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You Don’t Have to Grind Yourself Into the Ground · The Breakfast Club

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  Speaker 1: Let's get to it. Time to do it.
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  Speaker 2: I'm a homegirl that knows a little bit about everything
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  Speaker 2: and everybody.
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  Speaker 3: You hear that exclusive?
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  Speaker 1: You don't feel alive out there, right?
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  Speaker 4: Lauren came in hot.
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  Speaker 2: Hey, y'all, what's up?
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  Speaker 3: It's Lauren LaRosa, and this is another episode of The
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  Speaker 3: Latest with Lauren LaRosa. This is your daily dig on
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  Speaker 3: all things pop culture, entertainment news, and all of the
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  Speaker 3: conversations that shake the room, baby. Now, y'all know we
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  Speaker 3: kick off the show checking in behind the scenes of
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  Speaker 3: The Grind, so.
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  Speaker 2: Let's get it.
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  Speaker 1: Back on The Grind.
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  Speaker 3: Y'all, this week, behind the scenes of The Grind, I
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  Speaker 3: am really, really trying to manage my time best the
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  Speaker 3: like the best way that I can okay um we
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  Speaker 3: are right now in a season of like see like
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  Speaker 3: literally I don't mean like my season like my spirit
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  Speaker 3: I mean like season wise like the seasons are changing
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  Speaker 3: we are going from summer into the fall and along
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  Speaker 3: with that seasonal change comes a lot of like readjusting
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  Speaker 3: work wise for me From now to October, I will
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  Speaker 3: be getting ready for all of like the HBCU touring,
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  Speaker 3: the HBCU visits.
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  Speaker 2: A lot of my.
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  Speaker 3: Clothing that we're selling on the Brown Girl Grinding website
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  Speaker 3: also kind of shifts a bit.
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  Speaker 2: Our campaign shifts, the photos we're posting shift.
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  Speaker 3: Everything just kind of shifts because the summertime is a
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  Speaker 3: different feel for me when it comes to like the
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  Speaker 3: things I'm speaking at, the things I'm involved in, what
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  Speaker 3: we're promoting, even what we're talking about low.
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  Speaker 2: Key because the seasons change.
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  Speaker 3: So that has been one of the things that I'm
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  Speaker 3: like working on tremendously is As all these things are changing,
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  Speaker 3: there's a lot that is being demanded of me from
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  Speaker 3: different people. I felt like honestly this week I've kind
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  Speaker 3: of fell behind a bit only because I'm also in
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  Speaker 3: a season.
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  Speaker 2: Spiritually and mentally. And we've talked a lot about this.
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  Speaker 3: I fought to get here and I ain't going back
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  Speaker 3: where I am balancing myself and sleep and rest and
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  Speaker 3: preparation for, you know, keeping the main thing, the main thing,
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  Speaker 3: which is, you know, the shows that I do, whether
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  Speaker 3: it's the latest with Lauren La Rosa, the podcast or
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  Speaker 3: the breakfast club.
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  Speaker 2: And Lord, is that kicking my behind? Okay, it is.
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  Speaker 3: And the reason why it's different this season or this
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  Speaker 3: time around, as I talk about it, we've talked about,
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  Speaker 3: you know, you know, all these things and in this
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  Speaker 3: new chapter of shows and commentary and personality, how I'm
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  Speaker 3: learning to deal with all the things. The reason why
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  Speaker 3: it's different is because elevation is happening. And I am
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  Speaker 3: so grateful to God to see that and to feel it.
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  Speaker 3: And I talked a bit about, you know, the elevation
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  Speaker 3: I'm experiencing right And just what that means to me
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  Speaker 3: when I spoke at the out loud boss brunch in Delaware.
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  Speaker 3: So I think that that is a perfect conversation to
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  Speaker 3: throw to in this latest to.
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  Speaker 2: Kind of explain to you guys where I'm at.
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  Speaker 3: I don't know exactly what this next elevation chapter is
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  Speaker 3: going to look like, but God has been preparing me.
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  Speaker 3: I mean, I've been changing team. I've been organizing team.
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  Speaker 3: I've been restructuring, you know, the visuals. Everything is like
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  Speaker 3: gearing up to par. And I'm like, God, what do
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  Speaker 3: you have for me? And he's like, not telling me,
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  Speaker 3: but we're here. We're doing it. So let's take it
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  Speaker 3: on down to Delaware. Speaking of colleges, there was a
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  Speaker 3: Delaware State University graduate. Her name is Jalen Powell, who
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  Speaker 3: owns a nonprofit organization that advocates for black people and
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  Speaker 3: children and people that are underserved to be better.
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  Speaker 2: In business, mental health.
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  Speaker 3: Healing and all all of the things I was their
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  Speaker 3: keynote speaker this past week and I talked to you
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  Speaker 3: guys a bit about the fact that I was heading
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  Speaker 3: down to the event and my message literally came to
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  Speaker 3: me while I was sitting there and at first I
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  Speaker 3: was like I'm going to talk about the permission to
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  Speaker 3: bloom and be all the things and then I was
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  Speaker 3: like and being all the things I've learned that like
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  Speaker 3: being really being able to show up is understanding how
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  Speaker 3: to show up for yourself and that's what I'm learning
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  Speaker 3: in this season so let's get on into my live
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  Speaker 3: conversation there let's do it Right?
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  Speaker 1: Right? It feels like church. It feels like family. Some
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  Speaker 1: of the New Year faces in the room. A lot
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  Speaker 1: of new faces in the room. I'm Harlan Rosa, as
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  Speaker 1: she said. I'm from Delaware, from Wilmington, Delaware. Any Wilmington,
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  Speaker 1: Delaware in the building?
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  Speaker 4: Okay.
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  Speaker 1: I'm from Wilmington, Delaware.
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  Speaker 4: Went to Howard High School of Technology as well.
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  Speaker 1: Delaware State University graduate. So I'm really, really excited to
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  Speaker 1: be in Delaware. So I'm really excited to be here.
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  Speaker 1: And I didn't know anything about Out Loud.
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  Speaker 4: I honestly didn't know what I was coming to. I, uh, when,
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  Speaker 4: when Jalen reached out, I told.
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  Speaker 1: My manager, I was like, well, let me see their Instagram.
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  Speaker 1: And then like, you know, there's stuff online. I was like, okay, well,
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  Speaker 1: the branding is nice. Then I went to Instagram and
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  Speaker 1: I saw the kids and I was like, yeah, we
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  Speaker 1: got to do this. I didn't really know what I
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  Speaker 1: was coming into today, though. I just saw the, I
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  Speaker 1: think it was the vision. I was like, okay, well,
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  Speaker 1: we can, let's see how we can add to that.
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  Speaker 4: So I'm here, and I'm so glad I came here
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  Speaker 4: because the messaging, everything.
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  Speaker 1: That everybody's been talking about is so on time for
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  Speaker 1: me personally as well.
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  Speaker 4: I created a brand called Brown Girl Grinding.
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  Speaker 1: We have our merch over there.
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  Speaker 4: Madison, who is also at Delaware State University, she's on
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  Speaker 4: our intern team. She's holding down a table over there.
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  Speaker 4: But I created this brand called Brown Girl Grinding in 2016.
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  Speaker 4: I graduated from Delaware State University in 2014. I moved
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  Speaker 4: to LA literally the same year. Like right out of college,
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  Speaker 4: I moved to LA.
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  Speaker 1: It did not work. I was there for six months.
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  Speaker 1: I ran out of money. The girl I was staying with,
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  Speaker 1: who was.
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  Speaker 4: Also from Delaware, she was like literally mentally burnt out
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  Speaker 4: just from trying to figure grind out. And I got
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  Speaker 4: there and I was like, girl, you're not the person
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  Speaker 4: that I knew. Like, go home.
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  Speaker 1: Take a rest. Take a break. And I didn't realize.
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  Speaker 1: She listened to me. And I didn't realize until I
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  Speaker 1: heard that. I'm like, well, now you don't know where to.
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  Speaker 4: Live, Lauren. So when she decided to go back, I
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  Speaker 4: was like, okay, well, either you are going to try
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  Speaker 4: to figure out an apartment on your own. I just
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  Speaker 4: wasn't ready for that financially. Or you go back home.
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  Speaker 4: You'll figure it out.
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  Speaker 1: You'll reboot. Come back again. So I did that. I
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  Speaker 1: came back home.
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  Speaker 4: I worked at Barclay Card for two years in Wilmington, Delaware.
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  Speaker 4: And I was like, but mind you guys, at the time,
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  Speaker 4: I'm still, I'm doing interviews on YouTube.
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  Speaker 1: I'm doing everything I can do. Because I was like,
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  Speaker 1: I really want to work in entertainment.
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  Speaker 4: I want to model. I want to, you know, design
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  Speaker 4: clothing and do all these things. Barclay Card in Wilmington,
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  Speaker 4: Delaware can't be it for me. Like, I was just like,
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  Speaker 4: I'm going to just do this just because, like, you know,
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  Speaker 4: they were gracious enough to create a job for me.
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  Speaker 4: I was on the plane on my way back from L.A.,
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  Speaker 4: And my boss was just checking on me. I had
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  Speaker 4: an internship that I started with them at Del State.
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  Speaker 4: And even when I took the internship, I did not
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  Speaker 4: want to do it. I was like, I am an
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  Speaker 4: artsy girl. I want to do all these things and
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  Speaker 4: go to New York.
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  Speaker 3: And go to LA.
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  Speaker 1: Why would I intern with a bank? I didn't have
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  Speaker 1: a choice. I had to do the internship. I was
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  Speaker 1: failing a class at Del State.
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  Speaker 4: It was either do that summer course or not graduate
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  Speaker 4: on time so I could stay in Delaware.
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  Speaker 1: Thank God I did that internship.
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  Speaker 4: Because when I was on my way back from LA,
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  Speaker 4: that quick little check-in, hey girl, how you doing?
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  Speaker 1: I was like, I'm not doing great. I'm on my
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  Speaker 1: way back home. I don't know what I'm about to do.
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  Speaker 4: She said, my boss at the time, or my boss,
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  Speaker 4: who became my boss, she said, you know, we'll create
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  Speaker 4: a job for you. Just get home, take about a
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  Speaker 4: week with your family. And we just had to all
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  Speaker 4: face it and figure it out. That turned into two
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  Speaker 4: years of me leading community outreach for Barkley Park U.S.
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  Speaker 4: and being able to give back to Wilmington, Delaware in
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  Speaker 4: a way that I, I mean.
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  Speaker 1: You know, you're from somewhere. You think, I know everything.
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  Speaker 1: I've done everything I can do here. I've got to
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  Speaker 1: leave and come back.
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  Speaker 4: And then I realized, like, there's so much right here
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  Speaker 4: where I am.
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  Speaker 1: Asia, start right back. There's so much right here where
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  Speaker 1: I am. People just don't know that it's happening.
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  Speaker 4: So I was using everything that I knew, everything in
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  Speaker 4: media and video.
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  Speaker 1: We were putting together commercials. We were going.
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  Speaker 4: Out to schools and teaching kids about savings and credit
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  Speaker 4: and getting to college and how sometimes the littlest amounts
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  Speaker 4: of money, I mean under $ 500, can stop a student
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  Speaker 4: from finishing a four-year college degree. And when I learned that,
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  Speaker 4: I was like, yo, these are people I know.
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  Speaker 1: I have friends who are commuting to college. And they
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  Speaker 1: are spending their last dime literally digging change.
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  Speaker 4: Out to pave their toes, head down the door to
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  Speaker 4: go say, I want to do something.
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  Speaker 1: So I spent my time doing that.
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  Speaker 4: And it changed my outlook on everything.
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  Speaker 5: I'm always like, OK, not only is media a thing
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  Speaker 5: that you can reach people with, but you can change
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  Speaker 5: people's lives if you input the right messages, if you
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  Speaker 5: do the right things in the messages.
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  Speaker 1: There's a responsibility. So that was my first glance at responsibility.
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  Speaker 1: And I was like, OK, cool. That's cute. Did that.
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  Speaker 1: Got my money saved. Did the responsibility thing. Thank you, God.
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  Speaker 1: I was able to help my mom and baby. I'm
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  Speaker 1: going back to L.A. now. Pack up. Go back to L.A.
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  Speaker 1: I was there for eight years. I, you know, went
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  Speaker 1: out there. I was working in fashion PR.
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  Speaker 4: I got a job at TMZ on a tour bus,
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  Speaker 4: literally riding around L.A., giving out tours. And I worked
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  Speaker 4: my way up into the newsroom from a tour guide.
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  Speaker 1: To senior news producer.
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  Speaker 4: And then one day I was just like, this is cool,
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  Speaker 4: but like... There's something else for me. I don't really
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  Speaker 4: know what it is. But I also, you know, got
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  Speaker 4: to get back home. I got to get closer to family.
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  Speaker 4: My peace of mind just wasn't okay. So I packed up,
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  Speaker 4: moved on back to Delaware, and, you know, Breakfast Club happened.
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  Speaker 4: But in the midst of all of that journey, and
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  Speaker 4: I'm going to take you guys back to where I'm from.
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  Speaker 1: Brandon, something happened.
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  Speaker 4: My first time in L.A., when I first moved there,
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  Speaker 4: I met with this agent.
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  Speaker 1: And if you hear stories about anybody working on TV,
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  Speaker 1: it's like, oh, I met this agent, and they got
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  Speaker 1: me these auditions, and my life changed. So I thought,
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  Speaker 1: this is it. Like, you know, you've done all these things.
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  Speaker 1: You're here. You're meeting with the agent.
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  Speaker 4: The agent sat me down. He was an older Asian guy.
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  Speaker 4: He sat me down, and he was like, I have
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  Speaker 4: a daughter your age. She just graduated from college, and
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  Speaker 4: I would hate for somebody to lie to her, so
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  Speaker 4: I'm only going to be honest with you.
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  Speaker 1: I can't sell you. I can't market you. If you
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  Speaker 1: want to work in daytime television, I know you want
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  Speaker 1: to act as well.
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  Speaker 4: It's just rough for black women right now. And he
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  Speaker 4: was like, think about it. Who looks like you right now?
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  Speaker 4: I mean, same skin tone, dark-skinned black woman on television
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  Speaker 4: in a daytime talk show space. Wendy Williams was the
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  Speaker 4: only person I could think of. And he was like,
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  Speaker 4: no one's selling or buying people that look like you in.
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  Speaker 1: That space right now. Personalities and TV show hosts are
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  Speaker 1: just hard to generalize. he said.
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  Speaker 4: But a black woman in a space, few far in between.
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  Speaker 4: So I want you to know that, but I'll try
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  Speaker 4: to help you. We can fish you out there a
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  Speaker 4: little bit and see if anybody bites or whatever.
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  Speaker 1: And I left that meeting and I was like, kind
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  Speaker 1: of like upset, but I was like, at least he
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  Speaker 1: kept it real with me. Because you know, you moved to.
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  Speaker 4: LA, you have this whole You're so open-eyed and everything
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  Speaker 4: just looks so great.
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  Speaker 1: I was like, okay, this is reality.
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  Speaker 4: But my marketing brain started working and I was like, okay, well,
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  Speaker 4: if he's telling me that I'm an outlier because my
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  Speaker 4: skin is brown, what if I look at that as
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  Speaker 4: like a hole in the market? Like they need me,
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  Speaker 4: but they don't know me yet. So I started hashtagging
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  Speaker 4: Brown Girl Grinding.
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  Speaker 1: It wasn't a business. It was literally just a hashtag
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  Speaker 1: because I was like, if I started telling my story,
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  Speaker 1: if I hired.
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  Speaker 4: Myself, so on Instagram, on YouTube, I started vlogging, I
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  Speaker 4: literally would hashtag Brown Girl Grinding. So every conference I
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  Speaker 4: attended to find a job, every speaking thing I did,
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  Speaker 4: if I was just cute one day out and about
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  Speaker 4: LA or whatever, because people were just so excited to
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  Speaker 4: see me leave my hometown, I would hashtag Brown Girl Grinding.
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  Speaker 1: And then other people started doing it as well. So
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  Speaker 1: I turned it into a company. And for years, it's
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  Speaker 1: like Brown, Boat, Grind, and we're a production company. We
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  Speaker 1: have so much going on.
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  Speaker 4: And I've always been trying to figure out like, The
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  Speaker 4: things that I'm doing, how.
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  Speaker 1: Do they actually sit with other people? How do they
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  Speaker 1: help people? Because it's so fun to get up and
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  Speaker 1: kiki and go back and forth with bald heads all
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  Speaker 1: day long. All that stuff is fun, right?
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  Speaker 4: But when you come from something, all the ladies in
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  Speaker 4: this room and the children in this room, y'all have
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  Speaker 4: been brought up in it.
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  Speaker 1: The women in this room, you guys have been brought
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  Speaker 1: up in it. It's a call for you to come
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  Speaker 1: from it.
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  Speaker 4: It's something spiritual for you. And you're pouring and you're
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  Speaker 4: pouring and you're pouring. You can't escape it, no matter what.
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  Speaker 1: Career field you go to, no matter if you work
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  Speaker 1: for somebody, for yourself, it is there.
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  Speaker 4: That mission is there. And it was so loud to me.
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  Speaker 4: I'm like, like, there's something more that has to happen here.
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  Speaker 1: So I was like, you know what?
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  Speaker 4: What if I use Brown Girl Grinding to do that?
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  Speaker 4: So we made a, I'm like, we, now I have
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  Speaker 4: a team, but it was just me at the time.
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  Speaker 1: I made a conscious effort. I was like, all right,
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  Speaker 1: I'll build out an Instagram. We'll post, you know, like
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  Speaker 1: memes and we'll have conversations on the page. Just create
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  Speaker 1: a space. Cause like, Sometimes after a long day, it's like, yo,
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  Speaker 1: I just need to go to Happy Hour. I just
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  Speaker 1: need to go to my homegirl's house and just sit
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  Speaker 1: there and watch TV.
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  Speaker 4: I just need some space. Sitting in that car for
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  Speaker 4: an hour when you first pull up at home, you
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  Speaker 4: just need some space. So we created that.
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  Speaker 1: And, you know, it's been the brand. And I feel like,
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  Speaker 1: you know, people really identify with it. And I love that.
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  Speaker 1: But one day I was sitting in church.
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  Speaker 4: I go to Seeds of Greatness in Delaware.
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  Speaker 1: Okay.
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  Speaker 4: So I watch church online when I'm not in Delaware.
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  Speaker 1: But when I am in Delaware, I go to church.
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  Speaker 1: And one day, Pastor Ron, he was like, you can't
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  Speaker 1: march yourself into the ground. Like, that is the complete
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  Speaker 1: opposite of what you're supposed to do.
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  Speaker 4: And I was like, is God telling me to shut
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  Speaker 4: down this business because I just got.
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  Speaker 1: Their cry out to LSU? And like we're making money now,
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  Speaker 1: like we're doing good. And then I did an interview.
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  Speaker 4: I was in LA for the BET Awards June that
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  Speaker 4: just passed. And I did an interview and I was like, okay,
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  Speaker 4: it all makes sense now. It's not shut it down.
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  Speaker 4: There is levels to understanding when it's time to pour
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  Speaker 4: back into yourself. When you're younger, it's like pouring back
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  Speaker 4: into yourself is the grind.
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  Speaker 1: It's like, yo, I got to get out of here.
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  Speaker 1: I got to do what I need to do. I
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  Speaker 1: got to work. I got to hustle.
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  Speaker 4: I got to grind. Even sometimes when you're older, you're
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  Speaker 4: figuring out things new. Like, there are levels and times
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  Speaker 4: and periods.
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  Speaker 1: You know how people say, like, time and place? Like,
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  Speaker 1: there's a time and place in your life where you.
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  Speaker 4: Don't understand that, like, yo, no, it's this grind time. Like,
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  Speaker 4: right now, I'm in a season, a very focused season of, like,
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  Speaker 4: this person. Like, I don't know how I'm going to
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  Speaker 4: get it right now. But at the same time, I
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  Speaker 4: feel it slowly where, like, things are happening where I'm
• 13:47
  Speaker 4: able to be like, yeah, but this weekend, I'm going
• 13:50
  Speaker 4: to take three days to myself.
• 13:51
  Speaker 1: And unless the Pope caught me down from heaven or
• 13:54
  Speaker 1: something like that, I don't gotta talk about what's happening.
• 13:57
  Speaker 1: I can be more strategic about it.
• 13:59
  Speaker 4: Now that I have the access to do it. Because
• 14:01
  Speaker 4: if you think about a nail, right? You grinding it,
• 14:04
  Speaker 4: you grinding it, you grinding that nail.
• 14:05
  Speaker 1: You try to use that nail on the wall, eventually
• 14:07
  Speaker 1: it ain't gonna hold nothing up at all. And I've
• 14:10
  Speaker 1: gotten to those points in my life, it's like a burnout.
• 14:13
  Speaker 1: I've been there multiple times. It happens in every season.
• 14:18
  Speaker 1: A lot of us.
• 14:18
  Speaker 4: Talk about pouring back into ourselves like it's a one-time thing.
• 14:22
  Speaker 4: It is not a one-time thing. And when you do
• 14:24
  Speaker 4: it one time and you think you got it down pat, oh, baby,
• 14:27
  Speaker 4: wait till you walk into the next season that guy
• 14:29
  Speaker 4: got for you. You got to figure it all out again.
• 14:31
  Speaker 4: What does pouring back into me look like? What does
• 14:33
  Speaker 4: getting over this guilt look like, whether it's mom guilt?
• 14:36
  Speaker 4: But I owe this daughter guilt. I made it out
• 14:38
  Speaker 4: of this struggle. I made it, you know, further than
• 14:40
  Speaker 4: my friend's guilt. Whatever that is, you're going to have
• 14:42
  Speaker 4: to figure that out again.
• 14:44
  Speaker 1: But I did this interview like a few weeks ago.
• 14:47
  Speaker 1: And I was like, this is just so perfect for
• 14:48
  Speaker 1: these ladies. So I want to play it.
• 14:50
  Speaker 4: Any of you guys follow somebody named KevOnStage on Instagram? Okay,
• 14:54
  Speaker 4: so KevOnStage has this podcast.
• 14:57
  Speaker 1: It's called Not My Best Moment.
• 14:58
  Speaker 4: And the purpose of the podcast is for you to
• 15:00
  Speaker 4: talk about your life and your journey. But everything online
• 15:03
  Speaker 4: is always so curated and highlight reel.
• 15:06
  Speaker 1: He goes into things that aren't the easiest to talk about.
• 15:09
  Speaker 4: And for a person like me, who I was literally built.
• 15:12
  Speaker 1: My mind didn't play no games. I was built to achieve.
• 15:16
  Speaker 4: It's hard for me to talk about times where I
• 15:18
  Speaker 4: want to take a break or where I'm not achieving.
• 15:20
  Speaker 1: So that's what we talked about. And I want to
• 15:22
  Speaker 1: share the message today. Oh, wow. You can start from
• 15:27
  Speaker 1: right here. You can start from right here. My wife
• 15:31
  Speaker 1: is an honest girl.
• 15:32
  Speaker 4: Oh, she's honest.
• 15:33
  Speaker 1: And she'll let you, you have to talk her into
• 15:36
  Speaker 1: letting you do things for her, right?
• 15:38
  Speaker 4: I just made this post about how hard it is
• 15:40
  Speaker 4: to even open the door.
• 15:42
  Speaker 1: You almost have to race her. Just open the door.
• 15:44
  Speaker 4: My boyfriend, literally, it's been, even with the whole, like,
• 15:48
  Speaker 4: walk on inside the street, that, I had to learn that.
• 15:51
  Speaker 1: That was new for me. I had to almost fight
• 15:53
  Speaker 1: with her about this. He would literally, like, move me.
• 15:55
  Speaker 1: He always tells me, like, yo, like, relax. Let me
• 16:00
  Speaker 1: be with you as a man. We have that conversation
• 16:02
  Speaker 1: so much.
• 16:03
  Speaker 4: Yeah. And it's not even like a, like a, I'm
• 16:07
  Speaker 4: trying not.
• 16:07
  Speaker 1: To let you be with me as a man. It's
• 16:09
  Speaker 1: just like, I'm so used to I gotta do this, regardless.
• 16:14
  Speaker 1: She still act like, and if you're going tomorrow, I
• 16:17
  Speaker 1: can do it. She ain't moving furniture. You don't need
• 16:20
  Speaker 1: to do me. What are you trying to prove?
• 16:22
  Speaker 4: This morning, I was packing up, and I had all
• 16:25
  Speaker 4: my bags or whatever, and I had everything packed up,
• 16:27
  Speaker 4: and I was.
• 16:27
  Speaker 1: Taking stuff to the door, and he just was sitting there,
• 16:29
  Speaker 1: and he was like, so, when you ready for me
• 16:32
  Speaker 1: to grab the bags and walk out, let me know.
• 16:33
  Speaker 4: And I was like, the Uber's downstairs, and he was like,
• 16:36
  Speaker 4: we're going to the same Uber, and I had to
• 16:38
  Speaker 4: sit back.
• 16:38
  Speaker 1: And realize, I'm like... He's right. I don't have to. Yeah,
• 16:43
  Speaker 1: but be a brown girl, don't grind. So at the
• 16:47
  Speaker 1: end of that, he was like, just be a brown girl,
• 16:49
  Speaker 1: don't grind. And I watched this clip so many times.
• 16:51
  Speaker 1: I was like, what does that even look like?
• 16:55
  Speaker 4: And what I realized is that self-identity is wrapped up
• 16:59
  Speaker 4: into success.
• 17:01
  Speaker 1: But even if not.
• 17:02
  Speaker 4: Success, like sometimes, how many of y'all ever set out
• 17:04
  Speaker 4: to do something, raise your hand, and you didn't achieve it?
• 17:06
  Speaker 4: Like it didn't go the way that you planned at all,
• 17:09
  Speaker 4: but you did it though, and you got the experience, right?
• 17:12
  Speaker 4: Self-identity is wrapped up into that as well too, like
• 17:15
  Speaker 4: I'm doing something, I got things going on, I'm the
• 17:17
  Speaker 4: person that people can point to. And I've been watching
• 17:19
  Speaker 4: this video like, does that stuff even matter at a
• 17:22
  Speaker 4: certain point?
• 17:23
  Speaker 1: Because you can achieve all of these things you can
• 17:26
  Speaker 1: do online. All of these things.
• 17:28
  Speaker 4: But if you're not even in a clear enough head
• 17:30
  Speaker 4: space to really figure.
• 17:32
  Speaker 1: Out why am I even doing this, you're going to
• 17:35
  Speaker 1: be running this race for a long time.
• 17:37
  Speaker 4: I don't know about y'all, but I be in heels.
• 17:38
  Speaker 4: I be going to get tired.
• 17:41
  Speaker 1: So what I've been thinking more about now is, OK,
• 17:43
  Speaker 1: so I'm grinding. I'm out here. I'm working. I know
• 17:46
  Speaker 1: I want to be successful. I know I want to
• 17:48
  Speaker 1: continue to be successful. I got people depending on me.
• 17:51
  Speaker 1: I got people that I help out. I depend on me.
• 17:54
  Speaker 1: But also, what is my why?
• 17:57
  Speaker 4: So, like, and we've been hearing so much today about, like,
• 18:00
  Speaker 4: you know, taking that break and really understanding and don't
• 18:02
  Speaker 4: even sleep.
• 18:03
  Speaker 1: You know, you might not physically be.
• 18:05
  Speaker 4: Tired, but you just might need to, like, sit still
• 18:06
  Speaker 4: and kind of, like, let everything run around you until
• 18:08
  Speaker 4: it's slowed down so you can pick and choose things.
• 18:11
  Speaker 4: But in that space, I challenge you guys to do
• 18:14
  Speaker 4: exactly what I'm doing right.
• 18:15
  Speaker 1: Now and not just be like, well, what do I
• 18:17
  Speaker 1: want to try next? Or what do I want to
• 18:19
  Speaker 1: do next? Because you'll get to a point, like, I've
• 18:21
  Speaker 1: been so blessed.
• 18:22
  Speaker 4: I'm at a point now where it's only the beginning
• 18:24
  Speaker 4: of things. But, like, I can try and do a
• 18:26
  Speaker 4: lot of things right now. But I tell myself all
• 18:29
  Speaker 4: the time I want to keep the main thing the
• 18:30
  Speaker 4: main thing because what.
• 18:31
  Speaker 1: I'm really trying to figure out is what is my why?
• 18:35
  Speaker 1: And when you figure out that why, your rest has purpose.
• 18:37
  Speaker 1: Got it. And the things that you're able to do,
• 18:43
  Speaker 1: it just... It's all right. Yeah. It's all right. It's
• 18:50
  Speaker 1: all right. Who put my makeup on tonight? My grandma
• 18:56
  Speaker 1: would have to finish it. The things that.
• 18:59
  Speaker 4: You are able to do, it's just a lot more clear.
• 19:03
  Speaker 1: The vision is a lot more clear.
• 19:05
  Speaker 4: And I feel like, I feel like vision is something
• 19:11
  Speaker 4: that like, I don't know about you guys, but I
• 19:13
  Speaker 4: was taught how to do a lot.
• 19:14
  Speaker 1: I was taught how to speak up for myself.
• 19:16
  Speaker 4: I was taught how to get dressed in the morning,
• 19:18
  Speaker 4: brush your teeth.
• 19:19
  Speaker 1: Walk into the world, be a good student in school.
• 19:22
  Speaker 4: But vision isn't something that's like, talk to you.
• 19:24
  Speaker 1: I don't think you can teach it because everybody's vision
• 19:27
  Speaker 1: is different.
• 19:28
  Speaker 4: So I think the craziest thing is thinking and feeling like, because.
• 19:32
  Speaker 1: You're talking to God or, you know, whoever, people may
• 19:35
  Speaker 1: be honest, but you're talking to God and God is
• 19:38
  Speaker 1: like instilling things in you. And you're like, whoa, like
• 19:42
  Speaker 1: not only is he putting it here, but I'm like
• 19:44
  Speaker 1: walking into this so effortlessly. And like things are just like,
• 19:47
  Speaker 1: people are talking to you like, oh my God, you're
• 19:49
  Speaker 1: doing amazing. I'm like, yo, I literally wasn't even awake
• 19:52
  Speaker 1: when I did that. Like, wow. God. Like, it is autopilot.
• 19:57
  Speaker 4: And when you're able to realize what's going on and
• 19:59
  Speaker 4: you start getting close to that, like, why? Like, I'm
• 20:01
  Speaker 4: not fully there yet. That's why I was, like, coming
• 20:04
  Speaker 4: here was so fire because.
• 20:14
  Speaker 1: This is like a happy drive. Because I've been trying
• 20:16
  Speaker 1: to get some stuff out for the last three weeks.
• 20:18
  Speaker 1: This is a breakthrough. Come on, everybody. I've been trying
• 20:25
  Speaker 1: to figure some.
• 20:31
  Speaker 4: Things out for the last couple weeks, and I don't
• 20:34
  Speaker 4: even know what I've been figuring out, but I've been
• 20:36
  Speaker 4: working hard on it, y'all.
• 20:37
  Speaker 1: I mean, we've been figuring out.
• 20:38
  Speaker 4: Teams, we've been doing a lot of things, and I
• 20:41
  Speaker 4: literally had no idea what I was preparing for.
• 20:44
  Speaker 1: And today I was like, that's who! Easily stepped into it.
• 20:48
  Speaker 1: I was like, okay, I get it. I understand. I'm
• 20:51
  Speaker 1: getting closer to the why. Like, we are right there.
• 20:54
  Speaker 1: Thank you, God.
• 20:56
  Speaker 4: So now that I'm feeling a little bit more reassured
• 20:59
  Speaker 4: in that, like, okay, I'm almost here.
• 21:02
  Speaker 1: It's a new school. It's going to be a new
• 21:04
  Speaker 1: level next level. Every chance I get to take that shot,
• 21:07
  Speaker 1: I'm going to take it.
• 21:09
  Speaker 4: Like, my rest is going to look a little bit different, though,
• 21:11
  Speaker 4: as I do it, because.
• 21:12
  Speaker 1: I'm going to understand, like, why are you even here? Like, why? Like,
• 21:16
  Speaker 1: why are we resting? What are we getting up for?
• 21:19
  Speaker 1: What is our target? What is our aim? And that
• 21:22
  Speaker 1: is not always going to be clear, y'all. At all.
• 21:24
  Speaker 1: I'm trying to tell you guys, like, I was sitting here.
• 21:26
  Speaker 4: She's like, oh, you were so involved. No, I was
• 21:27
  Speaker 4: really receiving. I'm in here, like, like, I've grown up
• 21:30
  Speaker 4: with Asians. Like, literally, like, she's like family. I've never
• 21:34
  Speaker 4: heard her speak. I was listening to her speak, like, wow.
• 21:39
  Speaker 4: I didn't even, like, I knew a lot of her,
• 21:41
  Speaker 4: the things that she went through.
• 21:42
  Speaker 1: And, you know, like, we're literally like family.
• 21:45
  Speaker 4: But I didn't know kind of how she turned that
• 21:48
  Speaker 4: into her why and her purpose.
• 21:50
  Speaker 1: And I'm like, okay, I'm seeing it now. So what
• 21:54
  Speaker 1: I implore all of you guys to do is join
• 21:56
  Speaker 1: me on this groundwork, on this journey. And grind and
• 21:59
  Speaker 1: do what you gotta do. And you know what I mean?
• 22:01
  Speaker 1: Get up every day. It ain't always easy.
• 22:04
  Speaker 4: Edges might not lay the same every day, lashes might be,
• 22:07
  Speaker 4: you know what I'm saying?
• 22:08
  Speaker 1: Like, every day it might not be 100%, but I'm
• 22:10
  Speaker 1: learning in front of the.
• 22:11
  Speaker 4: World that not 100% is okay because I'm here.
• 22:14
  Speaker 1: I'm supposed to be here. And when I rest, I
• 22:19
  Speaker 1: can get it wrong today, but when I rest and
• 22:22
  Speaker 1: I understand why I was even in the room to
• 22:24
  Speaker 1: even get it wrong, maybe that next day when I
• 22:26
  Speaker 1: come back, I'm going to be wrong again. I'm telling
• 22:30
  Speaker 1: you right now.
• 22:30
  Speaker 4: One thing I'm going to keep doing, y'all know, I'm
• 22:32
  Speaker 4: going to keep showing up. Okay? So we talked today.
• 22:38
  Speaker 4: We literally heard so much about so.
• 22:41
  Speaker 1: Many different things. But if you don't leave with nothing
• 22:43
  Speaker 1: else today, leave knowing.
• 22:45
  Speaker 4: That there's a why in everything.
• 22:47
  Speaker 1: Y'all are not just here because you wanted to repeat today.
• 22:50
  Speaker 1: You are not. There's a why in it. You might
• 22:52
  Speaker 1: not even understand it right now, but it is going
• 22:55
  Speaker 1: to come.
• 22:55
  Speaker 4: Whatever is on your mind, on your body, on your soul,
• 22:58
  Speaker 4: on your spirit, whatever you are working on, just keep
• 23:00
  Speaker 4: doing it.
• 23:01
  Speaker 1: Keep doing it. When it all comes together, I.
• 23:05
  Speaker 4: I don't know exactly what I'm working on, but I'm
• 23:07
  Speaker 4: telling y'all, I've been working really hard on it, though.
• 23:09
  Speaker 4: And I'm almost there. And I do believe that it
• 23:11
  Speaker 4: has a community aspect to it. So being here today, like,
• 23:16
  Speaker 4: it really woke me up to things. And you have
• 23:18
  Speaker 4: that moment as well, too. And you know what, you know,
• 23:21
  Speaker 4: my mental space is, and I don't know why I've
• 23:23
  Speaker 4: been able to rest so well, because I'll be tired.
• 23:27
  Speaker 1: But what my mental space has been over the last, like,
• 23:29
  Speaker 1: month is, like, You got it. It's going to be
• 23:32
  Speaker 1: all right. You got it. You're going to be good.
• 23:34
  Speaker 1: Everything you're doing is exactly what you're supposed to be doing.
• 23:36
  Speaker 1: And I was in a clear enough space today that's
• 23:38
  Speaker 1: normally I'm working. I'm somewhere, but I'm working. We in,
• 23:41
  Speaker 1: we out.
• 23:42
  Speaker 4: But I was in a space that they were out
• 23:44
  Speaker 4: to receive. And when you get to that point, that's
• 23:46
  Speaker 4: real rest. It's like when you come home to a
• 23:49
  Speaker 4: clean house.
• 23:51
  Speaker 1: And hopefully, and maybe you wouldn't even have to clean it. Husband, boyfriend, cleaning,
• 23:56
  Speaker 1: whoever to help you out that day. Y'all know that feeling.
• 23:59
  Speaker 1: You'd be like, what? Right? Like, it feels like that, but.
• 24:03
  Speaker 4: It's like a deep-bodied, like, feeling of body. Like, you
• 24:06
  Speaker 4: can receive everything. And that is not me.
• 24:09
  Speaker 1: I'm very axiomatic sometimes.
• 24:11
  Speaker 4: But I'm just, I'm in the season of it and
• 24:13
  Speaker 4: I don't know exactly what it is, but I told
• 24:15
  Speaker 4: you guys to, even when you don't know, like me sometimes,
• 24:19
  Speaker 4: even though we.
• 24:20
  Speaker 1: Make it look good, to still keep doing it. Because
• 24:22
  Speaker 1: when I tell y'all, I still keep doing it. We
• 24:24
  Speaker 1: literally just posted for interns. She came up to me
• 24:27
  Speaker 1: today and said, do you know what intern? I said,
• 24:29
  Speaker 1: I don't know. We don't know.
• 24:31
  Speaker 4: I don't know what exactly we're looking for.
• 24:34
  Speaker 1: We have Madison. She's amazing and she will stay with us.
• 24:37
  Speaker 1: But like, People on my team are like, no, we
• 24:40
  Speaker 1: got to charge. We need more. I'm like, where are
• 24:42
  Speaker 1: we going? We just got here. And they're like, uh-uh.
• 24:45
  Speaker 4: But I'm okay because I'm rested in the fact that
• 24:48
  Speaker 4: if I got here.
• 24:48
  Speaker 1: I could go anywhere. So we're building the troops to
• 24:51
  Speaker 1: keep on moving. That's it, y'all. I learned a lot
• 24:54
  Speaker 1: with everybody so far.
• 24:59
  Speaker 2: All right, y'all.
• 25:00
  Speaker 3: So if you felt something from that message and granted,
• 25:03
  Speaker 3: I hate, like, I feel like everywhere I go in this,
• 25:06
  Speaker 3: I keep talking about seasons.
• 25:08
  Speaker 2: Oh my God. Everywhere I go in this season of
• 25:09
  Speaker 2: my life, I'm always crying, but it's not sadness. It's
• 25:13
  Speaker 2: honestly gratitude.
• 25:14
  Speaker 3: But it's also like in real time, I feel like
• 25:18
  Speaker 3: there's like God in this divine order that confirms.
• 25:22
  Speaker 2: So many different things to me. And when you are
• 25:24
  Speaker 2: in a new journey, when you were in.
• 25:26
  Speaker 3: A new season, when things are shifting or changing and, And,
• 25:29
  Speaker 3: you know, I feel like the physical change of the
• 25:31
  Speaker 3: season has a lot to do with us feeling like
• 25:34
  Speaker 3: we are compounding or we are changing something spiritually and
• 25:37
  Speaker 3: in our lives because there's so much adjusting and so
• 25:39
  Speaker 3: much new. Kids going back to school, you shopping for
• 25:42
  Speaker 3: different clothes where to work because the season about.
• 25:44
  Speaker 2: To change up.
• 25:47
  Speaker 3: I mean, shoot, you might even be going back to school,
• 25:49
  Speaker 3: whatever it is. It's just when we're always trying to
• 25:53
  Speaker 3: figure out if what we're doing is what we're supposed
• 25:55
  Speaker 3: to be doing. And I don't mean like, is this
• 25:57
  Speaker 3: job right for me? I mean, like, you know, what
• 25:59
  Speaker 3: is the purpose and what is the why? And am
• 26:01
  Speaker 3: I executing in that space? And I was watching a show,
• 26:06
  Speaker 3: the Vic Menta show. It's a podcast. He sat down
• 26:08
  Speaker 3: with Chance the Rapper and we'll talk about that in
• 26:10
  Speaker 3: another episode. But he said something I thought was genius.
• 26:12
  Speaker 3: He said Chance the Rapper was talking about how God
• 26:15
  Speaker 3: himself was a disruptor. And when I heard that, I
• 26:19
  Speaker 3: was like. So people's purpose can literally just be disruption.
• 26:23
  Speaker 3: And not disruption in a negative way. Disruption in a
• 26:26
  Speaker 3: way that inspires and, you.
• 26:28
  Speaker 2: Know, motivates. And in that moment, I was like, oh, God,
• 26:32
  Speaker 2: thank you. I understand now.
• 26:34
  Speaker 3: Like, I'm coming into so much realization in this season
• 26:37
  Speaker 3: of my life, y'all. And as I'm going through it,
• 26:40
  Speaker 3: I feel like me talking about it and going through
• 26:43
  Speaker 3: it out loud is allowing other people to see that
• 26:47
  Speaker 3: it's okay for you to be dealing with that as well, too. Um,
• 26:50
  Speaker 3: but it's just such a, it's like a hug from
• 26:53
  Speaker 3: your grandma. You know what I'm saying? Like that feel
• 26:55
  Speaker 3: good hug from your grandma, from your boo after a
• 26:58
  Speaker 3: long day, whatever the case may be. Um, but just
• 27:00
  Speaker 3: a full feeling of like, yeah, this is it. I
• 27:04
  Speaker 3: hope you guys have enjoyed this episode. You know, every
• 27:06
  Speaker 3: now and then we take it out of the celebrity
• 27:07
  Speaker 3: news and get all up in my business, but more
• 27:09
  Speaker 3: so I love to have in-depth conversations that I think
• 27:12
  Speaker 3: leave you with something to fill you up for the
• 27:14
  Speaker 3: week for this new season. Uh, you know, as we
• 27:17
  Speaker 3: move forward, and dominate the fall. I'm Lauren LaRosa everywhere. Uh,
• 27:22
  Speaker 3: get in the streets and the tweets. I want to
• 27:23
  Speaker 3: hear from you guys about this message today. You guys
• 27:26
  Speaker 3: could be anywhere with any old body talking about all
• 27:28
  Speaker 3: of the things, but today you chose to be right
• 27:30
  Speaker 3: here with me, my low riders.
• 27:32
  Speaker 2: I appreciate you. And I'll catch you in my next one.