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#481 Holiday Edition - Jeremy McVean · Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families

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  Speaker 1: It's the Happy Families Podcast.
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  Speaker 2: It's the podcast for the time poor parent who just answers.
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  Speaker 1: Now.
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  Speaker 3: Well, another week almost over and school holidays starting for
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  Speaker 3: most states around the country if they haven't already. I'm
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  Speaker 3: talking to the U queens Land. We're halfway through hours.
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  Speaker 3: My name's doctor Justin Colson and it's great to have
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  Speaker 3: you joining us for the Happy Families Podcast for Friday edition.
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  Speaker 3: A while back, I've had a chat with a guy,
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  Speaker 3: an author, an entrepreneur, an all round delightful human by
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  Speaker 3: the name of Jeremy mcveen. He wrote a book called
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  Speaker 3: The Fatherhood. He founded an organization called The Fatherhood, and
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  Speaker 3: I was talking to him about fatherhood and whether it
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  Speaker 3: turned out to be what he thought it might be.
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  Speaker 1: No, no, father would constantly changes. So it's the highest
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  Speaker 1: of highs and the lowest of lows, so the greatest challenges.
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  Speaker 1: It's like one thing we say that with the Fatherhood,
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  Speaker 1: it's like the Champions League of manhood. You know, you've
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  Speaker 1: got to find this new level of patience and energy
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  Speaker 1: and resilience. And but so no, I think I don't
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  Speaker 1: think it could possibly be because it just this constantly
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  Speaker 1: evolving challenge and until you've done it. I think you
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  Speaker 1: can kind of realize that we are help people. Like,
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  Speaker 1: no one told me to be this hard. You know,
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  Speaker 1: when everyone's like, oh, you can have kids here would
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  Speaker 1: be lovely. Oh yeah, it's lovely. At times, it's pretty hard.
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  Speaker 1: I've got some three kids down here. One of them
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  Speaker 1: is really sick. We've been in the emergency department a
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  Speaker 1: couple of times this week. Like it's tough. Yeah, and
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  Speaker 1: that's just this week, and next week it'll be new challenges.
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  Speaker 1: So I think it's been. It's wonderful and fulfilling and
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  Speaker 1: certainly defining for me, and hence the fatherhood like it's
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  Speaker 1: I can't imagine life without my kids. But I don't
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  Speaker 1: think it's played out exactly like I thought it would.
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  Speaker 1: I think it's hard to know.
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  Speaker 2: I'm wondering, Jeremy, if, through all of the study and
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  Speaker 2: research that you've done, and the conversations you've had with
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  Speaker 2: other men, specifically about their journey in fathering, if it
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  Speaker 2: has changed the way you see your dad.
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  Speaker 1: That's a really good question. Kindly, it has. It's given
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  Speaker 1: me much greater understanding of my dad, much greater. Not
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  Speaker 1: that I didn't have empathy, but I think I understand
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  Speaker 1: him better and what I'll give you one perspective on
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  Speaker 1: that as an example where I think, as parents we
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  Speaker 1: do the best that we can and try and do
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  Speaker 1: the best we can for our kids based on our
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  Speaker 1: own experience. And my dad sadly lost his dad when
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  Speaker 1: he was thirteen years old. It's very sad for him
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  Speaker 1: and obviously shaped his youth in a huge way. And
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  Speaker 1: when I grew up, I never knew I my mum
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  Speaker 1: and dad were so determined to give us all these
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  Speaker 1: opportunities to play sport, and whenever I played footy, your cricket,
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  Speaker 1: they'd be on the sidelines, any time of day, they
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  Speaker 1: were there. And through becoming a father and having conversations
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  Speaker 1: with my parents more about this sort of stuff, I
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  Speaker 1: realized that my dad was so determined to be there
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  Speaker 1: at seven am on a Saturday morning when there's jew
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  Speaker 1: in the grass because his dad was never there. He
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  Speaker 1: never had so he really missed that opportunity, and he
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  Speaker 1: was the kid without his dad and on the sidelines
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  Speaker 1: and really upsetting growing up. So then he's looked to
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  Speaker 1: express that and provide that for them, my brothers. It's
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  Speaker 1: a really beautiful thing that he's done so I have
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  Speaker 1: a greater understanding and empathy of him and appreciation for
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  Speaker 1: what he and my mum did for me and my
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  Speaker 1: brothers growing up now that I'm trying to do it
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  Speaker 1: for my kids.
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  Speaker 3: That's Jeremy mcveen, the founder of The Fatherhood and co
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  Speaker 3: author of the book by the same name. The twenty
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  Speaker 3: first century is a tricky time to be a teen girl. Alcohol, drugs,
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  Speaker 3: mental health concerns, body image issues, technology, sex. Our daughters
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  Speaker 3: face all these and more. The Happy Families Miss Connection
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  Speaker 3: Summit brings together the best modern day experts on teen
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  Speaker 3: girls to show you how to stay connected with your
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  Speaker 3: daughter and help her face these challenges head on, available
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  Speaker 3: online via video at The Happy Family's webshop. Hey all
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  Speaker 3: the beans as well. This is The Happy Family's podcast,
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  Speaker 3: by the way, the podcast for the time poor parent
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  Speaker 3: who just wants answers.
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  Speaker 1: Now.
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  Speaker 3: I've been working on a little project over the last
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  Speaker 3: month or so, and actually a little bit more than that,
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  Speaker 3: and I'm pleased to say that it's here. Today's podcast
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  Speaker 3: all about fatherhood. If there's a man in your life
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  Speaker 3: who is going to become a father pretty soon. I've
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  Speaker 3: just finished writing one of you know, those dummies books,
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  Speaker 3: the books for dummies. I've just finished writing one for
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  Speaker 3: dad's It's a Dad's Guide to Pregnancy for Dummies, and
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  Speaker 3: around about Father's Day, it's going to be hitting the shelves.
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  Speaker 3: Keep your eyes peeled for it. There is already one existing,
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  Speaker 3: but I've revised it. I've updated it. I'm the new
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  Speaker 3: author of the new book for dummies, The Pregnancy Guide
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  Speaker 3: for Dads, and I can't wait to tell you more
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  Speaker 3: about it. That's coming up in the next couple of
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  Speaker 3: months as Father's Day approaches. I hope you enjoyed the
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  Speaker 3: podcast today. Jeremy mcveen has given us so much great,
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  Speaker 3: great stuff around fatherhood. If you want to hear more
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  Speaker 3: episode three hundred and thirty nine Episode three hundred and
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  Speaker 3: thirty nine of the Happy Famili's podcast to hear the
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  Speaker 3: full interview, we really appreciate it. As always, Justin rule
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  Speaker 3: On from Bridge Media and Craig Bruce, our executive producer,
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  Speaker 3: for making the podcast sound great. Have a wonderful weekend,
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  Speaker 3: and if you're looking for more tips, tricks, strategies and
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  Speaker 3: ideas to make your family happier, you'll find all the
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  Speaker 3: info you need at Happy Families dot com, dot au,