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Binyelum Shares How Her Ex-Husband Who Cancelled Her Dependant Visa Came Back Begging · DidiLawren

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  Hello and welcome back to an episode of Bachelor's here.
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  How are you all doing if you're doing great?
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  For today's episode, we're going to be talking about Jack My
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  marriages. Jack my marriages, especially
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  those in the UK. These people are giving us
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  premium content. Now we're going to be talking
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  about Binyalum and her husband or her ex-husband Shima.
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  According to Binyalum, ever since she got married to Chima,
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  Chima had been cheating. Chima was cheating with his
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  ex-girlfriend, who she allegedly said was an OSU.
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  Chima was dating the ex-girlfriend but did not marry
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  her because according to Chima, the mother said she's an OSU so
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  she couldn't marry her. But then Chima met Pinellum and
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  Pinellum very young, in her 20s, early 20s, beautiful.
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  She was in school. He married her immediately, got
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  her pregnant, pulled her out of school, told her I was going to
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  take care of her, Bienen said. She got pregnant, she went for
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  scan, they told her I was going to be a baby girl.
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  The mother-in-law insisting I was going to be a baby boy, took
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  her to a SIA and then the SIA told her that she was going to
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  have a baby boy. When she had the baby was a baby
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  girl, she was very happy but her husband and the mother was not
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  happy. She said that in fact, when she
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  a week to her pregnant, her delivery date, the husband went
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  to Lagos to meet his alleged ex-girlfriend, they were there,
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  she gave birth. She said it was a neighbour that
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  took her to the hospital. She said that it was after two
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  weeks that the husband came back, the mother was not happy.
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  He was not happy that she gave birth to a baby girl.
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  So nobody even checked on her. Chima decided to go to the UK to
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  travel to the UK to study and then made Binylum his dependent.
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  Binylum said that they came to the UK, she was a as a
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  dependent. She was working full time while
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  Chima was going to school. She said she did everything.
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  She worked, paid the school fees, took care of the house.
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  Chima was also working, but he decided to rent a house in
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  Lackey for his ex-girlfriend. So she was now saying that the
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  ex-girlfriend was looking posh and all that, but because she
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  was walking around the clock taking care of a toddler, she
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  couldn't have time to even look at herself.
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  He was insulting her, calling her an illiterate.
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  This this that. He was.
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  According to her, the marriage was just, he was cheating on top
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  of this whole thing. But she said she was going to
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  make her marriage work because she was young.
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  She said she don't want to be divorced, that whatever the
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  issue she was going to sort out with her husband, only for the
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  husband to call her and say, listen, we're going to let us
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  talk. This marriage is not working.
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  I need you to go back to Nigeria and I need you to leave your
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  child. Because she said that he was
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  insulting her, calling her an illiterate.
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  So she decided to go back to school.
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  That was where he said no, that if she want to go back to
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  school, that they're going to take their daughter back to
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  Nigeria so that she could have time to go back to, you know, to
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  do whatever she wants to do. That was the beginning of the
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  end. Bielum said no, he cancelled her
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  dependent visa, but she was working full time, she had
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  friends, she had coworkers, and where she was working, she said
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  that they don't offer Cos. So it was actually other people
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  that helped her to get another job where she got Cos.
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  That was where the story was interesting.
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  Now after she left the house because the husband wanted to
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  take their daughter to Nigeria and she refused, he decided.
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  He said that the marriage is over, he's no longer interested.
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  He started dating the ex-girlfriend, decided to bring
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  the ex-girlfriend to the UK, Butterfield.
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  He even wanted to bring the mother so that he could take the
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  child away from Pinello so that the mother could look after the
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  child. They denied their visas now.
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  Maybe it was because he cancelled his wife visa.
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  Nobody knew what was going on. Maybe Home Office were already
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  suspecting that. You know, you just divorced your
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  wife and now you want to bring somebody else.
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  Anyway, he couldn't bring his ex-girlfriend now.
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  Ben Yellum was living life, having fun, you know, looking
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  good. Benellum brushed up.
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  She started looking pepper and beg.
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  Beniello became a baddie that he was chasing outside.
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  Our uncle started begging that he was sorry that his he was the
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  devil that he came from a polygamous home, that he doesn't
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  want his family to be like this. He doesn't want his a broken
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  home. He was begging and begging.
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  Beniello said no when she she was begging, you refused, you
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  cancelled my independent visa thinking you are going to you
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  know, chase me back to Nigeria. If God hadn't intervened, I
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  would have been in Nigeria today and you wouldn't have even had
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  the opportunity to beg. This man decided to go to Abuka
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  Obi Zion ministry. Allegedly he bribed Ibukobe to
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  mention their case because according to her she's a very
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  big fan of Ibukobe. So what he did was allegedly
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  bribed Ibuka to mention their case and he was holding his
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  phone and recording. So he made that recording and
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  sent to her will because he was telling him that or telling her
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  that she should or raised their marital issues, said that
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  somebody, his name is Chima, they live in the UK.
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  He brought his wife, he's brought his wife, he's trying to
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  leave him and all that. So he sent it to her.
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  That didn't work. He went to a priest, paid a
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  priest. Allegedly, the priest sent a
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  voice note begging Pinellum saying that she should forgive
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  her husband, she should do this, she should do that.
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  That did not work. She said there was another
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  female evangelist or a pastor I don't know that she respects.
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  He also went to that Lady to see you go and beg my wife.
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  Benellum refused. Anyway, I will just play so that
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  you can hear from the horse's mouth how the whole drama
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  started and how the whole thing ended with a husband crying
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  bitterly. Watch this.
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  I don't know anything you want, but we have to find a way to
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  look after our child because we have a child.
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  Since you don't want the marriage to me, I really want
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  the marriage because I told myself I want to marry once and
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  I'll marry rights and I'm willing.
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  To do anything. To make the marriage work, if
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  you want the marriage to work, but if you don't want the
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  marriage to work, then you're tired.
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  Everybody's tired. But that doesn't mean that we
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  will sit down, point out the things that is causing issues
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  here and sort it out. It's just a simple thing or you
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  take your time it corrective enemy.
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  But if you don't want it that way, that you're tired, you
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  don't want the marriage that is not working.
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  Anything I'm fine. Any decision you want to make,
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  I'm fine. If you want it, fine.
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  If you don't want it, fine. So whatever you want, I'm in.
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  If you want it to work, I'm in. If you don't want it to work, if
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  you want us to separate, I'm in. Anything you want, any decision
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  you want. Because at this point, I can't
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  decide for you. I've said mine.
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  I don't want, I love, I love my family and I always love my
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  family. Not as much as that.
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  We've been going back and forth. A lot of things has been
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  happening. I believed that with time,
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  everything I have started finding it out, you know, But
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  since it's not working and you're tired, everybody's tired.
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  Fine. If you say so.
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  If you say. So, So what?
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  Happened what? Caused the issue.
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  I don't know anything. OK, it's fine.
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  I asked you. Oh, OK, sorry.
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  For that I. Will take my cousin.
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  Who is your cousin in Nigeria? I will take you back home so you
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  can focus on your life you want to pursue.
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  You have a life you want to. Go to.
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  No, my child is not living this country.
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  You see that one that you see this one that you want to see
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  you go. You gonna see Chris?
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  Like, like, can you listen to yourself?
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  Yeah. You want to take my child to
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  your cousin? So it's the apple.
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  You know why I'm saying? This imagine.
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  Imagine somebody that wants the betterment of his child.
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  You want to send your back. See.
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  Don't even get me angry. I don't want to get angry.
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  You see what he's trying to do? He's trying to take my child
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  away from me. Why?
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  I'm saying. This is, this is.
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  We are here to talk about it. Will enable her go to work she
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  says she want to. Go to.
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  But you all know that he's trying to.
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  He's lying because he knows that it's only she's the only reason
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  why he's still keeping me in this country.
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  He knows the truth. You.
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  Want you want to pursue that your.
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  Dream, of course, but that doesn't mean that I can't pursue
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  my room with my child. Like I said, nobody to.
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  Stop that. So don't cancel your visa.
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  I can put pen to paper. You can.
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  Get a lawyer. I don't need any lawyer.
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  Don't need your lawyer, but all I'm telling you is that my child
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  is not leaving this country. You can call somebody.
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  It's not like anything You can call somebody to come and stay.
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  I can allow you bring die up. Why not bring your cousin over
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  to Nigeria and over to. UK you can.
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  Bring your cousin to come here. I'm not sending my child to your
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  cousin. No, you can, you cannot.
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  You can actually bring your cousin.
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  You didn't even think of it and you want to send my child to
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  Nigeria so that she won't be suffering in Nigeria.
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  No, no, it's not nice was. She suffering.
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  Before she came. Here she wasn't suffering
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  because I was looking. I was, I was, I was taking care
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  of her. I'm not there to look after her.
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  And I can't sit here and watch you take my child away from me
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  and give me like, am I sick? No, no, you are somebody.
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  Like I said, you want me to be looking after Ashley, you have
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  to be paying because now I will not take it as I don't know
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  because I have to walk and pay my bills.
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  I can't just sit at home. If you want that to stay with
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  you, that means automatically you will not be paying all the
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  bills. If you don't want me to walk,
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  you want me to stay. You have to be paying all her
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  bills, sending more money for for her upkeep every month.
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  That's the thing. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
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  But that doesn't mean that I won't still work.
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  So you see the problem? I need to go to school.
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  You made me. I left my education in Nigeria.
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  Which you? Everything.
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  Isn't it against me that I'm an illiterate, that I didn't go to
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  school? I don't have anything to offer.
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  No education, no skills, no nothing.
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  Nothing. You see?
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  So I need to go to school. You see the problem?
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  You. Why not?
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  You can bring your cousin. Your cousin can come here
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  instead of taking her to Nigeria and we will stay here.
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  It's not making any sense. You can bring your cousin here.
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  Me and you will be seeing your cousin.
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  We know that our child is fine. I'm not sending her to Nigeria.
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  You know how many? 1000 miles?
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  It's not nice. No, you check it now.
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  If you truly care about this child and you know that why you
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  left the country was because of this child, then why are you
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  sending her back to that place? And then you stay here.
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  No, let's, let's, let's let's just be, let's just have
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  sympathy because of this little child.
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  It's not nice. It's not nice.
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  You know that. And you know that the only
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  reason why I'm here is because Ashley is here.
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  You send that to Nigeria, You can do anything to me at any
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  time. So that one is a no, no, she
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  can't go to Nigeria. You can't take my child.
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  She is our child. And you can't say that you want
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  to take first a custody because she's not safe with you.
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  I neglected. Yes, you, you.
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  But you've been neglected. You know that.
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  You hit her very well. You see, when you beat her, I
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  keep telling you, stop hitting. You can't take care of her.
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  You kill her for me because you keep beating her.
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  You don't even treat her like she's a baby.
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  And when I talk, you tell me that she knows what she's doing.
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  She'll be crying. You will neglect her.
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  You said that she don't have any reason to cry.
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  So why is she crying? So you can't be with us.
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  Someone that that doesn't have you.
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  You know that, you know that. So someone that doesn't have
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  sympathy. Hello, I know you are hurt.
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  I know. I know that I pushed you for you
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  to leave. I know my actions were bad and I
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  regret them. I know I've not been my best
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  knows enough when we got married or even before we got married.
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  I know that my behaviours, my attitude and actions towards
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  you, they were not nice. This is something I regret so
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  much every day of my life. I regret those things, I regret
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  those actions. I regret because there was no
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  benefit, there was no gain. It's rather ruined me and ruined
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  my family and ruined my relationship with you.
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  Bill. I come before you, broken,
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  shattered and a new person. I'm asking you.
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  It got me, Bill. I have mercy.
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  Please forgive me. I will do anything that you
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  want. Bill, please.
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  I've begged your parents. I've asked for their
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  forgiveness. I do talk with my father and my
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  mother and I've made it crystal clear it is you or never any
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  other person in my entire life. I do not want to go the ways of
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  my father's. I will never marry a second
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  wife. There is somebody called Shima.
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  You are. And your wife is living outside
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  the country. You are the one that brought her
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  over there. I see you being shut up, Shima.
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  You're not concentrated. Your wife you love so much want
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  to leave you. By all means.
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  Somebody's already communicating with her.
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  Somebody's already telling her. Come out.
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  I will marry you. I don't know.
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  Who is this woman? Did she used to be nice?
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  She used to be nice. She has made-up your her mind to
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  leave and she have said it to you.
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  I'm already going. I will divorce you.
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  She's at the point of fighting for divorce.
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  You are being quite able to talk to her that she's not listening.
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  I don't know who is this woman? The Bible says that the heart of
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  the king is in the hand of God. I decree May the Lord in your
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  case, May the Lord in your case, May the Lord in your case, May
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  the Lord in your case, May the Lord in your case, May the Lord
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  in your case, may the Lord in your case.
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  She might decree solution the Holy Ghost.
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  Holy Ghost. Holy Ghost, Holy Ghost, hello,
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  good evening can and God back to your husband decision.
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  He take it to stay alone, added you wise.
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  If a dear put darkness, if a dear put death, failure be
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  reproach and shame, escape it by coming back to your husband.
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  He may not be against God and his counsel.
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  So keep a regret now be Connor. If I'm not doing mere bar return
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  to him. God bless you.
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  Then I wake up now from me 9 and they've been in mere very then I
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  befet Christian. Why so?
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  Be alone, I beseech you in the name of God.
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  Kisha emojis people prove to them that they are taught
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  towards you and your family. Don't give them a platform to
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  rejoice. So yes, this is what they want
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  to hear from London news, they want to hear from UK.
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  Don't give these people this room to rejoice.
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  Shame the devil not living there with you.
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  Don't allow their joy or their jubilation to be true.
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  Don't give these enemies stories to tell.
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  That is my beseech to you. Stand up with boldness and take
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  over what belongs to you. That opportunity, peace to
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  dominate what God has given to you.
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  Go and take it back. That is marriage.
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  Marriage. You need to be strong.
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  You need to stand firm, not cross into my family online.
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  You cannot take hold of my husband online online.
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  So I beseech you, stand with boldness and some the devil and
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  his workers and stand and go back to your husband.
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  Take over your position as a woman of the house and grow your
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  family to the to the shame of the devil and the people.
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  And now as I'm talking to you, I'm talking to you whatever,
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  whatever Greek that your husband is no longer a person to be
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  heard of that or you know he doesn't exist or whatever, or
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  all your problem. Let that chairman, that grid be
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  removed or Hindu by the corner so that they can have a platform
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  to laugh at you and your family. Don't allow your family to be a
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  mockery before the public. Don't allow your family to be a
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  mockery before your village people.
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  If you allow it, your parents, your people will never forgive
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  you. Don't allow them go back.
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  How would you look like? Go back, don't give him.
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  Arise and go back from and take back what belongs to you.
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  God. I've already given you that
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  platform. May the Lord grant peace to your
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  family and restore your home and give your daughter a home to
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  live like to live in and not a broken home.
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  May the Lord in heaven whom we call upon for the Father, Son
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  and the Holy Spirit fight to discuss and put these messages
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  in your heart that time will not be against you.
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  But at the end of the day what will come out is a story of joy,
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  story of love. At the end of the day, Mr Mrs
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  Chamber and the Peace of the Lord be with you.
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  I'm trying to speak with you after the night I ended the
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  call, which was on Tuesday. I'm trying to reach you.
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  I've sent messages. I've called, but you didn't pick
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  up. I don't know your routine.
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  I'm under my Jeremy, You know, every day my son stands before
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  me. Jeremy.
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  There's no two ways about it. And I'm not going to lie about
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  it. I've openly confessed my sins
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  before you before God. I've been sick for like 2 days
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  now, two days plus I've been just battling it.
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  I've not been fine but able to my teenager, you know trying to
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  see what I can make because there are dues to be paid.
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  So I'm I'm asking you bigger have mission.
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  Please have mission. It was all my fault.
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  I accept everything the blame everything is 100% my fault.
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  Please bigger. This is not our end.
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  Please, please have message. Have message for the sake of our
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  child who needs us who did not use us, our brother into this
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  world. Please, I'm begging you.
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  I'm asking you to come back home.
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  Just give me your code. I will come and bring you guys
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  back home. Please come back and it's not
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  already. I will vacate the room.
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  Happening in a catchy room in a catchy room.
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  And I need an Apollo to the glory of God.
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  The letting agents who are denied.
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  We mentioned the room registered the bathroom.
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  Everything is looking all good now, they will just come and
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  change the carpet and parlour which they are promised to do.
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  Then I'll try and buy a new set of seats to make our house, our
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  parlour look good. Become begging you and gotten
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  them because I'm begging you. I'm begging you and gotten them.
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  Please, please become my lovely wife.
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  All the days of our life will be good I promise.
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  I will love you, I will cherish you.
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  I hate you I've never I hate you me I've never done that.
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  I love me and I will demonstrate my love for you in actions, not
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  just in words. Give me this opportunity to make
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  our life better. I'm begging in God's name.
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  I would love and cherish you all the days of our lives.
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  Become becoming them. Become an electrician.
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  Become the opinion of me at the better everything about me, the
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  better. Now what do you think?
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  If you were binylum, would you have forgiven your husband?
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  Or if Chima was your brother or your son, would you have gone to
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  beg knowing everything that Chima did?
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  Cancelled as Cos? Are women the problem?
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  Because there are so many conversations regarding abroad
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  marriages. They said that especially men.
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  They said that once they bring their women to abroad, the women
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  grow wings and then they decide to start acting up, according to
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  Chima. According to people that knew
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  him, he said that being he was cheating peacefully in Nigeria.
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  He was cheating peacefully in Nigeria.
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  Binyalum wasn't saying anything now that he had brought her to
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  the UK, Binyalum had now grown wings and decided to leave him.
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  Is Binyalum at fault or is CHIM at fault?
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  Or is it the UK system, our broad system which cannot give
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  women their independence, that make women now choose better?
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  Let me know what you think. Thank you very much.
• 23:56
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