrace the whole
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concept of doing that.
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And when we do that, I feel our
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life sort of changes in a way that
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maybe many of us were not expecting it
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to change you to.
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But it does change.
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And that change helps us become a better
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person.
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Number five, track your wins as identity evidence.
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Every positive action proves who you are becoming.
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Your wins are evidence that your future self
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is already taking shape.
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And don't beat yourself up because you're not
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where you want to be.
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Just don't do that.
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I think that's an important thing.
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And I know a lot of people don't
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understand what's going on or why something is
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going on.
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OK, that's probably an important thing for us
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to understand, for us to know why that
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is.
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Number six, celebrate even tiny improvements.
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A small improvement repeated consistently creates extraordinary results.
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Never dismiss progress simply because it seems small.
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I'm going to have a little sip of
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water here.
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Actually delicious.
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Mara water with lemon is a really, really,
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really, really good recipe.
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And I think a lot of people can
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understand that.
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And hopefully most people will really understand that
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you never dismiss progress simply because it seems
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small.
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A lot of people will give up because
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they don't see what they want now.
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Number seven, you are closer to your new
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self than last Friday.
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You are, whether you believe that or not.
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One week of intentional action changes you more
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than you realize.
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Give yourself credit for continuing the journey, right?
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That's an important thing that a lot of
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people don't understand.
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You've got to give yourself credit because you're
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on a journey.
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And the journey is not always easy, guys.
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The journey can sometimes be hard for people,
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okay?
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And I think that's an important thing that
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a lot of people miss.
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And I can tell you that's important.
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Number eight, notice how your choices changed.
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Success is built through decisions.
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Pay attention to the moments where you choose
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growth instead of comfort, right?
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I think that's a thing for a lot
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of people.
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And maybe it's something that you want.
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Maybe it may not be something somebody else
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wants.
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So we have to pay attention to those
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moments where we're actually focusing on growth.
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That's important.
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I know we want comfort.
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But if we focus on, let's say, growing,
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it's going to be a little uncomfortable.
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And hopefully we will definitely get used to
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that.
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Number nine, notice how your self-talk changed.
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The conversation you have with yourself shapes every
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decision you make in your life.
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Speak with encouragement instead of criticism.
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I think that's a very important thing for
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us to realize that it's got to be
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about that reason.
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And I think a lot of people don't
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realize that they have so much power, okay?
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They have a lot of power, all right?
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Number 10, adjust your systems based on reality,
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not fantasy.
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This isn't Disney.
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This isn't a movie.
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This is your life, okay?
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Create routines that fit your real life.
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Sustainable systems always outperform unrealistic plans.
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We've talked about that before.
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Many people want to do the unrealistic plans.
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But then they may not necessarily work in
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the best way, okay?
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They may not work in the best way.
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And I can say that that's something that
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a lot of people, you know, they beat
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themselves up about.
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Why am I going this way?
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Why am I doing this?
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You can change it.
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Absolutely can change it.
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Number 11, guys, keep what moved you forward.
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Drop what did not.
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Not every habit deserves another week.
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Keep the actions that created progress and release
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the ones that wasted your time.
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Many people feel that they don't want to
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do that because they're afraid of going back.
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They're afraid of going back.
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And I think that's important too, right?
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And that may be something that maybe you're
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not aware of.
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But when you become aware of it, it's
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like, okay, now I'm doing the things that
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are best for my life and to help
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me succeed.
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But I realize a lot of people, they
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get stuck in that pattern like, what is
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best for my life?
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Number 12, your life is a series of
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experiments.
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Tweak the next round.
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Your life is a game in a sense
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that don't take life completely seriously, right?
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That doesn't mean don't be serious about certain
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things.
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It just means don't take everything seriously.
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Have fun with life.
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Something doesn't work, change it.
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I've done the same thing with marketing for
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many years that, you know, something doesn't work,
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well, what could make it work?
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Treat every week as valuable data.
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When something does not work, improve it.
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Instead of quitting, so many people I know,
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they want to quit.
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And the reason they want to quit is
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because they don't have an answer.
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They don't necessarily know where they want to
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be or what they want to do.
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But the thing is, they can do a
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lot if you believe it's possible.
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If you believe it's possible.
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I know a lot of people say it's
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not possible, but it is, all right?
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And I think a lot of people hopefully
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understand that most people will realize when something
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does not work, you can improve it instead
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of quitting.
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But in the beginning, some people are going
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to quit because they just think that's the
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only way to be.
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They feel if you quit and you give
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up, that life will just be easy for
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you, okay?
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And I think that's a hard thing for
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a lot of people to realize that it's
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just like that.
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And that's something I think that's going to
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take people a while to realize.
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To realize that you have this potential, right?
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Potential that could change who you are.
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Number 13, reward yourself in ways that do
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not undo the progress you've already done.
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Celebrate it wisely, guys.
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Choose rewards that reinforce your goals instead of
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pulling you away from them.
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And again, that can be hard because you
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may have your head set on one direction,
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but you're not open to a new change,
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okay?
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And that's something that a lot of people,
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I feel, just they don't get it.
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They don't understand what it's about or why
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it's about.
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They just deny everything in their life.
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And again, this is something that I believe
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everyone's going to get better at the more
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they do it, all right?
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Number 14, rest is part of performance.
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It's not a break from it.
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We all need our rest.
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Recovery is what growth requires for us to
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transpire.
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When we sleep, our short-term memory gets
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converted to our long-term.
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Rest gives your mind and body the strength
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to perform at a higher level, right?
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It's not about pushing yourself till you collapse.
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I know a lot of people do that.
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They push themselves to collapse and then they
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wonder why there's something on the floor.
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They went way past burnout.
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Number 15, do not confuse being busy with
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leveling up.
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Many people I know do that.
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A full calendar does not guarantee meaningful progress.
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Focus on what truly you have in your
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life and what moves your life forward.
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Not the fact that you've just blocked at
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every single slot in your life and time,
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that you're so busy that you can't do
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anything.
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That's not a good thing, guys.
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Number 16, choose depth over speed.
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Mastery comes from going deeper, not faster.
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Slow intentional growth creates lasting success.
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It does, but we have to be patient
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with it.
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We cannot expect this to suddenly just, you
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know, traverse or change or whatever.
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We can't.
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There's no way to do that, unfortunately.
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No way.
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Number 17, guys, set one clear focus for
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next week.
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Can you do that for me?
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Just one.
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One meaningful priority is often more powerful than
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10 competing goals.
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Clarity creates confidence.
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And when we get confidence, guess what?
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We want to move forward.
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It becomes not just something physical, but it
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also becomes mental, okay?
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And even chemical, which pushes our body forward,
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which is a really good thing.
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But a lot of people don't realize that
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we have that power.
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Number 18, set one habit to double down
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on.
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Identify the habit that produced the greatest return
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this week and strengthen it even further for
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next week.
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Was it networking?
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Was it making phone calls?
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Was it being patient?
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What was the skill?
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So set one thing and do it.
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Number 19, set one thing to fully release.
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Whether it's procrastination, negativity, or a draining commitment,
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make the decision to let it go completely.
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Maybe you're volunteering too much, right?
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And suddenly you realize your calendar has just
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been like buffaloed.
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You don't know what to do.
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Number 20, you are building momentum.
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You're not chasing perfection.
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If you think you're chasing perfection, you're going
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to get through burnout and it's going to
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be worse and then you're going to collapse,
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okay?
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So this is a very important thing that
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I want to share with you.
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Momentum grows through consistency.
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Perfection only creates hesitation.
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Even though we think perfection is everything we
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need in our life, it's not.
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It is not.
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It causes us to become isolated.
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It causes us to get depressed.
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It causes us to lose motivation, to lose
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confidence, and to have any ounce of discipline
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that we have to just basically cause it
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to fall apart.
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I think that's a hard thing for people.
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Everything has to be aligned.
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See, when they connect, nothing's going to try
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to sabotage the other.
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Now, can something take apart discipline?
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Yes, it can.
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Is it common?
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No.
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But if you're feeling that bad about yourself,
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you can actually rewire discipline to not work
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for you.
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That's not good.
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Let your week become content, insight, and strategy.
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Again, look at the data that your week
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is producing.
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Look at it.
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It's pretty powerful, right?
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I think it's important to understand and to
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recognize that.
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All right, that's very important.
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So the next thing I want to share
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with you is your experience contains valuable lessons.
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Capture them in a journal, a podcast, a
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video, or a conversation with someone who needs
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the encouragement, just like I'm doing here.
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We're on, by the way.
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We're on the year.
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Now, in our fifth year, we are not
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complete the fifth year.
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We're four and a half years on the
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air right now.
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Number 22, document, document, document how you have
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changed.
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This is your origin story.
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Celebrate it.
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One day, you'll look back and realize these
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small weekly moments built the person you became
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today.
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Record that journey.
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Don't be afraid to tell the world about
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it because that's impressive, okay?
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And I think that's something that a lot
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of people don't realize, okay?
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They don't realize what that is.
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But I want to tell you that when
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you start to have an understanding of this,
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that's when your life starts to change.
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Don't think because, well, it's a small change
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that nothing's going to happen, okay?
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Don't think that.
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Don't think that at all, all right?
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If you realize that you can change, that's
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a big difference, okay?
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Don't think that it's just about today.
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Think about the potential and where it can
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go in your life.
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That's the key, guys, when you can understand
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how these little steps can actually compound into
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things that are much bigger.
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Number 23, you did not just survive.
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You designed.
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You're not simply reacting to life.
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Every intentional decision helps shape the future you
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want to live.
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You're not being reactive.
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You're being proactive.
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And that's where success happens.
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Number 24, this can be your new baseline,
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not your peak.
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Do not believe your best week is behind
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you.
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Raise your standard and make today's progress tomorrow's
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normal.
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A wise person once told me a long
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time ago, you want to become more successful,
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envision your future the way you want to
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be, but don't see your future as something
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that's so wowing.
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Just see it as your normal day.
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And when that happens, guys, your life actually
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changes.
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Your life changes because you see it as
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just your normal daily life.
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And I think that's a very, I think
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that's a very important thing to understand.
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So number 25, upgrade the plan, not the
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excuses.
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When something fails, improve the strategy instead of
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defending the reason it did not work.
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Better plans create better results.
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So why don't we start doing that today
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instead of making ourselves all of these amazing
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excuses, right?
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Why?
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I think that's an important thing to understand
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that that's how it is.
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And I think a lot of people don't
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realize like, you know, how that works or
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how that can embrace, right?
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But that's important to definitely understand, right?
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So number 26, you are proving you can
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let go and level up.
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That's what this whole week is about.
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Letting go and leveling up in many different
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ways.
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Every courageous choice becomes evidence that transformation is
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happening to you.
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Keep collecting that proof.
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That's going to make the difference to make
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you want to push harder, right?
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It's going to make you want to push
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harder and harder and harder.
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That's really what it's about, guys.
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It's about that whole concept.
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And I know a lot of people get
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stuck in that path.
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Number 27, old you is losing power.
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The new you is gaining proof.
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Your identity changes every time your actions align
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with your goals.
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The old version fades as the new version
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grows just a little bit stronger.
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And that can be hard for some people
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to understand.
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Number 28, close the week with intention.
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That's an important one for us to realize.
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Close the week with intention.
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And hopefully that makes some difference in your
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life.
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Before the weekend begins, take a few moments
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to express gratitude.
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Review your lessons and acknowledge your progress.
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Number 29, open the next week with clarity,
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not clutter.
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Know your priorities before Monday arrives.
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Starting with clarity and giving yourself confidence before
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the weekend begins.
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Number 30, let go and level up.
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It's now how you live, not just a
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theme.
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This is more than a motivational phrase.
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It's a commitment to becoming stronger through intentional
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action every single week.
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As we wrap up today and the week,
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remember this.
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Your greatest competition is not another person.
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It is the version of yourself that believes
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growth is impossible.
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Every week, review honesty.
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Reward wisely and reset intentionally.
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You become someone stronger, wiser, and more resilient.
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Do not wait for a new year to
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reinvent yourself.
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You have another opportunity every single Friday.
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Review your victories.
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Learn from your setbacks.
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Celebrate your progress, even the small ones.
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Adjust your systems.
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Then walk confidently into the next week knowing
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you are no longer hoping for a better
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future.
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You are actively creating one.
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I'm John Simoyle, a serial entrepreneur.
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And be sure to check out BelieveMeAchieve.com
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for more of my amazing, inspiring creations.