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Vocal De Frag Episode 193 How Many Steps From They Are You · Arroe Collins Like It's Live

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  Speaker 2: Hey Sarah, Hey, this is vocal dfragging. Vocal dfragging is
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  Speaker 2: taking the time to ask yourself the questions and then
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  Speaker 2: question the answers. I get the opportunity to do this
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  Speaker 2: while taking a transition walk. That's what I call it,
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  Speaker 2: a transition walk through this beautiful forest in South Charlotte,
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  Speaker 2: North Carolina. So it's asking those questions of yourself because
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  Speaker 2: you know, we tend to run to other people say
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  Speaker 2: what would you do? What would you say? How can
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  Speaker 2: I do this? How can I do that? And you're
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  Speaker 2: asking people that don't live in your shoes for direction,
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  Speaker 2: and it's like, okay, if you were to take your
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  Speaker 2: shoes off and put it on their feet, Is this
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  Speaker 2: a Cinderella moment? Hell no, it's not. That Night in
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  Speaker 2: Shining Armor didn't get his princess because your shoes don't
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  Speaker 2: fit on somebody else. So ask yourself the questions, question
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  Speaker 2: the answers. This is vocal d Frek. I thought came
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  Speaker 2: to me the very moment I stepped inside this forest today,
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  Speaker 2: and it was don't judge they don't judge they because
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  Speaker 2: how many steps away are you from? They identify you're
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  Speaker 2: they because we're all judgers. In the nineteen eighties, we
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  Speaker 2: called them people who heather, people that stand on the sidelines,
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  Speaker 2: and we offer opinion. We go, oh, I would not
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  Speaker 2: have worn that. Where did they get that? I mean,
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  Speaker 2: look at the song Baby God back? Oh would you
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  Speaker 2: look at that? But you've been there? Who are they
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  Speaker 2: in your life? Because we are judging they When you
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  Speaker 2: identify your they then ask this very important question, how
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  Speaker 2: many steps away are you from they? Do you know
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  Speaker 2: what I mean? Maybe not? Let me put it this way.
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  Speaker 2: In Ukraine, in Gaza, it didn't matter if you were rich, poor, sick,
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  Speaker 2: in the best health that you've ever been in your life.
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  Speaker 2: They were the innocent people that had to take the
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  Speaker 2: impact of those bombs bursting. They and what do people do?
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  Speaker 2: They judge? They? They judge people inside businesses Here in
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  Speaker 2: America or around the country. We're constantly and endlessly just
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  Speaker 2: judging people. And so I just want to turn it
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  Speaker 2: down a little bit and ask you what would happen
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  Speaker 2: if you were they? And how many steps away are
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  Speaker 2: you from they? Break it down. You know, you can
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  Speaker 2: take a look at your bank account all you want,
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  Speaker 2: but in the blink of an eye, things can change
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  Speaker 2: so swiftly, putting a current inside your heart that all
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  Speaker 2: of a sudden you're finding yourself looking at a they
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  Speaker 2: in the bathroom mirror, And I have to ask one
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  Speaker 2: more time, how many steps away are you from they?
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  Speaker 2: If we are stuck on judging people because it just
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  Speaker 2: seems like the thing to do to keep up with
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  Speaker 2: the jones, or just to start a conversation, Oh my god,
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  Speaker 2: would you ever be caught ordering that at a restaurant? Well,
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  Speaker 2: you just looked at a they and you just said, ah,
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  Speaker 2: I'm not that they. I'm not going to do that,
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  Speaker 2: But I do ask how many steps away are you
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  Speaker 2: from they? And how do you deal with situations like
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  Speaker 2: that where your judgment of others begins to seep into
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  Speaker 2: your own heart? Because if you're been there, been in
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  Speaker 2: a situation where you say something and then about three
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  Speaker 2: steps later, you go, crap, that was a little harsh.
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  Speaker 2: I gotta go back and apologize. And even though you
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  Speaker 2: do apologize to that day, what happens is is that
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  Speaker 2: your mind is going they don't believe me. Oh God,
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  Speaker 2: I just destroyed our trust, the one thing that we
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  Speaker 2: had in common, a little bit of trust. It's kind
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  Speaker 2: of bit the big one right now. So I'm gonna
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  Speaker 2: ask you again how many steps away are you from they?
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  Speaker 2: When it comes to homelessness, do you really think you're
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  Speaker 2: a long ways away from homelessness? What is homelessness in
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  Speaker 2: this age that we presently live in. I know a
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  Speaker 2: lot of people that went out and bought RVs, and
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  Speaker 2: they live in their RVs over and over again, and
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  Speaker 2: they have to move from these different campsites because you
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  Speaker 2: can only be in there for fourteen days. But a
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  Speaker 2: lot of people call them homeless. They don't have a
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  Speaker 2: real home, They are mobile they're in campgrounds endlessly. How
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  Speaker 2: many steps away from they are you? And then you
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  Speaker 2: build that bridge and you start thinking, who else am
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  Speaker 2: I judging? Like this guy that's in this forest right
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  Speaker 2: now with its leaf flower? How many steps am I from?
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  Speaker 2: They in the way of saying, why don't you go
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  Speaker 2: blow your own forest, dude, instead of walking through it? Well,
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  Speaker 2: the reason why being on this side of the day meter,
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  Speaker 2: I kind of like the sound of leaves crunching below
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  Speaker 2: my feet. I don't want a bare force when I
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  Speaker 2: step out here. But that's the beauty of being a
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  Speaker 2: part of this community inside this forest. We all have
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  Speaker 2: different ways and textures of maintaining the forest floor and
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  Speaker 2: how it's going to grow. Some people have beautiful, beautiful,
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  Speaker 2: beautiful settings that they purchase from lows and home depot,
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  Speaker 2: or you can have what I have, which are wild roses,
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  Speaker 2: wild grapes, and a bunch of other things that I
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  Speaker 2: don't know what it is, but it's there and it
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  Speaker 2: grows and it's beautiful and the migrating birds come in.
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  Speaker 2: But how many steps away are you from they? Now,
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  Speaker 2: let's twist it. Do you think they're sitting back saying
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  Speaker 2: how many steps away am I from they and you
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  Speaker 2: are they? You are the one that they're judging. How
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  Speaker 2: does it make you feel you're on that side of
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  Speaker 2: it now? We all like to sit there and make
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  Speaker 2: little comments about people, But when it's turned on us,
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  Speaker 2: how do you receive it? You're just as much a
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  Speaker 2: they as they are? And you deal with it how?
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  Speaker 2: And you grow with it? How? And what else is
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  Speaker 2: going on in your life to where them you being
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  Speaker 2: a they just like they? How does that change the
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  Speaker 2: playing field? How about being more compassionate and grateful of others,
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  Speaker 2: being happy that you may live in a nation that's
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  Speaker 2: not seeing bombs bursting in the middle of the night.
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  Speaker 2: You know, because at the drop of a hat, you
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  Speaker 2: do not know what these other names are going to do,
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  Speaker 2: what kind of steps they're going to take. There is
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  Speaker 2: so much clickbait on social media. There's so much going
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  Speaker 2: on on Instagram, TikTok and as old as Facebook, And
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  Speaker 2: what are we doing on so much of that? We
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  Speaker 2: are judging they? How many steps away from they are you?
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  Speaker 2: And how can you calm that monster down by being
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  Speaker 2: honest with yourself? Write a journal, put in there this
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  Speaker 2: is who I was talking about today? Why was I
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  Speaker 2: talking about him? What could I have done to have
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  Speaker 2: of it? What could I have done to have a
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  Speaker 2: better conversation? How about a relationship? How about a community
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  Speaker 2: driven talk about nothing, just about the cooler weather, the wind,
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  Speaker 2: the storm at five o'clock this morning. Building a community
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  Speaker 2: requires one thing, less judgment, more activation. How many steps
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  Speaker 2: away from they are you ask the questions, question the answers.
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  Speaker 2: I call it vocal, defragged. Do it in a journal
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  Speaker 2: or do it on a digital device. I'm Meryl