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Champions think differently · Authentic Living

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Welcome to authentic living with Roxanne, a place where we have conscious conversations
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about things that really matter in our lives.
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And now here's your host, Roxanne Derhodge.
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Hi, everyone.
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It's, Roxanne Derhodge again with Authentic Living Roxanne.
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I'm so happy that you tuned in yet again this week.
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Today, I have a very special guest that I met, recently in, New York.
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Mister Rob Tamboya, and Rob has, been in the field of coaching a very, very long time.
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I'm gonna tell you a little bit about Rob, but I I think best that Rob kind of jump in.
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Rob is the director of coaching and the VP of global partnerships with champion mindsets.
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He's the former director of the Les Brown Maximum Achievement, Institute.
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He his background is he's a gold acceleration strategist.
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He presently lives in Fort Lauderdale, Florida.
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He's been, his background is you've been to the Wharton School of Business.
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You, you've been certified as a John Maxwell, certified trainer, and you work a lot with pro
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sports teams, college teams, individuals and companies that want to increase team
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engagement, equip leadership skills, and champion strategies.
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And to avoid those costly mistakes to create peak performance habits, rituals, and
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strategies.
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Rob, I hope I've covered everything.
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I know you've done a lot more than the bio says.
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Is there anything that I missed that you'd like everybody to to know about you?
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Yeah.
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I'll start with a quote.
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It's so great to be here Roxanne and to join you on this international, amazing webinar and
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teaching call.
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Okay.
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So Will Rogers once said, people were all experts, just the different subjects.
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Having said that, I'm learning to listen, I'm listening to learn, and life is just so full of
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opportunities.
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And one of the key things which champions have is perspective.
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They have a perspective to know that some things aren't worth investing any space in our
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brains in.
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For example, we have a naggy neighbor or there's a, annoying TV program, whatever it is
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that we don't need to focus on it.
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That we have so many things to do if we have a finite amount of time.
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What's interesting is when people say they have no time, but basically they've said yes too
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many times to too many people, or they've chosen to work 2 jobs instead of one job, for a
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minimal pay or whatever.
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So so, basically, we all have the same amount of time, including babies and elderly people.
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We have 24 hours a day and 116 hours a week plus or minus an hour.
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We got the daylight savings time going on.
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So some weeks, it's a 167 hours.
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And 1 week, it's 169.
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So the tie time is really interesting.
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There's a quote on time that goes If time is infinite, how come it seems there's never
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enough of it?
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So, yeah, starting with time.
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It is really, really important.
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What we choose to do with our time instead of reacting and, having disempowering emotions.
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So from working, you know, and I know you've worked, you know, a lot with companies, but
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you've worked a lot with, athletes and Olympians.
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So tell me the difference between someone like that.
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And let's say the average person listening really They're doing things.
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Maybe they're doing things in their physical routine or maybe they're doing things in their
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business, but they're just not hitting the mark.
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What's the difference that you see between people like, Olympians compared to say the
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average person that's really trying to get on track when they have goals.
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The 2 word answer.
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Mental toughness.
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We all have distractions.
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Everyone.
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We have challenges.
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For example, The iPhone keeps updating or let's just say, we can't find our keys or we're
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having a car problem or somebody is supposed to talk with somebody and they're not picking up
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their phone or their text message.
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There there's all these things that happen.
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And but the fact is, are we celebrating that we're healthy, that our immune system is
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working, that we're able to breathe without any kind of, mechanical aspiration, you know, the,
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respiration pro products.
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You know, there's so many people that have to go for, recall when they have a a problem with
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their kidneys, the dialysis and everything.
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Every couple of days, they have to get their blood cleaned.
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And we have our health and when when, you know, assuming that everybody has good health, here
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on this, on this, amazing living, authentic living, call that, you know, when it starts
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with our help to have gratitude, it's so important to have gratitude and also it's very,
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very, very important to have self respect.
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A lot of people today will notice that they get themselves into a lot of trouble and it starts
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that they're lying to themselves.
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They're not respecting themselves.
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And as you would say, because you're an expert at living authentic.
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They're not being authentic.
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Bernie Miller.
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He's he's kind of a a friend of a friend.
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He does some work with a great Mister Les Brown.
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And Bernie is America's number 1 acting coach.
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He works with, I can tell you the names.
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He works with, Cameron Diaz, Samuel Jackson, George Clooney, Leonardo De Caprio, and with on
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the line.
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And What he teaches is, well, 1st of all, he promotes acting.
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He he loves acting, thinks that everybody should learn acting.
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But we're really what he promotes is that we need to take off our mask of what other people
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expect of us, and we need to be authentic.
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We need to know our core values.
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We need to know what we really believe in, and we need to have confidence on our ability to do
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things even if some people misunderstand us.
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That is a huge huge tremor that I just spoke to spoke out, excuse me, is full misunderstood.
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A lot of issues today for example, in big cities where you have rioting going on and and
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so much, sadness and anger in my research, what it really starts with is people healing.
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We all have emotions, which was great human beings, Like, what else would you wanna be on
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planet Earth?
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Human beings have the ability.
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We have our fingers and our thumbs.
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We're the only, mammals that can text We can do so many things and and cook.
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You don't see animals cooking.
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You you know, we're we're able to make.
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We're we're able to do so many things and we have our minds and our hearts.
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And the emotions, not to preach or give any kind of religious perspective, but our emotions
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one would say is our blessing and our curse.
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So the fact that we have emotions is beautiful.
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It's an asset And if we didn't, we'd all be moving like the the, how you're supposed to be
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living in places like, North Korea.
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You know, where where you have to, you know, go rock the boat and fit in and and don't don't be
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a, you know, don't don't don't stand out So the fact that we have emotions is, again, in my
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opinion, it's it's a blessing.
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It it's a it's a, it's a gift that we have.
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And the the question is, who has taught us how to use our emotions?
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Was it our families?
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Was it our guidance counselors?
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Was it our teachers?
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Was it our college professors?
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Was it somebody else?
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And most people, again, they have issues.
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The the core spark of which creates a lot of problems is feeling misunderstood.
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And that and that detracts a lot of people from going after their goals.
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Is that what you're saying?
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That people get distracted because they're misunderstood.
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And if they perceive themselves as miss under being misunderstood, that detract them from
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their goals.
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Is that is that Well, absolutely.
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Absolutely.
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What what's going on is people actually hear a lot about, different issues.
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And there's, I I watch a little bit of, the news just to be current and not be a kid man,
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but you hear about, you know, border security and hear about, airport security and and
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building walls to stop drug trafficking and and and so on and so forth.
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So but people are actually building walls, not using any contractors of pulling permits, but
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they're building walls, invisible walls around themselves.
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Because they're feeling misunderstood.
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So it's really a victim mentality.
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And I think that most human beings, if you're just pulling two people off the street, they
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have a different opinion that most people would be cool that, for example, you and I, Roxanne,
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like, different kind of art.
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I might be more into stay music, or you might be more into, sculpture or vice versa, and
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that's cool.
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But when it comes to certain beliefs.
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And, what what happens is when people are feeling totally misunderstood, it creates, a
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lot of tension.
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For example, let's just say you and I have completely opposite things about some permits.
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I feel one way and you feel the other way.
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I mean, completely on either side that we if we could understand each other, and I understood
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where you're coming from and you understood me, it'd be a lot more amicable.
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What happens is that regardless if the other person is understood that in in, like, the
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egotistical way, if we're feeling misunderstood ourselves, in other words, somebody else isn't
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reading what what we're what we're feeling not what are worth thinking, but what we're feeling
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that if I feel that you totally understand me, it hurts more.
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So what has to happen is that Les Brown says somebody else's opinion of us is not of our
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business.
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And Yeah.
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It's important to have a good reputation, especially if you wanna work in corporate
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America.
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Not so much in a American political positions.
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But, anyway, in the corporate America, you have to have a really good reputation.
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Otherwise, you can do your job like that.
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And what it's really, really, really important to know yourself and to value yourself.
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And it's okay to make mistakes But as they say in, I think it was Confucius in China, they
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say, fall down seven times, get up eight times.
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So the the so what you're saying then is we all we we all want to be accepted at the end of the
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day.
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Right?
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But in order to achieve goals, sometimes you have to stand alone, to be able to achieve
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those in and toughen up.
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You know, I I it being normalized in a way because what you're looking for well, say to
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what you're trying to achieve this year, Robert, myself, people may not understand why
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I'm doing what I'm doing, and they might judge me.
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Right?
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Like, why, you know, why is she doing this radio show, or why is she speaking, or this,
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that, or the other, but I understand why I'm doing it because I'm a living within my value
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about wanting to make a difference in the world, wanting people to get more connected to
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themselves, recognizing that a lot of people are mentally unwell because of things that
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they're doing to themselves.
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And if they could learn different ways, really, we would have a whole lot happier and healthier
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worlds.
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If someone doesn't get it and you get detracted off your goal, let's say you're working with
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some.
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How do you help them toughen up?
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1st, they need to keep their eye in a prize.
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They need to know let's just say, for example, very practical example.
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Somebody wants to be able to run a marathon.
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And as part of their training, they wanna be able to do 50 push ups at one setting, 50 push
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ups, which for most people, they cannot do.
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You have to be in shape in order to do that.
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To do 50 proper push ups.
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So if they're at a point where they can do, let's just say, 15, and then they're feeling
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fatigue or aches or pains or weakness that you have to be able to show them remind them why
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they wanna do it.
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For example, Roxanne, you said that you're gonna do the triathlon or the Ironman or the
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New York marathon or whatever.
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And you promised yourself that you wanted to that you will be in great shape and that you're
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gonna have fun refine the odds and achieving your biggest physical goals, you know,
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accomplishing all that.
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So I get the fact that whatever.
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You had the flu or or whatever's going on.
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You've had a lot of snow.
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The snow shoveling.
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Well, what whatever it is.
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So let's just say, for example, you're doing 15 or somebody else is doing 15, push ups that you
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can break it down into a intermarry intermediary goal, for example, 20 or 25.
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So sometimes we have to reset for example, when driving your car and here in America, we
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haven't become accustomed to, we have a lot of international sign, but we don't understand the
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metric system.
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So what are you gonna use miles here?
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So your car is able to go a hundred miles an hour So the the challenge is that you're in a
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construction zone and there's traffic.
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So now you're only able to go thirty miles an hour.
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But guess what?
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It's temporary.
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The cars in front of you are temporary.
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The construction zone is temporary.
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That little point of your life is temporary.
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And, yeah, you kinda have the brakes on you're restricted, but there's a time and a place.
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So, really, it's not perspective.
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It's if somebody's feeling stuck, they really need to, work on looking themselves in the
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mirror and sharing affirmations.
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For example, I love a challenge I can do this every day and every way I'm becoming healthier
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and more full of vitality.
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I love to learn.
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I love to expand.
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I love to help people.
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I love to make a difference.
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And you know, regardless, for for men out there, you can look at yourself with a very
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slight smile with confidence, those Superman eyes, and just say, I got this.
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And for a lady, you can look in front of the mirror and just do the same thing with your
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Either wonder woman or, whatever superhero you you love the most and just say, well, those
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eyes say, I got this.
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And it's really, really important to have fun with yourself.
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You and I have been on the stage with Les Brown.
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And one of the things about Les is he reframes things He has fun.
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Even when he's in tremendous pain, I've actually seen him on stage honoring his
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commitments where he's had sciatic and terrible back pain.
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Is feeling really awkward, but he's standing up and laughing and giving his all.
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And for example, as we all know, let us never had a father around him, not even a, adopted
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father.
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His adopted mother, Missus Mimi Brown, raised him, and his mother apparently got pregnant,
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which wasn't planned by a young man in the military, and she went to Miami, which was not
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where she lived, to, you know, to go out, you know, through her pregnancy and have to deliver
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the baby.
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And, she wasn't familiar with adoption services.
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So she basically did really a criminal act.
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She left the babies, twin babies, Leslie and Wesley alone on the floor of abandoned
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building.
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So so that's it is what it is.
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So less as soon as he gets into the room, he stands and hold his posture, and he's looking
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around a room.
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Full gratitude.
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You can just look at this man if you've never seen him before, and you can feel his love and
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gratitude.
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And he's looking and he's you could see the emotion in his eyes, and he'll start his speech
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by saying, I am so blessed, and you'll see a beautiful smile.
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He says, I am so blessed.
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I'm so blessed to have 2 mothers.
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One mother gave me life.
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The other mother gave me love.
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Mhmm.
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So he's not complaining and carrying on and finding an excuse to be, you know, always in
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the bars and drinking and being intoxicated or using drugs or just feeling sorry for himself.
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No matter what you guys do for a living, You would love to be a neighbor of Les Brown.
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He's fun.
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He's optimistic.
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It's one of the things that, really, I grew up in.
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It really doesn't matter.
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I'm from West County, New York, which is just north of New York City.
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And, you know, went to school in the 19 eighties.
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And, It wasn't really where I was raised or what neighborhood I was raised, but I think it
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was the time period that most people, including my teachers, They had so much optimism about
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the future about the space program.
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We're gonna have space shuttles.
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We're gonna have cell phones.
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We're have all these cool things.
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We're gonna have robots cleaning our houses.
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I'm still waiting to to find out about that.
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But Yeah.
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And but but but regardless, I don't totally understand what Kennedy did with the space
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program.
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A lot of it's totally over my head.
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I'm not a rocket scientist, and I'm not sure if we even could have done it.
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Is so expensive, but it brought a lot of optimism.
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And today, thanks to Everything.
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Make news.
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Thanks to I have an account on Facebook and Twitter and Instagram, but because of social
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media, because of cable TV, these news channels, which, of course, they do some good.
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I wanna, appreciate the people who work for all these companies, and they're doing good things
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and are helping people connect.
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And thanks to that technology that we're able to connect now on this on this call, and we're
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able to touch other hearts.
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So we're able to learn and and collaborate.
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But the challenge is that people have basically lost their optimism, and it's important to do
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incantations and to actually go for walks.
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Even if you're not an athlete, go for a walk, get some vitamin d.
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You're gonna fit a little bit cold.
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Bundle up go for a walk, interact with nature.
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It might just be a pigeon or a squirrel in places like Central Park in New York City, but
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there'll be some form of nature.
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And just being around people all the time and, iPhones and computers.
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It gets old after a while.
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It really does.
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So you need to mix with nature.
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Every once in a while, go to a national park.
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They have beautiful national parks in Canada, the United States, and many other countries.
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Probably some of the best reasons we have a lot of tourists in these countries is we have
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beautiful, beautiful national parks.
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So get out and do things and, the the the fact is though that what happens is when people are
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feeling stuck, there's a tendency to self sabotage.
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So there's certain triggers that go off or, like, sparks, and it's important to know what
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they are.
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For example, many people when they get stressed out, where they go?
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The refrigerator, It's a comfort zone.
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And, actually, it's hardwired.
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Here's why I was reading an article on Sports Illustrated, and It was very, very interesting.
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It was talking about how we train and reward children, how we get children to think certain
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things.
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Basically, as Americans, we've been raising children to be adverse to the idea of moving or
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running and to enjoy the idea of sitting, which is what we do when we end up in nursing homes
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and senior care centers, or sitting down, eating, and we're rewarding kids where, in
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other words, a kid can now say the alphabet perfectly in Canadian English, and we give the
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kid a cupcake.
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We give the kid candy.
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We give the kid a piece of cake.
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And what we really should be doing is giving a lot of excitement which is, non edible.
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We're just, like, patting them on the back and, like, give me a high five guest girl and, like,
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I'm so proud of you You can do the alphabet better than I can, and you speak so clearly.
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And what you wanna do is actually go for a walk with a kid or go out and play with a dog with a
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kid, some kind of physical exercise and you actually wanna do biking and things like
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running in a safe place, not in bad weather.
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But you wanna encourage the kids that moving and even running is a healthy thing.
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It it it's it's it's an asset just like You have a beautiful car box in, but in case of
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emergency, you can step on the accelerator.
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It brings in more oxygen, and that car can fly like a rocket just in case.
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That it's good to have.
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So I'm not saying that we should all be runners, but the gift of being able to run is
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such a great gift what's going on is sports illustrated explained that kids and also,
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sadly, a lot a lot of, parents and coaches end up believing that running is punishment.
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For example, we're playing, any sport and somebody makes a mistake.
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So now because of the mistake, we have the kids doing windscreen, going from one side of the
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field to the other.
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And what are we linking to our brain that running is pain?
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And when we open a refrigerator, Yes.
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That's heaven.
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And then a lot of times people sabotage, and they, they may be on a really healthy, living
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system, by the way Roxanne, Roxanne and her friends have access to very healthy, ways to
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eat and to detoxify your body and to, really replenish.
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So if you want more information on that, you wanna contact Roxanne directly.
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And she can get you on living authentic and essential life in the body that you deserve.
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But back to back to, the refrigerator is people open up the refrigerators.
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Basically, they break all their rules.
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In other words, the, burglar alarm has been turned off notifications are off.
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They're there, and they eat.
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So it goes back because it's hardwired for most of us.
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That when we were kids, when we when we, wanted to feel recognized or rewarded or wanted to
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feel comfort, what do we do?
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We comfort food.
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So I'm not asking anybody to stop eating today, but I am asking you to think about what you do
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when you're at the period of owing into a, normalization pattern as Roxanne calls it or
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average mindset, as I call it, that you do not want to just give in and have, like, 1 or 2
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mistakes and they'd say, I'm having a bad day and they eat a lot of junk food, drink a lot of
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beer, make a lot of excuses, and what happens we totally lost that whole day.
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And even worse, it could set up a whole new habit system where the rest of your week could
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be really tough to get back to even what you wanted to do because you weren't able to, to
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get out and move.
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So so Tony Robbins says, the word emotion the the keyword in the word emotion is the word
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motion.
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So a lot of the pharmaceuticals and drugs that they make people feel good.
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They have different chemicals in them, but it's temporary.
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And then they may not cause liver or, organ damage, brain cell damage.
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But the the real treat is to get out.
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So when you're feeling down, go for a walk.
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Believe in yourself, reflect on your accomplishments, do some affirmations.
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You can look up great affirmations, and, I think that perhaps Roxanne and I may be giving
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you guys a bonus.
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We're working on some projects where we can have some great affirmations between us and Les
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Brown.
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I can assemble that myself, and we can give that to you as a free gift.
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If you like 30 emotions or 31 emotions, one for every day of the month.
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How's that sound?
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Sounds amazing.
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But you know what?
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I what I hear clearly, and I see it often when I'm working with people or companies is that
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you're right.
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It's people are well intentioned with their goals, right?
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But they're not vetted or hooked to really what they value and believe So they are, you know,
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arbitrarily saying I wanna grow my business.
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So I wanna get in shape, but they're not talking about the why they're doing Like, why
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am I why am I wanting to make a difference in the world?
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Well, I'm hoping that if I make a difference in the world, there'll be less, issues around the
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anxiety and depression.
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And if we have more less anxiety than depression, we'll have less things that, like,
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happened out, out your way in, Fort Lauderdale, Parkland, you know, so we're gonna just have a
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nicer society just overall.
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I'm sure why do you do what you do, Rob?
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Like, when you do all your, you know, mind champion mindsets, initiatives with Les Brown
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and, all the others that you work with, why do you do them?
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Why do you do what you do and what difference are you trying to make in the world?
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Okay.
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That's a great question, and I'm gonna start with a quote, which actually was just a few
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sentences I heard on a phone call, and I jotted it down.
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It's become a quote because I recorded my friend talking to me.
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I I wrote it down, of course, I was talking to Oscar Arias who him and I created the coaching
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program for the Les Brown Institute, and we were talking a little bit about careers.
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And he said, We can find a job.
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We can choose a career, or we can live our calling.
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And I realized years ago, it was actually 2004 that I was not being authentic.
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I had a achiever mindset, and I had some mixed messages, which actually is more common than
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you think from a lot of men for younger men, there's a lot of that.
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And what happened is I thought that when I became a millionaire, That's what would make me
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happy.
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Again, I grew up in New York.
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I'm not making excuses, but I had that achievement mindset where I realized that It's
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kinda like thinking it moves ahead playing chess.
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I realized that even if everything worked out exactly as I intended, that working and just
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making money and not following my heart wouldn't make me happy.
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As a matter of fact, a lot of us have opportunities to make money and be with people
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or or in places that we wouldn't choose to to be in because of the stress and the the the the
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just the the morals of it.
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So what I realized is I was made to make a difference.
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I think we're cut from the same cloth, as, Les Brown would say Roxanne.
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So back in 2004, I started to notice how certain athletic teams consistently would have
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not only great coaching, but great product that that their, student athletes would I mean, have
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have a great year.
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So in other words, an off year, they were winning 60 or 70% of their games on a off year.
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On a good year, they're winning, maybe 80, 90% of their games, reaching the state
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championship.
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Looking at, like, for example, places around the New York area with high school sports and
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and also college sports with certain college teams or, as you would say, in Canada,
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university teams, that have consistent results.
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And really based on my research, I found that it starts with high standards.
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It's kinda like the United States Marine Corps.
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Say what you want about the Marine Corps.
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But in certain metrics, they have very, very high standards and not everybody can fit and
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become a marine.
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Or get a promotion in the marine corps.
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The the the very, very tough.
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It's it's it's like the, some of the school systems in Europe is very, very difficult.
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So what I found is I found my heart.
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And the reason I do what I do is it's helped me a lot with my life.
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That, having a coach, becoming a better listener, learning effective ways for me to
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organize my life, to prioritize, to handle adversities.
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It's been such a blessing.
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So I've been involved with goal setting and personal development.
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It started year 2000, ironically.
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It's kind of where 2000 is a very interesting year.
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We had these elections in, United States, particularly in Florida, where there was
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problems with the election machines in Miami.
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And also here in Broward County or Fort Lauderdale.
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And, it was a very close election.
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There's a couple thousand votes, could have made a difference between president Gore and
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president George W Bush.
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And there was a lot of, since then, there's been a lot of division and polarization for
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people.
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And I'm not actually a part of that crowd.
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I'm very independent, and I'm a maverick, and I'm not here to judge any political thinking.
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I think most people wanna do good.
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Inside.
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But, again, what I'm looking for is optimism and show me a a a a way of thinking.
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That's very optimistic, and I'm gonna join your party.
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But back to, why I do what I do is I love it.
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It's my calling.
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I'm a partner in a business.
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We put on events.
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And it's fun, and I enjoy it.
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And sometimes I'm on stage, and it's fun and I laugh.
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And, I I make people smile and I share valuable information just like I'm doing now.
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However, coaching is my, my gift It's something that not everybody can do.
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You have to have empathy.
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You have to be able to learn advanced listening skills.
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You have to help others organize and prioritize with 0 judgment.
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For example, you could have completely different belief systems than your coach, and
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we're here to support you just like if we were a doctor or, lifeguard or firefighter in order
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to help everybody and, which I'd like to share a great quote, which is me rounded.
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It's her mother Theresa.
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She's become a saint.
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So, she's also known as Saint Theresa.
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She worked a lot with Princess Diana doing some great things to help poor people in India.
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Prince, excuse me.
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Mother Theresa said, if you spend your life judging people, when we have time to love them?
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Good.
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Good.
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Good quote.
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And, you know, I can I obviously, I was privileged to speak with, Les Brown and and
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your your organization champion mindset in December?
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And I, you know, I tell you what I thought?
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You know, I I know I came in the the night before.
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And out of anything, I remember you, I remember, Eric and just sitting around such
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nice people.
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Honestly, you know, because you're not sure.
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You're going into New York City and you're speaking with Brown, and you're not really sure
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how it's gonna go.
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And really even down to, you know, all the crew, like, what fantastic people If anything,
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that's what, I left New York thinking, you know, you know, what a great organization to be
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involved with, and you should be very proud that, you're involved with it.
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And even less like, you know, meeting him for the first time.
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And the gift that that man has around captivating your attention.
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When I would speak to him, when I spoke to him, you know, through the 2 days, It was like
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nobody else existed in that room, except me.
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And what what a special gift that he has been given that he continues to give to the world.
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Truly amazing.
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And I shared on another podcast that my son, I had said to him, Hey, you know, I'd like you.
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I was telling him a little bit about my son, and he picked up the phone and called him.
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Here we are in the lobby of the hotel.
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And I said, well, I'd like I was thinking about just having him, you know, film something.
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I thought, what an opportunity?
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Right?
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It'll be a lifetime memory for RJ.
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What does Les do?
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He says, call him.
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I said, are you kidding?
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He goes, no.
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No.
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No.
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Call him.
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And he spent the time with, with him on the phone.
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At first, I think because, you know, his voice, right, Archie thought it was a recording, and
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then he realized, oh my goodness.
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This is Les Brown.
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Now the he's not the typical sixteen year old because he's been listening to Les for years.
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And so he was sharing with Les and and, you know, he was he was stand that he took the
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time.
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And I will that'll that in of itself, other than being on stage with Les Brown, that was
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the memory that I will take with myself for the rest of my life.
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The fact that he took the time and was reflective of his entire team, you all, are so
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kind and gentle, which, really made, made my first time on a big stage, worth that's coming
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to New York.
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So, you you embody kindness and gentleness and authenticity.
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And that's why it was an organization that I really, love being connected with and, and, you
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know, hope to continue being connected with you.
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Now you have shared so much today, and I know you have, a project that you're working on, and
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I would like you to if there's anything else you wanna share before we kind of let you go
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back to your busy time, I know you took an hour out to spend with me and my audience, Tell us,
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where people can reach you and any projects that you're working on that, things that you
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like people to know and how they can get a hold of you all.
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Sure.
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I have a one page.
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It's a, a one page website.
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It's easy to reach.
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It's about AB0ut.me.
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It's not.com.
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It's dotme.
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So about dot m like Michael, e for Edward Slash champion Coach.
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My Twitter and Instagram is championcoach.
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My LinkedIn is linkedin.com/in slash champion coach, direct link for Facebook.
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I'm not on Facebook that often, because of all the ads and everything, but, If you'd like to
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add me there, I can add you back.
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It's, facebook.com/champion life.
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That one is different.
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It's not champion coaches.
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Facebook.com/championlife.
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And, I do have some pages.
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Let me see.
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Facebook dotcom slash champion life team.
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That's for, my business.
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We also have champion mindset events on Facebook.
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We can search for that.
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To get facebook dot com slash champion mindset events.
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So that those are ways you can reach me.
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My phone is United States number.
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It's 9319 Winbig, which is 931-994 6244.
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And, I do post on Instagram probably a few times a week I need to tweet some more.
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But again, as I said in the very beginning, I see a lot of, negativity and, like, same old
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pattern.
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It's like, I don't wanna get back on that same roller coaster of, you know, stress and doubt
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and and frustration and feeling other people's emotions We're all human.
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What's great again is that we can feel each other's emotions.
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So I choose not to be a big head, not to be an elitist, I choose to do things that are really,
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really rewarding, meaningful, and fun, and all natural, by the way.
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One of the big projects I'm working on actually knew 2 of the adults that were ordered on
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February 14th in the next town for me, which is Parkland.
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I live in Coconut Creek, Florida.
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And, I knew the athletic director, Chris Hixson, knew him fairly well.
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And, great guy, and he had a great reputation.
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He actually had a great vision, right, soon found out about through the head football
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coach.
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I'm working with his name's Coach Marshall.
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Excuse me.
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Coach Willis May.
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Coach Willis May.
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And He also lost another coach, which was his offensive line coach, coach Aaron Feis, and he
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died a heroic death in, saving the lives of a couple girls that were escaping the school, and
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he was wounded and died in the hospital.
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And, the other teacher, I did not know It's Mister Beagle and the 14 children.
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I did not know.
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But, It's very sad, but what's going on is the community needs hope.
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The community needs love.
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The world needs love.
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And so there's various ways that you can help out.
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There's all kinds of fundraisers that have already happened.
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There are more that are happening.
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I'm working with him there.
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I'm working with a friend of mine, Bobby Morgan.
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He's one of America's top Pro sports agents.
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And, I'm working with, a lot of great people in the community, including the mayor and the,
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principal of the school.
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And, again, the football coach American Football Coach, which is, a really fun sport
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for, the kids to play.
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And what we're doing is we're going to create a project it's got a budget of $23,000,000 and
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stability.
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Roxanne Hall.
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Hixson is named after the athletic director who had this dream of creating facilities to, have
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the the the school.
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It's, they have a grass field and they have lights and they have a metal preachers.
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That's all they have.
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They don't have any bathrooms there.
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School is very far away.
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It's a long walk city.
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They rent porta potties.
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They have, temporary, outhouses in these athletic conferences.
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They, they need bathrooms.
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They need locker room for the visiting team.
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The home team uses the PE, which is physical education locker room.
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It's far from this school to the field.
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It's also a danger in case we have lightning and bad weather.
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So we wouldn't have a visitor locker room for all sports, soccer, football, etcetera, across
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and a home locker room.
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We wanna have a concession stand.
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We wanna have, perhaps, 17 flags and flag poles to honor each of the angels that that we have
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lost, wanna have it very well themed.
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I just found out last night that the firm that redesigned the Dolphin's Miami Dolphin Stadium,
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now known Sun Life Stadium, the firm has gotten involved to build build blueprints, build a a
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nice, athletic facility and memorial for this school.
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It's a county school district.
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Well, Florida has County school districts.
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So the school district doesn't have the funding for this, but you could get a hold of me.
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We already have pledged $500,000.
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I I don't have liberty now to explain the 2 donors, but we have 2 donors at each have
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pledged quarter of a $1,000,000.
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And, I'm contacting other companies that I know, they have friends there.
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Big companies like Under Armour, and I'm sure they're gonna get onboard.
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And, so there's a lot of ways.
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I'm not asking for money, but if you know somebody would like to be involved or perhaps
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somehow you'd like to volunteer even virtual virtual volunteers we have nowadays.
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To help with some of the admin and connecting and promoting.
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So, that's something very important.
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These teachers and the kids has 32100 kids in school.
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They they went through, like, a a battlefield type of situation.
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Very stressful.
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A lot of kids are considering becoming homeschooled because just the post traumatic
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stress of going for any school is becoming very difficult because they don't know if there's
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gonna be a fire or something worse happening.
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So, we wanna love all these kids.
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We want to, empower them.
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And I'd like just to share a few more of my quotes with you Roxanne as we wrap up.
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Sure.
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Sure.
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So
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I I just want it before I just wanted to, Jack, before you go into your quote, I'm a a post
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traumatic stress experts.
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So if there's anything I can do to volunteer my time, Rob, please let me know.
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In whatever way I can help out, I would be very, very happy to get back So let me know.
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So go ahead with your coach.
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Absolutely.
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Well, one of the things we're planning is a champion mindset Pro Day where we have a
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particular pro athletes come to the school, and we have as many as many families as necessary
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to get all the teachers and the students through because I know the auditorium doesn't
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hold 3400 seats for the staff and the the students So, and then after school, we'll have,
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various, skilled drones for the athletes with, the the school athletes as well as the pro
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athletes where they can learn more interactive, and it'd be really fun.
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Even if the sports out of season, for example, other sports, like, soccer and basketball.
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Their season is over, and, they still would be able to connect with our teammates and have
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this So, you could be involved in that.
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We could actually have you either fly in or play terrible at your hotel and travel expenses
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and we can also have you virtually where we can do a zoom call or something better.
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Some of my quotes, Really, we have to really, really be careful of eating what average people
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eat and thinking what average people think and reacting the way average people react.
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I'm not saying anything bad about my family or a lot of people I went to school with, a lot of
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my neighbors, but, really, mindset is a choice.
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So I say this.
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It's become a quote and say this a lot.
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In my opinion, I feel the average mindset is highly overrated.
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Which leads to a question, why be Ab anyway, where we have alternative lifestyle choices as
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far as our our mindset, we can we can have a a higher standard and not the fault of that
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average mindset.
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And one of my other quotes, just to share with you, you have not seen less fraud, you wanna
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see him.
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My company, we're having more events coming up this year with us.
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My next event, big event will be in Deerfield Beach, Florida, which is Little Port
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Lauderdale.
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On April 26th at the Doubletree, Hotel, Hilton Doubletree, and it'll be all day.
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Omar Paradu, our 1 to month Alamo, Eric Staller, and many others.
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It's gonna be a champion mindset who has a negotiation day.
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It's a very, very in-depth and, a very exclusive event.
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But the the quote that, Les Brown will end his speech.
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Les Brown, he won't be at that that event, by the way.
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He's he'll be in a different city that day, April 26.
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Les Brown, when he concludes his speech, let's says, quote, you have something special.
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You have greatness within.
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That's my story, and I'm sticking to it.
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He says that in a very deep, deep voice, which doesn't make me any less of a man.
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Higher notes better than him.
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I'm not sure.
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And, anyway, ah, he's so powerful to to hear him speak.
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You wrote to yourself, everybody, to see It's it's it's a he's, I believe he's seventy two
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years old now, seventy three, and, it's time to, to go out of your way.
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And go to New York or Canada or somewhere and see less.
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So out of that quote, where Les says you have something special, you have great within, and
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then he says that's my story.
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And I'm sticking to it.
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I created a quote within a quote.
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It's called a remix.
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Unless loves it, his eyes, like, popped out, good smile, and gave me a hug I created a re a
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requote.
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It goes like this.
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Instead of you have greatness, we all have courage and greatness within us.
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And opportunity all around us.
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I love it.
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I love it.
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And, do say hi to Les, for me.
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And maybe maybe he would consider coming on the show.
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I would absolutely would I would be truly honored if he would consider it.
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I know he's a busy man at some point in his in his schedule.
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And, Robert, it's been a pleasure.
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I know you were one of the first people I met in New York and I'm so happy that we stayed
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connected.
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And, definitely, I'll probably see again soon.
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So thanks again for for being on on my show living with Roxanne.
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So for my listeners, what an opportunity, what things said that we walked away with again
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today, and the importance of taking care of your biggest, your asset, which is your mind,
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it's something that, daily, you have to invest in and I would say as basic as we wouldn't
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think about not brushing your teeth and putting on a or a shoes before we leave the house or a
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clothes, It's the same thing.
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So being authenticated connected to who you are, you're one of a kind.
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You are made from one mold, and then that mold no longer exists because you're special.
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So if you're wanting any more information on, authenticity, please go ahead and go to my
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website at roxanderhodge.com and I speak at events, corporations, and I do coaching and
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consulting.
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So thanks again, and I look forward to chatting with you again next week.
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Thanks for tuning in to authentic living with Roxanne, creating the space for positive
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healthy change.
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