Latest / CALL ME MISTRESS / (VIDEO) MISTRESS MIA AND SOME REAL TALK
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- 0:22Hi, welcome to the latest episode.
- 0:24Call Me a Mistress. I'm your Hostess, Mistress Mia,
- 0:27and today we're going to go over a couple of interesting emails.
- 0:32So for starters, one of my absolute favorite people is
- 0:37Tony. Tony wrote me and we'd spoken
- 0:41right before New Year's Eve. So here we are.
- 0:45And he wrote me a new letter. He said good morning, Mistress
- 0:49Mia. I'm so sorry.
- 0:50I went a little radio silent here.
- 0:52I've been meaning to message you back.
- 0:55I love speaking with you on the phone.
- 0:58It was so nice to be able to have a conversation with you
- 1:00about things that I usually would never talk about or bring
- 1:03to light. To actually say something out
- 1:06loud and get feedback is so great.
- 1:09Thank you for that. I swear I could talk to you and
- 1:13pick your brain for hours. What you do is so interesting to
- 1:16me and I love hearing all the details into how the sausage is
- 1:21made. I'm sorry to hear your New
- 1:25Year's Eve plans did not work out.
- 1:27Sounds like your Sissy got called into work.
- 1:30I hope you guys get to reschedule and make this a
- 1:32reality for you. I think you'll have a lot of fun
- 1:36with them both. Oh, and on my front, New Year's
- 1:42Eve didn't go as planned either. Honestly, we both lost track of
- 1:47time. I always make a big dinner every
- 1:49New Year's Eve. This year was fried calamari,
- 1:53steak, crab legs, lobster tails and mashed potatoes.
- 1:59By the time we were done cooking, eating and cleaning it
- 2:01was nearly the new year. I still have plans to do what we
- 2:05talked about. I think my wife will really
- 2:08respond to it. I have tried tying her up before
- 2:12and played around but not like this and I think she will like
- 2:16it and like the change up. I will definitely report back to
- 2:20you and let you know how it went.
- 2:23One thing I wanted to clarify with you is my feelings of
- 2:26submission. In the podcast you mentioned I
- 2:30wanted to be submissive to men. That's not exactly correct.
- 2:34I've played with men in the past.
- 2:36You bet. Did I have some fun and really
- 2:39hot sex and get my ass fucked good?
- 2:43Absolutely, but if I'm choosing I'd rather be submissive to a
- 2:48woman and get my ass fucked with a strap on.
- 2:51For me men were always just the easiest option to be submissive
- 2:56and scratch that sub itch at the top of the hat.
- 3:01I can go on grinder and find a man and be fucking within
- 3:05minutes, or I can go to the local adult store and fuck
- 3:08around in the booths. The convenience can't be beat
- 3:12and it's pretty hot knowing that at any moment that it's
- 3:15available to me every turn. Very tempting, but to be honest
- 3:22it's not something I'm really seeking out anymore.
- 3:25Things change. I went to the adult booths
- 3:28recently and just wanted nothing to do with anyone.
- 3:31Every once in a while I'll go on Grinder and see if anyone is
- 3:34close because it does turn me on knowing that the option is there
- 3:39and so close, but at this point in my life it's not something
- 3:44really worth pursuing. Don't get me wrong, I still love
- 3:47gay porn and watch and jerk off to gay porn because it's still
- 3:52the best porn. My soft spot is still dominant
- 3:57women. When I see a mistress clad in
- 4:00leather with a mean look on her face, my knees get weak.
- 4:07Maybe someday I'll have an opportunity to submit to a pro
- 4:10Dom again. Never say never, but I will just
- 4:13have to be content with porn and some webcam girls.
- 4:17Lately I've been doing the webcam with some Doms.
- 4:20I enjoy the interaction and love taking orders and being told
- 4:23what to do. That's why I enjoy poppers and
- 4:26popper play so much. I can have a Dom give me an
- 4:29orders to take three hits of poppers and hold my breath for
- 4:3315 seconds and I get the thrill of following her commands and
- 4:37the humiliation of it. So enough about me, I always end
- 4:42up rambling. How has your new year gone so
- 4:46far? Are you busy in the dungeon?
- 4:48I hope so. Hopefully we can talk again
- 4:51soon. I really enjoyed it and thanks
- 4:53for taking the time as always to speak and to write to me, Tony.
- 5:01So you know, Tony, I will absolutely apologize because I
- 5:08thought as well that you really wanted to be submissive to men.
- 5:12But now I know it's just the, the female aspect of things and,
- 5:17you know, getting fucked with a strap on, can't say I blame you.
- 5:21It's absolutely one of my favorite things to do.
- 5:25You never have to apologize for going radio silent on me.
- 5:28That's not ever an issue or a thought in my mind.
- 5:32You know when you can write me or you can call me, It's a
- 5:36matter of you having your own time.
- 5:38You have a life. So you know, it was it was a
- 5:42great conversation. I felt like I'm monopolized a
- 5:45little bit too much. But I for the listeners, I gave
- 5:49Tony the advice that his wife wanted to experience her by side
- 5:57be bisexual. And I told him that he really
- 6:01should focus on feeling more like a feminine person when
- 6:09they're in bed together. And I said something like, you
- 6:12know, tie her up, making it very sensual, making it very erotic.
- 6:17Do sensory play things where she's not going to feel your,
- 6:20your hair, your chest hair or your facial hair or anything
- 6:25like that. It's really just about her
- 6:29feeling a softer side and, you know, feeling as if she is with
- 6:35a female more so than a male. And I know it's difficult.
- 6:39I mean, it's not like an easy to ask like whoo, I can feel manly.
- 6:43But it's little things that you can do.
- 6:46It's the sensory play. It's, you know, having her feel
- 6:50very having her feel things very softly and you know, the candle
- 6:54burning and make it much more sensual and and feminine.
- 7:01I think that's something that she probably wants.
- 7:05And that was our conversation. We talked a little bit about
- 7:08that and we talked a few other things, but you know, overall
- 7:11was a great conversation. I know you talk about the
- 7:17concept of, you know, being a man, how easy it is to go on
- 7:21grinder. I've gone on Grinder as a Dom
- 7:24because there's a lot of guys like you who want to see a Dom.
- 7:28They don't really think about the resources in order to get a
- 7:32Dom. And you know, I'll go on there
- 7:35and I'll look at locals and that kind of thing.
- 7:38A lot of men are flakes though. They get really horned up.
- 7:42They start playing with themselves.
- 7:43They go on Grinder and before they come to actually meet you,
- 7:47they've already gotten off. They're done.
- 7:49So it's really a hit or miss because you never know if
- 7:53there's flakes or what have you. You just don't.
- 7:56Now, here locally, there is a lot of, like, bear men.
- 8:01And, you know, they're fifties, 60s, early 70s even.
- 8:05And they all get together at this guy's apartment.
- 8:08He always posted on Fetlife. And he's like, Oh yeah, you
- 8:12know, here's the gay orgy. And he's even posted pictures.
- 8:16I'm like, fuck yeah, Grandpa, get that Dick.
- 8:21I mean, you know, whatever floats his boat with that.
- 8:24I think it's great. Whatever makes him happy.
- 8:27And you mentioned the whole things with the poppers.
- 8:31When a Dom tells you to do poppers, well, we've had
- 8:34bisexual guys that have come to do like anal play and that kind
- 8:38of stuff and they bring their poppers and I'll hold the
- 8:43poppers for them, you know, while they had their mask on or
- 8:47why they have their, their hands, you know, in cuffs or
- 8:51whatever. And I'm just like, here it is,
- 8:53sniff it, sniff it. To me, it's stinks.
- 8:59I don't like the smell of it, but I'm like, you know, in a
- 9:02session, go ahead and do it, you know, just sniff it.
- 9:05It's funny because the reaction and their response is, you know,
- 9:11they relax and it's, you know, they think it's hot and erotic
- 9:15and they love it. So now I'm there, you know, go
- 9:20ahead and snort it and, you know, get all hot and bothered.
- 9:25Whatever floats your boat. But let's see, there was
- 9:33something else I saw, always saw the poppers.
- 9:35And then, yeah, an e-mail about the whole concept with Grinder.
- 9:39I had this kid and he was probably, gosh, he was 24 going
- 9:46on 14. He was just like a little man
- 9:49child. He annoyed the shit out of me
- 9:51and he came to me and told me that when he was growing up, his
- 9:59mother would tie him up in the garage with a collar and leash
- 10:04on and act as if he was a dog. And she would do that for
- 10:12punishment. And I was like, wow, your mother
- 10:18is a medical professional and she would treat her son like a
- 10:27rabid dog or something crazy because she would put a collar
- 10:31and leash on him and put the collar and leash on outside in
- 10:35the garage and tie him up in the garage for punishment.
- 10:41Yeah, I couldn't fathom that. But she also coddled him so much
- 10:48that here he is, you know, 2425 years old, acting like he's a 14
- 10:53year old child. And, you know, he gets fired
- 10:57from his jobs because he's sexually inappropriate with Co
- 11:00workers or he's made sexual innuendos that are, again,
- 11:04inappropriate. And the kid has just struggled.
- 11:08And when he came over, I think at the second or third time, he
- 11:13brought his girlfriend. And his girlfriend is not
- 11:17dominant. She's very much a switch or even
- 11:21more so submissive. And he was just like, Mr. Smea,
- 11:25I want you to teach her how to be dominant.
- 11:28And I was like, look, if she doesn't want to be dominant,
- 11:32it's not going to happen. And this girl was like, I can't
- 11:37do it. I, I don't have it in me to be
- 11:40like that. You know, I can play a little
- 11:42bit, but I can't take it to the next level.
- 11:45And that's something that he wanted.
- 11:48So when that relationship failed and it did, it was like 9 months
- 11:55into it and that was it. When that failed, he was like,
- 12:00he couldn't find a woman or, you know, a young lady in early 20s
- 12:08to even play with because, you know, they wanted dominant
- 12:11males. They didn't want this kid who,
- 12:14you know, was into puppy play or sysification.
- 12:17They weren't interested in that. And then he couldn't meet anyone
- 12:20in the vanilla world because he would be inappropriate and he
- 12:26would get in trouble. And so he couldn't develop
- 12:29relationships at work in a normal setting because he
- 12:34couldn't behave properly. And then he just had this little
- 12:41idea that he thought, well, I'm just going to go on grinder and
- 12:45maybe I can just find somebody to play with.
- 12:48Because he tried dating sites didn't work and he didn't want
- 12:53to do anything vanilla. He wanted to find this female
- 12:55Dom and blah, blah, blah. But he kind of had a personality
- 12:59just kind of off putting. Again, he was very demanding on
- 13:03his girlfriend and, you know, they broke up for that reason.
- 13:08And so then he got on grinder and he messaged me when it first
- 13:13happened. He's like, yeah, you know, I met
- 13:15this this guy in his car in the parking lot and next thing you
- 13:19know, I'm sucking his Dick. And I was like, OK, so you know,
- 13:29no judgement, but it's like I I just, you know, when you don't
- 13:34even say that you're bi or, you know, you really want to explore
- 13:37anything. And you know, to me, there's
- 13:40some slutty women out there and you can find them, but you got
- 13:44to have game. And, you know, he just did not
- 13:48have any game and he wasn't really offering anything because
- 13:53he wouldn't act like an adult. So last thing I heard, you know,
- 13:58he got on hormones, now he wants to be a woman.
- 14:01Now he's growing titties. And, you know, it's like, OK, I
- 14:10don't know. It's it's one of those things,
- 14:15you know, so many people probably wouldn't like my
- 14:17opinion on that. But you know, maybe if you don't
- 14:21have game, maybe you just have to switch teams for that reason.
- 14:25I don't know. I haven't been in that position.
- 14:29You know, I've played, you know, with both teams and all three
- 14:33teams, I should say trans, female, male doesn't matter.
- 14:38I mean, people are people, but I think if you have an off putting
- 14:40personality and you can't connect in a normal setting,
- 14:45then you need to take some social cues or, you know, take
- 14:49some classes on social interaction.
- 14:52I mean there are such things, but I don't know.
- 14:56As long as she, her, they, whatever they're, you know, live
- 15:00their best life. However it may be.
- 15:03It is what it is. Funny story.
- 15:06So you talk about poppers and this is again, I do these
- 15:09things. I don't judge.
- 15:11I really don't give a fuck. People all make their choice and
- 15:14what they do, and that's life, you know, we all make our own
- 15:18choices and the things that we do.
- 15:20So I can't judge anyone for that.
- 15:24You know, I had this people take the free liberty to think that
- 15:29they're so fucking special. And honestly, we're all the same
- 15:34people. It doesn't matter.
- 15:37But this, this asshole decides that he's going to write me
- 15:43because he thinks that I want to hear him come.
- 15:48And he says, oh, your voice is so sexy, Mistress.
- 15:51Man, you know, I love your podcast, but I want to hear you
- 15:55come and I want to come. And I'm like, yeah, how much you
- 16:01want to pay me to do phone sex? Yeah, I'm not going to be coming
- 16:06on the phone. I'll walk you through it and
- 16:10I'll tell you what a little bitch you are for a week.
- 16:14You know, we can do some fun role play, but don't write me a
- 16:18fucking e-mail and say something effective.
- 16:22I want to come for you, you know?
- 16:24I know you want to hear me come. I'll even send a video or
- 16:27picture. No, no, I'm not this little kink
- 16:33dispenser. It's just, it's so annoying.
- 16:36It really is. And then I had this other guy
- 16:39and he writes me all the fucking time.
- 16:42And he should realize that if I don't respond to his stupid
- 16:46emails because he's like, hey mistress, were you wearing
- 16:49panties? Hey mistress, do you like
- 16:51pantyhose? Hey, what's your opinion on
- 16:53this? And I'm thinking annoying.
- 17:00So I've had to block some people.
- 17:03It's just the fact of life. It is what it is.
- 17:09Let's see, you know, Tony asked how my year was going.
- 17:13My year has been weird, and there's been a few issues that
- 17:18have come up. Yeah.
- 17:24You know, you have those people in your life that you've never
- 17:29met that make assumptions on what you do, and then they judge
- 17:33you for it. And then they put you in social
- 17:35media platforms and yeah, yeah, you know, you try to explain to
- 17:44people if you're a dominatrix, you're not fucking people.
- 17:49No, we're not hookers and people just associate BDSM in the
- 17:54wrong, the wrong context of of human sexuality.
- 18:00So yeah, I was talking to Layla London on The Curious Girl, and
- 18:09we're actually going to be doing another interview tomorrow.
- 18:13And you know, she is, she's a cool lady.
- 18:17She has a great show. And, you know, we talked in
- 18:23great lengths and we really talked about a lot.
- 18:28And on this this next show, she's going to ask me.
- 18:33I talked to her about being able to read people and know what
- 18:38they like sexually when I see a person when I talk to them.
- 18:42And yeah, I have that, that weird little thing that I can do
- 18:46and just kind of read people just from my own experiences.
- 18:51But sometimes I just want to block that out.
- 18:55Like, I don't really want to see that with people, you know?
- 19:03But then sometimes I look at celebrities and you look at them
- 19:06and you're thinking, oh, I wonder what he likes in bed.
- 19:08Oh, yeah. You know, it's kind of like, oh,
- 19:11Channing Tatum, he looks like he wants to be put in panties and,
- 19:15you know, for me to sit on his face.
- 19:20So that kind of thing is kind of fun just to think about.
- 19:24Oh, goodness. Let's see.
- 19:26Oh, when I was thinking about the whole popper thing.
- 19:29So yeah, that kind of brought this up.
- 19:32It was kind of funny, but years ago when I was doing phone sex,
- 19:40you know, I did it in college after college and and I did it
- 19:47because it was so easy. You know, you log into your
- 19:49account. Of course, I had a landline.
- 19:52It worked out great. But you log into your account
- 19:56and it pops up, it pops up what kind of genre you're going to be
- 20:02doing. And so like it would be like
- 20:07college girl cheerleader and then it would be urban.
- 20:12So, you know, you could do like a Jamaican accent or a black
- 20:17type accent. Then they had country girl.
- 20:22You know, everything was very stereotypical.
- 20:26Because they wanted those, the stereo role plays.
- 20:29And then they had trans, you know, so I did all these voices
- 20:33which I can mimic a lot of voices and it's fun to do it.
- 20:37I didn't have an issue with it, but I had this one guy and he
- 20:41would always call me and funny thing, one of their genres was
- 20:46not a voice. It was being a dominant and it
- 20:49would say BDSM. And I was like, Oh, my favorite.
- 20:53And so this guy would call me and he was a movie producer.
- 21:00And I thought, oh, how cool is this?
- 21:04You know? So he told me who he was and,
- 21:07you know, I looked him up and everything.
- 21:08And then ultimately we talked after and, you know, I gave him
- 21:14my own, my own phone number. And, you know, we talked
- 21:17thereafter and he was, he was really cool.
- 21:19He would send me gifts and that kind of thing.
- 21:22But he was a coke addict. He loved crack cocaine.
- 21:28And so, you know, he's going to do it regardless.
- 21:31But, you know, he'd call me and he'd want to play with himself.
- 21:35And you know, a lot of times when people are under the
- 21:39influence like that, they'll get what we call cold Dick so they
- 21:44don't get a hard on or they, you know, they, they keep trying to
- 21:47play with themselves and nothing happens.
- 21:50And so when he called me, he didn't have an issue cause a lot
- 21:56of people just don't have an issue.
- 21:58They don't get the cold Dick. But he'd call me and I would
- 22:01hear him in his car going up to his dealer, getting fucking
- 22:06drugs, breaking out his crack pipe.
- 22:10And, you know, here Tony's innocent telling me, Oh yeah,
- 22:13yeah, Loveland, you know, these girls will tell me, oh, use my
- 22:17poppers, you know, So it's like, oh, snort the poppers.
- 22:20Well, this guy was fucking smoking crack, OK?
- 22:24And he would say, Mistress, how many, how many puffs do I need
- 22:27to get? Oh my God, just do 2 puffs, you
- 22:30know, then I'd hear him, you know, like the fucking lighter
- 22:32and do the pop crack pie. But I was like, this is what my
- 22:35life has come to. What the fuck am I doing?
- 22:41No judgement. So don't judge me.
- 22:43You know, people are going to do them regardless.
- 22:48And it's it's a horrible, horrible addiction.
- 22:51Drug addictions, awful alcoholism, horrible.
- 22:55I mean, it's just, it's so sad when addictions take over your
- 22:59life. And ultimately it consumed him.
- 23:03But it's sad because he was a very nice guy.
- 23:06He had all these, you know, great qualities and he's a super
- 23:11cool guy. He really was.
- 23:15So we had an interesting week. I'll just jump off that topic.
- 23:23So I see this very passable cross dresser and he comes to
- 23:27see me once or twice a month and, and he came into the
- 23:32dungeon and we always do like extreme bondage.
- 23:36And you know, he walks around and, you know, I put him on a
- 23:39collar and leash and, you know, make him do little things around
- 23:42the dungeon. And it's, it's sweet, it's
- 23:45really cool. He's a super nice guy.
- 23:49And we just talk about different things he's done and I'll
- 23:53usually give him a task to do. So last week I told him to, I
- 23:59told him to go to Victoria's Secret and get measurement for a
- 24:02bra and be sure to take his, his little gel insert titties with
- 24:09them so that they could measure his cup.
- 24:15It was so cute. And he's such a cute guy too.
- 24:18Such a cute guy. But yeah, we had a great time.
- 24:23We really did. We we talked, we did, we did
- 24:28some rope play and we did a few different things.
- 24:31But yeah, you know, you just got to love the crossdressers.
- 24:35You really do. One of my crossdressers is going
- 24:39to be leaving and moving across country and I don't know when
- 24:44I'll see him. Now he's, you know, pushing
- 24:476263. Doesn't look it.
- 24:49But yeah, I'll miss him while he's gone.
- 24:57So the other thing I'm going to bring up is I have a cross
- 25:01dresser and I actually posted a video of him on Fetlife last
- 25:07night, and he has a KED shoe fetish.
- 25:13And he brought me a pair of KED's years ago and he started
- 25:22coming to see me when he was like a sophomore in college and
- 25:26just cute, adorable, cute, adorable guy.
- 25:30I, I can't even describe how cute he is, but yeah, so he, I
- 25:38think the first session that we ever did, you know, he's wearing
- 25:42heads. He wants to dress like a
- 25:43cheerleader. And I'm like, you're a Sissy.
- 25:46I think you want a cock in your mouth.
- 25:49He's like, no, no, no, no, not me, not me.
- 25:54Well, I was right. And now here it's been, you
- 25:58know, almost 10 years, and now he wants to have a Sissy party
- 26:05with Keds as a theme so that he's going to get Keds for all
- 26:12the attendees. Yeah, you just tell me your shoe
- 26:15size. You tell me your shoe size, and
- 26:19he'll get you a pair of Keds. So it's going to be interesting.
- 26:24He wants to do a few different things and yeah, probably do
- 26:29like lunch and Sissy and stuff like that around the pool and
- 26:34make him walk in his little kids and we'll make him do cute
- 26:37little tasks. It'll be really, it'll be quite
- 26:40fun and that's what he wants to do.
- 26:43So I'm looking forward to that. But I posted a video of him and
- 26:49I was like, yeah, people comment he wants humiliation,
- 26:53degradation, tell him he's weak and pathetic.
- 26:58But in the video he's he's hitting his Dick with one of his
- 27:02kids. I adore him.
- 27:07He's so fucking cute. And I interviewed him as well a
- 27:12few months back and he's on the episode of Whitney.
- 27:17And but, yeah, we talked about different things.
- 27:20And, yeah, it was interesting, Yeah.
- 27:27But I haven't been too exciting in this episode.
- 27:30I'm kind of losing my voice. I'm getting over a cold.
- 27:33So I don't look my best. I don't feel my best.
- 27:36So bear with me. But yeah.
- 27:42So aside from that, happy Monday.
- 27:46And I hope you all have a wonderful, fabulous week.
- 27:51And yeah, as Tony had asked me how's my, my year going?
- 27:57It's been, it's been interesting.
- 28:01I'm having a birthday this month and that should be a lot of fun.
- 28:07My husband's working on a lovely slave bed for me.
- 28:12It's going to be a convertible bed where you lift the foot
- 28:15board and he's going to have two compartments, one for him and
- 28:20one for my Sissy slave. So we'll see how that goes and
- 28:26I'm really looking forward to it.
- 28:29He's going to have it padded on the inside and they'll they'll
- 28:32be a like foam mattress and both of them.
- 28:35So they'll both be very comfortable and they'll be
- 28:38proper ventilation. And then that way they can sleep
- 28:42in there and I can do whatever I want on top of the bed.
- 28:50So when that's finally finished, I will be posting pictures of
- 28:54that and might even do a little video to show you how fucking
- 29:00cool it's going to be. So I'm looking forward to it.
- 29:04But until then, I appreciate all of you.
- 29:09You know, I'm always happy to take a valid e-mail with valid
- 29:13questions. Not about your orgasms, not that
- 29:18I really want to hear you come. That's not my goal.
- 29:22You know, if you're cute and young and you're local, I might
- 29:27play with you in the dungeon for some fun.
- 29:29That's always good. But if you're going to be gross
- 29:33and appropriate, you have to question yourself.
- 29:37Is this why I'm single? Or is this why my wife will not
- 29:41play with me because I act like a cock sucker?
- 29:44Yeah. So men respect women.
- 29:49Just be respectful. You know, women are not Bros.
- 29:54You know, they can be hoes, but they're not fucking Bros.
- 29:58They're not. They're for your entertainment.
- 30:02Maybe submissive women are, but myself being a dominant female,
- 30:08being a dominatrix, yeah, my, my little goal in life is not to
- 30:13hear all these men have orgasms, whether it's via phone or see a
- 30:18picture or even a fucking video. Just not my, my thing, you know?
- 30:26But but yeah, if you have some interesting ideas on what you
- 30:30want to talk about or if you want me to reach out to someone
- 30:34to interview, I'm always happy to do that.
- 30:37One of my friends reached out a couple months back and he's
- 30:41like, why don't you interview, you know, the woman who fucked
- 30:47what is 1000 men? Bonnie Blue, I think her name of
- 30:51it is. But I reached out to her and at
- 30:54that time it was like the same day she ended up getting
- 30:57arrested. So I haven't looked that up.
- 30:59I haven't seen the outcome on that.
- 31:01So yeah, the crazy things we do, but I'm looking forward talking
- 31:07to Layla tomorrow and outside of that, that's it.
- 31:12Easy peasy. So if yeah, we'll see how your
- 31:20year goes. And I wish all of you the best.
- 31:23And until then, this has been the latest episode of Call Me
- 31:28Mistress.