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Nothing to Lose Hypnosis - Releasing Self-Doubt, Restraint, and Playing Small · The Hypnotist

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  Welcome to The Hypnotist, the show that gives you inside
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  access to cutting edge hypnosis with real clients facing
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  genuine. Issues.
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  Brought to you by The Hypnotherapist, demanded by
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  celebrities, CEOs and even royalty, Adam Cox.
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  These recordings took place live from Adam's clinic in London's
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  world famous Harley Street. So get yourself comfortable and
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  enjoy today's episode of The Hypnotist.
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  Do you ever feel like you're in a lose, lose situation, that
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  whatever you do, it's not going to end well?
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  Adam here. And this hypnosis session is
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  about escaping that learned helplessness, feeling that you
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  can't do anything right to a feeling that you've got nothing
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  to lose. And the client I was working
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  with was in a very, very high-powered, influential
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  position. But because of the politics of
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  the role that they were in, they felt that they their hands were
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  tied, that they were restricted in terms of the level of impact,
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  but also that they were entirely dependent on any kind of
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  progression based on one person and their opinions.
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  And that made them feel that whatever they did was outside of
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  their control. And that felt very
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  disempowering. But when I was working with this
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  client, we looked at it in a different way.
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  That if it is the case that they can't do anything right, then
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  rather than it being a case where they're guaranteed to
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  fail, that can actually be liberating because it now means
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  that they have nothing to lose. And that nothing to to lose
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  attitude is very, very empowering because whatever
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  happens, you can't be worse off. Then you've already.
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  Guessed that you're going to be anyway.
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  And I remember my very first job and it was my very first boss in
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  a radio station. He told me about how he bought a
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  house when he was very young, in his early 20s, and the house
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  doubled in value within a few years.
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  And he told me that that gave him a sense that if anything at
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  all wasn't to his liking, where he worked, he knew that he had
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  about. 3 or 4. Years worth of money to not work
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  if he didn't need to still pay the bills and then find
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  something that worked for him. And it gave him an attitude of
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  not tolerating any crap. What he called a fuck you
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  attitude. And I used that word because
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  it's a motive for a reason. He felt that he could say those
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  words to anyone that disrespected him or didn't value
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  his work. And what was interesting is that
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  when he continued that. Story, he said.
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  And I was 2122 in the at the time when I had this job, he
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  said, guess how many times I've had to actually use that line
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  and, and just kind of quit on the spot.
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  And he said he never had, but the willingness to do it
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  emboldened him. It gave him a level of courage.
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  So it's that idea, that element of energy of feeling that you
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  don't care what other people say or do.
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  You're going to do the thing that aligns with your value
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  system is that energy of having nothing to lose.
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  So this hypnosis session takes that essence and factors into
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  someone that instead of feeling like they were tethered and
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  their hands were tired and they were restricted and restrained
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  at the very end of the session, and I could see it was all over
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  their facial expressions. They felt liberated.
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  They felt that they had permission to do the things that
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  they'd been wanting to do all this time but didn't think they
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  were allowed. And that's a crucial
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  distinction. So I want you to think, where in
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  your life currently do you feel restricted or held back or
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  restrained in some way? And what would it feel like to
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  feel like you have absolutely nothing to lose in that area?
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  And what would be the consequence of acting in
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  accordance with that energy, with that intensity of feeling
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  that you don't really care about other people's opinions?
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  And what tends to happen is that people that really embody that
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  energy, nothing bad happens. Most of the time people see them
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  as being courageous and being almost having the ability to
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  speak truth to power and it's seen as very noble and
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  confident. So actually people end up
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  holding back and becoming a bit of a yes person and just nodding
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  and doing what they're told to do and not really doing what
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  they feel that they can do. And in turn, they're never
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  really appreciated of the talents that nobody sees.
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  O if you can connect with this idea, you might get some real
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  value from this session. And I'd encourage you to find a
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  quiet, comfortable place, the kind of lace where you're not
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  going to be distracted or disturbed.
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  Relax and enjoy the session. Take a deep breath in, and as
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  you breathe in, breathe in that feeling of pure relaxation.
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  And as you exhale, feel a sense of release, a release of any
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  expectations, any restrictions, any pressures, breathing in that
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  resourceful feeling of relaxation and exhaling any
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  tension, stress or worries, any uncertainties.
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  Just feel it leaving your body in your outward breath.
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  That's it. Each breath taking you deeper
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  and deeper, relaxed. And the slower you breathe, the
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  deeper you breathe and the deeper you breathe, the more
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  resourceful you feel. And the longer you exhale, the
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  more you release, and the more you release, the more freer you
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  feel like those restraints and limitations and restrictions are
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  just falling off you like your hands were tied.
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  And now those ropes are falling down by your side.
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  And as you breathe in and breathe out, I want you to
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  calculate just how much effort it has taken to hold yourself
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  back. Not physically, but mentally.
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  Think of all of that effort with the monitoring, the self
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  editing, the scenario playing, the calculating of consequences,
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  that quiet tension of wondering how will this be received?
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  Is this enough? And what if you don't need to
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  push that away? I want you to feel that right
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  here, right now, there is nothing that needs to be fixed
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  and no problem that needs to be solved.
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  Just notice how tired that restraint feels.
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  I want you to imagine. Imagine a scenario where you
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  have something to do and you voluntarily, albeit for good
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  reason, impede yourself. How difficult would it be to be
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  a waiter with one hand tied behind your back?
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  And how difficult would it be to be a taxi driver with your eyes
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  closed half of the time? I want you to get a sense then
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  all of this restraint and all of this holding you back may have
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  contributed to a cycle, a self fulfilling prophecy.
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  By holding yourself back, you fall below expectations.
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  Those expectations are then creating communication of
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  frustration. That frustration is perceived as
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  disapproval, so you hold back even more.
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  What if it feels like you're in a no win situation?
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  That whatever you do is never enough.
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  If you speak up, you're crossing a line, and if you don't speak
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  up, you're not doing your job. Feel that conflict.
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  Feel that restraint like a juggler that's handcuffed.
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  And how good would it feel to take those handcuffs off, to
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  release the limiter, to access 100% of your capabilities?
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  So as you breathe again, deeper than before, allow your body to
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  settle, and for the next few moments, there's no need for
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  permission and no need for approval.
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  And you don't need to be careful.
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  Nothing bad happens when you stop holding yourself together.
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  As your body relaxes, your imagination awakens.
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  And I want you to imagine a door, a large door, a closed
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  door. And behind this door is the
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  version of you that's been playing it safe, the version of
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  you that's been holding back, trying to get it right and
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  trying not to get it wrong, trying to preserve something
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  that, if you're really honest, already feels fragile.
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  But what if that strategy hasn't protected you, but in fact just
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  slowed you down? And when you realize this
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  strategy has been impeding you, not helping you, the door
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  unlocks all on its own. You don't have to force it.
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  I want you to get a sense that strategies expire the very
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  moment they stop working. And if you feel that this
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  strategy of playing it safe wasn't working anyway, let me
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  know by nodding your head. That's it.
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  So allow that thought to land like a seed planted deep in your
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  subconscious mind. Not as words, not as
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  affirmations, but as a deep, accepted truth that if holding
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  back hasn't improved your position, then you have nothing
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  left to protect. And what if that creates
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  liberation? That something profound happens
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  when that sea takes root. Because when there's nothing
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  left to protect, then there's nothing left to fear.
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  These no win situations are paralysing, but nothing to lose
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  situations are liberating. They return you to instinct, to
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  decisiveness, to speed, integrity and truth.
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  No longer having to play games or second guessing, and no
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  longer managing perception, instead expressing judgement.
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  And what if that's where influence actually comes from?
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  And what if this unleashes a particular energy within you,
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  immune to what people think and what people say?
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  What if we can refine this? It's not defiance and rage, not
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  rebellion and not carelessness. It's knowing yourself enough
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  that enables you to quietly say fuck you to the status quo.
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  That voice inside you that stops pretending, stops shrinking.
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  Stop second guessing yourself just to stay comfortable and
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  safe. And that fuck you is not
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  directed at anyone. It's annoying within you and in
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  that moment you stop asking will this be OK and start operating
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  from this is what I see, this is what I recommend and this is
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  what I'll own. And just notice how your body
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  responds to that, that position of strength, of certainty, of
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  fearlessness. Suddenly your posture changes,
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  your mannerisms change, the shoulders drop, the chest opens,
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  the breath deepens. Because self trust is not a
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  feeling, it's a decision to back yourself 100%.
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  And what if you allow this identity to form clearly That
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  from this moment on you are someone who acts from authorship
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  and autonomy, not permission. You don't wait to be fully
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  trusted. Your clarity and your integrity
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  creates trust, and you don't need certainty.
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  Your movement generates momentum.
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  You don't protect your future by being careful.
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  You shape it by being fully expressed.
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  And you know, people like this already don't mind ruffling some
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  feathers, speaking their mind, speaking truth to power, doing
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  what needs to be done and saying what needs to be said.
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  And this, this is who you really are.
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  And when you fully unleash that part, you stop holding back.
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  Your thinking sharpens, your timing improves, and your
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  presence strengthens. Because what if the real
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  limitation was never external, but just the belief that playing
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  it safe and being restrained was safety?
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  The belief is gone now for good reason, because it was never
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  true and never useful. But now let's look into the
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  future. Imagine a full length mirror
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  right beside that door. Behind the door was the
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  restrained version of you, but through the mirror.
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  Is the future version of you with that attitude, that fuck
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  you energy, doing what needs to be done and saying what needs to
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  be said? I don't want you to see that
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  future version of you in the very next situation where you
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  would normally hesitate or hold back.
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  See yourself arriving differently.
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  Not louder, not aggressive, but something different.
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  It comes across in your tone of voice, your facial expressions,
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  your body language. It's an element of an edge.
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  You speak sooner, you recommend clearly, you move with
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  decisiveness, urgency, and notice the difference in how
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  people respond. Not because you demand
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  influence, but because you embody conviction.
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  And deep down you know that no matter how this game plays out,
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  and even if this path that you're on ends, it ends with
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  you, with your integrity intact. No regret, no self betrayal, no
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  wondering what if. And that's the real freedom.
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  That's what means you have nothing to lose.
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  It either works out or it doesn't, but you got to be you,
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  unfiltered and unrestrained. And as you see that future
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  version of you in that mirror, see where it takes you.
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  Some doors may close, but many more will open.
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  Other people will notice how you move, how you operate, your
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  observations, your solutions. And as you see that future
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  version of you, you realize that you don't need this to work in
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  order to trust yourself, that you can trust yourself already
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  and act in accordance with that trust.
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  And what if that's the edge? What if that's the liberation?
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  What if that's the calm, unshakable, unrestrained version
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  of you with nothing to lose and nothing to prove?
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  You don't need validation. You validate yourself.
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  You are fully unleashed. And if your unconscious mind is
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  ready to activate this version of you and leave behind that
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  restrained version of you second guessing and holding back, let
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  me know by nodding your head and very soon I will count from 1:00
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  to 10:00. But it will be this new version
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  of you that awakens. The old version of you can
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  remain behind that door. Not imprisoned, just not
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  required right now. Take a deep breath in through
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  your nose and out through your nose.
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  Wiggle your fingers, wiggle your toes.
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  Connect and calibrate into the here and the now as I now count
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  from 1:00 to 10:00 to awaken you.
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  Starting to count 123 waking up 456 more alert 7-8.
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  Open your eyes. Open your eyes 910 Wide awake,
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  Wide awake. Wide awake.
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