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5-MINUTE FRIDAY: Do Yourself This Big Favor · Hurdle with Emily Abbate

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  Speaker 1: Hey, everybody, Emily Abadi coming to you with five Minute Friday,
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  Speaker 1: a segment that is apparently beloved by many of you.
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  Speaker 1: So now that I know this, not that I didn't
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  Speaker 1: know it before, but you get what I'm saying. I
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  Speaker 1: put a call out last week asking you how you
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  Speaker 1: felt about five Minute Friday, and I was met with
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  Speaker 1: a lot of praise for this installment of the show.
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  Speaker 1: So with that said, this is what I'm getting to
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  Speaker 1: when I tell you that I need your listener questions.
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  Speaker 1: If you want Five Minute Friday to stay, hit me
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  Speaker 1: with them. It's so important to me that I'm answering
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  Speaker 1: your questions, especially when you may be asking me things
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  Speaker 1: that come in through emails or dms, and you know
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  Speaker 1: how that can get a little bit hectic. So a
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  Speaker 1: guaranteed way to get your listener question answered is by
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  Speaker 1: sending me a voice message to The link to do
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  Speaker 1: that is in the show notes. And like I've said before,
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  Speaker 1: if for some reason you have an issue using that link,
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  Speaker 1: you can always feel free to record me a voice
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  Speaker 1: memo on your phone and then send it over email.
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  Speaker 1: The email to direct those two is Hello at Hurdle
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  Speaker 1: dot us. For today's installment, a five Minute Friday. I
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  Speaker 1: want to talk to you about the stories that we
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  Speaker 1: tell ourselves and finding the truth. So I was in
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  Speaker 1: a situation this week with a friend of mine where
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  Speaker 1: we had a miscommunication. I got super crazy during a day.
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  Speaker 1: And let me just say this, I am victim to
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  Speaker 1: being on different text message lists from companies that send
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  Speaker 1: you promotional sms. So I'm on many of those lists,
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  Speaker 1: and I'm finally understanding that if I just respond stop,
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  Speaker 1: they'll stop texting me. But because I have, like at
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  Speaker 1: any given moment, ten unread messages in my phone. Those
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  Speaker 1: unread messages are typically from brands. But one of the
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  Speaker 1: unread messages was from a friend of mine and I
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  Speaker 1: missed it. I want to say. It was like on
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  Speaker 1: Tuesday or Wednesday. And today she messaged me and asked
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  Speaker 1: me if I didn't actually want to spend time with
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  Speaker 1: her this weekend in so many words, and I had.
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  Speaker 1: I was just wrapped up in my own stuff, and
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  Speaker 1: so I told her, oh my god, yes, I want
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  Speaker 1: to see you this weekend. Let's get together, et cetera,
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  Speaker 1: et cetera. But before that, bless her, she was telling
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  Speaker 1: herself this story about how I just must have not
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  Speaker 1: been interested in whatever that we had already touched base on.
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  Speaker 1: And this is just such a simple example of how
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  Speaker 1: often are we creating a story in our head based
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  Speaker 1: on a thought or a feeling and not be on fact.
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  Speaker 1: And how easy can it be to get the truth
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  Speaker 1: out if you just speak up right? So, whatever's going
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  Speaker 1: on in your life, whatever story that you might be
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  Speaker 1: telling yourself, ask yourself, is this rooted in fact? And
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  Speaker 1: if you're scared, so to speak about talking to someone
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  Speaker 1: about how you feel, then honestly, let's be real, that
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  Speaker 1: person probably isn't someone that you need to be involved
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  Speaker 1: with anyway. I say that, from dating to friendships to
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  Speaker 1: whatever the case may be, surround yourself with people that
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  Speaker 1: make you feel seen and heard, which can be a
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  Speaker 1: little bit easier said than done, But know that with
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  Speaker 1: time and with executing your boundaries and with standing up yourself,
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  Speaker 1: it will happen. And when it does happen, when you
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  Speaker 1: look around and you feel comforted and safe about your people,
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  Speaker 1: then trust me, that is a good place to be in.
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  Speaker 1: And the last thing I'll say before I move into
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  Speaker 1: the listener question, if you you feel like you can't
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  Speaker 1: express yourself to someone that you're interested in relevant to dating,
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  Speaker 1: then let me tell you that person is probably not
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  Speaker 1: your person, no matter how much you want them to be.
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  Speaker 1: So my question for you this week is, is there
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  Speaker 1: a situation right now in your life where you are
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  Speaker 1: creating some sort of a story, narrating a tale that
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  Speaker 1: isn't true? And what's within your power to change that?
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  Speaker 1: What's going on in your life right now? What story
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  Speaker 1: are you telling yourself? And how can you communicate to
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  Speaker 1: put your mind at ease? And now I listen our question.
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  Speaker 2: Hey, Emily, it's Sarah from Fort Wayne, Indiana. As always,
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  Speaker 2: I absolutely love the show and all the content that
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  Speaker 2: you create for us, and I'm so so grateful to
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  Speaker 2: get to listen to your podcast every week. So my
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  Speaker 2: question is in the past, you've talked about your dream
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  Speaker 2: guest list you made at the very start of the podcast,
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  Speaker 2: and I'm curious who's been checked off the list and
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  Speaker 2: who's left.
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  Speaker 1: Thanks Sarah, what's up? Thank you so much for your question.
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  Speaker 1: This was one that was emailed to me, so proof
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  Speaker 1: of concept this works. Send me your questions. Oh my goodness,
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  Speaker 1: dream guests. I've had so many, and I still do
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  Speaker 1: have many. Now I don't want to necessarily reveal all
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  Speaker 1: of my desires to all of you. But I will
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  Speaker 1: say when it comes to checking guests off the list
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  Speaker 1: of the dream guest list, I'd be are a miss
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  Speaker 1: if I didn't mention a few really big ones for me.
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  Speaker 1: These include from the get go, and I'm talking about like,
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  Speaker 1: so these are people that I knew of five years
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  Speaker 1: ago that were on my like, oh my god. Just
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  Speaker 1: to have the opportunity to have a conversation with you
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  Speaker 1: would be truly epic, and I do feel so grateful
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  Speaker 1: for the time that everyone always gives me period. But
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  Speaker 1: dream guest list from the get go, I would have
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  Speaker 1: to say Slaine without a doubt. Also, very early on,
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  Speaker 1: I had both Sadie Lincoln from Bar three and Andy
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  Speaker 1: Putcomb on the show, and that felt just completely mind
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  Speaker 1: blowing because they gave me their time when I was
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  Speaker 1: so new to this, and for that I feel forever indebted. Also,
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  Speaker 1: Alison Felix, an absolute goat and such an unbelievably kind
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  Speaker 1: and charismatic and talented, talented mother and wonderful person. And
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  Speaker 1: I'd round out this list for now with Alex Morgan
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  Speaker 1: from the US women's national team, as well as her
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  Speaker 1: teammate Ali Krieger, and last but not least, coach Chris Bennett,
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  Speaker 1: Nike Running's global head coach. So there's just a few.
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  Speaker 1: And this is just like top of mind people that
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  Speaker 1: were on the OG quote unquote dream guest list. Now
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  Speaker 1: when it comes to who's still on it, oh my god,
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  Speaker 1: who isn't on it? There's a lot. I am so
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  Speaker 1: grateful that this is what I get to do for work.
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  Speaker 1: I will tell you a couple of them. Abby won Back.
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  Speaker 1: I just reached out to her again last week. I
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  Speaker 1: would love love, love, love, love, love, love the opportunity
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  Speaker 1: to speak with her. Chloe Kim, we've corresponded before. I
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  Speaker 1: have hope for that. I hope for all of this.
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  Speaker 1: And I'll round out this list with Meghan Rapino and
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  Speaker 1: Candice Parker, some really big sport legends on the top
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  Speaker 1: of my list right now. But I'm always looking for recommendations.
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  Speaker 1: So if you have someone that you want to hear
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  Speaker 1: from on Hurdle, I am all ears. Feel free to
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  Speaker 1: shoot us a dm over at Hurdle podcast, or of
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  Speaker 1: course hit me up over email at Hello at Hurdle
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  Speaker 1: dot us. That's it for this week, another hurdle conquered.
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  Speaker 1: Catch you guys next time.