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2025 Rebrand & Glow Up Day 9: We are leaving the past in the past · Do You F*cking Mind?

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  Speaker 1: Hello, my beautiful beans, Welcome to day nine of our
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  Speaker 1: ten day life. Just becoming a fucking icon of life.
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  Speaker 2: Day nine.
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  Speaker 1: So this I'm just diving straight into it because I
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  Speaker 1: promise to make these shortened sweets.
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  Speaker 2: I'm gonna command to the promise.
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  Speaker 1: This one is about leaving the past in the past,
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  Speaker 1: and I'm just trying to give you a bit of
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  Speaker 1: a pep talk, a bit of a way of framing
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  Speaker 1: your mind and how you look at things to really
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  Speaker 1: be able to leave the past in the past.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, because anything that you do that is favoring.
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  Speaker 1: The you of the past over the you of the
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  Speaker 1: future is keeping you in the past.
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  Speaker 2: Okay. Now, the past doesn't have to be all bad.
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  Speaker 1: There's a lot of things in my past that really
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  Speaker 1: served me for that time in my life or for
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  Speaker 1: that season, but it's not necessary to bring it forward.
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  Speaker 2: It's not like I have to get rid of everything
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  Speaker 2: unhealthy and everything toxic.
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  Speaker 1: While a lot of that is, well, a lot of
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  Speaker 1: what I'm referring to is things that aren't good for
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  Speaker 1: you or aren't but a lot.
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  Speaker 2: Of the things that I'm referring to also.
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  Speaker 1: Keep you stagnated in stagnation station. Okay, and we don't
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  Speaker 1: want to be there. We want to be moving forward.
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  Speaker 1: We want to be entering our new era. It's impossible
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  Speaker 1: to rebrand if you're holding onto the old brand. Okay,
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  Speaker 1: you have to be able to let go, and you
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  Speaker 1: also have to be willing to allow a part of
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  Speaker 1: your old self, whether it's routine behaviors, things that you
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  Speaker 1: used to do, whatever it is, you have to allow
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  Speaker 1: that thing to die and to mourn it and be
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  Speaker 1: at times, maybe not for everything, be like, Okay, I'm
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  Speaker 1: thankful for that. It just doesn't serve me anyone, But
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  Speaker 1: I'm thankful for that time and what it serves me
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  Speaker 1: to be able to move on.
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  Speaker 2: You have to create space for the new, all right.
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  Speaker 1: If I want to refurbish my home, I can't keep
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  Speaker 1: all the old furniture and just bring in new. It
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  Speaker 1: will look fucked, okay, There'll be no sense of style.
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  Speaker 1: No one would compliment me on my daycore. So I
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  Speaker 1: would have to eliminate the old, get rid of it, donated,
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  Speaker 1: do whatever, and then clean slate bring in the new.
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  Speaker 1: So that's kind of what we're gonna look at. But
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  Speaker 1: I wouldn't get rid of everything in my home, would I.
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  Speaker 1: I'd still keep the things.
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  Speaker 2: That still work. I'd keep my beautiful fiddlely figs, I'd
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  Speaker 2: keep the things that I like, so you don't have
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  Speaker 2: to get rid of everything.
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  Speaker 1: So that's how I want you to look at the
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  Speaker 1: old you, things that don't serve you.
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  Speaker 2: Versus the new youth sense sense.
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  Speaker 1: When we talk about taking a leap, we often think, Okay,
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  Speaker 1: I'm gonna wait for everything to be lined up and ready,
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  Speaker 1: and then I'm gonna take that leap. We don't want
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  Speaker 1: to high up loose ends until there's a new beginning
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  Speaker 1: right there within my grasp. And the reason for that
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  Speaker 1: is because of course we're afraid. We don't want to
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  Speaker 1: be uncomfortable. We're scared of the unknown. We just don't
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  Speaker 1: like what it represents, or we're worried that things aren't
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  Speaker 1: going to work out. We g ourselves up and talk
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  Speaker 1: ourselves out of so many things, so we're like, well,
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  Speaker 1: until that thing is there on the horizon, I'm not
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  Speaker 1: why let go of this kind of stuff here all right?
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  Speaker 1: Why let go of this routine or this behavior or
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  Speaker 1: this job or this whatever it is, this.
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  Speaker 2: Home that I'm living in, this whatever.
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  Speaker 1: But the problem is, unless you create that space, the
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  Speaker 1: likelihood of that thing being within your grasp is pretty low. Okay,
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  Speaker 1: because you're in this old routine. You're not exposing yourself
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  Speaker 1: to new things. You're not exposing yourself to new experiences
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  Speaker 1: that are going to equal growth, that are going to
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  Speaker 1: get you to that new place.
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  Speaker 2: All right, So we this idea of taking a leap.
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  Speaker 1: The point of it being a leap is because it
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  Speaker 1: is scary. It represents somewhat of the unknown. Otherwise it
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  Speaker 1: wouldn't be a leap of faith. You can't actually be
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  Speaker 1: taking a leap of faith if you're going from one
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  Speaker 1: safe thing to be like, oh, that's a sure thing
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  Speaker 1: and done.
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  Speaker 2: That's not a leap of faith. Where's the faith? You
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  Speaker 2: had the proof that it was there, and then you did.
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  Speaker 1: The point of a leap of faith is to be like,
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  Speaker 1: I am going to really be able to be like,
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  Speaker 1: I've got to cut ties with one thing in order
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  Speaker 1: to move on to the other thing.
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  Speaker 2: Now.
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  Speaker 1: I know a lot of you are thinking, well, you know,
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  Speaker 1: why do I want to let go of something that's
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  Speaker 1: serving me? But I'm talking a lot about things that
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  Speaker 1: might not be serving you either, And then you might
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  Speaker 1: be saying, well, Alex says, why the fuck would I
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  Speaker 1: want to hold onto something that is painful or that's
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  Speaker 1: not serving me, Because even letting go of pain can
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  Speaker 1: be difficult because of the comfort.
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  Speaker 2: That it represents.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, So an example, if this is revisiting old wounds
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  Speaker 1: because of nostalgia, or revisiting your ex's social media pages
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  Speaker 1: because you kind of like ripping up that wound. You're hurt,
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  Speaker 1: you're just trying to find comfort, or you're trying to
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  Speaker 1: find answers, you're trying to find closures. You keep revisiting, revisiting,
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  Speaker 1: the thought of acknowledging that something's done and over and
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  Speaker 1: that time in your life is now finished, and needing
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  Speaker 1: to move on is so scary that we'll stay stuck
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  Speaker 1: in these loops and these patterns that hurt us even more.
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  Speaker 2: So, that's what I mean about needing to let go
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  Speaker 2: of this pain.
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  Speaker 1: It's scary to be in the open unknown, where all
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  Speaker 1: the hard work is on you, where all the recovery,
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  Speaker 1: where all the healing.
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  Speaker 2: Journey is on you and no one else but only you,
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  Speaker 2: because you can do it. That's scary. So we think,
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  Speaker 2: while put that off, I'll wait.
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  Speaker 1: Maybe they're going to change their mind, Maybe things will
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  Speaker 1: go back to how they used to be. And maybe
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  Speaker 1: things could go back to how they used to be.
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  Speaker 1: But do you want to wait and waste potentially weeks, months,
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  Speaker 1: years of your life wait and hoping that things turn around?
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  Speaker 2: Or are you going to be that opportunity has come
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  Speaker 2: and gone.
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  Speaker 1: It's done, it's finished, and I've got to actually like
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  Speaker 1: it's finished. In order for me to move on with
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  Speaker 1: my life. I've got to actually like that career is
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  Speaker 1: not going to happen for me anymore. And if I
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  Speaker 1: sit and wait and hope while it's causing me so
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  Speaker 1: much pain, versus if I take the reins and be like,
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  Speaker 1: let's rebrand, let's turn things around. Let's say, if I
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  Speaker 1: sit here and I'm constantly you know, looking up my
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  Speaker 1: ex's past to get answers, to get this, to get that,
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  Speaker 1: instead of being like, in order to actually feel happy again,
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  Speaker 1: in order to actually move on, I need to go
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  Speaker 1: cold turkey. I need to be the bigger person for
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  Speaker 1: my sake. Nothing to do with them, but I need
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  Speaker 1: to severtize, block them, remove them as a follower, stop
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  Speaker 1: like going into the past. I've got to tell people
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  Speaker 1: around me, don't bring it up unless I tell you
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  Speaker 1: that I want you to bring it up, but just
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  Speaker 1: do not be bringing it up without my consent all
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  Speaker 1: these things because I'm like I need to that's going
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  Speaker 1: to be in the past if I want.
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  Speaker 2: To move on.
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  Speaker 1: Why am I bringing my ex, my baggage, my other
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  Speaker 1: shit into my everyday reality.
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  Speaker 2: Every day you wake.
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  Speaker 1: Up, you have the chance to move into a new
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  Speaker 1: stage of your life. And I'm not just talking about
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  Speaker 1: break ups here, but breakups in one of them.
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  Speaker 2: I'm talking about it.
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  Speaker 1: No matter where you're at in your life, every day
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  Speaker 1: represents a potential reset, a potential fresh start.
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  Speaker 2: But we are like why I could tempting, but no,
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  Speaker 2: thank you.
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  Speaker 1: I'm just gonna bring up shit from my past and
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  Speaker 1: bring it into my awareness and waste all this time
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  Speaker 1: that I'll never get back and stock stock stock stock
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  Speaker 1: stock stalk stock.
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  Speaker 2: I'm gonna feel shit about myself. I'm gonna cry, I'm
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  Speaker 2: gonna feel really bad.
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  Speaker 1: I've just chosen to bring up these emotions like I've
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  Speaker 1: literally dug up an old wound.
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  Speaker 2: I've ripped the scab of this old world.
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  Speaker 1: Now I'm bleeding. Now, I'm really upset. Now I'm really hurt.
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  Speaker 1: And then I wonder why I'm not getting over it.
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  Speaker 1: Why I'm not meeting anyone else, Why I'm not starting
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  Speaker 1: to feel better about my single life. Because I've just
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  Speaker 1: caused myself torture, That's why. And there's only so much
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  Speaker 1: my brain can do. We think that our brains are
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  Speaker 1: against us at all times, but our behaviors are pretty
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  Speaker 1: against us too.
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  Speaker 2: Like you know, we're not.
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  Speaker 1: You've got to give you your brain the best opportunity
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  Speaker 1: at moving on and taking a leap of faith and
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  Speaker 1: being daring and putting themselves out there and all of that.
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  Speaker 1: And by doing that, like, in order to do that,
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  Speaker 1: we've got to be pretty fucking strict with ourself. So
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  Speaker 1: when you start identifying what do I need to leave
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  Speaker 1: in the past, I don't care if it represents comfort
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  Speaker 1: what doesn't serve me, because comfort and serving you are
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  Speaker 1: two separate things. Sometimes they align, sometimes they don't align.
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  Speaker 1: Sometimes what gives us comfort in the moment is very detrimental,
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  Speaker 1: very detrimental in the long term, whether it's a substance,
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  Speaker 1: whether it's a behavior, whether it's a compulsion to check
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  Speaker 1: your X, whether it's always living in the past in nostalgia,
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  Speaker 1: thinking that the glory days are behind you.
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  Speaker 2: That kind of comfort can be.
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  Speaker 1: Very damaging for your current self, for your self love,
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  Speaker 1: for your confidence with you within your abilities about your future,
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  Speaker 1: for how optimistic you about your future. And it's also
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  Speaker 1: damaging for your future self because it's keeping you in
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  Speaker 1: your old self, in the old life. Okay, because everything
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  Speaker 1: you are right now is just a summation of your past.
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  Speaker 1: You are currently a representation of the past because all
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  Speaker 1: your actions, behaviors, interactions, relationships has led to this point.
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  Speaker 1: If you want to change what next week is going
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  Speaker 1: to look like and what in six months time is
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  Speaker 1: going to look like, you've got to start acting differently now.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, that's the only way it's going to change.
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  Speaker 1: You're going to be like, oh, I want six months
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  Speaker 1: to look different, so I'm going to start changing what
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  Speaker 1: I do in six months. No, sis, No, You've got
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  Speaker 1: to start doing it now, because if in six months time,
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  Speaker 1: you're going to look like what the last few months, weeks,
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  Speaker 1: whatever has looked like. So the change has to start now,
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  Speaker 1: and you've got to be able to leave the past
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  Speaker 1: in the past.
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  Speaker 2: So I want you to identify what.
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  Speaker 1: Is just comfort and is good for me, and what
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  Speaker 1: is comfort and isn't good for me, and what's confident
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  Speaker 1: isn't good for me is gone in the bill, in
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  Speaker 1: the bin, in the trash, in the pubel.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, gone. So if you need to write it down,
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  Speaker 2: write it down.
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  Speaker 1: If you need to grab a little booklet and be like,
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  Speaker 1: all right, I'm going to write like a column of
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  Speaker 1: like good comfort and bad comfort. Or you might already
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  Speaker 1: have the answer in your head. You might be like,
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  Speaker 1: I know exactly what Alexis is talking about. She's looking
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  Speaker 1: down the barrel of the fucking camera right now, and
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  Speaker 1: I'm watching this video, and I'm being targeted right now,
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  Speaker 1: and she's looking into my soul, and I know exactly
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  Speaker 1: what that is.
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  Speaker 2: It is this.
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  Speaker 1: I need to stop stalking my ex I need to
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  Speaker 1: by stalking, I mean going through their socials. I need
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  Speaker 1: to stop reminiscing on this time. I need to stop
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  Speaker 1: kicking myself about this stupid business decision that I made
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  Speaker 1: that hasn't served me. I need to stop living and regret.
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  Speaker 1: I need to stop all these things. If I take
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  Speaker 1: this shit into my future, my future is going to
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  Speaker 1: look exactly the same as my current self right now.
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  Speaker 1: If I'm thrilled with my current self, keep doing what
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  Speaker 1: you're doing. If I'd like changes to happen, I need
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  Speaker 1: to get rid of certain things. And like I said,
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  Speaker 1: it's not a leap of faith. If you've got a
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  Speaker 1: sure thing there, You've got to let go of something
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  Speaker 1: in order to create space in order for you to
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  Speaker 1: look at new possibilities, and then you take that leap.
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  Speaker 1: That's what you're going to do, all right. That is
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  Speaker 1: all for the episode of today. Hopefully it's given you
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  Speaker 1: some food for thought. It's helped you kind of realize
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  Speaker 1: where your head is at and where you want to see,
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  Speaker 1: like real fucking change, and what you're actually going to
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  Speaker 1: get rid of. We are cutting the dead weight. Tomorrow
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  Speaker 1: is the last day of the last ten days. If
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  Speaker 1: you've been writing this down, which I hope you have,
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  Speaker 1: please revise your notes and go over it and refresh
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  Speaker 1: all the different topics that we've spoken about the last
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  Speaker 1: ten days, because it's going to be all nine days
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  Speaker 1: as of today, because it is honestly going to be
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  Speaker 1: so helpful for you to like hit the ground running
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  Speaker 1: this year.
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  Speaker 2: Guys. That is all for today. I love you guys
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  Speaker 2: so much.
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  Speaker 1: As always, please remember be kind to yourself, be kind
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  Speaker 1: to your brain. Don't take shit from anyone, and especially
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  Speaker 1: don't take shit from yourself.
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  Speaker 2: Dunker