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The Sift | Ps Rachel Eaton · Citipointe Church Caboolture

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  Hey, welcome to the City Point Church podcast.
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  Thanks for joining us. Every day is an opportunity to
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  take hold of. So we hope this message inspires
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  you and build your faith, but it helps you have more of the God
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  perspective for your day. Enjoy.
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  So you've got that movie, Jerry Maguire.
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  You complete me and she's like, you had me at hello.
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  So these human relationships, there's an expectation in the
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  world that when we find that person, that one person, oh,
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  that you will complete me. It's actually a really hefty
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  responsibility. It's like when when I'm empty,
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  it's your job to fill me. When I'm sad, it's your job to
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  make me happy. And when I'm angry, it's your
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  job to calm me down. It's a hefty responsibility to
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  put on anyone human being and it's actually an impossible one
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  because we just read in the Bible, God's word, the breath of
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  God, Jesus speaking himself. Guys, the only way you're going
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  to find completeness in life, the only way you're going to
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  find fulfilment is actually in your union with me.
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  And that word union together with in, in relationship with
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  not hearing about, but in relationship with, in union with
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  me. That's where we find
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  completeness. We are talking relationships
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  this month that got the theme, you and me and chat GTP.
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  I don't know why we'd have a relationship with chat GTP GPT.
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  See, I don't know. My husband's a grok man.
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  Yeah. Yeah.
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  You know, if you know, you know, this morning I actually want to
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  talk on the topic of a sift. Now, This is why I have a
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  spaghetti strainer here, Becca. In my household, this actually
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  double s as a sift, which is what you put flour into for
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  baking. It works well in my house.
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  If you know me, I don't like stuff.
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  I don't like things. So now I don't have to have a
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  sifter and a spaghetti strainer. It does both, and I save more
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  space in my kitchen. It makes for a happier me.
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  But you don't need to hear about my kitchen practices.
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  What we're here to talk about is the sift.
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  Do you all who bakes here show me.
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  Yeah. Do you sift your flour when you
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  bake it? And doesn't it make for a much
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  smoother experience when that flour is sifted through?
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  If you're not a Baker, hold up. I'm going to help you out and
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  let you know what sifting does. Sifting.
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  It breaks up those clumps when you've got flour in there and
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  they're all stuck together. Stuck it helps because it breaks
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  up the clumps. It adds air breath.
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  Who needs Holy Spirit breath in their relationships.
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  Thank you Jesus, stay open this morning.
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  It removes impurities other another way of looking back
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  things that just don't belong there.
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  So it highlights things when we sift, you go, oh, that doesn't
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  belong in there. And we can pull those impurities
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  out. And it also improves the mixing,
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  which makes for a much smoother experience.
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  So we as a church are going to go for a bit of a sift this
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  morning. I know you ready.
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  We're going to hold on. We're going to sift ourselves
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  through God's Word, sift ourselves, sift our relationship
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  with him, and sift our relationship with others through
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  what God's Word has to say. So we ready?
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  OK, we're going to start in Psalm 6310.
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  God, you are my God. I earnestly search for you.
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  My soul thirsts for you, my whole body.
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  I want to ask a question this morning as we take a bit of a
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  sift. Does passion and desire feature
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  in your relationship with Jesus? As you read this Bible verse in
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  Psalms, God's Word, does this exist, this kind of passion?
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  Do you know what it is to earnestly seek God?
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  Do you have the kind of passion where you can falter your knees,
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  not just on a Sunday, but on a Monday?
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  On a Tuesday, does passion overtake you where you remember
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  that there's two people in the room, not just this outpouring
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  of God and, and what you need and, and you're constantly
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  talking and, and, and communicating, but communication
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  has two people in the room. Even in worship this morning and
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  and in that lead moment, I had this vision of God where we're
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  pouring out our hearts. My hand was on my heart.
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  I'm like Lord, but I just saw God's hand on his receiving.
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  There's two people in a relationship.
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  Does passion feature in your relationship with Jesus?
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  What does it look like? I'm talking to new Christians in
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  the room. I'm talking to old Christians in
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  the room. Does passion feature in your
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  relationship with Jesus? Does it still?
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  And if it doesn't, what's present?
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  Would you search yourself for a moment and allow the sift to
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  take place? What's present when you come
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  before God? Because God's a person.
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  Holy Spirit's a person. He's not an idol, a dead idol
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  that we come and bow down to. No, he's a person who he is.
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  He's a person who responds. He's a person that wants to
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  unite. He's a person who can be
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  offended and delighted. Holy Spirit is a person and so I
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  want to do this sift this morning and I What is your
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  relationship like? Building a relationship with Him
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  is not that different to building 1 with any other human.
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  It's time spent with Him. It's curiosity, exploring.
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  It's actually to be vulnerable, which means that you want to
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  remove the masks, to be open and honest, to be seen and to see.
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  And this is possible. I love this scripture because it
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  shows us what's possible in Jesus.
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  In Hebrews 10/19 it reads. And so, dear brothers and
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  sisters, we can boldly enter heaven's most holy place because
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  of the blood of Jesus. By his death, Jesus opened up a
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  new and life giving way, a new and life giving way through the
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  curtain into the most holy place.
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  So in the Old Testament, the the Holy of Holies was only ever
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  accessed once a year. It was a bit like Christmas.
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  Once a year, one person, which was the high priest got to go
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  into the presence of God and, and you know, it was like
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  Christmas that you're counting down, you know, or 4 weeks, 3
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  days and two days. I'm sorry, two days.
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  So we go to Yom Kippur. Unless you like Pastor Mel.
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  And you'd be counting in what, February.
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  Yeah. When?
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  I'm just curious, when is the earliest that you have ever
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  looked for Christmas presents? Maybe July.
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  No earlier. January.
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  There you go. January.
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  She looks forward to Christmas in January.
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  No one loves Christmas more than Pastor Mel.
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  But Yom Kippur was like this in the Old Testament.
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  There was this excitement, this buzz, irreverent fear even of
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  coming into the Holy of Holies. Only one person got to go, but
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  there was a buzz and an excitement around it.
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  Did you know that we are now able to access the Holy of
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  Holies whenever we want to because of what Jesus did?
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  And he tore that curtain wide open and went, No, you can come
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  into my presence whenever you want to.
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  But church, do we want to? Do you want to?
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  A lot of our relationship with God can be centred around should
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  I should want to, I should pray, I should be in your presence.
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  But do we want to? Do we want to come boldly?
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  Has access reduced desire? Has access reduced reverence for
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  this, this moment of raw, unfiltered adoration before God?
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  It's a bit like at the dinner table.
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  You know when when you're your kids, they sit down and, and
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  you've spent hours preparing this meal for them.
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  You've gone shopping, you've prepared the food, you've
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  probably done the dishes before you've even served it.
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  And they sit down to eat this dinner.
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  And then you're faced with, and then dad will come in and say
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  something like eat it and be grateful for it.
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  And they're like, thank you, Mom.
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  You're like, yeah, great. It's awesome thanking you
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  because you have to. And then you'll have a child
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  come in who's maybe a little bit older.
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  And then you hear this. Oh Mom, you're the best.
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  I love this meal. And they'll come and they'll hug
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  you and they'll think you, oh, it smells amazing, can I get
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  into it now? And they sit and they inhale it
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  in one mouthful. And you're like, oh, you go and
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  try and pick up your heart off the floor 'cause it's melted in
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  this moment. And then you might be like, you
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  can have anything you want up to half my Kingdom.
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  There's this, this response, but there's this unfiltered, raw
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  gratitude and adoration. Does God ever get that from us?
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  Does he ever get that from us? Raw, unfiltered, real, honest
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  adoration. He deserves it.
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  But just allow yourself to be sifted and go.
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  If this desire doesn't actually exist, why not?
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  What does exist? What's present when you come
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  before God? There are some blockers to
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  intimacy in relationship. I'm going to just speak about
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  one in our relationship with God.
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  It's actually sin. Sin blocks us from being
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  intimate with God. God's like this hopeless
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  romantic that he wants to be close to you.
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  He doesn't actually want to judge you.
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  He didn't come and die on the cross because he wants to give
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  out judgement. He came and he died on the cross
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  because he wants to cover you, because he wants to be in
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  relationship. He is a hopeless romantic.
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  If you don't believe me, go and read Hosea.
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  He is desperate for you. He's not about religion, he's
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  actually about the relationship. I want to be close to you.
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  That's what he wants. And then sin can get in the way.
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  I often think sometimes like God is so wants to lavish love on
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  us. He's so desperate to lavish love
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  on us and, and as he as he pours out his love and as he as he as
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  he sends his son, I think he actually knew the whole world
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  right at the beginning, what was going to happen.
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  He knew all of the horror. He knew all of the cruelty that
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  was going to exist through every generation.
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  He saw it all. He knew it all and he went, I
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  love relationships so much it's actually worth it to me.
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  How much more than does it mean when we have this moment of
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  roar, unfiltered adoration to God?
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  Could you think it through for a moment?
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  He saw all of it and he went, I I'm going to choose to do this
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  anyway because when you love me, when you show this gratitude,
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  when you connect with me real, it's all worth it to me.
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  That's crazy. That's that's a hopeless
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  romantic right there. But sin does get in the way.
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  Sin doing the wrong thing actually gets in the way of
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  every relationship. Am I right?
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  When someone's done the wrong thing by you, instantly there's
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  a block, but it's the same with God.
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  And so when sin comes in, just give me a second.
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  When sin comes in, we've we've got to first of all own it.
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  And then there's got to be this repentance and then this
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  receiving of forgiveness. James 4 actually says that God
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  is passionate. It uses those words, God is
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  passionate and that the Spirit that He's placed within us
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  should be faithful to him. It goes on to say come close to
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  God and then he will come close to you.
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  Can you hear his? I just want to be close to you.
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  But then it goes on to say, can you please wash your hands,
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  Sinner, purify your hearts. For your loyalty is divided.
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  Your loyalty is divided between God and the world doing the
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  wrong thing. It blocks intimacy.
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  It blocks it in our human relationships, and it definitely
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  blocks it with God. And so when we do the wrong
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  thing, there's got to be ownership on our behalf.
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  OK, I've got a story here. My, my beautiful son Jamie,
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  who's on lights at the back there.
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  Yes, we all know Jamie. He came to me as a little preppy
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  5 years old. He was the cutest little preppy
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  and he comes home and he's all frustrated and kicking things
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  like mom this girl she got me in trouble today.
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  Like wow this is a story I want to I want to hear about this
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  one. So annoying.
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  I was actually only trying to help her and went OK, I said
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  what happened? He goes, well, I was just trying
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  to comfort her. I went, OK, tell me the story.
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  He goes, well, I kind of really liked his prep.
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  He's five years old. And so in his mind, he thought
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  that the best way to get close to this girl was to be able to
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  go and comfort her. Thing is, is that she didn't
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  really need comforting. And so he's an opportunist.
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  So he saw opportunity. If I create opportunity here for
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  her to need to be comforted, I can be that person to come on
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  in. And so he threw a pineapple at
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  her. We had a little conversation on
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  ownership. He could have own your sin.
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  Own when you've done the wrong thing.
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  It's our job to own when we've done the wrong thing in human
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  relationships indefinitely with God.
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  Just confess it. Just get it out.
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  It's our job to humble ourselves, you know.
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  It's not God's job to humble us. That's actually our job to
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  humble ourselves. Say sorry.
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  Say sorry, ladies. Is sorry a normal part of your
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  relationships? Emotionally healthy
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  relationships? Say sorry.
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  Get it out in the open. Let confession come and
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  forgiveness come. Say sorry.
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  No, repentance actually attracts grace.
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  Repentance attracts grace. You know God doesn't.
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  He doesn't want to judge you. He wants to forgive you.
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  He's here. You got to hold him back.
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  He's just waiting for that confession.
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  He wants to show you grace. He wants to extend mercy.
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  He wants to forgive you. But it's our job to confess
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  where we've done wrong and own it in the natural, in our human
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  relationships. An unrepentant heart.
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  It creates distance when someone's done the wrong thing
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  by you and they're not sorry. Instant distance, right?
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  Why can't they just say they're sorry?
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  Instant distance when we just don't own it.
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  It also creates blindness. Can't see anybody else's
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  perspective, only yours. And it also creates judgement.
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  When you don't own it, others are going to judge you.
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  They just do. It's actually just the way that
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  it is. And it's the same with God.
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  He doesn't want to judge, but when there's unrepentants there,
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  that's the next inevitable inevitability.
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  Someone please. You know what I mean.
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  An unrepentant heart is going to create distance between you and
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  God. It also creates spiritual
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  blindness for you're only going to be able to see things from
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  your perspective instead of a God perspective.
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  Intimacy requires confession and forgiveness and he's so good for
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  the forgiveness. He wants to forgive you.
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  Let's take another sift here. We ready.
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  OK Hebrews 6-7 to 9. It says for the Lord disciplines
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  those He loves, and he punishes each person he accepts as His
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  child. As you endure His divine
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  discipline, remember that God is treating you as His own
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  children. Whoever heard of a child who was
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  never disciplined by its father? If God doesn't discipline you as
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  He does all His children, it means that you are illegitimate
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  and not really His children at all.
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  Since we respected our earthly fathers who disciplined us,
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  shouldn't we submit even more to the discipline of the Father of
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  our spirits and live forever? How's your sift going now?
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  Oh, it might be good for some people.
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  I'm just going to call it and go.
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  We may have found a few clunks because there would be people in
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  this room who heard that, and that's not sitting so well with
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  you, am I right? There would be people in this
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  room that have a real problem with hearing that.
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  It might make you squirm in your seats because God's Word says
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  natural fathers should be respected because they've
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  disciplined so well. But over here we're like that,
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  that, that is not my experience. So is God's word wrong?
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  I'm not trying to be insensitive.
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  I'm trying to show you something.
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  I know for some people in this room, this, this passage in the
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  Bible, it's, it comes with a sting.
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  I'm actually going to ask to allow it to sting a little bit
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  as we just sift this through God's Word.
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  Because when we read something in God's Word, which is truth,
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  which is wholeness, which is life, which is healing, which is
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  hope, which is perfect. And when we read something and
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  we take it through the sift and we go, oh, I don't like that.
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  This isn't sitting so right with me.
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  This is showing fractures and breaks.
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  It's not God's Word that's broken.
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  It's not God's word that's broken.
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  Those fractures and the brokenness it, it's usually in
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  US. And so when we do the sift, it
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  highlights these fractures, sifting our relationships with
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  our parents and then with our children through God's Word.
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  It's going to highlight fractures, small ones and big
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  ones, areas that require a bit of attention, understanding or
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  repair. It's not your fault.
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  It's usually not your fault, but it's there.
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  Our filter is our normal, OK, And we think that our lived
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  experiences are normal because they're our normal.
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  It's it's what happened. It's just normal, but our normal
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  can be formed through trauma, loss, hurt, abandonment,
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  culture, abuse, pain, or neglect.
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  And so everyone's normal can look a little bit different.
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  Now, why is this important in relationships?
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  Because how we do relationship with other people comes out of
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  the framework of our lived experience.
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  But now we're at an impasse. We've got God's word up here,
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  but we're down here and there's this, this mis, this misfit.
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  It's not, it's not fitting. So God's Word that's perfect is
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  up here. But we're like, but we're so far
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  from it. God, that was not my experience.
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  If I can even just give you an example, I'm going to just do a
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  silly little example. We might have a man from Burma
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  who's just migrated to Australia, let's call him Han.
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  And then you've got a guy Aussie named Jack.
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  And these two, they, they kick off and they start being friends
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  and, and Jack goes, let's go and play a game of cricket.
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  Summertime storms rolling in. And Jack's like, here we go.
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  Come on, Han, we're all going out to play cricket.
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  And the guys head off and go out to play cricket.
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  And Han's over here and going, Oh no, there's, there's a storm
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  rolling in. I, I don't he, he doesn't want
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  to go. He hasn't verbalized it.
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  But for him, he's just come from Burma and nearly lost his sister
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  because when a storm came in, it came in so quickly and the
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  rivers, they, they came up so fast.
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  And he, he lost his house and he nearly lost his sister.
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  And he's looking at these guys going out in an open field and
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  going, it's too open. Someone's going to get shot.
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  He lost a family member only a few weeks ago because they went
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  out into an open space and someone got shot.
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  And so Han is now looking at Jack and going, you're
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  insensitive. Han is angry, he's frustrated.
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  Jack is insensitive and he doesn't understand.
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  This is Han's experience. I think you're reckless and he's
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  sitting here and he won't go and play cricket because he's living
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  in his experience. This can happen at big levels
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  and it can happen at small ones. Now, yes, Jack could definitely
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  be more sensitive to the situation, but Hahn, he's living
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  out of fear. He's living and it's not his
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  fault. He's not to blame for what's
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  happened, but it is his lived experience.
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  The Bible actually says not to live in fear.
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  He says that we can laugh for fear of the future without fear
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  of the future, which is what Jack and all his friends are
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  doing. They just want to gain a
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  cricket. They're like he's overreacting
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  and there's a disconnect. So you've got God's word that
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  says laugh without fear of the future.
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  I have given you, I haven't given you a spirit of fear.
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  I've given you a spirit of love and of power and of a sound
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  mind. But Han, he, he, he can't reach
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  that because he's in, he's in this lived experience.
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  He's he's stuck in this place. Our filter is our normal, and so
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  we think that our lived experiences are normal, but our
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  normal. It's not necessarily God's way.
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  Now, this isn't a place of judgement, but a place of
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  understanding. So God's not insensitive when he
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  says that he wants fathers respected, that he wants godly
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  discipline. It's actually his way.
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  But there might be a disconnect. And so if you find that as we
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  shift our relationships through God's word and that you've come
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  up and you're like, actually, there's a few fractures here.
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  I've got a big clunk of, of flour, I'm stuck.
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  There are three things that you can do #1 you can ignore it.
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  Many people do. You're your own person and you
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  actually get to make that decision.
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  You can live with your fractures and just hope that you don't
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  break, but just understand that they're there and it's not what
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  God's called you to. He's actually called you to
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  wholeness. He's actually called you to to
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  heal. He's called you to fullness.
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  He wants you thriving in your relationships with your
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  children. He wants to break the cycle #2
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  you can start the process of alignment, change,
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  transformation. And this is done very gently.
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  The Holy Spirit is gentle and it has to be done in faith.
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  Because when God says that it's possible for your children to
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  respect you as a father, but your lived experience is, oh, no
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  discipline. I don't have any any good
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  association with that word, but we can start to align and allow
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  him to transform us so that his word now becomes our lived
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  experience. And #3 if you find that you're a
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  bit stuck in this place, if you like, actually this fracture's a
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  bit a bit heavy, this clunk, this one's not coming through.
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  How? Get some help.
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  There's no shame in getting any help in these spaces.
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  All of your relationships that you do with your best friend,
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  with your siblings, with your parents, with your own children,
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  they come out of the framework of your lived experiences.
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  It's OK to go and get some help if I can be vulnerable.
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  Every one of our pastors in this church have actually taken this
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  process. We have done done some work here
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  and continue to go back when things come up, when clumps come
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  up, it's a phone call. I just need to to get some
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  understanding and some reconciliation in these places.
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  There's no shame. It's not your fault.
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  It's not your fault. God's word here is, is not here
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  to bring judgement in these spaces.
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  It's here to highlight, Hey, I have a much better intention for
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  you. I have hope that I want to
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  breathe into this space. I have healing that I want to
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  bring. I want you thriving in your in
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  your relationships. And this is the way.
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  So where there's the disconnect, allow him to to transform you.
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  And if you need to go and get some help, Godly disciplines and
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  boundaries. They actually create safety.
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  We have boundaries because there's safety in there.
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  He's a good God, He's a good father.
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  When people come to my home, they like bringing their small
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  children because there are fences they can go and play in
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  the backyard without harm. They're not going to run on the
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  road because there's boundaries. Godly boundaries are healthy,
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  and everyone who's emotionally healthy lives within boundaries.
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  Godly relationships experience rebuke, intimacy, honesty, real
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  communication, real conversations.
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  They experience forgiveness, accountability, sexual purity,
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  stewardship, rest, and refreshment all possible when we
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  do things God's way. I want to bring out one last
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  sift and it's a nicer one, I promise.
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  Let's read in God's word here it says 1 John 416.
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  We know how much God loves us, and we have put our trust in his
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  love. God is love and all who live in
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  love, Sorry. All who love live in God, and
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  God lives in them. And John 15-9 reads, I have
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  loved you even as the Father has loved me.
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  Remain in my love. It's one thing to be told you're
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  loved. It's another thing to be able to
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  receive love. I want to address this morning,
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  Are you able to receive love? You've got people who might have
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  walls up. Men, they call it emotionally
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  unavailable. You've got your walls up.
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  Nothing's getting in here. God might say he loves you.
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  Yeah. Yep.
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  That's good. How's your relationship with
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  Good? Good.
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  Good. How are you going?
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  I'm good. How good is that word?
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  Good, Right. You got you got these walls up.
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  Everything surface. Everything's just here.
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  Nothing's getting in. Oh, I love you.
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  Yeah, Love you. Yep.
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  Good, Good. We're good.
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  Are we good? Yep.
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  Good. It's great.
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  We ladies like to use the word fine.
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  Yeah, we're fine. Great.
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  Yes, fine, fine. I'm fine.
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  Didn't you hear me the first time?
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  I'm fine. Wall up.
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  Don't come in here. There's a nice, big, clear,
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  definite wall. Or for ladies, it might be the
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  opposite. Sometimes you're overly needy.
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  You're so needy. Need to constantly be told,
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  constantly reassured, constantly got to check that text message
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  to see if that person's replied yet no 30 seconds later have
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  they replied yet? They must hate me.
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  No one's liked my post yet they must hate me.
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  Maybe I've done something wrong. Is someone not going to love me
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  now because I said something constant?
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  You need constant reassurance. Constantly told constant words.
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  I actually have a small beef. All right, I've got to be
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  careful here because I'm like borderline heresy.
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  I so I have. I know, I know.
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  I've just said this. Now you're all paying attention.
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  Let's catch her out. I want to dug her into the
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  elders. I've run it past John.
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  I have a small beef with a Christianese statement that we
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  say where it's heresy. It is actually kind of from the
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  Word of God. My beef is not with the
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  statement so much, but on the assigned meaning.
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  OK, so when you hear this come from the platform, from any
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  other pastor, listen, because they've got a very important
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  point to make. But I'm going to ask you to hear
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  mine for a moment. John, will you come on up here
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  with me? My beef is with our assigned
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  meaning that we give to the words be washed in the word.
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  And I have a beef with it because we assign it meaning and
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  start treating God's word like a shower.
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  And so God's word, we're just going to pretend that the
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  pillows are God's word. We're not up here having a
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  pillow fight. It's OK.
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  So just pretend that these pillows here are God's word and
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  he starts throwing them at me. Rachel, I love you.
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  Keep, don't, just don't destroy my hair.
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  And it's Rachel. I love you.
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  I've died for you. I want to forgive you.
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  You are worthy. And these words keep coming at
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  me and at me and at me. But I start treating God's word
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  like a shower. Oh, that's nice.
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  I'll come in. Yeah.
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  You want to start something here, husband?
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  But they do. They come at you.
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  And actually, Yeah. Go back there.
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  Keep going. His like, I love you, I've died
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  for you. I want to forgive you.
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  You're worthy. And I'm like, oh, these are nice
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  words. Keep them coming.
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  Keep them coming. And it's a prophecy.
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  Oh, another prophetic word. That was nice.
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  Let's come and get another one and another one and another one.
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  And we treat God's word like it's a shower.
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  Yeah. Keep it coming, Lord.
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  Keep it coming. Did you not stay there?
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  It's actually his birthday today.
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  He's doing good. You've got God's word and it's
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  at you. God's Word is not a shower.
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  Actually, Jesus said I am the bread of life.
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  I am the cup. I am the blood.
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  You are to partake, ingest, digest, consume.
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  Allow it to transform and get it in you.
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  You've got to throw it at me. You've got to receive.
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  Stop letting it wash on over you.
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  Thank you, love. You can get off.
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  Stop just listening to God's Word and start to hear it in
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  faith. You've got to reach out and grab
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  it and go. You what?
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  You love me. What is that?
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  What is that? And go home and start digesting
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  and start eating and start meditating, mulling over His
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  Word. Lord, I've got to get this in
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  me. I've got to let it transform me.
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  I've got to digest it. I've got to ingest it.
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  Stop treating God's word like a shelver because you will always
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  come up empty. It's not God up here and you
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  down there, It's union with. Allow His words to transform
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  you. He loved the world so much that
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  He gave His only begotten Son. He wants to do life.
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  He wants to abide. He wants you in him.
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  In him. He wants to do life with you.
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  We do this all of the time. Forgiveness.
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  I'm sorry God. I'm sorry God.
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  I'm sorry God. I'm sorry God.
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  He's like, would you stop being sorry and receive my
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  forgiveness? We have to receive His words and
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  we do this in faith. We do this in faith. 1 John 419
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  says we love each other because He first loved us.
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  How we love each other is out of our love for Him and being loved
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  by Him. Your union with Jesus will
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  affect how you do every other relationship.
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  If you've got fractures in your relationship, why don't you just
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  come straight back to the heart of Jesus, Straight back to what
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  he says. Allow him to sift you.
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  Allow the fractures to highlight.
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  Allow him to pour himself in His love, His mercy, his
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  forgiveness. Would you allow your walls to
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  come down? Would you allow him to see you
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  this morning?