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The Eds: unEDited with Joe Gorga · Two Ts In A Pod with Teddi Mellencamp and Tamra Judge

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  Speaker 1: This is the Eds with Eddie Judge and Edwin Aroyave
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  Speaker 1: the husband's know best too cheese production.
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  Speaker 2: How you doing Edwin?
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  Speaker 3: I'm doing all right. How are you?
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  Speaker 2: I'm doing great. But it's always great chatting with you.
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  Speaker 4: Man.
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  Speaker 2: Always listen. We have an exciting guest today. I am
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  Speaker 2: so stoked because Joe Gorga is coming on our podcast.
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  Speaker 2: He is probably, in my opinion, one of the most
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  Speaker 2: famous house husbands in the whole entire Real Housewife network.
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  Speaker 2: The guy just has so many talents, from you know,
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  Speaker 2: a construction company to author. I guess he writes books.
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  Speaker 2: And the greatest thing of all is he did stand
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  Speaker 2: up comedy. Can you imagine the balls to do stand
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  Speaker 2: up comedy?
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  Speaker 3: Just love that man. The guy is legendary. Man. You
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  Speaker 3: can tell he's got great discipline too.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, absolutely. Remember last Bravo con we went to
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  Speaker 2: when we were hanging out with all the Jersey guys.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, those guys are so cool, easy, so funny, so.
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  Speaker 2: Funny, and it's my understanding they did a like a
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  Speaker 2: like a what do you call that?
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  Speaker 3: A guys?
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  Speaker 5: Uh?
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  Speaker 2: What is that guy's dance show in Vegas called.
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  Speaker 3: Magic Mic or something like that? Magic Mic, I got
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  Speaker 3: to share with you my magic mic dance.
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  Speaker 1: You have one.
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  Speaker 3: I have one. I did one for my company party,
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  Speaker 3: like thirteen years ago.
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  Speaker 2: You have it on video.
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  Speaker 3: I do have it on video.
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  Speaker 2: I gotta see it, dude.
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  Speaker 3: I bring out the umbrella. I choreographed the whole thing.
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  Speaker 3: It was it all.
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  Speaker 2: That's awesome. Well that makes sense now because I remember
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  Speaker 2: we're at the podcast in San Francisco when we were
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  Speaker 2: launching our podcasts and the girls did their podcast live. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: you were like, hey, let's go out there, do the umbrella,
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  Speaker 2: do the my magic mic dance. I'm like, I don't
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  Speaker 2: know how to do that, and you started showing me.
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  Speaker 2: I'm like, how does he know how to do that?
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  Speaker 3: I remember that. Yeah, that's where that's where the little
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  Speaker 3: idea came from.
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  Speaker 2: That's awesome. That is awesome.
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  Speaker 3: I think he's ready. I think he's ready to go.
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  Speaker 2: He's ready to go.
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  Speaker 3: Bring him on. Let's bring the legend on. What's up, Joe,
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  Speaker 3: what's up? What's up?
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  Speaker 6: Joe.
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  Speaker 1: It's good to see you, Nice to see you. Everything good.
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  Speaker 3: We appreciate you being on this show. We know how
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  Speaker 3: busy you are, so just taking the time to be
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  Speaker 3: on the show really means a lot.
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  Speaker 1: Bat I was doing ninety to get home to get
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  Speaker 1: on this. I'm been a little crazy, but it's all
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  Speaker 1: good man.
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  Speaker 2: Joe Gorga has been married to Melissa Gorga since two
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  Speaker 2: thousand and four. They share three kids together, Antonia, Gino
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  Speaker 2: and Joey. They have been part of the Real Housewives
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  Speaker 2: of New Jersey since twenty ten. D's that's a long time.
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  Speaker 2: Joe is an entrepreneur who has businesses in real estate development,
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  Speaker 2: trash and sanitation, retail, and Joe is an author. And
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  Speaker 2: one more thing I got to throw in there, Joe's
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  Speaker 2: a comedian. I mean he did stand up. We were
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  Speaker 2: just talking about that. You got balls, Joe, guy with
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  Speaker 2: big balls.
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  Speaker 3: I think you forgot Also bodybuilder man. Joe's ripped man,
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  Speaker 3: He's always been ripped. In fact, we were just talking
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  Speaker 3: about your discipline, and you know, I'm a big fan
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  Speaker 3: of discipline. I can tell you have it just on
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  Speaker 3: everything You've been able to do right, just in all
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  Speaker 3: walks of life. And obviously you've been on this show
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  Speaker 3: for fourteen years and legendary status, right, you know. I
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  Speaker 3: often say, like, you know, when someone's good at something,
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  Speaker 3: when they could consistently do it right, and you know,
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  Speaker 3: you've been consistent all your life. And but before we
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  Speaker 3: you know, we talk about Housewives. I've always been a
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  Speaker 3: big fan of people's story and the beginning. Can you
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  Speaker 3: tell us a little bit about just the beginning of Joe.
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  Speaker 1: The beginning of Housewives?
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  Speaker 3: No, no, the beginning of your life? Right? How did
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  Speaker 3: you know your childhood life? And how did that? How
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  Speaker 3: did that start? You know, what was the conflict growing up?
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  Speaker 3: Who was the villains? Who was who was your mentors?
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  Speaker 3: You know, who were your you know, what were your
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  Speaker 3: dreams like when you were growing up?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, my childhood life was pretty pretty wild. I'm going
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  Speaker 1: to say I've been on a reality show now for
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  Speaker 1: ten years, I mean fourteen years, and I felt like
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  Speaker 1: I was on a TV show growing up. I mean
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  Speaker 1: I grew up in an inner city. So I was
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  Speaker 1: like this Italian kid surrounded by just a bunch of
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  Speaker 1: other Italians. But we were all in a great inner city,
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  Speaker 1: and I was the I was kind of the outcast.
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  Speaker 6: The Italians were more like they were hanging out.
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  Speaker 1: They were you know, playing cards at the at the
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  Speaker 1: coffee shops, you know, doing expressos, and and I was
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  Speaker 1: out just working, busting my ass and hustling and playing sports.
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  Speaker 1: I was always a workaholic. I started when I was
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  Speaker 1: nine years old delivering newspapers, and I delivered peoples like, oh,
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  Speaker 1: you delivered newspapers. Remember I don't have much papers now,
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  Speaker 1: but we used to go around on my bike with
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  Speaker 1: a big nap back, throw the newspapers out, get chased
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  Speaker 1: by dogs.
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  Speaker 6: But I had like a thousand routes, thousand houses.
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  Speaker 1: I had to do. Now I would do it overnight
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  Speaker 1: and start at four o'clock in the morning, get it
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  Speaker 1: all done before school. Go to work, I mean go
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  Speaker 1: to school. Get get out of school. Now you talk
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  Speaker 1: about grammar store, Now get out of school. Right after school,
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  Speaker 1: go to work at a hotol joint and flip hot
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  Speaker 1: dogs from three o'clock to six thirty. Then from six
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  Speaker 1: thirty I would go to football practice from six thirty
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  Speaker 1: till nine o'clock, get picked up, go back to work
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  Speaker 1: from nine ti like eleven thirty. And that was my
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  Speaker 1: day every day. Yeah, I worked very hard, and I
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  Speaker 1: was a star football player wrestler in a inner city school,
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  Speaker 1: so you know it was stud athletes. I was the
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  Speaker 1: only Italian kid on the whole team and I was
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  Speaker 1: to start running back.
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  Speaker 6: So it was kind of like.
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  Speaker 1: The kids used to run up to me. Back then
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  Speaker 1: there was no phones, there was beepers, but the kids
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  Speaker 1: used to run up to me. Joe, you shake your hand,
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  Speaker 1: couldn't take a picture of you. But I was kind
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  Speaker 1: of like a celebrity grown up because yeah, this little
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  Speaker 1: a time guy, I would score so many touchdowns at
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  Speaker 1: a big, big major high school.
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  Speaker 3: So the way, Joe, how you know we have a
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  Speaker 3: lot of parents that listen to this show, right, And
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  Speaker 3: how important was sports for you growing up? And how
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  Speaker 3: did it help you in business because you've been very
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  Speaker 3: successful in business as well. But I'm curious to hear
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  Speaker 3: your thoughts on sports because I know for me, my
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  Speaker 3: mom putting me in sports was a huge deal with
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  Speaker 3: teaching me discipline.
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  Speaker 1: And you just said it, discipline. Sports are everything. I like,
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  Speaker 1: I always tell my kids, you got to have a sport.
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  Speaker 1: You got to go to school, but you got to
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  Speaker 1: have a sportscause sports teach you.
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  Speaker 6: They give you you.
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  Speaker 1: You listen to a coach, you take orders, there's responsibilities
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  Speaker 1: you got to beat at a certain time.
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  Speaker 6: You have to respect and sportsmanship is everything.
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  Speaker 1: Sportsmanship is everything, and I always teach my kids that.
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  Speaker 1: So wrestling is one of the best sports ever because
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  Speaker 1: first of all, you're on that mat all by yourself
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  Speaker 1: and there's not a team, it's you. You have to
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  Speaker 1: you have to get out there and control it and
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  Speaker 1: keep it keep it disciplined, which you know I've I'm
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  Speaker 1: a little crazy, you know, as you guys know, I've
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  Speaker 1: been on a show and I lose my temper in ways, right.
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  Speaker 1: But what's amazing about my children is how they learned them.
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  Speaker 1: What I teach them not to be is be very disciplined.
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  Speaker 1: And the fact that if the situation on a wrestling
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  Speaker 1: mat or lacrosse or football gets out of here and
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  Speaker 1: you get hit in the head with a stick, you know,
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  Speaker 1: they weren't supposed to do that. Keep it, keep it settled,
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  Speaker 1: you know, keep it calm, don't hit the kid back.
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  Speaker 1: It's how you react. And I'm lucky, man. My kids
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  Speaker 1: are just pretty amazing at that. And sometimes I have
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  Speaker 1: to take a page out of air book, you know.
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  Speaker 2: So where do you think you got your discipline from?
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  Speaker 2: Obviously I've grew up doing sports as well, and I
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  Speaker 2: learned a lot of discipline from sports, bodybuilding, and all that.
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  Speaker 2: That's that's where I learned it. But what do you
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  Speaker 2: think was it inherent of you to just like be
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  Speaker 2: so disciplined and so busy and working all the time,
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  Speaker 2: or was it a need? For me? It was a need,
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  Speaker 2: you know, growing up with nothing, I had no choice
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  Speaker 2: but to work. And that was that was you know,
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  Speaker 2: if you don't work, you don't eat, you don't have clothes,
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  Speaker 2: you know, you know all that stuff. That's what drove
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  Speaker 2: my discipline and my motivation. Where do you think you
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  Speaker 2: drew yours from?
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  Speaker 6: I agree it was the need.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, my father was a shoemaker and back then
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  Speaker 1: it was a little different than than us. These kids,
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  Speaker 1: we hand them everything. I wasn't handed everything. My dad
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  Speaker 1: made me go to work. He was hardcore. And when
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  Speaker 1: the kids across the street, we're on her skateboards and
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  Speaker 1: had brand new skateboards and bikes, and I didn't have
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  Speaker 1: one because my dad.
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  Speaker 6: Didn't believe in that. He's like, go to work and
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  Speaker 6: earn your keep.
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  Speaker 1: And I was caught in the grass and rotal tilling
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  Speaker 1: the garden with a pick and a shovel, a spade shovel,
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  Speaker 1: and everybody's having a good time and I say to myself,
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  Speaker 1: why is my dad so mean to me? I thought that,
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  Speaker 1: but today I'm forty nine years old, and I say
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  Speaker 1: to him, every day is in heaven now, and I
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  Speaker 1: always thank him, thank you for making me the man
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  Speaker 1: I am today, because he's the one that made me
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  Speaker 1: want things and go to work. And if I went
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  Speaker 1: out late at night and I got home late, he goes,
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  Speaker 1: you got to go to work at six o'clock in
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  Speaker 1: the morning. And he was like a drill sergeant.
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  Speaker 6: But he knew, listen, I have a man as a son.
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  Speaker 1: I have to make him a man. And that's why
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  Speaker 1: I tell my kids. I said, listen, oh Dad, I
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  Speaker 1: don't feel like going to practice today. I go, uh uh,
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  Speaker 1: you have to go to practice today. You have a responsibility.
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  Speaker 1: Your responsibility is that's your job. Your job is to
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  Speaker 1: go to practice because that's what that's what you do, right,
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  Speaker 1: That's what I do. If I don't go to work,
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  Speaker 1: you're not going to eat. So again, sports discipline and
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  Speaker 1: need I needed. I had to buy my own bike,
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  Speaker 1: so my dad should go to work and buy your bike.
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  Speaker 1: Our kids they want to buy, we buy for them.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know what we're doing, are we doing are we?
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  Speaker 1: You know, I almost want to hold back and not
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  Speaker 1: give them the bike like everyone has in the neighborhood.
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  Speaker 1: But then you're like all the other kids have it,
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  Speaker 1: so you kind of get forced into buying them the bike.
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  Speaker 1: Back then, my parents in a carry like go to work,
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  Speaker 1: and I went to work, and I earned my own
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  Speaker 1: money and I bought my bike.
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  Speaker 3: That is so good.
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  Speaker 1: You know.
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  Speaker 3: One of my favorite quotes is, don't work off how
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  Speaker 3: you feel, work off your discipline. And that's exactly what
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  Speaker 3: you just mentioned there. Now, Joe, your parents immigrated to
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  Speaker 3: the United States from Italy. What made them choose New Jersey?
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  Speaker 1: Well, they moved close to My dad had a sister
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  Speaker 1: here and he moved close to her sister. And that's
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  Speaker 1: where it's how literally a block away from his sister
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  Speaker 1: and she helped him out because he was eighteen years old. Wow,
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  Speaker 1: And that's how that's why I migrated to Patterson, New Jersey.
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  Speaker 1: I was hoping they migrated to like New York City's
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  Speaker 1: been some developer in New York City, bigger contacts, But
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  Speaker 1: I run up in Patterson, New Jersey.
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  Speaker 2: You'd be building high rises by now.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, you know, what can it be like?
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  Speaker 5: California, you know, with you guys, my son looking tan
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  Speaker 5: and nice, happy in Patterson, New Jersey.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, he migrated, got close to family, and then that's it.
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  Speaker 1: We stayed there forever.
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  Speaker 3: Who was more of a troublemaker? You were Teresa? Growing up?
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  Speaker 1: What do you that's a hardwood? It's not.
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  Speaker 2: I think we should proceed that question with, you know,
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  Speaker 2: giving us a little bit of insight of how it
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  Speaker 2: was growing up with Teresa, because all we know is
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  Speaker 2: what we see on TV and experiencing the Bravo edit
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  Speaker 2: versus the real person, and the real experience is completely
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  Speaker 2: bipolar sometimes, right, So I'd like to hear a little
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  Speaker 2: bit more about how it was growing up with Teresa
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  Speaker 2: as their older sister.
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  Speaker 6: Teresa, my sister was always she was a crazy one.
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  Speaker 1: And if my parents said you got to be home
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  Speaker 1: at twelve o'clock at night, I would be home at
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  Speaker 1: twelve o'clock. I respected them, even though that I was
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  Speaker 1: the boy. I just didn't want to hear my father
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  Speaker 1: yell because he was crazy. And if my sister had
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  Speaker 1: to be on at twelve, the phone ring at twelve
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  Speaker 1: and she's like, man, I'm running late. I got it today,
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  Speaker 1: She'd try to push it to one and my father
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  Speaker 1: start yelling and he's not in a good moon. She
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  Speaker 1: comes home and it's a big it's an argument, it's
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  Speaker 1: a fight, and she would battle. She would battle, she
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  Speaker 1: would I mean she was afraid of her, but she
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  Speaker 1: would fight them.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: She was always the one. Even when we were kids,
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  Speaker 1: she'd throw my toys out and out of the window.
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  Speaker 1: We lived in the two family house. I'm running outside.
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  Speaker 1: I was four years old, running outside in the street,
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  Speaker 1: you know, to get my toys out of the street.
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  Speaker 6: She antagonized me a lot and my mother.
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  Speaker 1: One time she threw one of those wooden spoons at her,
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  Speaker 1: and I remember that when we were kissing, hit it
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  Speaker 1: right ahead with it.
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  Speaker 6: So my sister was always the one getting.
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  Speaker 1: Yelled at, where I was more of you know, I
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  Speaker 1: respected them, I listened. But when I walked out the
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  Speaker 1: door and I went to school and I went to football,
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  Speaker 1: I was a bad I was a troublemaker and I
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  Speaker 1: was one closing the problems having fun. I was like
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  Speaker 1: the class clown. And then when I had to come home,
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  Speaker 1: I was a good guy. I was the angel around
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  Speaker 1: my parents.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, you wanted to impress them. You respected them
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  Speaker 2: and and I think that's very valuable in any relationship,
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  Speaker 2: particularly in this era where kids have no respect for elders,
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  Speaker 2: at least not in my neighborhood, you know. Uh.
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  Speaker 1: And we grew up uh uh. Teresa and I were
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  Speaker 1: best friends, best friends. I mean, that's all we had.
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  Speaker 1: We had a small type family. We didn't have a
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  Speaker 1: lot of cousins and family back then. It was because
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  Speaker 1: everybody migrated over. They called each other paison's. You know
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  Speaker 1: you're my paison. I know you're formidably, so they thought
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  Speaker 1: each other formidably. They became almost like family. On holidays,
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  Speaker 1: all be together. So I thought people were my cousins
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  Speaker 1: when they were really weren't my cousin. When she she
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  Speaker 1: met Joe Judice, well she didn't meet Joe Judaice. I
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  Speaker 1: knew Joe judas her ex husband when we were we
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  Speaker 1: were babies. We were born here. My father was at
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  Speaker 1: the hospital when Joe Judice was born. That's how close
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  Speaker 1: their families were.
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  Speaker 2: Wow.
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  Speaker 6: So I thought he was my cousin.
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  Speaker 1: My whole life.
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  Speaker 6: And then she winds up Marriag my cousin, But we
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  Speaker 6: really aren't.
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  Speaker 1: We weren't related, but but we were we.
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  Speaker 6: Were best friends growing up. Her parents molded us to be.
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  Speaker 1: Like that, and I always respected my sister. I was
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  Speaker 1: I was the guy looking out for her when she
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  Speaker 1: was coming home late. It was twelve o'clock at night,
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  Speaker 1: one o'clock her the curfew was, let's say one o'clock
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  Speaker 1: in the morning.
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  Speaker 6: She would call me, Joe, where are you. I'm like,
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  Speaker 6: I'm on my way home.
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  Speaker 1: She's like, well, wait, wait, wait for me, don't go
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  Speaker 1: home yet, and and tell tell Daddy were together. So
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  Speaker 1: I'll pick up the phone and.
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  Speaker 6: I'd take a beat for her, like dad terces with
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  Speaker 6: me were running.
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  Speaker 5: Like I got it, don't worried.
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  Speaker 6: He's like, I got to kill you.
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  Speaker 1: I'm like, but I always I would sometimes sit in
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  Speaker 1: the driveway waiting for her like this. She was my sister.
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  Speaker 1: I got to know back to that's what I could
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  Speaker 1: take her best friends and if she if she was
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  Speaker 1: dating a guy, and if some something going on, she
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  Speaker 1: told me about it, we would you know, same thing.
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  Speaker 1: It was like friends like true. I knew everything about her,
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  Speaker 1: shenew anything about me. And uh, that's how our parents
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  Speaker 1: are great. And our parents always said because my mom,
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  Speaker 1: her dad, her dad went to war never came home.
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  Speaker 1: We don't know if he's alive. We don't know. Her
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  Speaker 1: mom passed away when she was born, so my mother
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  Speaker 1: had nobody.
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  Speaker 6: She her grandmother raised her.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, so when my dad met my mom, he cherished her,
• 16:33
  Speaker 1: cherished her, kept her up on a pedestal, and he
• 16:36
  Speaker 1: always said, you got to take care of your mother
• 16:38
  Speaker 1: and your sister. He goes, this is who we are,
• 16:41
  Speaker 1: that's all we have. And that's because we were. We
• 16:44
  Speaker 1: were in this New Jersey and his family was in
• 16:47
  Speaker 1: Belgium and Italy. My mom had no family, and that's
• 16:50
  Speaker 1: who we were. We were just this little, tight little family.
• 16:53
  Speaker 3: You know.
• 16:54
  Speaker 2: I see that when I when I see you and
• 16:57
  Speaker 2: Melissa together, I see that you do the exact same
• 16:59
  Speaker 2: thing to her and to your family. Right, you cherish
• 17:02
  Speaker 2: your wife. You you just hold her up in a pedestal,
• 17:05
  Speaker 2: and I think that's what really shows the dynamics of
• 17:08
  Speaker 2: how amazing your relationship is together.
• 17:11
  Speaker 6: Yeah, but that, you know, that's what I was taught.
• 17:13
  Speaker 1: That's what I that's what I saw, and uh and
• 17:16
  Speaker 1: you know's and that's how I am.
• 17:18
  Speaker 6: I treat her, I treat my wife, or I treat everybody.
• 17:20
  Speaker 1: Right, I'll be honest with you.
• 17:21
  Speaker 6: I really I really give everybody.
• 17:23
  Speaker 1: Respect and and if they screw me, you screw me.
• 17:27
  Speaker 1: I walk away. I just never talk to you ever again.
• 17:29
  Speaker 1: You know, I'm that type of guy. I just really
• 17:32
  Speaker 1: want to love everybody and want to get along with everybody.
• 17:35
  Speaker 1: It life is short, man. Yeah, you know there's no
• 17:39
  Speaker 1: time for enemies. You don't like somebody, just say that,
• 17:41
  Speaker 1: hell away from them, right.
• 17:42
  Speaker 2: Let me ask you this. Have you ever met anybody,
• 17:45
  Speaker 2: and I've met probably total of three, two or three
• 17:48
  Speaker 2: people in my life where you shake their hand and
• 17:50
  Speaker 2: you get this awful feeling like I never want to
• 17:54
  Speaker 2: be around this person ever again. And have you ever
• 17:56
  Speaker 2: felt that? Of course, I mean it's rare for me,
• 18:02
  Speaker 2: but I'm like you. I want to love on everybody.
• 18:04
  Speaker 2: I take everybody under my wing. I want to help
• 18:07
  Speaker 2: everybody and and and you know see how I can
• 18:09
  Speaker 2: be of service. But there's just been those two or
• 18:13
  Speaker 2: three instances where I just like, I feel like gross
• 18:16
  Speaker 2: being around this person. I never want to be here again.
• 18:19
  Speaker 1: How About when you meet him and they're like, oh
• 18:21
  Speaker 1: my god, this this person is amazing. Really, I mean,
• 18:24
  Speaker 1: and and they they they don't turn out to the
• 18:27
  Speaker 1: persons that that that they are here. So and then
• 18:29
  Speaker 1: you realize that and you walk away, right.
• 18:33
  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, I see that part too. Yeah, I like
• 18:39
  Speaker 2: to be real.
• 18:40
  Speaker 6: Listen, this what's up, man, This is who I am,
• 18:42
  Speaker 6: this is what I do.
• 18:43
  Speaker 1: This is what I have. I'm not bigger than I am.
• 18:46
  Speaker 1: I am who I am, and and that's it being
• 18:50
  Speaker 1: real in life. You know, you know, you meet a
• 18:53
  Speaker 1: lot of posers.
• 18:54
  Speaker 2: You do, you do, and and the consistency of your
• 18:58
  Speaker 2: realness is what that what you know reflects the validity
• 19:02
  Speaker 2: of who you are. Right, Like you said, there's been
• 19:05
  Speaker 2: people that you meet. They're motivated, they're happy, they're energetic,
• 19:09
  Speaker 2: they're you know, quoting all these things about you know,
• 19:12
  Speaker 2: life is amazing, and they end up being douchebags or
• 19:15
  Speaker 2: they end up being crooks or criminals, and you know
• 19:18
  Speaker 2: it's like they hide behind that phase, right, and you're like,
• 19:23
  Speaker 2: I'm disappointed, but I'm glad I didn't get screwed.
• 19:26
  Speaker 1: There's a lot of them out there, buddy, you know.
• 19:29
  Speaker 2: A lot a lot.
• 19:31
  Speaker 3: So yeah, Joe, Man, I love some I love so
• 19:34
  Speaker 3: many of the things that you're talking about right now,
• 19:36
  Speaker 3: especially with Father's Day coming up. You know, one of
• 19:40
  Speaker 3: the biggest lessons my dad ever taught me that I'm
• 19:43
  Speaker 3: so grateful for that you just talked about. But always
• 19:46
  Speaker 3: tell me you got to take care of your mom.
• 19:49
  Speaker 3: You got one mom. I don't care what happens, you
• 19:52
  Speaker 3: take care of your mom. And that's always stood with me.
• 19:55
  Speaker 3: So I'm glad you brought that up. And I'm also
• 19:57
  Speaker 3: glad that you brought up how things aren't taught, they're
• 20:01
  Speaker 3: caught right. You can try to teach someone all day long,
• 20:03
  Speaker 3: but until you actually see it. And I try to
• 20:06
  Speaker 3: do that with my son, with my with my kids
• 20:08
  Speaker 3: where every Saturday I go visit Mom and I have
• 20:11
  Speaker 3: breakfast and they see me do that, and sometimes Teddy's like,
• 20:15
  Speaker 3: what are you gonna hang out with me on a
• 20:16
  Speaker 3: Saturday morning. I'm like, Teddy, Eventually the kids are going
• 20:19
  Speaker 3: to start hanging out with you because they see me
• 20:21
  Speaker 3: always going to visit Mom. So I love that you
• 20:23
  Speaker 3: mentioned that, man, especially with Father's Day coming out. You know, yeah,
• 20:27
  Speaker 3: your dad sounds like an amazing guy.
• 20:29
  Speaker 1: By the way, my dad was really a real guy man.
• 20:33
  Speaker 1: He was a hard working, just told you how it was.
• 20:38
  Speaker 1: He was just he was an amazing, amazing man. My mother too.
• 20:41
  Speaker 1: You know, hard working people, great people. You know, they
• 20:45
  Speaker 1: weren't perfect, that one's perfect knowing it, but they were honest, honest,
• 20:50
  Speaker 1: and that's it, you.
• 20:51
  Speaker 2: Know, speaking of imperfect. I want to talk a little
• 20:54
  Speaker 2: bit more about your marriage and your relationship. I love it.
• 20:57
  Speaker 2: It's it's you know everything that I believe in, how
• 20:59
  Speaker 2: you to treat a woman. And I know you've told
• 21:02
  Speaker 2: this to me before because we've hung out with you
• 21:05
  Speaker 2: and Melissa a few times, you know, at events and
• 21:08
  Speaker 2: stuff like that. And the question I want our audience
• 21:11
  Speaker 2: to know or learn from is how did you and
• 21:15
  Speaker 2: Melissa meet? Tell us about that.
• 21:17
  Speaker 1: The first time I saw Melissa, I was I was
• 21:20
  Speaker 1: actually away on spring break and true story as a way,
• 21:25
  Speaker 1: in spring break, I was a little I was a
• 21:26
  Speaker 1: late bloomer because I worked. I started my business when
• 21:30
  Speaker 1: I was eighteen. Everybody's in college going to spring break.
• 21:33
  Speaker 1: So my first spring break, I believe I was twenty
• 21:36
  Speaker 1: five or twenty six, so I mean, can't Coon. Everybody
• 21:39
  Speaker 1: goes to cant Coon. I go with two of my
• 21:42
  Speaker 1: friends wearing cant Coon. I'm in the pool, you know,
• 21:46
  Speaker 1: two girls next to me, and they were playing this
• 21:49
  Speaker 1: game on the beach. On the stage where you a
• 21:52
  Speaker 1: guy and a girl. They run off the stage, run
• 21:55
  Speaker 1: into the down the beach, into the ocean, and you change.
• 21:59
  Speaker 1: You know. The girl takes her bikini off, the guy
• 22:02
  Speaker 1: puts it on, she puts your shorts on, and they
• 22:04
  Speaker 1: run out of it.
• 22:05
  Speaker 6: They run out of the ocean onto the stage.
• 22:08
  Speaker 1: Now the girl's booms are flopping and we're sitting at
• 22:11
  Speaker 1: the pool. Keep in mind, this is a huge hotel.
• 22:14
  Speaker 1: We're sitting at the pool and I'm watching this. I'm like, oh,
• 22:16
  Speaker 1: this is a good game. I said, let's play it here.
• 22:19
  Speaker 1: So we played that game. So I got this girl's
• 22:22
  Speaker 1: thong bikini on and they got my shorts. I'm in
• 22:26
  Speaker 1: the pool, I have two of them. My best friend
• 22:29
  Speaker 1: since five years old was right next to me. He
• 22:33
  Speaker 1: was he had a girl next to her. Said we're
• 22:34
  Speaker 1: all hanging out. I'm kissing one, I'm moving, I'm kissing
• 22:38
  Speaker 1: the other one.
• 22:39
  Speaker 6: They're grabbing my face.
• 22:40
  Speaker 1: And as they're grabbing my face, I look across the
• 22:43
  Speaker 1: pool and I see this beautiful girl and that was
• 22:47
  Speaker 1: my curly dark hair. She had this little leopard bikinian
• 22:51
  Speaker 1: I look at her. I don't know what made me
• 22:53
  Speaker 1: look and I say, oh my god, who is that?
• 22:55
  Speaker 1: So I grabbed my friend, my best friend, Tony. The
• 22:59
  Speaker 1: reason why I bring his name up because he tells
• 23:03
  Speaker 1: the story. I grab him and I said, Tom, look
• 23:05
  Speaker 1: at that. That's going to be my wife, right in
• 23:08
  Speaker 1: front of these girls.
• 23:12
  Speaker 6: But I couldn't get up because I was I was busy.
• 23:15
  Speaker 6: I had two girls in the two girls, but I
• 23:18
  Speaker 6: kept my eye her.
• 23:19
  Speaker 1: I kept watching her. I kept seeing who her friends were,
• 23:22
  Speaker 1: and I was like okay. So when I was done,
• 23:26
  Speaker 1: I got up. I went. I went over to her
• 23:29
  Speaker 1: table where they were hanging out. So I say, hey,
• 23:32
  Speaker 1: who's that girl? Hi, guys, and I make friends with
• 23:34
  Speaker 1: her friends. I go, who's that girl with the curly hair?
• 23:37
  Speaker 1: And they're like, ah, you don't want to meet her,
• 23:39
  Speaker 1: She's a bitch.
• 23:40
  Speaker 3: This is her friend.
• 23:43
  Speaker 1: She actually went up back. She went back to the room.
• 23:44
  Speaker 1: So I said, no, I really want to meet. Where
• 23:46
  Speaker 1: are you guys from? They're like, Tom's River. I try
• 23:48
  Speaker 1: to go, are you guys going tonight? We're going to
• 23:50
  Speaker 1: this club La Boom. That's what it was back then.
• 23:53
  Speaker 1: So I go, I get their phone number, we meet,
• 23:55
  Speaker 1: we go to this club La Boom. She didn't come out.
• 23:57
  Speaker 1: Melissa had come out. She stayed in her room. She
• 24:00
  Speaker 1: was a good girl. Melissa, she said she didn't she
• 24:02
  Speaker 1: didn't want to come out. So these girls, I'm hanging
• 24:04
  Speaker 1: out with her friends. I didn't want to hang out
• 24:05
  Speaker 1: with her friends.
• 24:06
  Speaker 3: I really didn't ranging out in the price.
• 24:10
  Speaker 1: So I made friends with her friends. But I kept
• 24:12
  Speaker 1: on saying, where's your friend? So for the rest of
• 24:14
  Speaker 1: the trip, I didn't see her friend. I didn't see Melissa,
• 24:17
  Speaker 1: but I knew she was from the Jersey Shore back home.
• 24:21
  Speaker 1: So once we got home, went back summer hit, I
• 24:26
  Speaker 1: flew down the shore to find her. Wow, and I
• 24:30
  Speaker 1: found her.
• 24:31
  Speaker 2: How do you find somebody in the Jersey Shore, isn't
• 24:34
  Speaker 2: it big?
• 24:35
  Speaker 3: No?
• 24:35
  Speaker 1: Because there's an area where all the nightclubs are okay,
• 24:39
  Speaker 1: and you go to this one spot. And that's keep
• 24:43
  Speaker 1: in mind. I kept them. I kept in touch with
• 24:45
  Speaker 1: her friends.
• 24:46
  Speaker 3: Called her.
• 24:46
  Speaker 1: I said, are you guys going tonight? All right, We're
• 24:48
  Speaker 1: going to Temptations. I'm like, I'm be there.
• 24:50
  Speaker 6: I get there.
• 24:51
  Speaker 1: Nice and early.
• 24:53
  Speaker 6: People used to go out at like twelve one o'clock.
• 24:55
  Speaker 1: Here I am. I get through. I was older, so
• 24:59
  Speaker 1: I was working my own business. I got there like
• 25:01
  Speaker 1: at nine o'clock, I'm sitting at the bar. Close started happening.
• 25:05
  Speaker 1: So by the time twelve, Melissa would show up at
• 25:08
  Speaker 1: one o'clock in the morning.
• 25:10
  Speaker 6: The club closes at two, so today she would come
• 25:12
  Speaker 6: from one.
• 25:13
  Speaker 1: I guess that's when the cool people came from one
• 25:16
  Speaker 1: to the store window.
• 25:18
  Speaker 6: So yeah, so I'm sitting there. Didn't think she was coming.
• 25:21
  Speaker 1: So I'm hanging out.
• 25:22
  Speaker 6: By the time i'm hanging out, I'm hooking up with girls.
• 25:24
  Speaker 1: I'm drinking.
• 25:25
  Speaker 6: I'm at the bar.
• 25:26
  Speaker 1: All of a sudden, Melissa walks in, but again I
• 25:29
  Speaker 1: can't go up and talk to her yet because I
• 25:31
  Speaker 1: was involved with another girl. So this went on.
• 25:35
  Speaker 6: This went on for like all summer, never really spoke.
• 25:38
  Speaker 1: To her till one day one day up north, I
• 25:43
  Speaker 1: walk into a restaurant bar.
• 25:45
  Speaker 6: There she is working. She was bartending. I walked right up.
• 25:50
  Speaker 1: To her and I go, oh my god. I go,
• 25:53
  Speaker 1: you know Melissa, right. She goes yes, like I've been
• 25:55
  Speaker 1: looking for you all year. She goes why. I go,
• 25:58
  Speaker 1: I'm going to marry you. I said, I'm going to
• 26:01
  Speaker 1: put you on a pedestal and you're gonna be my wife.
• 26:03
  Speaker 1: She goes, you you know and I said, let's I
• 26:08
  Speaker 1: try to. I said, give me a number, let me
• 26:10
  Speaker 1: take you at the dinner. She's like no. So she
• 26:12
  Speaker 1: said no to me. So I said, yeah, you said no.
• 26:14
  Speaker 1: I was obsessed with her. So I sat at her
• 26:16
  Speaker 1: bar and I said, can I have a bottle? I
• 26:20
  Speaker 1: started talking to girls. I said, you guys want to drink?
• 26:22
  Speaker 6: I said, can?
• 26:23
  Speaker 1: I can? I go to Melissa? Melissa, can I have
• 26:25
  Speaker 1: a bottle of dom Perion for my Then I go,
• 26:30
  Speaker 1: do you have any strawberries? With that?
• 26:35
  Speaker 6: Drinking at her barn, hitting on.
• 26:37
  Speaker 1: Her the whole time, but I was hanging out with
• 26:39
  Speaker 1: these girls. I did that two weeks in a row.
• 26:42
  Speaker 1: The third week I went back to the place and no.
• 26:46
  Speaker 1: The third week I didn't go. I went two weeks
• 26:48
  Speaker 1: in a row, did the same thing. She denied me twice.
• 26:50
  Speaker 1: The third week, my friends went, I didn't go to
• 26:53
  Speaker 1: the bar. They go, They come back. The next day.
• 26:57
  Speaker 1: They called me in the morning and say, hey, Joe, yeah,
• 26:59
  Speaker 1: he goes you know that bar to Melissa. I go, yeah,
• 27:01
  Speaker 1: she was asking for you. I go, oh, she was
• 27:03
  Speaker 1: asking for me. This is every Thursday night. Thursday night
• 27:08
  Speaker 1: shot there. I walked up to her bar, and hey, Benny, hey,
• 27:11
  Speaker 1: I got I heard you were asking for.
• 27:15
  Speaker 6: Jane.
• 27:15
  Speaker 1: She had her numbers ready. She slipped me her number.
• 27:19
  Speaker 1: I got all right, took her around and one date
• 27:24
  Speaker 1: and we never left each other ever since then. We
• 27:27
  Speaker 1: dated for We dated for three months, three months, she
• 27:31
  Speaker 1: moved in, six months, engaged, ten months married.
• 27:37
  Speaker 3: Wow.
• 27:38
  Speaker 1: Yeah. So we were married in August and my daughter
• 27:41
  Speaker 1: was born in August a year later. We moved fast.
• 27:45
  Speaker 2: Oh what was it that gave you the confidence that
• 27:48
  Speaker 2: she was the one?
• 27:51
  Speaker 1: You know what? I asked myself that same question, because
• 27:55
  Speaker 1: I was engaged twice before her twice, and I called
• 27:59
  Speaker 1: the weddings off myself. I called the wedding not because
• 28:03
  Speaker 1: of any They weren't cheating.
• 28:06
  Speaker 6: I wasn't cheating, none of that. I just was so confused.
• 28:10
  Speaker 1: And I sat with this guy that was kind of
• 28:13
  Speaker 1: like my mentor older guy. I was landscaping his house.
• 28:17
  Speaker 1: I used to cut his grass. He was seventy years old,
• 28:19
  Speaker 1: and I was like, ah, I said, Pete, I'm just
• 28:21
  Speaker 1: so confused, Like I'm engaged. I just keep thinking about it.
• 28:25
  Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't know if I want to
• 28:27
  Speaker 1: get married, I go. I love her, I don't know
• 28:29
  Speaker 1: if I'm in love with her, and he goes, son,
• 28:32
  Speaker 1: if you have a doubt, get out because that doubt
• 28:37
  Speaker 1: whatever's bothering you now about her, You've got to live
• 28:40
  Speaker 1: with this person the rest of your life. He goes,
• 28:42
  Speaker 1: you want to have a divorce. I said no, So
• 28:45
  Speaker 1: he said yeah. And I listened to that, and I
• 28:48
  Speaker 1: called the wedding off the first one. Second one was
• 28:52
  Speaker 1: kind of like I was. I was kind of heartbroken
• 28:55
  Speaker 1: calling off the wedding. I was confused. So I get
• 28:58
  Speaker 1: engaged with this other girl. She was a great girl.
• 29:03
  Speaker 1: Very that was a big mistake. Called that wedding off
• 29:07
  Speaker 1: same a couple of weeks before wedding. I was never
• 29:10
  Speaker 1: see the problem is with everybody today. Why people get engaged,
• 29:14
  Speaker 1: I mean and get married. Some people don't even want
• 29:17
  Speaker 1: to get married. They think, oh I got the right
• 29:20
  Speaker 1: this is the right guy. He goes, he works hard.
• 29:23
  Speaker 1: I really don't love him, but he's going to provide
• 29:26
  Speaker 1: for me. Or oh this is the right girl. She's
• 29:29
  Speaker 1: a good girl, you know, and you're really not crazy
• 29:33
  Speaker 1: in love. I didn't want that. I wanted to be
• 29:35
  Speaker 1: crazy in love with somebody because.
• 29:37
  Speaker 6: I know I'm nuts. You know, I'm nuts.
• 29:40
  Speaker 1: I need to be you know, I need to be
• 29:43
  Speaker 1: with somebody that I love and I want to come
• 29:45
  Speaker 1: home to. And Melissa was the one. When I met her,
• 29:48
  Speaker 1: I just wanted to be with her every minute, and
• 29:51
  Speaker 1: I knew she was one and there was not a doubt.
• 29:54
  Speaker 1: Here's a little story before that. I was always a workaholic,
• 29:58
  Speaker 1: so I'm always working. So I mean I'm getting engaged
• 30:01
  Speaker 1: to the first one. So I say to my dad,
• 30:03
  Speaker 1: I said, Dad, go get go pick me out a ring.
• 30:07
  Speaker 1: Because my dad always went to the jewelers. He always
• 30:10
  Speaker 1: had a connection with the jeweler. I always bought my
• 30:11
  Speaker 1: mother's stuff. And I said, Dad, go find me a
• 30:15
  Speaker 1: ring and bringing it. So the first woman he found
• 30:19
  Speaker 1: the ring gave it. The second one, same thing. Go
• 30:23
  Speaker 1: get me a ring. You got me ring.
• 30:25
  Speaker 6: Melissa came around. I said, bye, go get I'm ready
• 30:27
  Speaker 6: to get married.
• 30:28
  Speaker 1: He goes. I said, go get me a ring. Goes ah,
• 30:30
  Speaker 1: he goes, I'm doing it. He because you want to
• 30:33
  Speaker 1: marry this girl. You go get your own ring, my
• 30:37
  Speaker 1: own ring. He goes, you gotta be ready. And the
• 30:42
  Speaker 1: day I got married. Look, the day I got married, beautiful,
• 30:45
  Speaker 1: sunny day, beautiful. It's Sonny. We go up and we're
• 30:50
  Speaker 1: giving our vows. Melissa goes, then I go. When I go,
• 30:57
  Speaker 1: thunder was like a tornado, thundering light. Everybody's like, look,
• 31:02
  Speaker 1: what the hell's going on? For a minute one minute
• 31:06
  Speaker 1: and it stopped. I was getting my val So I
• 31:10
  Speaker 1: got married. Coming out, my father comes to hug and
• 31:13
  Speaker 1: he goes, you did it. He goes, he goes, holy ship,
• 31:16
  Speaker 1: did you hear the rain? And I go, yo, my god.
• 31:21
  Speaker 6: He goes me yea and he goes, that's all the
• 31:23
  Speaker 6: girls crying.
• 31:24
  Speaker 1: Then you got married.
• 31:35
  Speaker 3: Back in those Jersey Shore days, did you ever run
• 31:37
  Speaker 3: into the New Jersey Shore Castle, because I assume that's
• 31:41
  Speaker 3: when they were all famous.
• 31:42
  Speaker 1: Right, I ran it to him all time.
• 31:44
  Speaker 3: Yeah, and they were you ever buddies with them?
• 31:47
  Speaker 1: I know them, I know them all.
• 31:49
  Speaker 6: But no, not back then, No, not back then.
• 31:51
  Speaker 3: I met that back then.
• 31:53
  Speaker 1: No, no, no, I met him through TV. And don't
• 31:56
  Speaker 1: don't they don't even live in Jersey Dire from like
• 31:58
  Speaker 1: Glown Island. They were from different areas.
• 32:01
  Speaker 2: Yeah, they just welcome the reality TV right.
• 32:05
  Speaker 3: So, by the way, one thing that I want to
• 32:07
  Speaker 3: make sure we don't skip overder is I think it's
• 32:09
  Speaker 3: very important. You know, you go childhood right, you started
• 32:12
  Speaker 3: working at a young age. You worked, you know, you
• 32:15
  Speaker 3: were great at sports. How did you start your little
• 32:17
  Speaker 3: empire that you got, or I shouldn't say little, your
• 32:19
  Speaker 3: empire that you got with business? How did that get started?
• 32:22
  Speaker 3: Where did you say finally like I'm going to start
• 32:24
  Speaker 3: my business and was like a big risk that you
• 32:26
  Speaker 3: had to take or how did that all come across
• 32:28
  Speaker 3: come about?
• 32:29
  Speaker 1: I was I was in college. I was playing football.
• 32:34
  Speaker 1: I tore my ACL had a major operation back then,
• 32:37
  Speaker 1: and acls are not like today. You know, they cut
• 32:40
  Speaker 1: you open right over the middle, big staples and you
• 32:45
  Speaker 1: basically don't come back from that kind of injury. So
• 32:49
  Speaker 1: it came home for the summer rehabbing my knee. Back.
• 32:53
  Speaker 6: A couple months later, I get I get a job.
• 32:56
  Speaker 1: I had to go back to college, but I get
• 32:57
  Speaker 1: a job working for a landscaper and started working for him.
• 33:01
  Speaker 1: And this guy had a beautiful house, nice cars. Know,
• 33:06
  Speaker 1: he was married. I mean, this guy had the life.
• 33:09
  Speaker 1: And I said, wow, yeah, I'm a young kid. You know.
• 33:12
  Speaker 1: I came from Patterson, New Jersey. I lived in We
• 33:14
  Speaker 1: lived in a real small house and this guy had
• 33:17
  Speaker 1: a beautiful home, and I'm working and I see all
• 33:19
  Speaker 1: the jobs that he was doing. I'm like, this guy
• 33:22
  Speaker 1: makes money. So I started working for a couple months later.
• 33:26
  Speaker 1: I worked from for about six months learning the business.
• 33:30
  Speaker 1: And six months later I out my own business. And
• 33:33
  Speaker 1: I was younger, like I said, I was nineteen years old.
• 33:35
  Speaker 1: I decided not to go back to college and I
• 33:39
  Speaker 1: went to my sister and I looked for this little
• 33:43
  Speaker 1: business that were selling. It was cheap and it was
• 33:45
  Speaker 1: like fifteen thousand dollars. I had to buy a route,
• 33:50
  Speaker 1: which was they were selling thirty five houses, you know,
• 33:54
  Speaker 1: lawn contracts, a beat up, beat up equipment like a
• 33:58
  Speaker 1: law mallwer trailer.
• 34:01
  Speaker 6: The whole deal was fifteen thousand I had.
• 34:03
  Speaker 1: I didn't have any money, so I said, I thought,
• 34:06
  Speaker 1: you know, entrepreneur, businessman. I said, how am I going
• 34:08
  Speaker 1: to get this money? You know? So I said to
• 34:12
  Speaker 1: my sister. She she was, you know, two years older
• 34:16
  Speaker 1: than me. She had a job, she was doing any thing.
• 34:18
  Speaker 1: I know. She had credit cards, So I said, can
• 34:20
  Speaker 1: I can I cash advance your credit cards to ball
• 34:25
  Speaker 1: the money? I said, I'll borrow the money, I'll pay
• 34:27
  Speaker 1: you back, and she she gave me I think I
• 34:29
  Speaker 1: cash advanced three credit cards five thousand dollars each.
• 34:32
  Speaker 6: And that's the relationship we had.
• 34:34
  Speaker 1: You no brother, sister, can I take She just starting
• 34:37
  Speaker 1: her life right and she had three card I said,
• 34:39
  Speaker 1: can I cash advance? Yeah, no problem here she game
• 34:41
  Speaker 1: to me. I pulled the money out. I bought the business.
• 34:45
  Speaker 1: I just beat up truck. Truck cost me one thousand
• 34:47
  Speaker 1: dollars and I busted my ass paid her credit cards back,
• 34:54
  Speaker 1: and little by little I remember the truck breaking down.
• 34:58
  Speaker 1: After three months later, I had no truck. Truck broke down.
• 35:01
  Speaker 1: I only bought it for one thousand dollars. And I
• 35:04
  Speaker 1: would drive my loanmower, drive my loanmower with the big
• 35:09
  Speaker 1: green bucket with the blower three whackers, and I'm driving
• 35:13
  Speaker 1: a loanmower. You know, it's eight miles away to the
• 35:17
  Speaker 1: because I lived in Patison, I'd get to North Hillton
• 35:19
  Speaker 1: was my first house, and I'm driving.
• 35:21
  Speaker 6: It took me forever.
• 35:22
  Speaker 4: I left that four o'clock in the morning to get
• 35:24
  Speaker 4: to the house by eight o'clock, took four hours to
• 35:27
  Speaker 4: fill it up gas and and for I think four months,
• 35:31
  Speaker 4: I worked without a truck, and I cut all these grass, and.
• 35:34
  Speaker 6: I drove my loanmower to everyone's house.
• 35:37
  Speaker 1: But see I would cut a guy's house, a guy
• 35:40
  Speaker 1: like you, and you would see that I was hustling
• 35:43
  Speaker 1: and working, and you would say to me, hey, Joe,
• 35:44
  Speaker 1: you want to put my patio in, Joe, you want
• 35:46
  Speaker 1: to put my And people just gravitated towards me. They
• 35:49
  Speaker 1: saw I worked hard, and I'd work by myself and
• 35:53
  Speaker 1: and and put a patio, and that would take a
• 35:57
  Speaker 1: let's say, take a week. I'd do it in three
• 35:58
  Speaker 1: days because I would work. I would start at eight
• 36:01
  Speaker 1: the more I mean six in the morning, and work
• 36:03
  Speaker 1: stayed at your house at eleven o'clock at night. You're
• 36:05
  Speaker 1: eating dinner with your family, and I'm in there working
• 36:07
  Speaker 1: in the backyard. And when I was done, people are like,
• 36:10
  Speaker 1: here you go. They paid me. And slowly like that,
• 36:13
  Speaker 1: I just grew and grew, and from the landscape and
• 36:16
  Speaker 1: business started buying houses, sort of renovating houses, flipping houses,
• 36:23
  Speaker 1: and then then houses went to multi million dollar homes,
• 36:28
  Speaker 1: buying and flipping those or building them from the ground
• 36:31
  Speaker 1: up and from there, and then started buying getting into
• 36:34
  Speaker 1: apartment buildings. Because I always said, I have to have
• 36:37
  Speaker 1: to create passive income. So I don't want to work
• 36:40
  Speaker 1: with this my whole life. I need income coming in
• 36:42
  Speaker 1: every month. So I started buying, uh two families, keeping
• 36:46
  Speaker 1: them threes fours, learning the banking system, how to borrow money. Everything,
• 36:52
  Speaker 1: everything's about borrow money. You got to know how to
• 36:54
  Speaker 1: borrow money. You know. I met a guy, a.
• 36:57
  Speaker 6: Very very successful guy.
• 36:58
  Speaker 1: When he meets you, he shakes you, he says, how
• 37:01
  Speaker 1: you doing, He goes, YEA, the more you owe, the
• 37:05
  Speaker 1: more you work. So basically, if you if you if
• 37:08
  Speaker 1: you owe a billion dollars, you work two billion. Correct.
• 37:13
  Speaker 6: The more you owe, the more you work.
• 37:15
  Speaker 1: Because he's really wealthy and he owes a lot of money,
• 37:18
  Speaker 1: but he's worked ten times the money, you know. And
• 37:22
  Speaker 1: so so I went from from building now I build
• 37:26
  Speaker 1: apartment buildings and keep them in managing them.
• 37:29
  Speaker 3: So, so how long did it take you to finally
• 37:32
  Speaker 3: start making money?
• 37:33
  Speaker 2: Right?
• 37:33
  Speaker 3: Because people think that it's an overnight success, like people
• 37:36
  Speaker 3: just become overnight successes, right, And but what most people
• 37:40
  Speaker 3: don't understand is the sacrifice that it takes, all the
• 37:43
  Speaker 3: price that you have to pay. You know, you're talking
• 37:46
  Speaker 3: about six am to eleven pm, working twelve am and
• 37:49
  Speaker 3: people's houses. Like, people don't see that. They just now
• 37:52
  Speaker 3: see that you're building, you know, apartments and high rises
• 37:56
  Speaker 3: and all this, and they don't see that price. Right.
• 37:59
  Speaker 3: So how long did it take you to finally make
• 38:02
  Speaker 3: some money where you can buy some dom Pea bottles
• 38:05
  Speaker 3: and go to Kancun and do all those things that
• 38:07
  Speaker 3: you started doing twenty six twenty seven years old? Because
• 38:09
  Speaker 3: you started at nineteen, how long did it take you
• 38:11
  Speaker 3: to to actually start making some money.
• 38:14
  Speaker 1: I made money right away, you know what, because I worked.
• 38:18
  Speaker 1: I did the impossible. I worked so hard the things
• 38:22
  Speaker 1: that people like I'm not doing that, you know. I
• 38:26
  Speaker 1: climbed trees that I was afraid of. Heights. Customers said
• 38:29
  Speaker 1: to me, I got to look at this tree. You
• 38:31
  Speaker 1: want to take it down, Joe. I just got a
• 38:32
  Speaker 1: price for five thousand and take a down. I looked up.
• 38:36
  Speaker 1: The tree was bigger than it was one hundred and
• 38:38
  Speaker 1: some feet here.
• 38:39
  Speaker 6: It was an old tree.
• 38:40
  Speaker 1: He couldn't even wrap downs.
• 38:42
  Speaker 6: I go, yeah, five thousand dollars.
• 38:43
  Speaker 1: That was my first tree hive.
• 38:45
  Speaker 6: I go, yeah, daddy, I could do it. Pro I
• 38:50
  Speaker 6: took this tree dout, climb the tree.
• 38:52
  Speaker 1: I got stuck up there for four hours. What do
• 38:55
  Speaker 1: it meaning? Scared of heights? You know, in my head,
• 39:01
  Speaker 1: I kept on saying, it's five thousand dollars. That's five thou.
• 39:05
  Speaker 1: You gotta get this done. You can buy a new truck.
• 39:08
  Speaker 1: You can buy a truck, get this tree down. Cut myself,
• 39:12
  Speaker 1: got it down, did the impossible. I mean, I risked
• 39:15
  Speaker 1: my life so many times. I mean, and I took
• 39:18
  Speaker 1: the treat dot. I took the tree down. There was
• 39:21
  Speaker 1: a whole story about that. It's funny as hell. But
• 39:23
  Speaker 1: I got the treat at, I got daid and the
• 39:27
  Speaker 1: next day I run to the the lettering guy and
• 39:31
  Speaker 1: I put on my truck. My company was called Second
• 39:33
  Speaker 1: Look Landscape, Second Look Landscape and tree Experts, and I
• 39:37
  Speaker 1: said tree experts on the bottom.
• 39:39
  Speaker 6: And trees, and became one of the biggest tree companies.
• 39:44
  Speaker 1: So I had a landscape tree company. Oh yeah, So
• 39:47
  Speaker 1: I made money. And everybody says, yeah, anybody, we live
• 39:51
  Speaker 1: in the land of opportunity. You live in America. Can
• 39:54
  Speaker 1: you make money? Yes, anybody can go go out and
• 39:57
  Speaker 1: go to work. It hurts, work sucks, right, let's think
• 40:01
  Speaker 1: about that. The more you put in, the more time
• 40:04
  Speaker 1: you put in. Yeah, you don't go hang out with
• 40:06
  Speaker 1: your friends. I said, I lost my childhood, right.
• 40:09
  Speaker 3: I worked.
• 40:10
  Speaker 1: I was a late bloomer. I didn't go to I
• 40:12
  Speaker 1: didn't go to a spring break till I was twenty six.
• 40:15
  Speaker 1: But you know what, by the time that little dick,
• 40:18
  Speaker 1: I built a netpire. By the time I was twenty six,
• 40:20
  Speaker 1: I had a house. So when I was in Cancun
• 40:23
  Speaker 1: hanging out with those kids that are twenty two, twenty five,
• 40:26
  Speaker 1: twenty six, because they're still.
• 40:28
  Speaker 6: I owned a house already, yeah, nice, you know, but
• 40:31
  Speaker 6: I put the time in.
• 40:32
  Speaker 1: I literally, and I'm not exaggerating. I literally worked every
• 40:36
  Speaker 1: day from four am. Now you're taking construction, get my
• 40:41
  Speaker 1: stuff out four to eleven o'clock at night every night,
• 40:44
  Speaker 1: and every night I came home, I lived. I lived
• 40:46
  Speaker 1: at home from the beginning, and every night I came home,
• 40:51
  Speaker 1: I'd come home at eleven o'clock. My mother would get up, wait,
• 40:54
  Speaker 1: wait for me, get off, get up off the couch.
• 40:57
  Speaker 1: She always made dinner and she would heat it up,
• 40:59
  Speaker 1: make sure I had a nice home cooked meal, you know,
• 41:03
  Speaker 1: every night, and I'd eat dinner at eleven o'clock at night.
• 41:06
  Speaker 2: That's awesome. You were talking about your success and how
• 41:17
  Speaker 2: you built it.
• 41:18
  Speaker 3: Yeah, and all the sacrifice that that went with it.
• 41:21
  Speaker 3: I mean, I love it because again, one of my
• 41:23
  Speaker 3: favorite quotes is if you don't, if you don't sacrifice
• 41:25
  Speaker 3: for what you want, what you want becomes the sacrifice.
• 41:28
  Speaker 3: And that literally is a testament of Joe's story. So
• 41:32
  Speaker 3: I'm so glad we got we got we got a
• 41:34
  Speaker 3: chance to hear that business side, because a lot of
• 41:36
  Speaker 3: people don't get to hear that part, right, They only
• 41:38
  Speaker 3: see what the Housewives show. And obviously I follow you
• 41:41
  Speaker 3: on Instagram, so I see what you're doing, man, and
• 41:43
  Speaker 3: I'm just like, man, this it's it's very inspiring. Now,
• 41:46
  Speaker 3: really quick, tell us about you know you obviously you
• 41:48
  Speaker 3: have three kids, right, do they watch the show at all?
• 41:53
  Speaker 1: Not really? I mean, my my daughter I went to
• 41:57
  Speaker 1: college and all the girls in college start talking about it.
• 42:01
  Speaker 6: So she's like, I'm going to start watching his show.
• 42:03
  Speaker 1: So she started watching the show for the first time ever,
• 42:07
  Speaker 1: and she's like, Wow, she's into it. She's like, you know,
• 42:10
  Speaker 1: she wants to watch more. So that's she she waits
• 42:12
  Speaker 1: for the episodes now. But the boys are not into it.
• 42:14
  Speaker 1: They don't watch it at.
• 42:15
  Speaker 6: All, which is pretty cool.
• 42:17
  Speaker 1: I loved that my children over the fourteen years, didn't
• 42:22
  Speaker 1: get a shit about being on TV. Never, We never
• 42:26
  Speaker 1: made it a big deal. We kind of kept them
• 42:28
  Speaker 1: humble and like this is no big deals, just work.
• 42:32
  Speaker 1: And they never really got crazy with it, which was great.
• 42:35
  Speaker 1: You know, they never got into it with all the
• 42:37
  Speaker 1: nonsense and they just stayed real and did their own thing.
• 42:41
  Speaker 2: That was a question I had for you, you know, because
• 42:45
  Speaker 2: it obviously affected yours and Melissa's life. When you became
• 42:50
  Speaker 2: you know, famous like us, and anywhere you go, people
• 42:54
  Speaker 2: want to take a picture with you, or they just
• 42:57
  Speaker 2: want to touch you, or they just want to, you know,
• 42:58
  Speaker 2: talk about your big you took Like how was that?
• 43:01
  Speaker 2: Well that was last year? You know? How How did
• 43:05
  Speaker 2: the kids get affected by their friends who watched the show?
• 43:08
  Speaker 2: Did they ever have any good or bad experiences?
• 43:12
  Speaker 1: Nothing? Nothing bad, man, nothing, thank god? Everything great. Yeah.
• 43:18
  Speaker 2: Our kids try to avoid it. They try to, you know, say, well,
• 43:22
  Speaker 2: I don't know what you're talking about. They never introduced themselves,
• 43:24
  Speaker 2: you know, they try to avoid the whole. Yeah, tameras
• 43:28
  Speaker 2: my mom. And when they found out, you know, they're like, what,
• 43:33
  Speaker 2: we just went to our our old our Spencer's graduation
• 43:37
  Speaker 2: party and he had a friend there from work and
• 43:40
  Speaker 2: we were just chatting. My wife told me the story
• 43:43
  Speaker 2: and she she she was having a conversation with him,
• 43:46
  Speaker 2: the guy you know, was Spencer's age, talking to his
• 43:50
  Speaker 2: mom and asking her questions, like typical questions, what do
• 43:53
  Speaker 2: you do for a living? And so she proceeded to say, yeah,
• 43:56
  Speaker 2: I'm on TV. I'm gonna I'm on the show. And
• 43:58
  Speaker 2: she's like, what he never said anything about that? Yeah,
• 44:02
  Speaker 2: you know, I've been on the show for years.
• 44:03
  Speaker 1: What.
• 44:04
  Speaker 2: Yeah, And he's been on the show. He's never said
• 44:07
  Speaker 2: anything about being on TV.
• 44:11
  Speaker 1: That's good. That's when they're not affected and they're just like, listen,
• 44:14
  Speaker 1: this is nothing and I'm doing my thing. That's that's
• 44:17
  Speaker 1: that's great because when they get too involve, you know,
• 44:20
  Speaker 1: the kids could.
• 44:21
  Speaker 2: Get it, could get that stuff.
• 44:23
  Speaker 1: Yeah, they get messed up, they get caught up in it,
• 44:24
  Speaker 1: and this is a different world. It changes a lot
• 44:27
  Speaker 1: of people. Yeah, and you gotta you gotta have it here.
• 44:31
  Speaker 2: How did it affect you and Melissa? You know, how
• 44:34
  Speaker 2: did it change your lives if at all?
• 44:39
  Speaker 1: Oh, well, it definitely changed your life. It changed when
• 44:42
  Speaker 1: we when we first got on the show, it was
• 44:44
  Speaker 1: pretty crazy. Uh it was Uh, I mean it was
• 44:49
  Speaker 1: the beginning, you know. I think Orange County was first, yeah, right,
• 44:54
  Speaker 1: I think they had two or three seasons in and
• 44:58
  Speaker 1: then we came on, I think the third season in
• 45:02
  Speaker 1: and it became like this family thing.
• 45:06
  Speaker 2: Yeah, and was on it already, right.
• 45:09
  Speaker 1: Yeah, she was on. She was on first. She started
• 45:11
  Speaker 1: the show with another woman, Dina, but then it came
• 45:14
  Speaker 1: to this family thing, so it kind of it kind
• 45:17
  Speaker 1: of went. We we our life changed instantly. I mean
• 45:22
  Speaker 1: we couldn't wherever we walked, anywhere we went, major celebrities instantly.
• 45:28
  Speaker 1: It was pretty crazy. You know, everybody wanted to know
• 45:30
  Speaker 1: you so and we handled it. We handled it very well. Yeah,
• 45:36
  Speaker 1: we really. I stayed very focused. I went to work
• 45:39
  Speaker 1: every day. Melissa did her things. We had her bab
• 45:43
  Speaker 1: our kids were very young, so she did the TV thing.
• 45:46
  Speaker 1: Then she was handling her children. She came home when
• 45:48
  Speaker 1: she was a mom, So kept her very grounded, which
• 45:52
  Speaker 1: was great. And uh, same hare Man. But you know
• 45:56
  Speaker 1: I could have I could have easily got to my
• 45:59
  Speaker 1: head and and thought I was a big shot. And
• 46:02
  Speaker 1: you know, I don't have to work like this anymore,
• 46:04
  Speaker 1: and I don't have to do this. But now I
• 46:08
  Speaker 1: stayed humble and I went and shoveled or picked dirt
• 46:12
  Speaker 1: and do what I do. And and because I I know, listen,
• 46:16
  Speaker 1: everything is temporary, not in last forever.
• 46:18
  Speaker 2: How did you handle the social media aspect of it?
• 46:22
  Speaker 2: Because I always say and I remind my wife and
• 46:26
  Speaker 2: everybody I talked to about this experience. Like you said earlier,
• 46:31
  Speaker 2: Ted Ted Winder, I can't get over that name. When
• 46:37
  Speaker 2: you are on a reality TV show, if fifty percent
• 46:40
  Speaker 2: of the people love you and fifty percent of the
• 46:42
  Speaker 2: people hate you, you're going to be popular, right. But
• 46:45
  Speaker 2: if it swings either one way or the other, nobody,
• 46:48
  Speaker 2: you're not going to make it right. So how did
• 46:50
  Speaker 2: you handle the negative side of the social media? You
• 46:53
  Speaker 2: know the people that's you know, you're not tall enough,
• 46:56
  Speaker 2: you're not short enough, you're not white enough, you're not
• 46:58
  Speaker 2: brown enough, you're not you're not good looking enough, you're
• 47:00
  Speaker 2: too good looking? How did you handle all that negative?
• 47:04
  Speaker 1: Why do you have to throw a shorten there?
• 47:07
  Speaker 3: Because it goes with.
• 47:10
  Speaker 1: Im? Who would say that ship if I wasn't short?
• 47:17
  Speaker 2: It's that comes up. It's all stupid.
• 47:21
  Speaker 6: Yeah, and I say this all the time.
• 47:23
  Speaker 1: People ask me that question all the time. How do
• 47:25
  Speaker 1: you handle it? How do you First, I got a thick,
• 47:27
  Speaker 1: thick skin, and I look in the mirror. No, because
• 47:31
  Speaker 1: we got we got hammered, hammered, right, you know, on
• 47:36
  Speaker 1: on social media, you get hammered when you're a reality
• 47:38
  Speaker 1: start may make up all these allegations about you know,
• 47:41
  Speaker 1: all this bullshit, and nothing is true right for me,
• 47:46
  Speaker 1: thank god, you know, but I really never gave a
• 47:50
  Speaker 1: shit what anybody ever saying, because I look in the mirror.
• 47:55
  Speaker 1: I get up every day and I earned every dollar
• 47:58
  Speaker 1: I've ever made in my life this way. Yeah, and
• 48:01
  Speaker 1: I don't give a shit when anybody could say about me,
• 48:04
  Speaker 1: and it doesn't bother me. And I really barely read it,
• 48:08
  Speaker 1: and I don't care to read in because I knew
• 48:11
  Speaker 1: who I was. And when you know who you are,
• 48:13
  Speaker 1: you know when you respond and everything goes you because
• 48:16
  Speaker 1: you know you're that person and you responded. Yeah, So
• 48:20
  Speaker 1: if they call you a certain name, or they say
• 48:22
  Speaker 1: something and it eats you up, so you respond to
• 48:25
  Speaker 1: it and you're trying to fight it or clean it up, nothing.
• 48:28
  Speaker 2: Up, and it ever affected your relationship with Melissa. For example,
• 48:33
  Speaker 2: there was an instance where one of the housewives that
• 48:37
  Speaker 2: was trying to get back at my wife. She couldn't
• 48:39
  Speaker 2: hurt my wife any longer, so she came after me
• 48:42
  Speaker 2: and created this whole fabricated scene at her house talking about,
• 48:46
  Speaker 2: you know, I'm gay. I slept with this guy. I
• 48:48
  Speaker 2: walked into a room with this guy, and this whole
• 48:50
  Speaker 2: allegation that I was gay, And like you, I don't
• 48:53
  Speaker 2: give up. You can say anything you want to bout me, gay, straight, whatever.
• 48:58
  Speaker 2: But it affected my wife so much that she, you know,
• 49:01
  Speaker 2: didn't know what to do and started getting offended, and
• 49:05
  Speaker 2: it was obviously an attack on her marriage, right. And
• 49:10
  Speaker 2: at one point I didn't understand it because I was like, Babe,
• 49:13
  Speaker 2: it doesn't matter to me. It doesn't matter what these
• 49:15
  Speaker 2: people think about me. You know who I am, you
• 49:18
  Speaker 2: know who what it's what our relationship is. And and
• 49:21
  Speaker 2: it didn't dawn on me that it it created a
• 49:24
  Speaker 2: little fight between us because I couldn't understand why it
• 49:26
  Speaker 2: was affecting her so much. And then it took me
• 49:28
  Speaker 2: a while to figure out, oh, it's affecting her. So
• 49:31
  Speaker 2: I got to figure out why it's affecting her and
• 49:34
  Speaker 2: support her on this, and what I learned is it
• 49:37
  Speaker 2: was an attack on her family. And when they attack
• 49:40
  Speaker 2: your kids, when they attack your family, that kind of
• 49:44
  Speaker 2: that's where she loses her shit. Like you can attack everything,
• 49:47
  Speaker 2: you can say, you know, you can. You can say
• 49:50
  Speaker 2: I'm a crook if you want. That's illegal, but you
• 49:52
  Speaker 2: can say I'm a crook. But don't go after my family.
• 49:56
  Speaker 2: Don't go after my kids. You know, they're not part
• 49:59
  Speaker 2: of this show. Did that ever happen to you guys,
• 50:02
  Speaker 2: And did you guys ever have any problems like that? Oh?
• 50:05
  Speaker 1: Yeah, listen, we've we've been on this fourteen years. If
• 50:09
  Speaker 1: I'm going to tell you things like that didn't happen
• 50:12
  Speaker 1: it did? You know? This has been a rollercoaster. I
• 50:17
  Speaker 1: mean there's been great times, there's been bad times. You know. Again,
• 50:20
  Speaker 1: we've been we've been on with family, I mean some
• 50:23
  Speaker 1: serious family stuff. So there was times that you know,
• 50:27
  Speaker 1: we were so upset and we had arguments about it
• 50:30
  Speaker 1: because for no reason, because of the because of the pressure,
• 50:34
  Speaker 1: you know. Yeah, I mean it's been a lot. I mean,
• 50:38
  Speaker 1: this is this is not an easy game, you know that, right,
• 50:41
  Speaker 1: And we're putting our lives out there and we're just
• 50:44
  Speaker 1: basically you're a darkboard. And just they're just throwing darts
• 50:47
  Speaker 1: at you and trying to hit that bullseye and are
• 50:50
  Speaker 1: constantly doing it. So it's a battle. And you really
• 50:55
  Speaker 1: have to have true love, right you real left to
• 50:58
  Speaker 1: laugh because that's how you this. But you guys been
• 51:02
  Speaker 1: together for a long time too, right, Yeah, and you
• 51:06
  Speaker 1: also meet your wife and if you don't have that
• 51:08
  Speaker 1: real love and you were on the rocks already, or
• 51:11
  Speaker 1: you're never gonna make it, because this is the pressure
• 51:13
  Speaker 1: is crazy.
• 51:14
  Speaker 2: I remember in the beginning when I first learned about
• 51:19
  Speaker 2: Jersey and I started watching a little bit about it
• 51:22
  Speaker 2: through my wife. Of course, there was a lot of
• 51:25
  Speaker 2: battling between you and Theresa and the family dynamics, and
• 51:30
  Speaker 2: I thought, well, that's got to be bad, you know,
• 51:33
  Speaker 2: because this is family. This is messing up families. I
• 51:35
  Speaker 2: don't for us. They put us in a room with
• 51:39
  Speaker 2: people we've never met in our life and call them
• 51:42
  Speaker 2: our friends, right, and hey, here's your show. If I
• 51:45
  Speaker 2: don't have a relationship with these people, I don't give
• 51:48
  Speaker 2: a shit. I didn't know them before the show. I
• 51:49
  Speaker 2: don't care after the show, right, But this is your family,
• 51:54
  Speaker 2: And how did that affect you when it's affecting your family.
• 51:57
  Speaker 6: I mean, listen, I I would love to, you know, uh,
• 52:02
  Speaker 6: be in a room.
• 52:03
  Speaker 1: I always say, tell everybody when we go to Bravo
• 52:05
  Speaker 1: Khan and and you meet all the other people and
• 52:07
  Speaker 1: you're like, listen, put me in a room with a
• 52:10
  Speaker 1: bunch of strangers out to eat them alive. I have phone,
• 52:13
  Speaker 1: you know, you just have some phone with it. Family.
• 52:16
  Speaker 7: It's it's a whole different world. It's a different ballgame.
• 52:19
  Speaker 7: Like you, when you're done, you you go and you
• 52:22
  Speaker 7: really it sinks into your head. Like even now, if
• 52:25
  Speaker 7: I watch old episodes, like say on a Sunday, you
• 52:28
  Speaker 7: walk by and there's an episode on and it you know,
• 52:31
  Speaker 7: and because now because we're air and that's what they do,
• 52:33
  Speaker 7: they show they rerun all these episodes and there's an
• 52:37
  Speaker 7: incident that I had, you know that.
• 52:39
  Speaker 1: Goes back to like a family day. I don't even
• 52:42
  Speaker 1: watch it. I can't watch it. Yeah, I still can't
• 52:44
  Speaker 1: watch it. I don't want to watch it, you know.
• 52:46
  Speaker 1: So I turned out, I turn it off. I walk
• 52:49
  Speaker 1: right out of the room. And even Melissa, she wouldn't
• 52:52
  Speaker 1: watch those those times because they was so real, so
• 52:56
  Speaker 1: so so.
• 52:59
  Speaker 3: Bad for us.
• 53:00
  Speaker 1: I mean, yeah, it was tough. It was It's a ride,
• 53:03
  Speaker 1: you know. That's why I think Jersey was such a
• 53:06
  Speaker 1: popular show because of the family dynamic, and everywhere I
• 53:10
  Speaker 1: went there were people would say to me when I
• 53:14
  Speaker 1: this was I first got on the show, they were like,
• 53:16
  Speaker 1: oh my god, you know hi Joe. Yeah, I don't
• 53:18
  Speaker 1: get along with my brother, I don't get along with
• 53:19
  Speaker 1: my sister, I don't get along with my mother, I
• 53:20
  Speaker 1: don't get all my phone. I mean, the family dynamic
• 53:23
  Speaker 1: thing is everywhere, and and that's why that show was
• 53:27
  Speaker 1: so crazy and so popular, and that's why I went
• 53:30
  Speaker 1: so fast when when we first got on and uh, yeah,
• 53:34
  Speaker 1: it's been a ride, man.
• 53:35
  Speaker 2: I mean, that was one of the biggest things that
• 53:37
  Speaker 2: stood out when I first learned about Jersey and how
• 53:40
  Speaker 2: the family dynamics and all that it was got to
• 53:44
  Speaker 2: be hard. The other dynamic that really stood out on
• 53:48
  Speaker 2: Jersey is how you and the guys you could have
• 53:52
  Speaker 2: your own show and you guys are so you know,
• 53:55
  Speaker 2: you do so many cool things together on the show.
• 53:58
  Speaker 2: You film a lot on the show. Tell tell me
• 54:00
  Speaker 2: a little bit about how that happens. I mean, because
• 54:02
  Speaker 2: the assumption I have is you guys grew up with
• 54:05
  Speaker 2: each other. You know each other, and you get you
• 54:08
  Speaker 2: actually get along with each other. Right, There's a lot
• 54:11
  Speaker 2: of history, so it makes sense that you have that dynamic.
• 54:15
  Speaker 2: Unlike our franchise or most franchises, the guys don't know
• 54:19
  Speaker 2: each other really, you know. And and it's hard enough
• 54:22
  Speaker 2: without having a television show in front of you to
• 54:25
  Speaker 2: have a relationship with a husband of a wife. You know, like, like,
• 54:30
  Speaker 2: just because you're her her her husband, doesn't mean we
• 54:33
  Speaker 2: have to be friends, right, but do I mean we
• 54:36
  Speaker 2: have to get along? But you know how, tell me
• 54:39
  Speaker 2: about the Jersey House husbands, because you guys, you guys
• 54:42
  Speaker 2: have it going on over there.
• 54:44
  Speaker 1: You know. It always takes one right, And if I
• 54:49
  Speaker 1: like to party, man, I like to I like to
• 54:50
  Speaker 1: work hard, but I like that fun. And and if
• 54:54
  Speaker 1: if I'm working and I'm filming, so I worked all day,
• 54:57
  Speaker 1: worked all day from five in the morning. Now now
• 55:00
  Speaker 1: it's filming time. Say it's eight o'clock at night, nine
• 55:02
  Speaker 1: o'clock at night, we're filming. We're at an event. I'm
• 55:04
  Speaker 1: gonna have some fun. I don't care. We're filming. It's
• 55:07
  Speaker 1: about my time.
• 55:08
  Speaker 6: This is I'm working on.
• 55:09
  Speaker 1: So I'm like, oh, come on, guys to a shot.
• 55:12
  Speaker 3: Come on.
• 55:12
  Speaker 6: So I am, I'm I'm the antagonizer.
• 55:18
  Speaker 2: I know you did it to us and Brava, Brava.
• 55:22
  Speaker 1: So I've you know, and I start people getting you know,
• 55:26
  Speaker 1: I like to drink. I can handle my liquor very well,
• 55:29
  Speaker 1: so I like to give. Just start start doing the shots.
• 55:33
  Speaker 1: Get everybody a little twisted. Then the games start happening,
• 55:36
  Speaker 1: you know. And I'm just a jokester. So you know,
• 55:39
  Speaker 1: I've created this little bond with the guys and and
• 55:43
  Speaker 1: we kind of Frank is the only guy on the
• 55:46
  Speaker 1: show that I've known for thirty years, a big Franks
• 55:50
  Speaker 1: containing everyone else. I basically met on the show.
• 55:53
  Speaker 2: Oh yeah, I got you. You and Joelan way back,
• 55:57
  Speaker 2: I know it. Impressions.
• 55:59
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 56:00
  Speaker 1: No, Joe Beningo, No I met him. I met him
• 56:02
  Speaker 1: on the show. Okay, but we clicked, you know, we clicked.
• 56:06
  Speaker 1: And and Joe's funny because Joe's the kind of guy.
• 56:08
  Speaker 1: He's really not a drinker, but he kind of like
• 56:11
  Speaker 1: I antagonized in the drink and I said, come on
• 56:13
  Speaker 1: doing that.
• 56:13
  Speaker 2: Come on.
• 56:14
  Speaker 1: Then he starts getting drunk, and he has three or
• 56:17
  Speaker 1: four and he starts doing whatever and he starts dancing.
• 56:19
  Speaker 1: He goes, let me.
• 56:20
  Speaker 6: Dance like you, all right, I show him how to dance.
• 56:26
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I got a sixty five year old guy trying
• 56:28
  Speaker 1: to do the dance, the sexy dance.
• 56:30
  Speaker 2: You know.
• 56:31
  Speaker 1: They just they kind of just you know, they listen
• 56:34
  Speaker 1: to me. They they we just we just have fun,
• 56:38
  Speaker 1: you know.
• 56:38
  Speaker 3: And well here's one thing too, is you know, if
• 56:41
  Speaker 3: you don't have fun, you become bitter. That's why it's
• 56:43
  Speaker 3: so important to be to have fun, because that's how
• 56:45
  Speaker 3: you you're grateful. Right. But the most bitter people I've
• 56:48
  Speaker 3: met is just they're not having fun anymore. Yea, And
• 56:51
  Speaker 3: I love that you mentioned that, Joe. As we begin
• 56:53
  Speaker 3: to close, you know, father's days coming up, Just two
• 56:56
  Speaker 3: quick questions. What's obviously you've been a great dad. What's
• 56:59
  Speaker 3: your greatest less of being father, of being a father?
• 57:02
  Speaker 3: And then what was the hardest lesson that you had
• 57:05
  Speaker 3: to learn about being a father?
• 57:07
  Speaker 1: Uh, it's not about you anymore. It can't be greedy,
• 57:10
  Speaker 1: it's it's it's it's I always tell everybody, even when
• 57:14
  Speaker 1: I'm married with my wife, and you know, obviously my kids,
• 57:17
  Speaker 1: my kids take it all. I just told my daughter
• 57:18
  Speaker 1: this today. Uh, she says, I said, bring your brother
• 57:22
  Speaker 1: to school for me. I can't do. She's like, Dad,
• 57:25
  Speaker 1: I go, I go, huh, it's not honey. I bought
• 57:29
  Speaker 1: you a nice car at your brother. Take care of
• 57:31
  Speaker 1: your brother. You know it's not always about you. You know,
• 57:35
  Speaker 1: my whole life I gave up for you and your brothers.
• 57:39
  Speaker 1: I give my money to you, guys. I go. If
• 57:42
  Speaker 1: I didn't have you, guys, I'd be living a life.
• 57:45
  Speaker 1: I'd be on a yacht right now with a bunch
• 57:47
  Speaker 1: of Columbian women, great time, not worrying about taking you
• 57:54
  Speaker 1: here and tell you paying for college, paying for this.
• 57:56
  Speaker 1: But so the biggest lesson is it's uh, don't you
• 58:01
  Speaker 1: can't be selfish? You know it's not about you anymore.
• 58:04
  Speaker 3: I teach your kids that teach And the hardest moment
• 58:07
  Speaker 3: about being a dad. What's been your hardest moment about
• 58:10
  Speaker 3: being a dad?
• 58:12
  Speaker 1: My hardest moment, I really, I'm gonna say, man, I
• 58:18
  Speaker 1: don't have a hard moment. I love it. I would
• 58:20
  Speaker 1: have a hundred kids. I don't care. I'll deal with
• 58:22
  Speaker 1: their problems, you know, I'll deal with everything. I just love.
• 58:27
  Speaker 1: I love my kids. I love that I can look
• 58:29
  Speaker 1: at them, and I love that I've taught them something
• 58:33
  Speaker 1: and they use it. You know, I just there's nothing
• 58:36
  Speaker 1: hard about being a father man's and I love all
• 58:39
  Speaker 1: their challenges and you know hard.
• 58:42
  Speaker 2: Was it hard to see your daughter go away for college?
• 58:45
  Speaker 1: It was hard, but but it was still a beautiful thing.
• 58:48
  Speaker 1: You know, you get it's a proud moment everybody, you know,
• 58:51
  Speaker 1: I know you get upset. I got upset for that moment,
• 58:55
  Speaker 1: but I'm also proud of her. You know, she's going
• 58:57
  Speaker 1: to college. You know, go go, go be who you
• 59:01
  Speaker 1: want to be. Do it the right way. You know.
• 59:03
  Speaker 1: The hardest moment if she ever got in trouble and
• 59:06
  Speaker 1: did some stupid things. And I always tell my kids
• 59:09
  Speaker 1: no drugs. You know, that's the worst thing they can
• 59:13
  Speaker 1: ever That would be the hardest moment if a parent
• 59:15
  Speaker 1: ever had to go through that, because it's.
• 59:17
  Speaker 6: A difficult road.
• 59:18
  Speaker 1: And I pray every day that please they don't get
• 59:21
  Speaker 1: involved in that. And you know, you can only wish
• 59:24
  Speaker 1: and teach them, you know, plant that in their head.
• 59:28
  Speaker 1: But that's that's the biggest moment. But you know, I don't.
• 59:32
  Speaker 1: I'm good man. I'm happy being a dad. Man. I'd
• 59:35
  Speaker 1: have a hundred of them. Yeah, and my seat everywhere.
• 59:39
  Speaker 1: I'm gonna start planting my seat. I might give it out,
• 59:41
  Speaker 1: you know, start selling it.
• 59:45
  Speaker 3: Well. I'll tell you what, man, the timing on you
• 59:47
  Speaker 3: coming on couldn't have been better, especially with Father's Day
• 59:50
  Speaker 3: coming up, because again, I think you're a great example
• 59:53
  Speaker 3: of what a dad should be. You know again, married
• 59:55
  Speaker 3: what over twenty years and three children, and you've done
• 1:00:00
  Speaker 3: just a great job. And I've had so much fun
• 1:00:02
  Speaker 3: in this interview.
• 1:00:03
  Speaker 1: You know.
• 1:00:03
  Speaker 3: One of the things that we try to do as
• 1:00:04
  Speaker 3: well is we got to love I love the most
• 1:00:07
  Speaker 3: is we got to talk a little bit about business
• 1:00:08
  Speaker 3: because a lot of times you don't get to hear that.
• 1:00:10
  Speaker 3: So yeah, again, thank you again for coming. I know
• 1:00:13
  Speaker 3: you're busy man, so it means a lot.
• 1:00:15
  Speaker 1: Thank you. Thank you.
• 1:00:17
  Speaker 6: Listen, you keep looking at you too, handsome son of
• 1:00:19
  Speaker 6: a bitches.
• 1:00:20
  Speaker 1: You guys keep doing it.
• 1:00:21
  Speaker 3: Hey feels mutual. Brother.
• 1:00:24
  Speaker 2: We'll see you soon.
• 1:00:25
  Speaker 3: Brother.
• 1:00:25
  Speaker 2: It's great talking to you man.
• 1:00:27
  Speaker 3: Guys. I mean, what an exciting interview. We want to
• 1:00:31
  Speaker 3: have more and you know you for you listeners. We'd
• 1:00:35
  Speaker 3: love to hear who you'd like on. I mean, I
• 1:00:38
  Speaker 3: think Joe is an excellent excellent guest.
• 1:00:41
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 1:00:41
  Speaker 3: IM so grateful that he showed up because he is
• 1:00:43
  Speaker 3: a busy guy.
• 1:00:44
  Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, yeah, I mean we have two for two now.
• 1:00:47
  Speaker 2: We had Shane, he was awesome. Now Joe. I can't
• 1:00:50
  Speaker 2: wait for our next one. This is awesome. All right,
• 1:00:53
  Speaker 2: another great one, another great one. Great catching up brother.
• 1:00:57
  Speaker 2: I guess we will see you on the next show.
• 1:01:00
  Speaker 3: Yeah. Oh, by the way, you know, so I don't
• 1:01:02
  Speaker 3: know how this whole.
• 1:01:03
  Speaker 1: You know.
• 1:01:03
  Speaker 3: I was bragging to my wife the other day about
• 1:01:05
  Speaker 3: us having five stars. Uh huh, and she's like, well,
• 1:01:09
  Speaker 3: that's too many stars. You got to have some haters.
• 1:01:12
  Speaker 3: You're not doing something right if everybody just loves you. Guys,
• 1:01:14
  Speaker 3: I'm like, you can't win.
• 1:01:16
  Speaker 2: No, no something. This is not that kind of show.
• 1:01:20
  Speaker 2: We want everybody to love us.
• 1:01:22
  Speaker 3: And that's what I told her. I'm like, I don't
• 1:01:23
  Speaker 3: want any haters. I like my five stars.
• 1:01:26
  Speaker 2: I like my five stars.
• 1:01:27
  Speaker 3: Yeah. So, anyway, she made me laugh when she said that.
• 1:01:31
  Speaker 2: That's a good argument, though. I do have to say that.
• 1:01:33
  Speaker 2: But we're not talking garbage. We're not you know, we're
• 1:01:36
  Speaker 2: not being controversial about the housewife show. You know, we're
• 1:01:40
  Speaker 2: just getting to know the guys, that's it.
• 1:01:43
  Speaker 3: This is what happens when you bragged your wife. I
• 1:01:45
  Speaker 3: was like, well, you guys are like a three and
• 1:01:47
  Speaker 3: a half. Guys, we're at five, you know. And of
• 1:01:50
  Speaker 3: course miss Whitty over there always has a quick comeback.
• 1:01:55
  Speaker 2: Yes they do.
• 1:01:56
  Speaker 3: She's like, well, you would have one hundred thousand downloads
• 1:01:59
  Speaker 3: if people actually hated you.
• 1:02:01
  Speaker 2: Yeah. Well we'll have to put that to the test
• 1:02:06
  Speaker 2: someday now, but maybe. Anyways, I think we're doing a
• 1:02:11
  Speaker 2: great job exactly. All right, Well, that's a wrap. I
• 1:02:14
  Speaker 2: will see you on the next one.
• 1:02:16
  Speaker 3: And Happy Father's Day everyone.
• 1:02:18
  Speaker 2: Happy Father's Day, y'all.