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3 Things that Keep Smart, Successful People Single · Secrets They'll Only Tell a Matchmaker with Gina Hendrix

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  Here are three things that I find are usually the problem
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  that keep very successful, eligible people single.
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  Hang on. And honestly, it keeps other
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  people single too. Hang on #1 you're impatient with
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  other people. You don't realize that other
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  people have things going on in their lives.
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  They may not be able to get back to you on your time frame.
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  They may not message you back on your time frame.
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  They may not. You know, they're not at your
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  beck and call the way you think they should be.
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  And so then people become disposable.
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  If they're not jumping to it on your time frame, they're out the
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  door. Hang on #2.
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  You are intolerant of other people and their behaviors.
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  So if somebody doesn't do and say things that you think they
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  should do and say you have no tolerance for them, you don't
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  understand. They're not mind readers and
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  can't read your mind. You don't understand that they
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  may do things differently because they dated somebody who
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  did things differently, and that's kind of what they were
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  accustomed to. You have no tolerance of other
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  people's behaviors. If it doesn't, you know,
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  resonate with what you would do. Hang on, last one for you.
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  Last but not least, lacking self-awareness.
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  Lacking self-awareness means that you don't realize what your
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  role in it is. OK, because if you remain single
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  for a long, long time, over and over and over, you keep dating
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  people, you're out there. It's not like you're not dating
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  or not trying. You're dating.
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  You're trying keep going out with people.
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  But then you keep keeps routing you back to the same scenarios
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  over and over and over again and you want to blame it on
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  everybody else. You need to look inward my
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  friend. OK, you need to be a little more
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  self aware of your role in these scenarios, OK?
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  And I know a lot of times your friends won't be honest with
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  you. That's why you got me.
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  All right. I hope it helps.