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An Unlikely Affair: The Affair That Saved Us · Untraditionally Lala

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  Speaker 1: Hi, Amber.
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  Speaker 2: Hi, Lola.
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  Speaker 1: Welcome to An Unlikely Affair. Hello, my loves. Welcome back
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  Speaker 1: to another episode of An Unlikely Affair. Amber, you're in studio.
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  Speaker 1: I know. Like two weeks in a row.
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  Speaker 3: It's amazing.
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  Speaker 1: Two weeks in a row, but it's going to be
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  Speaker 1: all weeks in a row.
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  Speaker 4: It is.
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  Speaker 1: That's right, baby. How do you feel about that? I
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  Speaker 1: don't know. No, about the studio, I'm excited about. But
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  Speaker 1: just the reasoning behind why you're going to be in
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  Speaker 1: the studio all the time. How do I.
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  Speaker 1: I'm processing.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, I am.
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  Speaker 6: It's funny, like, being here, I want to be back
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  Speaker 6: in Montana, which I could still obviously go back because
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  Speaker 6: I have my place there, but still it's... I'm re-acclimating.
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  Speaker 1: It's freaking hot. Let me tell you something. I feel
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  Speaker 1: like I could be walking around naked because that's how
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  Speaker 1: hot I am. It's just insane. I was at a
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  Speaker 1: birthday party for... One of Ocean's friends, obviously Ocean was
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  Speaker 1: there too. It wasn't just me at Ocean's friend's birthday party.
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  Speaker 1: But it was like 105 degrees. No, it's ridiculous. It's
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  Speaker 1: not okay.
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  Speaker 6: So I'm staying at another friend's house when I like
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  Speaker 6: woke up in the middle of the night and like
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  Speaker 6: drenched in sweat. I had to put like extra layers
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  Speaker 6: of deodorant on this morning.
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  Speaker 1: Because you've been a stinky lady. I have been. I
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  Speaker 1: know that feeling because I get to be a stinky
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  Speaker 1: lady and it only happens when I am under severe
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  Speaker 1: pressure and stress. You know what?
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  Speaker 6: I also woke up and found a massive cyst under
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  Speaker 6: my armpit.
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  Speaker 1: So I was like on chat, GBT. Don't do that.
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  Speaker 4: Why?
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  Speaker 1: Because it's going to tell you you have some like
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  Speaker 1: horrendous thing. Wait, that makes me nervous. Does it move around?
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  Speaker 1: It does. So when I was.
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  Speaker 6: Like 14 or 15, I used to always get cysts
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  Speaker 6: underneath my armpit, and I think that's what it is.
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  Speaker 1: But I haven't had one in so many years. I
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  Speaker 1: have no idea. It's probably like stress or what did
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  Speaker 1: ChatGPT said? Could it be a swollen lymph node?
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Or it could be that too. Yeah.
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  Speaker 6: So the reason why you have swollen lymph nodes, according
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  Speaker 6: to Chat, is because it's like your body's fighting off
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  Speaker 6: like an infection.
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  Speaker 1: Or an ingrown hair. I do not have an ingrown hair.
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  Speaker 4: No, no, no.
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  Speaker 1: You know what? I could see it if I had
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  Speaker 1: an ingrown hair. I don't feel like it would be
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  Speaker 1: a lump under the skin. Did you? You're like, that can't.
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  Speaker 1: Process of elimination on chat.
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  Speaker 6: Yeah, but it's like really, it's really, it's really small.
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  Speaker 6: I had the picture in chat, not on my camera.
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  Speaker 1: I would like you to go get an ultrasound or something.
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  Speaker 1: When do I have time to get an ultrasound? Your
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  Speaker 1: health is priority. Without our health, we have nothing. And
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  Speaker 1: I really, my mom has always told me that. And
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  Speaker 1: then when she started going through all of her health
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  Speaker 1: issues after her hip surgery, I was like, wow, it
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  Speaker 1: is so true. Without our health, we have nothing.
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  Speaker 6: I know. I really want to go get a scan.
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  Speaker 6: I think that that would be good.
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  Speaker 1: You know, I did the full-body prenuvo, full-body MRI. Best
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  Speaker 1: thing I ever did. You probably just sleep better at
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  Speaker 1: night now knowing that you're in good health.
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  Speaker 4: Oh, yeah.
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  Speaker 1: I think it will have been a year since my
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  Speaker 1: last one in September, and I'm fully hitting them up
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  Speaker 1: to schedule my next one. I'm going to do it
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  Speaker 1: every year. You should. It just makes me feel better.
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  Speaker 1: You know, I think I also.
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  Speaker 6: Know because my boobies are, like, really swollen. So it
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  Speaker 6: just might be something.
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  Speaker 7: I don't know.
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  Speaker 1: The body. The female body. It tells you.
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  Speaker 6: I'm under a lot of stress right now, too. So
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  Speaker 6: I think that's probably what it is to my body reacting.
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  Speaker 6: I think this calls for a massage.
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  Speaker 1: I have a great girl. How was your massage the
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  Speaker 1: other day? 180 with tip, 90 minutes.
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  Speaker 3: Oh.
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  Speaker 4: Oh, yeah.
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  Speaker 1: That's good. And she comes to your house?
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  Speaker 2: Oh, yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah. Hot rocks, the whole bit. Oh, I love that. Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Will she do a little tie, like step on your back? Oh, yeah.
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  Speaker 1: You feel her get onto the table and she's like,
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  Speaker 1: give me your arms. And then you like, give. That
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  Speaker 1: is the best.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Like, F me up. You fuck me up, Vicky. I'm down.
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  Speaker 1: The best way. I'm excited that you're going to be here.
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  Speaker 1: I know it's going to be a huge adjustment, even
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  Speaker 1: though you spent most of your life here.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: There is nothing... like the serenity that Montana brings. Like
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  Speaker 1: your setup is amazing. But again, you're making the move
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  Speaker 1: for your kid. Your kid wants to be here. She
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  Speaker 1: wants to be going to school here. So it just
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  Speaker 1: goes to show that a mother will change up her
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  Speaker 1: whole life for her children. Before we get into voicemails,
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  Speaker 1: can I read you guys something that I got this weekend?
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  Speaker 4: Oh, yes.
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  Speaker 1: So I've been talking to this guy. And he sends
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  Speaker 1: me a message basically asking like what I require, okay,
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  Speaker 1: from a man. And I tell him that I require time, consistency,
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  Speaker 1: and communication. And keep in mind, he's been like very
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  Speaker 1: all up on it, right? I want to fight for
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  Speaker 1: your love. I want to do this, whatever. Right.
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  Speaker 4: Show me.
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  Speaker 1: Show me. Let's talk about it. Let's see what you're
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  Speaker 1: willing to do. Because I require things that are very
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  Speaker 1: hard for a man to give. They sound simple. They're
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  Speaker 1: not so simple. This is his response to me. What
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  Speaker 1: does that come with? Reciprocation, question mark. You're a single
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  Speaker 1: mother of two. How does that happen? Keep in mind,
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  Speaker 1: my previous message was his time, communication, and consistency. I said,
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  Speaker 1: what do you mean by reciprocation? Like, will I give
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  Speaker 1: those same things back? Yes, I'm a single mother of two.
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  Speaker 1: Is there a follow-up to that? How does what happen?
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  Speaker 1: I'm asking, how do you have time for a man respectfully? Like,
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  Speaker 1: I believe being a mom is the biggest job on
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  Speaker 1: the planet. How can you find time to disperse love
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  Speaker 1: when your priorities are your princesses? I wanted to fall
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  Speaker 1: out of my fucking chair. Well, let me ask you, buddy.
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  Speaker 1: You're a single dad. How do you find time to
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  Speaker 1: disperse love between your child and someone that you're talking to? Oh, wait.
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  Speaker 1: Men get to do whatever the fuck they want, right?
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  Speaker 1: It falls on the mom. What do you mean, how
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  Speaker 1: do I find the time? And he's a single dad?
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  Speaker 1: Or he's a dad?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Wow. My heart is pounding right now because I did
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  Speaker 1: not even know what to say. He just showed his
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  Speaker 1: true colors. We will not be speaking again. But thank God.
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  Speaker 1: We're good. We're good here. Because you're a fucking idiot.
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  Speaker 4: Wow. Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: I don't even know what to say. That's crazy. My
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  Speaker 1: response was, well, that's why I've been single for so long.
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  Speaker 1: And I just know that it will happen the way
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  Speaker 1: it's supposed to when God intends. I love that. What
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  Speaker 1: do you mean? I was shocked. So, yes, you do
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  Speaker 1: things for your children. We as mothers do things for
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  Speaker 1: our children.
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  Speaker 3: We do.
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  Speaker 1: We put our own lives on the back burner when
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  Speaker 1: it comes to our kids while most men go out
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  Speaker 1: and get to live their life and their children just
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  Speaker 1: happen to appear on their time and then they go
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  Speaker 1: about their business while we're trying to figure out where
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  Speaker 1: the fuck we're going to live. In a very short
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  Speaker 1: period of time. Like a week and a half.
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  Speaker 7: Yep.
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  Speaker 1: Just so our kids can go to the fucking school
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  Speaker 1: they want.
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  Speaker 4: To go to.
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  Speaker 7: And you know what?
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  Speaker 1: That's what you sign up when you become a mom.
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  Speaker 2: All right.
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  Speaker 1: I think we have some voicemails. Yeah, we do. Let's
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  Speaker 1: get into it.
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  Speaker 2: Hi.
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  Speaker 8: I'm obsessed with all of you. Especially Lisa. Lisa.
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  Speaker 9: Amber.
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  Speaker 8: Lala.
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  Speaker 1: Easton.
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  Speaker 9: Sosa.
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  Speaker 8: Ocean. All of them.
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  Speaker 10: I love you guys.
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  Speaker 8: Anyway, I have a complete narcissist ex, and I felt
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  Speaker 8: like you guys could relate to this, so... He had
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  Speaker 8: me arrested, sent me to jail because he said I
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  Speaker 8: scratched him. I did scratch him, but it was a
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  Speaker 8: complete accident. However, had me arrested for domestic violence. He's
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  Speaker 8: an attorney, knew the.
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  Speaker 10: Judge, blah, blah, blah, blah.
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  Speaker 11: Had me evicted, whatever.
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  Speaker 8: Find my own place.
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  Speaker 11: We're separated.
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  Speaker 8: Life goes on. We agree on the terms between us.
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  Speaker 8: So now, three years later, this man is coming to me.
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  Speaker 8: Three years he's been paying me money. And now all
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  Speaker 8: of a sudden he said, I'm not paying you unless
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  Speaker 8: basically you.
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  Speaker 10: Have sex with me. And I'm like, what?
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  Speaker 8: You think I'm going to have sex with you after
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  Speaker 8: you're a dirty, dirty man? Oh, and Lala, I'm so
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  Speaker 8: sorry to say this. And probably Amber too. He's a
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  Speaker 8: lot older than me.
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  Speaker 11: I am 33, 57.
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  Speaker 4: I know, I know, I know.
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  Speaker 2: Idiot.
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  Speaker 10: Idiot.
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  Speaker 8: Anyway, what do I do? Now he's holding money over
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  Speaker 8: my head and I mean, I can go to court.
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  Speaker 8: It's going to take forever. He's an attorney. He has
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  Speaker 8: to waste out of this. You guys know how the
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  Speaker 8: system is. He can say, oh, you know what? I'm
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  Speaker 8: not making as much anymore. When that motherfucker makes so
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  Speaker 8: much on paper. I love you guys. You guys are
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  Speaker 8: the best. I cannot wait to hear the pod.
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  Speaker 4: Bye.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, I don't think there's anything worse than a
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  Speaker 1: man having his hands around your neck financially. Yeah. That is,
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  Speaker 1: that sounds fucking intense. And I, I would rather live
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  Speaker 1: in a box in peace.
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  Speaker 6: Well, first of all, just because he's an attorney and
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  Speaker 6: knows the judge doesn't give him the right to like,
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  Speaker 6: it should be illegal, what he's doing, right? Is using
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  Speaker 6: his authority of being a lawyer and knowing the judge that.
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  Speaker 1: They, that's wrong.
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  Speaker 6: Actually, I don't even think you're allowed to go in
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  Speaker 6: front of a judge if you have a personal relationship
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  Speaker 6: with him.
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  Speaker 1: That's the other thing.
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  Speaker 6: And it's also coercive control, like controlling someone by the
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  Speaker 6: use of money. So yes, I think that's a good idea. Like,
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  Speaker 6: just go get a, I know it's a lot harder
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  Speaker 6: to say than just go get a job, but that
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  Speaker 6: sounds scary.
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  Speaker 1: It is scary. And here's what I realized when I
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  Speaker 1: entered this world is that it's not a logical system
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  Speaker 1: and it's not quick and it's a lot of money to,
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  Speaker 1: you know, we're talking about, okay, well, I can hire
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  Speaker 1: an attorney and I can come after him, but that attorney,
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  Speaker 1: is going to charge you hundreds of dollars an hour
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  Speaker 1: before you even see a judge, which then I would
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  Speaker 1: assume you would go into litigation, which is thousands, tens
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  Speaker 1: of thousands of dollars. And you don't know how it's
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  Speaker 1: going to turn out. And at the end of the day,
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  Speaker 1: I think that The system is not designed to hero
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  Speaker 1: protect women because we're looked at as scorned or gold
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  Speaker 1: diggers or we're emotional or we may be on our
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  Speaker 1: period or like we have so many things stacked against us.
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  Speaker 1: And that's why I just think it sounds easier. First
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  Speaker 1: of all, the narcissist, it's so crazy how they work
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  Speaker 1: because they're so believable because they believe what they're saying.
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  Speaker 1: So they're very convincing. I'm sure he was doing his
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  Speaker 1: best work when he was like, She scratched me in
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  Speaker 1: this sort of manner. I'm sure he was very convincing. Sociopathic.
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  Speaker 1: That is insane. Totally. And can keep his cool, too,
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  Speaker 1: where she was probably heightened because she's a normal person
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  Speaker 1: with a normal reaction. Yeah, I mean, she could go
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  Speaker 1: get a restraining order. That's what— That's what I would do.
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  Speaker 6: Because for me, hearing that, I would be like, okay,
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  Speaker 6: I'm afraid for my life. Because now he's saying, if
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  Speaker 6: I'm not intimate with him, then he will not pay me.
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  Speaker 6: And then even if still, if I say no, then
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  Speaker 6: what happens? Then it's going to enrage him even more.
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  Speaker 1: I would not communicate with him over the phone at all.
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  Speaker 1: Everything needs to be in writing.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Which he is probably a smart guy, but I would 100%
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  Speaker 1: start getting my ducks in a row as far as
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  Speaker 1: being financially independent. So you can say, have a great life.
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  Speaker 1: We're done here. I need nothing from you. Goodbye. But
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  Speaker 1: you got to have everything in writing.
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  Speaker 7: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah.
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  Speaker 7: Okay.
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  Speaker 1: Next one. Otherwise, just start blasting this mother on socials.
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  Speaker 1: Just send us his picture. We'll help you. For real.
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  Speaker 1: You know, I love a good photo with a blast.
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  Speaker 1: It's the best.
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  Speaker 4: So my unhinged story is when I was 16 years old,
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  Speaker 4: there was a man who was about 36, 37 years
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  Speaker 4: old that lived across the street. He was married. He
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  Speaker 4: was a biker in a Harley gang. And he, I
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  Speaker 4: was actually 17, almost 18. And that was his thing that,
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  Speaker 4: you know, after everything was found out that, He was like, oh,
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  Speaker 4: she was almost legal. And that was his reasoning. Now
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  Speaker 4: that I'm an adult in my 40s, I realized that
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  Speaker 4: he was a pedo. You know what I'm saying? But anyway,
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  Speaker 4: so started just being nice to me, buying me little gifts,
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  Speaker 4: coming around, picking me up from school and stuff like that.
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  Speaker 4: And I was living with a single father at the
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  Speaker 4: time who just thought he was being nice. Apparently he
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  Speaker 4: didn't protect me either. But started a small affair with
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  Speaker 4: And it was found out. And this man had me
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  Speaker 4: propped up on we were going to get married, have
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  Speaker 4: kids and have a farm and everything else. And I
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  Speaker 4: share this because, you know, nowadays, girls or younger girls
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  Speaker 4: are glamorized to, you know, get an older man, get
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  Speaker 4: a sugar daddy. And in the words of Lala, I
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  Speaker 4: am the husband. You don't need it. If you want it, great.
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  Speaker 8: But don't chase it.
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  Speaker 4: And sure as hell realize that these older men, some
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  Speaker 4: of them are out here with bad intentions. They will lie,
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  Speaker 4: cheat and steal even with their own wives and get
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  Speaker 4: found out and still deny you and deny everything. So
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  Speaker 4: that is my unhinged story.
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  Speaker 6: These are making me so sick to my stomach.
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  Speaker 1: I'm so sad. It's so sad. Really? I'm feeling the opposite.
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  Speaker 1: I'm like, I'm fired up. Oh my gosh. I.
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  Speaker 1: By the way, she said it was unhinged. I found
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  Speaker 1: that to be freaking fantastic. And the reason I talk
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  Speaker 1: about this so much, and I'm usually met from idiots, obviously,
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  Speaker 1: who don't have two brain cells to put a thought together.
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  Speaker 1: You need to get over it and move on. Whereas
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  Speaker 1: you can understand, I'm like, we have to talk about
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  Speaker 1: these things. There's a younger generation that's coming into their
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  Speaker 1: own and they're going to think I got an older
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  Speaker 1: man because I'm so mature. And you think it's like
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  Speaker 1: a win. Oh, and he has money. Now, if you
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  Speaker 1: know the drill and you're like, I'm willing to do
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  Speaker 1: the exchange. Yeah. By all means, go for it. That's
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  Speaker 1: a self-conscious thought.
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  Speaker 4: Yes.
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  Speaker 1: When someone who's much older, I mean, this, the girl
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  Speaker 1: who left the message is not, was not even legal.
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  Speaker 1: So this guy was for sure a A sick mother,
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  Speaker 1: you know?
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  Speaker 6: Yeah, yeah.
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  Speaker 1: But these girls, I remember trying to help this girl
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  Speaker 1: get sober. And she was probably 23 at the time.
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  Speaker 1: And she was dating a much older man. And she
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  Speaker 1: thought that she was so mature. And I had just
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  Speaker 1: gone through everything with our shared person. And I was like,
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  Speaker 1: listen to me. He wants control over you. That's why
• 15:06
  Speaker 1: they go for the young girls because I'm not trying
• 15:08
  Speaker 1: to be rude, but we're dumb at 23. Yeah. We're stupid.
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  Speaker 1: We're moldable. We believe things. We haven't had enough life
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  Speaker 1: experience to scar us. Guess what? It's happening. This man
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  Speaker 1: is going to change your whole life and the way
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  Speaker 1: you go about your life and how you look at men,
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  Speaker 1: how you look at people.
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  Speaker 6: I just had this conversation with my mom on the
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  Speaker 6: way here. I was FaceTiming her and she was asking me,
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  Speaker 6: I went out on a date this weekend and I said.
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  Speaker 1: I really, I really like this guy a lot.
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  Speaker 6: But I just, I can't even let myself, I'm just so,
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  Speaker 6: I don't want to say damaged, that's not the right word,
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  Speaker 6: because I'm not damaged.
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  Speaker 1: I've done a lot of work.
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  Speaker 2: Experienced.
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  Speaker 6: But I just move super cautiously now where I'm not,
• 15:49
  Speaker 6: and maybe that's how, that's quote normal, the way I'm moving.
• 15:52
  Speaker 6: But like in my 20s, when I first met, well,
• 15:55
  Speaker 6: I was 17 when I met Randy.
• 15:58
  Speaker 1: When I met, I was just not experienced. I thought
• 16:00
  Speaker 1: I knew everything. I thought I knew everything. I'm an
• 16:03
  Speaker 1: old soul. I was like, this is what I want.
• 16:06
  Speaker 1: You just have to just pause.
• 16:08
  Speaker 6: Like before, you had to just move very methodical in
• 16:13
  Speaker 6: life when you get to at least my age.
• 16:17
  Speaker 4: Yes.
• 16:18
  Speaker 1: But if there's anything that I hope younger girls who
• 16:22
  Speaker 1: are in their 20s take, because we spoke about this
• 16:27
  Speaker 1: on the bonus of Untraditionally La La. The best advice
• 16:31
  Speaker 1: that we've ever received. And I talked about how, you know,
• 16:34
  Speaker 1: you have to touch the stove in order to have
• 16:36
  Speaker 1: life experiences. You take all the epic advice from older people,
• 16:40
  Speaker 1: you're never going to live. You live a pretty safe life, right?
• 16:44
  Speaker 1: This is the one topic where I'm like, you need
• 16:48
  Speaker 1: to listen. Because... I would not wish the situation that
• 16:55
  Speaker 1: you were put in, I was put in, other women
• 16:58
  Speaker 1: have been put in, and it's very easy from a
• 17:00
  Speaker 1: distance to blame the chick and be like, oh, well,
• 17:03
  Speaker 1: you were old enough to know better, or you did
• 17:05
  Speaker 1: that to yourself, or you lose them how you get them.
• 17:08
  Speaker 1: It's so beyond that, unless you've been put in the
• 17:10
  Speaker 1: situation and you feel like you're in a washing machine, right?
• 17:15
  Speaker 1: You have to move carefully because these older sick men
• 17:22
  Speaker 1: will fuck your whole life up. They will.
• 17:25
  Speaker 6: And the other thing is having access on these phones
• 17:28
  Speaker 6: that we have, it's changed the game, not just for
• 17:32
  Speaker 6: the teenagers, not just raising children for adults too. Like
• 17:36
  Speaker 6: I remember when I went into this rehab and they said,
• 17:39
  Speaker 6: we are going to see more people, men and women
• 17:43
  Speaker 6: come in for sex addiction than, than any other addiction
• 17:46
  Speaker 6: because of the phones.
• 17:50
  Speaker 1: Because of the access. Think about it.
• 17:51
  Speaker 6: Like it's at their fingertips. So it's like we've made
• 17:54
  Speaker 6: ourselves sick pretty much.
• 17:56
  Speaker 2: So I have the best story. I live in New York,
• 18:02
  Speaker 2: so I'm three hours ahead of you guys. My boyfriend,
• 18:08
  Speaker 2: the guy that I've been dating for six years, got
• 18:12
  Speaker 2: back with his ex-wife, who he's been divorced for, I
• 18:17
  Speaker 2: want to say, 10 to 15 years. Overtime, yeah, it
• 18:21
  Speaker 2: has to be around 15 years. It's the craziest scenario.
• 18:25
  Speaker 2: The proposal was insane. And two days after he proposed
• 18:31
  Speaker 2: to her, we're still.
• 18:33
  Speaker 8: Seeing each other.
• 18:34
  Speaker 2: This is comical, if I tell you from the beginning
• 18:40
  Speaker 2: until now.
• 18:41
  Speaker 3: It's six years.
• 18:42
  Speaker 1: It's insanity. I love New Yorkers. They're the best. No,
• 18:47
  Speaker 1: but they have to be from, like, Long Island. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
• 18:50
  Speaker 1: I don't need a Manhattan bitch. I'm talking real New York.
• 18:54
  Speaker 1: New Jersey. Yes. Yeah. Wait, hold on. So let me let...
• 18:58
  Speaker 1: She said that she was with a guy for six years.
• 19:00
  Speaker 1: They broke up. He found a new girl. They got engaged.
• 19:03
  Speaker 7: No, no, no.
• 19:03
  Speaker 4: I missed.
• 19:04
  Speaker 1: He went back to his ex-wife.
• 19:06
  Speaker 3: Oh!
• 19:07
  Speaker 1: But he is still with this Lisa chick. So goes
• 19:11
  Speaker 1: back with his ex-wife and does a big proposal again? Yes.
• 19:14
  Speaker 1: Is that what she said?
• 19:15
  Speaker 2: Yes.
• 19:15
  Speaker 1: Oh, we've got a narcissist on our hands, people. I mean,
• 19:18
  Speaker 1: what is going on? Can you imagine? Like, I am
• 19:23
  Speaker 1: so baffled, but I'm not. Because you hear stories like
• 19:26
  Speaker 1: this all the time. I know. It's insane. Like, I'm
• 19:30
  Speaker 1: pretty sure after my engagement party... He went and did
• 19:35
  Speaker 1: whatever he felt like. Can you imagine? It is comical.
• 19:39
  Speaker 1: When you really think about it, you're like, what? Can
• 19:42
  Speaker 1: you imagine if we acted like that as women? You're
• 19:45
  Speaker 1: a hole from the north is what they'd say i'm
• 19:47
  Speaker 1: watching game of thrones again by the way.
• 19:52
  Speaker 5: I just can't believe it and you know what listening
• 19:56
  Speaker 5: let me tell you something because i know most of
• 19:58
  Speaker 5: my listeners are women If my girls, my listeners, my
• 20:02
  Speaker 5: writer dies, listen to these voicemails and place any.
• 20:06
  Speaker 1: Judgment on the women. This sweet woman from Long Island.
• 20:10
  Speaker 1: If anyone judges her, I will be furious. Yes, of course.
• 20:15
  Speaker 1: Who would judge her? By the way, who would judge her? Well,
• 20:19
  Speaker 1: first of all. Women are brutal. Women are brutal.
• 20:22
  Speaker 6: I think where the only judgment can come in is
• 20:24
  Speaker 6: knowing like, okay, you know that he's back with his ex-wife,
• 20:27
  Speaker 6: but you're still choosing to sleep.
• 20:30
  Speaker 1: With him right you know what i say get it
• 20:32
  Speaker 1: girls i think they should team up they should team
• 20:36
  Speaker 1: up oh that the ex-wife and the yeah it's like
• 20:39
  Speaker 1: i don't really want to i don't really want to
• 20:41
  Speaker 1: blow bob tonight like can you handle yeah i got
• 20:44
  Speaker 1: it i.
• 20:45
  Speaker 6: Got it tag team tag team i love that throw
• 20:49
  Speaker 6: some funds into the mix oh put it in a pot.
• 20:54
  Speaker 1: Oh, and just really mess with him?
• 20:56
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 20:56
  Speaker 1: That's my dream. Like, that is my dream. My love,
• 20:59
  Speaker 1: we're doing it. Oh, yeah, that's right. We're here doing
• 21:04
  Speaker 1: it right now. Watch what next week's episode holds. Okay,
• 21:13
  Speaker 1: next one.
• 21:14
  Speaker 11: Hi, Lala and Amber. My name is Elizabeth, and I
• 21:18
  Speaker 11: am just fascinated by your relationship.
• 21:20
  Speaker 10: But not just that.
• 21:22
  Speaker 11: I'm also in awe of the love you both have
• 21:24
  Speaker 11: for each other. And I am so curious about that
• 21:27
  Speaker 11: penultimate moment when you guys looked at each other and
• 21:31
  Speaker 11: knew this was beyond anything to do with your ex
• 21:34
  Speaker 11: and was now about a beautiful new friendship.
• 21:39
  Speaker 10: I was the Amber in my marriage.
• 21:40
  Speaker 11: And so watching Amber embrace Lala blows me away and
• 21:45
  Speaker 11: makes me want to be a better version of myself.
• 21:48
  Speaker 11: I also want to add that I adore you, Lala.
• 21:50
  Speaker 11: I always feel like I would totally want to be
• 21:52
  Speaker 11: friends with you, but not in a creepy way, I promise. Anyway,
• 21:55
  Speaker 11: I just think you're both amazing women, raising your own
• 21:58
  Speaker 11: amazing little women.
• 21:59
  Speaker 1: Oh, I love her. She's so sweet. That was really sweet.
• 22:03
  Speaker 6: I think I knew very early on that it had
• 22:05
  Speaker 6: nothing to do with our ex, because I know through
• 22:10
  Speaker 6: experiences that we had together that I.
• 22:15
  Speaker 1: Just know the way he moves and... I think it took,
• 22:19
  Speaker 1: I think it was a lot.
• 22:19
  Speaker 6: Of little moments that built this. It wasn't just one
• 22:24
  Speaker 6: like major turning point. It's kind of like we were
• 22:27
  Speaker 6: saying earlier, like you could say, a guy could say
• 22:30
  Speaker 6: that he likes you, wants to be with you. It's like, okay,
• 22:33
  Speaker 6: now show me. And I think in our relationship and
• 22:35
  Speaker 6: developing any relationship is like, I just stayed curious and
• 22:40
  Speaker 6: opened my heart to.
• 22:44
  Speaker 1: To who you were, right?
• 22:45
  Speaker 6: And to, like, your entire family, right? Because you— obviously, you're
• 22:48
  Speaker 6: a package still.
• 22:50
  Speaker 1: Yes, very much so. I mean, I— even though there were
• 22:57
  Speaker 1: times that, like, I was angry at you, it was
• 23:02
  Speaker 1: only because of what I was hearing, right? Mm-hmm. So
• 23:07
  Speaker 1: it wasn't anything that you were doing. It was in my— bubble,
• 23:12
  Speaker 1: I was told that you made things very difficult. And
• 23:17
  Speaker 1: obviously now, because this is what God does, well, now
• 23:22
  Speaker 1: I'm going to put the shoe on the other foot
• 23:24
  Speaker 1: for you and you're going to see what it feels like.
• 23:29
  Speaker 1: And so my eyes were opened and I had deep
• 23:35
  Speaker 1: sadness and regret for the things that I turned a
• 23:39
  Speaker 1: blind eye to whether that was intentional or unintentional. You know,
• 23:43
  Speaker 1: I guess it depends on who you ask. Since we're
• 23:46
  Speaker 1: asking me, I think we've spoken about this before. To
• 23:51
  Speaker 1: numb my gut, I would drink more. And then I
• 23:57
  Speaker 1: listened and believed. And I think that's why I have
• 23:59
  Speaker 1: a really hard time trusting myself now and trusting other
• 24:02
  Speaker 1: people because I don't really know if what someone's saying
• 24:05
  Speaker 1: is truthful. Is my gut talking to me or is
• 24:07
  Speaker 1: my trauma talking to me? What I know for sure
• 24:11
  Speaker 1: is the moment that you and I started talking on
• 24:14
  Speaker 1: the phone, there was a sense of peace that was
• 24:17
  Speaker 1: brought to me that I hadn't felt in a really
• 24:20
  Speaker 1: long time in the darkest moment of my life. I
• 24:23
  Speaker 1: felt like even though we were still getting to know
• 24:25
  Speaker 1: each other, I wasn't in it by myself. I had
• 24:28
  Speaker 1: a partner in crime. And I think back to the voicemail,
• 24:32
  Speaker 1: it was like, It did start with us just talking
• 24:36
  Speaker 1: about our custody situation and things like that. And it
• 24:39
  Speaker 1: was solely about that. And then it was that mostly,
• 24:44
  Speaker 1: but then it was like, oh, I have a date.
• 24:46
  Speaker 1: And then all of this sudden as time passed, it
• 24:48
  Speaker 1: was like, it's only about our sadness, our trauma that
• 24:53
  Speaker 1: even though maybe it came from him, it had nothing
• 24:57
  Speaker 1: to do with him anymore because it's what we were
• 24:59
  Speaker 1: carrying into other relationships and just life. I've told you
• 25:04
  Speaker 1: I've never been more vulnerable with really any friendship than
• 25:10
  Speaker 1: I have with you. Well, I'm very grateful for the affair.
• 25:16
  Speaker 4: I am.
• 25:17
  Speaker 7: I am.
• 25:18
  Speaker 1: As hard as it is to say that, it needed
• 25:24
  Speaker 1: to happen.
• 25:24
  Speaker 6: I've said this again, and I'll say it forever. It
• 25:27
  Speaker 6: saved my life because I wanted to die. I really
• 25:30
  Speaker 6: was in such a dark place, and I didn't know
• 25:32
  Speaker 6: how to get out. And now my life, I could
• 25:37
  Speaker 6: have never imagined this ever in a million years. Like,
• 25:42
  Speaker 6: you can't make this up. And this just shows you, like,
• 25:45
  Speaker 6: my higher power, he knows what he's doing.
• 25:47
  Speaker 10: Yeah.
• 25:47
  Speaker 6: And, like, I am so, so grateful for the moment that,
• 25:53
  Speaker 6: you know, it all went down. Because even in the
• 25:56
  Speaker 6: darkest moments, like, there.
• 25:57
  Speaker 1: Is light at the end of the tunnel. And this
• 25:59
  Speaker 1: is the light.
• 26:00
  Speaker 5: Yeah.
• 26:00
  Speaker 1: Being here with you.
• 26:01
  Speaker 3: Thank you.
• 26:02
  Speaker 6: Building what we're building, going through all of life's ups
• 26:05
  Speaker 6: and downs and dealing with kids and dating and relationships
• 26:09
  Speaker 6: and our families and.
• 26:12
  Speaker 1: Just all of it. It's fucking, it's amazing. It really is.
• 26:18
  Speaker 1: We always talk about how when something doesn't make sense,
• 26:22
  Speaker 1: there will be a moment that it makes sense. And
• 26:25
  Speaker 1: I think about that and then I see ocean. I
• 26:28
  Speaker 1: see see you, I see Sosa. And I'm like, it all,
• 26:33
  Speaker 1: there was just a plan. Oh, a hundred percent. That
• 26:36
  Speaker 1: started from the moment I entered this earth. Like, yeah,
• 26:41
  Speaker 1: my story has already been written. I have zero fucking
• 26:43
  Speaker 1: control over it.
• 26:44
  Speaker 10: Right.
• 26:44
  Speaker 1: I just had to surrender and not try to control it.
• 26:47
  Speaker 4: Right.
• 26:47
  Speaker 1: I'll do what I can. Cause I'm a control freak. Yes,
• 26:50
  Speaker 1: we all are. But Your forgiving heart is something that
• 26:57
  Speaker 1: I cannot explain. I do not have it. Let me
• 27:00
  Speaker 1: tell you, that other bitch, she were to come to me.
• 27:04
  Speaker 7: Yeah.
• 27:04
  Speaker 1: I'm the wrong bitch to come to.
• 27:07
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 27:07
  Speaker 1: Because there's no forgiving heart here. So good for you.
• 27:12
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 27:14
  Speaker 1: But by the way, if she does appear, you better
• 27:17
  Speaker 1: fucking stay strong, bitch.
• 27:18
  Speaker 2: Who, me?
• 27:19
  Speaker 1: Yeah, no new friends. Are you crazy? Oh, I am
• 27:23
  Speaker 1: not replacing you. Not replacing or adding. We're done here.
• 27:28
  Speaker 1: You're stuck. We're like Siamese twins now. We can never
• 27:31
  Speaker 1: be unstuck. I wouldn't have it any other way. I
• 27:33
  Speaker 1: love you. We should get Unlikely Affair hoodies with the
• 27:37
  Speaker 1: two holes. Gina and we should record a podcast like that.
• 27:44
  Speaker 1: Someone will make them for us. I'm getting that. Oh
• 27:45
  Speaker 1: my God. That is genius. It's genius. And we're doing it.
• 27:57
  Speaker 3: I don't even know where to start, but let me
• 28:00
  Speaker 3: start with this.
• 28:00
  Speaker 10: So a year ago.
• 28:03
  Speaker 3: My baby daddy, who was high on blow and drunk,
• 28:09
  Speaker 3: tried to take my baby who was five months old
• 28:13
  Speaker 3: and then say that I was an unfit mother and
• 28:20
  Speaker 3: kept her from me for two months. Mind you, I'm
• 28:23
  Speaker 3: in a state where it's fucking weird. I took him
• 28:27
  Speaker 3: back in and I let it go and I'm trying
• 28:31
  Speaker 3: to move forward. One year later, here we are. He
• 28:36
  Speaker 3: is now saying that I'm the crazy one. And I
• 28:39
  Speaker 3: need help when he is the one who is still
• 28:43
  Speaker 3: getting fucked up, smoking weed, going out to bars, works
• 28:46
  Speaker 3: at bars. And I'm the one paying for everything, contributing
• 28:50
  Speaker 3: to everything, taking care of our child, you know, daycare, whatever,
• 28:56
  Speaker 3: a full-time career. And he's still just fucking around and
• 29:03
  Speaker 3: not finding out. So it's disgusting to me. I don't
• 29:10
  Speaker 3: know what to do when this person is like, if.
• 29:13
  Speaker 10: You want me back, you need to go to.
• 29:17
  Speaker 3: Therapy and you need to do this and that. I
• 29:19
  Speaker 3: go to therapy, bitch. I'm sober. I do this and that.
• 29:22
  Speaker 3: What the fuck are you doing? So I'm disgusted. I
• 29:26
  Speaker 3: am grossed out. And he is doing whatever he wants
• 29:30
  Speaker 3: and has said, I can hang out with whoever I
• 29:35
  Speaker 3: want and I can do whatever I want, but you
• 29:37
  Speaker 3: need to get help. What do I do? I am
• 29:41
  Speaker 3: alone out here, by the way. I have no family here.
• 29:44
  Speaker 3: I stay here for him. He's isolated me. I'm just lost.
• 29:54
  Speaker 1: I want to kill him. There's only one thing to do.
• 29:57
  Speaker 1: He has to die. He has to die. No, seriously.
• 30:04
  Speaker 1: Kill the motherfucker. I think that's bad advice.
• 30:07
  Speaker 4: Okay.
• 30:08
  Speaker 9: All right.
• 30:08
  Speaker 1: So the advice is, okay. No one goes to prison
• 30:11
  Speaker 1: for wishing. You don't need to call Bob Shapiro for
• 30:14
  Speaker 1: a wish.
• 30:17
  Speaker 4: Okay.
• 30:18
  Speaker 1: She has to get smart. I love where your head's at, bitch.
• 30:22
  Speaker 1: Keep going.
• 30:22
  Speaker 5: Right.
• 30:23
  Speaker 1: You've got to get smart. So we've got to one-up
• 30:25
  Speaker 1: this motherfucker.
• 30:26
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 30:26
  Speaker 1: Okay, so— You have to take on a mind that
• 30:29
  Speaker 1: is so unnatural to you.
• 30:30
  Speaker 6: You have to not be yourself, numb yourself, and say, okay,
• 30:34
  Speaker 6: we're going to create a little.
• 30:37
  Speaker 1: Nest of cash.
• 30:40
  Speaker 6: And then we're going to also— we' re going to go to
• 30:43
  Speaker 6: therapy together because it's really important if you go to
• 30:46
  Speaker 6: therapy and, like— have the therapist really, you know, they'll
• 30:51
  Speaker 6: be able to tell him two seconds that he's a
• 30:53
  Speaker 6: narcissist and a crazy person for, first of all, isolating her,
• 30:56
  Speaker 6: which is insane. And just start building a small case.
• 31:01
  Speaker 6: Start building your case around him. Oh my God, Amber,
• 31:03
  Speaker 6: we are so right here. Yeah, because this is what
• 31:06
  Speaker 6: has happened.
• 31:07
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 31:08
  Speaker 1: You should also do therapy solo though, to have that
• 31:13
  Speaker 1: therapist documenting what you're saying. On record. Be very strategic
• 31:18
  Speaker 1: and know he's a narcissist. So if you go to
• 31:20
  Speaker 1: couples therapy, he's going to know how to turn it on.
• 31:23
  Speaker 1: I would, I would give it a shot, but if
• 31:25
  Speaker 1: you feel like this is not going to play in
• 31:27
  Speaker 1: my favor, be done with it. Also, you have to
• 31:32
  Speaker 1: start recording him. Well, it depends on what state she
• 31:35
  Speaker 1: lives in. Okay. Hear me out. You record him. You
• 31:41
  Speaker 1: then go into your notes app or something you can
• 31:44
  Speaker 1: lock where you write the transcript. Okay. You listen. And
• 31:48
  Speaker 1: exactly what he said, you put into words, delete the recording,
• 31:53
  Speaker 1: delete it from your phone, delete it from the deleted part.
• 31:57
  Speaker 1: You know, it goes to trash, but then you can
• 31:58
  Speaker 1: still access the trash and get rid of it. But
• 32:00
  Speaker 1: you have the full transcript. You need to document every
• 32:03
  Speaker 1: time you feel like he's high on blow. If you
• 32:06
  Speaker 1: can get a hair sample.
• 32:08
  Speaker 3: Oh, pillow.
• 32:08
  Speaker 1: Go to his pillow. You gotta get follicle, too.
• 32:11
  Speaker 4: You know what?
• 32:11
  Speaker 1: You could also give him a blowjob and then rip
• 32:13
  Speaker 1: a pube out and be like, oh, sorry. Great idea.
• 32:17
  Speaker 1: You have to do things that you don't want to do,
• 32:19
  Speaker 1: like touch him, call him pet names, make him feel
• 32:22
  Speaker 1: like this is a safe environment, and you just get
• 32:25
  Speaker 1: to documenting, bitch, because then when you fucking blindside his
• 32:30
  Speaker 1: ass with a fucking court case and a number, a
• 32:34
  Speaker 1: filing number, and you say, we're done here, deal with
• 32:37
  Speaker 1: my lawyer.
• 32:38
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 32:38
  Speaker 1: Oh! I just got wet.
• 32:40
  Speaker 5: Fucking gangster.
• 32:44
  Speaker 1: That is gangster. All right, next one. I love these.
• 32:47
  Speaker 1: I'm obsessed.
• 32:47
  Speaker 6: I want to get through all ten of them.
• 32:49
  Speaker 1: I want to get through all of them. They're so good.
• 32:51
  Speaker 9: Hi, Amber and Lala.
• 32:53
  Speaker 8: I absolutely love you guys.
• 32:55
  Speaker 9: Just never miss an episode. I really admire you both.
• 33:00
  Speaker 9: So my question is a little bit long-winded, but I
• 33:07
  Speaker 9: have been with my husband for 12 years. Um, we've
• 33:10
  Speaker 9: been married for about five. We do have a child now. Um,
• 33:14
  Speaker 9: he's a bit older than me and, um, he, he,
• 33:20
  Speaker 9: we have a lot of issues. We have a rocky relationship.
• 33:23
  Speaker 9: I've been considering, um, divorce for a while. And one
• 33:27
  Speaker 9: of the main reasons for that is, um, because he
• 33:31
  Speaker 9: financially refuses to include me in, um, Anything he has, really.
• 33:39
  Speaker 9: I mean, I have my own career. I'm pretty successful.
• 33:43
  Speaker 9: But we've been together for a long time, and I
• 33:45
  Speaker 9: feel like we've really built nothing. He refuses to include
• 33:49
  Speaker 9: my name on the house because he says I can't
• 33:54
  Speaker 9: pay 50%, but I do contribute a significant amount every
• 33:59
  Speaker 9: month towards living here. We've been in this house for
• 34:02
  Speaker 9: almost 10 years. And I just feel like he, being
• 34:08
  Speaker 9: the mother of his child, dedicating this much amount of
• 34:11
  Speaker 9: time to him, this much of my life to him,
• 34:14
  Speaker 9: through a lot that we've been through a lot. And
• 34:19
  Speaker 9: I really feel he just holds no value in me
• 34:23
  Speaker 9: as a person. I've never asked him for money. He's
• 34:26
  Speaker 9: never paid for anything directly for me. But when I
• 34:31
  Speaker 9: bring this issue up to him, all he hears that
• 34:33
  Speaker 9: comes out of my mouth is, um, that I, I
• 34:37
  Speaker 9: want money from him. And I try to explain to
• 34:39
  Speaker 9: him that, you know, I want some sort of financial
• 34:42
  Speaker 9: security for my future. Uh, if anything were to happen
• 34:44
  Speaker 9: to us and, you know, I've invested this much time
• 34:46
  Speaker 9: of my life, um, with him.
• 34:49
  Speaker 1: Oh, she sounds broken.
• 34:52
  Speaker 6: Yeah.
• 34:54
  Speaker 1: You know what I would say?
• 34:55
  Speaker 6: I would try to sit down with him calmly and
• 35:00
  Speaker 6: just say like, I, we've, we've built this beautiful life together.
• 35:04
  Speaker 1: You're much older than I am because that's what she said, right?
• 35:06
  Speaker 1: That he's much older. He's older, yeah.
• 35:08
  Speaker 6: And just say, I need some sort of security because
• 35:11
  Speaker 6: God forbid something happens to you, then what? I'm left
• 35:15
  Speaker 6: raising our children or our kid.
• 35:19
  Speaker 7: Right.
• 35:20
  Speaker 1: So I don't know. Anytime we get voicemails like this,
• 35:24
  Speaker 1: it makes me really fucking sad because it's just so
• 35:29
  Speaker 1: important that as women we have financial security independent from
• 35:37
  Speaker 1: the person we're with. And I don't necessarily know how
• 35:42
  Speaker 1: to backtrack when you're in a situation like that. Well,
• 35:46
  Speaker 1: she does. She says she's pretty successful.
• 35:47
  Speaker 6: It sounds like she wants a partner and she doesn't,
• 35:49
  Speaker 6: she's not, it sounds like she has a roommate.
• 35:51
  Speaker 1: It's exactly what you said. You sit down and you
• 35:53
  Speaker 1: have a real heart to heart of, do you understand
• 35:56
  Speaker 1: if something were to happen to you one day, like
• 36:00
  Speaker 1: I would be fucked and our child would be fucked.
• 36:04
  Speaker 6: So you either have a will or, That, you know,
• 36:06
  Speaker 6: everything gets put— I guess because they're married, so everything would
• 36:09
  Speaker 6: go to her anyway, right?
• 36:11
  Speaker 1: Unless the will says something different, by the way. I'd
• 36:13
  Speaker 1: ask to see the will. I don't necessarily know unless
• 36:16
  Speaker 1: you have this written out. Does it still go to
• 36:18
  Speaker 1: probate or is it just— it goes to the spouse.
• 36:22
  Speaker 1: Is that how it works? I don't know. I have
• 36:24
  Speaker 1: no idea.
• 36:24
  Speaker 6: I assume it would go to the spouse, um, or
• 36:28
  Speaker 6: the son and then ask, you know, I would say as,
• 36:31
  Speaker 6: as hard as this is, it's like, listen, if it's
• 36:33
  Speaker 6: not going to be like in the will, like we
• 36:35
  Speaker 6: need some sort of insurance. So if you get life insurance,
• 36:38
  Speaker 6: that would also be great too. And you can make,
• 36:41
  Speaker 6: this is where you tap in a third party as well.
• 36:44
  Speaker 6: like go to a therapist where you just, you.
• 36:47
  Speaker 1: State like what's going on because when you get married,
• 36:51
  Speaker 1: it is absolutely unacceptable for her to not be in
• 36:55
  Speaker 1: the know.
• 36:56
  Speaker 6: It's weird that they don't have a prenup or they'd never,
• 36:59
  Speaker 6: you know, cause they've been together for 12 years.
• 37:01
  Speaker 1: 10 years. She said they were married for 10 years.
• 37:04
  Speaker 1: They've been married and she keeps contemplating divorce and like,
• 37:11
  Speaker 1: even though I'm a big fan of not marriage, I
• 37:15
  Speaker 1: do believe that like marriage is worth fighting for.
• 37:18
  Speaker 6: And I think she should talk to an attorney actually
• 37:22
  Speaker 6: and see what they go, go see a therapist, but
• 37:25
  Speaker 6: also go to an attorney to get finances. You should
• 37:28
  Speaker 6: probably sit down with an attorney and figure it out.
• 37:30
  Speaker 10: Yeah.
• 37:30
  Speaker 1: Even if it doesn't go any, like you're not moving
• 37:33
  Speaker 1: towards a divorce. I think you're right.
• 37:35
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 37:36
  Speaker 1: You just can't be blind.
• 37:37
  Speaker 6: That's way over my head. You can't live in the dark.
• 37:40
  Speaker 6: You cannot live in the dark.
• 37:44
  Speaker 1: Trust me. I did it. You just have to know. Also,
• 37:51
  Speaker 1: for my people who are starting to get married and
• 37:55
  Speaker 1: they plan on being a wife and a stay-at-home mom,
• 37:58
  Speaker 1: that is the most difficult job on the planet, have
• 38:02
  Speaker 1: a conversation with your mans. He needs to give you money.
• 38:07
  Speaker 1: He's got to give you money. If you're not going
• 38:10
  Speaker 1: to go out and work, there has to be an
• 38:13
  Speaker 1: agreement that if I'm going to be taking care of
• 38:15
  Speaker 1: the house and the kids, that's going to cost something. Mm-hmm.
• 38:19
  Speaker 1: Because God forbid the guy doesn't act right or you
• 38:23
  Speaker 1: decide you want to leave him, at least you have
• 38:25
  Speaker 1: like a little nest egg.
• 38:27
  Speaker 4: Yes.
• 38:27
  Speaker 7: Right?
• 38:27
  Speaker 3: Yes.
• 38:28
  Speaker 4: Yes.
• 38:29
  Speaker 1: I know it sounds cold and heartless, but everything's amazing
• 38:32
  Speaker 1: until it's not anymore.
• 38:33
  Speaker 4: Until it's not. Right.
• 38:34
  Speaker 9: Exactly.
• 38:34
  Speaker 1: And it happens like that.
• 38:37
  Speaker 9: Mm-hmm.
• 38:48
  Speaker 3: I need your advice.
• 38:50
  Speaker 12: Basically, I'm on maternity leave from my first baby, and
• 38:55
  Speaker 12: I was supposed to go back to work in a week. Well,
• 38:58
  Speaker 12: my HR and my upper boss just called me today
• 39:03
  Speaker 12: and said that they were essentially, quote unquote, sunsetting our position, a.k.a.
• 39:10
  Speaker 12: they're laying everyone off. I'm the breadwinner. And our plan
• 39:16
  Speaker 12: was this whole time for my husband to be the
• 39:18
  Speaker 12: stay-at-home parent. I'm extremely career-oriented and love my job, so
• 39:26
  Speaker 12: I'm devastated. And I just don't even know. at like
• 39:30
  Speaker 12: 33 years.
• 39:31
  Speaker 10: Old, like what is life?
• 39:33
  Speaker 12: What do I even do now? If you could give
• 39:35
  Speaker 12: me your two cents, like being a mom who's had
• 39:39
  Speaker 12: a lot of different like career aspirations that we've seen
• 39:44
  Speaker 12: from like give them Lala to serve to reality TV.
• 39:50
  Speaker 12: Like I I'm just curious, like what, what is life?
• 39:59
  Speaker 12: What do I even do? If you can help me,
• 40:01
  Speaker 12: I'd appreciate you girl. And I love you and Amber's
• 40:05
  Speaker 12: dynamic and your show.
• 40:08
  Speaker 10: It's great.
• 40:09
  Speaker 1: 33 is so young, right? Like, what a badass to
• 40:12
  Speaker 1: have this, like, massive career at the age of 33. Insane.
• 40:17
  Speaker 1: I think depending on where you are, like, 33 for L.A.
• 40:23
  Speaker 5: Yeah.
• 40:24
  Speaker 1: Is, like, so, like, a tiny little tot, right? I know. Like,
• 40:29
  Speaker 1: we're all still out here being like, I don't even
• 40:32
  Speaker 1: know what I want to do in life. Whereas maybe...
• 40:36
  Speaker 1: If she's from like a smaller place, because in Utah,
• 40:39
  Speaker 1: 33 is like, oh, you're like grown. You've never been married.
• 40:42
  Speaker 1: Where's your gray hair? Oh, they're there. She should go
• 40:47
  Speaker 1: get another job. 100%. She loves her career.
• 40:49
  Speaker 6: And the best thing that you could do for your
• 40:51
  Speaker 6: baby and your husband is if that's what you want,
• 40:55
  Speaker 6: like go keep pursuing your career.
• 40:58
  Speaker 1: Your career is something you love. But remember, it does
• 41:02
  Speaker 1: not define who you are. You obviously are a fucking badass.
• 41:08
  Speaker 1: The fact that you're the breadwinner, you have a wonderful
• 41:11
  Speaker 1: husband who's going to, you know, stay at home with
• 41:14
  Speaker 1: your sweet baby. Like, everything is good. This is a
• 41:19
  Speaker 1: bump in the road that throws us off, right? When
• 41:23
  Speaker 1: we're like into what we're doing, but it's not... it's
• 41:27
  Speaker 1: a pivotal moment. It is not a defining moment. I say,
• 41:30
  Speaker 1: take a step back, talk to your husband, really talk
• 41:34
  Speaker 1: it out of like, what do I love to do?
• 41:37
  Speaker 1: What do I want to do? And I know you
• 41:38
  Speaker 1: love this career, but we got to say goodbye to it.
• 41:40
  Speaker 1: We can't be married to it. The sun has set.
• 41:44
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 41:44
  Speaker 1: I love the way they put that.
• 41:45
  Speaker 7: Yeah.
• 41:45
  Speaker 1: By the way, we're, we're sun setting. What does that
• 41:48
  Speaker 1: even mean? It's a nice way of saying it's over. Yes,
• 41:52
  Speaker 1: of course. Because who doesn't love that? It sounds like
• 41:54
  Speaker 1: a really pretty, oh, sunset. No, it means the day
• 41:57
  Speaker 1: is done. It's like, fuck you. Fuck you. I get it. No,
• 42:01
  Speaker 1: go get another job. You got it. You're going to
• 42:03
  Speaker 1: get another job.
• 42:04
  Speaker 6: Yeah.
• 42:05
  Speaker 1: And what's so crazy is back to what we just
• 42:07
  Speaker 1: talked about. God has a fucking plan. This position was
• 42:13
  Speaker 1: never meant to be here forever. And when things are
• 42:16
  Speaker 1: not meant to be here forever— God puts an end
• 42:19
  Speaker 1: to it. The universe, whatever you believe in, this chapter
• 42:22
  Speaker 1: is done, and now we're going to place you where
• 42:24
  Speaker 1: you're supposed to be. And it could be even better
• 42:26
  Speaker 1: than the one she had before.
• 42:27
  Speaker 7: And you know what?
• 42:28
  Speaker 1: It could be less better, but it's the road to
• 42:30
  Speaker 1: where you're supposed to be, where it all makes sense.
• 42:33
  Speaker 6: Right?
• 42:34
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 42:35
  Speaker 9: Okay.
• 42:36
  Speaker 1: Are we giving good advice? Okay. I feel like I'm, yeah,
• 42:40
  Speaker 1: it's like a therapist.
• 42:41
  Speaker 6: You know, the therapists are usually the fucked up ones
• 42:43
  Speaker 6: and you're like giving advice and you're like, I pay
• 42:46
  Speaker 6: you three 50.
• 42:47
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 42:47
  Speaker 1: It's crazy.
• 42:48
  Speaker 7: Okay.
• 42:48
  Speaker 1: But can I say one thing? It's kind of like
• 42:51
  Speaker 1: when I comment on people's relationships and they're like, I
• 42:53
  Speaker 1: would never take advice from you. You're not in a
• 42:55
  Speaker 1: healthy relationship. It's like, I'm also not a chef, but
• 42:57
  Speaker 1: I know when something tastes good and when something doesn't.
• 43:00
  Speaker 1: All right. I don't need to sing like Beyonce to
• 43:04
  Speaker 1: know a good voice from a shitty one.
• 43:06
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 43:06
  Speaker 7: Yeah.
• 43:07
  Speaker 1: Fucking simple as that.
• 43:09
  Speaker 3: Hi, Lala.
• 43:10
  Speaker 10: Hi, Amber. Okay, first of all, obsessed with you both
• 43:13
  Speaker 10: and love this podcast so much. My situation is heavily
• 43:19
  Speaker 10: pregnant with my second baby. It's been a complicated pregnancy,
• 43:24
  Speaker 10: to say the least. Some complications with my body, some
• 43:29
  Speaker 10: mental issues, but we have worked through them the best
• 43:32
  Speaker 10: we can. We are nearing the end of the pregnancy. However,
• 43:35
  Speaker 10: that has made it so difficult My husband is mortified
• 43:38
  Speaker 10: to touch me with even a 10-foot pole. We have
• 43:40
  Speaker 10: not had sex in months. He's too afraid to touch me.
• 43:45
  Speaker 10: He calls me his broken bird. And while it's adorable,
• 43:47
  Speaker 10: a girl's got needs. And I would love to have sex.
• 43:51
  Speaker 10: So trying to talk to him about having sex is
• 43:54
  Speaker 10: literally mortifying for him. And he refuses to do it.
• 43:59
  Speaker 10: But I need to have sex. I'm also really afraid
• 44:02
  Speaker 10: that if we don't have sex prior to me giving birth,
• 44:05
  Speaker 10: when we finally go to have sex after I've given birth,
• 44:08
  Speaker 10: it's really going to fucking suck.
• 44:09
  Speaker 3: You know? So, we'll love any advice.
• 44:13
  Speaker 10: Love you guys.
• 44:14
  Speaker 1: I love this woman. And how cute is that? That
• 44:17
  Speaker 1: he's like, I don't want to hurt you because you've
• 44:19
  Speaker 1: had complications with you and I'm nervous about the baby.
• 44:22
  Speaker 1: It's just all so fucking cute. When I hear voicemails
• 44:25
  Speaker 1: like that, it warms my heart. Because she's just a
• 44:29
  Speaker 1: bitch carrying a baby with the love of her life.
• 44:32
  Speaker 1: And she wants some dick.
• 44:33
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 44:34
  Speaker 1: I get it. You know? I get that, too. Some
• 44:38
  Speaker 1: men are just so afraid to hurt the baby. I know,
• 44:43
  Speaker 1: kind of hot. But I'm like, trust me, you ain't
• 44:45
  Speaker 1: that big, baby. That's what you should do. You should
• 44:47
  Speaker 1: penis shame him. Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, 100%. Honey,
• 44:51
  Speaker 1: I love you, and I love your big, massive cock,
• 44:56
  Speaker 1: but it ain't that big. All right? You're not going
• 44:59
  Speaker 1: to hurt us. Not in the least. I think, again, conversation,
• 45:04
  Speaker 1: like sitting him down and being like, here's the deal.
• 45:07
  Speaker 1: I'm fine. You're no doctor. The doctors have said I'm fine.
• 45:12
  Speaker 1: Well-educated people have said I'm fine. Your pee-pee is not
• 45:16
  Speaker 1: going to touch the baby, all right? I have to
• 45:19
  Speaker 1: have sex. And not only do I have to, I'm
• 45:22
  Speaker 1: afraid of when I have this baby, like we're going
• 45:25
  Speaker 1: to lose the intimacy. And see what he says. How
• 45:28
  Speaker 1: do you feel about what I'm saying? Yeah, I'm so curious.
• 45:29
  Speaker 6: Just be like, even if it's... foreplay right even if
• 45:33
  Speaker 6: it's they're just like making out and like even if
• 45:35
  Speaker 6: he were to use a vibrator on her yeah yeah
• 45:37
  Speaker 6: yeah yeah on the outside babe you don't have to
• 45:39
  Speaker 6: insert just.
• 45:40
  Speaker 1: Yeah find the spot just a little massaging of the
• 45:43
  Speaker 1: bean reading the doorbell you know.
• 45:44
  Speaker 6: What she wants I hear it she wants connection yes
• 45:47
  Speaker 6: she wants connection I don't know though She just wants
• 45:51
  Speaker 6: an orgasm.
• 45:52
  Speaker 1: I've been pregnant and I'm like, I need no connection.
• 45:55
  Speaker 1: I'm connected fully. I'm just going to need some penetration. Like,
• 45:59
  Speaker 1: I just need to be fucked. Yeah, yeah, yeah. And
• 46:02
  Speaker 1: if you can't do it, I'll find someone who can.
• 46:04
  Speaker 1: And by the way, there's some guys that really love
• 46:06
  Speaker 1: pregnant women. Yeah, I noticed. When I got pregnant and
• 46:09
  Speaker 1: there was no dad involved, the DMs were certainly popping.
• 46:13
  Speaker 5: Oh, oh my gosh.
• 46:13
  Speaker 1: This is the most men I've had in my DMs
• 46:16
  Speaker 1: like ever in my whole life. Sickos. I'm sure there
• 46:20
  Speaker 1: are Real sickos out there. Don't penis shame him, obviously.
• 46:24
  Speaker 1: That was a joke. But there's so many other ways
• 46:26
  Speaker 1: that you can have that intimate moment without him hurting
• 46:30
  Speaker 1: the baby or your body.
• 46:32
  Speaker 6: You've got to use reverse psychology on these guys.
• 46:36
  Speaker 1: Well, I personally would penis shame him. Yeah, they have
• 46:39
  Speaker 1: two heads. Big fan of the shaming. Two heads, they
• 46:41
  Speaker 1: think with one. Exactly. He's not the— The one time
• 46:46
  Speaker 1: we need him to think with the one they usually
• 46:48
  Speaker 1: think with, and he's not.
• 46:50
  Speaker 5: Yeah.
• 46:50
  Speaker 1: Men are so complex. They say we're complex. We're fucking
• 46:54
  Speaker 1: easy as it gets.
• 46:55
  Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah.
• 46:56
  Speaker 1: They are weird. We're good until menopause, and then we
• 47:01
  Speaker 1: go maybe a little psycho. You haven't even hit menopause.
• 47:05
  Speaker 1: I know, but I have a feeling when it happens. Oh,
• 47:08
  Speaker 1: I'm going to be off my rocker. Buckle up. Buckle up.
• 47:11
  Speaker 1: I'm injecting every hormone I possibly can into my body.
• 47:14
  Speaker 1: I'm running away for like five years and then I'll
• 47:17
  Speaker 1: be back. Holy gray. A full fucking hippie. I'll have
• 47:21
  Speaker 1: an eat, pray, love moment during menopause. Yeah, you will.
• 47:23
  Speaker 1: You're going to be like, I love my dry vagina.
• 47:25
  Speaker 1: This is what women go through.
• 47:28
  Speaker 4: Yes.
• 47:29
  Speaker 1: I've been bleeding for 97,000 moons. My stiff shoulder. What
• 47:34
  Speaker 1: do you get? You get like an ice shoulder, stiff shoulder?
• 47:36
  Speaker 1: I don't even know. What does that even mean? I
• 47:37
  Speaker 1: just learned about it. I just learned about that on
• 47:40
  Speaker 1: the Today Show, by the way. Oh, yeah. How weird.
• 47:42
  Speaker 1: They've been talking a lot about menopause. It's a hot
• 47:45
  Speaker 1: topic right now. This woman's not going through that, though.
• 47:47
  Speaker 1: She's pregnant. She's going through the opposite of menopause. Yeah, right?
• 47:52
  Speaker 6: And by the way, she's got to be careful because
• 47:53
  Speaker 6: once she has the baby and they start being intimate,
• 47:55
  Speaker 6: you can get pregnant like that. Like, if you have
• 47:58
  Speaker 6: sex within the first three months of giving birth, you
• 48:01
  Speaker 6: are so fertile that the chances of you getting pregnant are.
• 48:04
  Speaker 1: Like, so, so high. That face you just made. Okay,
• 48:10
  Speaker 1: next one. That was hysterical. Asap Rocky and Rihanna. Mm-hmm.
• 48:15
  Speaker 1: Super sperm.
• 48:16
  Speaker 7: Yeah.
• 48:17
  Speaker 1: Yeah, you're super fertile.
• 48:28
  Speaker 4: Hey, Lala.
• 48:28
  Speaker 7: My name's Jennifer. I'm from London, Ontario in Canada. Anyways,
• 48:33
  Speaker 7: I just want to read you what I wrote here.
• 48:34
  Speaker 7: Dear Lala, I'm 45 and I feel like I've lived
• 48:37
  Speaker 7: a few lifetimes already.
• 48:39
  Speaker 8: I've cheated.
• 48:39
  Speaker 7: I've been cheated on. I've loved hard. I've made mistakes.
• 48:43
  Speaker 7: I've had people walk away because I'm too blunt. But
• 48:47
  Speaker 7: one of the hardest things that I've ever experienced was
• 48:49
  Speaker 7: losing my best friend of 35 years. I took her
• 48:52
  Speaker 7: in when she had nowhere to go. While she was
• 48:54
  Speaker 7: living with me, she slept with my boyfriend. When my
• 48:56
  Speaker 7: family member I was renting from found out, my family
• 49:00
  Speaker 7: member kicked her out of my home. Somehow, she ended
• 49:03
  Speaker 7: up telling everybody that I had left her homeless. I
• 49:05
  Speaker 7: became the villain in her story. I was the one
• 49:09
  Speaker 7: who opened my home to her. That experience really changed
• 49:12
  Speaker 7: how I see loyalty, friendship, love, and even myself. So
• 49:15
  Speaker 7: my question for you guys, Lala and Amber, is when
• 49:19
  Speaker 7: you've made mistakes, but you've also been deeply hurt by
• 49:22
  Speaker 7: people you've trusted, how do you stop carrying everybody else's
• 49:25
  Speaker 7: version of you and finally decide who you want to
• 49:28
  Speaker 7: be in your next chapter? Anyways, thanks for listening. I
• 49:31
  Speaker 7: love you both. I think it's amazing that you rewrote
• 49:33
  Speaker 7: your story. I have a similar situation. I love her.
• 49:36
  Speaker 1: I know.
• 49:37
  Speaker 3: She's so sweet.
• 49:38
  Speaker 1: Love you both.
• 49:39
  Speaker 10: Have a good day.
• 49:40
  Speaker 1: You know what I've learned is you're never going to
• 49:44
  Speaker 1: get everyone on your side, right? And the moment that
• 49:48
  Speaker 1: you make changes for the people who don't like you,
• 49:50
  Speaker 1: the people that do like you are then going to
• 49:52
  Speaker 1: be like, I don't like who you are. So you
• 49:54
  Speaker 1: have to be able to lay your head down at
• 49:56
  Speaker 1: night and feel good about the person that you are.
• 49:59
  Speaker 1: And anybody who has boundaries, a backbone, is vocal... You
• 50:07
  Speaker 1: will always come out of this the villain. No matter
• 50:10
  Speaker 1: what I do, I am always looked at as someone
• 50:15
  Speaker 1: who is too aggressive, who is cruel. I am looked
• 50:22
  Speaker 1: at as I'm just, I'm too much. I'm a bitch.
• 50:27
  Speaker 1: People would say I'm a bitch. And that is hard
• 50:32
  Speaker 1: to take on because I just had this conversation with
• 50:36
  Speaker 1: my mom the other day where she said, you're harsh.
• 50:39
  Speaker 1: You're mean. And I was like, no, I can be harsh.
• 50:44
  Speaker 1: And I can be mean. But I'm not mean and
• 50:49
  Speaker 1: I'm not harsh. I'm actually very kind. You're just choosing
• 50:53
  Speaker 1: to focus on the times that maybe I have to
• 50:56
  Speaker 1: get a little intense with you so that you'll fucking
• 50:59
  Speaker 1: listen to me. I understand this girl so well. Because
• 51:05
  Speaker 1: she's going to be looked at as the girl who
• 51:06
  Speaker 1: left so-and-so homeless. And no one's going to care about
• 51:09
  Speaker 1: her story, right? Because she's not looked at as the
• 51:12
  Speaker 1: perfect victim. Because I'm sure in her day-to-day... She's tough.
• 51:16
  Speaker 1: She gets the fucking job done. She is not the
• 51:18
  Speaker 1: perfect victim where she's been a baby bird and then
• 51:21
  Speaker 1: done wrong. No, she checks people. You fuck around, you
• 51:24
  Speaker 1: find out. I don't want you to change that quality
• 51:27
  Speaker 1: about yourself because it's a wonderful quality. And if this
• 51:30
  Speaker 1: girl wants to go around and feels comfortable playing the victim,
• 51:34
  Speaker 1: let her do that. You go about your business. You're
• 51:37
  Speaker 1: not going to change anyone's mind. If anyone approaches you
• 51:40
  Speaker 1: and wants to talk about it, this is what happened.
• 51:42
  Speaker 1: I can't change her perspective. If she thinks I left
• 51:45
  Speaker 1: her homeless, then great. I left her homeless. By the way,
• 51:47
  Speaker 1: she's got to save herself. You know, she's got to
• 51:50
  Speaker 1: save herself.
• 51:50
  Speaker 6: And I've noticed something about myself recently where I give
• 51:56
  Speaker 6: less fucks about what people think, my decisions, the, like,
• 52:00
  Speaker 6: even the things that I say to them.
• 52:01
  Speaker 1: Like I just, that is the beauty of getting older
• 52:05
  Speaker 1: and having experience in life. And it feels good.
• 52:08
  Speaker 6: Like Being able to trust yourself and your decisions and
• 52:11
  Speaker 6: your choices, like that's how you build self-worth, self-respect.
• 52:17
  Speaker 1: I love what you just said. And it does come
• 52:19
  Speaker 1: with age. It cannot be taught. It's just something that
• 52:24
  Speaker 1: happens when you hit a certain point in life and
• 52:26
  Speaker 1: you're like, I don't care. So don't try to change
• 52:30
  Speaker 1: people's minds. You know what? I actually like being the
• 52:32
  Speaker 1: villain in people's stories. Most people don't like being the villain.
• 52:37
  Speaker 1: Because the villain means that I will come for you
• 52:41
  Speaker 1: if you fuck around. Yeah, but you're not a bad villain. No,
• 52:45
  Speaker 1: but when they try to paint me, like on reality TV,
• 52:48
  Speaker 1: I think people would say, I mean, I'm not a
• 52:50
  Speaker 1: villain like fucking Jax Taylor by any means, but like
• 52:53
  Speaker 1: there would be some people that say she's a reality
• 52:56
  Speaker 1: TV villain. Okay, great. That just means that I say
• 53:00
  Speaker 1: what no one else wants to say.
• 53:02
  Speaker 2: Right.
• 53:02
  Speaker 1: I put up a boundary. I call shit out when
• 53:05
  Speaker 1: it doesn't make sense. And you know what? The part where, like,
• 53:09
  Speaker 1: I take accountability for the shit that comes out of
• 53:12
  Speaker 1: my mouth, if I regret it and it was wrong,
• 53:16
  Speaker 1: I'm standing ten toes down on this season of The Valley.
• 53:19
  Speaker 1: Chef's kiss. No notes for me, by the way.
• 53:22
  Speaker 5: Ha ha.
• 53:25
  Speaker 1: That gets pushed aside because I out-mean people, right? You do.
• 53:31
  Speaker 4: You do.
• 53:31
  Speaker 1: That's a gift, by the way. That's a talent. It's
• 53:35
  Speaker 1: a talent. Well, thank you. I think I just came
• 53:39
  Speaker 1: this way. That's how I was as a kid. No,
• 53:40
  Speaker 1: you did.
• 53:41
  Speaker 10: I know.
• 53:41
  Speaker 1: People would push me into a corner, and then I
• 53:45
  Speaker 1: would react, and then my reaction outshadowed what they had done.
• 53:50
  Speaker 1: So that's what happened. She.
• 53:54
  Speaker 1: Fucked your boyfriend which no one was there to actually
• 53:57
  Speaker 1: see and then your boundary is kicking her out that's
• 54:00
  Speaker 1: something people can see oh this woman's homeless and that's
• 54:03
  Speaker 1: the woman responsible yeah so it's like unless it's put
• 54:07
  Speaker 1: in front of your face no one really gives a
• 54:09
  Speaker 1: shit be the village she fucked your boyfriend get the
• 54:11
  Speaker 1: fuck out of my house yeah i don't really care
• 54:13
  Speaker 1: if you're homeless you should have thought about that where
• 54:16
  Speaker 1: you fucked my boyfriend And anyone, by the way, anyone
• 54:20
  Speaker 1: who thinks that you're the villain in this, they're fucking dumbasses.
• 54:24
  Speaker 1: And you don't want them on your team when you're
• 54:26
  Speaker 1: going to war because those motherfuckers get slaughtered first. Again,
• 54:29
  Speaker 1: I've been watching Game of Thrones.
• 54:32
  Speaker 4: And on that.
• 54:33
  Speaker 6: Note, thank you for watching another episode of an unlikely affair.
• 54:39
  Speaker 1: Yes, hold on. Before we sign off, you guys, we
• 54:41
  Speaker 1: have officially launched an unlikely affair merch. You can shop. sweatshirts, t-shirts, uh,
• 54:49
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• 54:55
  Speaker 1: And the back is the best part.
• 54:57
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 54:59
  Speaker 1: Tell people what it says on the back of the shirt.
• 55:01
  Speaker 6: It says tour dates, all of the, all of our,
• 55:05
  Speaker 6: where we're going across the United States.
• 55:06
  Speaker 1: And just so you know, it's T B a Easton
• 55:10
  Speaker 1: came up with the merge. I was like, Hey, can
• 55:12
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• 55:14
  Speaker 1: And when he showed me, I was like, this is it.
• 55:16
  Speaker 1: No notes. I cackled. Every single one is TBA, TBA, TBA.
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  Speaker 4: Love you.
• 55:42
  Speaker 1: Have a great weekend.
• 55:44
  Speaker 4: Yes.
• 55:44
  Speaker 1: Fuck yeah. Cheers to the weekend. Cheers to the freaking weekend.
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  Speaker 10: Bye.
• 55:48
  Speaker 1: Bye.