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Season 3 - Episode 333 - The story about the year. · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the Good Morning from the Chicken Coop podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and mastermind set
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  coach. Filled with inspiration,
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  distinctions, perspectives, and possibilities, we help you to
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  cultivate a mindset that leads you to create the best version
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  of yourself you could ever imagine.
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  Join Kim every morning from one of her favorite happy places,
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  her chicken coop, along with all her chickens.
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  Hey everybody. Good morning from the chicken
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  coop. So today we are talking about
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  the story that we're telling ourselves right now at the end
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  of the year. And this is this is something
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  that you have to take a peek at. You have to look at it.
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  You have to know because if you're telling yourself you
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  didn't finish the year strong or you're not finishing where you
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  want to be and you're going into the end of the year in a state
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  of despair, you have to stop and tell yourself, OK, is this
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  really true? Which I doubt it's true.
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  I'm quite sure you, just like everybody else that I coach that
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  has this conversation with themselves, I have to constantly
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  come back and say, well, this is really true.
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  I mean, I, I know it's not true because I've seen all the things
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  you've done, but they just haven't remembered them and they
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  keep beating up on themselves for the stuff that they did not
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  complete. And this is where it gets so
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  tricky because it's easy to sit there and talk about what you
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  did not complete. It's easy to complain about
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  things in life. It's easy to complain about
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  what's wrong. It's much harder, my friends, to
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  collect yourself and to say, OK, let me look at what actually is
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  great. Let me look at what is actually
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  the good stuff that I did. It takes a lot more effort to
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  sit there, especially if you didn't keep track of it all year
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  long, which is one of the reasons why I constantly track
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  things like this for myself, because it's way easier for me
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  to make it all about what I didn't get done than what I did
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  get done. And I can keep track and beat
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  myself up of the stuff right in my head.
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  I know where I failed all along the way.
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  Much harder for me to remember all the little things that I
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  accomplished. I was sitting here not long ago,
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  probably maybe two weeks ago. So not that far out.
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  That's the funny part. Not that far out from when I
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  published the the last book, The Emotional Dilemma of Leadership,
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  and spent the summer doing it right.
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  Spent a good chunk of my time writing this book.
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  So when I was listing out things that still needed to get done
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  and I was kind of like saying to myself, I have so much left to
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  do that I really wanted to get done.
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  I started to feel the panic. The creep started to come in and
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  tell me all the things that I slipped on.
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  And I was like, hey, hang on a second, I published a book.
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  Now I need to cut myself some slack here.
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  I published a book. What am I thinking?
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  Why am I choosing to beat up on myself like that?
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  And as soon as I grabbed that piece of information forward, I
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  was like, oh, OK, I get what's happening.
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  I need to stop myself. But it's always one of those
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  challenges where you have to stop and pause and say yourself,
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  OK, I got to check in with this. Because if I don't check in with
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  it, I promise you it will be one of those hard things to get
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  past. It will just keep gnawing at you
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  and it will keep bugging you and it will keep telling you all the
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  little things that you need to remind yourself of.
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  I'm air quoting that remind. Pick it yourself.
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  Since we're in the chicken coop, we'll say it's just going to be
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  a bunch of pecking. Peck, Peck, Peck, Peck, Peck it
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  yourself so that you know what you failed at.
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  And it's it's, it's useless. It's useless energy.
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  Again, it's that whole metaphor of being in a rocking chair and
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  rocking like crazy and getting absolutely nowhere.
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  You just sit there and you use all your energy to rock back and
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  forth, but you get nowhere. So how do we stop this?
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  The very first thing that we have to do is to sit down and
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  make a grand list of the small accomplishments, the medium
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  accomplishments, the large accomplishments, just in
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  general, all the accomplishments and really look at them and take
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  in the fact that we're proud of those.
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  Each one of them. As you're writing it, stop and
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  say, OK, I'm really proud of that.
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  Like I can sit there and I can say I'm really proud of that
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  book. I know it's helped a lot of
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  people already because I keep getting messages about it.
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  I know it worked. So it, it, it I can be proud out
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  of it. Now, I could sit there and
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  nitpick and say, OK, I do not have enough reviews on this book
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  yet. But it takes forever to get
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  people to go on Amazon and give you a review.
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  And it takes asking and saying, hey, if you don't mind, would
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  you go over and give it a review?
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  Because most people are so busy, they don't do it.
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  That's just, it's just part of the dynamic of being an author
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  and looking for those reviews. And quite honestly, I don't pay
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  for them. I wait till I have real ones.
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  What a concept. I don't pay for them.
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  So it it's just a a matter of the process.
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  I can't beat myself up for it. What I can say is OK, that's
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  something that we want to do. We're going to put it on the
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  list and we're going to make sure we reach out to everybody
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  that we know purchased and we can say let's get this underway.
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  Please help us out with this, but we don't have to beat up
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  ourselves over it. So you see where I'm going with
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  this. I can still celebrate the book.
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  I can make part of what I need to do with it on the list for
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  next year, but I am not going to make myself feel bad about it.
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  So dig in and figure out what you can really celebrate.
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  You want to finish this year celebrating.
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  You don't want to finish this year being in this place where I
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  missed my goals. I had other things come up
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  because that's life. We all have life things that
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  come up. We all have problems that come
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  up and we just have to deal with it.
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  We just have to recognize it and deal with it and say, yeah, it's
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  OK, It's OK. Whatever I was able to
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  accomplish, that's the best part of it.
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  And if it and if I just accomplished staying alive, then
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  that's good. So I hope you guys have a
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  blessed day and I will see you all tomorrow.
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  Bye.