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Why No One Gets Angrier Than a Guilty Narcissist · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  So no one gets angrier than a narcissist that is guilty.
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  No one gets madder than a narcissistic person that is
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  actually guilty of whatever they're being accused of.
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  Actually actively guilty guilt. Guilty as charged.
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  No one gets angry. Why is that?
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  Why the hell do narcissistic people get angry when they get
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  caught? Why the hell do narcissistic
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  people just get fly into an uncontrollable rage when they
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  get busted for something that they have actually done?
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  Or it's a verifiable accusation? Like it's an accusation but you
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  get all the facts behind it. Allegedly.
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  But you on camera, Allegedly. But you have text messages and
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  screenshots, allegedly, right? If you're new here, my name is
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  Lee Hammock. I'm a diagnosed narcissist and
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  I'm out of breath. I got too hype of the interest,
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  did I? I got too hype of the interest
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  because this is one of my favorite topics right here.
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  Y'all? I did a video about this years
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  ago, but today is the update because you know, as as you
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  grow, you're supposed to change your mindset is supposed to
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  change your viewpoints are supposed to change in a
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  positive, satisfactory direction, right?
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  So this is me updating you on why narcissists get angry when
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  they when they get caught or when they get accused of
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  something that they have done right.
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  And the main reason is because of shame.
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  I know I mentioned shame a lot on this channel y'all, but it's
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  necessary. Me mentioning shame is necessary
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  because shame and narcissism tend to go hand in hand.
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  Police shame. You see what I'm saying?
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  Shame and narcissism do go my goodness gracious, and
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  narcissism do go hand in hand like narcissistic people when
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  you accuse them of something that they have actually done or
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  when they get caught, they get they, they, it's a shame.
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  The floodgates of shame are open and shame comes flooding in like
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  a like a like the Hoover Dam, like a dam that hasn't been
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  opened in a long time and the water just sprays out
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  everywhere. That's what it is.
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  That's how shame comes into a narcissist's life, when you
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  accuse them of something that they have done, like or when you
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  catch them in the act. How dare you bring shame into my
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  life for something that I have actually done, something that
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  I'm actually guilty of, something that you caught me in
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  the act of doing. It's shame, y'all you make.
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  Narcissistic people, one thing about this is that they like to
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  have power and control. I'm one of them, right?
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  I like to have power and control too, but not to the extent that
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  I used to, right? Because I understand what power
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  and control look like. You know what I mean Power and
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  control can look differently in different situations, but most
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  nurses want power and control over their the person that
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  they're in their life. Y'all will refer to them as
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  victims, right? Nurses want control over their
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  victims. So when you catch me and you
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  accuse me or, and or you accuse me of something that I have
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  done. Now the power dynamic is
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  shifting because now you can expose me.
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  I want to be look, I want to be viewed as a good person
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  regardless of what I've done. I actually, I actively
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  absolutely want to be viewed as a good person regardless of what
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  I have done, right? Regardless of what has went
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  down. I want the world to view me as a
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  good person. So in in order to be viewed as a
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  good person, I have to go about doing things in a certain way,
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  right? I have to go about doing things
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  and achieving things in a certain way.
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  So I don't want to get exposed. I don't want to get caught
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  because you catch me. That means you can expose me and
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  you can change people's perspectives of me.
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  I want to be viewed as a good person.
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  So if you catch me in the act of doing something, then I can no
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  longer hold that title anymore, right?
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  I can no longer be viewed as a good person because you catch me
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  in the act. So I need to get angry.
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  How do I get out of it? I don't get out of it by
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  apologizing. Yeah.
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  Some narcissists will start crying, begging, pleading.
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  Right? Oh my God.
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  Right. But most of them will start
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  yelling and screaming and becoming rage, like unleash a
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  rage upon you for catching them, for doing something, for
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  accusing them of doing something, right?
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  Like it's not always being caught.
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  It's not always about being caught.
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  When you accuse them of something that they know they
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  have done, do they know you're getting too close to catching
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  them? That's when they lose their
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  minds as well. Because me flying into a rage
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  could scare you into stop searching for evidence, right?
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  It's like, it's like the you, you bought the snitch on the
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  mob, right? And the mobsters send somebody
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  by your house. They just say, hey, let you know
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  you show up to court tomorrow to snitch.
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  Something bad is going to happen to you with a Pew Pew and you
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  don't show up to court. They, you, they successfully
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  scared you, right? You don't want to testify now.
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  You know, you, you don't want to be a witness anymore.
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  That's what narcissistic people want to do to you.
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  They want you to be so scared or so afraid of bringing it up
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  again or continuing to look into it again and to continuing to
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  look further into the issue that you just give it up.
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  You don't bring it up anymore now.
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  Yeah, I can't believe you went to my phone and seen them
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  screenshots of me and them videos of me clapping somebody
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  else's cheeks. I cannot believe you went
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  through there and see me cheating on you.
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  I can't believe you. But don't trust me.
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  How are you not going to trust me?
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  How are you not going to trust me?
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  Yeah. I hate this.
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  I hate this. That's why You stupid.
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  You ugly. You.
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  This is ridiculous. I can't believe I should have
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  left you in the car. I shouldn't have been with you
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  in the 1st place. Damn, Bob.
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  Why not with somebody that don't?
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  Trust me. And they're caught, like they
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  get caught. This is like very like this is a
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  very simple example right here. You're sitting on the couch
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  beside your narcissistic partner.
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  You look, they're they pull out their phone and a message.
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  You know how the messages come across the top of the screen.
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  A message comes across the top of the screen and it's like a
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  some an eggplant or some Peaches, which clearly, just
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  clearly is sexually innuendo, right?
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  It's sexually charged in a tongue and you like, Hey, what's
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  that? And then what's what what just
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  came across the top of your screen.
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  What the hell? Are you talking about why are
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  you looking at my damn phone? Now you don't want to have 2020
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  vision anymore, right? You don't want to peek over
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  there anymore. Now because you know what the
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  result is going to be. If you peek over here and they
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  catch you peeking or whatever the case may be right there.
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  If they catch you peeking at them or whatever they're doing,
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  then there's the possibility exists that you're going to get
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  mad as hell that they're going to get mad as hell and you won't
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  say anything else so you don't bring it up anymore.
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  Now you're, you zip the hell up now because you don't want to
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  deal with this anymore. You scared?
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  They want you to be afraid because they are.
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  Yeah, they are doing it. They are actively doing it
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  right. They really, really are.
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  They are actively behaving in this way.
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  They know they're doing wrong. They know they're doing wrong.
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  They know they're doing it. And you now now you're onto
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  their track. There's an old content create.
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  I don't know if she even creates content anymore.
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  I haven't seen a video from her in years.
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  But her name was Sam. And what does it matter over on
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  TikTok, right? And she said one time she's like
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  narcissist. Nobody gets angrier than a
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  guilty narcissist because they know you're over the target.
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  Like when you accuse them of something that they're doing,
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  you haven't even you haven't even said, hey, why you doing
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  this? You ask them a question.
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  You you notice an observation. You don't even accuse them.
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  You just observe something and ask them a question and they fly
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  off the handle because you're over the target.
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  You're getting close. You're getting too close to
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  discovering what they have going on.
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  It is not always cheating, y'all.
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  I know. I use cheating as an example.
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  They could be gambling, they could be doing drugs, they could
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  be doing something behind your back.
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  They could be him hiding money or getting ready to leave you.
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  Right. It's something going on.
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  And when you notice it, they want to have the upper hand on
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  you, so they don't want you to get any closer.
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  So they get mad as hell at you. If somebody.
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  Yeah. And this is life advice.
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  You don't have to take it. But you're watching me for a
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  reason, right? This is some life advice for you
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  right here. If you ever just observe
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  something about anybody, right? Or you ask them a simple
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  question and they just fly off the handle and get aggressively
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  angry and lose their damn minds. They're they, they, they are
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  most likely guilty, whatever you're whatever you're talking
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  about, they did it. They did it, they've done it.
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  Don't look, don't engage in the argument.
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  Don't go any further into the argument.
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  They did it. If they if you just ask them a
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  simple question like this is a cheating example right here.
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  Bing, you should cross that phone.
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  It's like, oh man, let's say I'm I'm looking at my girlfriend and
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  something come across her phone. It says it says Steven Bing.
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  Like Steven says I love you. I'm like Bing, like, hey, who's
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  Steven? Why you?
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  Who's Steven? Why are you worried about
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  Steven? Steven's just a friend from
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  work. Wow, I can't.
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  Talk to Steve, I can't have friends.
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  I ain't know you was this insecure.
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  I ain't know you were this jealous.
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  I. Can't have a friend, Damn.
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  Why? Wow.
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  And you like, I'm like, what the heck?
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  I just saw the name come across your phone.
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  I've never met this friend. Can I meet him?
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  No, Why would you want to meet my friends at work for work?
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  Home life is separate. I can have friends at work.
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  You don't ask you about your friends at work.
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  Do em. My girlfriend is guilty of
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  something nobody gets that mad about.
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  Just an an observation of a text message that just came through a
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  name. Just popped it.
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  It doesn't even have to say I love you, it can just say the
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  name. I'm like, who's that?
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  Why are you worried about who this is?
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  You see how that goes right there?
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  People like say if they lose their minds when you just ask
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  them a simple question about something, that's something
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  that's like literally true or something that's like most
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  people ask a question about like they have done it, they're
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  probably guilty. I'm not telling you to leave at
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  that exact moment right there, y'all.
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  I'm saying make a plan. So I'm making a plan of what you
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  want to do because they're definitely hiding something.
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  Something has been hidden. It might not be an affair, it
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  might be drugs, it might be gambling, it might be that they
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  got fired from their job or whatever.
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  It's something that they're hiding from you because no one
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  gets angrier. Even a narcissistic person that
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  is guilty of something that you're accusing them of or
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  something that they have actually done.
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  They can get mad when you catch them in the act.
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  You can catch them at the casino.
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  They said they were still going to stop gambling.
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  You can catch them at the casino.
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  Why are you tracking me? You can catch them drinking
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  again And when they're they're supposed to go to an, a, a
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  meeting instead, they go to the bar.
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  They're at the bar like, why are you tracking me?
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  You see, doesn't always have to be cheating, but if they give
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  you a huge reaction to something small that you're asking them a
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  question about, y'all, they're probably guilty of something.
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  Again, I don't know what they're guilty of, but they're
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  definitely guilty of something. This is why no one gets angrier
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  than a narcissist or a Tyson person that is absolutely guilty
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  of something that you're accusing them of.
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  I promise you, that's the way it goes, y'all.
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