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Episode #301: Surrender to the Illusion of Control · Tea Time w/Amie & Bev

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Speaker 1: Hi, everybody, Welcome to tea time with amyen Bev. We're back.
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Speaker 1: Good day, good day.
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Speaker 2: It is a good day, a love month.
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Speaker 1: I got the recording of this video. Nice, nice, All right, friend,
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Speaker 1: let's dive in. What do you got, Let's go.
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Speaker 2: Before we even got on, I was like, I had
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Speaker 2: to send you a message because somehow time got away
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Speaker 2: from me. And what my reasoning is is, when you're
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Speaker 2: in the now, time really is an irrelevant thing. And
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Speaker 2: then when I came on here and sat down, you
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Speaker 2: were finishing up a phone call, and I thought there
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Speaker 2: was never a It was all divine all along. It
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Speaker 2: just wasn't meeting up with a time frame that we
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Speaker 2: had discussed, is all. It's to remind ourselves in those moments,
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Speaker 2: just take a breath and know that it's always it's
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Speaker 2: always on divine time. Always. If you can't make an appointment,
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Speaker 2: there's a reason why you can't make that appointment. There's
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Speaker 2: always a good reason. There really is bigger than what
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Speaker 2: we email.
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Speaker 1: I have a prime example with that. In the past
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Speaker 1: two videos, I believe I talked about my mom being
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Speaker 1: in the hospital and and all the things, and I think,
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Speaker 1: let's see, it was a the week before she went
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Speaker 1: to rehab. So they were saying that that following Monday
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Speaker 1: she would be going to rehab. And they're like, oh, okay, cool, Well,
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Speaker 1: we had to drive one hundred miles to go be
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Speaker 1: with her, so in one direction in the hospital, and
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Speaker 1: then when she was going to rehab, we had to
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Speaker 1: drive sixty five miles the opposite direction to go see her.
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Speaker 1: So we did. She she would actually have to pass
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Speaker 1: through the town to go to rehab where we were saying, right,
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Speaker 1: So we're like, well, we'll just wait until she gets
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Speaker 1: transported and then we'll go what I called the hospital
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Speaker 1: in the morning. They're like, no, they're not going to
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Speaker 1: send her today, they don't have a bed. They're going
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Speaker 1: to send her tomorrow. I was like, oh my gosh.
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Speaker 1: So we went ahead and drove the hour and a
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Speaker 1: half to go see her one hundred miles. And as
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Speaker 1: we were driving there in the opposite direction, so the
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Speaker 1: direction she would have been traveling, traffic there was an
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Speaker 1: accident on the freeway and traffic was backed up in
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Speaker 1: in the opposite direction, backed up from an on ramp
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Speaker 1: in another direction, and I was sinking in that moment,
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Speaker 1: I'm like, there's the reason why she wasn't transported today
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Speaker 1: she would have been sick because it was It's like
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Speaker 1: it would have been like two and a half three
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Speaker 1: hour drive for her a trip for her to go
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Speaker 1: from the hospital to the rehab center. Who knows how
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Speaker 1: long they would have sat in that transportation vehicle, and
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Speaker 1: it's like a it's like an ambulance, but they transport,
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Speaker 1: and it would have been horrible, especially in with her
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Speaker 1: mental and emotional state as it was at that time.
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Speaker 1: I'm like, I'm really glad she wasn't. So when we
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Speaker 1: got to see her and she was feeling disappointment that
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Speaker 1: she didn't get to leave the hospital that day, I
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Speaker 1: explained to her some mom, there's a reason why. And
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Speaker 1: I told her and she's like, oh, you know. So
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Speaker 1: there was a relief in her after that. So and
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Speaker 1: she got transported the next day, which was great.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, probably was smooth. So we never know, no, because
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Speaker 2: we don't know about divine timing. We don't know there
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Speaker 2: might have been another person to even have an encounter
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Speaker 2: with before she left the hospital. There might have been
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Speaker 2: There's so many things. There's just so many things. Maybe
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Speaker 2: someone need to see that she had the support that
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Speaker 2: was there who knows, like it's the opportunities are endless
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Speaker 2: in those situations. Yeah, So it just goes to show you.
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Speaker 2: And what a lot of people do is like we
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Speaker 2: get into these moments of this anxiety or this feeling
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Speaker 2: like we're because we're trying to push, and that's why
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Speaker 2: we're getting all these feelings because we're trying to push
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Speaker 2: to make something be what it's not supposed to be.
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Speaker 2: It's just it's it's surrendering and being in the allowing phase.
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Speaker 2: And it's like, that's really what I've been learning a
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Speaker 2: lot of lately. And it's not all. It's not always easy.
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Speaker 2: It's certainly not it is most certainly not justly is
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Speaker 2: not I agree with you, And then you're like, oh,
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Speaker 2: I'm so glad I did exactly. It's just like you know,
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Speaker 2: and that or the relief that your mom felt in
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Speaker 2: that moment is the same relief that we can have
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Speaker 2: in that moment too and realize I'm such a bigger
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Speaker 2: picture without having to know why.
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Speaker 1: Right because probably ninety percent of the time you're not
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Speaker 1: going to know why they didn't go the way you
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Speaker 1: wanted them to, like didn't meet your expectation in your timeline.
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Speaker 1: Trust me, I lived this for years, getting upset and angry,
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Speaker 1: sad and depressed because something didn't work out in my timeline,
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Speaker 1: and then find out later. So now I'm given that
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Speaker 1: the time and focus into those emotions and then swirling
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Speaker 1: in it, and then a day, two days, a week
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Speaker 1: later find out I was glad it didn't happen the
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Speaker 1: way I wanted it to. But in that entire time,
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Speaker 1: I sat in anger, sadness, depression, whatever heavy emotion it
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Speaker 1: was at the time. And so I stressing out my
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Speaker 1: own body over an incident that I didn't first of all,
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Speaker 1: didn't have any control over. But at the same time
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Speaker 1: found out later it was a blessing in disguise, and
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Speaker 1: I was like, Okay, there's more going on here in
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Speaker 1: me than I and I need to look at this
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Speaker 1: and see how I can start remedying or easing up
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Speaker 1: on trying to be And this goes along with being
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Speaker 1: a control freak, right, It's all about control, and we
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Speaker 1: just don't have the control of things that we think
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Speaker 1: we do or that we would think love to have.
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Speaker 2: So crazy, I've got so much stuff going on my mind.
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Speaker 2: If I could pick up one thing and go with
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Speaker 2: it because it's like everything that you said is so
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Speaker 2: relevant in so many, so many facets, all of it
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Speaker 2: us being patient and being in that time space, honestly
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Speaker 2: taking the breath. It's it's this allowing that we're not
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Speaker 2: familiar with, and we're not familiar with it because we've
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Speaker 2: grown a lot of people have grown up with struggle.
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Speaker 2: Why because we've seen our parents struggle because that was
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Speaker 2: the normal. So for us to feel normal, we're creating
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Speaker 2: our own struggles to be in that finmilr zone, not
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Speaker 2: realizing that's one of the ways how we're holding ourselves
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Speaker 2: back and not allowing ourselves to fully be in the
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Speaker 2: moment or to fully well celebrate. Is celebrating to me
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Speaker 2: is being in the moment all the moments. And then
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Speaker 2: it's our gauge. It's like what I've said it a
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Speaker 2: million times, but it's like it goes back to the gauge,
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Speaker 2: letting us know as soon as we start feeling that
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Speaker 2: anxiety or that trying to control things or getting pissed
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Speaker 2: off because it's not happening the way we want to,
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Speaker 2: which was a normal response back then, because that's what
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Speaker 2: we learned from someone else. That's like it that is
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Speaker 2: such a child perspective, it is, and the emotionally evolved
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Speaker 2: perspective is recognizing that every moment is divinely perfect, and
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Speaker 2: it's just to be in that space and to be
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Speaker 2: aware of it, because the more that you're aware of it,
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Speaker 2: the more that you get to experience more like that.
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Speaker 2: It's so simple. It's so simple.
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Speaker 1: Anyways, It really is simple.
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Speaker 2: It really is. It's so simple that the female mind
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Speaker 2: and it's you know what, even saying that almost makes
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Speaker 2: me think that we've been made to believe that it
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Speaker 2: has to be harder than it is.
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Speaker 1: Yes, of course, and.
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Speaker 2: Well specifically because men or men don't think the same
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Speaker 2: way that we do. Mostly they just don't. We're usually
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Speaker 2: on different perspectives. We're like spinning things all the time
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Speaker 2: and they're probably fixing things. But we keep ourselves in
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Speaker 2: that space that's familiar like that, because that for us
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Speaker 2: is like that's where we're supposed to be. It's not
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Speaker 2: where we're supposed to be, but we don't know without
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Speaker 2: feeling all that stuff and not feeling it like you
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Speaker 2: were saying, like feeling it because I've done that a
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Speaker 2: million times too, is like recycling and recycling it, making
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Speaker 2: it bigger. It's just feeling it.
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Speaker 1: In that way.
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Speaker 2: Oh wait a second, I feel these emotions and not
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Speaker 2: having it attached to any person, placer, thing or situation.
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Speaker 1: Yes. And also so when we think about that timing
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Speaker 1: and control and things like that, it's and we had
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Speaker 1: a we had a huge event last night for a fundraiser.
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Speaker 2: And now and.
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Speaker 1: As I reflect, I reflect on things like this because
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Speaker 1: I had a big role in the in the event,
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Speaker 1: and there were a couple of times, as I reflect
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Speaker 1: on it, where in my history, in those days of
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Speaker 1: control freak, I would again I would have things that
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Speaker 1: would were asked of me. I would have been I
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Speaker 1: rate like, it would have consumed me for the evening.
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Speaker 1: I would have been just closed off, bitchy, just you
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Speaker 1: know whatever, bitch face resting, bitch face whatever. But one
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Speaker 1: of the things that was asked of me am I
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Speaker 1: don't often I and very seldom do I ever wear
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Speaker 1: heels anymore and shoes, and I had those had some
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Speaker 1: one last night and my feet were not feeling well.
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Speaker 1: So I was like, I do not want to be
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Speaker 1: walking all over this place anymore. So somebody asked me
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Speaker 1: to do something. I was across the room and I
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Speaker 1: was like, oh God, okay, I can make it. But
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Speaker 1: I get over there and I said, I'm standing there
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Speaker 1: to talk to a person who I was sent to
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Speaker 1: go talk to. Another person came up to me and said,
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Speaker 1: we have a mutual friend who highly suggested that I
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Speaker 1: come talk to you. And I just stood there and
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Speaker 1: the person who I was talking to, I was just like, wow,
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Speaker 1: this in me, I knew this was like a huge
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Speaker 1: step for them, huge, like something completely out of their
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Speaker 1: comfort zone. And he says, I don't even know what
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Speaker 1: you do, but here's what you know. It gives me
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Speaker 1: a synapsis of what he's going through. And I'm like,
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Speaker 1: and I just made it lie hard. That's what I do.
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Speaker 1: I want people to be, you know, ease, have feel
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Speaker 1: some ease and some comfort in them when they're talking
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Speaker 1: to me. And it's like I just started laughing and
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Speaker 1: I said, I don't even know what I do. I
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Speaker 1: just do it, you know, and trying to ease that up.
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Speaker 1: And he just looks me up and he goes like, no, no, really,
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Speaker 1: I don't know what you do. So but it's in
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Speaker 1: those moments like that that I really am embracing more
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Speaker 1: and more the everything happens for a reason. So even
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Speaker 1: in my discomfort physically, I said yes, I was like, okay,
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Speaker 1: I'll hop out, you know, and I went and did
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Speaker 1: the thing. But that is happening more and more. The
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Speaker 1: other day, sitting at my desk, just getting back from
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Speaker 1: being gone for three weeks, have quite a bit of
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Speaker 1: stuff work to do, right, and my boss, she says, oh,
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Speaker 1: I got to walk down to the store. I'm gonna
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Speaker 1: get blah blah blah. You want to go with me?
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Speaker 1: And in me, in my head said no, I have
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Speaker 1: a ton of work to do. But something pulled me
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Speaker 1: and said, just out of my mouth, yeah, I'll go.
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Speaker 1: And I ended up seeing two people and talking to
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Speaker 1: them that one of them I hadn't seen in a while,
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Speaker 1: and so we stood there for probably good ten minutes,
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Speaker 1: talking and talking about their plans. And so it's just
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Speaker 1: like it's a and it's so it's such a gentle nudge,
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Speaker 1: and I'm leaning more into that now. Back in the
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Speaker 1: day when I was learning all about all this stuff,
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Speaker 1: I had no idea what that meant. It's those gentle nudges,
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Speaker 1: it's those subtle signs, and I'm just like, what does
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Speaker 1: that mean? But now it's like, because I'm practicing so
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Speaker 1: much more presence and again not always good at it.
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Speaker 1: So I'm not perfect at this and by no means,
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Speaker 1: but I am better than I used to be. And
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Speaker 1: that's my goal, and that's why I say all the time,
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Speaker 1: I just try. My goal is to be better and better.
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Speaker 1: Right as I do better in myself, I do better
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Speaker 1: outside in the world. So the better I get at
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Speaker 1: this and listening to those nudges and those those those
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Speaker 1: intuitive moments, the more I notice how I'm guided and
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Speaker 1: I'm not controlling it, and that like you said when
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Speaker 1: you started, it comes down to timing, divine timing, And
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Speaker 1: there have been such beautiful moments because I've allowed the
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Speaker 1: divine timing instead of my control freak thinking it's going
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Speaker 1: to happen right now when I want it.
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Speaker 2: To, yep, And it makes the surrendering more noticeable when
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Speaker 2: you're not doing it.
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Speaker 1: Yeah.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, So to me, it's like, but like you said,
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Speaker 2: it's doing better every day. I'm doing better every day.
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Speaker 2: I might have a few moments here and there, but
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Speaker 2: I'm doing better and better every day, and the moments
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Speaker 2: don't last, they're not permanent. There there's nothing that is permanent.
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Speaker 1: Mmm. Yeah, everything's temporary, but the memory lasts. So you know,
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Speaker 1: I had a lot of memories of being angry and
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Speaker 1: sad and depressed because things didn't go my way. Now
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Speaker 1: I have many more memories of how while things went
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Speaker 1: because I allowed it to unfold.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, or weren't closing ourselves off. You were giving good
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Speaker 2: descriptions earlier when you were talking about being like how
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Speaker 2: you would normally have well, how you would have acted
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Speaker 2: in the past and had shut down, would have shut
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Speaker 2: down and been like like every the way you described
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Speaker 2: it was perfect. It was exactly how I felt. You
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Speaker 2: put words to the feelings that how I used to feel,
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Speaker 2: and it's and it's freeing. But it's also nice know
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Speaker 2: that I wasn't the only one feeling those things, you know,
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Speaker 2: during that time frame, Because sometimes I feel like we
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Speaker 2: can think that we're crazy with the thoughts that go
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Speaker 2: through our head, but I also think we've been so
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Speaker 2: very tuned into those around us telepathically, because we were
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Speaker 2: still telepathic then, that we were picking up everything from
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Speaker 2: the people that were around us everything, And that's how
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Speaker 2: we created this template that we're in right now. We
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Speaker 2: created the struggle or the happiness or the pretending to
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Speaker 2: be enjoyed, or the or the actual being enjoyed, like
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Speaker 2: all these things, all these things, these dynamics, and it's
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Speaker 2: just us kind of taking a look and kind of like, like,
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Speaker 2: I that has helped me realize, right there, what's going
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Speaker 2: on that that's not what I want to feel. I
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Speaker 2: wanted to fill the opposite of that. And if I
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Speaker 2: didn't feel that, then I wouldn't even know how far
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Speaker 2: of the opposite direction I wanted to go away from
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Speaker 2: that feeling. So it's like all these things that we're
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Speaker 2: experiencing are it's all divine, it's all perfect timing, it
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Speaker 2: all is.
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Speaker 1: And you know, trying to control things is very, very
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Speaker 1: very stressful.
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Speaker 2: It's futile.
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Speaker 1: Sucks. So yeah, so you can be in a ball
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Speaker 1: of mess and stress. If you think you're going to
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Speaker 1: control how things unfold. Good luck with that, BEV and
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Speaker 1: I have tried many, many millions of times. Doesn't work
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Speaker 1: out so well. So the one thing that we do
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Speaker 1: have control over is ourselves. And when we recognize that,
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Speaker 1: then we start to lean into changing our perspective about
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Speaker 1: situations or experiences. And when you start doing that, then
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Speaker 1: you notice your how you're feeling when you're showing up
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Speaker 1: and it. The only thing that you can control in
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Speaker 1: any situation is yourself.
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Speaker 2: It's true.
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Speaker 1: So, and of course we could just go on a
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Speaker 1: whole nother conversation about, you know, trying to control people.
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Speaker 1: We've already talked about controlling time. We have talked about
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Speaker 1: in past videos about the idea that we can control people.
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Speaker 1: But when ultimately, when it comes down to the only
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Speaker 1: thing you have control over is you, nobody else, nothing else.
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Speaker 1: You know, if you have animals, just look at their
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Speaker 1: look watch your animals. You have no control over them,
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Speaker 1: with the exception of maybe commands that you've that they've learned.
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Speaker 1: But think about them when they were a puppy or
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Speaker 1: you know, you know, when they're in their older phases
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Speaker 1: where they're struggling, and yeah, you think you have control.
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Speaker 2: Sorry, good luck with that.
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Speaker 1: Sorry, it's not sorry.
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Speaker 2: It's a never ending story. Yeah, until you decide to
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Speaker 2: step out of it. As soon as you step out
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Speaker 2: of you're like, oh my gosh, life could be this
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Speaker 2: much easier and I didn't have to be doing all
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Speaker 2: this time. Life could be that much easier. It's kind
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Speaker 2: of crazy, but it's true.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, so you can decide, you know, how uncomfortable you
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Speaker 1: want your life to continue to be, or how much
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Speaker 1: you want to do self reflection and figure out ways
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Speaker 1: to ease up in that controlling mindset. I personally, I
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Speaker 1: enjoyed the ease up. It's been great because nothing outside
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Speaker 1: of me. Let me see, I got a word this
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Speaker 1: in a way, when I eased up on thinking that
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Speaker 1: I could control things, I realized that everything outside of me,
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Speaker 1: first of all, has nothing to do with me, and
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Speaker 1: everything to do with me, not everybody else.
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Speaker 2: It's true, because everything else is just a mirror image
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Speaker 2: of what's going on in this area, this vessel.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, and that's a whole nother conversation. So I just
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Speaker 1: went you to the audience to just take that in.
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Speaker 1: Everything outside of you has nothing to do with you
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Speaker 1: and everything to do with you. So say with that
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Speaker 1: for a while, journal about it, maybe just take it
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Speaker 1: a piece at a time. How how does everything outside
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Speaker 1: of me pertain to me? And a key piece of
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Speaker 1: that is self awareness? And how does everything outside of
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Speaker 1: me have nothing to do with me? Fun with that?
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Speaker 2: I mean, gosh, because it doesn't. I mean, like even
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Speaker 2: for me sitting here processing everything that you're saying it
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Speaker 2: doesn't have anything to do with you. On one point,
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Speaker 2: it's not they're not. Nobody's doing things to you. It's like,
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Speaker 2: what are you doing to yourself? What are you saying
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Speaker 2: to yourself? How are you keeping yourself separate? Ask yourself
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Speaker 2: how this habit or this pattern is serving you. Because
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Speaker 2: there's a lot of things that we're doing for a reason,
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Speaker 2: and when we can get to the reason why, we're
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Speaker 2: going to find out how nonsensical that that reasoning is.
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Speaker 1: But all of this is an opportunity, then everything you
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Speaker 1: just said has everything to do with you.
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Speaker 2: Exactly exactly. The guru would say, you are correct, because
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Speaker 2: no matter what you were correct, it's your own perspective,
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Speaker 2: it's your own, it's your story.
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Speaker 1: Yep yep. So friends, I would say, get a pin
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Speaker 1: and paper and just start writing down. Well, we just
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Speaker 1: talked about journal about it. How is it? How does
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Speaker 1: it have nothing to do with you? And how does
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Speaker 1: it have everything to do with you? And it could
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Speaker 1: actually be one scenario if you're struggling in a relationship,
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Speaker 1: How does it have nothing to do with you? How
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Speaker 1: does it have everything to do with you? And keyword you,
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Speaker 1: not them, not what they're doing right, not how they're
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Speaker 1: reacting you. How are you perceiving this, How are you reacting?
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Speaker 1: What is your emotions? What are your thought processes, how's
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Speaker 1: your what are the physical sensations? Like? Everything to do
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Speaker 1: with you? And then when you find that you don't
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Speaker 1: want to be like that the person that you are
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Speaker 1: being or happen being, if you don't want to do
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Speaker 1: that anymore, if it feels uncomfortable, it feels too stressful,
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Speaker 1: you recognize you're the control freak, whatever that might be,
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Speaker 1: and you're just like, yeah, this doesn't feel good in
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Speaker 1: my body right now? How does it have everything to
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Speaker 1: do with you? And what are you gonna do with
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Speaker 1: it to change it? Because that's that's all on you.
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Speaker 1: All of it is on you, and it's not it's
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Speaker 1: not to create weight on you. It is to say
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Speaker 1: that if I am not liking what I'm seeing, perceiving,
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Speaker 1: or how I'm perceiving it, really how I'm perceiving it,
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Speaker 1: how I'm speaking to people, my body language. If if
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Speaker 1: you're uncomfortable with yourself, and the way you're gonna know
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Speaker 1: that is by having that self awareness, by noticing those
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Speaker 1: sensations in yourself. If you're not comfortable with it, then
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Speaker 1: do you think everybody else is comfortable with it? And
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Speaker 1: I hope the answer is no. If the answer is no,
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Speaker 1: then if you're not comfortable with it, what are you
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Speaker 1: going to do to change it? So you're comfortable. Has
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Speaker 1: everything to do with you, and you're doing it for you, You're
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Speaker 1: not doing it for them. But in retrospect, this is great.
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Speaker 1: You are doing it for them. When you're doing it
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Speaker 1: for you, it's mind blowing when we take in all
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Speaker 1: the pieces that to know that it's all about me,
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Speaker 1: and that's not an ego statement. It's a true statement.
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Speaker 1: It is all about me because it's about my energetic
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Speaker 1: point of attraction. It's mind manifesting, it's what I'm putting
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Speaker 1: out that's coming back to me. It's all of that. Again,
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Speaker 1: we could go through hours of this conversation, but recognizing
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Speaker 1: the statement has nothing to do with you and has
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Speaker 1: everything to do with you, it's the.
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Speaker 2: Best conversation ever.
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Speaker 1: It is.
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Speaker 2: I so understand it all. So it's so perfect. Yeah,
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Speaker 2: I would just tell anybody that's watching, like, really stop
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Speaker 2: and really take this in because it's really it's pretty
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Speaker 2: dang amazing honestly, and it's so many different perspectives and
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Speaker 2: it's all it all rings true for me, all of it.
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Speaker 2: It just feel feels right. And then you think about it.
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Speaker 2: We come in as babies, right, and all the focus
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Speaker 2: is on us. And it wasn't for us to perceive
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Speaker 2: it like now you've got to do this, and now
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Speaker 2: I need to have put someone doing this and someone
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Speaker 2: doing this. It was to be in the space. It
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Speaker 2: was to be in that space feeling all these things,
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Speaker 2: recognizing these these things, but not from a black space,
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Speaker 2: not from any type of black or need or want.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, yep. And when I when I'm speaking, when I'm
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Speaker 1: teaching or having conversations like with Bev or anything like
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Speaker 1: in this space that we're in, I listen to what
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Speaker 1: I say, and I will know in my body. I
25:44
Speaker 1: will know that the difference of am I teaching because
25:51
Speaker 1: of my experience and I'm you know, excited to share
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Speaker 1: things like this, or am I saying that because I'm
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Speaker 1: in a space of my life where I needed to
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Speaker 1: hear it. But in order for me to hear it,
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Speaker 1: I had to say it. And so when I said it,
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Speaker 1: I heard it. And so these conversations always are so
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Speaker 1: beneficial in how organically they show up. And that's what
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Speaker 1: Bev and I do. We have organic conversations. We don't
26:22
Speaker 1: plan our conversations. We show up. It's like at the
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Speaker 1: beginning of every single video, it's like, okay, well what's
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Speaker 1: going on because we don't know. But in retrospect, we're
26:34
Speaker 1: almost living parallel lives and we hardly ever talk to
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Speaker 1: each other in between recordings. So it's just it's the
26:44
Speaker 1: beauty of us showing up. We could very easily have
26:48
Speaker 1: these conversations over the phone a couple of times, you know,
26:51
Speaker 1: every other week or so, just checking in. But years ago,
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Speaker 1: in twenty twenty, we decided to do this because we
27:00
Speaker 1: were having such great conversations. It was like, yeah, let's
27:03
Speaker 1: we need to be recording these and sharing these with people.
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Speaker 1: So that's what we did, and we we have been
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Speaker 1: doing this going into our sixth year, well ending up
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Speaker 1: with our sixth year, I think. Anyway, so you know,
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Speaker 1: people are out there having these conversations, seeking guidance and
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Speaker 1: all that, and so be resourceful, share the content, have
27:29
Speaker 1: the conversations, share the links, whether it's us or any
27:32
Speaker 1: other teachers or influencers that are resonating with you. Even books,
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Speaker 1: but you know we can. You can find us in
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Speaker 1: many platforms, so we're on Facebook, Instagram, TikTok, Speaker, spoduct
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Speaker 1: By podcast, attic, and YouTube. So be resourceful. Help a friend,
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Speaker 1: help a friend my friends. Thank you for hanging out
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Speaker 1: with us, teach time with Amy and Bev and will
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Speaker 1: see you next time. Bye,