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Your Life Is Built by Choice Integrity, Clarity, and Inner Power (S5) S8:E1 · Inspirations for Your Life

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Today we're talking, well, this week we're talking
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all about your life.
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It's built by choice.
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It's integrity.
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It's clarity.
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It's inner power.
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And that's important to understand.
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So welcome, everyone, to Inspirations for Your Life.
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I am John C.
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Morley, serial entrepreneur, engineer, marketing specialist, video producer,
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podcast host, coach, graduate student, and a passionate
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lifelong learner, and it is my privilege and
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pleasure and honor to be with you here
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this evening.
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This episode is titled Your Life is Built
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by Choice, Integrity, Clarity, and Inner Power.
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That's what we're going on for the whole
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week.
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And this is very important to understand in
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our awareness and discipline and intentional living because
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the truth, ladies and gentlemen, is simple.
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Life is shaped by the choices you make,
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not just the big choices, but by the
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small repeated ones that train your nervous system,
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shaping your habits and quietly defining your future
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and who you are.
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See, people think that when you make a
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choice one time that, you know, that's it.
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Well, you keep doing it, and when you
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get into pattern and when it becomes like
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autonomous and automatic, then it starts to stick
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with you, right, and then it just happens
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without even thinking.
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All right.
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So our first point here comes from choosing
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with awareness.
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Every choice trains your nervous system, repeating.
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Decisions become automatic, and I think that's an
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important thing for us to understand.
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They don't become automatic, as I said, overnight.
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They become automatic over time.
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Maybe you have done this before.
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Maybe you've gone to grandma's house or you've
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gone somewhere like home, and maybe you meant
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to go somewhere else, but the car always
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seems to make the right.
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I know I've done that many times, and
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it's like I'm going to grandma's house.
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No, no, I'm not going to grandma's house.
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I'm going somewhere else, but the car is
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like already going that way, right?
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Or maybe you always go one way to
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go to the office, and suddenly you need
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to make a left.
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You're like, oh, why am I making it
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right?
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I'm not going to the office today.
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So you get my point.
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Number two, guys, number two is awareness turns
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reaction into power by creating space between the
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stimulus and the response.
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And notice I said creating space, okay?
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Creating space is not something you do one
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time.
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Creating space is something you do over and
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over and over and over again.
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Yeah, that's a very important thing to understand,
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and I hope that you will embrace that
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because that's where truth lies, guys.
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That's where success starts to form, all right?
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Not the one-time stuff, all right?
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That's important to know.
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Number three, guys, pausing is a form of
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control because it interrupts impulsive patterns.
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You know, maybe you're just doing something because
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somebody else told you to do it, or
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you're doing it because you always did it,
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but are you really paying attention to it?
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I think that's the question.
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And if you're not paying attention to it,
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then that can be your downfall.
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That can take you away from the success
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that you've always wanted to have in your
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life.
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Number four, guys, choice begins before action.
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Often in thought and in the attention, you've
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made the choice to do something or to
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not do something, and I think that's a
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very important thing for us to realize and
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to understand is that choice, and we have
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so many kinds of choice, guys, but for
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whatever reason, we don't choose.
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Is it that we're lazy?
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Is it that we feel everything's just going
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the way it is and I don't want
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to?
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What's the real reason?
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And I think sometimes people, they get stuck
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into a certain way, and that way people
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feel is right, but isn't always.
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You see, when something is too easy at
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the get-go, okay, then you're probably missing
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something.
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You're moving forward, but you're missing something.
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Not to say things are hard, but when
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something just comes easy and you don't have
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a chance to even breathe or make a
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choice, you might be missing a potential opportunity.
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That's all I'm saying.
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So as I said, choice begins before the
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action, often in thought and in the attention
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that you put toward it.
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Number five, guys, impulse trades, long-term clarity
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for short-term relief.
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I know we all want to get the
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quick, right, the quick fix, but that's not
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the way it goes.
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We want to understand the moment.
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We want to understand the minute.
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We understand why something is working a certain
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way, and the reason I say this to
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you is because if you understand like one
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thing, then maybe you can understand a lot
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of things in your life, things that maybe
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you didn't quite understand for whatever reason, and
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these things are not bad, but they're just
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a certain way, and they just kind of
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make you, let's say, go a certain way.
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And again, that's not a bad thing, guys.
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That's just where you are in this current
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moment, and this moment can change.
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Yes, it can.
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Number six, conscious decisions reduce regret by aligning
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action with the true intention.
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Notice I said aligning, okay?
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When we are in alignment, life works better,
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okay?
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And alignment helps us to understand who we
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are, why we're becoming something, and what we
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can do, okay?
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And that's a very, very important thing.
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It's about something that a lot of people
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just don't seem to catch, and that catching
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is about, you know, what are you currently
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paying attention to?
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There's a lot of stimuli in the environment,
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but are you paying attention to things that
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are going to help elevate you or to
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things that are going to, let's say, drop
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you?
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I mean, I'm just being quite honest about
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that, all right?
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So, that's important to understand.
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And as I said, number seven, awareness creates
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the emotional safety by reducing uncertainty.
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When we talk about awareness, we are suddenly,
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let's say, transported into a different place.
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Maybe not sure of where we're going to
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be, but maybe the fact that this is
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going to be something pretty amazing for us,
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maybe it's going to give us a new
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start.
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I mean, maybe, maybe, maybe not.
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But one thing about these things is that
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when we become intentional about our surroundings, about
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what we're doing, we have a heck of
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a better chance of succeeding, all right?
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That's an important thing.
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Number eight, guys, attention is direction.
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What you focus on grows.
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Nightingale Cohn had said this a long time,
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what we focus on, we become, right?
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And a lot of other great scholars and
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motivational people have said this.
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What we focus on, we become, we bring
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about some very important things.
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And these are things that a lot of
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people don't realize because they're stuck in before.
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And they don't get present in the moment.
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And I found that when you're not present
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in the moment, it's like you're on a
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completely different wavelength.
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You're not even in the same stadium.
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You know, like if you're watching the baseball
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game or the football game, you can't even
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watch it because you're not even in the
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same stadium that it's playing.
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That's just the best way to say that.
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Number nine, power lives in the present moment,
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not the past or the future.
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So you can see why I keep telling
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you that we have to focus on our
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present moment, our present moment.
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Our present moment is something that a lot
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of people just don't, they don't get.
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And when I say they don't get it,
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they don't want to get it.
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They could get it, but they don't get
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it because they're not putting true intention to
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something.
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And intention is about you doing something because
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you wholeheartedly believe in it, not because it's
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some cockamamie idea that just you pulled out
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of somewhere.
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It's not something that you didn't believe in.
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When something you didn't believe in, well, it
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doesn't really matter if it works.
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But when you believe in something, you follow
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it through to the nth degree.
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You're passionate about it.
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All right.
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Number 10, guys, choice breaks autopilot by restoring
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agency, which is basically restoring your authority to
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who you are as a person and what
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you stand for and what you mean.
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I think those are important things, guys.
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Building clarity and staying calm.
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I know that sounds easier to do, but
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you all can do it.
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It's just that we've taken our whole lives
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into letting people push our buttons and letting
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them put us in a place that puts
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us of dis-ease, right?
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And when we talk about either a disease
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or we talk about an issue where we
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don't feel comfortable, that ease, that dis-ease
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is our body not being comfortable.
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But do we pay attention to it?
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Oftentimes, no.
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We say, oh, it'll pass.
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But then when it keeps rearing its head,
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we don't do anything about it.
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Number 11, guys, awareness slows chaos by bringing
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order to the mind.
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So when I talk about awareness, it doesn't
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mean that you have to master it in
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like 30 seconds or even in five minutes
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or even in a day.
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Awareness just gets you to put your perspective
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on something.
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I'm going to give you an example.
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If I asked you guys all now to
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be aware of your heartbeat without touching it,
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you all could probably tune into your heartbeat.
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If I asked you right now to tune
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into your eyes, your eyelids and notice how
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they feel, isn't that pretty cool?
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When we put our focus on something, we
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get control of it.
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We can sense it.
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Number 12, noticing patterns changes outcomes by making
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behavior visible.
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I didn't say invisible.
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I said visible.
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Number 13, conscious living reduces friction by eliminating
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unnecessary resistance.
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So there's a certain bit of resistance in
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life we need.
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For example, if we didn't have some resistance,
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you know, we wouldn't be able to walk.
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We would not be able to walk at
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all because we need certain resistance to be
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able to move forward.
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That's a very, very important thing.
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Number 14, awareness creates options where reaction sees
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none.
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So we can either be proactive or we
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can be reactive.
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And I've said this before, when we are
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reactive, it's more costly, not just financially, but
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also a toll on who we are, okay?
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A toll of who we are and what
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we stand for, okay?
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And that's an important thing to understand, right?
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Who we stand for.
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And that means something.
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I think the meaning is what we put
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on it, what we put on.
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And I'm telling you that our perception, guys,
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creates our reality.
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Whether you're in the Olympics or, you know,
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whether you're just in business or whether you're
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just striding in your day.
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The value we put on something, even though
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it's perceived, becomes our true reality.
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Now, not overnight, right?
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I'm gonna give you another example.
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A lot of people think of money, all
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right?
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And they put a value on money.
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They call money by its wrong name.
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John, what are you talking about?
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Money doesn't have a name.
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Yeah, it does.
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So money, people call money scarce.
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People call money hard to get, slippery.
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Change your name for money.
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Money supplies me.
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I am rich.
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I am free.
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Change your vocabulary toward money and you're gonna
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find that it shows up more.
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You'll find that money chases you.
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Now, this is not a show about money
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tonight, but I wanted to give you that
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little dialogue.
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The reason a lot of people have it
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slipping through their hands is because they're always
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saying they don't have enough.
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They're saying that money's so hard to come
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by.
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Of course, if you call somebody with those
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names, they're gonna be hard to get.
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You've gotta change your inner dialogue about money
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if you want more of it in your
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life.
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Number 15, you cannot change what you refuse
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to notice.
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This links back to something very important I've
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talked about many times, and that is when
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we measure something, we can change it.
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When we can't get a reading or measure
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it, we can never change it.
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Something that cannot be measured can never be
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changed.
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Number 16, guys, choice strengthens identity by reinforcing
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who you are becoming.
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Who you are right now is because of
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the thoughts you had in the past.
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That's where it comes from.
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It doesn't come from anywhere else.
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The thoughts you had in the past created
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who you are now.
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If you don't like who you are now,
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good news, you can change it.
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This is only a temporary you if you
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don't like it.
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You can change your thoughts.
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You can change your actions just by changing
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your thoughts about money and by giving it
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a better name like money supplies me, money
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makes me rich, money frees me.
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By giving it these names, you invite it
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into your life as opposed to, oh my
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gosh, money stress, like that's what a lot
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of people do.
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And then they wonder why they don't have
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any of it.
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All right, number 17, awareness builds confidence quietly
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without external validation.
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That means you don't need somebody patting on
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your back.
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Just by you being aware of something is
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enough to get you to be where you
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wanna be.
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All right, that's what's important.
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It gets you to be where you wanna
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be, not because of anything else, but your
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perceptions.
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Your perceptions create your reality.
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And you might say, John, how is that
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possible?
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Well, your perceptions start to become part of
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your subconscious.
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Your subconscious starts to affect your behavior and
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also affects your filters, your lenses of what
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you see and don't see.
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Without getting too deep in this, based on
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how our eyes are in alignment can tell
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us what colors we can see better.
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Pretty cool, right?
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Number 18, decision shape energy, clarity conserves it.
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Confusion, I'm sure you knew this, drains it,
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it drains it.
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That's pretty cool, guys.
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It drains it pretty well.
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That's important, right?
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And I wanna tell you that this is
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something that you probably never knew was possible,
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but it is.
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And that's something that a lot of people
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don't understand because they allow the subconscious to
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poison them, to block them from the potential
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that they actually could get.
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Number 19, self-observation sharpens the judgment by
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improving the observation.
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I didn't say to chastise yourself, I said
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to observe because by observing in a kindful
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way, it sharpens your judgment going forward.
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Number 20, guys, awareness interrupts old habits before
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they repeat.
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Awareness interrupts old habits before they repeat.
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Awareness interrupts old habits before they repeat.
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That's power, guys.
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Number 21, we're talking about developing our inner
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power.
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Choice creates self-trust through consistent follow-through.
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Not something we just did one time.
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Nope.
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Something we do over and over and over
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again.
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That's what nails it.
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Number 22, conscious action feels calmer because it
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reduces inner conflict.
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Conflict, something maybe you didn't think was even
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around you.
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You might say, John, I don't have conflict.
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Okay, then I'm gonna ask you a question.
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If you don't have conflict, why are you
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procrastinating?
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Why are you not getting to the next
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level?
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Don't blame the people around you.
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Don't blame the weather.
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Don't blame the money you have in your
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pocket.
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Don't blame your parents.
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Don't blame your boyfriend, your girlfriend.
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Don't blame your surroundings.
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We need to take responsibility, accountability, all right,
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yes, that is my fault.
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I am the one responsible for that.
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Number 23, awareness reduces emotional waste by preventing
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overreaction.
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Awareness is a pretty powerful guy, isn't it?
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Very powerful.
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Number 24, presence increases accuracy in decision-making.
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Presence, so awareness is a kind of presence,
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isn't it?
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It's a presence where we are now aware
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of things in our surrounding, things our body's
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involved or part of.
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The atmosphere, that's important, guys.
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Number 25, choice creates alignment between values and
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behavior.
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Choice creates the bridge between your core values,
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your behavior or your action, the way you
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go about your day, the responses you have
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toward other people.
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I'm not talking about the one-offs because
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we've all had the one-offs where maybe
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something didn't go the way you want.
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That's not consistent with you.
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That might just be something that happened for
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whatever reason, but that's not consistent.
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We're concerned about the patterns in your life,
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not the one-offs, not the, oh, I
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said this by, no, that happens, don't kill
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yourself with that, all right?
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Choice creates alignment between values and behavior, and
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we've learned from many things in our body.
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For example, when our eyes are in perfect
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alignment, we see better, we see with less
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strain, they use less energy, we focus better,
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that's cool.
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Number 26, guys, awareness reveals priorities by exposing
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what truly matters in your life.
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Awareness, awareness, that's key, guys.
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Awareness is noticing what's going on in your
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life, measuring it, and then being able to
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make a change over that, okay, being able
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to make a change over that.
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Changes can be made very easily if we
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are aware of them.
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If we're not, then we can't make the
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changes.
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We can never change what we don't have
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data on, and if we don't ever become
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aware of something, we never can tell if
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we're in alignment or not.
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Number 27, guys, power begins with noticing what
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influences you.
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Another way of saying awareness, isn't it?
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Noticing what influences you, what causes you to
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react or respond, or even to become, even
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to become.
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That's powerful, guys, very, very powerful.
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Power begins with noticing what influences you.
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So this power is not a dictator-type
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power.
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It's a power that is a soft power,
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a control power that allows us to manage
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our body's resources, allows us to stay calm,
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allows us to express gratitude, love, and appreciation.
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Number 28, guys, conscious living simplifies life by
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removing the excess, right?
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Removing the excess around the edges, but that
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only happens when we are conscious.
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If we're just going through the motions, my
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friends, you're never gonna see this layer.
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It will be hidden from you your entire
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life.
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How do you access the hidden layer?
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Pretty straightforward.
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Become aware.
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When you're aware, you access the data.
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The data then comes to you and says,
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okay, this is what's what.
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Number 29, guys, awareness replaces regret with responsibility.
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Choice is the root of direction, 30.
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Choice is the root of direction, 30.
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Choice is the root of direction.
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In our last part, I wanna talk about
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living intentionally.
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So living intentionally doesn't mean living perfectly, guys.
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It means living awake.
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It means noticing patterns that show up in
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your life, suddenly questioning your habits, choosing responses
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instead of reaction.
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Notice I said that word, choose, choose.
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When you live with awareness, you reduce stress,
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you improve clarity, you build emotional strength, you
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gain confidence without needing approval.
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Intentional living, guys, is not loud.
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It's steady, it's grounded, it's powerful.
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Integrity means your actions match your values.
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And clarity means your mind is not scattered.
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Inner power means you trust yourself.
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These qualities are built daily through awareness, through
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choice, through discipline.
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No one sees most of these moments, but
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they shape everything.
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If you remember one thing from this episode,
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remember this, guys, you're always choosing, even when
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you aren't, you still are.
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Choosing awareness over autopilot is the key.
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Choosing clarity over impulse, choosing intention over reaction,
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that's how inner power is built.
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Be sure to check out BelieveMeAchieved.com for
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more of my amazing, inspiring creations.
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I'll catch you real soon, everyone, be well.