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Why Your Wife Has Emotionally Checked Out of Your Marriage | How to Save Your Marriage and Become a Better Husband| The Warrior Kings Podcast Ep.103 · The Warrior Kings Podcast : Men's Self Help Masculinity Podcast

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  She's saying, what the heck happened?
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  I thought that we were going somewhere, you know, But every
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  day is turned into the same day and the years are going by like
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  months and, and they're going by way too fast.
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  But that is a huge critical error and a huge mistake.
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  And that is what causes so many marriages and the intimacy in
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  the marriage, the love connection to fade over time and
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  sometimes die completely. Are you the man she thought she
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  was marrying when she decided that it was a great idea to
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  spend the rest of her life with you?
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  Or has she been slowly realizing that she was sort of sold a
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  dream that never actually showed up?
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  I have some rules for you from here on out.
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  If you want to better your marriage, here's what you're
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  going to do. If your wife could go back
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  knowing everything she knows now about who you've become, would
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  she still choose you? That's not a question designed
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  to hurt you. It's the most important question
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  every married man can ask, because the answer to that
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  question is the difference between a marriage that thrives
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  in a marriage that falls apart. If it's your first time here, my
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  name is Michael Riggs. I'm a full time author,
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  entrepreneur, men's personal development and marriage mentor,
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  husband and father of six. And I teach men all over the
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  world how to live fully optimized, levelled up lives and
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  how to have happy, thriving marriages.
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  So if that's something you're into, definitely stick around.
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  Subscribe to this podcast, subscribe to this YouTube
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  channel, wherever you're getting this because this is what we do
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  here every week. And stick with me because today
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  I'm going to talk about exactly what it takes to become the man
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  your wife deserved all along. Hello and welcome, welcome to
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  the Warrior Kings podcast. I'm your host, Michael Riggs
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  here to assist you on your journey to living a fully
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  optimized, leveled up life as a man.
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  So again, welcome and welcome back to the Warrior Kings
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  podcast. It's great to be here today.
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  It's great to talk to you today. And welcome to my new marriage
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  series, my new better husband series that I'm doing here.
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  The first marriage series that I ever did.
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  The How to be a Better Husband series has performed massively
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  well, even after two years. It's some of my most listened
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  to, most consumed episodes, and I feel so fulfilled, so grateful
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  that I was able to reach so many men with the powerful messages
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  in that series. So this is sort of a reboot of
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  that in an expansion of that at the same time.
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  So I'm glad you're here again if it's your first time here.
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  My name is Michael Riggs. I say all of the things that
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  most men don't want to hear, that most men can't swallow.
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  But hey, that's tough love. And that's what I do.
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  And that is my mission and my vision in life is to transform
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  men into their best selves, as many men as possible to better
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  their lives, their success, their marriages, all that stuff.
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  And really quick here, I just wanted to point out that the
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  YouTube members section is now up, if that makes any sense.
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  see them or hear them. And I have lots of awesome stuff
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  There's some special emojis on there.
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  And I, I'm expanding all of the perks that members will get.
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  So if you're like a super fan or something of the Warrior Kings
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  podcast of me and all of my content, definitely get on there
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  and sign up to be a member on my YouTube channel so you don't
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  miss any of the exclusive content that's going to be on
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  there. And with all that being said,
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  let's dive right into it. In the beginning of a
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  relationship, in the dating phase, like when you first
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  started seeing your now wife, it's natural to sort of put on a
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  false self. You put on your best self every
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  time that you're going to be seeing her.
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  You may make sure that you look nice, your clothes look nice,
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  you make sure that you smell good.
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  You know all these things and you present your best self.
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  You're trying to charm her, you're trying to make her laugh,
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  you're making jokes, you're being really polite, right?
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  And I'm sure you remember that when you first started seeing
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  your wife, when you were courting her into falling in
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  love with you, you shared your dreams and your visions of life
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  with her. You painted a picture of a
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  future for her with your words that was filled with adventure
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  and abundance and success. You told her all about where you
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  were going in life and that she had a choice whether to come
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  with you or not. This would happen over late
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  night conversations, long chats. You are both putting on your
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  best self, the best version of yourself, in order to charm her,
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  in order to get her to fall in love with you.
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  And somehow your charm was actually working.
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  Somehow this beautiful, cute, amazing girl was actually giving
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  you the time of day. So you have to ask yourself one
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  serious question. Are you still that man?
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  Are you the man she thought she was marrying when she decided
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  that it was a great idea to spend the the rest of her life
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  with you? Or has she been slowly realizing
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  that she was sort of sold a dream that never actually showed
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  up? And that's a tough question to
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  ask. Am I still the same man that she
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  married? Or am I still the man she
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  thought she was married? And I know that you didn't set
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  out to trick somebody. I know that she didn't set out
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  to sell her a false dream of the future that never showed up and
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  doesn't exist. But this is a natural process
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  and it's way more common than you think.
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  You are not alone in this at all.
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  You wouldn't believe the number of guys that this one concept
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  completely blows their mind, but we're going to call the version
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  of you that showed up to win her, the version of you that you
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  put on when you first started seeing her.
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  We're going to call that the false self.
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  And then there's the true self, the you that was revealed
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  overtime. The true self, our true
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  humanity, comes out naturally because we get really
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  comfortable. We get so comfortable with this
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  person and being around them that we start letting too much
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  show you understand what I'm saying?
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  Like there's too much of your true human self coming out.
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  You stop impressing the other person and you naturally just
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  kind of start doing the opposite of that.
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  And one huge mistake that most married people make is once the
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  ring is on the finger, once the marriage is set in stone, they
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  think the work is done, the other person is locked down,
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  mission accomplished. Now I can kind of relax into
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  comfort and stop impressing this person.
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  The job is done. They're mine.
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  You understand what I'm saying? But that is a huge critical
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  error and a huge mistake. And that is what causes so many
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  marriages and the intimacy in the marriage, the love
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  connection to fade overtime and sometimes die completely.
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  You should have never stopped trying to impress your wife.
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  You should have never stopped putting on your best self every
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  day to charm her, to woo her, to make her fall in love with you
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  and stay in love with you. And there are 5 main ways that
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  men let themselves go in marriage.
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  And you know, we often make the mistake of thinking that letting
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  oneself go is a thing that women do.
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  You know, there's a lot of emphasis and a lot of attention
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  put on that though. When women get married, they let
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  themselves go. But men do too, trust me.
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  And you might be realizing that in some ways you have done the
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  same thing. And the first way that men let
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  themselves go is physical appearance and presentation.
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  Your wife's perception of you is being crafted every single day
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  subconsciously. And if the version of you that
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  shows up for her every day is kind of a lazy slob, that is
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  going to be all she knows you as.
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  You are the lazy slob guide that has been crafted overtime.
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  And again, this comes from getting too comfortable.
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  And here's the thing, men work really hard.
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  And here's one mistake that many men make.
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  You work really hard. You've worked all week.
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  So when you're at home, when you get off work, you put on some
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  sweatpants, You get comfortable. You get comfortable on the
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  couch. When it's your days off, let's
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  say it's the weekend, you kind of slump into comfort again, the
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  sweatpants or the gym shorts or sometimes even flip flops.
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  You know what I'm saying? Like you want to be comfortable
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  on your days off because you've been working really hard.
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  The problem with that is that that's the only time that she
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  sees you. That's her perception of you.
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  She's not with you when you're at work, when you're at the
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  office all dressed up or let's say you're a guy who builds
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  houses or something like that. She doesn't get to see you in
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  that mode where you're kind of put together.
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  And maybe that would be sexy to her that you're in your
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  construction gear working. You know, her perception of you
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  is the guy who's relaxing, taking some time off, maybe
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  having a few beers. So if you consider the way that
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  you present yourself in front of her every time that she's going
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  to see you, what does that look like?
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  And back to the dating phase, when you first started seeing
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  her, like I said, you made that you presented yourself in the
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  best way possible. You made sure that you looked
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  nice, that you smelled nice, that your clothes looked nice.
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  On some level, you might have even been nervous or anxious
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  that something was going to go wrong with your appearance that
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  was going to embarrass you in front of her.
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  What happened to that? You know she's still the same
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  lady. So my best advice to you is if
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  you're going to see your wife, make sure that you are putting
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  on your best self. If it's your day off, get
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  showered, get cleaned up, groom yourself, put on some nice
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  clothes. And this could be an opportunity
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  to flirt with her as well. If she hasn't seen that side of
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  you in a while And she says something like, what are you
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  getting all dressed up for? Say I'm getting dressed up for
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  you. I was going to be seeing you and
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  hanging out with you today. So I got dressed up.
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  Something along those lines. And the second way that men let
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  themselves go is personal hygiene and just basic manners.
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  This goes back to getting cleaned up and presenting your
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  best self as well. But again with the comfort
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  thing. Let me ask you a question.
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  Do you burp in front of your wife?
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  Do you fart in front of your wife?
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  Do you think that that's funny? And this is one that I get some
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  pushback on because in a lot of relationships and a lot of
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  couples, that's a normal thing. And couples do laugh about it.
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  But I got to tell you that is subconsciously crafting her
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  perception of you. This goes along with the guy who
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  presents himself to her every single day.
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  Are you rude to her? Do you think it's funny to do
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  that? I have some rules for you from
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  here on out. If you want to better your
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  marriage, here's what you're going to do.
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  Never again burp in front of your wife.
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  Never again fart in front of your wife.
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  Never again scratch your nuts in front of your wife or pick your
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  nose. Basic hygiene and present your
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  best self all the time if you want her to still be into you,
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  if you still want to have sex in your marriage sometimes.
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  Present your best self all the time so that you're not the
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  gross guy, you're the desirable guy.
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  Her perception of you is that you are a put together man who
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  knows how to conduct himself in a normal situation.
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  The third way that men let themselves go is ambition and
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  vision. Like I said, when you first
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  started seeing her, you told her your ambitions, your dreams,
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  your goals, where you were going in life, and that she could come
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  along with you. When did you stop doing that?
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  Did you stop painting that future of adventure and
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  abundance for her? Did you get too comfortable to
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  where you don't have any dreams or visions for the future
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  because your everyday routine actually works?
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  Have you succumbed to comfort? Did you know no matter how old
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  you are, that it is OK to have dreams still?
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  It is OK to have ambition that is OK to step outside of
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  comfort? Many men don't have a mission
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  and a calling that they are pursuing with all their might
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  and that is a huge, huge problem.
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  You have to have a vision, a mission, something that you are
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  working towards and one huge way that you can level up your
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  marriage is by sharing that dream with her.
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  While you're pursuing that thing, write the vision of your
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  dream life with her. Say where do we want to live?
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  What do we want to do? What, what dreams do we have
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  together? Start dreaming again with your
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  wife because if she sees you as a dead end, who's going nowhere
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  and this might even be a subconscious thing like she's
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  not looking at you and saying this guy is a dead end going
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  nowhere. What happened to the dream?
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  She can just feel it internally in her subconscious mind.
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  She's saying what the heck happened?
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  I thought that we were going somewhere, you know?
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  But every day is turned into the same day and the years are going
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  by like months and and they're going by way too fast.
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  Have a dream, have some ambition.
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  Find your calling and your purpose and pursue that thing
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  relentlessly. Plan some trips and get excited
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  about it. Don't let the mundane daily
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  routine that actually works ruin your life and steal your life
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  away from you. It is OK to still have dreams
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  and goals and ambitions and still be going somewhere in
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  life. So start doing that.
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  The next way that men let themselves go in marriage is how
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  you speak to her. When you first started seeing
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  your wife, when you were first dating her, when you were
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  putting on your best self, would you have ever spoken to her in
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  the way that you speak to her now?
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  And if you're having marriage problems, if you found this
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  episode because you're having marriage problems, you know
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  exactly what I'm talking about. Would you have ever talked to
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  her the way that you talked to her now?
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  Or if you did, would you have kicked your own ass?
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  You know what I'm saying? Like speak to her still like
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  you're trying to win. Speak to her still like she's
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  that cute, precious woman who is actually giving you the time of
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  day. Speak to her with respect.
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  And one thing that I have men do, it's kind of a mantra, is
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  when things get tense or things get hated or something annoys
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  you, say in the back of your mind these words, I love her, I
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  respect her, and I want what's best for her.
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  Pause, take a moment and then talk to her like you actually
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  love her because you do. Again, you get too comfortable.
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  We get too comfortable in life when we live with someone and
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  we're around them every single day, we slip up way too much.
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  No longer are we going to slip, right?
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  You're going to talk to her with respect, like you love her.
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  And the fifth way that men let themselves go in marriage is
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  intimacy and sexual effort. Did you stop trying to impress
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  her physically as a lover? Many men make the mistake of
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  stopping performing and like the daily routine, the daily mundane
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  routine, how it actually works. The same thing can happen in
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  sexuality and marriage. It becomes very routine.
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  It's just a task to check off, if you're even checking it off
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  anymore at all. But there has to be actual
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  connection, actual intimacy and actual performance pleasing your
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  wife if you want the intimacy to come back alive in your
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  marriage, start pleasing your wife again, Start performing.
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  Slow down a little bit, try some new things.
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  And I'm not talking about being cheesy and acting like you're
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  having an affair and meeting at a hotel or something or ordering
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  something online to spice things up.
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  I'm talking about genuinely trying to please her.
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  It's not something to just get done really quick to have a
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  release. It's it's a connection.
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  It is a soul connection and it is sacred.
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  So slow down, take some time, be intentional, be present in your
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  lovemaking with your wife again. Because you know for a fact that
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  when you first started having physical intimacy together
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  again, you were trying to do your best job, you were putting
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  on your best self every single time.
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  She was the focus, impressing her was the focus.
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  So get back to that. And if you're sitting there
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  thinking OK I get it, but I have no idea where to start making
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  these changes. I'm kind of lost on it.
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  Like I hear what you're saying but how do I implement this in
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  my own life? That's exactly why I built the
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  Reforged Husband complete system.
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  It's a step by step framework based on everything I know about
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  being a fully optimized husband broken down into an online
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  program that is the fast track to becoming the husband your
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  wife deserves. If the version of you that you
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  wish you could become after hearing these hard truths feels
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  miles away from where you are right now, this, this program is
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  the bridge. The transformation is real, but
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  it requires a system, not just inspiration.
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  There is a massive difference between hearing something and
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  learning it and actually implementing it in your life.
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  So if you want to dive into the Reforged husband complete
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  system, the link for that is in the description of this episode.
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  And listen, like I said, all of this stuff is natural.
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  It just kind of happens. And you're definitely not alone.
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  When I first met my now wife, who is the woman of my dreams, I
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  was a ripped, fit construction worker.
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  I worked in the all day long, the Florida heat, building
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  custom homes. I had a six pack, I was tan, I
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  was a hot guy. But then we got married and she
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  started feeding ME3 meals per day plus snacks.
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  And one day I looked in the mirror and I said I'm fat.
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  It just kind of happens, man. So I've been guilty of some of
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  the same things. I've gone through these things
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  myself and that's why I teach it to other people, you know?
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  It's a matter of recognizing it, becoming aware of it, and then
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  making the necessary changes. Her perception of you is being
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  crafted overtime in it exists in her subconscious mind.
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  Think of it like a character, an avatar who you are, who she sees
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  you as. Like I said, she probably
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  doesn't look at you every single day and acknowledge that like
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  this is the guy who XY and Z and This is why XY and ZI don't love
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  him anymore. You know she's not thinking
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  those thoughts. It's just her perception of you
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  as a person. Think about any person in your
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  life and how you see them. Everybody sees that person in a
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  different way. It's it's a personal perception
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  of that person and her perception, your wife's
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  perception of you is who she knows you as, who she sees you
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  as. When you show up, are you
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  showing up as the strongman, the dreamy, handsome, charming guy,
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  or are you showing up as something kind of undesirable,
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  something different? If you were to really reflect on
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  it, who are you in her perception of you?
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  Because everybody's situation is different.
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  Everybody lives differently. You know, you might not be the
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  guy who wears sweatpants and sits on the couch drinking beer,
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  scratching his nuts and being rude.
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  But whoever you are, maybe it's in contrast to who she thought
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  she was marrying, who she fell in love with.
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  What parts of you are different now that what parts of you were
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  revealed? How have you gotten too
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  comfortable in front of her in your life?
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  What does your situation look like?
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  And really reflect on this. Intimacy, respect and connection
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  erodes quietly, and most men don't become aware of it until
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  it's too late. You wouldn't believe the number
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  of guys who reach out to me for coaching and they're saying she
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  served me divorce like it's over.
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  I don't know what to do. I never thought about this stuff
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  before until it was too late. It's like a shocker, a surprise.
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  It's why I wish so badly that I could reach every married man in
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  the world and say, hey, learn this stuff now before it's too
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  late. Learn it ahead of time because
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  most men don't start seeking this information until they
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  realize that it's all falling apart.
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  And if you're one of those guys who feels like it's all falling
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  apart, listen, I have been there myself.
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  I was with a lady for 10 years and we had two children together
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  and I was a nightmare in that relationship.
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  I thought that I was doing all of the right things.
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  I thought that I was being a Goodman.
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  This is before I learned any of this stuff.
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  And one day she packed up and she left with our two children
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  and moved in with her parents and told me that it was over.
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  And in that moment, I had two choices.
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  We all have two choices when it all falls apart.
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  Either I could crash and burn like everybody expected me to,
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  or I could level up and rise and learn what it means to be a
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  Goodman, an honorable man, a good husband.
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  And that's what I chose to do. I chose to level up every aspect
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  of my life. I dove into books, podcasts,
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  YouTube, tube videos, courses, everything.
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  I wanted to know what it means to be a man.
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  I chose to level up my life and you have that choice right now
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  too. Are you going to crash and burn
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  and succumb to this situation? Are you going to level up like
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  you didn't even know what's possible in your life?
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  Are you going to make the decision to transform your life
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  and become the best version of yourself, the man that you were
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  called to be? That's the choice you have.
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  Start impressing your wife again.
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  That is the overall message of this episode is START impressing
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  your wife again like when you first started seeing her.
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  Everything that you have gotten too comfortable with, everything
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  that you have let go. Reverse it starting right now.
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  Consider her perception of you, who she sees when you're around,
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  who she sees on your days off. Who is that man?
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  Are you showing up as the dreamy, handsome, ambitious,
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  goal driven man who has it all together that you put yourself
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  together every day and present your best self?
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  That you look nice so your clothes look nice, that you
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  smell nice, that you talk to her with respect?
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  Because here's the thing, it it's possible to shift her
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  perception of you. Her perception of you is being
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  crafted overtime, like I said, and that never just cuts off or
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  changes. You can change who you are in
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  her eyes. She might even say to her
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  girlfriends when she's having a girls day.
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  Like I don't know what's gotten into him, but I love it.
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  He's really just killing it in life all the sudden.
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  But ultimately what this whole episode series is about is that
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  it starts with you. It starts on the inside.
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  Most people when they're having marriage problems, when their
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  marriage is falling apart, is they try to fix the other person
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  or try to figure out what the other person's problem is.
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  That's not how you fix this at all.
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  You fix this by looking at yourself and saying it starts
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  with me becoming the best version of yourself that you
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  possibly can be. Control what you can and what
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  you can control is yourself. You can't control her.
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  You can't control how she feels about you.
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  You can't tell her what to do. You can't force her to fall back
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  in love with you, but you can control yourself.
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  You can become the best version of yourself that you've ever
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  been and change her perception of you overtime.
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  And it might take some. Time.
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  It's a process. Don't get discouraged if you
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  start putting on your best self every day and she's not falling
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  down at your feet all the sudden.
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  This is crafted overtime. It is a consistent process and
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  if you stay consistent in that process, her perception of you
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  will be shifted and changed. Trust me.
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  And if your situation is urgent, if your wife is cold and she's
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  checked out, if you don't know what to do, if you feel like
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  you're really running out of time, I want to talk to you.
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  Personally, I do one-on-one coaching with men who are ready
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  to do the real work. No group calls, no generic
• 20:30
  advice, just me and you. And we can get to the source of
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  what is actually causing everything to fall apart, who
• 20:35
  you actually need to be based on your specific situation.
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  And the link to apply to that one-on-one coaching is in the
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  description of this episode as well in the link tree link.
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  And on the next episode of this series next week, we're going to
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  get into the psychology of what has actually been holding you
• 20:51
  back. The invisible false beliefs that
• 20:53
  have been quietly running your marriage into the ground without
• 20:56
  you even realizing it. But yeah, that's what I got for
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  you guys today. Super excited about this series.
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  I'm so glad that I chose to do another marriage series.
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  This is one of the things that I love to talk about the most.
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  Like I said, it's my passion to transform men, transform their
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  marriages. So again, I'm so glad that
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  you're here for this and here in this time diving into this
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  series. If you're getting this episode
• 21:18
  around when it comes out, I just wanted to say happy Father's Day
• 21:21
  to all the fathers, all the dads out there.
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  And if you're getting this sometime later, happy belated
• 21:26
  Father's Day in the year 2026. But it has been awesome to talk
• 21:30
  to you today. Now get out there, kill it.
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  Level up every aspect of your life, a life of overflowing
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  abundance away to you. On the other side of you
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  deciding to make the switch, make the change and level up
• 21:41
  every aspect of your life, a life of overflowing abundance
• 21:44
  away to you. There is a great calling and a
• 21:46
  great purpose for you in this life.
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  You listening to this right now. I love you, I'm proud of you,
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  and I'll see you on the next one.
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  Thanks guys. Bye.