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I hope you get so successful you get the hate I've had · soulful biz guidance

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SPEAKER_00: Hello,
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SPEAKER_00: hello and welcome back to Whispers of Inner Power,
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SPEAKER_00: the interview series for highly sensitive women in business.
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SPEAKER_00: I am so excited today because I have someone very special with me.
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SPEAKER_00: You may know her as the Fresh Princess
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SPEAKER_00: She's an email strategist,
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SPEAKER_00: keynote speaker,
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membership owner with over 4,000 members and someone who has
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built not one,
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SPEAKER_00: not two,
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SPEAKER_00: but three successful businesses.
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SPEAKER_00: Please welcome Liz Wilcox.
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SPEAKER_00: Liz, please, how are you today?
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SPEAKER_00: How are you doing?
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SPEAKER_00: Thank you so much for being here.
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SPEAKER_01: Hey friends, you're welcome.
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SPEAKER_01: Thank you for having me.
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SPEAKER_01: Thank you for listening and watching.
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SPEAKER_01: I can't wait to dig in today.
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SPEAKER_00: That's so good.
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My first question is to know a little bit more about your story
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kind of before all
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SPEAKER_00: of this success.
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SPEAKER_00: If you take us to the beginning,
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SPEAKER_00: what was life like and what made you think,
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SPEAKER_00: okay,
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SPEAKER_00: I'm going to build something of my own?
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SPEAKER_01: Listen, y'all, life was not good.
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SPEAKER_01: What made me think I needed to build something of my own?
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SPEAKER_01: I had a toddler.
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SPEAKER_01: I lived in an RV, a caravan, you know, travel trailer.
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SPEAKER_01: And I just wanted more,
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SPEAKER_01: you know,
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SPEAKER_01: I wanted to take that home on wheels and start moving them,
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SPEAKER_01: right?
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SPEAKER_01: And so I lived in this RV.
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SPEAKER_01: I didn't even have internet on my phone.
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SPEAKER_01: But I believed in the power of the internet, right?
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SPEAKER_01: I believed people when they said,
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SPEAKER_01: oh,
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SPEAKER_01: yeah,
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SPEAKER_01: you can make money on the internet,
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SPEAKER_01: you know,
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SPEAKER_01: writing and selling your own products.
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SPEAKER_01: And I didn't really know where to start.
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SPEAKER_01: But I figured, hey, you know, my goal is to move this RV one day.
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SPEAKER_01: We were stationary at the time.
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SPEAKER_01: We weren't moving around.
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SPEAKER_01: But that was the goal.
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SPEAKER_01: So I said,
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SPEAKER_01: okay,
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I'm going to start a blog about RV travel and I'll share my
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journey to traveling,
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SPEAKER_01: right?
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SPEAKER_01: And everybody and their mother,
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SPEAKER_01: I would listen to amazingly smart people like Jessica and I would say,
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SPEAKER_01: they would say,
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SPEAKER_01: you know,
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SPEAKER_01: Start your email list, start your email list.
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SPEAKER_01: And so I just started my email list.
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SPEAKER_01: You know,
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SPEAKER_01: the same day I started my blog,
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SPEAKER_01: I launched the email list because again,
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SPEAKER_01: life did not look good.
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SPEAKER_01: I didn't want to live in a campground forever.
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SPEAKER_01: I didn't want to, you know, my mom didn't get past eighth grade.
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I've been supporting her financially since I was 16 years old,
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either part-time or full-time.
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SPEAKER_01: And I didn't want that for my toddler one day.
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SPEAKER_01: So I just got going.
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yeah I love that thank you so much for for sharing it also
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shows and it's it's so
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many stories you know about successful people that the origin
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stories there's
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always something that makes you say or feel like I want better
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for myself and so
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there's no plan b I'm going to make it happen I love that yeah
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no plan b there was
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SPEAKER_01: no plan b y'all because
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Uh I didn't I you know I just told you my mom didn't get past a
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certain grade right
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and there was there was no one else coming to save me I mean I
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I was married at the
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time he was in the military uh and he thought I was losing my
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mind he thought oh my
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gosh Liz you're getting scammed the only way to make money on
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the internet is to do
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SPEAKER_01: you know maybe illegal things if you know what I'm saying um
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SPEAKER_01: You know, there's no way.
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SPEAKER_01: What makes you so special?
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SPEAKER_01: Like I said, then husband, we're not married anymore, right?
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SPEAKER_01: So I didn't even have people that were believing in me, right?
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SPEAKER_01: I had people telling me, that's crazy.
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SPEAKER_01: You're being scammed, etc.
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SPEAKER_01: So there was no plan B. I had to do this thing.
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SPEAKER_00: Right, right.
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SPEAKER_00: And so you are very famous for your incredible energy.
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You're warm,
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you're direct,
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there's zero apology,
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you just take the space.
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Were you always this way or is that something that you had to
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work on and somehow become?
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SPEAKER_01: Work, work, work, work, work, work.
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SPEAKER_01: It's a theme of my life.
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SPEAKER_01: When you think the work is done, there is more work to be done, right?
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SPEAKER_01: So y'all, believe it or not,
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SPEAKER_01: I was mute until the age of seven.
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SPEAKER_01: I did not speak.
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I was so terrified of my own shadow as a child that I literally
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could not use my voice,
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right?
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SPEAKER_01: Jessica has jaws on the floor.
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SPEAKER_01: You would never believe in your life.
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SPEAKER_01: You would never believe in your life.
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SPEAKER_01: But I'm visiting my brother right now.
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SPEAKER_01: If he was here, he would be like, yeah, she did not speak.
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SPEAKER_01: It's actually insane.
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SPEAKER_01: So it was always a work in progress to find my voice.
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SPEAKER_01: And my mom,
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SPEAKER_01: when I was in the seventh grade,
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SPEAKER_01: you know,
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SPEAKER_01: she wasn't very educated,
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SPEAKER_01: but she was very wise,
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SPEAKER_01: y'all.
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And she said,
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you know,
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Liz,
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I was staying home because I was sick from school.
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She said,
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you know,
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Liz,
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the more you try to be like everyone else,
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the sicker you get.
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SPEAKER_01: And I don't know, my little 12-year-old self, something stuck.
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SPEAKER_01: And I thought, she's right.
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SPEAKER_01: I don't have that many friends anyway.
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SPEAKER_01: So I might as well be myself because I'm tired of being sick.
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SPEAKER_01: I was a really sick child, always staying home from school.
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SPEAKER_01: And I just started to lean into who Liz was, right?
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Like it or not,
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because you apparently don't like it anyway,
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these little other seventh graders.
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SPEAKER_01: So I might as well just be myself.
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SPEAKER_01: And very slowly...
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SPEAKER_01: Throughout school,
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SPEAKER_01: I started to prove to myself that,
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SPEAKER_01: oh,
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SPEAKER_01: if I'm just myself,
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SPEAKER_01: I feel better,
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SPEAKER_01: I make more friends,
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SPEAKER_01: life is better.
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SPEAKER_01: And so I just kept going and going and growing and growing.
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SPEAKER_01: And then when I started the blog,
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SPEAKER_01: you know,
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SPEAKER_01: the advice you always get is be yourself,
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SPEAKER_01: be authentic.
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And I was looking at the people in my sphere that were
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successful and I thought,
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SPEAKER_01: yeah,
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SPEAKER_01: they do have a lot of personality.
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SPEAKER_01: You know, it might not be my personality, but it's theirs.
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And so over the years,
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like Jessica mentioned,
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I've built several successful businesses.
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SPEAKER_01: The more that I've leaned into Liz,
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the more that I've seen that attracts the right people and it
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repels the wrong
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SPEAKER_01: people,
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SPEAKER_01: right?
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SPEAKER_01: The wrong people are like,
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SPEAKER_01: oh no,
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SPEAKER_01: I'm not taking any advice from a lady who wears a headband or a hat,
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SPEAKER_01: you know,
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SPEAKER_01: and doesn't have a professional setup here.
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SPEAKER_01: So that repels the wrong people.
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SPEAKER_01: So yeah, it's been a journey, my friends.
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SPEAKER_01: It's been a journey.
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SPEAKER_00: Yeah,
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SPEAKER_00: I love what you're sharing and I can really,
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SPEAKER_00: you know,
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SPEAKER_00: resonate and it's so much of the conditionings that we receive as well.
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SPEAKER_00: I don't know if it's specifically as women,
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SPEAKER_00: there's this good girl syndrome that we hear everywhere.
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SPEAKER_00: I know that I've definitely had to deal with that.
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but I feel like the more like there are things that we are shy
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about or that we can
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even carry shame around that we don't want so much to people to
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know us for right
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but the more we accept that about ourselves and the more we
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show it the more we
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actually become magnetic which I think I work as a copywriter
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and web designer and
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SPEAKER_00: I see like every time that I work with a client they
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SPEAKER_00: And there's also this, but let's not mention it.
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And that's actually the thing that we have to tap into for them
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to be positioned as
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SPEAKER_00: themselves,
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SPEAKER_00: as differently as something that actually matters listening to.
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SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
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SPEAKER_01: Amen.
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SPEAKER_01: Listen, y'all, I do not like the word quirky.
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SPEAKER_01: People call me quirky all the time.
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SPEAKER_01: It's not anything that I resonate with,
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SPEAKER_01: but lately I've been like,
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SPEAKER_01: you know what,
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SPEAKER_01: maybe I am quirky and maybe it's those quirks that,
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SPEAKER_01: you know,
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SPEAKER_01: land me all of these amazing life experiences,
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SPEAKER_01: right?
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SPEAKER_01: That attract, like Jessica is saying,
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Those correct people for me right the people that also identify
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as quirky you know
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you know what heck let's get together you know we can be quirky
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and fun ourselves
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and that's something you know i also consider myself a
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copywriter and i'm launching
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a product that i've launched this will be the 13th time and for
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the last couple of
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SPEAKER_01: years you know it's been successful the launches have been great um
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SPEAKER_01: But they haven't been what I wanted And I realized,
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SPEAKER_01: oh,
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I haven't been my creative quirky self It's just been sort of
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rinse and repeat the
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SPEAKER_01: last few times And so how can I lean into that?
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SPEAKER_01: And y'all, I have been up
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At the time of this recording,
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I've been up working for eight hours already.
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SPEAKER_01: It's not even 1 p.m.
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SPEAKER_01: I am so energized by my work.
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SPEAKER_01: I'm leaning into that creativity and that,
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SPEAKER_01: I don't know,
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SPEAKER_01: sort of loudness,
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SPEAKER_01: that unapologetic voice that I have.
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SPEAKER_01: And I'm having so much fun creating a Christmas in July sale.
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SPEAKER_01: where I'm,
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SPEAKER_01: you know,
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SPEAKER_01: doing a Christmas miracle meter where the more people on the waitlist,
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SPEAKER_01: the more bonuses you unlock and you'll get them for free.
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And I put it in my Facebook group yesterday and another
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copyrighted friend said,
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SPEAKER_01: oh,
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SPEAKER_01: Liz,
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SPEAKER_01: you shouldn't give away all this for free.
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SPEAKER_01: These would be good bonuses for the package you're selling.
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SPEAKER_01: And I thought, but that's not me.
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SPEAKER_01: You know,
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SPEAKER_01: me is to be radically generous and very silly and,
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SPEAKER_01: you know,
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SPEAKER_01: come up with these silly names and
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Silly prizes for no good reason other than I'm glad you're here
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and I'm having a
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lot of fun with it and obviously I don't know what's going to
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happen but I know
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it's going to create a lot of buzz because like Jessica said
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leaning into that real
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SPEAKER_01: voice is the thing that's going to attract people.
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SPEAKER_00: Yeah,
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SPEAKER_00: and I mean,
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SPEAKER_00: definitely,
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SPEAKER_00: I'm in your membership and I can see,
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SPEAKER_00: you know,
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SPEAKER_00: how this playfulness,
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this joy around everything you create is really what's
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attractive and definitely
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SPEAKER_00: inspiring.
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And it's actually helping me change a little bit the way that I
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send emails,
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SPEAKER_00: even though I'm a copywriter,
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SPEAKER_00: because I tend to be always,
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SPEAKER_00: you know,
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SPEAKER_00: very poetic and very,
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SPEAKER_00: you know,
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SPEAKER_00: I'm more on the soulful side,
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SPEAKER_00: like quiet side.
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SPEAKER_00: Then I receive your prompts and I'm like,
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I cannot I can be soulful and fun like it doesn't have to be
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just yes and yes and
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both you know both at the same time I I love that so much thank
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you for sharing
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that so we talk about visibility we talk about confidence I
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have to ask you were on
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SPEAKER_00: survivor which I didn't know
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like until a few months ago after I joined your membership I
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found out and so for
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my audience who may not know that is one of the most watched
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most intense reality
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shows in the world what on earth does that experience teach you
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about visibility
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about being seen about putting yourself out there completely
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this is such a great
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SPEAKER_01: question that no one's ever asked me I'm so glad you asked
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It has taught me that people will interpret you the way they
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want,
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right?
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SPEAKER_01: Of course, being on a TV show, you're not in charge of your narrative.
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SPEAKER_01: Over here at lizwolcox.com, I show you what I want to show you, right?
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SPEAKER_01: I mean, that's just the nature of the beast, right?
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SPEAKER_01: But when you're on TV, it's a different beast, right?
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SPEAKER_01: They show people the way they want to show them.
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SPEAKER_01: And I did not get a very, I'd say, generous edit.
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SPEAKER_01: I think I was meant to be a very quirky,
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SPEAKER_01: strange character with,
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SPEAKER_01: I would say,
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SPEAKER_01: a lot of controversy around this character.
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SPEAKER_01: And y'all,
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SPEAKER_01: the wide variety of,
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SPEAKER_01: oh,
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SPEAKER_01: Liz,
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I hated this or I loved this about you is so wild because
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they're only showing you
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SPEAKER_01: one
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SPEAKER_01: side of me.
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SPEAKER_01: I think it was a very one-dimensional but crazy character,
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SPEAKER_01: but the way it was interpreted was just insane.
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SPEAKER_01: There were some people,
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SPEAKER_01: oh,
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SPEAKER_01: I can't stand her saying,
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SPEAKER_01: can I say that some people even to this day,
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SPEAKER_01: years later,
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SPEAKER_01: I hope you burn in hell.
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SPEAKER_01: I get death threats.
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SPEAKER_01: And there are other people who watch, yeah, it's insane.
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SPEAKER_01: There are other people that watch the same show.
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SPEAKER_01: Liz, you inspired me.
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I have completely changed my life based on the things that you
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said and did out
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there on the island and so you can only be yourself even on the
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show even it being
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edited I was only myself like yeah I said that sure it was
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edited but yeah that did
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come out of my mouth you know and you just you have to do the
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work you have to be
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SPEAKER_01: yourself you have to put yourself out there how you're interpreted
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SPEAKER_01: is not your job you can try your best to manipulate a situation but every
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individual is unique and they're going to interpret it
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differently like Jessica
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SPEAKER_01: said oh when I get your emails Liz it's so full of joy
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Joy is never a word that I sit down and think about when I'm
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writing my emails.
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SPEAKER_01: What I'm thinking about is brevity.
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SPEAKER_01: How can I keep this short and sweet and to the point?
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SPEAKER_01: Playful, she said that.
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SPEAKER_01: Yes, I am definitely trying to be playful.
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SPEAKER_01: That's my word of the year, play.
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SPEAKER_01: So that comes across.
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SPEAKER_01: But joy is never something that's top of mind for me.
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SPEAKER_01: That's something that Jessica is interpreting, right?
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SPEAKER_01: So when it comes to visibility, you know, you can have your own agenda.
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SPEAKER_01: But there are people,
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SPEAKER_01: especially if you want to think of this in the negative,
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there are some people who are going to interpret you the way
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that they want to,
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SPEAKER_01: and there's nothing you can do about it.
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SPEAKER_01: So just keep on keeping on, my friend.
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So that's really the question here,
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because I thank you so much for sharing that,
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by the way.
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SPEAKER_00: But I hear I haven't experienced that level of visibility.
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My husband's a little bit more famous being a comic book
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designer,
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a comic book artist.
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SPEAKER_00: But
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SPEAKER_00: Okay, his strategy is ignore.
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SPEAKER_00: So he doesn't go and look at what people say about his books or whatever.
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SPEAKER_00: What is yours?
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SPEAKER_00: What would you tell a highly sensitive woman?
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Because I can see the people in my audience are sharing this
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with me of saying
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SPEAKER_00: like,
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SPEAKER_00: oh,
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SPEAKER_00: I'm almost scared of being successful because this criticism will come.
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SPEAKER_00: There will be trolls on the internet.
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There will be people saying the horrible things they've been
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saying to you.
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SPEAKER_00: Is it about regulating the nervous system?
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Or is it just about ignoring and not having a look at all at
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what people say?
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SPEAKER_01: Listen,
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SPEAKER_01: so number one,
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I hope you get so successful that you get the hate that I have
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because that means
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SPEAKER_01: you are we're seen by millions and millions of people.
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SPEAKER_01: Jessica was not joking.
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SPEAKER_01: Survivor is like the number one TV show in like all the world.
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SPEAKER_01: It's airs in 125 countries.
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SPEAKER_01: Like, don't worry.
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SPEAKER_01: And this is no offense, like you will likely never be that successful.
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SPEAKER_00: You know, I got lucky.
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SPEAKER_00: I got on a TV show, right?
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SPEAKER_01: And so the level of hate,
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SPEAKER_01: quote unquote,
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SPEAKER_01: that I get,
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you will never be able to match that unless you're trying to be
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the next Oprah.
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SPEAKER_01: I also want to say that I have a very highly sensitive body.
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SPEAKER_01: I mean, doctors have told me that.
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SPEAKER_01: I have an autoimmune disorder.
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SPEAKER_01: I'm constantly in fight or flight.
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You know,
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if somebody drops something on the other side of the room,
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it would take me
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20 minutes for my heart rate to come down you know my body is
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constantly stressed
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but I have found what regulates my system and this is not for
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everybody it's not
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SPEAKER_01: for Mr.
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Jessica he ignores stuff I don't ignore it because when I
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ignore it I absorb it
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and I need to be like rubber there glue bounce off me stick to
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you okay y'all
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remember that from the playground days and so I don't ignore it
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I acknowledge it
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and sometimes I will even I don't defend myself but I clarify
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right so in the case
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of Survivor people oh you're an idiot you're this that oh well
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actually what
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SPEAKER_01: happened was da da da da da
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SPEAKER_01: It's not defending.
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SPEAKER_01: Don't defend yourself.
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SPEAKER_01: That's when you get into a fight.
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SPEAKER_01: But you can clarify.
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SPEAKER_01: You can say your piece and move on.
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SPEAKER_01: Again, if I ignore it, I absorb it because I'm going to see it.
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SPEAKER_01: Even if I'm not searching for it, people will DM you.
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SPEAKER_01: People will email you.
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SPEAKER_01: Even I who have somebody who monitors my inbox, I go in there.
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you know I see things that I don't want to see and it's cringe
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and it's like oh
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gosh I should just pack up and leave they're right but again I
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if I ignore it I've
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tried that approach and it always I can't ignore it I literally
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can't ignore it I'm
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up at night I'm breaking out in hives I feel sick to my stomach
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for hours after
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SPEAKER_01: reading it but if I clarify
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Hey you know thanks for your feedback but what actually where
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where my head
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actually was at when I wrote this email was for example I had a
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guy so I just did a
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launch in March it's my birthday sale I do it every year and
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this year as a
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copywriter I'm seeing a lot of copy looks the same because a
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lot of people are
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using AI so I wanted my people to know hey I'm not using AI so
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I did a silly call
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SPEAKER_01: out section at the top of every email and it said
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SPEAKER_01: This email was brought to you by a real human.
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No AI was used in the making of this email reading experience
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or something like that.
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SPEAKER_01: And I had a man email me back, who let you send this email?
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SPEAKER_01: That call out box is so dumb.
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SPEAKER_01: It looks like AI wrote it.
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SPEAKER_01: Y'all, I send a video because I've gotten really good at confrontation.
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SPEAKER_01: Not that I'm confrontational.
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but he emailed me okay so I sent a video and I find this just
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disarms people right
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because most people would never do that most people do the
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ignore approach shout
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SPEAKER_01: out Mr.
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Jessica right and so I sent him I said you know hey Alan or
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whatever hey Alex hey
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Bart whatever I love that you emailed me this what's so funny
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is I'm actually the
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SPEAKER_01: boss so nobody is allowed to tell me what to do
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SPEAKER_01: I said, isn't that because I teach business, right?
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SPEAKER_01: I said, and isn't that the great thing about owning your own business?
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SPEAKER_01: You can say and do whatever you want.
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SPEAKER_01: That's why I started running my own business.
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SPEAKER_01: Alan, I would love to know why you run your own business.
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SPEAKER_01: You know, hit reply.
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SPEAKER_01: And he did.
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SPEAKER_01: He said, oh my gosh, Liz, I loved your video.
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SPEAKER_01: I love that you stood firm.
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SPEAKER_01: This is exactly the kind of person I'm looking to learn from.
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SPEAKER_00: And he bought the thing What?
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He bought it Y'all I can turn people I can turn people around I
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also had somebody
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email me They wanted a refund for something They said oh this
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is way too elementary
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SPEAKER_01: So again I sent him a video
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SPEAKER_01: Bart, you're so right.
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SPEAKER_01: I took a look at your website.
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SPEAKER_01: You're far beyond this.
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SPEAKER_01: This is elementary.
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SPEAKER_01: You need a 2.0 strategy.
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SPEAKER_01: I actually do one-on-one audits.
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SPEAKER_01: It's $500.
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I'll give you the $30 refund or I can give you a $30 coupon for
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this $500 thing.
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SPEAKER_01: You're so right.
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SPEAKER_01: You don't need this.
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SPEAKER_01: I'm going to put this on the sales page only for this kind of person.
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SPEAKER_01: Thanks for pointing that out.
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yeah again he bought of course okay of course you're being
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helpful and you're
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acknowledging you're right you know and and this is what I can
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do for you it's
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wonderful business amen you know what I just look at everything
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as an opportunity
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um you know maybe it's that joy that playfulness and of course
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now y'all if they're
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SPEAKER_01: threatening my life calling me stupid you know calling me names
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then yeah I might write out an email and never hit send right
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we've all heard that
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advice just so again I'm not ignoring it and I'm not absorbing
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it but I might not
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you know those kinds of people I'm not going to engage with
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right because they they
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are just looking for a fight some people are just very clearly
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misunderstanding me
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and you know it's an easy fix hey actually you're right that is
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elementary this is
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SPEAKER_01: what you need instead let me apply that coupon for you
20:57
SPEAKER_01: So those are different experiences, but never absorb it.
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SPEAKER_01: Talk to your friends about it.
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SPEAKER_01: Write a fake email and hit delete so you'll feel better.
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SPEAKER_01: Don't ever reply immediately.
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SPEAKER_01: Come back to it later if you really want to say something.
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SPEAKER_01: Sit on it for a couple days or whatever.
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SPEAKER_01: But you don't have to ignore it.
21:21
SPEAKER_00: Thank you.
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SPEAKER_00: I love that.
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SPEAKER_00: Everything you say visually to me,
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SPEAKER_00: I see like shields,
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SPEAKER_00: just shields,
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SPEAKER_00: you know,
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SPEAKER_00: like I let in what's important,
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SPEAKER_00: but also,
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this is my boundary and I'm not going to accept this poison's
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gift that you try to
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SPEAKER_00: give me.
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SPEAKER_00: It is no reason to do that without an explanation.
21:41
SPEAKER_00: Thank you so much.
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SPEAKER_00: This has been so good.
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SPEAKER_00: Before we go, where can people find you?
21:46
SPEAKER_00: What's the best next step for someone who's listening and thinking?
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SPEAKER_00: Okay,
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I need more of this and I need maybe to sort out my emails
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because I know it's a
21:54
SPEAKER_00: big deal also for my community.
21:57
SPEAKER_00: You know, they sometimes feel that they don't want to bother their list.
22:01
SPEAKER_00: They don't want to email too much.
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SPEAKER_00: They don't want to sell.
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SPEAKER_00: Oh my God, selling the emails.
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SPEAKER_00: And you teach wonderfully about all this.
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SPEAKER_00: So how does someone get started with you?
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SPEAKER_01: Yeah, I'm so glad you asked.
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SPEAKER_01: I'm an email marketer, right?
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