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Don't Dead That Deal · R.E.A.L. Talk for REAL L.Y.F.E.

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  Welcome to Real Talk for Real Life, where we're realizing everyone is always
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  learning and living your full experience.
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  I'm your host, Coach C, and this is Season 4, Episode 3, Don't Dead That Deal.
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  Today's episode is for every person who's ever walked away from something that
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  might have changed their life The title says it all Don't dead the deal.
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  Now before the grammar police show up Yes, I know dead isn't the proper word,
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  But where I'm from, everybody knows exactly what it means You killed it You
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  shut it down. You gave up on it.
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  You buried it before it ever had a chance to breathe.
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  You deaded the deal.
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  Can I tell you something? Many of us give up just before our get back.
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  Let me say that again. Many of us quit just before the breakthrough,
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  just before the opportunity, just before the connection, just before the promotion,
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  just before the healing,
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  just before the lesson finally makes sense.
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  Here's what happens. We get excited.
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  We start the business. We begin the fitness journey.
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  We launch the podcast. we enroll in school, we start the relationship,
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  we finally decide we're going to become a different version of ourselves.
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  Then something gets hard.
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  The views don't come. The weight doesn't move.
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  The sales don't happen. The phone doesn't ring.
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  The opportunity gets delayed. Life starts lifing.
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  And suddenly we convince ourselves this must not be for me.
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  No, it may simply mean it's requiring more of you than motivation.
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  Can I tell you what I think? You quit too soon. You did.
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  Maybe you didn't have the right support. Maybe you didn't have the right strategy.
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  Maybe you didn't have the right mentor.
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  Maybe you didn't have enough stamina.
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  Maybe you ran out of patience. Maybe you got tired of hearing no.
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  Maybe you just got frustrated because you couldn't figure out as quickly as you expected.
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  So you sucked your teeth, rolled your eyes, packed up your dream,
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  and aborted the mission.
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  Not because it couldn't happen. Because it wasn't happening on your timeline.
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  Then we create beautiful excuses to justify a painful decision.
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  We didn't have enough money. It wasn't the right season. Nobody supported me.
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  I'm too old. I'm too young. The market is saturated. it. They already do it better.
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  Can I challenge you? Sometimes those aren't explanations.
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  They're escape routes.
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  Here's what I've learned. Delayed doesn't mean denied.
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  Let me say that again. Delayed does not mean denied.
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  A seed spends time underground before anyone celebrates the harvest.
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  No one walks outside after planting
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  a seed and digs it up every three days asking, why isn't it growing?
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  Because growth is happening where your eyes can't see it.
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  The same is true for your purpose. Sometimes God is growing your character while
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  you're waiting on your calling.
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  Sometimes he's strengthening your roots before he expands your reach.
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  That's why you need three things. Discipline, because discipline keeps showing
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  up after the excitement leaves.
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  Determination, because determination keeps fighting after disappointment arrives.
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  Desire, because desire reminds you why you started before obstacles convince you to stop.
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  Motivation is wonderful, but motivation has an expiration date.
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  Discipline is what clocks in after motivation clocks out.
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  Let me ask you something. If the deadline disappeared, would you still do the work?
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  If nobody ever clapped, would you still build it?
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  If success took five more years, would you still believe God called you to it?
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  Because if the answer is no, maybe you weren't chasing purpose.
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  Maybe you were chasing quick results. Purpose doesn't quit because progress is slow.
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  Purpose adapts. Purpose learns. Purpose keeps swinging.
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  Listen, don't confuse a difficult season with a defeated assignment.
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  Don't bury the dream because it demanded another version of you.
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  Don't dead the deal because today didn't look like tomorrow dig deeper learn
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  more adjust rest if you need to,
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  pivot if necessary ask for help,
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  seek wise counsel,
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  pray harder but don't quit simply because it's taking longer than you expected,
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  because the breakthrough you're praying for may be waiting for one more faithful
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  step beyond the place you want it to stop.
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  Remember this, you don't lose because the process took longer.
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  You lose when you decide the promise isn't worth pursuing anymore.
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  That's your real talk for today. Keep learning, keep living,
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  and whatever you do, don't dead the deal.
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  Here's your fearless homework. This week, I want you to identify one deal you've dated.
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  Maybe it was a business, a dream, a degree, your health, writing the book,
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  starting the podcast, repairing a relationship, going back to church, believing in yourself.
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  Now, answer these questions honestly?
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  Did I quit because it was impossible or because it became uncomfortable?
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  Was I lacking discipline, determination, or desire? Which one disappeared first?
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  Did I confuse delayed results with denied purpose?
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  What excuse have I been repeating that sounds reasonable but has really become
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  my permission slip to quit.
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  What's one small action I can take in the next 48 hours to breathe life back
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  into something I buried too soon?
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  Then close with this declaration. I refuse to abort what God assigned because
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  the process became inconvenient.
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  I will stay disciplined when motivation fades, determined when obstacles appear,
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  and connected to the desire that made me begin.
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  I don't need overnight success. I need unwavering obedience.
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  Remember, every dream worth having will eventually ask you a hard question.
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  Do you still want me now that I'm costing you something.
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  How you answer that question often determines whether you experience a breakthrough,
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  or become another person telling the story of what could have been.
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  This is Coach C I'll see you in the next one.