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From Crashed Cars to Father’s Day Joy: Why “People Matter, Things Don’t” · Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families

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Speaker 1: This is the Happy Families Podcast Friday Edition. Today we're
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Speaker 1: checking out a Letter of the Week as well as
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Speaker 1: that K Pop demon Hunters.
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Speaker 2: The story continues in our.
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Speaker 1: Home the Netflix smash movie, plus a brand new game
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Speaker 1: that is going to change your family forever based on
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Speaker 1: our experience with it. And the phrase the phrase of
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Speaker 1: all the phrases that I've taught by kids, the phrase
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Speaker 1: that has stood out the most as we dissect Father's Day,
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Speaker 1: all that and more, all some Sabrina Carpenter gooss as well.
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Speaker 1: I forgot that coming up in Just to Sex. Stay
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Speaker 1: with us on the Happy Families Podcast. Hello and welcome
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Speaker 1: to the Happy Family's podcast, Realpairing Solutions every Day. We
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Speaker 1: are Justin and Kylie Coulson. Kylie, so much to get
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Speaker 1: through today. Going to start with our Letter of the Week.
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Speaker 1: You can email your letters to podcasts at happyfamilies dot
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Speaker 1: com dot au.
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Speaker 2: Letter of the Week, Email of the Week.
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Speaker 3: You've been holding out on me. I don't know anything
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Speaker 3: about a letter of the week.
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Speaker 1: What are the challenges with the work that I do,
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Speaker 1: the travel that I do is sometimes we don't get
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Speaker 1: to talk about everything. I've been whispering, sweet, nothing's into
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Speaker 1: your ear? Instead instead of telling you about the letter
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Speaker 1: of the week, email of the week, whatever you want
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Speaker 1: to call it. So this one comes through from Amy
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Speaker 1: who wanted to share a letter from her school principle.
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Speaker 1: And I think this one is a big one and
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Speaker 1: a big shout out and thumbs up to Templestow Park
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Speaker 1: Primary School and Victoria for this one. The principal, Mark Roberts,
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Speaker 1: sent out the following to parents and cares of year
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Speaker 1: two students. Following discussions with the school counsel, of the
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Speaker 1: school's leadership team, staff and other schools, the decision has
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Speaker 1: been made to not commence the bring your own Device
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Speaker 1: program in year three. This means you won't have to
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Speaker 1: provide an iPad for your child in twenty twenty six. Basically,
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Speaker 1: they're saying, we want your kids to not have screens
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Speaker 1: for at least one more year. And I could read
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Speaker 1: a whole lot more, but that's the gist of it,
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Speaker 1: and I just thought to myself, we need more letters
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Speaker 1: like that coming through. We need more principles having the
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Speaker 1: courage to say, let's stay analog. It's actually not going
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Speaker 1: to revolutionize kids' education by putting them on an iPad.
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Speaker 2: I love it.
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Speaker 3: That's not the letter of the week. That sounds like
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Speaker 3: the winter of the year.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, I know, that's pretty awesome.
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Speaker 1: So many parents just breathed that and went, oh, reassurance,
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Speaker 1: Thank goodness for that. We can we can do this,
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Speaker 1: we can do this. So I love that. There's a
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Speaker 1: little bit of news as well a bit of goss.
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Speaker 1: Last week, we were talking about Ca Pop Demon Hunters,
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Speaker 1: and I asked you if you were going to take
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Speaker 1: the kids.
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Speaker 3: To see you, we're going to throw one of our
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Speaker 3: kids under the bus.
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Speaker 2: And you know where I'm going.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, So while I'm throwing you under the bus, first,
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Speaker 1: I volunt told you to take the kids to.
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Speaker 2: The movies while I was away.
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Speaker 1: You didn't do it, and so and not died I
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Speaker 1: because I was away, but because it's available on Netflix
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Speaker 1: and you don't have to pay all that money to
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Speaker 1: go to the movies to see it. Anyway, our fifteen
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Speaker 1: year old sat down with our eleven year old. They
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Speaker 1: decided to watch it together. Fifteen year old hadn't seen it,
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Speaker 1: and when the movie was over, she walked out of
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Speaker 1: the living room with tears in her eyes, sobbing, sobbing,
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Speaker 1: crying about Kee Pop Demon hunters, we are mocking our
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Speaker 1: daughter on the podcast.
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Speaker 3: So is there eleven year old sister? Because when I
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Speaker 3: walked in the door, the first thing she said to
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Speaker 3: me was go ask Lily how she liked the.
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Speaker 1: Movie, and Lily the whole time, she's like, it was terrible.
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Speaker 1: I didn't like it at all. I wasn't interested in it,
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Speaker 1: and We're like, but you are crying a lot. So
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Speaker 1: I just wanted to get that out of the way
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Speaker 1: as well. A couple of other quick things. Sabrina Carpenter
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Speaker 1: has her brand new app, Matt. This has been provocative,
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Speaker 1: This has been controversial. This is definitely not a kid's album,
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Speaker 1: but everybody who's a kid who loves Sabrina Carpenter wants it.
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Speaker 3: When people first saw the cover of Man's Best Friend,
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Speaker 3: there was a lot of just and oh my, there
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Speaker 3: just a lot of pointing fingers.
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Speaker 4: My fans that know me and know the person behind
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Speaker 4: the music look at that photo and they know exactly.
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Speaker 3: What it is.
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Speaker 4: And people that have no idea who I am absolutely
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Speaker 4: look at that photo and go where are my parents?
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Speaker 2: Yes, my parents.
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Speaker 4: Actually saw the photo and they loved it.
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Speaker 1: Anyway, Sabrina Carpenter has now come out publicly and said
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Speaker 1: that her new album Man's Best Friend, was and I
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Speaker 1: quote not for any pearl clutches as a reporter by
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Speaker 1: the Hollywood Reporter, strong language, a lot of explicit content
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Speaker 1: on the album, and Sabrina Carpenter's well, I mean, she's
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Speaker 1: owning the space that she's decided to take on, but
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Speaker 1: very very much an album that is not for children.
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Speaker 1: So we just thought we would mention that as well
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Speaker 1: as part of the broader I'll do better Tomorrow conversation.
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Speaker 1: All right, So that's the latest news in pairing. As
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Speaker 1: far as I'm aware, there might have been some other
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Speaker 1: bits and pieces that have slipped my attention. You can
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Speaker 1: let us know about anything that's big via podcasts at
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Speaker 1: Happy families dot com dot a U Kylie, I'll do
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Speaker 1: better tomorrow. It's time to dissect the week that was.
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Speaker 1: Talk about where you won, where you would have liked
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Speaker 1: to improved. What's your main take home message, what's your
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Speaker 1: main story for the week.
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Speaker 3: I actually have a question for you. How do you
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Speaker 3: usually feel about Father's Day?
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Speaker 2: Next question? I mean, I know I'm supposed to love it.
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Speaker 1: I know there's a whole lot of scripting around what
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Speaker 1: Father's Day's supposed to be, but I'm not massive into it.
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Speaker 1: I usually have a a large series of expectations in
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Speaker 1: that I'd like the kids to demonstrate that they've thought
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Speaker 1: of me just a little bit, although I don't need
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Speaker 1: anything but a nice letter or a song or a
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Speaker 1: poem or something, and I'd like them to tidy up
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Speaker 1: the mess without being asked and get along for the day.
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Speaker 3: You're not asking very much, very low expectations. Verry said, no,
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Speaker 3: come on, come on, where are you going with this?
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Speaker 3: Did you just thro shaated me? I nailed it this year.
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Speaker 1: I do have low expectations. I think we did too.
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Speaker 1: I think we had an absolute cracker of a Father's Day.
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Speaker 1: Might have been the best one ever. Maybe, So we.
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Speaker 3: Don't hide the fact that we got to church on
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Speaker 3: Sundays and one of the mums in our community came
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Speaker 3: up with this brilliant idea to prank the dads, and
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Speaker 3: so we made a massive team order and ordered all
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Speaker 3: the dads the same tie for Father's Day.
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Speaker 2: How many?
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Speaker 1: How many were ordered? Like a hundred something like that.
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Speaker 1: That have to have been at least one hundred, Yeah,
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Speaker 1: identical tie.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, So I prepped Emily, and she did such
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Speaker 3: a good job. When she gifted you your tie, you
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Speaker 3: had already made it really clear that you did not
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Speaker 3: want another time.
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Speaker 1: I have more ties than I'm ever gonna wear. Like
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Speaker 1: I only wear a tie on a Sunday. That's pretty
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Speaker 1: much it unless we're doing some kind of an event.
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Speaker 1: So I don't need tires. I don't have space for tires.
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Speaker 2: I don't like.
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Speaker 1: Ties particularly, And so the kids all no, no more
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Speaker 1: ties for dad.
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Speaker 3: And I knew if this was going to work, Emily
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Speaker 3: was the only one who could get away with it.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, because if the older kids gave me one, I
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Speaker 1: probably would. Here's my low expectations. I'd probably said, what
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Speaker 1: do you get me tie for? I don't I get
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Speaker 1: this from my mom My. Mom has said that so
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Speaker 1: many times when we've gifted to something. She's like, why
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Speaker 1: did you get that for me?
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Speaker 2: I don't want that. It's like I don't need to
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Speaker 2: show some gratitude.
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Speaker 1: I can't believe I'm saying this. This is a terrible confession.
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Speaker 1: This meant to me your old a better tomorrow, and
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Speaker 1: you're just throwing me under the bus.
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Speaker 2: No, I'm not all right. Maybe I'm throwing you're a
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Speaker 2: very good job by yourself.
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Speaker 3: Anyway, Emily hands it to you and you actually look
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Speaker 3: at it, and you were quite impressed. You thought it
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Speaker 3: was an okay tie.
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Speaker 1: I have to I mean, while I'm just absolutely destroying
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Speaker 1: my reputation here, I did look at the back to
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Speaker 1: see what brand it was, and there was no brand,
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Speaker 1: and I thought, oh, that's funny. And the feel of
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Speaker 1: the tie, it feels like a team mood tie. I
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Speaker 1: wasn't thinking that at the time, but I was thinking,
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Speaker 1: it doesn't feel like the kind of tie that I
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Speaker 1: would normally wear.
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Speaker 3: But Emily was very proud of herself. She paid with
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Speaker 3: it all with her own money, right, And she hands
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Speaker 3: it to you and you say that you actually asked
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Speaker 3: me what colored suit you're gonna wear with it, because
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Speaker 3: it would go with both.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, she did such a good job, so.
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Speaker 3: Picking a tie that was going to work for everybody.
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Speaker 3: We get to church and as you're doing a reverse park,
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Speaker 3: you do a double take because you see one of
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Speaker 3: the guys in the car park putting up the kids praying.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, a guy called guy like literally that guy, that guy,
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Speaker 1: he was wearing the same tie.
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Speaker 3: You did a double take, and I knew in that
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Speaker 3: moment you had clicked that his tie was the same
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Speaker 3: as yours.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, you get out of the car.
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Speaker 1: But I didn't see anything bigger than just oh, guy
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Speaker 1: and I were in the same way.
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Speaker 2: Yeah.
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Speaker 3: So you get out of the car and you make
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Speaker 3: a comment to guy that you've got the same tie,
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Speaker 3: and he said, you actually asked him where did you
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Speaker 3: get yours from? And he said, oh, my daughter brought
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Speaker 3: it from the Father's Day store. So your brain is
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Speaker 3: going over time because you know Emily doesn't go to
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Speaker 3: any Father's Day store.
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Speaker 1: Well, she's in homeschool, so she we homeschool her, so
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Speaker 1: there's no Father's Day Still, I'm thinking maybe there was
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Speaker 1: a maybe there was a stall at the plaza or something.
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Speaker 3: And I had made it clear to you that we'd
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Speaker 3: gone to shopping.
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Speaker 2: Yes, so you were like, this doesn't make sense. Okay.
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Speaker 3: Then the next thing, another.
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Speaker 2: Guy, Sam drives in, drives in, he.
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Speaker 3: Gets out, and me and the other wife are looking
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Speaker 3: at each other. We're just waiting for this here. But
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Speaker 3: Sam is oblivious. He has not even like clicked.
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Speaker 2: But God was walking after his kids, so he didn't
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Speaker 2: notice either.
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Speaker 1: And I'm not Guy Sam, no way, and The first
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Speaker 1: thing I say to Sam is where.
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Speaker 2: Did you get the tie?
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Speaker 3: So now you're peppering me to ask me exactly what store.
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Speaker 1: Because here's the thing, because Sam actually said, oh, I
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Speaker 1: think that the kids bought this one on TEAMOO for me,
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Speaker 1: And I've gone like, in my mind, I'm thinking, because
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Speaker 1: I'm tight, I've gone hang on a sex. So Sam's
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Speaker 1: got his on TEAMU, which means it probably costs about
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Speaker 1: four dollars, and guys picked his one up from the
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Speaker 1: Father's Stace or the kids have anyway from the Father's
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Speaker 1: day store, which means that he might have paid somewhere
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Speaker 1: between six and ten bucks. But what I'm actually thinking
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Speaker 1: is You've got to the plaza and somebody's gone and
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Speaker 1: bought TEAMO ties and they're probably selling them for thirty
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Speaker 1: or forty or fifty bucks in the plaza, and You've
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Speaker 1: We've been ripped off. That's what I was thinking, Emily's
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Speaker 1: been ripped off. This is not fair.
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Speaker 3: But the first part was when you walked in the
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Speaker 3: doors and you realized you'd been pranked and everybody around
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Speaker 3: you was wearing.
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Speaker 2: The same time. I literally I looked around, I'm like,
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Speaker 2: I've been pranked. You've prankedice you got it was good.
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Speaker 2: It was good.
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Speaker 3: It was just it actually just elevated our day to
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Speaker 3: another level. We really enjoyed great conversations with friends in
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Speaker 3: our community. And then we got to come home and
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Speaker 3: we had an afternoon down at the beach. We just
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Speaker 3: took some picnic food.
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Speaker 1: Hey, hang on, you're stealing my old A better tomorrow,
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Speaker 1: am I? Well a little bit, but anyway, go ahead.
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Speaker 3: And it was just so nice watching everybody play frisbee together,
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Speaker 3: and even the kids that are not particularly interested in
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Speaker 3: playing frisbee got involved. It was just it was easy.
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Speaker 2: Well, it was more than that.
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Speaker 1: Not only do we have this wonderful level of involvement
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Speaker 1: and engagement. I mean you were in the whole family.
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Speaker 1: We were all throwing a frisbee around and just playing
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Speaker 1: and having fun on the beach. But at the end
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Speaker 1: of the night, the kids all came and late on
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Speaker 1: the bed and said, can.
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Speaker 2: We do that every week? Like we want more of
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Speaker 2: that in our lives.
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Speaker 1: And I mean a bit of a I don't know,
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Speaker 1: I was going to say, shot myself in the foot,
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Speaker 1: dig of the heart kind of thing, because this book
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Speaker 1: has taken me away so much I'm so so mindful
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Speaker 1: of how much of this Boy's book has robbed our
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Speaker 1: family of time together. But boy or boy, it's almost over.
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Speaker 1: I'm into the last couple of weeks of this book,
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Speaker 1: and it was really nice. It was a great Father's Day.
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Speaker 3: And I guess my take home is I've spent so
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Speaker 3: many years trying to curate the perfect event, whether it
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Speaker 3: be Father's Day or birthdays, and you know, kind of
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Speaker 3: got myself twisted myself and notts trying to kind of
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Speaker 3: make sure that every detail has taken care of. And
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Speaker 3: while some of those events have actually been really beautiful events,
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Speaker 3: what I loved was just how like organic, organic this was.
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Speaker 3: It really was like I just made a simple green
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Speaker 3: salad with barbecued some chicken the day before. There was
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Speaker 3: nothing like super special about it. Yeah, but what was
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Speaker 3: special was the fact that we were all there and
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Speaker 3: we all wanted to be there.
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Speaker 1: Although a quick note, let's just something about not letting
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Speaker 1: the sand get in the food next time, crunchy salad
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Speaker 1: with extra sand is not but you know what, we
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Speaker 1: got through it.
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Speaker 2: Hey, up next, what I pulled.
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Speaker 1: Out of the past week in terms of better way
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Speaker 1: to make our families function plus making the most of
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Speaker 1: most memories stay with us. Okay, Kylie, here's my old
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Speaker 1: better tomorrow for the week that was. I'm going to
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Speaker 1: be really sneaky here and chuck a couple in because
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Speaker 1: they all kind of combined together. Over the last what
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Speaker 1: it would have been the last twenty one days. I
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Speaker 1: think I've been on the road and traveling for about
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Speaker 1: fifteen of them. Sixteen of them, so I've barely been
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Speaker 1: home for the last few weeks. It's been absolutely chaotic,
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Speaker 1: and that's a really hard thing for us. We talk
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Speaker 1: about it regularly. There's certainly no bragging there. If anything,
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Speaker 1: it's a it's a privilege to be able to travel
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Speaker 1: around the country and help other families to learn principles
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Speaker 1: that are going to make them happier, but it does
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Speaker 1: come at a steep price for our family, and it's
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Speaker 1: been really rough. I'm so grateful. I'm not traveling again
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Speaker 1: for several weeks. Now I'm home, which feels really good.
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Speaker 1: But last weekend, while I was home, randomly, spontaneously, the
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Speaker 1: kids came into the room and they resurrected a game
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Speaker 1: that we haven't played for years.
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Speaker 2: And you probably heard it from the kitchen.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, I did.
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Speaker 1: The kids are just screaming and this is a loud,
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Speaker 1: raucous game. The game is called.
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Speaker 2: Push Dad off the Bed.
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Speaker 1: Why don't you describe it? Because you're usually not involved
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Speaker 1: in it, you just watch it. I'm the one who's
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Speaker 1: struggling for dear life to stay.
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Speaker 2: In this game. How would you explain the game?
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Speaker 3: It's just a massive bodies all over my bed. There's squeals, delights,
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Speaker 3: there's feet, heads, I just body parts everywhere.
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Speaker 2: It's an all in brawl.
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Speaker 3: It is an all in brawl.
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Speaker 2: And what's crazy.
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Speaker 3: What's crazy is our twenty two year old lives at
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Speaker 3: home and she was as much involved as the eleven
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Speaker 3: year old. Like, this is a game that has stood
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Speaker 3: the test of time.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, I've been playing it for twenty five years.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, it'll be interesting to see what happens in twenty
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Speaker 3: four years.
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Speaker 2: Oh, my goodness, might break hip. That's how that's what
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Speaker 2: we're going to do. I don't want an old people's home.
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Speaker 2: You can just push that off the bed and all
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Speaker 2: of a sudden it's over pneumonia, broken hip.
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Speaker 1: So basically, they use their arms, they use their nails,
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Speaker 1: they use their heels, they use their heads and it's
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Speaker 1: then against me. So I had a twenty two year old,
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Speaker 1: an eighteen year old, a fifteen year old, and an
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Speaker 1: eleven year old, and basically I lay on the bed
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Speaker 1: and they try to pull me off or push me
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Speaker 1: off the bed.
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Speaker 3: So you all start on the bed, and the idea
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Speaker 3: is to get it. You've got to try and get
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Speaker 3: them all off. Yes, so if you do that, you win, yeap.
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Speaker 1: But they've got to get me off and then they win.
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Speaker 1: And it's just we ended up playing it two or
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Speaker 1: three times last weekend, and and every time, I mean,
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Speaker 1: the bed gets destroyed. That's just the bed is a
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Speaker 1: casualty of the game. So much fun, so much laughter.
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Speaker 1: Nobody cried this time in the entire weekend, which I mean,
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Speaker 1: I'm taking this as a plus.
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Speaker 2: It was a lot of fun.
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Speaker 1: But the other quick one, gosh, and I'm taking away
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Speaker 1: too long, the frisbee on the beach, which you've already mentioned.
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Speaker 2: So much fun. But as part of our Father's.
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Speaker 1: Day remembrance experience, you asked the kids to each share
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Speaker 1: one of their favorite memories of me, and every single
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Speaker 1: one of them essentially shared the same story or their
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Speaker 1: version of a certain incident with me.
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Speaker 2: And the same story.
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Speaker 1: So I el just talked about the time that she
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Speaker 1: wrote off the family car by crashing it into the
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Speaker 1: wall of a church on day one of driving with
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Speaker 1: her learner plates. Abby, a twenty two year old, talked
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Speaker 1: about the time where she was driving late at night
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Speaker 1: and a kangaroo hopped in front of her and she
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Speaker 1: wrote my car off that was only a year old,
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Speaker 1: my brand new Kia Sarato GT that I was very
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Speaker 1: excited about then. And so on down the list, each
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Speaker 1: of the girls they broke something, or they smashed something,
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Speaker 1: or they ruined something, and every single one of them said,
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Speaker 1: favorite memory of Dad, or one of my favorite times
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Speaker 1: with dad.
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Speaker 2: Is when this awful thing happened.
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Speaker 1: And I used the line, the line that they all remembered,
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Speaker 1: and it was so gratifying. The line is people matter,
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Speaker 1: things don't. And so when they confess that the car
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Speaker 1: was totaled or the thing was smashed or the whatever
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Speaker 1: it was, apparently in every single case, I went to
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Speaker 1: them and I wrapped them up in my arms and
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Speaker 1: I whispered in their ear people matter, things don't. It's
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Speaker 1: going to be okay. So for me, that's my I'll
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Speaker 1: do better tomorrow The dream has always been for me
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Speaker 1: that when our children reflect on difficult moments and emotional
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Speaker 1: moments and challenging moments through their childhood, and they reflect
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Speaker 1: on the way that you and I have handled those things,
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Speaker 1: that they will have warm memories, that they'll have the
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Speaker 1: kinds of memories that help them to understand that there
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Speaker 1: was compassion and love and understanding and second chances and
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Speaker 1: those kinds of things and people matter. Things don't seems
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Speaker 1: to have somehow, somehow snuck through the defenses and worked well.
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Speaker 3: I know fether days coming gone, but I'm so grateful
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Speaker 3: for not only the way in which you have fathered
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Speaker 3: our children, but the way that you have elevated them
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Speaker 3: and just encouraged them to be their own best selves,
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Speaker 3: to be critical thinkers, to question the way things are,
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Speaker 3: and to be a blessing and a light to other people.
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Speaker 3: And your example has just been such a bright, shining
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Speaker 3: light for them. And hearing them share those stories you
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Speaker 3: talked about it being gratifying to you, but it just
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Speaker 3: I think so often as parents, we sit there with
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Speaker 3: our big long list of all the things we get
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Speaker 3: wrong and all the ways we wish that we could
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Speaker 3: be better, and yet to sit there on Sunday night
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Speaker 3: and to listen to these girls share these really really
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Speaker 3: big moments in their lives and the thing that they
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Speaker 3: remembered was that they madded and that was just it was.
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Speaker 3: It was such a beautiful moment. So thank you, Thank
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Speaker 3: you for being all of that and more.
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Speaker 1: Now you've got me weepy as well. We need to
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Speaker 1: wrap this up. We've gone well over time. We really
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Speaker 1: hope that you've enjoyed listening and hope that there's some
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Speaker 1: inspo here for you to make your families happier across
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Speaker 1: the weekend. Please spend that time, go throw a frisbee
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Speaker 1: going I don't know, just spend.
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Speaker 2: Time with the kids. Kids spell love Tim.
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Speaker 1: If you'd like more resources and ways to make your
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Speaker 1: family happier, you'll find them all at happy families dot
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Speaker 1: com dot au. And a huge thanks to Justin rule
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Speaker 1: On from Bridge Media who produces the podcast, and Mimhammond's
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Speaker 1: for all of her additional admin and research support.
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Speaker 2: Have a great weekend.
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Speaker 1: We'll be back on Monday talking about what to do
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Speaker 1: when your kids get violent and hit
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Speaker 2: You, whether they're three or even a little bit older.