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The Daily Mess Do Resolutions Set Us Up For Failure Plus What's The Alternative · Arroe Collins Like It's Live

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Speaker 1: I'm always asking questions, and the reason why is because
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Speaker 1: the fun begins when you start researching for those answers,
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Speaker 1: such as, when making New Year's resolutions, aren't we, in
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Speaker 1: reality setting ourselves up for failure? Plus? How can we
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Speaker 1: create a more positive path towards setting goals and meeting ambitions?
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Speaker 1: My name is Erro. I'm a daily writer, a silent wolf.
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Speaker 1: I stand on the sidelines and do nothing but watch, listen, study,
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Speaker 1: then activate. I call it the daily Mess, a chronological
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Speaker 1: walk through an everyday world. Yeah, it's my morning writing
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Speaker 1: as a receiver of thoughts and ideas, We as people
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Speaker 1: tend to throw things to the side because we're so
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Speaker 1: convinced that we're gonna deal with it later on. Is
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Speaker 1: it on your calendar? What about now? What about now?
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Speaker 1: Have you done it yet? See what I mean? See
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Speaker 1: what I mean when a subject arrives inside of me.
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Speaker 1: I know it's time to dig in. It's still keeping
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Speaker 1: that daily journal. But but but but but by doing
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Speaker 1: the research, the picture becomes clearer. This is the daily
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Speaker 1: mess when making New Year's resolutions, aren't we just kind
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Speaker 1: of setting ourselves up for failure? The short answer is yes,
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Speaker 1: I didn't say that. Mental health experts said that. Yes,
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Speaker 1: But we truly don't have to feel like a failure.
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Speaker 1: A New Year's resolution always feels inspiring. It's the way
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Speaker 1: we frame the resolutions that can get us in trouble
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Speaker 1: with a struggle. So why do they fail? Well, they're
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Speaker 1: date based, not behavioral based. January first of every single
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Speaker 1: year is a twenty four hour period of high pressure
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Speaker 1: as well as symbolism not readiness. New Year's resolutions are
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Speaker 1: usually focused in on shaping an outcome, you know, like
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Speaker 1: losing thirty pounds by eating less sugar. Oh man, that
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Speaker 1: could be big results. No clear action takes place. The
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Speaker 1: motivation that New Year's resolutions generate doesn't stay locked into
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Speaker 1: that red bull rush. Motivation has a way of fading.
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Speaker 1: I mean, seriously, when it comes down to it, a
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Speaker 1: New Year's resolution is an all or nothing challenge. One
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Speaker 1: slip up, and your inner core of belief instantly slideses
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Speaker 1: that little failure sticker right there onto your forehead. I mean,
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Speaker 1: it's because we've been trained that if something fails, it
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Speaker 1: means something about me. That's not growth, that's actually shame
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Speaker 1: dressed up as ambition. Hey, coming up next, if we
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Speaker 1: aren't creating New Year's resolutions, how do we expect to
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Speaker 1: set new goals and projections? Hey? Thanks for coming back
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Speaker 1: to the daily mess. We all agree that creating a
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Speaker 1: resolution can be a setting up of failure. Well, what
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Speaker 1: happens if we decide to not create New Year's resolutions?
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Speaker 1: How do we expect to set new goals and projections
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Speaker 1: for the new year. Well, let's make it clear new
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Speaker 1: Year's resolutions are guilty of a serious crime, turning self
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Speaker 1: improvement into a moral test. There's a much better way
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Speaker 1: to look at this. Don't set yourself up with another
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Speaker 1: worthless resolution. Go into it as an experiment. What happens
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Speaker 1: if I were to take a ten minute walk every
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Speaker 1: single day? That was me like three years ago. I
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Speaker 1: call it a transition walk today. But what happens if
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Speaker 1: I take a ten minute walk every day? It changed
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Speaker 1: my life? What if I stopped eating after eight pm?
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Speaker 1: You know what happened. I went from two eleven to
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Speaker 1: one seventy four when it comes to my weight because
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Speaker 1: I stopped eating late at night. What if I stripped
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Speaker 1: away many things such as know the identity builders? Am
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Speaker 1: I not kind of reconstructing my identity? If even I
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Speaker 1: take an experiment and put it into forward motion, well,
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Speaker 1: the goal is to do all you can to toy
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Speaker 1: away with the idea of no longer rushing into a meal.
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Speaker 1: I want you to think about that. We live in
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Speaker 1: a world overtaken by movement. To face directional change every
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Speaker 1: single day, choose up the need to create a resolution.
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Speaker 1: It gets in the way of seasonal intentions and more.
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Speaker 1: I mean, we're trying to fit our entire life into
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Speaker 1: a ten pound potato sack. Research shows got to bring
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Speaker 1: in the research. It shows that people who don't make
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Speaker 1: resolutions actually grow more, They quit less, they learn new
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Speaker 1: projects much faster, and stay kinder to their inner selves.
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Speaker 1: Screw the act of resolutions and adopt intentional and flexible
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Speaker 1: actions that actually lead toward personal growth. Hi'm Merril, and
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Speaker 1: that's the daily mess