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Do You Love Someone Diagnosed With Autism? (What To Do) · Aspergers & Autism Podcast [The Aspie World] AuDHD

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  So what should you do if your loved one is diagnosed with
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  autism? I'm going to go through all this
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  right now. Guys, welcome back to the AS we
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  world. My name is Dan.
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  I have autism and ADHD. I make weekly videos all about
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  this stuff. So if you're new around here and
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  you want to learn more, probably to hit the subscribe button down
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  below by clicking the notification bell.
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  Guys, what is going on? This video is specifically
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  designed to help you understand what do you do if your partner
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  or your friend or even your kid is diagnosed with autism or
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  somebody you look and even as an adult.
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  So we're going to go through some things like some typical
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  protocol, which are the things that you can take on board if
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  you've just found out this one, you know it's diagnosed with
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  autism and how you can support them and and support you also.
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  I just want to say that if you are having any mental health
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  issues and you don't want the stress and the struggle of going
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  out to try and find a counsellor, I highly recommend
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  an app called Better Help. This is not sponsored.
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  Better Help is LinkedIn the description down below.
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  But it's an app on your phone that you can download and you
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  can use that app to connect to a counsellor within 24 to 48
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  hours. And they will connect to you via
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  video or just chat or even audio phone call and you can have a
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  session with them. Completely full of comfort of
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  your home, Super accessible, super good.
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  And you can find specific people who deal with like just ADHD or
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  autism or mental health issues totally up to you.
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  So check out better help in the link description down below and
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  basing the link helps me out as well.
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  So that's kind of cool. OK, so the first thing to do, if
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  you are you know, with someone who you love and they are
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  diagnosed with autism, you know, I would say that understand and
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  educate yourself all about autism.
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  You know, watching videos like this, reading magazines, signing
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  up to your newsletters, subscribing some blogs about
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  going to the National Autistic Society, meet ups or any charity
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  that you know have meet ups or social groups.
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  Go to those and learn about the subject of autism.
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  The second thing that you should do is be supportive and
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  apathetic towards the individual who has the autism section
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  condition, because they're going through a lot.
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  Try to adjust themselves, and their diagnosis means that they
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  are like this now and they're trying to become more themselves
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  and they just need your support and understanding.
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  You have to encourage open communication and provide a safe
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  space for the personal spectrum to express themselves.
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  And this is essential because if you can't express yourself and
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  you can't kind of like be yourself around somebody who you
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  love about your condition, then you're kind of not really moving
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  forward. You're kind of being stuck at a
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  standstill. So the more open you can be with
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  somebody, better. So just try and promote that
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  open communication. Recognizing and respecting their
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  unique strengths and challenges is very crucial to this, because
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  if you don't understand their challenges and their uniqueness,
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  then they're going to feel kind of like a bit left out or maybe
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  feel quite alienated from a situation and their uniqueness
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  may not be seen as such. You can also seek professional
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  help from therapists and autism specialists.
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  That can be really beneficial for the people who are on the
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  autism spectrum and people who are loved ones of people on the
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  autism spectrum. It doesn't just have to be the
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  autistic person getting therapy, you know, the family can benefit
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  from this too, if they're finding it a struggle.
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  Promoting independence and allowing the autistic person to
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  make decisions for themselves is encouraging.
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  It's encouraging because autistic individuals will have
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  issues with executive dysfunction, which is
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  organising, planning, being independent and these things are
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  and take a mental health toll on an autistic person when they
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  find struggles in these areas. But above all, being patient and
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  flexible, accommodating the needs that generally contributed
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  to autism to help the well-being of the person you love.
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  He's got to be so awesome and all pay off and dividends
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  because the happier the person is then the easier life is, and
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  the easier life is the easier Rd. you get.
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  Encouraging social communications and providing
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  opportunities for social interaction is really crucial
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  because autistic people will have issues with social
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  interaction, they'll have issues socializing in general and
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  finding opportunities to socialize may be quite
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  difficult, so encouraging those would be amazing.
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  But the most significant thing is self-care.
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  For both individual and the autism loved one, both of you
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  need self-care. self-care means taking a break when you need it,
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  making sure you're not overdoing it, making sure that your needs
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  are met and their needs are met completely.
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  Because what's going to happen is if you do everything for the
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  other person, then you're going to burn out and you can't be
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  support when the person you need to support needs you when you
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  need support yourself. So it's a whole thing. self-care
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  is important and it's number one.
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  Guys. If you enjoyed this video, give
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  it like share this video and I'll see you in the next one.
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  Guys, peace.