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“Don’t Let Them Trick You Out Your Spot” | Loren Lorosa on Faith, Failure & Finding Your Purpose · The Breakfast Club

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Speaker 1: George.
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Speaker 2: I'm a homegrowd that knows a little bit about everything
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Speaker 2: and everybody.
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Speaker 1: You know, if you don't lie about that, right, Lauren
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Speaker 1: can't even hot. And y'all, what's up.
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Speaker 2: It's Laura l Rosa And this is another episode of
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Speaker 2: the Latest with Laura Rosa. This is your really dig
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Speaker 2: on all things pop culture, entertainment, news and all of
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Speaker 2: the conversations that shake the room.
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Speaker 1: Baby. Now I want to check in behind the scenes
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Speaker 1: of the crime.
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Speaker 2: You guys know that that is something that we do
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Speaker 2: first and foremost here at the Latest with Lauren Rosa,
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Speaker 2: And it is a time where we actually sit and
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Speaker 2: we look and we ask ourselves, how are you really doing?
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Speaker 1: Like seriously, how are you really doing?
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Speaker 2: We literally ask ourselves just like that, because a lot
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Speaker 2: of times, when you're moving, when you're hustling, when you're grinding,
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Speaker 2: where you're achieving, when you're accomplishing, you're not always checking
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Speaker 2: in on yourself. And my pastor, Pastor Jerome Lewis as
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Speaker 2: he's the Greatness Church in Delaware, always says this thing
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Speaker 2: that makes me think about how I speak about Brown
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Speaker 2: gard grinding in the work in the world, Like people
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Speaker 2: begin identified with the brand and I love that because
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Speaker 2: I know for myself, like when I feel like I
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Speaker 2: belong to something or belong like you know, a part
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Speaker 2: of something like a community or a world, I just
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Speaker 2: maneuver differently, Like you know, I feel like I have
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Speaker 2: a tribe. I feel like I have a community. So
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Speaker 2: I love the fact that people identify Brown Guard grinding
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Speaker 2: as that, if even just hashtagging when they're out and
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Speaker 2: about doing their things, doing what they're good at.
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Speaker 1: I see all of the.
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Speaker 2: Reporter girls and reporter guys and media mavens uh you know,
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Speaker 2: media icons both want to come up and already up
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Speaker 2: that I'm looking at, like whoa that you know also
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Speaker 2: identified with the brand, And I think it's just fire
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Speaker 2: to see. But I'm careful about how I talk about
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Speaker 2: it because my pastor always says that when you're grinding something,
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Speaker 2: you are literally grinding it down to its last little
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Speaker 2: bit of anything like grinding. Like think about a screw, right,
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Speaker 2: and when you are using a you know, a screw
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Speaker 2: at its best, it's not dull, it's not flimsy, it's
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Speaker 2: not you know, if you use a screw down to
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Speaker 2: its last little bit, it ain't good for nothing. It's
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Speaker 2: not holding anything. It's not securing anything. The foundation just
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Speaker 2: isn't there. And when you think of grinding, that's the
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Speaker 2: way he talks about, like, you know, grinding when you're
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Speaker 2: grinding down to.
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Speaker 1: The very last.
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Speaker 2: So I always told myself after hearing him talk about
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Speaker 2: that and hearing him talk about how you don't wait
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Speaker 2: until you're like that to replenish or to leaning on
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Speaker 2: God and faith, and you know, for me, it's God,
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Speaker 2: for you whatever else it may be that replenishes you.
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Speaker 1: You don't wait until then.
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Speaker 2: You keep the nourishment going good, bad, and different so
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Speaker 2: that you don't ever get down to that point. And
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Speaker 2: when you start to get down to that point, because
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Speaker 2: things happen, you have something to kind of like lift
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Speaker 2: you up, to polish you, to shoot, maybe even replace
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Speaker 2: the screw when you need it, you know what I mean.
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Speaker 2: So for me, Broun got grinding like when I'm talking
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Speaker 2: about it and I'm we glamorize like the hustle culture
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Speaker 2: and the grind culture. I want to be really honest
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Speaker 2: and saying that like there are days where like I
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Speaker 2: am worn down, like I now as I start thinking about, like,
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Speaker 2: you know, what I want my life to look like
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Speaker 2: in full, not just at work and not just in
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Speaker 2: the grind. As I think about the health issues and
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Speaker 2: things that I want to prevent from myself that run
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Speaker 2: in my family, I see how stress really plays a
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Speaker 2: big part and where a lot of the people I
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Speaker 2: love have ended up health wise and that grind, you know,
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Speaker 2: and a lot of times we don't have a choice
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Speaker 2: but to do so that's been for me what I've
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Speaker 2: seen my whole life is like, you know, women and
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Speaker 2: people who don't have a choice but to do so,
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Speaker 2: so they run it up. But if I really want
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Speaker 2: to make sure we flipping it on its head right,
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Speaker 2: like it's brown Girl grind that we all are here,
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Speaker 2: we community with the low riders.
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Speaker 1: We're supporting it the gang, but really understanding that.
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Speaker 2: There should be reprieve before you get to the point
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Speaker 2: where year foundation is good for nothing. And you know,
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Speaker 2: I just always think about what my pastor says about that.
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Speaker 2: So when we do these behind the scenes to the
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Speaker 2: grind check ins, that's essentially what this is for, is
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Speaker 2: to be able to check in on us so that
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Speaker 2: we're not at the point where we've indulled ourselves out
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Speaker 2: and burnt ourselves out.
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Speaker 1: Because baby it'll happen.
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Speaker 2: I'm in a state right now of learning how not
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Speaker 2: to feel guilty about rest, because Lord, learning how not
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Speaker 2: to feel guilty about rest, and honestly learning how to
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Speaker 2: say no and to protect my energy. And I don't
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Speaker 2: mean to protect my energy like not bringing bad people
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Speaker 2: bad spirits around me. I mean like literally my energy
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Speaker 2: to like get up, go do things, protecting it, like
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Speaker 2: not having to show up at everything, being okay with like, girl,
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Speaker 2: you've been talking all day at.
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Speaker 1: Work, It's cool if you don't answer the phone. It's
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Speaker 1: cool if you go in my aid from the group
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Speaker 1: chats like I.
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Speaker 2: Was feeling bad, and I still do feel bad about
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Speaker 2: this sometimes daily because you know, like when you're I'm
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Speaker 2: a communicator by nature, so there's a lot of people
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Speaker 2: that like I'm in communication with I'm checking in on mom,
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Speaker 2: grandma calling me all day. But I've had to learn
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Speaker 2: to just be like I can't answer that call right now,
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Speaker 2: or even with my mom and my grandmam answering and
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Speaker 2: being like, hey, y'all, good is in an emergency?
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Speaker 1: Do y'all need anything? Okay? Cool?
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Speaker 2: I need this next hour to just sit here in
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Speaker 2: silence because I got to do the podcast today and
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Speaker 2: I'm all talked out right now, I can't even think
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Speaker 2: it's through my next sentence, so I needed time to myself, so,
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Speaker 2: you know, behind the scenes of the grind, That's one
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Speaker 2: of the things that like, you know, this week, I've
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Speaker 2: been practicing this way for this week, but this week
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Speaker 2: for some reason, it has been so vital to me
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Speaker 2: getting through this week that I understand a lot more
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Speaker 2: clearly how vital.
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Speaker 1: It is to me in order to get through this
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Speaker 1: next phasing error in life that God is bringing me to.
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Speaker 2: And a lot of times things happen that way where
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Speaker 2: you have like a I don't know about y'all, but
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Speaker 2: I'll be hard headed. So I feel like God be
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Speaker 2: dealing with me like I'm the bad kid that he
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Speaker 2: keep getting calls from school about. So he give it
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Speaker 2: to me real harsh sometimes in order for me to
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Speaker 2: like to joke me and make me feel it. So
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Speaker 2: I'm like, okay, I get it. Moving forward as we
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Speaker 2: go on into the latest I hope that was good
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Speaker 2: for you guys also as well, to think through you know,
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Speaker 2: just where you are behind the scenes of the grind
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Speaker 2: and how you checking on yourself as well, because how
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Speaker 2: you checking on you. I've learned, doesn't it might not
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Speaker 2: look like how I check in on me. Like what
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Speaker 2: you need and what I need to fill us up
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Speaker 2: are two completely different things. And that is okay, figure
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Speaker 2: out your regimen and sometimes you got to keep it
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Speaker 2: to your Yes. I was going to say, your damn self, channel,
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Speaker 2: I don't cuss on here, keep it to your dang
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Speaker 2: self and just do it.
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Speaker 1: Just get it done, Just do what you need to
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Speaker 1: do for you. Let's get on into the.
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Speaker 2: Latest now, speaking of restoration, taking care of yourself. I
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Speaker 2: want to bring you guys today a conversation that I
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Speaker 2: know is going to shake the room. I was honored
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Speaker 2: to participate in the Women of Wisdom twenty twenty six
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Speaker 2: conference in Patterson, New Jersey. It was brought to the
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Speaker 2: City of Patterson by their Community Affairs and their Police Department,
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Speaker 2: and I was one of the featured speakers along with
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Speaker 2: First Lady Doctor Carry Bryant and Roll Timmy who plays
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Speaker 2: on US the Stars series Power fifty cents Power Show.
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Speaker 2: But he I mean, you guys know role to me
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Speaker 2: from a ton of different things on screen as well,
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Speaker 2: and also a.
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Speaker 1: Music artist, so you know.
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Speaker 2: This event was hosted by doctor Yvon Harvey william and
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Speaker 2: Griff who's a comedian and he's the co host of
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Speaker 2: the Get Up Morning with Erica Campbell radio show as
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Speaker 2: well too, so got a chance to meet them. But
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Speaker 2: actually I actually got a chance to be in conversation
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Speaker 2: with doctor Yvaughn Harvey Williams. And our conversation it was
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Speaker 2: supposed to be about trending topics, but we didn't even
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Speaker 2: get into trending topics. We more so talked just a
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Speaker 2: lot about what we opened this episode with, talking about
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Speaker 2: things that restore. So the basis of the day and
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Speaker 2: of the conference, we're taking people who are in the
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Speaker 2: entertainment field, so like a rot Timmy, like a doctor
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Speaker 2: Carry Bryant and having a conversation about mind, body, soul
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Speaker 2: and resetting. All of the conversations were separate, but in
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Speaker 2: a whole, that's what the conversations echoed.
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Speaker 1: It was about the mind, the body, the soul, and
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Speaker 1: how your reset. They had Vegan kids. Shout out to
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Speaker 1: chef Joe I R M O R E.
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Speaker 2: Start more on Instagram, Delaware Sate University alumni who was
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Speaker 2: out here doing good food things in the communities that
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Speaker 2: we live in. You know, it'd be like food deserts
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Speaker 2: and people can't get good eats and healthy eats. And
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Speaker 2: he's bringing vegan food and healthy food nourishment to the
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Speaker 2: inner city of Patterson into other places as well too.
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Speaker 2: But I have the conversation that we had on the
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Speaker 2: stage again. It is just me and doctor Yvonne Harvey
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Speaker 2: Williams in this conversation, although there were a multitude of
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Speaker 2: speakers throughout the day, So I wanted to bring that
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Speaker 2: conversation to you guys today. Let's take a listen tap in.
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Speaker 2: Use this to understand how to best research yourself.
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Speaker 1: And understand, you know, some of the things.
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Speaker 2: Everything might not work out how you wanted to work out,
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Speaker 2: but it works out when and how you needed to
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Speaker 2: work out, and that alone is a stress reliever. Mental
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Speaker 2: Health Awareness Month actually takes place every May, so this
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Speaker 2: conversation was so timely, it was right on time. So
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Speaker 2: Mental Health America back in nineteen forty nine decided that
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Speaker 2: May made a lot of sense to be the annual
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Speaker 2: month where mental health wellness or reducing the stigma conversations
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Speaker 2: and any way that you can figure out to provide
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Speaker 2: resources to people we need who need to be able
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Speaker 2: to you know, reset the mind, body, and soul. It
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Speaker 2: was a great time to highlight it during that month.
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Speaker 2: So throughout the month and you'll see a lot of
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Speaker 2: different advocacy from different organizations nationwide, community events, actionable toolkits,
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Speaker 2: and stuff like that being shared online. I know, you know,
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Speaker 2: for me, the mental health conversations aren't. I wouldn't say
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Speaker 2: if they're new, because I would you know, I was
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Speaker 2: raised up in a family where you were allowed to
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Speaker 2: feel and do all those things. But actually taking action
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Speaker 2: on it and expressing that is a bit new as
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Speaker 2: I get older, and something that I'm doing to take
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Speaker 2: care of myself so I don't grind myself down to
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Speaker 2: my last year.
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Speaker 1: So let's get on into the conversation.
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Speaker 2: How a chance to listen to a lot of stuff,
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Speaker 2: often because my husband out on a roogo bot. However,
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Speaker 2: when I do hear her, she is always well spoken,
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Speaker 2: she is always well versed, She always understands the assignment,
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Speaker 2: and she knows her.
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Speaker 1: Career and her job and she does it very very well.
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Speaker 2: Which I'll give a book more Big Pattison Ground, Noble Falls.
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Speaker 1: I appreciate it. Thank you so much.
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Speaker 2: Welcome to the Woman of WIZARDSM conference twenty six This
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Speaker 2: is our Dare to Believe conference to deal with the mind, body,
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Speaker 2: soul in reset. Now we talk a little bit about
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Speaker 2: your organization and I want them to see.
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Speaker 1: The facet of you. Regarding the Brown Girl Brian thing.
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Speaker 1: He talks to him, just a little bit about that.
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Speaker 2: Yes, okay, so Brown Red Brindan is a production company
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Speaker 2: on paper, but it's a movement in real life. It
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Speaker 2: started back in twenty sixteen. I moved to LA And
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Speaker 2: at the time I moved to LA because I'm trying
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Speaker 2: to just get on TV.
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Speaker 1: I was like, I want to act. I want to
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Speaker 1: you know, do whatever I can do.
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Speaker 2: And I'm with this eight and you know, you hear
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Speaker 2: the whole stories of like I moved to LA, I
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Speaker 2: met an agent and then everything just happened.
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Speaker 1: So I thought that that was what was going to happen.
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Speaker 1: And when I met with the agent and he was like.
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Speaker 2: An older Asian guy and he was like, you know,
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Speaker 2: I have a daughter your age and if she was
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Speaker 2: sitting down with anybody, I would want them to tell
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Speaker 2: her the truth too. And he was like, I love you,
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Speaker 2: love your personality. But he was like, look at daytime TV,
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Speaker 2: even nighttime television.
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Speaker 1: How many black.
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Speaker 2: Women, especially brownskinned women, can you name on TV right now?
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Speaker 2: And the only person I could name at the time
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Speaker 2: was Wendy Williams. And he was like, you're not marketable,
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Speaker 2: Like I can't sell you.
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Speaker 1: Wow.
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Speaker 2: And he was like, you know, I would love to
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Speaker 2: stay in contact. If you need anything, call me, but
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Speaker 2: I don't know anybody that will book you. And it's
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Speaker 2: I can't make money as an agent. It makes no
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Speaker 2: sense to sign you. So he's like, you know, we
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Speaker 2: could do this whole thing. Called's like it's called fishing,
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Speaker 2: where like you work with them, but you don't put
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Speaker 2: anything on paper just to see if you can make
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Speaker 2: some money.
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Speaker 1: So he's like, you know, we could do that or whatever.
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Speaker 2: But I remember leaving at meeting and at first I
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Speaker 2: was so sad, and then the business mindset kicked in.
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Speaker 2: I have a marketing degree from Della or university come
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Speaker 2: a degree, and I was like, Okay, so they're telling
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Speaker 2: me that there is no meat or no room for
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Speaker 2: me in the market.
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Speaker 1: When you told me to look at the market, there
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Speaker 1: was only one person I could name. That means that
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Speaker 1: there's a lot of room. People just don't know that
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Speaker 1: they need it.
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Speaker 2: Yet, and I was like, you know, if me bringing
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Speaker 2: a brown skinned black woman is the thing that you
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Speaker 2: think will run people away from me, I kind of
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Speaker 2: want to lead with that because I feel like most
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Speaker 2: people won't lead with it because they're thinking that it's
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Speaker 2: not going to get them work.
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Speaker 1: So I just started.
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Speaker 2: Hashtagging brown or grinding as I was doing different, you know,
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Speaker 2: red carpets in LA, just really trying to get my footing.
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Speaker 2: And I started to notice other girls hashtagging it too,
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Speaker 2: and I was blogging and I was telling my story
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Speaker 2: like I mean real story, like car Repoll, They've been
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Speaker 2: on my friend's couch for a long time, like just
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Speaker 2: really being honest about like why do people tell you
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Speaker 2: how real this can get and how it's really not
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Speaker 2: easy and people just it's just started to resonate. I
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Speaker 2: think people just felt like they needed to they were
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Speaker 2: going through it too. So I was like, Okay, this
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Speaker 2: is a thing. So we started hosting events for people.
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Speaker 2: I turned it into a production company because I was like,
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Speaker 2: you know, if I have a story, I know it's
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Speaker 2: a lot of girls out there like me who have
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Speaker 2: a story.
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Speaker 1: They just don't know how to package it and put
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Speaker 1: it together.
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Speaker 2: So you know. That's one of my goals is to
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Speaker 2: be able to be like the Nike of storytelling for
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Speaker 2: women and girls like me. But the tagline is by
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Speaker 2: Black Women for the World and the around the way
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Speaker 2: girls got something to say. So it's really all about
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Speaker 2: like what conversations can we have? How can we have them?
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Speaker 2: You know, how can we be the group chat for
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Speaker 2: people who feel like, you know, I got the story
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Speaker 2: to tell, but like how can I get the masses
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Speaker 2: to care? How can I disrupt? But to be honest
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Speaker 2: with you guys, like it's been a lot of like
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Speaker 2: just my personal journey that I've been platforming there and
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Speaker 2: I think people, you know, they see and they like, okay,
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Speaker 2: me too, Like you know, I can see that. So
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Speaker 2: I get dms from girls that you know, follow the
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Speaker 2: brand and they're trying to figure things out. I meet
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Speaker 2: people in real life that are like, yo, I'm watching
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Speaker 2: the vlogs and I appreciate it. So that has kind
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Speaker 2: of been like, you know, like what your why is?
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Speaker 2: I think I'm still figuring out a lot of it,
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Speaker 2: but I know that it has a lot to do
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Speaker 2: with being able to disrupt for people who feel like
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Speaker 2: I don't check all the boxes, so I can't make it.
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Speaker 1: I don't check any of the boxes honestly, Like I.
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Speaker 2: Dress how I dress, I talk how I talk, And
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Speaker 2: I always say like, there's no way that you know,
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Speaker 2: if you show up prepared and ready, everybody's want to
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Speaker 2: tell you no.
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Speaker 1: And and I just got blessed to get some yeses
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Speaker 1: and here I am. I'm I want to go back
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Speaker 1: a little bit about your journey. Can you talk? Well,
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Speaker 1: let me ask a questions.
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Speaker 2: How many times did you actually change what it was
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Speaker 2: that you were thinking about going to your life? Did
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Speaker 2: you just like wing go going there and say I'm
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Speaker 2: going to do this and this is what I'm gonna do.
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Speaker 2: How many things you travel or you did it?
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Speaker 1: Like? Because I think when people.
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Speaker 2: Think about success in the vacuum, they always think that
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Speaker 2: success equates to money. Success equates to I'm gonna do
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Speaker 2: this one big thing and be discovered and that's it.
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Speaker 1: How many lankings or how many different things to do first? Ooh,
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Speaker 1: success is not always just equal money. So she's not
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Speaker 1: right away woo.
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Speaker 2: So I never I knew for a long time, like
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Speaker 2: my whole like ever since I can remember. I was
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Speaker 2: I was in seventh grade, specifically. I remember and I
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Speaker 2: did this America's Thatence Top Model challenge that my high school,
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Speaker 2: I mean, my middle school had, and I remember just
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Speaker 2: being on stage and being like, I don't know what
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Speaker 2: this is, but I like this and I want to
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Speaker 2: lean in. But I come from you know, my mom
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Speaker 2: has been an entrepreneur my whole life fashion designer, then
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Speaker 2: she went into real estate. So I was kind of
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Speaker 2: raised kind of unconventionally, like my family has that background too,
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Speaker 2: in entertainment. So I've always known that these things, like
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Speaker 2: you know, talking to people's storytelling was what I was
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Speaker 2: want to do. Now the side quest that I've had
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Speaker 2: to go on while I was figuring it out, because
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Speaker 2: people talk about the dream, but they don't talk about
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Speaker 2: the fact that you got to deal with your real
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Speaker 2: life while.
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Speaker 1: You're dreaming too.
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Speaker 2: Been leading Like I didn't been a flight attendant for Delta.
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Speaker 2: I you know, had a I was have a marketing degree.
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Speaker 2: So for the first two and a half years out
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Speaker 2: of college, I was running the community relations department. Well
16:59
Speaker 2: I started as like an intern and then it got
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Speaker 2: to a point where I was, you know, a director
17:03
Speaker 2: coordinator for the community relations department of Barclays so I
17:06
Speaker 2: was like figuring out how to help, you know, communities,
17:09
Speaker 2: specifically the one I'm from and women's in Delaware with
17:12
Speaker 2: big you know, money and creating products and financial products
17:15
Speaker 2: to teach us.
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Speaker 1: Kind of what we needed. I've listened.
17:18
Speaker 2: I've been a camp director for some years and that
17:21
Speaker 2: kind of exposed me to public speaking.
17:23
Speaker 1: We traveled all around the world doing things.
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Speaker 2: I've had a lot of jobs that people would get
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Speaker 2: into and settle with them as careers, and I always
17:32
Speaker 2: knew within those I'm like, I'm doing this because number one,
17:35
Speaker 2: I just I always wanted to learn business structure. Like
17:38
Speaker 2: growing up in my house, I knew that my mom
17:40
Speaker 2: did an amazing job of help like holding us down,
17:44
Speaker 2: but I was like, there's more to this, Like there's
17:46
Speaker 2: things that if she knew, she would be further too.
17:49
Speaker 2: So like I just want to soak up everything I
17:51
Speaker 2: can because when I create the Brown Girl Grinding, I
17:54
Speaker 2: wanted to be the biggest it can be.
17:56
Speaker 1: So let me go work with these corporations and I
17:58
Speaker 1: go understand these things.
17:59
Speaker 2: But I had a lot of side quests, and a
18:01
Speaker 2: lot of them weren't paying me as crazy as you
18:04
Speaker 2: would think. Like when I was working for Delta flight
18:06
Speaker 2: attendant life is it ain't for everybody. The first couple
18:09
Speaker 2: of years, when you're not senior, they call it on
18:12
Speaker 2: the line when you're actually out of flying as a
18:14
Speaker 2: flight attendant. When you're not senior, on the line, you're
18:17
Speaker 2: barely making any real good money unless you're like burning
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Speaker 2: yourself into the groundworking.
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Speaker 1: I was trying to.
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Speaker 2: Also juggle auditioning for television. I was so broke, but
18:25
Speaker 2: I was able to fly anywhere, so I was showing
18:27
Speaker 2: up for every audition. I could every red card, but
18:30
Speaker 2: I could borrowing money like crazy to My grandmother used
18:33
Speaker 2: to be tired of me borrowing money, but I told.
18:37
Speaker 1: How Hello, hello, little something, little change if you tell
18:41
Speaker 1: you something.
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Speaker 2: My grandmother is one of the biggest investors into me,
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Speaker 2: and I mean she's getting things back now. That's why
18:47
Speaker 2: I always when I could show up for them, I
18:49
Speaker 2: show up for them as much as I can, because
18:51
Speaker 2: even when my grandmother didn't understand it, she used to
18:53
Speaker 2: tell me, I don't know what you're doing, but I
18:55
Speaker 2: know you're going to be good, So you know what
18:56
Speaker 2: I mean, here's what I got to give you. But no,
18:58
Speaker 2: success is not always equal money. And even now I
19:01
Speaker 2: do think that it's not about the money. I'm like, Okay,
19:04
Speaker 2: what can I learn from this? How can it further
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Speaker 2: what I'm trying to get to or like I've just
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Speaker 2: you got to have like a deeper meaning to think,
19:13
Speaker 2: Like me coming out and being in the community is
19:15
Speaker 2: not because like I'm just a person who just you know,
19:18
Speaker 2: woke up one day and was like this makes sense
19:20
Speaker 2: for my brand. No. I grew up in the community
19:22
Speaker 2: that wrapped their arms around me, and that's why I'm
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Speaker 2: able to do the things that I do.
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Speaker 1: So if I can come and do that, I want
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Speaker 1: to do it absolutely.
19:30
Speaker 2: And I would tell like younger people in the audience,
19:32
Speaker 2: like a lot of this is probably going over y'all
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Speaker 2: head right now. But as you start going through but
19:37
Speaker 2: middle school, high school, and you dealing with certain things
19:40
Speaker 2: and it feels like the end of the world, the
19:42
Speaker 2: best thing you can master is figuring out your emotions
19:45
Speaker 2: and don't let people tell you. And I don't mean
19:47
Speaker 2: like you're not supposed to feel anything, and like you
19:49
Speaker 2: know what I mean, Like I'm so real that nothing,
19:51
Speaker 2: no things hurt your feelings, Things happen, you misinterpret things,
19:56
Speaker 2: people misinterpret you. You know, there's a lot that will
19:59
Speaker 2: vot damn. But the best thing that you can do
20:01
Speaker 2: is understand what your intention is in that situation and
20:04
Speaker 2: from there kind of be in control of what you
20:06
Speaker 2: let change and move and maneuver around you, because you're
20:10
Speaker 2: gonna be working really hard to get to these places.
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Speaker 1: And that was always a big thing for me. It's like, man,
20:15
Speaker 1: I've been through a lot.
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Speaker 2: I am not going to let one moment define so
20:20
Speaker 2: many years of conversation that will come out of this.
20:23
Speaker 2: Like you know, I don't know if that was like
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Speaker 2: a god thing, but it's because you can say it
20:28
Speaker 2: maybe in real life, like yeah, like I've been through
20:31
Speaker 2: so many things that I've allowed here and there to
20:34
Speaker 2: maybe trick me out my spot a little bit and
20:36
Speaker 2: you learn.
20:36
Speaker 1: Paul listening. The biggest thing that's happening.
20:41
Speaker 2: Right now because of the culture and the climate where
20:46
Speaker 2: people do not understand conflict resolution, a lot of.
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Speaker 1: People are being tricked out of their spots. So it
20:54
Speaker 1: is important. That's a good place to flat right, you
20:59
Speaker 1: said that that.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, Okay, I mean yeah, actually, I mean y'all grown
21:02
Speaker 2: up in social media times. Like I'm talking to my
21:05
Speaker 2: niece and when she saying she's eleven. When she saying
21:07
Speaker 2: she wants to go to college, I'm excited and surprised
21:09
Speaker 2: because a lot of kids now, if you figure it
21:11
Speaker 2: out the right way with the internet, you don't feel
21:13
Speaker 2: like you need to go to college do all these
21:15
Speaker 2: things right. But the internet can also be a place
21:17
Speaker 2: where somebody could trick you about that spot real real,
21:20
Speaker 2: real quick, and those things in that moment if it's
21:24
Speaker 2: oh my God, like it be just that moment, but
21:27
Speaker 2: it will come back like it will and it can.
21:30
Speaker 2: And for me when everything was happening, that was my
21:33
Speaker 2: biggest thing, is like, I just really want to make
21:35
Speaker 2: sure because I didn't been down the road of handling
21:38
Speaker 2: things and responding to things the wrong way. And I
21:40
Speaker 2: saw what it cost to me, and I was like,
21:42
Speaker 2: I can't I live my life, can't afford it for
21:45
Speaker 2: anything to cost me.
21:46
Speaker 1: What is happening right now?
21:48
Speaker 2: And even if it didn't work out the way that
21:49
Speaker 2: it did for me, I looked at it like I
21:52
Speaker 2: was here, I learned people got to meet me.
21:55
Speaker 1: Whatever's gonna come next to that is so above me
21:57
Speaker 1: and God got that you been believe that maybe.
22:02
Speaker 2: What keeps you grounded? What is the thing because I
22:05
Speaker 2: see a forty five young woman right here.
22:08
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. I see someone who's fortifive,
22:10
Speaker 1: who is.
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Speaker 2: Who understands and with clarity can deliver who you are,
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Speaker 2: what you are, what your brand is, what you've been through,
22:17
Speaker 2: how you've been through it, and why it is important
22:19
Speaker 2: not to trick out of his bot what does the
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Speaker 2: thing that round you?
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Speaker 1: The fact that that's not always true?
22:23
Speaker 2: And I know that, Like you know, it's times and
22:26
Speaker 2: it's days where I'm like, ooh girl, no, that wasn't it,
22:30
Speaker 2: Like you know what, And I got people in my
22:32
Speaker 2: life that will be like, oh no, girl, that isn't it,
22:35
Speaker 2: Like from high school mentors that are still in my life,
22:38
Speaker 2: to my family, to you know, friends, to even now
22:42
Speaker 2: with like you know, Charlottage the nvday are quick to
22:44
Speaker 2: call you.
22:44
Speaker 1: And be like, uh uh, that was not it. You
22:46
Speaker 1: know what I mean?
22:47
Speaker 2: Like I think listening and being you know, and learning
22:50
Speaker 2: accountability especially has like a like I'm like grown up
22:53
Speaker 2: for real now I'll be like why I'm a adults,
22:56
Speaker 2: But you know, I think I'm just really honest with myself,
22:58
Speaker 2: Like when things have I don't sit any things that
23:01
Speaker 2: are happening and be like, oh my god, it's over.
23:03
Speaker 2: I do that for a little bit, like you know,
23:05
Speaker 2: I get in my feelings, but after that, I'm like,
23:07
Speaker 2: all right, removing all of that. How like, what is
23:10
Speaker 2: the what's the development from this? Like what am I
23:12
Speaker 2: supposed to learn? It's like, you know, for you, not
23:15
Speaker 2: to you, and you know, and family is a big
23:18
Speaker 2: part of that, and just need to say no, it's
23:19
Speaker 2: hold on four.
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Speaker 1: You're not so you glad? Yeah, I mean, but just
23:21
Speaker 1: understanding the thing.
23:22
Speaker 2: I'm sure you've been through things in your life, right
23:24
Speaker 2: for sure, exactly where now that you're out of it,
23:27
Speaker 2: you're like, oh, okay, cool. So because I even can
23:33
Speaker 2: understand that when certain things are happening, even if I
23:36
Speaker 2: don't react the best way in a moment, when I
23:38
Speaker 2: take a step back, I'm always looking for that oh okay,
23:42
Speaker 2: so boom, here's what we should do, Here's how I
23:44
Speaker 2: should Here's how that person, here's how I should approach.
23:47
Speaker 2: And I think that keeps you grounded because you're just
23:49
Speaker 2: honest with yourself about the fact that, like it's not
23:51
Speaker 2: always like that, right, Teachable moments we call them very
23:55
Speaker 2: much teachable teachable moments.
23:56
Speaker 1: I'm sure you see all these scraples on my face
23:58
Speaker 1: right my mom has a face.
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Speaker 2: Off the limit and all of this stuff. Uh, I'm
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Speaker 2: from this city growing up. I've been speaking for probably
24:07
Speaker 2: over thirty years now, traveling in the country doing what
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Speaker 2: I do.
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Speaker 1: This is my home. These are the people that I love. However,
24:13
Speaker 1: there was a lot of.
24:14
Speaker 2: There was a lot the little girl Evon experience a
24:18
Speaker 2: lot of insecurity. But I covered and wrapped that up
24:21
Speaker 2: in you know what I'm saying, this wall, this defense mechanism.
24:25
Speaker 2: Like I was the meet girl, don't look at me,
24:26
Speaker 2: you know what I mean, what you're looking at or whatever.
24:28
Speaker 2: And then I realized that listen Boom right now is
24:32
Speaker 2: the woman yvon You did that back then, even then
24:35
Speaker 2: had a lot to lose, right, Yeah, talk talk a
24:37
Speaker 2: little bit about your insecurity and some of the stuff
24:39
Speaker 2: that you had to which what did you do your work,
24:41
Speaker 2: but that you did because listen, we already know first
24:45
Speaker 2: and foremost you fought, like you said, you fought for
24:46
Speaker 2: probably a.
24:47
Speaker 1: Lot of the positions that you the rooms that you
24:49
Speaker 1: entered into, you thought. You work hard, you earned and
24:52
Speaker 1: nobody gave it you earned.
24:53
Speaker 2: Talk about just maybe one or two of the things
24:56
Speaker 2: that you know you've perceived back then me as an
25:00
Speaker 2: insecurity and how you work through that and what you
25:03
Speaker 2: look at that now for you as the adult born.
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Speaker 1: You know, I used to because when you from around
25:09
Speaker 1: like I'm so I'm from a Womantondella. I don't know
25:11
Speaker 1: if anybody's ever been there, but.
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Speaker 2: Like you know, like inner city, like regardless of if
25:16
Speaker 2: you're like the smart kid, the kid that accomplishes, the
25:18
Speaker 2: kid that's trying to figure it out, the bad kid
25:20
Speaker 2: that's always getting the cass home from home to school,
25:22
Speaker 2: right or whatever, you still growing up or you're growing
25:25
Speaker 2: up right, right. So for me, it used to be
25:28
Speaker 2: kind of like weird for me to be like my
25:30
Speaker 2: mom was like the mom that like I was doing everything.
25:32
Speaker 1: I was swimming, piano, dance, this, this, this.
25:35
Speaker 2: And this, And as I got older, I'm like, yo,
25:37
Speaker 2: I just want to be like my friends is on
25:38
Speaker 2: twenty second Street. I want to go over there too,
25:40
Speaker 2: Like I want to and I was doing it, but
25:42
Speaker 2: my mom was really quick to come in and grab
25:44
Speaker 2: me up all the time. And I was to be
25:46
Speaker 2: kind of like ashamed to be the girl that was
25:48
Speaker 2: like like the like smart and achieving at things like
25:52
Speaker 2: not that.
25:53
Speaker 1: I would hide it.
25:54
Speaker 2: But I just used to be like why, Like I
25:56
Speaker 2: used to literally ask to my mom, like why are
25:57
Speaker 2: you gonna doing all this stuff? Like my friends just
26:00
Speaker 2: hang outside, Like why can't I do that? Because I
26:02
Speaker 2: didn't understand that, like she was trying to mold me
26:04
Speaker 2: into this person that was like well rounded and you know,
26:07
Speaker 2: all these things, and not that even doing all that
26:09
Speaker 2: stuff even equals a well rounded person at times. But
26:12
Speaker 2: I understand now that I'm older what she was trying
26:14
Speaker 2: to do and I didn't have a chance to run
26:17
Speaker 2: from it because she wouldn't let me. But there were
26:19
Speaker 2: things that I did that I was just like, all right,
26:21
Speaker 2: I'm taking my power back, Like I want to be
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Speaker 2: the girl that's around.
26:25
Speaker 1: I want to be outside. I want to hang with
26:26
Speaker 1: the boys that's over here on this block. I want
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Speaker 1: to you know what I mean.
26:29
Speaker 2: And now that I'm older, I'm like, yo, not, you
26:31
Speaker 2: would have lost your life Number one right, number two.
26:34
Speaker 2: It's like, no matter where you were, people always recognized
26:39
Speaker 2: the girl the woman that I am. Now there are
26:41
Speaker 2: people that have known me since I was like twelve
26:43
Speaker 2: eleven years old that will tell y'all, I've always been
26:45
Speaker 2: like this so no matter how much I tried to
26:48
Speaker 2: run from what my mom had already seen and what
26:50
Speaker 2: she was trying to protect, it followed me everywhere anyway,
26:53
Speaker 2: so I couldn't get away from it. But I used
26:55
Speaker 2: to feel so like, why does my mom always want
26:57
Speaker 2: to put us in stuff? Why am I the one
26:59
Speaker 2: that's always like literally even being like good in school.
27:02
Speaker 1: Like that was like the joke.
27:03
Speaker 2: It's like, yo, she always doing something right because you
27:06
Speaker 2: know it, know everything. Everybody was like, I didn't have
27:09
Speaker 2: a choice in my mom, So you wasn't just coming
27:11
Speaker 2: home like she was not having it. I think she
27:14
Speaker 2: needed a break from us number one. But number two,
27:16
Speaker 2: she just was you know, she knew.
27:17
Speaker 1: Where we were growing up, so she was trying to
27:19
Speaker 1: make sure we was straight. But that was something I
27:21
Speaker 1: ran from it. Honestly.
27:22
Speaker 2: I was talking to one of the younger girls today.
27:24
Speaker 2: We did the fashion y'all know if they're in here,
27:26
Speaker 2: But I was talking to one of the little girls today.
27:29
Speaker 2: She was talking about how like she's like a skinnier girl,
27:32
Speaker 2: and I was like, I used to be so insecure
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Speaker 2: about that too, like skinnier girl.
27:35
Speaker 1: I used to complain.
27:36
Speaker 2: I used to tell my grand my mom, lips are
27:37
Speaker 2: so big, and people would make fun of it. And
27:41
Speaker 2: now I'd be like, everybody's in the gym trying to
27:44
Speaker 2: figure out their life, and I like, I don't feel
27:46
Speaker 2: bad about how I look and not just put down
27:48
Speaker 2: anybody that is doing that. But the things that I
27:50
Speaker 2: used to get teased about, I'm like, oh wait, people
27:52
Speaker 2: want that, Like people weren't paying to get their lips
27:55
Speaker 2: done and stuff like that. But I used to feel
27:56
Speaker 2: so bad about the physical look too. And le me
28:00
Speaker 2: tell y'all, that's like about with social media. You do
28:02
Speaker 2: one wrong, anything like lipstick, color wrong, hair out of place,
28:08
Speaker 2: they be.
28:08
Speaker 1: Dragging it so bad.
28:10
Speaker 2: But I'm so used to, like I've been people be
28:12
Speaker 2: like how you deal with y'alla, man, I grew up
28:14
Speaker 2: somewhere that was way worse than their jokes TV throwing,
28:17
Speaker 2: So it kind of be like it's whatever, and you
28:19
Speaker 2: just you get to a place with yourself where you like,
28:21
Speaker 2: I actually love that about myself, absolutely like I love it.
28:24
Speaker 2: But I mean those things were probably the only two
28:26
Speaker 2: things my mom did a really good job of making
28:28
Speaker 2: sure that the world didn't like beat me and batter
28:31
Speaker 2: me up.
28:32
Speaker 1: Like she like every time I think about it.
28:35
Speaker 2: I'm like, Mama did a really really good job because
28:37
Speaker 2: I didn't really deal with too much of what I
28:39
Speaker 2: could have done with and I didn't even know, but
28:42
Speaker 2: it was because she, you know, she she was always
28:44
Speaker 2: just there and like scooped us up.
28:46
Speaker 1: And figured it out. Well.
28:47
Speaker 2: Listen, thank you so much, Thank you all for having me,
28:50
Speaker 2: and I appreciate you. Re fond woman that you are
28:53
Speaker 2: sitting here, that you have always been that would always
28:56
Speaker 2: take you because it's not just one period period.
29:00
Speaker 1: Yeah, listen, if people being handling and shine so shame
29:08
Speaker 1: she said that I could not say that.
29:10
Speaker 2: How y'all feeling after that conversation. I hope that the
29:14
Speaker 2: conversation helps you guys, you know better understand that, Like,
29:19
Speaker 2: you got a purpose and it's okay if you leaning
29:21
Speaker 2: on into it, and the minute that you do when
29:23
Speaker 2: you stop running from it. We talk about, you know,
29:26
Speaker 2: not grinding yourself down and you know, reset and building
29:31
Speaker 2: up all of these guardrails to make sure you're taking
29:33
Speaker 2: care of yourself. One of the biggest things that I've
29:36
Speaker 2: learned to do in the midst of that is to
29:38
Speaker 2: watch I talk to myself, talk about myself, think about myself,
29:42
Speaker 2: and watch what I allow other people to put into
29:44
Speaker 2: my world, and I think, you know, and having conversations
29:48
Speaker 2: like this and being able to share it with you guys,
29:51
Speaker 2: I'm learning and I'm understanding why it's important to master
29:55
Speaker 2: that because I'm still mastering it. I'm not the best
29:58
Speaker 2: at it, Like I like to be honest about the like, no,
30:00
Speaker 2: I'm not the best at it, but I'm learning why
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Speaker 2: it's important. So hopefully this conversation helped you guys. This
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Speaker 2: episode is like you know, it's a palette cleanse.
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Speaker 1: We love those. I'm Laura the Rosa.
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Speaker 2: This has been another episode of the Latest with Lauren
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Speaker 2: the Rosa. This is you detinitely digging all things pop culture, entertainment, news,
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