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You're So Good You're Bad · We Talk Back

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  Speaker 1: Welcome to We Talk Back Podcast, the production of iHeartRadio
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  Speaker 1: and the Black Effect Network.
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  Speaker 2: We're just two unapologetically black women with an opinion who
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  Speaker 2: talks back.
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  Speaker 1: What's up, y'all, it's a girl a j holiday.
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  Speaker 2: What's up Tandam y'all it's Tandavam.
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  Speaker 1: Y'all know, y'all know. I love y'all. Y'all know, y'all
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  Speaker 1: know what. Y'all know? What the fuck going on? I love?
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  Speaker 1: How's your weekend? Oh? I did go outside just one day, bitch.
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  Speaker 1: I still did Costco and I just I still did
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  Speaker 1: TJ Max and Marshalls. It's the holidays, Okay, I've been
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  Speaker 1: neating shit. You just you don't meet ship. Ain't no
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  Speaker 1: way you mean I'm doing. I'll be trying to, Okay.
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  Speaker 1: So I literally went to every single TJ Max and
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  Speaker 1: every single Marshals and every single Home Goods. So it's
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  Speaker 1: like two to three of each in the city. Why
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  Speaker 1: is I trying to do my betting? Anyway, y'all? I
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  Speaker 1: met our boyfriend, okay, our boyfriend or Friday? Okay, David Banner.
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  Speaker 1: Bitch made her best, bitch win. Remember I have a
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  Speaker 1: little inchie closerent. You wrong now, Dale where you met
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  Speaker 1: him at so he actually was speaking the Avery Institute
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  Speaker 1: here in Charleston. He was speaking at the They had
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  Speaker 1: him speaking at the African American Museum International. You have
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  Speaker 1: him to come on the show, No, I didn't a
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  Speaker 1: j I get. I'm going to though. Okay, we're gonna
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  Speaker 1: see all right, that nigga. When I got up to
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  Speaker 1: him to take the picture, I was like, you need
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  Speaker 1: some eighty h you need something at Aerall. He was like,
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  Speaker 1: I don't need nothing. That motherfucker does not keep still.
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  Speaker 1: You hearing me like a kid, just bing bang bing
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  Speaker 1: bang bang, like even their in an interview. You told
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  Speaker 1: that man he needs adder all, that you need a
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  Speaker 1: cople that. You know, I'm always saying, what the fuck?
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  Speaker 1: You Remember how Drake daddy was mad because I asked
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  Speaker 1: that nigga. He was sleepy, h sleeping? You sleep, you
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  Speaker 1: go to sleep. Yeah, he was mad at you. I
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  Speaker 1: hear he was so angry. He was big man. I
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  Speaker 1: was like, oh my god, why did she say that
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  Speaker 1: to this man? I said, Drake, come get your son, right,
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  Speaker 1: come get your fucking daddy and all these twenty year
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  Speaker 1: old faces. You like her speaking in trouble right here yeah,
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  Speaker 1: but that nigga was ping ponging around. He is so fine. Okay,
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  Speaker 1: he know he is sexy, but like he like literally
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  Speaker 1: kept talking about how like that's a part of his
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  Speaker 1: whole thing, like now being a sex now being a
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  Speaker 1: sex nobody. I want him to get his gray hair
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  Speaker 1: back though, because I did not like that black hair
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  Speaker 1: on top. I like you, but that man fine, y'all
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  Speaker 1: with nice looking man okay, fifty one years old, aries,
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  Speaker 1: no kids, no wife? What the fuck you got going
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  Speaker 1: on in life?
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  Speaker 3: Right?
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  Speaker 1: I want to know? And he was all in his
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  Speaker 1: life because now I started fucking stalking a little bit afterwards.
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  Speaker 1: But ain't you didn't for me? Chocolate girl? I don't know?
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  Speaker 1: He all in the lives saying how he had a
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  Speaker 1: good time in Charleston, like aside from the museum, and
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  Speaker 1: he locking his lips like I gotta lock it and
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  Speaker 1: throw away the key? Who you been smashing? And like
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  Speaker 1: four bitches here? I want to know, and you want
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  Speaker 1: to who is who?
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  Speaker 2: The three?
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  Speaker 1: Who? Who? I want to know?
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  Speaker 2: I want to know too, And why wasn't it me?
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  Speaker 1: And he is a video.
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  Speaker 4: Y'all.
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  Speaker 2: Let me tell you about my weekend and this is
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  Speaker 2: me being totally candid, So y'all know, I was like,
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  Speaker 2: they net whyyen And I was liking him, and it
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  Speaker 2: was his birthday this weekend, and y'all, I tricked off.
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  Speaker 2: I didn't typically trick you off on a nigga, right,
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  Speaker 2: But I got him a plane ticket to New Orleans
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  Speaker 2: and tickets good seats to the Pelican game Repelicans game.
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  Speaker 2: And then I ended up not taking that nigga because
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  Speaker 2: please don't play with me, y'all. Feel the temperature outside.
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  Speaker 2: That's how col I am on the nigga when they
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  Speaker 2: play with me. So I did not take him.
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  Speaker 1: I took another nigga play.
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  Speaker 2: With it, but oh my gosh, I was like, I
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  Speaker 2: did not enjoy the other nigga, y'all.
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  Speaker 1: This nigga was Chase smoking cigarettes. I was like, oh, yuck,
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  Speaker 1: smoking cigarettes? Is that that shit is fucking wild? Okay,
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  Speaker 1: that's a nasty ass habit. Oh. I was so miserable.
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  Speaker 1: Another lifen knowing nigga who smokes you knowing nigga who
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  Speaker 1: smokes cigarettes? And I asked him why the fuck he
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  Speaker 1: smoked cigarette all the time? But I you know, they
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  Speaker 1: don't go yeah, why how how you know a nigga
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  Speaker 1: that I smoked cigarettes, that you're going out of town with. Bruh.
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  Speaker 1: It was so bad. It was so bad. Ugh, I go,
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  Speaker 1: my hair stink right now.
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  Speaker 2: I just got back to that, know my hair is stink.
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  Speaker 2: Then he kept on complaining about the bill at the
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  Speaker 2: restaurant's bruh, you were ordering to entrees every time we
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  Speaker 2: go somewhere and then complaining about the bill. Oh y'all,
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  Speaker 2: it was just not I was glad. I was just
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  Speaker 2: the one day, like he's cool as a friend but
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  Speaker 2: nothing more. And I was just like missing my waii
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  Speaker 2: in the whole time.
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  Speaker 1: I was missing him.
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  Speaker 2: But still the window, Oh all right, they're like all right,
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  Speaker 2: all right, no shade to people with autism, but okay,
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  Speaker 2: but listen.
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  Speaker 1: Because he careful like talking like this, so I don't know.
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  Speaker 1: I just was like, huh, I guess. I was like,
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  Speaker 1: you have an do you have autumn? He's like whoa.
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  Speaker 1: I was like, have you been tested?
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  Speaker 3: Because what the fuck going on? I can't hear your
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  Speaker 3: motherfucking ass. I just saw hug motherfucking tickets.
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  Speaker 1: Hold on, why was he whispering? It's like he I
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  Speaker 1: do not know, like his voice got mbre or something
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  Speaker 1: like you just go up and come down, like I think.
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  Speaker 2: Listen, I think he take some drugs behind my back
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  Speaker 2: and then say that because he was smoking a boot cigarette.
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  Speaker 1: No, that would make you loud. I think I think
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  Speaker 1: he was like propping peels or something like that. I
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  Speaker 1: don't know. It was wow, y'all. I was like, yo,
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  Speaker 1: where did you find this guy? Last minute? Right? It
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  Speaker 1: was some last Man and shit, I know. I took
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  Speaker 1: the Wii in like this, like you just listen. All
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  Speaker 1: that should is okay, okay, like you just gotta stop
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  Speaker 1: getting mad about ship though, because he obviously is just
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  Speaker 1: for fun. No, I listen, I have fun together, like
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  Speaker 1: just hang out.
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  Speaker 2: I should have just took him. I should have just
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  Speaker 2: took him while I had paid for it. I should
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  Speaker 2: have just took that nigga because maybe that.
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  Speaker 1: Was music another new Port bro need a patch. He
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  Speaker 1: should have get that nigga pa, get him a patch
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  Speaker 1: for his birthday.
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  Speaker 2: I sent him a message like you know, all jokes aside,
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  Speaker 2: like you really need to like do something about the smoking,
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  Speaker 2: like it's out of control. I was like, I want
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  Speaker 2: you to be here a long time. He said, Okay, back,
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  Speaker 2: that's all he said.
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  Speaker 1: But it was okay, yep, that nigga. No, but that
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  Speaker 1: ain't got too many bills that get stressed out, Like
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  Speaker 1: he's not about to stop smoking today or tomorrow. Damn Jeane,
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  Speaker 1: Damn jan If you still smoking cigarettes, man, get your
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  Speaker 1: life together. That is so nasty, it is gross. Yeah, yuck,
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  Speaker 1: all right, all right, y'all. So yah, y'all said he's
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  Speaker 1: tyty y'all old hags. Okay, hydy y'all old ladies. Oh,
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  Speaker 1: she didn't really say that, but ya ya. Mayweather, Floyd
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  Speaker 1: Mayweather's daughter says she would like to see, you know,
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  Speaker 1: people in her age group on Love and Hip Hop
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  Speaker 1: and Real Housewives of Atlanta and she like that, like
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  Speaker 1: she would prefer to see some more familiar faces. I
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  Speaker 1: guess because it is our generation. I would think, you know,
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  Speaker 1: but maybe y'all gotta come up with y'a own shit.
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  Speaker 2: That's what I'm thinking, Like, maybe shit. You gotta have
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  Speaker 2: money and the connections produce some shit, help produce some shit,
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  Speaker 2: because these shows have cult followings, you know, like they
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  Speaker 2: want to see these people as they progress. That's why
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  Speaker 2: they're the same people for the most part. Like you
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  Speaker 2: think of your Housewives of Atlanta we don't want to
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  Speaker 2: see a whole cast of new bitches, Like, no, you
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  Speaker 2: want to see the same.
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  Speaker 1: People, new young bitches at that. So she said, I
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  Speaker 1: want to I want to see basketball, wives and Love
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  Speaker 1: and hip Hop with young ladies from my generation. Much
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  Speaker 1: respect to the older women, but they had their time
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  Speaker 1: to shine. I think it's time to pass the torch.
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  Speaker 1: So she just wants to revamp the existing camp. No,
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  Speaker 1: these kids love type shit type shit. You don't make
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  Speaker 1: that show right, And you know, people in the comments
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  Speaker 1: was like, oh, we don't want to see her, and
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  Speaker 1: she's not talking about herself. She's not saying she wants
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  Speaker 1: to do her Realize that celebrities watch TV too, right,
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  Speaker 1: I mean, if you're going to consider a celebrity, yes,
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  Speaker 1: she watches TV too, So she just wants to see
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  Speaker 1: somebody else on. Who would you.
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  Speaker 2: Cast for love and hip Hop type shit type shit.
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  Speaker 1: That's like the younger generation love and hip hop? I
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  Speaker 1: don't know who are the younger?
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  Speaker 2: Who are the younger you know who I would want
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  Speaker 2: to see on it. I would want to see Mona Leo,
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  Speaker 2: I would coiler ray for sure. Go ahead and throw
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  Speaker 2: Lady London on there.
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  Speaker 1: I think they're a little bit too like popping for
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  Speaker 1: you know. Usually like the people who end up on
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  Speaker 1: our shows are like trying to get their music their star.
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  Speaker 2: But yeah, but I mean I don't know, like I
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  Speaker 2: don't know anybody. This is who I would want to
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  Speaker 2: see and they actually are hip hop artists. Lady London, Mona,
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  Speaker 2: Leo coiler Ray And for the guys, we could put
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  Speaker 2: Justin Laboy because you know him and Coilerrere are dating. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: I think though Drew Ski ass on there for funny man.
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  Speaker 1: When you think about that, you think.
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  Speaker 2: They would be good on their high.
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  Speaker 1: Oh yeah, any yeah, okay, that would be a good show.
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  Speaker 1: I would watch that, but that'll never happen. But throw
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  Speaker 1: Chrishan Rocking and the Baby Daddy on it.
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  Speaker 2: Is gonna all No, that's they already got it. I
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  Speaker 2: don't want to see them no more.
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  Speaker 1: Been trying to reset their timeline and get them niggas
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  Speaker 1: out there. This is that I do.
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  Speaker 2: My guilty pleasure is I watched baddies on the stair climber.
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  Speaker 1: Bitch bitch hope bench that keep me going? Y'all motherfuckers
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  Speaker 1: would do that stair climb? What are y'all training? For it?
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  Speaker 1: What are you training for? That's my favorite machine? Really,
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  Speaker 1: I like the a MT machine adaptive motion, so it's
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  Speaker 1: like an elliptical slash okay, elliptical slash step so you're
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  Speaker 1: kind kind of run on that ship, you know what
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  Speaker 1: I'm saying that I'll lifting your foot up. Yeah, I
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  Speaker 1: like that instead like that that's their crime, be making
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  Speaker 1: you poor sweat though, Like, but how much calories? Can't?
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  Speaker 1: Because I feel like, okay, how many calais can you
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  Speaker 1: burn it an hour on a stair climber. I don't.
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  Speaker 2: I haven't done the research, but I just know it's
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  Speaker 2: like a really good cardio and I like being on
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  Speaker 2: that motherfucker. It'd be like a young bitch beside me
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  Speaker 2: and I'd be like working her ass.
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  Speaker 1: But you got to build up to a thousand calories.
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  Speaker 1: A thousand calories and an hour on the AMT oh
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  Speaker 1: really yes? And I feel like it's not as bad
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  Speaker 1: on your knees as doing a stair climber, because I
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  Speaker 1: mean it's essentially like walking upstairs a bunch of flights
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  Speaker 1: of stairs.
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  Speaker 2: Oh no, it is, That's exactly what it.
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  Speaker 1: So it's just it doesn't feel like you're doing that
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  Speaker 1: much as a stair climber, but I mean different. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: it's just different movements, like your hands, everything involved.
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  Speaker 2: I gotta try it. I've never been on that one.
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  Speaker 1: It's hard to find them, you know what I'm saying.
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  Speaker 1: I literally want everybody pick a gym. I I'll call
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  Speaker 1: and ask them, like, do y'all have like the amt agment.
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  Speaker 1: We're gonna say, yeah, adoptive motion. It's by pre Corps.
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  Speaker 1: I like that.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, I'm gonna check it out. I don't I go
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  Speaker 2: to planning Fitness. I don't think they got that much.
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  Speaker 1: They probably got something similar to it. Yeah, I'm pretty
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  Speaker 1: sure they got something simular to her. It says the
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  Speaker 1: same motion anyway.
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  Speaker 2: A North Carolina jury has all ordered TikTok influencer Brenne
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  Speaker 2: Kennard to play to pay one point seventy five million
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  Speaker 2: after finding her responsible for the collapse of a Kira
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  Speaker 2: Montacue's marriage, a case only possible in a handful of states.
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  Speaker 2: So Montacues lawsuit, filed in Durham County Superior Court, accused
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  Speaker 2: Canard of alienation of affection and criminal conversation, two legal
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  Speaker 2: claims that allowed spouse to suit someone for wrongly interfering
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  Speaker 2: in their marriage and for adultery. Baby, ain no dick,
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  Speaker 2: I hear we're paying another bitch one point seventy five
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  Speaker 2: million dollars.
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  Speaker 1: And that's fucking crazy. Okay, she actually went to court
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  Speaker 1: and represented herself, that's what she fucked up at. She
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  Speaker 1: probably didn't take that shit serious. I don't know if
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  Speaker 1: she's not from the state of North Carolina, because maybe
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  Speaker 1: if the husband and the wife was from North Carolina,
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  Speaker 1: that's how you can sue in the state of North
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  Speaker 1: Carolina suit that person in the state of North Carolina.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know if it works like that or she's
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  Speaker 1: from North Carolina too. But baby, you don't ever go
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  Speaker 1: to court. I mean, I'm a lawyer without a degree
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  Speaker 1: without it she said.
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  Speaker 2: Man, she might have said that too, shit, and that's
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  Speaker 2: one point seventy five million. Listen, anytime somebody man is
• 14:39
  Speaker 2: in my DMS, I'm gonna send him this.
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  Speaker 1: I'm gonna send him to the court case you got
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  Speaker 1: you got one five cause if you don't, if you
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  Speaker 1: don't have that, you shouldn't be in nobody's DM and
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  Speaker 1: you married first of all, either you're gonna have to
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  Speaker 1: pay the other bitch or you're gonna have to pay
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  Speaker 1: the other bitch. You need to pay her to shut up,
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  Speaker 1: or if your wife sues her, you need to be
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  Speaker 1: able to pay it bill too.
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  Speaker 2: I wonder because she sue the husband now, like for
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  Speaker 2: the money. Oh the side she was looking it for him.
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  Speaker 2: They about to have a baby together.
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  Speaker 1: Oh the girl was up in the course saying she
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  Speaker 1: knew their marriage was already over. Their marriage was, but
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  Speaker 1: they weren't legally divorced, ma'am. Okay, maybe I would have
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  Speaker 1: been there, like he's married. What No, But she was
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  Speaker 1: posted up online with this woman's husband. They had over
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  Speaker 1: seven thousand like what did they say, seven hundred or
• 15:36
  Speaker 1: seven thousand pieces of evidence? Wow, I was out here
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  Speaker 1: recogram cell phone like then you did that? And then
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  Speaker 1: she's sitting up they on the videos together. This is
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  Speaker 1: this woman's husband one point seventy five million. Ain't no
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  Speaker 1: fucking way, y'all.
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  Speaker 2: That's y'all nobody husband, and y'all dial is just I'm
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  Speaker 2: a court case and send it to the SA. It's like,
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  Speaker 2: this is what you're trying to do if you in
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  Speaker 2: the state of North Carolina, honestly, right.
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  Speaker 1: So I thought this is really funny. I saw earlier
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  Speaker 1: how Offset and Finanse two time was going back and
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  Speaker 1: forth with each other. And I mean the content of
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  Speaker 1: the argument, ain't that Like, I don't know what they
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  Speaker 1: really was going back. I don't know. So finessic Times
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  Speaker 1: was like, nigger, you a bitch. You you suing your
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  Speaker 1: baby mama. I'm over here begging my kids, mama to
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  Speaker 1: see my kids, all of you and your and you
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  Speaker 1: you suing your Offset response like, nigga, I'm not arguing
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  Speaker 1: what a bbl I have a bad belt dyke like
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  Speaker 1: what he is? Kicked up? He is, said, I don't know.
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  Speaker 1: I listen that dude got too much hips and asked, man,
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  Speaker 1: he is very hippie. It's the diet. Because while you
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  Speaker 1: got all that ass like his mama.
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  Speaker 2: There is this guy in Charlotte, y'all, and I think
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  Speaker 2: he just would have made me the perfect husband. He's
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  Speaker 2: very successful, he's attractive, but he just had he had
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  Speaker 2: the same bookie as me.
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  Speaker 1: Hey, no way, I can't do this. How you gripping
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  Speaker 1: that ass? Yea? He was so good, he was so
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  Speaker 1: nic His ass was fat as mine.
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  Speaker 2: Like he was standing at my kitchen seek and I
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  Speaker 2: was looking at him I was like, man, he looked
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  Speaker 2: like a bad bitch for behinde I cannot do.
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  Speaker 1: Is he like choky or like just like you just had?
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  Speaker 2: But he was fit, but he just had a big
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  Speaker 2: ass and hips.
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  Speaker 1: I ain't like that. I had to let that go,
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  Speaker 1: all right, held listen.
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  Speaker 2: It is a woman finally met her online boyfriend in
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  Speaker 2: person but never told him she uses a wheelchair and
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  Speaker 2: has no legs.
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  Speaker 1: And it's a video, y'all. He looked up set then
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  Speaker 1: he was so happy. She looks so happy.
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  Speaker 2: She smiled, and he looking like, what the fuck going on?
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  Speaker 1: You gotta get that convenient ass pussy. She ain't got
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  Speaker 1: no legs in a way, it's just all pussy right there,
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  Speaker 1: like he was talking about, I feel like that disclose though, No, absolutely,
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  Speaker 1: I don't know what I would do if I pull up,
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  Speaker 1: if I flew across the country to pull up on
• 18:28
  Speaker 1: a nigga and no legs? Right, but what if he
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  Speaker 1: had a third one? Right, you're gonna get the nigga go?
• 18:36
  Speaker 1: That's not right? Can run? I know if it was
• 18:46
  Speaker 1: nice with a bag, you got disability check. I know
• 18:48
  Speaker 1: at least.
• 18:51
  Speaker 2: No, you know what I don't want to say, like
• 18:54
  Speaker 2: I wouldn't date somebody who has a disability because that
• 18:58
  Speaker 2: because I was diagnosed with him. An, what's somebody you know,
• 19:01
  Speaker 2: I don't want people like, Oh, I don't want to
• 19:02
  Speaker 2: date her because what the potential is was, Yeah, the
• 19:05
  Speaker 2: potential of what could happen, you know.
• 19:08
  Speaker 1: Got a damn mss man. The people misdiagnosed. That's what
• 19:10
  Speaker 1: I feel like.
• 19:11
  Speaker 2: I feel misdiagnosed honestly because I'll be healthy for the
• 19:14
  Speaker 2: most part.
• 19:14
  Speaker 1: And y'all know di these starting to mind, man, I
• 19:17
  Speaker 1: ain't never accept the no shit.
• 19:19
  Speaker 2: I haven't believed this diagnos me and I don't feel it.
• 19:22
  Speaker 2: But so that's why i'd be like, I don't want
• 19:25
  Speaker 2: to just discount somebody for that. But you got to
• 19:29
  Speaker 2: mention you ain't got no legs, man, you can't just
• 19:31
  Speaker 2: leave that out. I remember I had this tender date, y'all,
• 19:37
  Speaker 2: this nigga I made him.
• 19:38
  Speaker 1: At what's that?
• 19:40
  Speaker 2: What's that restaurant? Like, it's an Italian restaurant at South Park.
• 19:45
  Speaker 1: Ma.
• 19:47
  Speaker 2: Giano's brouh. I walked into Ma Gianos. This motherfucker was
• 19:52
  Speaker 2: sitting at the bar and his legs was swinging, y'all.
• 19:55
  Speaker 1: I was like, this nigga short as fucked. That's my
• 19:59
  Speaker 1: type of nigga.
• 20:01
  Speaker 2: No, I'm talking about swinging. And he had to jump
• 20:05
  Speaker 2: down to give me a hug. I was like, Oh,
• 20:07
  Speaker 2: this is the littlest nigga showed you here.
• 20:11
  Speaker 1: Really tripping.
• 20:12
  Speaker 2: No, he was he like he might have been like
• 20:15
  Speaker 2: borderline legal small person.
• 20:18
  Speaker 1: He was like just like, yeah, he had your arms,
• 20:22
  Speaker 1: he had short everything.
• 20:23
  Speaker 2: He was so little. But when I tell y'all had
• 20:25
  Speaker 2: so much fun with him. He was so funny.
• 20:28
  Speaker 1: He ain't got no choice. He was so funny.
• 20:31
  Speaker 2: But yeah, no, that was the last time of song,
• 20:35
  Speaker 2: and he took all his pictures on tender like from
• 20:38
  Speaker 2: the bottom up. I should have knew something was wrong
• 20:40
  Speaker 2: with that because he made hissel like he had height and.
• 20:45
  Speaker 1: He was going, y'all, y'all, y'all niggas getting kind of sneaky.
• 20:48
  Speaker 1: I can seeing you hall think some of y'all heels behes.
• 20:52
  Speaker 1: And he had like a little insert you could put
• 20:54
  Speaker 1: in the sneaker right to give you a couple of inches.
• 20:57
  Speaker 1: I know a few niggas there's there's.
• 21:00
  Speaker 2: A whole surgery to extend the lift of your legs
• 21:03
  Speaker 2: that men have got.
• 21:06
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I've seen that. That is so crazy. Man. I
• 21:10
  Speaker 1: am the owner and CEO of nonprofit. I'm an advocate
• 21:16
  Speaker 1: for short niggas. Okay, I love y'all you nigga now? Man, No,
• 21:22
  Speaker 1: he's like six foot five, look five eleven, but nigga
• 21:27
  Speaker 1: five eleven. That's so like average height for a man.
• 21:32
  Speaker 1: It is like five six five eight nowadays, like for
• 21:35
  Speaker 1: real like super tall people. That is not like the
• 21:38
  Speaker 1: average height for a man. Yeah, it's like over six
• 21:42
  Speaker 1: two that that is not the majority of men, black white, whoever.
• 21:47
  Speaker 1: I agree, I think and under is anyway, y'all. I
• 21:52
  Speaker 1: guess pappoos must have hit the lottery chat because Clarissa Clarissa,
• 21:56
  Speaker 1: she was just signed an eight million dollar deal with
• 22:00
  Speaker 1: Salita Promotions and Win Records, And this is like a
• 22:04
  Speaker 1: historical deal for a female boxer, right graduat mm hmm,
• 22:10
  Speaker 1: so total value at least eight at least eight million
• 22:13
  Speaker 1: over two years from minimum four fights. Signing bonus three
• 22:16
  Speaker 1: million dollars sided bonus is a part of her deal.
• 22:19
  Speaker 1: And then something else got to do with music, and
• 22:21
  Speaker 1: I think that's where Pat Pooss comes in at. But
• 22:23
  Speaker 1: she was celebrating and there's a video on social media
• 22:26
  Speaker 1: right now with Pat Poo's saying I love you to death.
• 22:30
  Speaker 1: He said, let me repeat that. I'm playing on the mic.
• 22:33
  Speaker 1: Let me repeat that, I love you to death?
• 22:37
  Speaker 2: Right, eight million dollars.
• 22:39
  Speaker 1: Yeah, exactly like you my bitch for life. We locked in.
• 22:45
  Speaker 1: I ain't mad. She bad be careful, she bad be careful,
• 22:48
  Speaker 1: but I love you.
• 22:50
  Speaker 2: I like I watched her the movie about her life,
• 22:52
  Speaker 2: and I was just in love with her based on
• 22:54
  Speaker 2: the movie, Like, I was just so proud of her.
• 22:56
  Speaker 2: But some of the stuff, the some of the stuff
• 22:59
  Speaker 2: that she be saying on LI, she just be coming
• 23:01
  Speaker 2: off like a mean girl. And I know, like boxers
• 23:04
  Speaker 2: are supposed to be arrogant and cocky, and that's part
• 23:07
  Speaker 2: of the persona like you gotta be if you a fighter,
• 23:09
  Speaker 2: you know. But sometimes it's just be like, like I
• 23:13
  Speaker 2: didn't like, I don't appreciate her, like how she comes
• 23:16
  Speaker 2: at Leila Ali. Are you supposed to respect her? She
• 23:20
  Speaker 2: is so unproblematic she is. Yeah, and then she she
• 23:24
  Speaker 2: came out with a dissertation about this bitch.
• 23:26
  Speaker 1: Did you see that? I mean she had like receipts
• 23:30
  Speaker 1: for days again. Yeah. Yeah, this bitch is like a
• 23:36
  Speaker 1: fan turn and hater basic. Yeah, that's what Carissa Shields did.
• 23:39
  Speaker 1: I mean, this is you are, this is your senior essentially,
• 23:44
  Speaker 1: like I'm not getting in the ring of give you
• 23:45
  Speaker 1: no money. That's that's basically what lately Laila Ali said,
• 23:48
  Speaker 1: You're not making no money off of me, right with
• 23:51
  Speaker 1: your nasty ass, and I'm not. I don't fight no more.
• 23:54
  Speaker 2: I don't fight. I'm a wife and a mother and
• 23:56
  Speaker 2: that's what I do now, and I prove it myself.
• 23:59
  Speaker 2: I don't have to prove anything to anybody anymore.
• 24:02
  Speaker 1: So girl, yes, especially to Clarissa. Right.
• 24:07
  Speaker 2: So I don't like that, but I'm having her congratulations
• 24:10
  Speaker 2: because from nothing, I'll tell you, like her story, like
• 24:15
  Speaker 2: and how hard she worked to be where she is.
• 24:18
  Speaker 2: I'm proud of her for that because she did work
• 24:19
  Speaker 2: hard and she came from the trenches, y'all. Flint, Michigan.
• 24:24
  Speaker 2: I think it was Flint. Yeah, she struggled.
• 24:30
  Speaker 1: So I don't know. I didn't watch the wass Not documentary,
• 24:34
  Speaker 1: but it's I guess. I guess it's a biopic. Yeah,
• 24:38
  Speaker 1: I didn't. I've never seen it. Yeah, watched your interview
• 24:40
  Speaker 1: in the Breakfast Club, but I didn't watch the movie.
• 24:43
  Speaker 2: It was good, it was good. She's from Flint and
• 24:45
  Speaker 2: she came up in very poverty, very poor situation. And
• 24:50
  Speaker 2: what's that Ryan Destiny played her. She did a good job.
• 24:53
  Speaker 1: Oh yeah, yeah, I saw that. I saw few. All right,
• 24:57
  Speaker 1: y'allso listen, So today we want to talk about self
• 25:00
  Speaker 1: proclaimed nice guy, good guy, nice guy, good guys, right right?
• 25:08
  Speaker 1: The self proclaimed good guy? Is he really? All right?
• 25:15
  Speaker 2: Let's get into it.
• 25:16
  Speaker 1: We'll be right back, all right. So I know y'all,
• 25:23
  Speaker 1: maybe maybe not, but have you guys seen this clip
• 25:28
  Speaker 1: from the TV show, the reality TV show Love Is Blind.
• 25:33
  Speaker 1: I know a lot of y'all watch it. I don't
• 25:34
  Speaker 1: watch TV like that, especially reality TV, but I do
• 25:38
  Speaker 1: remember seeing this particular clip and that shit. I've always
• 25:44
  Speaker 1: been saying this for years, that them self proclaimed good niggas,
• 25:49
  Speaker 1: I'm a good nigga, I'm a good dude. You got
• 25:52
  Speaker 1: to be careful with them. It's certain.
• 25:55
  Speaker 2: It's certain things that I don't like when people self
• 25:58
  Speaker 2: proclaim it, like you need to allow other people to
• 26:01
  Speaker 2: say that about.
• 26:01
  Speaker 1: You exactly, you know, right? So Edmund Harvey and how
• 26:07
  Speaker 1: do you do you watch that show? Is it Calibra?
• 26:09
  Speaker 1: Is that her name? Calibra?
• 26:10
  Speaker 2: KB don't get me the lie I don't watch it,
• 26:13
  Speaker 2: none of I can't just hand none of it. And
• 26:16
  Speaker 2: the crazy party that I tried to be on one
• 26:18
  Speaker 2: of them.
• 26:18
  Speaker 1: Remember, yeah, I would.
• 26:21
  Speaker 2: I auditioned for Love is Blind season nine and I
• 26:23
  Speaker 2: almost made it, but they chose a divergin instead of me.
• 26:27
  Speaker 1: Shame. Yeah. So Calibra KB Haskin and Edmund Harvey. They
• 26:33
  Speaker 1: were on the most recent episode of Love Is Blind
• 26:37
  Speaker 1: season nine, and KB states she has chosen to wait
• 26:42
  Speaker 1: for sex and why and was clear about her boundaries.
• 26:45
  Speaker 1: This is what she's telling her now fiance because y'all
• 26:47
  Speaker 1: know in those TV shows like you don't really meet
• 26:49
  Speaker 1: the person until I guess you choose them, right, is
• 26:52
  Speaker 1: how it works on there. So now they're engaged, right,
• 26:56
  Speaker 1: So she's telling him like she wants to wait until
• 26:59
  Speaker 1: you get actually to get married to have sex. So
• 27:02
  Speaker 1: Edmund becomes upset and starts crying in bed. Okay, and
• 27:08
  Speaker 1: partly because his fiance is choosing a weight and he
• 27:11
  Speaker 1: frames his frustration around feeling like the nice guy who
• 27:16
  Speaker 1: is being taken advantage of. Right, So the whole discussion
• 27:20
  Speaker 1: online is about what is it online? No, it's about
• 27:24
  Speaker 1: it's not even an online discussion, Well.
• 27:26
  Speaker 2: There was one about it. Yeah, yeah, people were talking about.
• 27:31
  Speaker 1: This that that ship was fucking scary to me that
• 27:34
  Speaker 1: he busted out crying like that.
• 27:36
  Speaker 2: Oh yeah, that was manipulation.
• 27:37
  Speaker 1: That is minus. Yes, you are trying to why do
• 27:41
  Speaker 1: you why is why would anybody want pity pussy? Because
• 27:45
  Speaker 1: that's essentially what it would be. But I'm not here.
• 27:48
  Speaker 1: I know who like he like pity pussy? You know
• 27:52
  Speaker 1: him too.
• 27:55
  Speaker 2: Oh he expressed that to me like he don't mind
• 27:58
  Speaker 2: pitty pissy open wi.
• 28:03
  Speaker 1: He told you that name on you pussy is terror, Like,
• 28:11
  Speaker 1: why would you want some man nigga here pussy? Why
• 28:13
  Speaker 1: would you want that? Right? Is that good? No? That
• 28:18
  Speaker 1: is borderline. That's what we be talking about sometimes when
• 28:21
  Speaker 1: you do some shit because you really don't want to
• 28:23
  Speaker 1: do it, and you just hear.
• 28:25
  Speaker 2: Here man, damn, I hear some here a damn pussy.
• 28:30
  Speaker 1: Hey. Yeah, So it's scary to me that he started
• 28:35
  Speaker 1: crying on national television because the woman would't give him
• 28:40
  Speaker 1: no gucci? Are you that sexually frustrated?
• 28:43
  Speaker 2: But then I tried to put myself in a man's shoes,
• 28:46
  Speaker 2: not particularly him, because he seemed like very manipulative, But
• 28:51
  Speaker 2: what if it is not really all you think about
• 28:54
  Speaker 2: the type of man that's going to go on the
• 28:55
  Speaker 2: show like this one?
• 28:57
  Speaker 1: Right, that part.
• 29:01
  Speaker 2: Is a particular type of man that's going to audition
• 29:04
  Speaker 2: to marry a stranger. Right, I think with women women
• 29:10
  Speaker 2: because men give access to marriage, right, not women?
• 29:13
  Speaker 1: So I partially agree with that, Why yeah, because I
• 29:19
  Speaker 1: know that's the whole thing. Like women give access to sex,
• 29:22
  Speaker 1: men give access to marriage. But once you ask a
• 29:24
  Speaker 1: woman to marry you, like, I still got to decide
• 29:26
  Speaker 1: to walk down an island nod, Like I still have
• 29:28
  Speaker 1: a decision in that process, right, So I really don't.
• 29:34
  Speaker 1: I don't believe that anymore, you know what I'm saying.
• 29:38
  Speaker 2: No, I get what you're saying.
• 29:39
  Speaker 1: But people got to execute on the thing one day, right, right.
• 29:43
  Speaker 1: But I just think I hate when I see a
• 29:46
  Speaker 1: woman proposing. I hate it. That's not your person. That
• 29:50
  Speaker 1: man doesn't like you. You cannot a man is going
• 29:53
  Speaker 1: to do exactly what he wants to do, right, And
• 29:56
  Speaker 1: you don't want a man who does some shit because
• 29:58
  Speaker 1: you've harassed the men to do. You don't want that. Ultimately,
• 30:02
  Speaker 1: he doesn't want to be in that relationship and he's
• 30:03
  Speaker 1: just hey, man, hit a ring. You don't want no
• 30:06
  Speaker 1: type that type of ship, right, But I tried to
• 30:09
  Speaker 1: throw yeah, period settling.
• 30:12
  Speaker 2: Never if I wish I would see a bitch down
• 30:15
  Speaker 2: on one knee, I'm like accidentally accidental.
• 30:20
  Speaker 1: Oh I'm sorry, get up and rob them. I'm gonna
• 30:25
  Speaker 1: snatch the ring and run. Okay.
• 30:30
  Speaker 2: I try to think about a really a nice guy,
• 30:33
  Speaker 2: right who just never get no pussy. That could be
• 30:36
  Speaker 2: very frustrating, like because for whatever reason he just can't
• 30:41
  Speaker 2: close he can't close the deal.
• 30:46
  Speaker 1: Everybody, You're not supposed to get pussy.
• 30:47
  Speaker 2: That's the that's that's what.
• 30:49
  Speaker 1: The world has fucked up. Right, And I know I've
• 30:51
  Speaker 1: said this before. If we were in the wild as animals,
• 30:55
  Speaker 1: if women really like measured the things that are required
• 31:02
  Speaker 1: to have a family, right, because that is an ultimate
• 31:04
  Speaker 1: goal when you're when you are procreating and dating and
• 31:07
  Speaker 1: all that stuff just take away like laws and religion.
• 31:10
  Speaker 1: Just we looking like we animals. Right, It's a lot
• 31:13
  Speaker 1: of is that would die having never had sex, just
• 31:15
  Speaker 1: like animals do. Not even gets cooch, you know what
• 31:18
  Speaker 1: I'm saying. So it is natural selection essentially that you're
• 31:23
  Speaker 1: gonna die because nobody sees you as a suitable mate.
• 31:27
  Speaker 1: It's just and it could happen to women also. I'm
• 31:29
  Speaker 1: not saying that, but women look at other things like
• 31:32
  Speaker 1: men look at the physical. Right. A lot of times
• 31:34
  Speaker 1: women we the ship that we like and men like
• 31:37
  Speaker 1: it's sometimes it's not it's not physical physical, it's like
• 31:40
  Speaker 1: some genesi qua you know what I'm saying. It's the
• 31:43
  Speaker 1: aura of the man like that, just that.
• 31:47
  Speaker 2: Masculine, like Likew's elbow. I don't think Elbow was like
• 31:54
  Speaker 2: the finest in the face, like he's very handsome, don't
• 31:56
  Speaker 2: get me wrong, but it was that viril manness out
• 32:00
  Speaker 2: him that Jonathan Major's had, that masculin that was just like, WHOA,
• 32:05
  Speaker 2: take me down.
• 32:06
  Speaker 1: I've been crying a little bit too lately now I've
• 32:08
  Speaker 1: been took them off my vision board. Yeah, I said,
• 32:12
  Speaker 1: I shivered that white woman out. Oh yeah.
• 32:14
  Speaker 2: After I see her chasing him down the street, I
• 32:16
  Speaker 2: was like, oh no.
• 32:18
  Speaker 1: He better run girl ship. He was running for his
• 32:20
  Speaker 1: life literally.
• 32:21
  Speaker 2: Yeah, but still got fucked up. But that just kind
• 32:24
  Speaker 2: of turned me off. But yeah, yeah, but when you
• 32:31
  Speaker 2: feel sorry for a man like that, though, I feel
• 32:33
  Speaker 2: sad for them, like they just clo okay.
• 32:36
  Speaker 1: Because oftentimes those men they can get pussy, they just
• 32:40
  Speaker 1: can't get the pussy from the women that they think
• 32:42
  Speaker 1: they should get the pussy from. Right, So that's when
• 32:45
  Speaker 1: I see, like perfect example, because we haven't talked about this,
• 32:48
  Speaker 1: that the hate that you got online on Good Mom's
• 32:52
  Speaker 1: Bad Choices podcast, just because you're choosing to let this
• 32:56
  Speaker 1: why in waste your fucking time instead it is supposed
• 33:00
  Speaker 1: these nice those are the good guys that were talking crazy.
• 33:03
  Speaker 2: Oh they were so mad if after some point because
• 33:09
  Speaker 2: it was like the anger that I received from men
• 33:14
  Speaker 2: shot stranger m hm shocked me so bad.
• 33:17
  Speaker 1: Because why are y'all so mad at this? They don't
• 33:20
  Speaker 1: have nothing to do with you because you have a choice.
• 33:24
  Speaker 1: Your choice was to let this y in play in
• 33:27
  Speaker 1: your face and not them.
• 33:31
  Speaker 2: And they were big married. No I'm talking how dare
• 33:33
  Speaker 2: you big mad?
• 33:35
  Speaker 1: How dare you not give me a chance over here
• 33:37
  Speaker 1: some nigga I don't know, to play in my face?
• 33:39
  Speaker 1: That is why they're upset. They men get mad because
• 33:43
  Speaker 1: they can't have access to the pussy they think they
• 33:45
  Speaker 1: should have access to. That's it, right, why that's where
• 33:50
  Speaker 1: that hate is stemming from.
• 33:51
  Speaker 2: Because if I was sitting there unattractive, and they wouldn't
• 33:56
  Speaker 2: even comment.
• 33:56
  Speaker 1: They wouldn't care it, just like they scroll past. Get
• 34:00
  Speaker 1: what you're supposed to, what you're getting.
• 34:02
  Speaker 2: Yeah, but they I'm talking about they tried to eat
• 34:04
  Speaker 2: me up and I was cussing the niggas out to Oh.
• 34:07
  Speaker 1: I had fun with it for a little while, but
• 34:08
  Speaker 1: then it was like, all right, Well I finally went
• 34:11
  Speaker 1: and looked on it. I'm like, yo, what the fuck
• 34:13
  Speaker 1: is happening? Those are clearly in sales. Real men are
• 34:18
  Speaker 1: not in those. And this is why y'all not getting
• 34:20
  Speaker 1: kucci because real men are not in the comments attacking
• 34:24
  Speaker 1: women like that. They're fucking them right, Okay, eve been
• 34:27
  Speaker 1: fucking them since high school. So really y'all need to
• 34:30
  Speaker 1: go like they do need a Kevin Samuel's type nigga
• 34:33
  Speaker 1: back right, because once Kevin Samue's first came out, his
• 34:36
  Speaker 1: thing was more geared towards men and image and getting there.
• 34:40
  Speaker 1: What is it? A sex value up and all this things? Like,
• 34:43
  Speaker 1: there's a lot of things. It's just some some men
• 34:45
  Speaker 1: can wake up and get new box. Not all men
• 34:47
  Speaker 1: can do that. So you have men who get money,
• 34:50
  Speaker 1: because money gives you instant swag. You add money for
• 34:54
  Speaker 1: instant swag, right, but swag is the ability to bag
• 34:57
  Speaker 1: bitches when no money, right, Okay, just some niggas got
• 35:01
  Speaker 1: it and some don't.
• 35:03
  Speaker 2: Oh I would listen they say they little nasty comment
• 35:05
  Speaker 2: under the comments, and baby, I will go to their
• 35:07
  Speaker 2: page and comment under the picture.
• 35:11
  Speaker 4: Oh and eat them up. Baby, I know you ain't
• 35:16
  Speaker 4: fucking talking shit to me. Look at you, you cling
• 35:19
  Speaker 4: in on them. Oh yes, it was fun.
• 35:23
  Speaker 1: But we had those guys would really think that they're
• 35:26
  Speaker 1: good guys. And you are now allowing a yian to
• 35:30
  Speaker 1: play with you instead of dating one of dating one
• 35:32
  Speaker 1: of us because we're good, which you're really not. You're
• 35:36
  Speaker 1: really not good. And then the thing is is that
• 35:40
  Speaker 1: let me tell you if you're good, right, I by
• 35:42
  Speaker 1: you just telling me, oh, I'm a good guy, and
• 35:45
  Speaker 1: then we actually get into a relationship or whatever, and
• 35:50
  Speaker 1: you spawn from the fucking devil A lot of them,
• 35:55
  Speaker 1: a lot of them. So let me talk to your ex,
• 35:59
  Speaker 1: Let me talk to your first baby mama. Right, No,
• 36:02
  Speaker 1: if you're a nice guy or not.
• 36:04
  Speaker 2: The last self proclaimed nice guy that I was dating,
• 36:08
  Speaker 2: and I was just like, oh, this is gonna be
• 36:10
  Speaker 2: my husband.
• 36:10
  Speaker 1: He's so nice, he's so sweet. He's that.
• 36:13
  Speaker 2: Nigga was all married to a traveling nurse and she
• 36:16
  Speaker 2: was out of town and she was about to come home.
• 36:18
  Speaker 2: He ghosted me after like three months. I like my
• 36:21
  Speaker 2: intuition was on gee because I just would never give
• 36:26
  Speaker 2: him no buns. I just wouldn't take it there. And
• 36:29
  Speaker 2: then right before I did, I like said something that
• 36:34
  Speaker 2: I made him develop a conscious and he just kind
• 36:36
  Speaker 2: of just I don't even know if that's what really
• 36:38
  Speaker 2: happened or the baby. The wife was coming back from
• 36:41
  Speaker 2: wherever she was traveling to, but he ghosted me.
• 36:44
  Speaker 1: I realized he couldn't play with you like that, and
• 36:45
  Speaker 1: he just cut a short. Some people just like to
• 36:47
  Speaker 1: frighten us, you know what I'm saying. They're not really
• 36:50
  Speaker 1: actually gonna ever do the things. They just want to
• 36:52
  Speaker 1: feel like they can. People who in relationships sometimes you
• 36:56
  Speaker 1: just want to feel like they still got it a
• 36:59
  Speaker 1: little bit will actually be out here cheating certain whole
• 37:02
  Speaker 1: relationships with other women and other men.
• 37:06
  Speaker 2: And I'm talking about this. Nigga was like, I'm ready
• 37:08
  Speaker 2: for I'm ready for a wife. You ready for a wife?
• 37:11
  Speaker 1: Tripping? Oh No, he's a liar. He was the worst liar,
• 37:17
  Speaker 1: and he probably you probably said some shit that made
• 37:19
  Speaker 1: him think that, man, she's gonna be a problem. Just bit,
• 37:22
  Speaker 1: you gonna come to my house, This is you gonna
• 37:24
  Speaker 1: call my wife?
• 37:25
  Speaker 2: This vin whole motherfucking shit out. Please, you got free
• 37:29
  Speaker 2: with me. I remember as you And before he goes
• 37:32
  Speaker 2: to me, I remember thanking him for being a good
• 37:34
  Speaker 2: person and telling him how I meet so many men
• 37:37
  Speaker 2: who try to manipulate and take advantage, and I just
• 37:40
  Speaker 2: want to thank you for like being so good. That's
• 37:44
  Speaker 2: the last time I saw this motherfucker.
• 37:47
  Speaker 1: But that was good of him to disappear, right but right,
• 37:52
  Speaker 1: It was good of him.
• 37:52
  Speaker 2: But then he came back and told me the truth.
• 37:54
  Speaker 2: Like maybe two months later, he sent me a message
• 37:57
  Speaker 2: saying like, I just you know, I didn't know that
• 37:59
  Speaker 2: you were how you are, and I just didn't feel
• 38:03
  Speaker 2: like I didn't want to do you like that. You were,
• 38:05
  Speaker 2: you are a good woman. I just didn't want to
• 38:07
  Speaker 2: do you like that. And I'm married, and and I
• 38:11
  Speaker 2: guess he thought, because I'm listening, I'm sweet as poet
• 38:14
  Speaker 2: to I ain't. So he thought I was gonna respond like, well,
• 38:17
  Speaker 2: thank you for telling me the truth. I was like, bitch,
• 38:20
  Speaker 2: I'll spit in your face if I see you. That's
• 38:22
  Speaker 2: what I told.
• 38:28
  Speaker 1: Yeah, because what he thought, he didn't think he was
• 38:30
  Speaker 1: was gonna have to drag that ship up for three
• 38:32
  Speaker 1: fucking months. He thought he was going to smash your
• 38:34
  Speaker 1: ass for the first couple of fucking weeks, That's what happened,
• 38:38
  Speaker 1: and he realized that I wasn't going nowhere and he
• 38:40
  Speaker 1: gonna really have to put some work in. I bitch,
• 38:43
  Speaker 1: A'm married or just is playing? I was just playing.
• 38:45
  Speaker 1: I'll get right back right. I hate you, motherfucker. So
• 38:51
  Speaker 1: I believe we've all dated that good guys. Me. I'm
• 38:55
  Speaker 1: trying to think if I ever so, I feel like
• 38:57
  Speaker 1: all of them, all everybody who have ever done Okay,
• 39:00
  Speaker 1: I can say like, right now, I'm actually dating a
• 39:04
  Speaker 1: good guy. This is probably the only good guy that
• 39:11
  Speaker 1: I have chosen. I'll say that, right, Because we run
• 39:14
  Speaker 1: into people and we may not like them for whatever reason, right,
• 39:18
  Speaker 1: and you you think back, like, damn, he might have
• 39:21
  Speaker 1: been good for me, but for whatever reason, you just
• 39:23
  Speaker 1: didn't feel them.
• 39:24
  Speaker 2: Was it feeling him like that, that big ass boy?
• 39:31
  Speaker 1: So that happens too, maybe weeks. Sometimes women, as women,
• 39:34
  Speaker 1: we overlook the good guys, right because you're you're wrapped
• 39:38
  Speaker 1: up with this damn demon demon dick. You can't even
• 39:42
  Speaker 1: see the good guy in front of you. That happens too.
• 39:46
  Speaker 2: I met another guy that was a really, really good guy,
• 39:48
  Speaker 2: no kids, never been married, very successful looking forward that
• 39:52
  Speaker 2: and we had a good thing. But I just did
• 39:55
  Speaker 2: not like the fact that he didn't have any black friends.
• 40:05
  Speaker 1: Like where did he grow up?
• 40:08
  Speaker 2: And that was his thing. He was like, you know,
• 40:09
  Speaker 2: I've grown up in upper suburbia and this is the
• 40:15
  Speaker 2: people I was around my whole life. I went to
• 40:17
  Speaker 2: this is the people I went to school with. This
• 40:19
  Speaker 2: is this is always been. I was like, I'm twelve
• 40:22
  Speaker 2: years old. What I'm supposed to do, Like I'm hanging
• 40:24
  Speaker 2: out with the people I go to school with. I
• 40:27
  Speaker 2: hang out with.
• 40:27
  Speaker 1: He went to like predominantly white colleges too, Like.
• 40:32
  Speaker 2: He's just matriculated through white spaces his entire life.
• 40:36
  Speaker 1: And had he only dated white girls? Were you going
• 40:41
  Speaker 1: to be his first black? No?
• 40:43
  Speaker 2: I wasn't his first black, but he did have like
• 40:47
  Speaker 2: like the last girlfriend was white. Well, he was like
• 40:52
  Speaker 2: she was Argentina.
• 40:54
  Speaker 1: What this Hispanic and white? Hispanic? I just said Argentinan.
• 41:03
  Speaker 1: What all right?
• 41:05
  Speaker 2: So that's not white? Okay, I mean to be she
• 41:11
  Speaker 2: look white, but y'all, don't be bad. I'm not being racist.
• 41:13
  Speaker 1: She just look white to me. But okay, yeah, I
• 41:16
  Speaker 1: mean a lot of the Spaniards are fair complexed for sure.
• 41:20
  Speaker 1: So if she's from Argentina.
• 41:21
  Speaker 2: I don't just say that she was not a black woman.
• 41:23
  Speaker 2: I'll say that she was not black.
• 41:26
  Speaker 1: Yeah. So and then I'm a real nigga. You know
• 41:30
  Speaker 1: what I'm saying. I'm like, what do you like? You
• 41:32
  Speaker 1: like me?
• 41:33
  Speaker 2: Because I'm not what you're used to baby, you know,
• 41:36
  Speaker 2: like so I don't know, but not and that kind
• 41:39
  Speaker 2: of like.
• 41:41
  Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, like what did he talk
• 41:44
  Speaker 1: like a white man? Was he like? Was he stuffy?
• 41:51
  Speaker 1: All right? So y'all, so there are I mean, maybe
• 41:54
  Speaker 1: we can go over like the a few types of
• 41:56
  Speaker 1: like self proclaimed good guy okay, types of people I
• 42:02
  Speaker 1: don't know, all right. So I think one of the
• 42:07
  Speaker 1: major things is like good guys they want like major
• 42:10
  Speaker 1: reward for minute small bullshit. Right, So just because you
• 42:19
  Speaker 1: open doors for people, you think I'm supposed to suck
• 42:24
  Speaker 1: you dick, right, you know what I'm saying. And They
• 42:28
  Speaker 1: kind of think that chivalry equals moral superiority, and it doesn't. Okay,
• 42:35
  Speaker 1: There's a whole lot of other things that goes into
• 42:37
  Speaker 1: actually being a good guy, good human. One of my
• 42:41
  Speaker 1: homegirls is married, and when she picked her current partner,
• 42:48
  Speaker 1: she said that she basically, you know, because of her
• 42:53
  Speaker 1: how terrible her her previous relationship was. She basically just
• 42:58
  Speaker 1: was looking for somebody who did not exempt by those
• 43:00
  Speaker 1: particular qualities. She find about all the other shit. And
• 43:03
  Speaker 1: I think that's why wating is so important, right because
• 43:06
  Speaker 1: you have you actually need like a collection. You need
• 43:10
  Speaker 1: to experience a few people to actually know that you
• 43:12
  Speaker 1: like and don't like in your boundaries, you know what
• 43:15
  Speaker 1: I'm saying, Because like say, for instance, like this guy
• 43:17
  Speaker 1: beats you, right, so you go get the next guy
• 43:21
  Speaker 1: who just doesn't beat you, but he still be crazy
• 43:24
  Speaker 1: and he don't work.
• 43:25
  Speaker 3: Or.
• 43:27
  Speaker 1: Or some shit like you know what I'm saying. So
• 43:29
  Speaker 1: it's it's always there's more. It's there's always different things.
• 43:34
  Speaker 1: It's more shit, okay. And in order for you to
• 43:37
  Speaker 1: know what your your likes or dislikes are, you kind
• 43:40
  Speaker 1: of got experience different people. You kind of have to
• 43:43
  Speaker 1: go through it to know you don't fuck with that,
• 43:45
  Speaker 1: or at least you know. I think I'm the time
• 43:47
  Speaker 1: that kind of can learn from other people's experiences, Like
• 43:50
  Speaker 1: I ain't fuck with that. So that's like one of
• 43:52
  Speaker 1: the things I put on my list. Yeah, like I'm
• 43:57
  Speaker 1: looking for a man that has this thing or does
• 44:00
  Speaker 1: not do this right.
• 44:02
  Speaker 2: So you kind of got What about the nice guy narcissist?
• 44:05
  Speaker 2: He uses nicest niceness as a pr campaign, melts down,
• 44:10
  Speaker 2: will reject it, and feels that women are unfair for
• 44:13
  Speaker 2: not choosing him. That's that guy from the show.
• 44:17
  Speaker 1: All day long. That so that is narcissistic behavior, like crying,
• 44:23
  Speaker 1: trying to manipulate her emotionally to get some couchie. It's
• 44:27
  Speaker 1: fucking crazy. But you better take this hand job of
• 44:30
  Speaker 1: these kisses and be done with it. I'm not gonna lie.
• 44:35
  Speaker 1: I I probably would have snatched him. You about to
• 44:39
  Speaker 1: get married, like I need to see what the dick
• 44:41
  Speaker 1: is like before we get married. Like I don't really
• 44:44
  Speaker 1: want to get married and then see what the dick
• 44:46
  Speaker 1: is like. That's why I don't agree with like people
• 44:48
  Speaker 1: not living together before like I even know how you went.
• 44:53
  Speaker 1: I need to know.
• 44:54
  Speaker 2: I probably wouldn't have fucked the master.
• 44:55
  Speaker 1: That yeah, that should open after after him crying that
• 45:02
  Speaker 1: it's overwet. You can't even stand the pressure of no kuchie, like,
• 45:07
  Speaker 1: what's going to happen right and you crying about some boosy. Yeah,
• 45:13
  Speaker 1: that ship is scared the funk out of me. They didn't.
• 45:16
  Speaker 2: They end up not getting married, but.
• 45:18
  Speaker 1: She really tried.
• 45:19
  Speaker 2: I felt bad because it seemed like she was trying
• 45:22
  Speaker 2: her based on what I saw. You know, I didn't
• 45:23
  Speaker 2: watch the show, but based on the clips I saw,
• 45:26
  Speaker 2: it seemed like she was just, you know, very open
• 45:28
  Speaker 2: minded and really wanted a husband because she was going
• 45:34
  Speaker 2: for the ship. That I would be like, nigga, is
• 45:36
  Speaker 2: you crying right now?
• 45:37
  Speaker 1: I know you fucking like you would popped him. I
• 45:43
  Speaker 1: would have popped him. This is why I always say adults,
• 45:46
  Speaker 1: you would not hitting that man because he needed it.
• 45:50
  Speaker 1: He needed to get a pop pop. I would giving
• 45:53
  Speaker 1: yourself to cry about, to ask exactly you want you
• 45:58
  Speaker 1: don't want this? That's how I would have done it
• 46:01
  Speaker 1: with my hand, just like you want this. I would
• 46:03
  Speaker 1: have got a belt. You cannot be getting no belt
• 46:07
  Speaker 1: and no grown man. If you don't stop on crying,
• 46:13
  Speaker 1: I'm gonna give you something to cry about. Yes, he
• 46:16
  Speaker 1: needed as ask what the martyr? Good guy? I treat
• 46:20
  Speaker 1: women right and still get hurt, always a victim in
• 46:24
  Speaker 1: every story, never accountable. Always it's a bunch of trauma. Right.
• 46:29
  Speaker 1: So I do know I have some guy friends who
• 46:33
  Speaker 1: I feel like like they all these stories that sound
• 46:35
  Speaker 1: like a scorn black woman. I do have some guy
• 46:44
  Speaker 1: friends like, like, God, you ain't have no good experiences women? Ever,
• 46:51
  Speaker 1: what are you? How are you doing your niggas broke picker. Yeah,
• 46:59
  Speaker 1: like so, I don't know. I need to see your
• 47:02
  Speaker 1: your first if you got kids, I need to talk
• 47:03
  Speaker 1: to your first being mama. And I need to talk
• 47:06
  Speaker 1: to your mama. Okay, I need to see how you
• 47:09
  Speaker 1: be treating your mama. If your mama tell me you good,
• 47:12
  Speaker 1: then you might be good.
• 47:14
  Speaker 2: I'm not like these other dudes. Guy, you are indeed
• 47:19
  Speaker 2: like these other niggas. You're just like them. Anytime somebody
• 47:24
  Speaker 2: say that they typically are one of them, niggas, just
• 47:27
  Speaker 2: like all the rest of them.
• 47:32
  Speaker 1: I mean, a god might say the same thing about
• 47:35
  Speaker 1: a woman. Because I like to think that I'm not
• 47:37
  Speaker 1: like all other women.
• 47:39
  Speaker 2: I like, I tell niggas, I'm just like the rest
• 47:41
  Speaker 2: of them. I want some money too. The fuck you're
• 47:43
  Speaker 2: talking about?
• 47:43
  Speaker 1: Like, no, no, that part. Yeah, Like I don't.
• 47:48
  Speaker 2: Think you could come over here and don't do nothing.
• 47:51
  Speaker 2: I just like these bitches, don't get it twisted. You're
• 47:55
  Speaker 2: gonna make you have to make me feel special, right,
• 48:01
  Speaker 2: So no.
• 48:07
  Speaker 1: Oil or okay? So why do self proclaim good guy?
• 48:11
  Speaker 1: Why are self proclaimed good guy so dangerous? I think
• 48:16
  Speaker 1: the self proclaimed good guy. Oh, I got another friend
• 48:19
  Speaker 1: who was dating a self proclaimed good guy. And this guy,
• 48:22
  Speaker 1: like everybody knew him in the city, you know what
• 48:25
  Speaker 1: I'm saying. Like he was actually a trainer, right, so
• 48:29
  Speaker 1: a lot of girlies was working out with him. He
• 48:31
  Speaker 1: started like with the outside workouts first and then he
• 48:33
  Speaker 1: eventually was in a gym working out highlow here in Charleston.
• 48:37
  Speaker 1: And he's been in jail right now since, Yeah, for
• 48:43
  Speaker 1: abusing my friends. Yes, and this imagine me right, you
• 48:49
  Speaker 1: know me right, So imagine you know the type of
• 48:51
  Speaker 1: shit I don't been through in relationships, But imagine me
• 48:54
  Speaker 1: right now with somebody who putting a hand on me. Yes,
• 48:58
  Speaker 1: he'd be like shocked. I was shocked that she was
• 49:02
  Speaker 1: experiencing that. And this is a self proclaimed good guy
• 49:06
  Speaker 1: when they first met. But how she explained it is that,
• 49:09
  Speaker 1: you know, his abuse started like small, gradually, like passionate
• 49:15
  Speaker 1: kissing while choking you in the wall, Right, I like them. Right.
• 49:18
  Speaker 1: You might think that's like you like it until it
• 49:21
  Speaker 1: comes with a punch next in the next couple of months, right,
• 49:24
  Speaker 1: So it just gradually escalates. They basically condition you for
• 49:29
  Speaker 1: the asshole. I like a little choke, but no ever
• 49:32
  Speaker 1: punch slowly happens. Yeah, I love a little choke. Okay,
• 49:37
  Speaker 1: I only like to get bullied in the bedroom. Now
• 49:40
  Speaker 1: you started bullying we in Walmart, in public, right in
• 49:44
  Speaker 1: the car. It's a problem, like we out at an
• 49:49
  Speaker 1: event or something like that, and you're trying to punk me.
• 49:52
  Speaker 1: Like I love a bedroom bully, but not nowhere else. Yes, yeah,
• 50:00
  Speaker 1: so yeah, he started off as a nice guy, nice kid.
• 50:05
  Speaker 1: You beat your ass up.
• 50:08
  Speaker 2: And then nobody know, the world's still out here thinking
• 50:10
  Speaker 2: he a nice guy. Meanwhile he's abusive.
• 50:16
  Speaker 1: Right, another one of my friends, I hope these bitches
• 50:19
  Speaker 1: don't listen. They're like this girl, nobody knows, y'all.
• 50:22
  Speaker 4: Like another one not like that, right, they know what
• 50:28
  Speaker 4: the hell I mean.
• 50:29
  Speaker 1: But another one of my friends, her her guy always
• 50:34
  Speaker 1: compares himself as a problem X because he knows the
• 50:39
  Speaker 1: treatment that she received from him. Right, So it's almost like,
• 50:44
  Speaker 1: while lisain doing this to you, like like you're like
• 50:47
  Speaker 1: basically like your baby daddy ain't a ship just a
• 50:50
  Speaker 1: little bit better, this much better than him, So need
• 50:53
  Speaker 1: to be grateful. That's type shit. And you know what
• 50:56
  Speaker 1: I told her. I said, bitch, you can do as
• 51:00
  Speaker 1: But that's.
• 51:00
  Speaker 2: Why I tell y'all, never tell the current nigga that
• 51:03
  Speaker 2: the last nigga treated you bad. Always, yeah, always, because
• 51:10
  Speaker 2: you gonna have you set in the standard for how
• 51:12
  Speaker 2: this nigga think you should be treated, honestly.
• 51:15
  Speaker 1: So, and it's I think it's it might just be subconscious.
• 51:21
  Speaker 1: I don't think that the next man intentionally does it,
• 51:24
  Speaker 1: but I do think it's like a subconscious thing where
• 51:27
  Speaker 1: she can take it. She don't been through the ship before.
• 51:31
  Speaker 1: And I know I'm an oversharer. We got a whole
• 51:33
  Speaker 1: podcast where we oversharing bullshit. So I know that I
• 51:37
  Speaker 1: have definitely spoken at nauseum with a new partner about
• 51:41
  Speaker 1: shit that I've been through with somebody else. And I
• 51:43
  Speaker 1: just feel like I want to be able to do that, right.
• 51:47
  Speaker 1: I don't want it held against me. I don't want
• 51:49
  Speaker 1: you to subconsciously be mistreating me because somebody else did it, right,
• 51:55
  Speaker 1: But you just you really just can't tell men everything
• 51:58
  Speaker 1: about you. That's just it. And if you're gonna tell
• 52:00
  Speaker 1: them anything, everything is positive. And your baby daddy's actually dead,
• 52:05
  Speaker 1: he does not live twenty No, don't say that a
• 52:11
  Speaker 1: one is better than a baby mama. And in these niggas, okay,
• 52:16
  Speaker 1: but then your kid got to seek like your kids
• 52:19
  Speaker 1: still gotta see his daddy, like her daddy. I'm saying,
• 52:23
  Speaker 1: if your kid ever sees the dad, why would you
• 52:27
  Speaker 1: say that I have a child for this man who
• 52:29
  Speaker 1: hasn't seen his son in five years? Why would you
• 52:31
  Speaker 1: tell a new man now his dad died.
• 52:35
  Speaker 2: Girl, y'all, y'all listen to if y'all want to, because
• 52:39
  Speaker 2: officially this nigga might come around. And then now your boy,
• 52:42
  Speaker 2: your husband, new husband or boyfriend gonna be like you
• 52:45
  Speaker 2: told me, he was dead.
• 52:49
  Speaker 1: By that time, his kid gonna have this man last
• 52:51
  Speaker 1: name who is that he faked his death, y'all go,
• 52:58
  Speaker 1: he faked.
• 52:59
  Speaker 2: Don't be telling these lies. First of all, you have
• 53:06
  Speaker 2: to come up with all kind of aside lines to
• 53:08
  Speaker 2: keep up with that shit.
• 53:10
  Speaker 1: No, don't do that. Yeah, like everything, you know, we
• 53:15
  Speaker 1: just didn't work out. He was a great guy, you know,
• 53:18
  Speaker 1: everything was good. It just didn't work out. This is
• 53:20
  Speaker 1: how you should actually tell the next or don't ever
• 53:23
  Speaker 1: tell somebody that you've just mistreated. I agree, made that
• 53:26
  Speaker 1: mistake for sure. Yeah. Entitlement disguise is kindness. They expect
• 53:33
  Speaker 1: return on emotional investment. Acts of service is super transactional.
• 53:38
  Speaker 1: So how does that work for Christmas? The good guys
• 53:42
  Speaker 1: probably expect you to spend the exact same amount of
• 53:45
  Speaker 1: money that he spent on you. At that point, we
• 53:48
  Speaker 1: might write our own fucking gifts. I agree.
• 53:54
  Speaker 2: I mean I do think, like I don't mind tricking
• 53:57
  Speaker 2: off all my guys, but I just want you to
• 54:00
  Speaker 2: trick bigger, that's all.
• 54:04
  Speaker 1: Damn. I know a lot of people in relationships will
• 54:07
  Speaker 1: have situations with nice guys. Like another one of my
• 54:11
  Speaker 1: friends had a baby with a very nice guy. The
• 54:14
  Speaker 1: whole community thinks he's a nice guy. But how he
• 54:18
  Speaker 1: mishandled her her pregnancy, all these things. He's not a
• 54:22
  Speaker 1: good person whatsoever. And everybody thinks he's a good guy.
• 54:29
  Speaker 1: You know what, I'm saying like you can't. You're not
• 54:32
  Speaker 1: gonna find only the people who have experienced him. I
• 54:35
  Speaker 1: think like maybe like his ex wife or something like that,
• 54:37
  Speaker 1: and then now my homegirl haven't had a child with him.
• 54:43
  Speaker 1: Those are probably the only people who have experienced him
• 54:45
  Speaker 1: in that way that will have a different story because
• 54:48
  Speaker 1: he's different people outside of relationships. He's different in a
• 54:53
  Speaker 1: public life.
• 54:54
  Speaker 2: Because many like you'll find like men who are like saying,
• 54:57
  Speaker 2: exceptional fathers, but just terrible partners. So they're like, oh,
• 55:02
  Speaker 2: he he's a good dad, he's a good guy, but
• 55:05
  Speaker 2: as a partner he's abusive.
• 55:09
  Speaker 1: You know, yeah, that's not a good guy. You know
• 55:12
  Speaker 1: what I'm saying. I think that we oftentimes give people
• 55:15
  Speaker 1: passes based on shit. Maybe you did experience worse than
• 55:19
  Speaker 1: in other relationships, so now this person getting the past
• 55:22
  Speaker 1: because he's tiny bit better. These are still none of
• 55:25
  Speaker 1: these people are good people. I just feel like, like
• 55:29
  Speaker 1: you really you treat people how you want to be treated.
• 55:33
  Speaker 1: That the ship that women allow men to do, men
• 55:36
  Speaker 1: will never allow it to happen to them. Your ass
• 55:39
  Speaker 1: would be ic the first time they say the ship,
• 55:41
  Speaker 1: they don't fucking like or you do some sideway shit,
• 55:43
  Speaker 1: you cheat on them. I don't know. Bitches be having men,
• 55:46
  Speaker 1: that's stealing from them.
• 55:48
  Speaker 2: Shit going on with your baby mama behind your bag and.
• 55:58
  Speaker 1: Right, yeah, you let you go on vacation with your
• 56:00
  Speaker 1: baby daddy. Nigga's not what.
• 56:04
  Speaker 2: What it's right?
• 56:05
  Speaker 1: That is unheard of. So why so now, that's how
• 56:08
  Speaker 1: you got to look at things right as a woman,
• 56:12
  Speaker 1: that's how you have to look at it. If if
• 56:14
  Speaker 1: this were you. I remember my ex, the one who
• 56:16
  Speaker 1: was in who did time, and he he had a
• 56:20
  Speaker 1: baby right out here, and I asked him. I was like,
• 56:24
  Speaker 1: so if I if I were to have a baby
• 56:27
  Speaker 1: and not with the guy, like, by the time you
• 56:29
  Speaker 1: come home, we're gonna so be together. That nigga straight
• 56:32
  Speaker 1: up told me no. Niggas said it was my choice
• 56:34
  Speaker 1: that I stayed with him. Absolutely right, You are absolutely right,
• 56:41
  Speaker 1: And from that point, the bitch got a ghost. I
• 56:44
  Speaker 1: was intentionally looking for a new relationship because what it's
• 56:48
  Speaker 1: the truth. Though, you know, you can't expect you exactly
• 56:51
  Speaker 1: out of somebody else. Everybody ain't going for it, so
• 56:54
  Speaker 1: why are you for it? That's why I heard it that.
• 56:58
  Speaker 2: That's why I didn't take that ain't on the trip,
• 57:01
  Speaker 2: but I was sad the whole trip. Oh goodness, all right,
• 57:08
  Speaker 2: how do I identify a genuinely good man?
• 57:12
  Speaker 1: All right?
• 57:13
  Speaker 2: So actions not adjectives. He shows you his values consistently,
• 57:18
  Speaker 2: not just says them, because niggas will like say I'm
• 57:22
  Speaker 2: gonna do this, and I talk to the lady and
• 57:24
  Speaker 2: I'm chad like, and they'll just talk your head off
• 57:26
  Speaker 2: and say all the right things, but the action is
• 57:28
  Speaker 2: never alie mm hm hm.
• 57:33
  Speaker 1: Next one is accountability is sexy. He apologizes with specificity. Whatsficity?
• 57:46
  Speaker 1: He apologizes with specificity and change. You know how I
• 57:51
  Speaker 1: always be saying I'm not into holding other people accountable, right,
• 57:54
  Speaker 1: everybody should hold themselves accountable. What I've realized lately is
• 57:58
  Speaker 1: that people think accountability is you agreeing with them, and
• 58:04
  Speaker 1: that's not what accountability is. Accountability is just literally having empathy,
• 58:09
  Speaker 1: right and seeing that person's point of view. Just because
• 58:13
  Speaker 1: I still disagree with you does not mean I'm not
• 58:16
  Speaker 1: taking I agree there.
• 58:18
  Speaker 2: But if that you are in fact wrong and you apologize.
• 58:25
  Speaker 1: For, that's subjective. You see what I'm saying, Like, what
• 58:29
  Speaker 1: if you feel wrong? That's subjective? So what you're apologizing
• 58:33
  Speaker 1: for is maybe how that person felt in that moment.
• 58:36
  Speaker 1: But is that a genuine apology? You know, I got
• 58:39
  Speaker 1: a problem with those type of apologies, and I don't
• 58:41
  Speaker 1: want those type apologies. You're like a nigga nobody ever got.
• 58:46
  Speaker 1: I want. I want both.
• 58:47
  Speaker 2: I want you to apologize to me and then change
• 58:50
  Speaker 2: the behavior. You know, if you believe that what you
• 58:53
  Speaker 2: did was wrong, Because if you don't, then don't just
• 58:56
  Speaker 2: don't apologize all the hell. Don't tell me sorry for
• 58:58
  Speaker 2: something that you don't.
• 59:00
  Speaker 1: Yeah, because some people can say sorry so easily because
• 59:03
  Speaker 1: they don't right though, they gonna do that same shit again.
• 59:06
  Speaker 1: So if you can easily tell me sorry, and I
• 59:09
  Speaker 1: know you gonna, I don't want to behavior some people
• 59:13
  Speaker 1: be like this, mag gonna take you sorry every time
• 59:15
  Speaker 1: you cheat? Sorry? How many times you're gonna bounce a pattern? Yeah,
• 59:22
  Speaker 1: now it's a pattern, and this is just what you do.
• 59:25
  Speaker 2: Boundaries respected without attitude. That's a huge one for me.
• 59:30
  Speaker 2: I hate a nigga like, Damn, I'm gonna get to
• 59:32
  Speaker 2: the flowers. Nobody wants a Damn I'm gonna get you
• 59:37
  Speaker 2: the flowers.
• 59:38
  Speaker 1: Ask nigga. Yeah, I'm not talking no more. If I
• 59:42
  Speaker 1: get a response like that about anything I'm asking about,
• 59:45
  Speaker 1: because when somebody asks me for something, I do it immediately.
• 59:50
  Speaker 1: So if I if I got to ask a partner
• 59:52
  Speaker 1: in more than one time and do some shit, that
• 59:54
  Speaker 1: shit overweight because it's already hard for me to ask
• 59:56
  Speaker 1: the motherfucker to do some shit. And if I actually
• 59:59
  Speaker 1: must up the strength to ask you to do some shit,
• 1:00:03
  Speaker 1: you acting like I'm annoying you. Guys, can't cut the fucking.
• 1:00:09
  Speaker 2: What about integrity in the dark? Quiet character over loud
• 1:00:14
  Speaker 2: claims same thing as like a nigga doing what he
• 1:00:18
  Speaker 2: said he gonna do instead of just talking, you.
• 1:00:21
  Speaker 1: Know, integrity in the dark. I don't get that one.
• 1:00:28
  Speaker 2: Like he being the same person that he says out
• 1:00:33
  Speaker 2: loud when nobody can see it.
• 1:00:41
  Speaker 1: Uh, okay, yeah I get it now. No pr campaign,
• 1:00:49
  Speaker 1: actual good dudes are usually too busy being decent to
• 1:00:54
  Speaker 1: advertise it. That's facts. Okay.
• 1:00:59
  Speaker 2: So that goes to Yeah, like when I see people
• 1:01:01
  Speaker 2: doing a lot of chitable things, sometimes sometimes I be
• 1:01:04
  Speaker 2: feeling like is it because you really like care about
• 1:01:09
  Speaker 2: these things? Or sometimes it be feeling like.
• 1:01:17
  Speaker 1: Yeah, pandering, attention seeking. M Yeah, it's a lot of characters,
• 1:01:23
  Speaker 1: I mean, especially with Instagram and stuff like that. Those
• 1:01:26
  Speaker 1: people's pages are geared towards that type of content. You
• 1:01:30
  Speaker 1: gotta know it's not genuine like every day this is
• 1:01:33
  Speaker 1: just that that's their niche, right, So if you got
• 1:01:35
  Speaker 1: a man that's saying y'all, y'all, if they pander into women,
• 1:01:39
  Speaker 1: like talking shit about other men, like that is their
• 1:01:41
  Speaker 1: niche on that page. If it's a woman talking shit
• 1:01:44
  Speaker 1: to other women, they're pandering to men. That's the niche.
• 1:01:48
  Speaker 1: These motherfuckers is not living these lives. Okay. You know
• 1:01:51
  Speaker 1: that one girl, I don't know her page. She talks
• 1:01:53
  Speaker 1: really really hard though, brown skinned girl, and she'd be
• 1:01:57
  Speaker 1: talking crazy to she'd be saying talking talk shit to
• 1:02:00
  Speaker 1: women basically, and like I guess putting men on point
• 1:02:04
  Speaker 1: about women. You know what I'm talking about. It's really
• 1:02:08
  Speaker 1: weird because the niggas be in the comments like yes,
• 1:02:10
  Speaker 1: sis tell him they just love and beating the woman up.
• 1:02:15
  Speaker 1: They just love it. Really weird. I don't even know that,
• 1:02:22
  Speaker 1: And I just feel like I just feel like men
• 1:02:25
  Speaker 1: know the niggas be talking about like you know some
• 1:02:27
  Speaker 1: of your homeboys is like this, Like one of my
• 1:02:30
  Speaker 1: one of my good friends, his cousin fucked around and
• 1:02:33
  Speaker 1: went to jail this past weekend on some DV shit, right,
• 1:02:38
  Speaker 1: And I'm always like, I don't like none of his friends.
• 1:02:41
  Speaker 1: I don't like none of your friends. I'll be telling
• 1:02:43
  Speaker 1: him those are not your fucking friends. And when a
• 1:02:45
  Speaker 1: woman tells you how, don't your friends believe them? Okay,
• 1:02:50
  Speaker 1: we just have insight, Like I remember one of the
• 1:02:53
  Speaker 1: niggas asked me essentially, let me not even go into
• 1:02:56
  Speaker 1: that shit on here, but those are not his fucking friends.
• 1:02:59
  Speaker 1: And this this, this guy, this cousin of his, I mean,
• 1:03:02
  Speaker 1: that's his family, so he can't. But aside from the cousin,
• 1:03:05
  Speaker 1: the other homeboys is whack as nitties too. I saw
• 1:03:09
  Speaker 1: that shit coming from in all a way that he'd
• 1:03:11
  Speaker 1: be and some DV shit at some point, I saw
• 1:03:15
  Speaker 1: it a lot of the in cells and niggas who
• 1:03:18
  Speaker 1: don't get the They be abusive, They be abusive, they
• 1:03:22
  Speaker 1: be mad, they be angry, angry sort dangerous. Yeah, I mean,
• 1:03:28
  Speaker 1: because I guess they got a butt lot of frustration.
• 1:03:32
  Speaker 1: You know. Yeah, they need to release. But you better
• 1:03:35
  Speaker 1: go pay for some coucie, get you a dollar or
• 1:03:37
  Speaker 1: something like that.
• 1:03:38
  Speaker 2: All Right, here's some tips to protect yourself against the
• 1:03:42
  Speaker 2: self proclaimed good guy all right, believe behavior not branding, right,
• 1:03:50
  Speaker 2: because niggas will appear to be the good guy present
• 1:03:55
  Speaker 2: as the good guy.
• 1:03:57
  Speaker 1: What is it though? Is it witchcraft? Is it witchcraft
• 1:04:02
  Speaker 1: that a man can be telling us one thing and
• 1:04:04
  Speaker 1: literally doing something else and we believe what he's saying.
• 1:04:08
  Speaker 1: He didn't start especially or I think I'm just the
• 1:04:15
  Speaker 1: benefit of a doubt queen, And I think I just
• 1:04:17
  Speaker 1: understand humans so much. Just like how I fuck with
• 1:04:21
  Speaker 1: people is I will see how you are and decide
• 1:04:24
  Speaker 1: if that's what I want to fuck with or not.
• 1:04:26
  Speaker 1: So if you liar, a cheater, a thief or whatever,
• 1:04:30
  Speaker 1: I for what a reason, I do things to me
• 1:04:33
  Speaker 1: at some point, so I just then that's where that
• 1:04:37
  Speaker 1: person is. As long as I know who you are,
• 1:04:38
  Speaker 1: I could fuck with you. It's when you start doing
• 1:04:40
  Speaker 1: the shit to me. I got a problem with it, okay,
• 1:04:44
  Speaker 1: But I got a high tolerance for bullshit too. Like
• 1:04:47
  Speaker 1: I'll just let shit go on and fester until I
• 1:04:49
  Speaker 1: just wake up one day and be like, I'm not
• 1:04:50
  Speaker 1: fucking with it. Funk around your some shrooms and do
• 1:04:53
  Speaker 1: some introspective work over the weekend.
• 1:04:56
  Speaker 2: Is over, I'll be letting the fun outweigh like be like, oh,
• 1:05:00
  Speaker 2: I having so much fun, you know, I really I'm
• 1:05:03
  Speaker 2: enjoying this nigga so much that I be ignoring the
• 1:05:06
  Speaker 2: red flag until until I wake up one day and
• 1:05:12
  Speaker 2: I'll be a cold, like straight cold on the nigga
• 1:05:14
  Speaker 2: and they like don't even see it coming, because I'll
• 1:05:17
  Speaker 2: go from sweetest pie to how do you?
• 1:05:21
  Speaker 1: I blocked you?
• 1:05:22
  Speaker 2: Why are you calling me from your mama's phone?
• 1:05:24
  Speaker 1: Like right, I don't get this one. Don't confuse consistency
• 1:05:31
  Speaker 1: with convenience. So someone being consistent, I'm trying to see
• 1:05:38
  Speaker 1: the correlation.
• 1:05:40
  Speaker 2: Oh, Like, basically you might see him, he's always around,
• 1:05:47
  Speaker 2: he's making himself available, but only because it's convenient. It's
• 1:05:51
  Speaker 2: not it is consistent, but only because you are of
• 1:05:55
  Speaker 2: convenience to him. So you have to make sure like
• 1:05:58
  Speaker 2: this person is being consistent because they are being intentional
• 1:06:03
  Speaker 2: or because it's easy.
• 1:06:07
  Speaker 1: As you're making it. Okay, So I have another friend
• 1:06:13
  Speaker 1: somebody to woul be family. I just keep saying friend,
• 1:06:16
  Speaker 1: But I'm like, dog, these niggas only coming through because
• 1:06:18
  Speaker 1: you got you got free pussy over there. If you
• 1:06:21
  Speaker 1: was charging over there, then niggas ain't coming through, so
• 1:06:25
  Speaker 1: put a price tag on it. If you already fucking
• 1:06:27
  Speaker 1: ain't you like sex that much, just put a price
• 1:06:31
  Speaker 1: on it. See if you can get a one foote.
• 1:06:32
  Speaker 1: Remember that that challenge online. Remember that challenge online. They
• 1:06:36
  Speaker 1: was challenging bitches to call the man that they having
• 1:06:38
  Speaker 1: sex with and see if you'll buy them a winter
• 1:06:40
  Speaker 1: coat and niggas.
• 1:06:41
  Speaker 2: But you having sex with him? Man gonna freeze.
• 1:06:46
  Speaker 1: Mm for the free Okay, you're giving that. I guess
• 1:06:51
  Speaker 1: good box handed it out. Girl through the web and
• 1:07:02
  Speaker 1: your i'm cad is listen here and that take me
• 1:07:04
  Speaker 1: through there? Because I am not with a nigga taking
• 1:07:07
  Speaker 1: me through shit.
• 1:07:07
  Speaker 2: I think it's just sexually take me through there. I
• 1:07:10
  Speaker 2: thought that's what that man nothing.
• 1:07:14
  Speaker 1: But that's see. The sex is how you get wrapped
• 1:07:16
  Speaker 1: up in going through ship. The sex is how it
• 1:07:19
  Speaker 1: fucking how you just randomly just.
• 1:07:21
  Speaker 2: That's how you end up in New Orleans with a
• 1:07:23
  Speaker 2: nigga local cigarette.
• 1:07:29
  Speaker 1: Oh tweet ass smoking cigarette?
• 1:07:32
  Speaker 2: Hair'll our hair stank. It. Don't owe a man of
• 1:07:42
  Speaker 2: relationship because he's not terrible? What what this nigga said?
• 1:07:47
  Speaker 2: A piece of man is better than no man at all.
• 1:07:51
  Speaker 1: That's a lie because he's not terrible. I don't know,
• 1:07:56
  Speaker 1: because that's that sounds like settling, right, Like he's just
• 1:07:59
  Speaker 1: better than the last You really don't like him like that,
• 1:08:03
  Speaker 1: you're still settling. I think women sat in a settle often.
• 1:08:06
  Speaker 1: That's another episode I've been wanting to do versus.
• 1:08:11
  Speaker 2: But you know, like so, I think you do have
• 1:08:14
  Speaker 2: to compromise some things. Nobody's gonna come perfect, right, you
• 1:08:18
  Speaker 2: just gotta figure out what that's a good topic we
• 1:08:20
  Speaker 2: can talk about that, you know.
• 1:08:24
  Speaker 1: Yeah, if he repeats I'm a good guy, ask that's
• 1:08:31
  Speaker 1: a good one because you know, the relationships I've been in,
• 1:08:34
  Speaker 1: I realized when the nigga really like this is me
• 1:08:38
  Speaker 1: figuratively putting my coat on and putting my shoes on
• 1:08:41
  Speaker 1: and getting the fuck up out of there. Once they
• 1:08:42
  Speaker 1: realize like I'm really readying to end the relationship, they
• 1:08:46
  Speaker 1: start being good guys. I mean, I'm getting all all
• 1:08:48
  Speaker 1: you can, all you want, head, all the shit is
• 1:08:52
  Speaker 1: going on, right, But I'm like, you're changing not for me,
• 1:08:55
  Speaker 1: You're changing for the next woman. You know.
• 1:08:58
  Speaker 2: That's a good one because I remember this was years ago.
• 1:09:02
  Speaker 2: I was dealing with this guy. I was like crazy
• 1:09:05
  Speaker 2: about him. I was like, he's such a good guy.
• 1:09:06
  Speaker 2: He's so good to his mother. He's such a good grandson.
• 1:09:10
  Speaker 2: He goes and does all this thing, and he's a
• 1:09:13
  Speaker 2: good dad. He's such a good guy. But he was
• 1:09:16
  Speaker 2: good to all those people, but he wasn't good to me.
• 1:09:18
  Speaker 2: You know, he was like I just saw how he
• 1:09:20
  Speaker 2: treated all the people he loved in his life. I mean,
• 1:09:23
  Speaker 2: he wasn't bad. I won't make it seem like he
• 1:09:25
  Speaker 2: was bad to me because he was good financially to me.
• 1:09:28
  Speaker 1: But that was it. I know a guy who is
• 1:09:35
  Speaker 1: community dick. And when I tell you, like girl, he's
• 1:09:38
  Speaker 1: opening the door for everybody. He's painting all the checks
• 1:09:42
  Speaker 1: like he's but he's not committing. He's gonna try to
• 1:09:45
  Speaker 1: smash it all. Also, he is not committing, but.
• 1:09:50
  Speaker 2: He honest, because if he's honest, he is.
• 1:09:55
  Speaker 1: So one day we had this conversation. Right, because his
• 1:09:59
  Speaker 1: dad has been married a lot of times. His daddy
• 1:10:02
  Speaker 1: never married his mom though, Right, his dad has been
• 1:10:05
  Speaker 1: married to four different women, never actually married his mom. Right,
• 1:10:10
  Speaker 1: So his dad is also a womanizer. So you get married,
• 1:10:15
  Speaker 1: but you also cheat on every wife you have, right,
• 1:10:18
  Speaker 1: I think in his mind if he never commits and
• 1:10:21
  Speaker 1: if he's one hundred percent honest with women, right, he
• 1:10:24
  Speaker 1: doesn't ever want to get married. He said he doesn't
• 1:10:26
  Speaker 1: want any kids, but he gonna fuck the shit out
• 1:10:28
  Speaker 1: there raw. Okay, he thinks he's better than his dad.
• 1:10:34
  Speaker 1: I believe subconscious he never said that, but I think
• 1:10:36
  Speaker 1: subconsciously he thinks he's better than his dad because he's
• 1:10:39
  Speaker 1: not getting into relationships with women. But sex is a relationship, ah,
• 1:10:45
  Speaker 1: especially having sex without a condom.
• 1:10:48
  Speaker 2: Why do you want to have fuck people raw and
• 1:10:50
  Speaker 2: don't want no relationship with them? It's crazy.
• 1:10:55
  Speaker 1: And because that's how women go crazy? Right, women ain't
• 1:10:58
  Speaker 1: really studying the condem dick. You don't agree with that
• 1:11:00
  Speaker 1: because you we used condoms all the time. But listen,
• 1:11:05
  Speaker 1: no harm, no foul, some rubber between us. It didn't happen. Actually,
• 1:11:10
  Speaker 1: I like I just sleep better at night with rubber.
• 1:11:13
  Speaker 1: So y'all you know how you avoid the self proclaimed
• 1:11:17
  Speaker 1: good guy, good man? It all starts with you, actually, right,
• 1:11:23
  Speaker 1: self awareness? Okay, know your boundaries, stick to them, trust
• 1:11:29
  Speaker 1: your intuition. Right, it will throw intuition at the window.
• 1:11:34
  Speaker 1: Have your ass confused. You know what time it is?
• 1:11:37
  Speaker 1: If you got a little ich about a nigga, you're
• 1:11:40
  Speaker 1: probably onto something.
• 1:11:42
  Speaker 2: And use condos. I'm gonna advocate for that every time
• 1:11:47
  Speaker 2: because you you, I don't be telling people not to, yeah,
• 1:11:52
  Speaker 2: but not no more.
• 1:11:53
  Speaker 1: You don't tell them not to. But I be talking
• 1:11:59
  Speaker 1: about my like, why don't talk about yours?
• 1:12:01
  Speaker 5: You might not be as lucky because you're living no
• 1:12:08
  Speaker 5: like I've been outside like that. Now I'm just saying like,
• 1:12:11
  Speaker 5: usually those are people I end up in relationships with oftimes.
• 1:12:16
  Speaker 1: That's why the relationship starts. Because if you smash me raw,
• 1:12:20
  Speaker 1: you mind? What are we talking about? Y'all been looking
• 1:12:23
  Speaker 1: at me? I'm dead at all you you mind? So fasically,
• 1:12:28
  Speaker 1: what you're trying to say is out that smash community
• 1:12:30
  Speaker 1: d raw.
• 1:12:31
  Speaker 2: I ain't saying you smash community d raw. But you
• 1:12:36
  Speaker 2: have had some niggas that were your nigga. Okay, but.
• 1:12:52
  Speaker 1: I had a nigga wind but my nigga in a
• 1:12:54
  Speaker 1: long time talking a lot of my twenties. Bitch, that
• 1:12:58
  Speaker 1: shouldn't even count. First, they don't count. Who else, Chelsea Booze,
• 1:13:05
  Speaker 1: that was my fucking nigga. He just didn't want to.
• 1:13:12
  Speaker 1: That type of ship don't count like situationships. Of course
• 1:13:16
  Speaker 1: you smash and raw situations. That's how your ass got
• 1:13:19
  Speaker 1: into that situation. That is how you got in a situationship.
• 1:13:23
  Speaker 1: Shit got lies, got blurred when you let him hit
• 1:13:26
  Speaker 1: that pussy raw. Okay, And he's he in his nasty
• 1:13:30
  Speaker 1: ass mind. He's not in a relationship, right, But like
• 1:13:35
  Speaker 1: I said, you hit this kouchie raw? You my boyfriend?
• 1:13:38
  Speaker 1: What were we talking about? We actually married per the Bible.
• 1:13:42
  Speaker 1: Let's go head out, let's get go on here out
• 1:13:54
  Speaker 1: all right, y'all, maya minda mind okay, And.
• 1:13:58
  Speaker 2: When a guy tells you he he's a nice guy,
• 1:14:01
  Speaker 2: keep your eyes on.
• 1:14:03
  Speaker 1: Watch that nigga. Yeah, I'm just a nice guy. Okay.
• 1:14:08
  Speaker 1: Put him on that rewards program. Remember we we came
• 1:14:11
  Speaker 1: with that rewards program. That one. You gotta put him
• 1:14:14
  Speaker 1: on a loyalty program. Talius points up tally that nigga
• 1:14:21
  Speaker 1: points up and see if he's actually a good guy period.
• 1:14:25
  Speaker 1: All right, y'all, y'all enjoyed this episode. Y'all tune in
• 1:14:27
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• 1:14:30
  Speaker 2: That's what I might have next year if these niggas
• 1:14:32
  Speaker 2: don't start acting.
• 1:14:32
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