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Lessons - Standing Out and Being Different | Peter Hopwood - Speaking Trainer, TEDx Coach · Success Story with Scott Clary

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  How being different is good for presentation. That's fine, but in the world of zoom and virtual
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  being different is
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  How do we achieve that because
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  We have all these different tools. We want to engage people we want to maybe suspend judgment
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  We want to focus on our voice and how do we how do we be different?
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  Yeah, good really good question. I think the first thing that comes to mind for me certainly is that
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  We have to all our signals. We have to amplify them
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  Right, so however we are in the real world. We need to amplify them slightly more here
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  So right now you can see just by I'm looking now at the screen at myself
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  My hand is here other hand is here because it's in this frame. I can see I'm really aware of this this sort of square frame
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  That I'm in right now and my hands are up here
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  They're like they're sort of like here where you know level with my chin and sort of down here
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  And I'm sort of playing in this area and I'm really happy and comfortable with that area
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  But it's deliberate if I was talking to you in the real world having a coffee
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  I would not have my hands up here. I'd be like ridiculous weirdo. What the hell is he doing?
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  So but I can do it here because it lets you see my hands
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  It lets you see what I'm doing on my hands and I articulate better when I use my hands
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  And it just gives you this hopefully maybe it doesn't but I think it does hopefully it gives you this impression
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  You listen more to what I have to say and certain key words and certain things I'm saying in certain phrases
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  You remember more because I'm using these slight gestures as well my background what you see behind me
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  Here's one thing to remember we can we can control this completely
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  If we're meeting somebody at their office or we're at a conference and we're on a stage
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  All these environments are not our environment environments. We don't choose these. It's not ours
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  But here we can choose it
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  We're fully in control and we can feel comfortable, right? This is my spot
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  Often we have our own zoom spot. Don't we own virtual exchange spot where we do what I call I imagine that's where you do
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  Well, I know it is where you pretty much do all most of your
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  Podcasts perhaps your yes, you know virtually exchanges as well. So we feel really comfortable
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  Right, so we can we're actually in our own comfort zone and that's a good thing
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  So feeling comfortable in our own environment is a good thing and it lets people in kind of you're letting
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  I'm letting you into my little area. This is mine and it's it's it's a very
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  It's where I live and you're in it now and I guess, you know, that's where you were perhaps you live there as well
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  I do. I do love you over there. Yeah, great. Wonderful
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  So we're kind of like there's an intimate part of us that we've both shared already
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  Even before we begin
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  Now if we have a if we had a background a like a fake background or a digital background
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  That doesn't always give us this what we have now
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  Right, so just think about how to make connections and how to stand out what we wear
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  What we wear can sometimes be something that people remember
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  I look I'm looking at you now and to your right to your left but to my right books on the shelf
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  Yeah, a nice bookshelf you've got the the blue lights probably down below on the ground that's beaming up perhaps yeah, that right yeah
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  Um, and there's nice light coming on your on your eyes on your face. I see you got the lights on center all your expressions
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  You look great and like so I can see all your expressions. There's no distraction. There's no kind of like
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  Something that's stopping me your voice
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  Your you have an external camera. I'm sorry an external microphone. I'm sure yeah, right you're using
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  Whatever you're using. It's good quality
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  So good quality sound is always something that makes people feel
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  It's more appealing like I said before when it goes lower a lower tone. It's more appealing
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  So quality sound is appealing and not distracting and as we go through this whole
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  This whole pandemic and this this this journey's COVID journey together and as the months and even perhaps years go on
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  We expect
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  better quality sound in our exchanges, don't we and we expect better quality visuals in our exchanges when it all started last year
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  We kind of okay, we're kind of accepting that okay, maybe the camera's not right or the the lighting's not great and and the sounds not good
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  But really a year and a half on
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  We've had enough time to to to really think about how we're going to present ourselves
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  So so even before you begin the setup is a such an important part
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  Doing things slightly different so you can again you can see
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  I'm standing up. I was gonna ask you. I'm not standing up
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  And I actually wanted to my bookshelf is in high enough my bookshelf isn't high enough
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  I want to stand up, but
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  Ah
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  Right
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  because because I would tell you you
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  You could get if I was look if you asked me now if if I thought you were standing out
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  I'm not sure because you that bookshelf for me could be actually a tall bookshelf correct
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  Yeah, I would love to stand up. I have a standing desk and everything but it's that's the next that's the next step in the background because it gives you energy, right?
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  So
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  Yeah, I feel more
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  In control of
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  My sound because the air is coming in better through my body. I can I can actually move better here
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  I don't know whether you've noticed, but I
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  My body sometimes I'm leaning forward like yes
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  Sometimes I lean my head to the sides perhaps or we'll go like this perhaps towards the camera leaning sometimes I lean back
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  And the great thing about this is it is different. It's different than just let's say always sitting down and and not moving
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  We need to move the bet the more we move not
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  Fast movements, but the more we create movement
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  the more people's brains are
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  our kind of
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  Triggered does that makes it does it does so the more we're moving we have to keep things moving and that
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  And and and switching things up sometimes I speak a little bit faster sometimes I'm a bit lower maybe even go towards the mic a little bit more
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  More of this this kind of a time
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  Sometimes I'm I'm as I say right up closer to the to the script to the camera even my hands are going closer
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  Sometimes I'm back here. There's other things you can do as well, which again make makes it stick out
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  This is something from I used in a in a keynote not so long ago. So using
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  Instead of a PowerPoint using like
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  cards, this is just a bit of card with the with a title on it bang and people see that they remember it and it goes away and then I continue
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  So you remember what you probably remember what was written on there because it's different the color perhaps as well
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  There were so many things you could do so bringing things to the
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  To the environment you're in
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  Can can can be memorable. I'm going to ask you now. I'll ask you now. So scots
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  I I've got some books right in front of me. I would love you just to grab one of those books. Yeah, from your shelf
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  Favorite one and bring it and show it to me on the screen
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  You've got great books and you put them in colors. I can see and it is one of this is this is a great
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  That's a great one
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  Okay, and this is my one rules of work
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  So the rules of work. This is my one here and that's your one there and so
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  This this I then could then ask I could ask you I could say tell me tell me about this book
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  Where did you get it? Why did you buy it? There's a story behind every object every single object. There's a story behind it
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  I can just I could go like this look. This is a bottle of water. This is an object. There's a story behind this
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  Isn't there where I bought it why I've got this bottle? Why not a smaller bottle? Why didn't I buy juice? I mean, you know, so bringing things to
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  Bringing things to to this environment. We can't do that in the real world
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  We only we can but with this we can all bring something
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  And so I ask you bring a bring a book to
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  To this to this exchange and show it on the screen a book that you've chosen
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  When I ask you that you're also intrigued probably to know what I've got yeah, I'm sure you are
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  And I can then give you I was gonna ask you. Well, that's that's one of the that's one of the other questions at the end
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  So I
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  I want to get I want to get a book recommendation from you, but I guess that's it
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  Well, that's the first one I grabbed. I've got a whole load of books
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  If you do ask me that I might get another book
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  But the thing is bringing objects and bringing things to the equation bringing things that you can't do otherwise
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  These things help people remember and they're different and they're
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  They're um, yeah, they they change things up. There's something called. I love this. It's it's called an attention reset
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  It's where you kind of you mix things up
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  Throughout your call or throughout your webinar or throughout your presentation. So as you see I use this
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  I could use that for the for the the titles. I could then bring an object to the
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  To the to this exchange. I could then tell you an anecdote a small mini story
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  I could then tell you maybe I'm giving you an analogy about something
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  I could then give you maybe it may be a big statement about something. I could then give you maybe a
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  The statistic perhaps
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  So every time I share one of those things
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  your brain
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  Translates that in a different way. So like it appeals to different parts. It breaks the pattern
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  It breaks the pattern. I mean, so if I if I was to just if I would yeah, that's it breaks the pattern
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  It shakes things up
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  It juices things up and it shakes things up. I could just talk to you about statistics numbers figures
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  more statistics numbers and figures
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  Throughout this whole conversation, right? You'd remember a couple, but it would get boring and you would
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  You would probably tune out, but if I put in statistics then I'd through through in a story
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  That was relevance to to the main message then I may be then I may be asked your question
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  Maybe asked you you know, what do you think about that or I asked you to challenge me on something
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  And then I maybe bring you know bring an object in not this book again
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  But I bring in another object in yeah, so it's just like shaking things up
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  And making sure there's there's differences that trigger our brains
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  constantly