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Nepo Baby · We Talk Back

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Speaker 1: Welcome to We Talk Back Podcast, the production of iHeartRadio
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Speaker 1: and the Black Effect Network Talk Talk.
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Speaker 2: We're just two unapologetically black women with an opinion who
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Speaker 2: talks back, big back, big back. Listen, I'm giving a
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Speaker 2: big bag indergy right now. I might as well start.
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Speaker 2: What's up y'all? Welcome to that new episode of We
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Speaker 2: Talk Back. As your Girl tam Man, I love y'all.
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Speaker 2: AJ what's not y'all?
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Speaker 1: It's your girl, a j holiday, a great a day.
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Speaker 1: Why the fuck are you starting off the introduction talk
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Speaker 1: about big bags?
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Speaker 2: Cause listen, y'all. One of my good friends, she has
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Speaker 2: a wellness studio which is fabulous called Muambouge, and I
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Speaker 2: did some content for her and I got a massage
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Speaker 2: and she was recording me getting a massage. And then
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Speaker 2: when I was looking at the video, baby, you couldn't
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Speaker 2: tell me what the linebacker laying down on that bed,
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Speaker 2: I was like, it's my bad dad, why for real?
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Speaker 2: Like that shit hurt my feelings. I ain't even made
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Speaker 2: the video yet because I just don't know how I
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Speaker 2: much edit out that extra back piece. Girl, your back
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Speaker 2: is not big that I'm gonna send you this video.
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Speaker 2: You gonna sweat. You gonna swear, bitch that I'm exavierly
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Speaker 2: get laying down there on that motherfucker bed.
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Speaker 1: The backs baby talk about. I know the backs they
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Speaker 1: be talking about, and I don't got one of them.
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Speaker 2: Nigga, when I look at him, when I look in
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Speaker 2: the mirror, I'm gonna send you this video because you're
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Speaker 2: gonna be like, Okay, I see what you're saying. It's
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Speaker 2: just that it's that space between the the arm pit,
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Speaker 2: in the arm rofat.
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Speaker 1: Oh this left punk right here, that.
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Speaker 2: Chunk right there up under the armpit. But in the bag.
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Speaker 1: What is that?
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Speaker 2: Baby, girl? I ain't like it. I've been doing uh,
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Speaker 2: what's it called?
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Speaker 1: Roe?
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Speaker 2: I've been rowing never since that video, baby, because that
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Speaker 2: got to come up off me. How's your weekend?
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Speaker 1: Just suck it out. My weekend is going well, girl.
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Speaker 1: It is an eight day weekend for me. I'm on vacation, bitch, y'all.
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Speaker 1: I'm in Anguila, chilling, black as hell. We had lobster
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Speaker 1: for dinner last night. Your best life, God is real good.
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Speaker 1: The only thing I'm missing some Penis man.
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Speaker 2: Because you know, Penis couldn't come with you.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, you know, I like thugs. This nigga, don't have
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Speaker 1: no passport, but we gonna get you a passport, baby,
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Speaker 1: so we can go outside.
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Speaker 2: What did I do this weekend? Oh, it was my
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Speaker 2: friend Bunny's birthday and we went outside. Uh, she's cousins
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Speaker 2: with Jayla from the Baddies, So we was outside with
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Speaker 2: the baddies from Zeus Network. Girl. Yes, it was a
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Speaker 2: situation situation.
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Speaker 1: Who's Jayala? Is that not the girl from Columbia that's
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Speaker 1: he talking about? Mm hmm which character is that? Because
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Speaker 1: didn't they have from Colombia before?
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Speaker 2: I think she was on Joscelyn's Cabaret it was Yeah, yeah,
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Speaker 2: so this Jayla. I don't know exactly where Jayla is from,
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Speaker 2: but she's the one who always wears white with the
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Speaker 2: low cut, blonde hairstyle. That's Bunny's cousin.
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Speaker 1: I think I just seen that person. She was apologizing
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Speaker 1: to somebody on an episode fatiasing the big one who
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Speaker 1: just got surgery and ship. I just see clips on Instagram.
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Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, I don't know if she's a She don't
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Speaker 2: seem like the apologizing type. But maybe I ain't seen
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Speaker 2: it because I watched Batties on the Traadmill. That's my
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Speaker 2: because I be fighting for my life. They be fighting
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Speaker 2: for theirs too, but I'll be fighting for my life
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Speaker 2: as well, so it's perfect together.
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Speaker 1: Shout out to the batties, Shout.
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Speaker 2: Out to the Batties, and shout out to Bunny. Happy birthday, y'all.
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Speaker 2: My friend Bunny. Uh, she is healing from stage four
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Speaker 2: breast cancer. So this is the first time we all
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Speaker 2: got to actually hang out in a long time. We
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Speaker 2: had a really good time. We started a GoFundMe for her,
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Speaker 2: so the likas in my bio. If y'all want to
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Speaker 2: support my sister, please donate or just come and share
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Speaker 2: it with your people so we can make sure she
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Speaker 2: gets all the holistic care that she can get because
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Speaker 2: insurance don't pay for holistic care. Did you know that?
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Speaker 1: Absolutely not. Why would they want to heal you? They
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Speaker 1: want you alive and sick. What's her instagram? Let the
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Speaker 1: listeners know you know it?
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Speaker 2: Her Instagram is it's Bunny Baby, so y'all go check
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Speaker 2: her out her Uh, It's Bunny Baby, and her gun
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Speaker 2: for me will be in the link there too. Yeah.
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Speaker 2: So that's that was my weekend. That was Sunday and Baby.
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Speaker 2: All Monday I was remembering to meet in Monday. Baby,
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Speaker 2: I was down bad and I didn't even drink that much.
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Speaker 2: I just don't know your body, don't.
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Speaker 1: I keep saying that. I don't know why y'all playing
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Speaker 1: like that's one thing I drink all day long. I've
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Speaker 1: barely been drinking alcohol like that. I did have a
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Speaker 1: couple of gummies, but I can't do it. I want
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Speaker 1: to be fully functioning all day long, Okay. I don't
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Speaker 1: like feeling sick.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, I never.
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Speaker 1: Drink these BBC's y'all ever had in the Caribbean is banana,
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Speaker 1: Bacardi and coconut.
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Speaker 2: That's liquor, bitch, what's you talking about? Said that girl
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Speaker 2: said I don't be drinking like that, and they said,
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Speaker 2: suck it up.
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Speaker 1: I don't count mixed drinks because when I drink liquor,
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Speaker 1: it'd be straight liquor like mixed drinks, don't. I never
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Speaker 1: do more than one, so it's never going to like
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Speaker 1: have the effect like me drinking my straight liquor. Okay,
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Speaker 1: because I don't chase shit. Mm hmm.
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Speaker 2: Let's get in the sands. What happened?
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Speaker 1: They're all a BT? Lawrence? Did you indulge? Did you
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Speaker 1: watch it?
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Speaker 2: This weekend. I was like literally sad because I wanted
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Speaker 2: to be the work in the red carpet. But that's
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Speaker 2: a conversation for another time. So I didn't watch it
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Speaker 2: because I was, like I said, we were out celebrating
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Speaker 2: my girlfriend's life. So I did not get to see it.
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Speaker 2: But I got to see a lot of clips, like
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Speaker 2: on the Shade Room and the ones that were like
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Speaker 2: really viral. So I did see Glorilla hanging in the
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Speaker 2: sky for twenty minutes. Why they did gloriala like that?
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Speaker 1: I don't know. And do people are we too hard
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Speaker 1: on any black anything? It's like other people can slide,
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Speaker 1: but were so hard on black things.
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Speaker 2: Okay, No, that shit was funny, bro, She's just up there, like.
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Speaker 1: Why do you have that on the internet? Dog?
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Speaker 2: Like y'all know how?
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Speaker 1: Like, Okay, so BT wars because we did attend the
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Speaker 1: Hip Hop Awards last year and it is it's live,
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Speaker 1: but it's also pre recorded at the same time, right,
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Speaker 1: So they do a lot of things and I guess
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Speaker 1: they broadcast and in between times, so there's a lot
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Speaker 1: of post production shit that people really don't see. But
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Speaker 1: they could have at least turned the highlight off on
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Speaker 1: Golilla hanging from a higher he came down like a
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Speaker 1: pit with the parachute.
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Speaker 2: Yes, but she was up there, just waiting on her turn,
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Speaker 2: just proudly waiting. I listened. They would have had to
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Speaker 2: lower me down to the floor because my legs wouldn't
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Speaker 2: have worked sitting hanging there.
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Speaker 1: In the air that long straight noodles? Right?
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Speaker 2: Why why tam Ban rolling around the stage would.
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Speaker 1: Get up? Stand up? Stand up?
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Speaker 2: Will I weakened the knees, I weakened the thighs. They'd
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Speaker 2: have cut off my circulation for fifteen minutes up here.
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Speaker 1: G I had heels on one day that I just
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Speaker 1: did like a lot of squads the day before. And
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Speaker 1: when I tell you my legs, my legs was noodles
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Speaker 1: in the club dog my shit, I know if people
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Speaker 1: could see my legs underneath my dress, my shit was
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Speaker 1: like shaking, shaking fucking heels.
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Speaker 2: Man, Listen, idn't I discovered the cables? Like I always be,
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Speaker 2: like very intimidated by equipment in the gym. I already
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Speaker 2: feel like people be looking at me. I feel like
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Speaker 2: people be watching me.
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Speaker 1: I do be watching you.
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Speaker 2: That should be motivation.
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Speaker 1: No, no, I don't like that.
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Speaker 2: Because I don't know what the fuck I'll be doing. Sometimes,
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Speaker 2: like when when I learn a new machine, I don't
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Speaker 2: want to be on one in the videos like look
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Speaker 2: what is this bitch doing?
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Speaker 1: You know?
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Speaker 2: So I always be like really intimidated by using new ship.
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Speaker 2: But I got the courage to use the cables with
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Speaker 2: the ankle. Maybe that's my new ship. Yeah, do you.
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Speaker 1: Have like the little the little padded, little hooked things
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Speaker 1: for your ankles, like I bought mine off Amazon. But
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Speaker 1: I love like the donkey kicks and shit like that
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Speaker 1: on the cables.
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Speaker 2: That's what I've been doing.
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Speaker 1: Good workout. It's a girl. I don't think I like
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Speaker 1: looking at me fucking up or doing the right thing
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Speaker 1: or the wrong thing.
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Speaker 2: Girl, get it in. No, I'll be in there. I'd
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Speaker 2: be nervous because I already feel like it's eyes on
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Speaker 2: me heavy and now I'm in here like yeah, I
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Speaker 2: know they watching watching me fuck up. So but here's
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Speaker 2: the thing. I'll be in there fucking up. But I
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Speaker 2: also don't want your help. Yeah, please like, yeah, you're
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Speaker 2: doing it wrong. No I'm not. I'm doing it like
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Speaker 2: this video on Instagram, nigga, man your business if.
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Speaker 1: Y'all with some girl workouts and we're all off topic
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Speaker 1: we're supposed to be talking about since But if y'all
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Speaker 1: download muscle Wiki like Wikipedia, but it's muscle w I
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Speaker 1: k I dot com. It actually has like videos and
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Speaker 1: you could press like what part of your body you
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Speaker 1: want to work on, and they have all the different exercises,
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Speaker 1: like even if you want to do like some type
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Speaker 1: of machine or whatever, like you can select them. But
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Speaker 1: it's free and it's good. That is a personal trainer.
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Speaker 1: Muscle Wiki muscle wiki wiki yeah like Wikipedia.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, Okay, because I need to figure out what worked
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Speaker 2: that little piece of meat on my back when I
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Speaker 2: was laying down in that video.
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Speaker 1: I need to find the roles so you can literally
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Speaker 1: like they'll have us a picture of a woman or man.
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Speaker 1: You select the female, and then you tap that spot
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Speaker 1: and it'll give you the workouts to do them for
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Speaker 1: that particular area.
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Speaker 2: Well, I'm gonna go. I'm gonna log as soon as
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Speaker 2: we fucking finished with this ship because I literally look
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Speaker 2: like a linebacker in that video.
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Speaker 1: Were so hard on our damn selves, y'all. Okay, cut
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Speaker 1: it out.
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Speaker 2: My titty to back ratio ain't giving baby girl.
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Speaker 1: Back to the bet Awards, did you like to Roger
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Speaker 1: p Henson hosting.
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Speaker 2: I didn't get to see it. I didn't really get
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Speaker 2: to see her host. I saw her do the day
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Speaker 2: not like us parody, and I thought that was like
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Speaker 2: probably more fun if you're there watching it, you know.
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Speaker 1: I just wanted them to have somebody younger, not like
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Speaker 1: Auntie age our age damn there, like some funny funny,
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Speaker 1: like a comedian, like a real comedian.
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Speaker 2: My Pretty V, like Pretty V pretty.
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Speaker 1: I think Pretty V could have done it, or maybe
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Speaker 1: she's not completely ready for that, because I like hosting
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Speaker 1: is like a real that's a skill like skill set,
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Speaker 1: like with her and Dream.
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Speaker 2: I like when her and Drewski was, like when he
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Speaker 2: was like all behind.
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Speaker 1: Her, like you know, entirely too much.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, I like that was funny. That part was funny, Like.
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Speaker 1: Imagine him and she looked good. Be a bunch of
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Speaker 1: mess the whole time.
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Speaker 2: Right, No, not following nothing on the tailor prompter, lagging
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Speaker 2: behind the whole time. But I think she did good.
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Speaker 2: I saw I saw people was talking about something that
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Speaker 2: she said to Keith Lee.
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Speaker 1: She didn't know who Keith Lee was. She also didn't
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Speaker 1: know she she went up to Haley Bailey and was
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Speaker 1: talking to the guy next to her as if that
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Speaker 1: was her, dude, like it was just some real auntie
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Speaker 1: shit going on. Forgetfulness not knowing who the fuck people
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Speaker 1: are for real, Well.
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Speaker 2: Ain't she her fities?
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Speaker 1: I don't know, That's what I'm saying.
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Speaker 2: She probably ain't on TikTok Keith Lee TikTok famous.
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Speaker 1: Then you have to have people who are well versed
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Speaker 1: in all the internet ship. Okay, you gotta know who
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Speaker 1: the people you're gonna be talking to them and recorded audience.
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Speaker 1: Come on, Taraji, nevertheless, I love Taraji. Okay, next year,
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Speaker 1: get somebody else to do it, Get somebody else.
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Speaker 2: To do it.
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Speaker 1: But anyway, let's put in Rick Ross, big ass. Rick
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Speaker 1: Ross got attacked in Canada yard. They was playing They
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Speaker 1: Not Like Us and they got into fight with some
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Speaker 1: white boys the other side of Drake and and apparently
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Speaker 1: he was playing they Not Like Us like Kendrick Lamar
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Speaker 1: and he was asked basically like turn that shit off,
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Speaker 1: like you know where you at?
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Speaker 2: Is that really what happened?
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Speaker 1: Yes? Rick Ross is like, yeah, I know where I'm at,
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Speaker 1: got swung on. Some of his people got knocked the
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Speaker 1: fuck out some of them got jumped. He didn't really get.
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Speaker 2: He got missing. I like he fell out the frame.
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Speaker 2: I didn't see him.
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Speaker 1: Saw a video videos like security like pushing him, like
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Speaker 1: out the way, out of the back door or something
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Speaker 1: like that, a back end.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, but but he wasn't trying to, Like I pay
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Speaker 2: too much to get hit, y'all get hit. They was like.
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Speaker 1: A security security like this, this, this is bigger than this.
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Speaker 1: Why get beat up in Canada?
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Speaker 2: Dog by drink? His security did their job as far
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Speaker 2: as I could start. He didn't get hit, just get
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Speaker 2: beat up.
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Speaker 1: No, my security supposed to fuck people up. I don't
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Speaker 1: want to see my security losing. Like you you fired
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Speaker 1: as soon as we get back to the house. Really, yes,
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Speaker 1: it was you're a loser.
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Speaker 2: It was like five of them on him. He was
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Speaker 2: like he ate him, like he got up. Five people
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Speaker 2: hitting you and you still get up. It was pretty good.
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Speaker 2: Good to me.
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Speaker 1: They lost, man, they lost. Nobody will remember your wins
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Speaker 1: when you lose. Dog. They lost.
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Speaker 2: And then Rick Ross's baby mama kill. She showed out.
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Speaker 2: She kept showing the video all live and laughing all
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Speaker 2: hard and looking at her teeth. I was like, this
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Speaker 2: girl is a.
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Speaker 1: Man, fucking nuts, man. I think she's one of the
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Speaker 1: funniest people on Instagram. And Rick rossni to try to
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Speaker 1: mend that relationship, boy, because she'd be doing a douggie
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Speaker 1: to his ass every chance she'd get. Now, I don't
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Speaker 1: blame her. She's this, this would happen. He's the bitter
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Speaker 1: baby mamas. Man, they be mad when y'all play in
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Speaker 1: their face because guess what that first baby mama know
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Speaker 1: exactly who the fuck you are. And that's why your
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Speaker 1: niggas be mad at them baby mamas, because they remember
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Speaker 1: you when you ain't had ship and they're a reminder
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Speaker 1: to you of who you really are nigga.
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Speaker 2: Outside of the money period.
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Speaker 1: And that's why I always say niggas deserve access to
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Speaker 1: the same bitches they had access to before they got
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Speaker 1: the check. I'm telling you how old is the baby
14:44
Speaker 1: because in college he's going to Bathune Cookman. I just
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Speaker 1: saw another video. She just did somebody's podcasts and she
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Speaker 1: was talking about him going to Bethune Cookman. So she
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Speaker 1: brought her a sun child. She love her baby, but
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Speaker 1: that daddy.
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Speaker 2: Oh no, my mama, what can I say? That's my mama?
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Speaker 1: Me cutting up on Rick Ross ass Man. So the
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Speaker 1: only other thing about the BET Awards, I'm skipping back.
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Speaker 1: Goddamn Kamala Harris. That part made my ass. It's a
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Speaker 1: little bit like, can we leave politics out of everything
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Speaker 1: right now? Stop pandering to black people during all black shit.
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Speaker 1: I just don't like it because it's almost like they
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Speaker 1: just be urging everybody to do one thing, and I
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Speaker 1: will would like to take this opportunity to encourage people
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Speaker 1: to be informed. Get your primary resources someplace fucking else.
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Speaker 1: So now I'll let people tell you what to think.
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Speaker 1: And I feel like Kamala Harris may have single handedly ruined. Uh.
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Speaker 1: They not like us, these extreme us, as they say,
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Speaker 1: they not like us, They not like stop stop during
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Speaker 1: the black people. I'm sick of it already. Just stop
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Speaker 1: go away, Roger.
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Speaker 2: Where you be at? That's all I want to know, Like.
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Speaker 1: Where do we even at? We at the abortion clinics
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Speaker 1: talking to college students about getting abortions, because that's all
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Speaker 1: the fuck they seem to care about is making sure
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Speaker 1: women have access to abortions. That's what come out.
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Speaker 2: Yet I ain't seen her there, like, I ain't seen
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Speaker 2: no video on her out there or nothing, like.
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Speaker 1: She's been seeking at colleges she spoke at Howard Is
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Speaker 1: just that's that's mainly the headlines that I've seen about
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Speaker 1: Kamala Harris have been about abortion rights, like that's you know,
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Speaker 1: that's always one of the big things them wanted to
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Speaker 1: control women's reproduction. But I just have I feel a
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Speaker 1: way like, as two women with no children, I would
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Speaker 1: never tell a younger girl to have an abortion. I
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Speaker 1: would never encourage that, and you see it through the
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Speaker 1: music everything, Like I feel like women who don't have
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Speaker 1: kids should really shut the fuck up. Also about what
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Speaker 1: somebody should do as far as their reproduction.
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Speaker 2: I just feel like you should have the right to
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Speaker 2: choose for your own body.
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Speaker 1: You know.
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Speaker 2: I don't have a judge of jewelry for anyone or
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Speaker 2: Heaven or hell. So that's your body and you make
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Speaker 2: that decision. I would never encourage it, but I also
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Speaker 2: wouldn't tell you not to, you know, but you just
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Speaker 2: have to live with the choices that you made. Yeah,
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Speaker 2: you have to live with the decision you make.
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Speaker 1: So because most of the people who be performing at
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Speaker 1: these I don't know, women's rights conferences, a lot of
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Speaker 1: them don't have children themselves. And as a woman who
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Speaker 1: wants children. Right, I'm never going to be back in
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Speaker 1: those shit like that because the decisions you make today
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Speaker 1: are going to shape your future. I've had an abortion.
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Speaker 1: I feel like I could talk about it, and I
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Speaker 1: wish I had my kid. So it seems like that's
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Speaker 1: that's all Kamala has been doing, is pushing and pushing abortion.
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Speaker 1: That was her whole thing for office as far as
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Speaker 1: I'm concerned.
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Speaker 2: Anyway, Well, I know you ain't the it might wig go,
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Speaker 2: but they walk advocate talking like that.
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Speaker 1: Because I don't believe it's struggling. Okay, I don't believe
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Speaker 1: in fucking struggling now I'm telling you, like bringing these
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Speaker 1: fucking kids. I'm just saying women should have more. You
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Speaker 1: gotta be accountable, right, and you also have to be more,
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Speaker 1: Like where is the self control? You know what I'm
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Speaker 1: saying like that, Like I always say it shouldn't be
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Speaker 1: used as birth control birth control? I agree, So that's
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Speaker 1: what I think. You know, people wrapping about plan b's
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Speaker 1: and shit like that, like that's just like popping a
18:28
Speaker 1: sick sack. You're fucking wilin.
18:30
Speaker 2: Right, No, it's not good for yeah.
18:34
Speaker 1: So y'all apparently dating app burnout is on the rise.
18:39
Speaker 1: It says more and more Americans are getting exhausted by
18:42
Speaker 1: swiping left and right. It's called dating app burnout, and
18:47
Speaker 1: more than eighty percent of people using dating apps are
18:50
Speaker 1: experiencing experiencing it, psychologists say. One expert said, using apps
18:57
Speaker 1: like Tender or Okay Cupid triggers a lot of hopelessness
19:02
Speaker 1: and a lot of self esteem issues. Roughly three out
19:06
Speaker 1: of every ten Americans say they've used a dating app
19:09
Speaker 1: at some point. Have you used a dating app tam,
19:13
Speaker 1: what's the worst part of the experience.
19:17
Speaker 2: Yeah, I done been on the motherfucking things. I don't
19:22
Speaker 2: do it no more because one people be like lying,
19:27
Speaker 2: they be having old last pictures up. You go meet,
19:29
Speaker 2: you think you meet in one nigga and you meet
19:31
Speaker 2: in the same nigga but fifteen years older. For the future?
19:37
Speaker 2: Right for the future? Right? Or like I remember I
19:42
Speaker 2: went on one day and we met at PF. Chang's.
19:45
Speaker 2: This was a minute ago. And baby, he looked he
19:49
Speaker 2: looked like average height in the pig but when he
19:52
Speaker 2: was a small pert he's like A I don't want
19:57
Speaker 2: to say like the M word, what's the proper word?
20:00
Speaker 2: A little well, he was he was vertically challenged. He
20:04
Speaker 2: probably was like four eight four nine. Girl, Shut the
20:07
Speaker 2: fuck up, baby. He jumped down from that stool. I
20:10
Speaker 2: was like, oh shit, boy, you trip me, ain't it?
20:15
Speaker 1: No?
20:15
Speaker 2: You know telling the truth, man, I'm not lying. He
20:18
Speaker 2: was a little person. But I still hung out with him,
20:22
Speaker 2: like we had dinner. His legs were swinging and shit,
20:25
Speaker 2: we was laughing. We had fun. But I just knew
20:28
Speaker 2: I wasn't gonna see him no more because he's too
20:30
Speaker 2: little to ride his ride.
20:32
Speaker 1: He might have had a bunch of dick for you, man.
20:34
Speaker 2: That's why I like little.
20:35
Speaker 1: No, I don't know about four eight now that like
20:38
Speaker 1: I would feel like I'm fucking on somebody's little son.
20:41
Speaker 2: Yeah, like a kid.
20:43
Speaker 1: I'm cool on that.
20:44
Speaker 2: But could you imagine four eight behind me?
20:47
Speaker 1: Behind me?
20:48
Speaker 2: Nah? Bruh.
20:48
Speaker 1: Everybody the same height when you're laying down. Damn there. Okay, No,
20:55
Speaker 1: I don't like it.
20:55
Speaker 2: Not too tall.
20:56
Speaker 1: Like I don't like your chest all in my face.
20:59
Speaker 1: I don't like that, like to be face to face
21:01
Speaker 1: kind of laying down.
21:02
Speaker 2: How you trying to hit me and you got your
21:04
Speaker 2: legs wrapped around my waist.
21:07
Speaker 1: You'll really be rid of your ass. Okay, hell that
21:11
Speaker 1: is too short, he played. He had played entirely too much.
21:14
Speaker 2: Like he played entirely like you gotta tell that you
21:17
Speaker 2: can't just you know, just sneak that in there.
21:24
Speaker 1: I've never been like on a dating app, dating app consistently,
21:28
Speaker 1: like I've been on a dating app, Meet a nigga
21:29
Speaker 1: and get the fuck up off of there, because it's
21:31
Speaker 1: like a feeding frenzy, and it's almost like it'd be
21:34
Speaker 1: the same bitches, the same dudes. And I just think
21:37
Speaker 1: everybody on the app has smashed each other, so.
21:41
Speaker 2: Are they just trying to hook up?
21:43
Speaker 1: So the day you get on there, it's like, oh
21:45
Speaker 1: fresh meat, your inbox is piled up with all these
21:48
Speaker 1: niggas who don fucked all the other bitches off the app,
21:51
Speaker 1: and they all saying the same shit.
21:53
Speaker 2: You just feel like I'm talking to a robot now
21:56
Speaker 2: with different faces. Yeah, so I don't like it. I
22:00
Speaker 2: just like to peak, but I do, like, I mean,
22:02
Speaker 2: its Instagram dating any different because I will.
22:07
Speaker 1: I think you can see people's personality a little bit
22:09
Speaker 1: better on Instagram, you know what I'm saying, Cause you
22:11
Speaker 1: got it limited on like the bios and stuff like that,
22:14
Speaker 1: Like you can go down years and years of somebody Instagram. Shit,
22:18
Speaker 1: see where relationships that I've been in, what type of
22:20
Speaker 1: money they be making. You can find out a lot
22:22
Speaker 1: about somebody based on like the pictures and stuff they post,
22:25
Speaker 1: the content they post. So I think Instagram dating is
22:28
Speaker 1: a little bit better and it's fucking free.
22:30
Speaker 2: Okay, right, That's where I.
22:40
Speaker 1: I don't know, man, I wish. I wish people the
22:43
Speaker 1: best on those dating websites, like I I.
22:46
Speaker 2: I just was watching.
22:48
Speaker 1: It was like a it's the two B series and
22:50
Speaker 1: I forgot the name of it, but one of the
22:52
Speaker 1: episodes it was Young Jock and he was on a
22:58
Speaker 1: you saw that.
23:00
Speaker 2: I got a story to tell.
23:02
Speaker 1: No, it was called gas Station Pills or something. Yeah,
23:04
Speaker 1: but the episode was yeah, you're right.
23:07
Speaker 2: It's a show call I got a story to tell
23:09
Speaker 2: and got different episodes, different names.
23:10
Speaker 1: Yeah, and Young King is called so the Young Jocque.
23:15
Speaker 1: He was taking like a gas station pill and turn
23:17
Speaker 1: into another nigga, like a fine nigga and dog. When
23:20
Speaker 1: the ship first happened, I said, ain't no way they
23:22
Speaker 1: about to try to make Young Jock fine. It better
23:24
Speaker 1: be a whole nother person. And that's what happened.
23:28
Speaker 2: Ain't no way, bro. They did things to make him
23:32
Speaker 2: less attractive, like put bumps on his face.
23:34
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, like the two little witch moles on his face.
23:39
Speaker 2: Yeah.
23:40
Speaker 1: But I feel like like that's how Dayton apps be. Like,
23:43
Speaker 1: I mean, I don't know. I think people be hiding
23:47
Speaker 1: on all these things and then you actually got to
23:50
Speaker 1: see the person in person.
23:52
Speaker 2: Then people be dying behind that shit. You mean somebody crazy?
23:56
Speaker 2: You've seen people like get like really hurts especially women.
24:00
Speaker 2: Not so much. Men are being hurt, but women are
24:02
Speaker 2: getting hurt behind you know, meeting random people. So I'm
24:06
Speaker 2: over it too.
24:07
Speaker 1: Yeah, y'all be careful out there. Just I don't know,
24:10
Speaker 1: Just go outside more, get out the house. Take a
24:15
Speaker 1: week off from work and go hang out at bars
24:20
Speaker 1: or something. Go meet people organically and see what happens.
24:25
Speaker 2: Girl, the price of these organic eggs is too high
24:28
Speaker 2: to take a week off work, bitch, I don't know
24:29
Speaker 2: what you talk about. Go after work, y'all. Don't take
24:32
Speaker 2: the dot fuck around and take no whole week off
24:36
Speaker 2: to meet no niggas. Just go after There's a lot
24:38
Speaker 2: of afterwork socials.
24:42
Speaker 1: So Jada Chavez claps back after receiving criticism for her
24:46
Speaker 1: comments on dating. So a couple of weeks ago, she
24:49
Speaker 1: was on a podcast, and you know, I just people
24:52
Speaker 1: ask these questions so they can get viral moments, right,
24:55
Speaker 1: So she provided a viral moment for this particular show
24:58
Speaker 1: in for herself. I guess so recently dyshavez responding to
25:01
Speaker 1: the backlass after the backlash she received over her comments
25:05
Speaker 1: about dating men who earn less than her. So originally,
25:08
Speaker 1: Jada said that she wouldn't date someone who makes less
25:11
Speaker 1: money than her because she feels that they would try
25:13
Speaker 1: to make her feel like a lesser woman. After many
25:17
Speaker 1: fans commented on what she said, she clapped back and
25:20
Speaker 1: at it. Baby, know the fuck I didn't, she continued.
25:24
Speaker 1: I said exactly what I felt, and the real rich
25:28
Speaker 1: boss bitches will feel me. And if you don't feel me,
25:32
Speaker 1: message isn't for you. I think what she said is
25:38
Speaker 1: pretty valid because we know there are a lot of
25:40
Speaker 1: men out here with very fragile eagles, and they think
25:44
Speaker 1: they want a boss bitch to they actually get one
25:46
Speaker 1: one who doesn't have time to run behind you. I
25:51
Speaker 1: was having a conversation with one of my homegirls yesterday
25:53
Speaker 1: because she said her dude asked her to do something
25:56
Speaker 1: and she had to tell him like, Nigga, I'm dealing
25:59
Speaker 1: with this that I got two adult kids, Like, I
26:01
Speaker 1: got a whole bunch of shit that I'm dealing with
26:03
Speaker 1: as a woman. Like the shit that you're talking about
26:06
Speaker 1: is very trivial, So you need to get you a bit.
26:09
Speaker 1: You don't god much going on that can deal with
26:12
Speaker 1: figuring out what you should eat eight hundred miles.
26:15
Speaker 2: Away from me. Well, really, that's what it was.
26:18
Speaker 1: It was some dumb shit like that, yes, ye. And
26:23
Speaker 1: so when you're a man and you're used to women
26:25
Speaker 1: like doing things for you, because men oftentimes want women
26:27
Speaker 1: to be secretaries, porn stars, babysitters, and when you got
26:33
Speaker 1: somebody who got a lot shit, a lot of shit
26:35
Speaker 1: going on just like you, some of them say that's
26:37
Speaker 1: what they want, but they when they get it, they
26:39
Speaker 1: don't they don't really like it.
26:40
Speaker 2: In particularly I listen, I don't have nothing. I don't
26:45
Speaker 2: see nothing against dating somebody who make less than you.
26:49
Speaker 2: But I I even me, but I just don't have
26:54
Speaker 2: enough money for that yet. Like if I had a
26:56
Speaker 2: whole bunch of money, then like I'm tricking off on all.
27:00
Speaker 2: Oh y'all, right, all my niggas, you get a PlayStation,
27:03
Speaker 2: you get a PlayStation, you get a PlayStation. But I
27:05
Speaker 2: just ain't in a space where I could be with
27:07
Speaker 2: someone who's making listen to me because I don't make
27:09
Speaker 2: enough for that. You know, I need someone who make
27:13
Speaker 2: it as much as me.
27:14
Speaker 1: Or more, right, And I don't think that's a It's
27:19
Speaker 1: not like a big thing to ask. It's not a
27:21
Speaker 1: big ask, right, especially in this economy, Like, it's not
27:25
Speaker 1: a big ask. Everybody should be pulling any weight. However,
27:30
Speaker 1: now we're talking about women, their dating pool is a
27:32
Speaker 1: little bit different because of their tax bracken, So why
27:36
Speaker 1: would you think this? This? This even goes back to
27:38
Speaker 1: remember they was on what's a girl Who's pregnant? Now
27:44
Speaker 1: saying she wouldn't date a bus driver? I mean it
27:48
Speaker 1: goes back to that that conversation, like why would I.
27:51
Speaker 1: I'm an attorney, Why would I be dating a bus driver?
27:56
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. It's just the men are
27:58
Speaker 1: more shallow. And I don't know who wasn't if it
28:00
Speaker 1: was just women attacking attacking Jada Chavez or we know
28:04
Speaker 1: the bitter niggas is out there too, But why would
28:08
Speaker 1: you want to put yourself in that position to, you know,
28:12
Speaker 1: to feel some type of way about how much a
28:15
Speaker 1: woman is making I agree, Like, it's not the woman
28:20
Speaker 1: masculating you, Like you know you ain't doing your best?
28:23
Speaker 1: So why do you want me to settle for it?
28:25
Speaker 1: But it's not. You wouldn't want that for your daughter.
28:30
Speaker 2: Exactly.
28:30
Speaker 1: I love to throw niggas kids in there real quick.
28:33
Speaker 1: You want that for your baby? Like, do you really
28:38
Speaker 1: want to have to send your daughter money when she's
28:39
Speaker 1: sucking dick? She got somebody she fucking on and you
28:42
Speaker 1: still got to take care of her. You want that?
28:46
Speaker 2: Absolutely? Not.
28:47
Speaker 1: Yeah, they don't want that, so, but they don't want
28:50
Speaker 1: somebody else's daughter.
28:52
Speaker 2: I'm somebody's daking, right, we all are, period.
28:59
Speaker 1: Yeah, Like think of it like that. I'm somebody's kid.
29:02
Speaker 1: Take care of me. God damn it, figure it, figure
29:04
Speaker 1: it the fuck out. And men, men are problem solvers.
29:07
Speaker 1: Figure it out all right.
29:11
Speaker 2: Lastly, Lebron and Bronni about to be teammates. Did you
29:16
Speaker 2: see that meme where it was like breaking news Lebron
29:19
Speaker 2: is having sex with one of his teammates mom, And
29:23
Speaker 2: I was.
29:24
Speaker 1: Like, I'm reading it, Like then I started groogling like, damn,
29:26
Speaker 1: Lebron got caught cheating. I didn't understand what was going
29:29
Speaker 1: on and what was going on initially. I'm happy for them, Okay.
29:34
Speaker 2: Me too. I'm excited to see them play together. I
29:37
Speaker 2: know they gonna be on that boy ass hard when
29:41
Speaker 2: he played like, they're gonna be on him heavy. So
29:45
Speaker 2: he gotta be ready for a fight, because that's what
29:47
Speaker 2: it's gonna be. But it's gonna be fun to watch
29:50
Speaker 2: to see them all then play together fathering. So, and
29:52
Speaker 2: that's never happened in the history of the NBA.
29:55
Speaker 1: I read. So it's brought up the conversation surrounding nepotism.
30:01
Speaker 1: We've been accused of nepotism here. We talked back, and
30:07
Speaker 1: I don't know what the problem is, like, so what, Okay,
30:12
Speaker 1: let's talk about it after this break.
30:14
Speaker 2: We'll be right back, all right.
30:20
Speaker 1: So it says Lebron and Bronnie James have become the
30:23
Speaker 1: first father and son to play for an NBA team
30:26
Speaker 1: at the same time. After the Lakers on Thursday draft
30:29
Speaker 1: at the younger James Brownie was the team's number fifty
30:33
Speaker 1: five overall pick deep in the second round, with only
30:36
Speaker 1: three picks remaining in this year's draft. In the history
30:40
Speaker 1: of the NBA, there's never been a father and son
30:42
Speaker 1: that have shared an NBA basketball court, and that feels
30:46
Speaker 1: like something that could be magical since Lakers general manager
30:51
Speaker 1: Rob Polenka. Polenka, so people are not to talk about
30:55
Speaker 1: nepotism I've seen and this could be the out because
31:00
Speaker 1: this was actually one of my questions to basketball heirs,
31:02
Speaker 1: like is Lebron's son really that good? And one of
31:05
Speaker 1: one of one of my guy friends is like, maybe
31:07
Speaker 1: in a couple of years he will be, you know,
31:09
Speaker 1: not necessarily right now to be drafted into the NFA,
31:13
Speaker 1: just NFL just like his dad. He's not drafted into
31:17
Speaker 1: the NBA just like his dad, like out of high school.
31:19
Speaker 1: Basically he did some college right mm hm. So I've
31:25
Speaker 1: heard mixed reviews. So is Lebron's son Is Bronnie James
31:30
Speaker 1: actually ready for the nf I keep saying NFL for
31:33
Speaker 1: the NBA. Is he ready for the NBA or was
31:37
Speaker 1: he just pushed in there because of who his dad is.
31:41
Speaker 2: I think it's a combination of both, you know. I mean,
31:45
Speaker 2: I think their baby son probably gonna be better than
31:47
Speaker 2: him when he get out there. But I mean, who
31:51
Speaker 2: gives a fuck is Lebron James Son? We want to
31:53
Speaker 2: see this ship, Like, are you guys dumb y'all making
31:56
Speaker 2: an argument about some bullshit what y'all son doing work
32:00
Speaker 2: at the jiffy lu? Shut up, you stay out of
32:02
Speaker 2: the conversation. Let the boys play. Let the boys play.
32:06
Speaker 1: I feel like a lot of it is coming from
32:08
Speaker 1: a place of fucking hateration because you're not in a
32:11
Speaker 1: position to put your son in position. I don't think
32:15
Speaker 1: anything is wrong with nepotism, and I wish that more
32:17
Speaker 1: Black people was in position for people to benefit from nepotism,
32:23
Speaker 1: because why are not Relationships are worth more than gold.
32:27
Speaker 2: And if you go ahead, go ahead, and if you
32:30
Speaker 2: look at any of these corporations and you look at
32:33
Speaker 2: all these titles, these high up titles, they all had
32:36
Speaker 2: the same fucking last name. And I bet you half
32:39
Speaker 2: of them kids don't know what the fuck they're doing
32:41
Speaker 2: or if they even do anything. It's just a title
32:43
Speaker 2: to get them a check. They may not even work
32:45
Speaker 2: at the fucking place, you know, so, miss and I think.
32:50
Speaker 1: That's just where it comes. It's just one of those
32:51
Speaker 1: things is like black people are mad because we aren't
32:56
Speaker 1: in position, and it's almost like within the black families,
33:00
Speaker 1: like everybody wants the next generation to have to have
33:03
Speaker 1: struggle like they did. Like my goal is to get
33:06
Speaker 1: it so that the people coming behind me don't have
33:09
Speaker 1: to or they can get like a little head start.
33:12
Speaker 2: Right.
33:12
Speaker 1: Why why do we always feel like we got to
33:15
Speaker 1: get it out the mud.
33:17
Speaker 2: That party you're trying to get this people.
33:20
Speaker 1: Whose bottom is different from yours. Everybody has a bottom,
33:23
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. Like you may come from
33:26
Speaker 1: a good family, but you don't want to live off
33:28
Speaker 1: and you want to make your own way, right, So yeah,
33:31
Speaker 1: I have this family, but that's not I can't depend
33:34
Speaker 1: on that. So but you outside looking in think it's
33:38
Speaker 1: one thing, right that part, you know, because you felt like, oh,
33:43
Speaker 1: I like like I was telling you how the motherfuckers
33:46
Speaker 1: on the bus on the school bus talk about how
33:48
Speaker 1: we don't have trash now neighborhood and shit like that.
33:51
Speaker 1: Growing up, Like why do black people we we celebrate
33:54
Speaker 1: the stupidest things, celebrate Lebron Lebron's son get it's just
34:00
Speaker 1: nice people. Though.
34:01
Speaker 2: I don't think it's just us. Though they have a
34:03
Speaker 2: problem with this.
34:04
Speaker 1: I think everybody else practice nepotism. Why not? Why don't
34:08
Speaker 1: Why would you not put your people on?
34:10
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean everybody does practice nepotism, But I think
34:13
Speaker 2: it was also just basketball fans, especially fans of other teams,
34:18
Speaker 2: that had a problem with it because they felt like
34:20
Speaker 2: the baby wasn't qualified, so they hollering nepotism. I don't
34:26
Speaker 2: think it's just black people. All kind of people in
34:29
Speaker 2: the conversation.
34:31
Speaker 1: Look at us.
34:32
Speaker 2: I don't even watch motherfucker basketball. What color? I can't
34:38
Speaker 2: tell you what who they played for the Lakers because
34:42
Speaker 2: I thought they was in Cleveland.
34:44
Speaker 1: I could have sworn that Lebron went back to Cleveland, Like,
34:48
Speaker 1: what the fuck are you doing in La? Back in La?
34:51
Speaker 1: I don't remember that, right.
34:52
Speaker 2: I just feel like they should. It would be better
34:54
Speaker 2: if they both were playing for Cleveland. That would be
34:58
Speaker 2: more lit.
35:00
Speaker 1: Hmmm. I think Lebron is done when home. So do
35:04
Speaker 1: you remember? This was a couple of years ago, so
35:06
Speaker 1: it just album And this is when, like, I think
35:08
Speaker 1: the bigger discussion about nepotism first started. His daughter wanted
35:13
Speaker 1: she wanted to play his daughter in a film he
35:18
Speaker 1: was doing, and she actually had to audition for the role,
35:23
Speaker 1: and she didn't get the role. They gave the role
35:25
Speaker 1: to another bat black younger actress, and then she didn't
35:30
Speaker 1: speak to her dad for three weeks because she felt
35:33
Speaker 1: like he could have just he could have helped her
35:37
Speaker 1: more to lock in the role. But he got you
35:40
Speaker 1: to the audition, right, So now at that point you
35:45
Speaker 1: got to show him prove at the audition they didn't
35:48
Speaker 1: think she was a fit, and maybe he had something
35:50
Speaker 1: to do with it too, maybe he thought she wasn't
35:52
Speaker 1: ready and she didn't get the role. So online at
35:57
Speaker 1: that time a lot of people were saying, why did
36:00
Speaker 1: she have to I mean, why does she even have
36:02
Speaker 1: to audition? Like she should have just been given the role.
36:08
Speaker 1: You know, nepotism, I feel like getting in the room,
36:12
Speaker 1: the nepotism that it was executed. He helped her get
36:16
Speaker 1: into the room. At that point, you got to do
36:19
Speaker 1: the work right.
36:21
Speaker 2: Like Bronnie, if he get out there and he'd be
36:25
Speaker 2: throwing air balls and got bad sportsmanship, conduct and all
36:29
Speaker 2: those things, they gonna let his hands go eventually, no
36:32
Speaker 2: matter who his daddy is, exactly, So you got to
36:35
Speaker 2: be able to show improve something. Now you can't just
36:38
Speaker 2: expect everything to be handed to you. Because of your relationships.
36:42
Speaker 1: So Sweetie also had something to say recently after Brownie
36:48
Speaker 1: was drafted because a lot of people try to come
36:52
Speaker 1: for her and Doja Cat saying that they are in
36:55
Speaker 1: the industry because of nepotism because of who their parents
36:57
Speaker 1: are and haven't had like connections. I think I know
37:04
Speaker 1: that Doja Cat. I think either her dad or her
37:08
Speaker 1: mom are in the music industry and they those two
37:12
Speaker 1: grew up together. I think that Sweety Mom was like
37:15
Speaker 1: a video vixen and some short sort at some point
37:18
Speaker 1: beautiful lady. So you know, Sweetie was saying like she
37:22
Speaker 1: wish people would get rid of that uh neple baby
37:25
Speaker 1: narrative because nobody helped her do anything, you know what
37:28
Speaker 1: I'm saying. She was saying, how you know, she put
37:30
Speaker 1: herself in bad situations sometimes just trying to chase her dreams,
37:36
Speaker 1: working four or five jobs and going to college. So
37:38
Speaker 1: she's saying she's she's done the work, but people try
37:41
Speaker 1: to like suck her success up to just being you know,
37:44
Speaker 1: having access.
37:47
Speaker 2: Well, I think access plays a part, you know, And
37:51
Speaker 2: I don't think is girl own that shit? If it is,
37:56
Speaker 2: if there's any truth to it, like and what now
37:59
Speaker 2: what now, what you're gonna do? I'm still where I'm
38:02
Speaker 2: at and you still where you're at.
38:03
Speaker 1: So now, because it was sad to us pertaining to
38:07
Speaker 1: this podcast, right, so we went on someone else's podcast
38:11
Speaker 1: and it was like, oh, y'all still here. It's basically
38:14
Speaker 1: what the conversation was. We thought it was some nepotism,
38:17
Speaker 1: and I was like, and was, we're the face of nepotism.
38:20
Speaker 2: Why not?
38:21
Speaker 1: Why should I not use connections and repor and relationships
38:26
Speaker 1: to get to where I need to go? I'm sorry,
38:29
Speaker 1: or you didn't have the shortcut.
38:32
Speaker 2: Right, But we also happened to be pretty funny and
38:34
Speaker 2: witty bitch.
38:35
Speaker 1: So we still got to do the things we have
38:38
Speaker 1: committed the last four years to this thing, and we're
38:42
Speaker 1: still fucking doing it and nobody helps. Okay, So you
38:45
Speaker 1: get you can get your foot in the door, but
38:47
Speaker 1: you have to also produce.
38:49
Speaker 2: Right in that part. So we say that, thank y'all
38:53
Speaker 2: for listening, Thank y'all for tuning men and this shit,
38:56
Speaker 2: and tell y'all friends about us for they let our
38:59
Speaker 2: motherfucking ass go.
39:01
Speaker 1: Because it could happen. You know, it could happen. You
39:04
Speaker 1: ain't never safe, Okay, so I still don't understand what
39:09
Speaker 1: the big issue is in the black community. Why do
39:11
Speaker 1: we think that everybody's supposed to struggle because we did not.
39:15
Speaker 1: I experienced that in my own family, bitch, I swear
39:18
Speaker 1: to God.
39:19
Speaker 2: How so.
39:21
Speaker 1: I don't want to talk about it, but I do
39:23
Speaker 1: experience it. I think there are black people and then
39:26
Speaker 1: there are niggers, and oh not a hard r. Yes,
39:31
Speaker 1: there's black people and then there's niggas. Okay, let me
39:34
Speaker 1: take the hard er out there. And when I say
39:37
Speaker 1: black people and niggas, like some niggas, they just don't
39:40
Speaker 1: know what they don't know, right, So, and it could
39:44
Speaker 1: be your parents, it could be people real, real close
39:47
Speaker 1: to you. They just don't know what they don't know,
39:49
Speaker 1: so they can't they can't fathom or understand it. Never
39:54
Speaker 1: they would never understand it. And you end up you
39:58
Speaker 1: gotta make. You gotta do. You gotta do the things.
40:00
Speaker 1: You have to do the things. It has nothing to
40:02
Speaker 1: do with with with anybody else you upbringing. You gotta
40:06
Speaker 1: do the work. But niggas is niggas. Niggas is niggas. Man, Okay.
40:14
Speaker 1: So this is an article from the Nationalpost dot com,
40:18
Speaker 1: and it says Nepotism is a term that doesn't receive
40:21
Speaker 1: the kind of attention it fully deserves when trying to
40:24
Speaker 1: explain the impact of systematic racism in the workplace within corporations,
40:29
Speaker 1: like you said, like big companies like Bank of America,
40:31
Speaker 1: you can find a lot of people who are related
40:34
Speaker 1: within that one corporation because the head you want to
40:38
Speaker 1: put all your people on, like why wouldn't you, right,
40:41
Speaker 1: So there's nepotism, and then the other one is like cronyism.
40:44
Speaker 1: Cronyism is like, you know, you have clicks in the
40:47
Speaker 1: office and people getting promoted not because of their skill,
40:52
Speaker 1: but just because they've been there long enough or they're
40:54
Speaker 1: in the group, they get promoted. Yep. I've definitely experienced
41:01
Speaker 1: that in corporate settings. I've definitely worked around husbands and
41:05
Speaker 1: wives in major corporations. This should definitely happen. So nepotism
41:10
Speaker 1: is favor favorism, both seen and unseen, that can impact anyone.
41:14
Speaker 1: Although race can be a factor, it's not always exclusively
41:18
Speaker 1: the case. Nepotism institutionalizes barriers to employment and promotion, evidenced
41:25
Speaker 1: by the absence of black business professionals and executives on
41:30
Speaker 1: Bay Street nepotism is not a friend of equity. Rather,
41:35
Speaker 1: it's the seed that grows, the weed that struggles, that
41:37
Speaker 1: strangles nations of fairness, impartiality, and fair play in the
41:42
Speaker 1: work workforce. For B I, p O C. That's black Indigenous,
41:48
Speaker 1: whatever else Americans pr Yeah, B B BP, B I,
41:57
Speaker 1: p O C, H, Black Indigenous and people of color.
42:03
Speaker 1: That's what that means. Nepotism needs to be checked at
42:08
Speaker 1: the boardroom doors so it doesn't disadvantage B I, POC
42:12
Speaker 1: and other groups, including women who may also be disproportionately
42:16
Speaker 1: impacted by this destructive force.
42:20
Speaker 2: So this is basically saying that nepotism isn't fair, and
42:23
Speaker 2: it ain't fair.
42:25
Speaker 1: But it's fair. But we as black people think it's
42:28
Speaker 1: not fair way more because we're not in a position
42:32
Speaker 1: to practice it. I think, I think if we had
42:35
Speaker 1: more corporations, we and I think sometimes black people are
42:39
Speaker 1: in position right, and some black people get in position
42:42
Speaker 1: they only think about themselves. They're not trying to have
42:46
Speaker 1: anybody else be on their level. They think they're there,
42:49
Speaker 1: they're the only one. They want to be the only
42:51
Speaker 1: one in the room.
42:52
Speaker 2: But there are a lot of black people who elevate
42:55
Speaker 2: their people. You know, I don't want to promote the narrative,
42:58
Speaker 2: narrative that black people aren't taking care of each other,
43:01
Speaker 2: because there are a lot of black people who are
43:04
Speaker 2: positioning they elevating everybody along with them.
43:08
Speaker 1: Maybe they're elevating people that they know, but me personally,
43:11
Speaker 1: in a corporate setting, I have had a black woman
43:15
Speaker 1: in particular, attempt to hold me back from a promotion
43:20
Speaker 1: that would have put me on the same level as her.
43:24
Speaker 1: I was working under her, and this is when I
43:26
Speaker 1: moved to Saint Louis. I moved to Saint Louis for
43:29
Speaker 1: another position within this company, and this lady really was
43:33
Speaker 1: just trying to stop my growth. And she was gone.
43:35
Speaker 1: She actually got laid off from the company maybe a
43:37
Speaker 1: year or so later, you know, and I me and
43:39
Speaker 1: her like really had it out, like really had it
43:43
Speaker 1: out though, because she did not want to approve my promotion.
43:49
Speaker 1: I applied for another job. I interviewed it within the
43:52
Speaker 1: same company, but you have to have, you know, the
43:54
Speaker 1: approval from your current manager. And she did not want
43:59
Speaker 1: to let me go.
44:00
Speaker 2: Well did she give a reasoning and no reason, no.
44:04
Speaker 1: Reason it wasn't performed top performing, just because she could
44:08
Speaker 1: do you see. So if I were somebody that she
44:11
Speaker 1: probably liked, you know, she probably would not have, you know,
44:16
Speaker 1: stood in a Yes, we had like real life words
44:20
Speaker 1: just me and her in office because I'm like, why, why,
44:23
Speaker 1: what's the problem. Why would you be trying to stop
44:25
Speaker 1: me from from elevating? I would never because I feel
44:28
Speaker 1: like as a good manager, that's what you do, right,
44:31
Speaker 1: you make sure you people are heard for the next
44:33
Speaker 1: for the next step. But I think in the black
44:36
Speaker 1: community sometimes when you see somebody start doing a little
44:38
Speaker 1: bit better, it makes you refocus on what you are
44:41
Speaker 1: or aren't doing, and some people don't like that mirror.
44:46
Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know if even I think that's just people,
44:51
Speaker 2: not just the Black community. It's just people. Child people
44:55
Speaker 2: want to.
44:55
Speaker 1: See you people I'd be dealing with more mostly. Yeah,
45:01
Speaker 1: these niggas.
45:04
Speaker 2: White people experience that ship, the same ship too, I imagine,
45:08
Speaker 2: you know, people because people want you to grow, but
45:11
Speaker 2: just not past them. Yeah, unfortunate niggas.
45:14
Speaker 1: Room for all of us, right. I don't think there's
45:17
Speaker 1: an industry that's oversaturated to where we can't get a
45:21
Speaker 1: piece of it.
45:22
Speaker 2: I agree. I always think of the analogy of going
45:25
Speaker 2: on the bread out. It's three hundred two different breads,
45:30
Speaker 2: all the same. We we we we we whit white
45:33
Speaker 2: white white, and it's just in everybody in all of
45:37
Speaker 2: them sell.
45:38
Speaker 1: You know, because all I'm a little different. So it's
45:43
Speaker 1: the best to some.
45:46
Speaker 2: But I like that old school ship the butter bread.
45:52
Speaker 2: That's liquor, bitch, that's how I know you out there
45:55
Speaker 2: drinking heavy, y'all. She said she ain't drinking, But this
45:58
Speaker 2: bitch is Captain Bridge. That is Captain Captain Morgan bread. No,
46:04
Speaker 2: Ain't no fucking Captain Morgan Bread. That's liquor. That's what's
46:07
Speaker 2: in there. Drink you over there, slipper down.
46:10
Speaker 1: Let me see Captain John. Is it Captain John? I
46:15
Speaker 1: don't know him either. It's Captain John dearest. So to
46:24
Speaker 1: properly wrap up the conversation regarding nepotism, get a position,
46:29
Speaker 1: stop fucking hating, so we could put our people on it.
46:32
Speaker 1: Ain't nothing wrong with a lord nepping a load nepotism
46:35
Speaker 1: here and there.
46:37
Speaker 2: Nipple baby, I'm trying to give it to you. Yeah,
46:42
Speaker 2: instead of throwable baby, I'm trying to have a bunch
46:46
Speaker 2: of them. Amen. All right, y'all, I have a dumbich
46:50
Speaker 2: story for y'all, and this one is good. I can't
46:52
Speaker 2: wait to hear what AJ thinks and what you guys think.
46:54
Speaker 2: We'll be right back.
46:57
Speaker 1: Dumb bitch story, so because we've all been a dumb
47:01
Speaker 1: bitch at least once or twice.
47:04
Speaker 2: All right, y'all listen to this. Hey, we talk back.
47:08
Speaker 2: I love you and AJ, and I love the show,
47:10
Speaker 2: and I wanted to sin in my DBS. I've been
47:14
Speaker 2: married sixteen years, and for the first five or six
47:16
Speaker 2: years I cheated on my husband badly. He caught me
47:20
Speaker 2: most times, and he would always forgive me, but I
47:23
Speaker 2: knew it hurt him. I eventually recommitted to my marriage,
47:27
Speaker 2: and I'm proud to say that I've been a good
47:29
Speaker 2: and faithful wife for nearly ten years now. But here's
47:33
Speaker 2: the issue. He has now decided that he wants to
47:36
Speaker 2: cheat back, and when I caught him, he told me
47:39
Speaker 2: to divorce him or deal with it. I love my
47:42
Speaker 2: I know right. I love my husband very much, but
47:45
Speaker 2: I'm not sure that I can take this betrayal at
47:47
Speaker 2: this age. I also don't want to be alone. What
47:50
Speaker 2: should I do.
47:53
Speaker 1: Whatever's good for the goose is good for the gander,
47:56
Speaker 1: isn't that girl like he didn't you tat him a.
48:00
Speaker 2: Lot of years, like he tried to.
48:03
Speaker 1: I mean, I think keep been cheating all along. She's
48:06
Speaker 1: just finding out.
48:10
Speaker 2: Sixteen years and then the first five or six you
48:13
Speaker 2: cheated and then you was good for ten years, and
48:16
Speaker 2: now he just getting his get back. Is crazy because
48:19
Speaker 2: now you're probably older now, like the thing ain't singing
48:24
Speaker 2: like it used to.
48:26
Speaker 1: Yeah, I feel like, why don't I might as well
48:28
Speaker 1: just keep keep the whole little process going. She might
48:31
Speaker 1: as well go cheat again.
48:33
Speaker 2: Right, You might as well hop back outside system. Just
48:36
Speaker 2: stay with him. That's what I would do.
48:40
Speaker 1: A lot of people be together because they've had so
48:42
Speaker 1: much trauma happening in relationship. They've been trauma bonding all
48:46
Speaker 1: these years. So you cheated on him. It probably took
48:49
Speaker 1: him ten years to get over that shit, and now
48:52
Speaker 1: he like, you know what, I'm gonna go get me
48:55
Speaker 1: some new pussy. How about that bitch? If you don't
48:57
Speaker 1: like it, get the fuck out or do you?
49:00
Speaker 2: That's Ooh that Carra come back crazy, don't it though?
49:04
Speaker 1: Oh?
49:04
Speaker 2: Ten years later after I've been good, now she's talking
49:07
Speaker 2: about betrayal. The nerve for you to use the word
49:10
Speaker 2: betrayal when you was out there doing shit for five
49:12
Speaker 2: or six years, Like cheating for five and six years
49:15
Speaker 2: is like you hold, I had a whole nother relationship
49:18
Speaker 2: or was it here yeah, multiple people or was it
49:21
Speaker 2: just one specific person that you kept involved in and
49:24
Speaker 2: you said you hurt him real bad and he took
49:26
Speaker 2: you back every time? Damn, this is what you kind
49:29
Speaker 2: of deserve.
49:31
Speaker 1: I think they deserve each other, for sure. I don't
49:33
Speaker 1: know if I'm gonna wait ten years to cheat on
49:35
Speaker 1: your eyes though I'm more of a like immediate type
49:37
Speaker 1: of bitch, But I don't think she should divorce him.
49:42
Speaker 1: I think she should deal with it the same way
49:44
Speaker 1: he had to deal with it. Let him do it
49:46
Speaker 1: for however long he feels like it. Get over a
49:48
Speaker 1: bitch like you opened this can of worms. Deal with
49:53
Speaker 1: it if you really love your husband. Because what we
49:57
Speaker 1: don't own people, man, And this is why lean more
50:00
Speaker 1: not saying I want an open relationship. I just don't
50:03
Speaker 1: want to own nobody because I don't want to be owned.
50:06
Speaker 1: So even though y'all in a union, I feel like
50:08
Speaker 1: there's conversations y'all might have missed. Y'all ain't been talking.
50:12
Speaker 2: There's no fucking one, clearly, clearly, And I want to hear,
50:16
Speaker 2: like how long because you left out some parts, So
50:19
Speaker 2: how long he been cheating?
50:20
Speaker 1: Do you know?
50:21
Speaker 2: How long? Is it something new?
50:23
Speaker 1: Are you just finding out?
50:25
Speaker 2: Right? Because he might have had a whole bitch for
50:27
Speaker 2: sixteen years, niggas would have a whole family.
50:32
Speaker 1: So I wonder how their relationship has been these last
50:35
Speaker 1: few years, like after him cheating, because I listen, a
50:38
Speaker 1: niggas speculated about me fucking cheating and that motherfucker gave
50:41
Speaker 1: me hell for at least two years after Meanwhile, like
50:45
Speaker 1: I dealt with a bunch of bullshit earlier on in
50:47
Speaker 1: the relationship. So I'd like to know, like how their
50:50
Speaker 1: relationship has been up until this point of him cheating.
50:54
Speaker 2: Right, because yeah, because when a man find out, like
50:58
Speaker 2: because they'd be like, men don't stay when they get
51:00
Speaker 2: cheated on. That's not true. They do, they do stay,
51:03
Speaker 2: but they just mean as hell they're not the same person.
51:06
Speaker 2: Like that's what.
51:07
Speaker 1: I say, nigga man, Yeah, born man is worse than
51:11
Speaker 1: a broke nigga doll. They aren't going to troll the
51:14
Speaker 1: fuck out of you in the relationship. Get out of there.
51:18
Speaker 1: She should leave because she started this shit. Actually no,
51:21
Speaker 1: it's no, she.
51:23
Speaker 2: Should have been left, like a long time ago. Once
51:26
Speaker 2: he forgave you for the sixth time, you probably should
51:29
Speaker 2: have got out of there because this was only gonna
51:32
Speaker 2: happen at some point, So I listen, go ahead, I.
51:36
Speaker 1: Wouldn't even be mad, and especially like if they okay,
51:39
Speaker 1: if they're in their fifties, we all going at that,
51:42
Speaker 1: might as well just be roommates and deal with the shit.
51:44
Speaker 1: Don't fuck up the money.
51:46
Speaker 2: That's what she said. I can't handle this portrayal at
51:48
Speaker 2: this age. So that means they're you know, at least
51:52
Speaker 2: closer to fifty. I'm assuming like late forties, early fifties
51:55
Speaker 2: or something, sixteen years to be married to somebody's But shit,
51:58
Speaker 2: they could have got married at twenties, so I don't know.
52:01
Speaker 2: But either way, and.
52:02
Speaker 1: Even if they got married at twenty, that makes that
52:04
Speaker 1: still makes even more sense to me why you should
52:07
Speaker 1: still be wanting to fuck on other people like y'all
52:09
Speaker 1: been married to damn long shit. I'm okay with him
52:16
Speaker 1: getting some pussy man if that was my man, and
52:19
Speaker 1: already I'm okay with it. Go ahead.
52:22
Speaker 2: No, I feel like he should have got his pussy
52:24
Speaker 2: a long time ago. Why you ain't until now, Why
52:27
Speaker 2: you ain't till ten years of me being good to
52:30
Speaker 2: decide you want to be bad. It's crazy you should
52:33
Speaker 2: have been bad with me.
52:34
Speaker 1: Cauz bitch like I didn't have a feeling. I didn't
52:38
Speaker 1: feel like doing it thing I feel like doing it now.
52:40
Speaker 1: Maybe he just got a corvette and maybe having a midlight.
52:42
Speaker 1: Oh it might be even more fucked up if he
52:45
Speaker 1: got a young bitch.
52:47
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, now he fucking on somebody.
52:49
Speaker 1: That's why she feel betrayed. She's not seeing this young
52:52
Speaker 1: bitch right youngersion of her and she.
52:58
Speaker 2: Getting money from him because you know, if he got
52:59
Speaker 2: a young one, ding he tricking too. Mmmm m man,
53:04
Speaker 2: I'm sorry, miss Sheila. It's like, I don't know if
53:06
Speaker 2: that's your name.
53:09
Speaker 1: About I say, not you calling these people name on it.
53:13
Speaker 2: No, I don't know that.
53:14
Speaker 1: I don't have no advice for her, really, honestly, I
53:17
Speaker 1: feel like staying in your marriage. Staying in marriage ain't
53:20
Speaker 1: nothing outside, like y'all just need to work it out,
53:23
Speaker 1: like you cheated, cheat? It is he saying he coming
53:26
Speaker 1: to fuck the bitch at the house, like in your
53:28
Speaker 1: face type cheating or he said, Blayton, is it? How blatant?
53:33
Speaker 1: Is it?
53:34
Speaker 2: Now?
53:34
Speaker 1: It's this level Citi sh Now, you're just being straight
53:36
Speaker 1: up disrespectful to me because I cheated on you before.
53:39
Speaker 2: You should have left, right, deal with it? Is crazy
53:43
Speaker 2: to tell me, Yeah, deal with it. You don't like her,
53:48
Speaker 2: You don't like you no more.
53:49
Speaker 1: No get that girl. You don't like you? Yeah, all right,
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