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The Hidden Reason So Many Families Are Unhappy — And the System Lauren Magers Built to Fix It | Lauren Mage · The Hannah Hammond Show

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  When I was 2 years old, it was the black sheep.
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  I was the isolated 1. Soap in the mouth, spanking,
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  beating, all of the things. There's no way that this is how
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  families are supposed to live. So what was that driving moment
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  for you where you're like, I need to systematize my home and
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  become the CEO of my home? Children want the structure.
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  They want the discipline. We thrive off a discipline.
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  We want to know a true north. Kids need that.
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  They need milestones. They need goals.
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  Co founder of a Fortune Inc 5000 company and then founder of the
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  Happy Life System. 92% of people walking around are unhappy.
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  That means 8% are actually living aligned.
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  Why do you think so many people fail as parents?
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  It's not for a lack of love. Love isn't enough anymore.
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  They're failing because they're missing a step.
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  What is the happy life system like?
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  Break it down and what are your pillars?
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  OK, you ready for this? Welcome back to the Hannah
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  Hammond Show. I'm here today with Lauren
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  Majors, who is an absolute boss babe, Co founder of a Fortune
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  Inc 5000 company. And then now you're the founder
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  of the Happy Life system. And I can't wait to dive into
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  this conversation because as a female executive, founder,
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  entrepreneur, leader and mom, I always question my own abilities
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  of how can I be such a driven entrepreneur and leader and be
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  great, a great mother, right, and raise great children.
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  And so I personally have not had children yet.
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  And I think maybe this is a limiting belief that I have.
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  So excited to learn your story and how you built such an
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  incredible family with four kids, an incredible marriage,
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  and LED and built and scaled companies along the way.
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  So welcome to the show. Thank you so much for having me.
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  It's such a joy. I mean, the biggest thing for me
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  is being around like minded individuals that just lights up
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  my like, we're all doing this together.
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  But there's, you know, the, the biggest thing when talking about
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  my story is really about like that perseverance and resilience
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  to not settle for mediocracy. Yes.
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  I'm not going to be in the matrix.
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  I'm not going to let someone determine when I get to take a
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  vacation. And so that drive is what like I
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  saw the matrix mentality of what it does to human and it's I, I,
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  I wouldn't do it. And so for me it was like, do
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  whatever it takes. And obviously we'll dive into
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  it, but it was the same, that was the same way I saw business
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  is how I LED my home and really taking, taking the foundational
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  principles of standard culture identity.
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  How do we take that and build a home where we can create many CE
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  OS that run their life? And that's the happy life
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  system. So what was that driving moment
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  for you where you're like, I need to systematize and my home
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  and become the CEO of my home? I interviewed Atlanta Cardone
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  and she talks about that I'm the CEO of my home.
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  Like, what was that moment for you?
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  Because generally it stems from chaos, right?
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  Like there's a problem that you need to improve on.
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  And so I'd love to hear kind of how you even became ACEO of your
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  life 1st and then ACEO of your home later and founding Happy
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  Life Systems. Yeah, So, you know, everyone has
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  their own story, but for me, I was the little Lauren growing up
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  in dysfunction and chaos. And I remember it's always like,
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  you know, doing the best that you can at the level of your
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  consciousness. And so for me, what I saw is the
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  gap with how people thrive within their homes, building
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  unity, building a language, building foundational
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  principles. And we, we, we do this in
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  business, like look at corporations, look at the NFL,
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  the NHL, like there's, there's systematic formulas that people
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  use to get results. So like with human, for me, the
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  biggest thing was, is like, how do I, how do I give these humans
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  the guardrails, the foundation, the living principles, the
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  skills and the habits? My whole entire system is all
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  about micro skills and habits, value and contribution.
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  You know, you see the workforce right now, people don't have the
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  resilience, they don't have the motivation, they don't have the
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  drive. So that that is what gave me,
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  you know what they say, I pioneered a new way.
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  I'm building the biggest revolution on planet Earth for
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  children and families to firmly understand.
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  Children want structure. Every human needs structure.
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  They need discipline, they need milestones, they need goals.
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  So when it comes to our homes, I don't understand this concept of
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  being OK with winging it and having frustration, anger,
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  yelling, dysfunction. That paradigm for me of what I
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  grew up in is what, you know, opened up this whole new way of
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  being and living in my own life. And and that was where like the
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  manifestation came where it was like, whoa, how that was done is
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  not going to be my norm. And so even in business, you
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  know, we all start in business. And, and it's really funny
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  because I started out of my, my house with my husband and I used
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  to have this term make it up. I said MSU, like when I would go
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  into a client meeting, they would say, can you do it?
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  I'm like, absolutely. I'll figure it out later.
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  Like world ready St. smarts like that is what gave me a leg up in
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  the world. And right now, people aren't
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  dynamic enough to think outside the box.
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  They're not thinking about outside the box.
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  They're checking the box. And, you know, we're living in a
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  world where people are OK with just getting a paycheck and
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  clocking in and clocking out and the distractions and everything.
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  So I feel like to live a life of mastery, to live a happy,
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  beautiful, meaningful life, you have to have foundational
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  systems that anchor your life. You look at the most disciplined
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  people in the world, you know, so and a lot, a lot for me too.
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  I have to give it to the sport that I played, which was soccer.
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  So I was D1 athlete, you know, full ride scholarship and you
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  know, during my 1617, I couldn't stand waking up 6 O clock in the
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  morning. But I look back at those moments
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  of putting in the days when I didn't want to do it.
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  That built that built something within me.
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  And we talked about the Beth athletes in business, they have
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  a leg up because they go through those hard times.
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  So in a roundabout way, I would say the the, the main thing is,
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  you know, seeing and being a part of an ecosystem that didn't
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  thrive as a child. And I would do whatever it takes
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  to build something for my family to thrive alongside building
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  businesses and living my life purpose.
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  I don't believe that when you have kids, you give up your life
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  as a woman. Like I have my own gifts, I have
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  my own vision, I have my own purpose, and my children are my
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  number one priority, so. What was the moment for you?
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  I always talk about the Mcflurry moment.
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  So when I was seven years old, my dad wouldn't buy me a
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  Mcflurry ice cream, and that was the first day I declared I was
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  going to be a millionaire so I could buy myself Mcflurries.
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  You're like, wait, I don't need your money.
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  Yeah. And I was so angry.
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  I, I was like, I hate you. I'm going to be a millionaire so
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  I could buy Mcflurries. And, you know, also grew up in a
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  home, blessed their heart, loved my parents, did the best they
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  could, but they didn't have the systems, they didn't have the
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  tools, they didn't have the resources, they didn't have the
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  money, education, knowledge, anything, Right?
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  And so growing up in that home of dysfunction and chaos also is
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  what spurred me to do something different.
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  Now, one of my brothers, though, on the other hand, went the
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  opposite direction of me, right? And I don't know if you've heard
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  the story of which you asked 2 Alcoholics or, I'm sorry, one
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  alcohol, two brothers. Yeah, if they drink and one says
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  1 is an alcoholic and he says because my dad, the other one
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  doesn't drink. And he says because my dad.
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  Yes, right. Yes.
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  And so we we get to determine and choose like the path that we
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  choose and it's. Free will like this is free will
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  like. What was the dysfunction like in
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  your home and when do you remember that Mcflurry moment
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  for you in your life where you decided you were made for more
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  and you were going to do something different and change
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  the generational trauma or generational pattern that you
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  guys that you you witnessed? So with compassion and
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  gratitude, I give grace for how I was raised.
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  But the amount of volatility, the amount of dysfunction, and
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  you know, you talk about alcohol, you talk about, you
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  know, things that a lot of it was the little Lauren rebelling
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  and rejecting this environment. And I was the black sheep when I
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  was 2 years old. I was the isolated 1, you know,
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  soap in the mouth, spanking, beating, all of the things.
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  And I always had this. I'm a super spiritual person
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  now, you know, I've gone through my healing.
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  And, you know, I always remember these whispers that were like,
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  hang on, like you are chosen. Hang on like you got this.
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  And I always wanted that relationship with a mother and a
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  father of sincere love. When I talk about love, I'm not
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  talking about conditional love. I'm talking about that love
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  that's like, I love you for not what you do, but who you are.
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  And that was never developed, obviously within my parents.
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  So they were doing the best that they could.
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  But that that Mcflurry moment for me was there is no way that
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  this is how families are supposed to live.
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  And it was like 678 years old. And I have like stories of, you
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  know, me getting kicked out of school, all of the things.
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  And it was the suppression of all of this anger and
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  frustration and everything that was going on inside of me.
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  I was a little girl. So it's like that is what
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  perpetuated me into this psycho. You called yourself psycho.
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  I don't fail. I don't give.
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  AI will be the maitre, DI will be the CEO.
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  Give it to me, I'll figure it out.
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  That's what built the resiliency for me to literally dictate my
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  own destiny. And if it wasn't for the
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  hardship, that's the greatest teacher of my my life.
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  That's why I say I give gratitude because the lessons is
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  what created this woman, this mother.
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  You know that that only accepts the level of excellence and and
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  it's not like from like success results excellence.
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  It's a level of living like you are not allowed in my field
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  unless you are positive. If you are going to be an
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  alcoholic and you're going to be negative, you're out.
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  Like, I have boundaries at the highest level because of what I
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  had to endure when I was younger.
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  And and you know, we talk about loving compassion, but I feel
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  like for me that the main thing and the Mcflurry moment was
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  family is the most meaningful thing on planet Earth.
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  And we're putting it on the side like mashed potatoes to our
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  steak. Like this is your priority.
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  Work on yourself, own your take responsibility.
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  And I grew up in a family where no one owned it.
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  Hey, I made a mistake. I didn't get it right.
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  I'm working through my stuff. It was, it's the bypassing
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  culture. So when I stepped into
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  motherhood, I'm like, I'm going to own my right now.
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  I'm going to cry. I have to work through this.
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  This is hard. It hurts.
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  My kids get to see me vulnerable.
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  Authentic authenticity is the highest vibration of living.
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  And then I started to realize, wow, I never had that.
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  It was fake love. It was artificial love.
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  It was like, I love you in a card, but not like the heart,
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  the developed heart of pure love.
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  So it was that, hang on. And you know, not to get super
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  woo woo, but I would have these dreams all the time and it'd be
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  it'd be clear visions like just hang on, you got this, keep
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  going, keep going 6781020 like constant.
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  And you know, whether it's angels, God, it was it was very,
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  very evident that I had a purpose that was going to come
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  through from the pain. And I just kept on fighting
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  survivor. I just fought, fought, fought,
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  fought my way, clawed my way. That's why I talk about grit and
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  hustle when we talk about raising kids.
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  Like, no, no, no, like we're not saving and coddling.
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  They have to fall. They need grit.
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  Grit is what creates successful people.
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  I know, you know, that's my first principle of success.
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  You know, I was, I was working on one of my keynotes recently
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  and going through the principles of success of like it all began
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  with grit. That's it.
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  It has to. And then, you know, I think
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  because we, I talk a lot about flow and energetic intelligence
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  and the importance of being aligned and the importance of
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  knowing and living by your values and have it and standing
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  for them no matter what, and standing against the things that
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  you don't stand, stand for. And I think so many people don't
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  even understand what their values are.
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  And we're all living by a set of values, whether we know it or
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  not. But most most of us are living
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  unconsciously by a set of values that we adopted from our
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  parents. So good, yes.
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  And so it's up to us to shift the program and the trajectory
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  of like redefining on the healing journey was like, oh, I
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  got to retrain my brain. Like I am in fight or flight.
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  I am in fight or flight. I am driven by results.
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  I am not good enough. Perfection runs the show.
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  I had to retrain my entire brain, whether that's through
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  affirmative prayer, whether that's through all my
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  affirmations, whether that's through journaling, like that's
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  that to get into the underbelly of like, what are my values?
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  What do I stand for? What are the boundaries that I
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  set for myself because I love myself so deeply, Not because I,
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  I want your approval. No, I'm embodied.
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  That's a journey and people don't want to go through that
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  journey. And and that's the issue.
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  So we talk about parenting, like leveling up your life.
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  It takes work. Like you can't parent the same
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  way that your parents raised you.
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  That world doesn't exist. Like if you actually think
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  you're going to, it doesn't. So you have to look at yourself
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  at it like first and go, OK, am I an aligned leader?
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  Do I have values? Do I have culture?
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  Do I have standards for myself or, or I mean, am I robotically
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  going through this motion of life?
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  And the majority of people, they are, they don't even realize it.
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  Do you like your job? No, I don't, but I collect a
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  paycheck. Well, can change it.
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  Do the work to change it. You have one life, the most
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  important thing like in your life, that's like 1/2 of your
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  life you're giving away to a career that you hate and you're
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  not fulfilled. You have anxiety, you have
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  stress. It's because you're not.
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  You're not connected to your soul and your spirit.
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  And This is why we see so much unhappiness.
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  What is it? It's like 92% of people walking
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  around are unhappy. That means 8% are actually
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  living aligned. It's so sad.
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  That's so scary. My husband was also telling me
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  not to get super deep, but he was saying like 40 every 43
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  seconds someone kills themself in America right now.
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  Like we got a problem. So we talk about business.
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  When we talk about success, it's like look at yourself, like go
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  back within and go, OK, what are the things that I need to work
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  on? What are the things that I stand
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  for? Like that is what creates the
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  trajectory of success. How do you run a company without
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  that? You don't so like that.
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  That to me is the the paradigm shift in raising leaders like
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  people with autonomy to choose. Like my kids.
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  Never once have I spoken over them.
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  Never once like they are the most resilient.
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  Like the way that they're so embodied, their emotional
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  intelligence, they can hold a conversation better than a 50
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  year old person right now. Like they are embodied.
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  Why? Mindful, spiritual, emotional,
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  physical, all of those characteristics have been
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  developed within them because those are the standards that we
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  set in the home. Like your kids disrespecting you
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  because you don't respect yourself.
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  Hold the standard. Get clear with your values.
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  Do you even love yourself as a mother?
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  But you want your kid to listen to you?
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  He doesn't respect you. Like get in your power.
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  So much. So much for impact.
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  Yeah. So when you, because you had
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  four kids, you adopted your husband's two children at 22 and
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  then you had two more. So by 25 your Co founder and
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  executive of your own company that was growing rapidly, which
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  was a media outdoor advertising company and then you had four
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  children. What broke were you became so
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  obsessed with the family unit and the family system, Like what
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  was going wrong while you were trying to lead and scale such a
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  successful company while grow. It's an incredible family and a
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  great marriage and and your children and you're 25, like
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  you're still trying to figure out your own stuff.
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  And I'm sure you were healing from your own baggage and and
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  trauma and and pain and anger and all of these things that I
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  know we're, we're probably pretty similar personality wise.
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  And I just like, shut off the emotion, shoved it down, worked
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  harder. We bring in the masculine.
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  The masculine is like, let's go. We got kissed and and actually
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  like I was masculine driven. I didn't have a feminine side.
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  Like you can't get close to me, I will up.
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  Yeah. And that was like my husband
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  used to say, like she has seven brick walls around her.
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  Like literally like it was like it's so much easier for me to
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  work with guys because there is no emotion.
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  But I'm like, wait a second, I am a Co creator.
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  Like I'm a woman. I need to tap into my feminine
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  energy. That's like a superpower.
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  But you're saying what broke? So you know.
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  Or what was broken that needed to be?
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  Yeah, my two boys that I adopted, like this is again, a
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  dream. I'm very guided and I trust the
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  guidance. That's another thing is that
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  intuition, that gut voice is so runs my life.
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  And I was working at CBS in LA. This is actually really good.
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  So no, no, no, no. Let me tell you this part.
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  This is the best part. So Arizona played soccer, did
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  everything on paper, scholarship, newspaper articles.
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  Why am I going to Las Vegas to rage in nightclubs every
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  weekend? I'm flying from U of A to Vegas
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  to rich. This has been like the wind and
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  tryst and all these things, right?
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  I'm trying to escape my reality. I was in this prison.
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  I was in this construct, you know, imagine playing a sport,
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  you know, since you were 6 all the way.
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  I didn't I didn't have anything else that I did.
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  So I finally got the scholarship.
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  I went to school and I literally was like, I'm going to lose my
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  mind. And so I'm going to to Vegas and
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  I'm raging and I'm having the time of my life, private jets
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  doing all the things. And I, I kept on like having
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  these epiphanies, like there is no way that I came to this
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  planet to be doing this. So the book was gifted to me,
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  the secret, and I'll never forget it was my grandparents
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  who showed up to my house, to my apartment.
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  I was so hungover. And I answer the door.
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  I'm like, what are you doing here?
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  They're from Argentina. I'm Argentinian and they hand me
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  this gift and it's the secret. Hannah, I kid you not, this is
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  the first time in my life consciousness was actually a
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  thing. I never read books.
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  There was no wisdom, there was no guidance.
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  Like there was no John Wooden pyramid of success, nothing in
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  my home, right? So I'm like flying by the seat
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  of my pants thinking that this is life.
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  I swear to God, the book I set down falls on the ground and it
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  opens and it says this universe is run by the law of cause and
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  effect, law of attraction, law of manifestation, what you think
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  you become. I swear to God, I said out loud,
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  I am so like my whole life was my ego like what's in it for me?
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  Do it like the masculine, all of that.
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  And I was like, for the first time in my life, I was thirsty.
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  Like, Oh my God, there's wisdom, there's living principles,
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  there's emotional. Like I, I, I can think things
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  and create my reality. And I just, that's literally
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  what unlocked that old soul I was reminded of.
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  No, no, this isn't coded in you. This is embedded in you.
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  Like that was my first TuneIn. So when we talk about the family
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  dynamic, I was in Vegas, met with the sales manager there.
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  He's like, what are you doing here?
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  You're going to like this this market, billboard sales, He's
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  like you, you got to get out of here.
• 20:00
  Like you're going to annihilate this market.
• 20:01
  You're going to be so bored. You're going to sell everything.
• 20:04
  He's like go back to LA and I'm like, I really don't want to go
• 20:07
  back to LA. Like I'm trying to start my own
• 20:09
  life thinking that I'm like this wise soul.
• 20:11
  I don't know anything but I'll figure it out.
• 20:14
  So I go back to LA. And my husband says this is the
• 20:17
  funniest thing. So what I knew was the spearmint
• 20:20
  rhino, right? So like I saw the spearmint
• 20:23
  rhino these strip clubs in. Vegas with all these.
• 20:26
  Corporate guys, right, so they're all like, you know,
• 20:28
  going out whenever I'm like, what am I going to weird this
• 20:30
  interview? And I'm like whatever I have
• 20:32
  like this full on like white spandex, fake eyelashes, like
• 20:35
  the whole thing. So I go into this interview and
• 20:38
  now remember this is the masculine Lauren, like masculine
• 20:40
  Hannah. Like we don't give a we're going
• 20:41
  to get the job anyways. It doesn't matter.
• 20:43
  Like very, I had a little bit of like gangster and like I just
• 20:46
  like the kind of like whatever tough.
• 20:49
  So I walk into this interview and I'm like, Oh my God, what is
• 20:51
  this? And it's literally a boiler room
• 20:52
  like Mad Men 40 sales executives cubicles, the whole thing like
• 20:57
  robot, a eyes walking around like suit and tie.
• 21:00
  And I'm like, there's no way that I'm supposed to be doing
• 21:02
  this walk into the interview. I meet my husband now husband,
• 21:05
  and I'm like, what do you like? What is this about?
• 21:08
  And he's like, what do you mean? Like I'm interviewing you and
• 21:10
  I'm just like a total renegade. I don't care.
• 21:12
  I don't care if I get the job. I don't care.
• 21:15
  So Long story short, I, I get the job, they hire me.
• 21:19
  So they're like, she's going to be a nightmare.
• 21:21
  She's going to be #1 in a year crush.
• 21:23
  I'm on my seat, like at my desk. Like, are we doing the deal?
• 21:26
  Like Jerry Maguire, right. Everybody's hating me, whatever.
• 21:30
  And I start to realize like this construct of corporate America,
• 21:33
  and This is why I was in this environment, because I was like,
• 21:37
  forecasting my future, going OK, I see the lady that's 50 years
• 21:40
  old. She's been here for 20 years.
• 21:41
  Like, look like that will not be you.
• 21:44
  And I start lifting up the hood of the car in this corporate
• 21:46
  environment and I'm like, there's no way that I'm going to
• 21:50
  be doing this. So they fire me after a year.
• 21:52
  Why they fire you? They fire me because I'll tell
• 21:54
  you so. So in the interim of that, Brad,
• 21:58
  who's my now husband, was the local sales manager and he had a
• 22:02
  devastation in his life. His wife passed away and that
• 22:07
  the time his boys were four and six and he played pro tennis and
• 22:10
  I was soccer. So we were both very driven
• 22:12
  discipline type of individuals, right.
• 22:14
  So we really we really connected through that.
• 22:16
  Like I would not leave the office without making 100 cold
• 22:19
  calls a day. Like that's how psycho I was
• 22:21
  straight every single day like never.
• 22:24
  I would be the last one at my desk like that psycho Ness.
• 22:27
  So when that happened with Brad, I had this again.
• 22:31
  That dream was like you're going to be with this guy.
• 22:35
  I'm like, there's no way. We are 16 years different.
• 22:37
  So 30 to 37, I'm like, there's no way.
• 22:40
  And Fast forward, I ended up adopting his kids a year and a
• 22:44
  half later. When that took place, I was
• 22:46
  like, OK, I'm still a child now. I'm mothering these kids.
• 22:52
  And for me, I looked at my life and this is like where the
• 22:56
  secret comes in, where I was like, if I could be the child
• 22:59
  all over again, what would little Lauren want?
• 23:03
  Middle of the night, 200 pages of IP, I wrote out the entire
• 23:07
  system. It was completely downloaded
• 23:09
  into me. I mean, I know how spiritual it
• 23:10
  was, completely downloaded it. That was my activation point.
• 23:14
  And when I talk about, like, what happened, I started to put
• 23:19
  myself in the position of Nathan Ryan.
• 23:22
  No, no, like, I don't want a boss.
• 23:23
  I want someone to connect with me, someone to lead me, a life
• 23:26
  coach to guide me. OK, So what does that entail?
• 23:29
  Personal development. I have to work on myself.
• 23:31
  What does that entail? Shifting the neural pathways
• 23:34
  within my brain to start to understand that every single
• 23:37
  habit that I do consistently stacks up.
• 23:40
  This is what opened up my whole world to the happy life system,
• 23:44
  obviously. But the main thing was that
• 23:46
  moment of I'm not stepping into parenting, I'm stepping into
• 23:51
  leadership. And I needed to do the work
• 23:54
  myself. And that's really when I went on
• 23:56
  the quest. I mean, everything from Bhagavad
• 23:58
  Gita to Yogananda to Confucius to Socrates to Plato, I was
• 24:03
  thirsty for the wisdom to bring into my home because I knew what
• 24:07
  happened to me when I was younger.
• 24:09
  I would never, ever, ever let that happen to my children.
• 24:12
  And this is when the system was birthed and I started literally
• 24:16
  activating the system in my home.
• 24:18
  It's like a real life system you implement.
• 24:20
  They choose. I talk about chores.
• 24:23
  Chores is a mundane but necessary task.
• 24:24
  And language is a vibration in a frequency.
• 24:27
  And what people don't understand, they're casting
• 24:29
  spells in their environment every single day.
• 24:31
  The way they talk about themselves, how they talk to
• 24:33
  their kids, all the things. So I was like, I can't, I have
• 24:37
  to speak the right language to my kids.
• 24:39
  And that's when I started working on language.
• 24:41
  Bruce Lipton, you know, understanding really the
• 24:43
  frequency of language and this is what's, you know, getting you
• 24:47
  a response of harmony or disconnection.
• 24:50
  That's like the first foundation of the home.
• 24:53
  So I literally at 22 started implementing it the next day.
• 24:57
  That's amazing. And then I had my daughter a
• 25:01
  year later, almost died. C-section emergency C-section,
• 25:04
  boom, lights out, Was in bed three months building my
• 25:07
  company. And then I had my son 15 months
• 25:10
  later. So I was 25 with four kids.
• 25:12
  And you talk about that breakdown moment where I was
• 25:16
  like, I'm going to go crazy. Like I have to have order me and
• 25:21
  chaos like it's it does not exist.
• 25:23
  Like if you come into my home, it's Feng shui.
• 25:25
  D Everyone has a rhythm, music is playing, Plants are like
• 25:30
  everything. And so when I started looking at
• 25:33
  human, I was like, they need training, they need their own
• 25:38
  system every single day so they can thrive.
• 25:41
  And that was where it was like 4 kids, 25 gave me the freedom to
• 25:46
  work on my company because everyone knew the direction of
• 25:49
  the home. And it's literally giving me my
• 25:53
  life. So what is the Happy life system
• 25:57
  like? Break it down.
• 25:58
  And what are your pillars? Because I know you have your
• 26:00
  pillars. So walk us through how it works
• 26:02
  and how you really operate your home.
• 26:04
  Yeah. So I want you to imagine, you
• 26:07
  know, schools, schools teach math and science and, you know,
• 26:12
  English and writing. And when I started to really
• 26:15
  work on this, I was like, where is the school for character and
• 26:19
  life development? Because again, we had everything
• 26:22
  on paper. We did what they said in class,
• 26:24
  but there's a hole in my heart. I'm like, wait, master thyself
• 26:28
  first and then master life. And that's where I was like, we
• 26:32
  need pillars. So home, mastery of your space,
• 26:37
  foundational pillar body, the mastery of your health.
• 26:40
  You can master your space, but if you're eating junk food all
• 26:42
  day, you're not a peak right mind.
• 26:45
  Master your thinking. I have to teach my kids how to
• 26:47
  master their mindset, how to live world ready, how to
• 26:51
  understand that when they get knocked down, that's an
• 26:53
  opportunity for elevation. Peacetime, the mastery of
• 26:56
  harmony. Mindfulness, social emotional
• 26:57
  intelligence. I start building this whole
• 27:00
  thing for life and these 8 pillars were literally what I
• 27:04
  needed. You can't tell someone to go be
• 27:06
  courageous. They have to intrinsically
• 27:08
  embody courage. What is courage?
• 27:11
  The mastery of your power. So within the system is not only
• 27:16
  my teachings and my perspective and the wisdom that I'm pouring
• 27:19
  into it. I'm about implementation.
• 27:22
  So with the system, I have micro skills and habits that the kids
• 27:26
  practice and our whole home does.
• 27:27
  We all have profiles. It's a whole family ecosystem.
• 27:31
  So for the home, for example, you know, I talk about
• 27:34
  successful families when I'm interviewed.
• 27:36
  Successful families teach their kids the deeper understanding of
• 27:40
  why they do the things they do. So our matrix living was make
• 27:44
  your bed because I said so. When a human understands why
• 27:46
  they do the things they do, they have control over the
• 27:48
  experience. It's a dopamine effect.
• 27:49
  It's a reward loop. Boom, happy method.
• 27:52
  I invent the happy method. What is it?
• 27:54
  You're making your bed. How do you make your bed?
• 27:58
  The education fluff, the pillows give gratitude.
• 28:01
  When you give gratitude, you're a happier person.
• 28:03
  The why? What is the life benefit of you
• 28:06
  doing that every day? Your bed is where you sleep and
• 28:08
  you manifest your dreams. Love it, give it gratitude.
• 28:13
  So all my pillars, 150 skills and habits with my happy method.
• 28:18
  Then they have their profiles, they choose which pillars
• 28:20
  they're working on, and it's an entire gamified structure.
• 28:23
  I wanted to play. I was like, if I'm going to
• 28:26
  create a system, I want to be in joy every day.
• 28:27
  I want to be in magic. I want to build my life in
• 28:30
  happiness. And so I talk about like happy
• 28:33
  life system. No, Happiness to me is the mud
• 28:35
  and the mark. Happiness to me is the courage
• 28:37
  to overcome. Happiness to me is showing up
• 28:39
  every day and putting in the effort.
• 28:42
  That's why it's a happy life system.
• 28:44
  You don't look at life as happy butterflies and woo woo.
• 28:47
  No, the days that you don't want to get up, the days that you
• 28:50
  don't want to go work out like the body pillar.
• 28:53
  My kids are, you know, running sprints in our backyard at three
• 28:55
  years old because they understand they got to move the
• 28:59
  energy through their body so that they could live happier.
• 29:03
  So it's a system for self mastery and life development.
• 29:07
  It's the road map so that you're not that lost kid AT181920
• 29:12
  going. I, I, I went to college.
• 29:15
  Now what the fuck am I doing on this planet?
• 29:18
  And that's what we're seeing, you know.
• 29:21
  Oh, yeah, I know. And I think about just all of
• 29:24
  the trauma and chaos of school. I would just publish school.
• 29:29
  And you know, half the kids at the school were higher income
• 29:33
  and half were lower income. And so I got to see all sides.
• 29:37
  But I don't. I mean, we didn't learn anything
• 29:39
  there. Anything's bad.
• 29:41
  Funny because your viewers are going to love this, but I always
• 29:43
  talk about this but I'm like, who actually gives a fuck about
• 29:45
  George Washington's broken tooth, right?
• 29:47
  Like, we're still teaching this history.
• 29:50
  Think about that. Like, what can I actually do
• 29:52
  with that? How can I practically utilize
• 29:54
  that to better my life? Financial literacy, build a
• 29:57
  business. My daughter is launching a
• 29:59
  company right now. She's 15 years old, sweet like
• 30:02
  honey. She did the embroidery, She
• 30:04
  sourced the hoodies. She built the website.
• 30:06
  She has social media. She's 15 years old.
• 30:10
  When they were little, they have books on Amazon.
• 30:13
  Like, school is enslavement, school is to create factory
• 30:17
  workers. This is the paradigm shift is
• 30:20
  like, if you actually think going to college, like it's like
• 30:23
  a doctor, they go to college to learn how to prescribe.
• 30:26
  They're not healers, They're learning from a book.
• 30:29
  Like to be a true healer, you have to understand like how to
• 30:32
  actually heal the human body. And so when you look at like the
• 30:36
  construct of school I was just talking about, this is when you
• 30:39
  come to this Earth, you get a birth certificate with a number
• 30:43
  on it. The stats show that when they
• 30:45
  look at your number, they're making roughly around $1.8
• 30:49
  million off of you being in the system.
• 30:52
  That's the matrix. So like when we talk about, you
• 30:55
  know, 3D consciousness, we're moving into 5D, we're moving
• 30:58
  into 7D. Like the awakening is to build
• 31:01
  businesses that create abundance, to raise kids that
• 31:04
  thrive and are happy. And we're in alignment to serve
• 31:08
  the planet, not take from the planet.
• 31:10
  That's what's like you're waiting for promotion 10 years.
• 31:14
  Like, think about how ridiculous this is.
• 31:16
  I'm 30 years old, but I'm going to stay with a company to wait
• 31:19
  for my retirement and my pension.
• 31:21
  But you could die tomorrow and you're not happy.
• 31:23
  I. Know.
• 31:24
  It's sick. It is, but it's a conditioning
• 31:27
  and that's why like you have these shows because this type of
• 31:30
  conversation, people start to go aha.
• 31:32
  And for me it was that awakening 25 years old with four kids.
• 31:37
  It sat on my mirror. You are the creator of your
• 31:41
  life. God has given you free will.
• 31:45
  You will create your destiny that you know you will create
• 31:47
  your destiny. You can travel and work.
• 31:51
  I travel all around the world. My kids have private teachers
• 31:54
  and they work alongside of me building companies.
• 31:56
  That's amazing. That's yes, we hire private
• 32:00
  teachers for them and they they customize their curriculum so
• 32:04
  the teacher works with them on what they want to build.
• 32:06
  So for example, Peyton wants to launch this company.
• 32:09
  She's an artist. So she made these these hoodies
• 32:12
  called sweet like honey, it's all affirmations and do you be
• 32:16
  you live you and it's in purpose and alignment.
• 32:19
  But she's working with her teacher right now literally on
• 32:22
  like the PNL launching the company sourcing, I mean.
• 32:27
  This is This is. Giving her full autonomy to
• 32:30
  dictate her future. And so for us, they're not
• 32:35
  mimicking. What we say.
• 32:38
  They're watching what we do, so they have been alongside me and
• 32:41
  my husband building our companies.
• 32:43
  And so to them, it's not like it's not too far of a stretch.
• 32:46
  It's like, well, I could do this too.
• 32:49
  And so private teachers for us is giving us, you know, giving
• 32:53
  us. The power to keep our family
• 32:55
  unit so tight and I would never you know, I I hit my daughter
• 33:00
  went to Montessori and I'll never forget this.
• 33:02
  This was like this aha moment where I was like OK I'm.
• 33:05
  A leader I'm whenever you put your kid in the school, whether
• 33:07
  it's a private school, it's like a it's like a, it's like a
• 33:11
  private school. They have them all over and it's
• 33:13
  supposed to be like. It's more like conscious or
• 33:16
  aware. And I remember I, I, my kids
• 33:18
  have never been vaccinated. They've never ever seen a doctor
• 33:22
  in their life. I'm an herbalist.
• 33:23
  I'm like a doctor. I heal them naturally through
• 33:25
  everything. And I remember I packed a green
• 33:29
  bar for my daughter and she was like 6.
• 33:33
  And the principal calls me and she's like, can you meet me down
• 33:35
  at the, the school? And I'm like, what's going on?
• 33:37
  She goes, oh, I looked in Peyton's lunch bag and she can't
• 33:40
  have this at the school. I'm like, what?
• 33:42
  So I go down there and I'm sitting and I'm looking what's
• 33:47
  in the classroom. They have cheddar cheese bites,
• 33:49
  goldfish, all this toxic bull with all these preservatives and
• 33:53
  all this stuff. The lady calls me into the
• 33:55
  office unit. She's £300.
• 33:59
  She has a snicker bar. And a Diet Coke on her desk,
• 34:03
  She's trying to tell me about what I feed my kid.
• 34:07
  And I was like, I'm part of a construct again.
• 34:10
  It's their construct and I have to buy into what they want.
• 34:13
  And that was the moment where I was like, no, no, no, I'm going
• 34:16
  to educate my kids. I'm going to pour into my kids
• 34:18
  faith-based consciousness, mindfulness.
• 34:21
  I'm the principal of how I rock with my family.
• 34:24
  And that was that was the moment.
• 34:26
  And that's. Where you pulled them.
• 34:27
  Out of school, they were little, but like I was like, We tried
• 34:30
  Waldorf. We tried another school.
• 34:31
  Raising pussies. Yeah.
• 34:34
  I'm like, bro, you can't sandpaper a kids eye and then
• 34:37
  have them knit a sweater. That's not the type of
• 34:41
  discipline. It's like, what?
• 34:44
  So I think control, control of what's programmed in their mind,
• 34:49
  control of their self belief. Like every morning they wake up,
• 34:52
  they do their affirmations. How do you sleep?
• 34:54
  Like they're lit up on life and that that was a power that I
• 34:58
  wanted to give them so their light was never dimmed.
• 35:01
  I love it so much. Well, actually I have a question
• 35:03
  about this because I always thought about homeschool.
• 35:05
  A lot of I'm in a lot of networks and masterminds and
• 35:09
  around a lot of entrepreneurs and many of them are electing to
• 35:12
  homeschool now. Do you is there, what's the
• 35:15
  challenge with like them being able to do team sports or
• 35:18
  anything like that? That was one question I was had
• 35:20
  is how would you, how do you keep them socially?
• 35:22
  Because I think the only thing from school that is even
• 35:26
  beneficial is like the social aspect of getting to interact
• 35:29
  with other people. How do you solve that in a
• 35:32
  homeschooling situation? I'm like listening but I want to
• 35:34
  say something so bad. Show me your network and I'll
• 35:37
  show you who you are. I don't care about social.
• 35:42
  My kids are involved in, you know, painting the show
• 35:45
  jumpsuit. I, I don't need more people in
• 35:48
  my field that could influence our, our family.
• 35:52
  And I think a lot of that is I wanted to get them so strong.
• 35:57
  So my, my son, he's a, a huge tennis player and he plays
• 36:01
  nationally and he's, he's gone to these academies in these
• 36:05
  clinics and he is so mind blown by how these kids treat
• 36:11
  authority, who they are. And I, I wanted to get them so
• 36:16
  strong and so embodied that when they saw that they wouldn't rock
• 36:19
  with peer pressure, they, they don't even know what that is.
• 36:21
  Like you could ask my kids normal questions and they'd be
• 36:23
  like, what's that like? They don't, they don't actually
• 36:25
  know what that is or certain things.
• 36:26
  So the social aspect for me and for everybody that's listening
• 36:30
  is be so mindful of where you put your kid.
• 36:35
  Who's the leader, who's the coach.
• 36:37
  Fat ass coaches are telling you to run.
• 36:39
  It's like you run like you're not a role model.
• 36:42
  I'm sorry. Like I used to have soccer
• 36:44
  coaches that tell me to run. The guy's like 200 lbs.
• 36:47
  I'm like, like you are the role model, right?
• 36:50
  So with social like my kids now, they hang around like 20, their
• 36:55
  best friends are 22/23/24. So I always put them around
• 36:58
  elevated individuals so they can grow in wisdom.
• 37:01
  And you talk about Elena Cardone, right?
• 37:02
  Like even her kids are around, you know, I've seen how they
• 37:06
  talk. You know, they're very embodied.
• 37:08
  They're they understand, they, they can hold conversation.
• 37:11
  It's because they're around highly elevated individuals.
• 37:14
  A lot of these kids nowadays, they're not being taught the
• 37:17
  values they're on this social media, the Tik Toks.
• 37:21
  They're all want to be the influencer.
• 37:24
  So is it something within us that we feel they need to be
• 37:26
  social? It doesn't really matter.
• 37:29
  Like integration yes. Why is that such a big thing for
• 37:32
  people? And they always say like, Oh my
• 37:35
  God, well, how do they make friends?
• 37:36
  It's like at one point they'll be older, they'll figure it out
• 37:39
  like it's going to be fine. It it's not, It was never a big
• 37:42
  need for me. And, and another thing is when
• 37:45
  they were in school, I'm going to say this in a really nice
• 37:50
  way. They, they had people over and
• 37:55
  like, I would literally have to call the mom and be like, you
• 37:58
  have to come pick your kid up. Like your kid is on candy energy
• 38:03
  drinks. They want to go bowling.
• 38:04
  They want to. I'm like, chill the out, like
• 38:06
  sit down. Like, you know what I mean?
• 38:09
  Like it's a different generation, It's a different
• 38:11
  time. So it's like your kid is a
• 38:13
  sponge. So if you put them around the
• 38:15
  wrong energy, well, so and so has an iPad.
• 38:17
  I want an iPad. No, I would say to me, I was
• 38:21
  like, it's like hard no. Like my daughter, she's had
• 38:23
  friends, but she's had to break the relationship because she's
• 38:27
  always healing because of her elevation.
• 38:29
  She's always helping and healing.
• 38:31
  It's so challenging when you when you raise your kids this
• 38:34
  way, they're not in the matrix of the normal status quo.
• 38:38
  So they have a different perspective on life.
• 38:40
  And so then they become the teacher.
• 38:42
  And she was getting, she was like so exhausted with it.
• 38:45
  So she's like all just my best friends are my horses.
• 38:47
  Yeah, those are my best. Friends too.
• 38:49
  It's so much easier than human. Yeah.
• 38:52
  So I would say don't focus on that, right?
• 38:55
  Focus on the development. Focus on getting your kids so
• 38:58
  rock solid that they manifest the right intentional
• 39:02
  relationships. It's not about the quantity,
• 39:04
  it's the quality of the relationship in your life.
• 39:07
  And we know that based off boundaries and energy and all of
• 39:11
  that. So that's the most important
• 39:12
  thing that I teach our kids, you know?
• 39:15
  And so, I mean, they can still play sports, Yeah.
• 39:18
  Because like Parker has. His friends over from tennis and
• 39:21
  you know, and I love it because he he, you know, he's now 14,
• 39:26
  but it's such a beautiful thing because he's so embodied and he
• 39:29
  knows the direction like he knows the direction of his life.
• 39:31
  So, for example, like, you know, his kids, his friends have
• 39:34
  phones and he's like, mom, don't worry, like, you know, we're
• 39:36
  not, we're not. There's no doom scrolling.
• 39:38
  Like he's, he's aware, he's aware.
• 39:40
  Does he not have a phone? So he, so his friends have a
• 39:43
  phone, He has a phone at the house.
• 39:45
  So it's like, you know, we don't even have like the, the phone in
• 39:47
  the, in the wall anymore. So he has it at the house, but
• 39:50
  he can't take it out. So he doesn't have a phone like
• 39:52
  where he takes out, you know, in public, it stays at home all the
• 39:56
  time, so. How old is?
• 39:57
  He, he's 14. My kids didn't get phones until
• 39:59
  they were 16. That's another big point for me.
• 40:03
  You give your kid a phone, they got a portal to the entire, they
• 40:06
  grew up just like that. So you'd be really careful.
• 40:08
  And I, I have these videos right now that are going viral where
• 40:11
  I'm just like, you're spending hundreds of dollars, you know,
• 40:14
  putting these locks on your kids phones and teach them.
• 40:19
  Teach them these are our standards, like this is our
• 40:22
  value system in our home. Don't, don't go and manage what
• 40:26
  everything they're doing and get their location.
• 40:28
  Like who would want that? I didn't even know what a
• 40:31
  location was until a couple weeks ago.
• 40:33
  Really. Like I didn't because I'm like,
• 40:34
  I've never been on social media other than like what I'm doing
• 40:37
  right now in the world, but I'm like, I'm a private I I don't
• 40:39
  want all that stuff. It's a frequency but parents are
• 40:43
  tracking their kids like 8 year olds with their location.
• 40:46
  Why are you at the park? What are you?
• 40:48
  It's like, let him live. Yeah, yeah.
• 40:51
  The helicopter mom, the helicopter parenting and did do
• 40:55
  you have you studied Dr. Gabramate at?
• 40:56
  All No. OK, so he's a famous Hungarian
• 41:00
  trauma therapist. Wait, I think I know him,
• 41:03
  actually. He's kind of an older man.
• 41:05
  Very. Yes.
• 41:05
  So he was going to be. Yeah.
• 41:07
  So he was going to be at an event that I was speaking at
• 41:10
  with him. I'm.
• 41:10
  I'm, I'm pretty sure he did an interview with Novak Djokovic,
• 41:13
  his wife. I'm pretty sure I know who
• 41:15
  you're talking. Yeah, he talks about.
• 41:17
  Trauma. Yeah, he talks about trauma and
• 41:19
  he said that the primary trauma and all people, and I talk about
• 41:22
  this on my podcast often because when he said this, when he
• 41:24
  taught me this, it really opened a lot for me.
• 41:27
  The primary wound in most people is not feeling seen, heard or
• 41:32
  protected by their parents when they're a child.
• 41:35
  Very good. And that wound is what opens the
• 41:38
  door to other traumas, bigger traumas.
• 41:42
  But he said the pain is the same because the primary wound is the
• 41:46
  same. So, you know, that wound could
• 41:49
  possibly open up the door to worst trauma like abuse or
• 41:53
  sexual abuse or lots of things, right?
• 41:55
  But the wound is the child not feeling seeing her to protect
• 41:59
  it. And that's so.
• 42:01
  Powerful. Yeah.
• 42:02
  That's it though. That's how I think about that.
• 42:03
  Like it's, it's, it's our obligation, like as the leader
• 42:10
  of another human being to protect them at the highest
• 42:14
  level. I don't care if Johnny, John,
• 42:16
  Johnny, blah, blah, blah, hasn't.
• 42:17
  I don't care. Like I, my kids, when I, when I
• 42:22
  say their name, they say, yes, mom.
• 42:24
  They know that the power of love, how much I love them, how
• 42:28
  much I'm going to lead them. I will always tell them like,
• 42:30
  hey, listen, like I have conversations with my kids and
• 42:33
  they will say thank you for making me a better person.
• 42:38
  Seen, heard, you're honored, your opinions matter, but I got
• 42:42
  your back. Like, trust me as your leader.
• 42:44
  And and that's the biggest thing is that like we talk about
• 42:46
  iPhones, we talk about all of these things.
• 42:48
  Parents don't realize that they're making their life so
• 42:52
  much harder. If I, if I told you who's coming
• 42:55
  into my field, it's the saddest thing you would ever see.
• 42:58
  Like people have to fill out forms to get into my event.
• 43:02
  They give me all their problems. Like this is exactly what you
• 43:06
  said. Like I don't know how to do
• 43:08
  this. I'm doing everything I can.
• 43:09
  My kid hits me all punches me in the like.
• 43:12
  No, no, abused from a four year old child, but yet they have an
• 43:16
  iPhone. I'm like, throw it in the trash.
• 43:20
  Reset your life and Fast forward 10 years.
• 43:24
  Who is that person going to be? Do you want to hang out with
• 43:27
  that person? Yeah, well, I think the problem
• 43:30
  is the parents aren't conscious. No 'cause I questioned this,
• 43:35
  right? Even if you teach the parent the
• 43:37
  system to the child, but the parent hasn't healed or
• 43:41
  developed or elevated their own consciousness.
• 43:43
  This is what Doctor Gabramote talks about.
• 43:45
  He said that your parents usually have the best
• 43:48
  intentions. Some are evil of.
• 43:50
  Course, but it is not for a lack of love.
• 43:51
  Right, exactly. It's not for a lack of love.
• 43:53
  But he said when the parent also has the same wound, not feeling
• 43:57
  seeing her or protected from their parents.
• 43:59
  And most of them haven't because life has not been all abundance
• 44:02
  and sunshine forever. Like we're starting to get
• 44:04
  there. Let's.
• 44:04
  Let's be real. But it's been.
• 44:05
  Fight or flight survival, You know, like we were trying to run
• 44:08
  from lions back in the day and. I mean, we're just like up in
• 44:11
  our beds. Who's there?
• 44:12
  And we still have that fight or flight, even though now most
• 44:15
  people in the United States, at least speaking, aren't actually
• 44:18
  going to be chased by a lion or be on the streets or anything
• 44:20
  like that. Like there's enough resources
• 44:22
  out there where pretty much anybody can make it if you
• 44:25
  really put in a good effort, right?
• 44:27
  So But anyway, when they have that wound and they didn't heal
• 44:30
  that they developed those narcissistic tendencies to be
• 44:34
  able to cope in their own life. And then they pass that on to
• 44:36
  their child, which creates that multi generational trauma and
• 44:39
  the child passes that on to their children and their
• 44:41
  children and their children and so.
• 44:43
  Someone has to shift the legacy and that's why in my system the
• 44:46
  first thing you do is go through crack the parenting code.
• 44:49
  So I get you aligned as a leader first.
• 44:52
  So I say it's you first, then you became a parent, then you
• 44:54
  had kids. You first.
• 44:56
  You can't tell your child to go be positive.
• 44:58
  If you're talking about yourself all day.
• 44:59
  It doesn't work. So I literally take them through
• 45:02
  what are the masks that you're wearing, right?
• 45:04
  What are your traumas? What are what are all the things
• 45:06
  that we need to clean up? Let's get the cobwebs out first.
• 45:09
  Then we can be an aligned leader, then we can teach our
• 45:12
  children from this place of mastery, from a place of
• 45:15
  empowerment. So The thing is, is in the space
• 45:17
  that I'm in and I'm like, God, you like I was like literally
• 45:20
  crying the other day and I'm like, why did you give me this
• 45:24
  parenting and kids like as my sole?
• 45:26
  Purpose like. Seriously, because I'm not just
• 45:28
  talking about the parent, it's the parent, it's the spouse,
• 45:31
  it's the kid, it's the grandparent.
• 45:33
  I mean, I'm one on 10 to try to fix the family dynamic,
• 45:36
  transform the family dynamic, right?
• 45:38
  So the parenting isn't about like you parenting your kid.
• 45:42
  This is what this space is, just there's a gap for no one like me
• 45:47
  because they're fixing the behavior.
• 45:49
  Of the child. But they're turning a blind eye
• 45:54
  to where this came from. You're not managing behavior,
• 45:57
  You're shaping greatness, You're shaping you and you're shaping
• 46:01
  your child and you're shaping your family.
• 46:04
  Stop blaming your child for their ups and start looking in
• 46:07
  the mirror of how you're teaching them and how you're
• 46:10
  showing up. And, and it's like, my kid does
• 46:14
  this. My kid doesn't respect me.
• 46:15
  Why? Because I'm like, let's look at
• 46:16
  yourself 1st. And and that's, that's what
• 46:19
  people, they don't. Want to look at their own their
• 46:22
  So the legacy shifters, I call us the legacy shifters because
• 46:25
  that's us where we stop the cycle of dysfunction and we pave
• 46:29
  that new way and that takes immense courage.
• 46:33
  It takes immense courage and you shed.
• 46:36
  You shed a lot in your life, but it gives you you reclaim that
• 46:40
  freedom. And I think that's what people
• 46:42
  are so scared of because that subconscious.
• 46:45
  Mind that program. The mind wants to keep you in
• 46:47
  that same comfort zone. That expansion is scary.
• 46:52
  Like people to to live on the edge of fear is, I mean, like
• 46:55
  they, they won't even push themselves into that.
• 46:57
  And So what I see when it comes to their kids is can I even do
• 47:01
  this? I'm like, you got one shot at
• 47:04
  being a parent. Yes, you can.
• 47:05
  You're that powerful, like get your power back.
• 47:09
  So family dynamic is really like you're growing alongside your
• 47:14
  children. You're you don't stop growing so
• 47:18
  personally developing yourself every single day is a priority.
• 47:21
  If you want your kids to be elevated individuals.
• 47:24
  There's no other way around it. Like it's, it's such a it's such
• 47:29
  a backwards like world we're living in this whole parenting
• 47:32
  and family dynamic. People go see a family therapist
• 47:35
  for an hour and they prescribe you what to do.
• 47:37
  But but like, it's the ecosystem, it's how everybody's
• 47:41
  operating. This is where structure and
• 47:42
  system, you know, structure, the systems give you the foundation
• 47:47
  to create success and get results.
• 47:50
  Like you're leaving that up to chance.
• 47:53
  That's why you're in chaos. That's why you live in
• 47:55
  mediocracy. Like you can't leave that up to
• 47:57
  chance. That's your whole life.
• 47:59
  I have CE OS that work with me. They don't want to go home.
• 48:02
  It's that bad. Their house is literally on
• 48:05
  fire, yelling, screaming, The kids don't listen.
• 48:09
  So what do they do? They hide and bury and work.
• 48:11
  So they're working 20 hour days. They'd rather be out the office
• 48:13
  working than even home with their family.
• 48:17
  It's like it's backwards. Like leave the driveway going
• 48:21
  bye guys, I love you have the most amazing day.
• 48:24
  Like what a gift and be able to flow.
• 48:27
  Be in the flow state into your career.
• 48:29
  Not the opposite. You're hiding at your job and
• 48:32
  your most important thing you can't even stand the people
• 48:34
  you're living with. It's nuts.
• 48:38
  It is nuts. And that's what one of my
• 48:40
  mentors, he's a a billionaire and he had a lot of chaos in his
• 48:43
  house even though he had a lot of money and financial success.
• 48:47
  And there's a gentleman by the name of Rich Christensen who's a
• 48:51
  a coach of mine as well, who traded with Stephen Covey.
• 48:53
  And he's the one that. Teaches like he built and sold.
• 48:56
  He's highly effective. 7/7 Yeah, I love Stephen Covey.
• 49:00
  Yeah, Stephen Covey is more of the principles person.
• 49:03
  And then Rich Christensen is more values, which principles
• 49:07
  are like definite truth, right? Principles of life, principles
• 49:10
  of success, principles of love. Values are more personal.
• 49:14
  What do you stand for? What do I stand for?
• 49:16
  And that's not going to be exactly the same as everyone
• 49:18
  else. So they're more personal.
• 49:19
  And he said the same thing as so many people, like so many of the
• 49:23
  richest people are the sickest people because they really never
• 49:27
  a lot of driven entrepreneurs and driven people leaders.
• 49:33
  That drive came from a lack of something right, like
• 49:36
  unworthiness, not feeling good enough, having to perform.
• 49:40
  Exactly. And so that can so many of those
• 49:43
  people that have financial success and business success
• 49:46
  fail in their relationships, in their marriages and in their
• 49:50
  families. And that's where he became
• 49:52
  obsessed with this concept of values because he said they need
• 49:57
  to have aligned values in the family unit.
• 49:59
  OK. Are you ready for this?
• 50:00
  Yes, you are not allowed to move into my membership without
• 50:07
  establishing your family operating agreement.
• 50:09
  I literally have a contract where you sit down with your
• 50:12
  family and you go, what do we stand for?
• 50:14
  Your values, your motto and your mission statement.
• 50:17
  So like we talked about CEO stuff.
• 50:19
  That's the stuff that I brought into the home.
• 50:21
  So what does that build? That builds culture, right?
• 50:24
  You, you build identity family circle.
• 50:26
  It's part of my system. It's a breakdown to
• 50:29
  breakthroughs. Every week we sit, we talk about
• 50:32
  it. Hey, Mom, I interview my kids.
• 50:35
  How did I? How did I show up this week for
• 50:36
  you? What do I need to work on?
• 50:38
  Where? We at meeting.
• 50:41
  What do I need to work on? ID yes I issues discussions.
• 50:45
  Yes, yes. And like, I remember we'd all do
• 50:47
  it and then we would end it with like, OK, if you could, if you
• 50:51
  could say to one person what animal they are right now, what
• 50:53
  animal, what animal do they represent right now, like
• 50:55
  energetically? And we would laugh and they
• 50:57
  would say, well, you know, you're an eagle because mom,
• 51:00
  you're flying this week. And it was like this wave for
• 51:03
  connection and like depth and meaning because like the values,
• 51:08
  right? And the principles that we were
• 51:09
  establishing, they were thriving from that.
• 51:12
  They wanted that. And that's what people don't
• 51:14
  really understand is your children want the structure,
• 51:17
  they want the discipline. We thrive off a discipline.
• 51:19
  We want to know a true north. Kids need that.
• 51:23
  And so when we talk about like Atomic Habits, James Clear, if
• 51:27
  you look at what like what he's actually saying, it's like we
• 51:30
  don't rise to our goals. We fall to our systems.
• 51:35
  It's this concept of like the the, the tradition, like what
• 51:39
  are you? And we talked about breaking
• 51:41
  cycles going into this traditional format of just
• 51:43
  because my parents did it, I'm going to do it.
• 51:45
  It's like, yeah, but do you like doing that thing?
• 51:49
  No, you don't. You don't like it, so it doesn't
• 51:52
  align with your values, but you're just doing it faking that
• 51:56
  you like it. You're inauthentic to who you
• 51:58
  are. What does that create?
• 52:00
  Suppression, right. Negative feelings and emotions.
• 52:03
  You got to clear that out. I remember Thanksgiving, I was
• 52:05
  like, this is not fun. Like I had everyone over my
• 52:10
  family cooking the Turkey and I'm like, what am I doing?
• 52:15
  This is a program running my life and I'm going to interrupt
• 52:18
  this pattern right now. The next month I took my and the
• 52:20
  next year I took my nanny. We went to the Bacar in Santa
• 52:23
  Barbara. We got sweets.
• 52:25
  We were on the beach. I was like new tradition guys.
• 52:27
  Yes. You know what I mean?
• 52:28
  Like I'm not doing this. It's like 4 Christmases.
• 52:31
  Have you seen that movie? Yeah, yeah.
• 52:32
  I was like, this is my life. Like I'm not just going to do
• 52:36
  this because this is what Hallmark tells me to do.
• 52:39
  Like wake up, Lauren, what fulfills you?
• 52:42
  And that's what I've been building from is like that place
• 52:45
  of intentional fulfillment and everything you do.
• 52:49
  So I love that you know, about like the anchors, like a values
• 52:54
  and principles and standards and why they're so important to the
• 52:57
  human experience. Because if you're not living in
• 53:00
  alignment, you're living out of integrity, you're going to
• 53:02
  continue to attract chaos into your life because there's
• 53:04
  resistance and you're disconnected.
• 53:06
  And so that's why I'm so passionate about that, because
• 53:09
  when I was out of alignment, didn't know my values, wasn't
• 53:12
  living in flow, then my life was everything.
• 53:17
  I mean, I was making money, I was pushing the needle forward.
• 53:22
  I was building my business. I was doing those things, but I
• 53:24
  was miserable inside. And I had toxic relationships,
• 53:27
  mostly with myself. I didn't have great health.
• 53:29
  I didn't have good energy. I was chasing things for reasons
• 53:33
  that weren't, like out of fear and scarcity, really, not out of
• 53:37
  abundance and love and passion and service.
• 53:39
  And I didn't feel that intuition of connectedness.
• 53:42
  I was always struggling to figure out, is this the right
• 53:44
  decision? Is this the right person?
• 53:46
  Is this the right thing I should be doing?
• 53:48
  Overthinking, just overthinking everything, not allowing
• 53:51
  yourself to surrender like that. That is a whole nother thing
• 53:54
  that we talk about. Like you know when you go
• 53:56
  through that pain or you know, whatever, on whatever scale, it
• 53:59
  doesn't matter. Like we are all going going
• 54:02
  through this experience of life, but I think the biggest thing
• 54:04
  that I caught myself doing was the force state.
• 54:08
  I was forcing results. I was in the do because what I
• 54:11
  believed is if I didn't do, then I would never get I would never
• 54:15
  be worthy enough that the shift happened when I was like I'm
• 54:18
  abundant when I can get into alignment with who I am as an
• 54:22
  and I have days that I'm not perfect.
• 54:24
  The other day I was crying. I'm like, I'm ugly.
• 54:26
  My kids are like mom, like seriously, when is it going to
• 54:29
  stop? You have dysmorphia and it's
• 54:31
  that wound, that childhood like it was, it was not who I was, it
• 54:35
  was what I did. It was the results that I did.
• 54:38
  So I got to look beautiful. I got to be beautiful.
• 54:40
  I got to be fit. Like I was anorexic, I was
• 54:42
  bulimic, like all of the things. And then you start to tap into
• 54:46
  going, what am I doing this for? And it's really the relationship
• 54:50
  you have with yourself determines the outcomes in your
• 54:53
  life. So you talk about kids, get to
• 54:56
  love yourself, get to know yourself, right?
• 54:59
  Master yourself first. We're all out here.
• 55:02
  So you talk about your billionaire, the house, the
• 55:05
  cars, the business. It's all out here.
• 55:07
  It's external happiness. But what is that without no
• 55:10
  peace? Nothing.
• 55:12
  You can't sleep at night, you have to take all this magnesium
• 55:14
  or you're on Xanax or whatever. Do you know what I mean?
• 55:16
  Like what, what, what is that? What is that life?
• 55:19
  It's like literally that inner battle.
• 55:21
  I talk about slaying the dragon. And when I started to work on
• 55:24
  mindset and, you know, rewiring my brain, I would literally say
• 55:27
  out loud, I would literally be in my car.
• 55:30
  I'd pull the mirror down and I'd be like, you've won for so long,
• 55:34
  but I'm slaying your ass. I am a new.
• 55:36
  And I would have to like, speak it into existence or that little
• 55:40
  voice kept on getting bigger. Oh, yeah, you just closed that
• 55:43
  $5,000,000 deal with Burberry, but you're not good enough
• 55:45
  because you just made 70 calls. You didn't make 100 calls today.
• 55:48
  It's like, keep talking. And so we would, we always say
• 55:52
  put the dog on a leash. So like my son on the tennis
• 55:55
  court, he's gone through this, like, lack of confidence, you
• 55:58
  know, superstitious. He's biting his nails.
• 56:01
  I mean, it's an intense sport. And we're like, put the dog on a
• 56:04
  leash. The dog's just getting a little
• 56:06
  bit louder. You know, you got to interrupt
• 56:08
  that pattern. He knows all about the conscious
• 56:10
  and subconscious mind. But if you don't have people
• 56:12
  around you reminding you of that, it takes over.
• 56:15
  But like, your human identity is really about what you think
• 56:19
  every single day. You are like, you were saying,
• 56:21
  like, you're miserable, but you're putting on this mask that
• 56:23
  everything's OK. It's like keeping up with the
• 56:25
  Joneses, right? No.
• 56:28
  Well, I think people don't even realize that there is a
• 56:31
  different way to feel, there's a different way to be because
• 56:35
  we're programmed to think a certain way, act a certain way,
• 56:39
  be a certain way, talk a certain way, all of these things, right?
• 56:44
  And so for me, I only knew what I knew.
• 56:49
  And I didn't know I could actually be happy when I woke up
• 56:52
  or when I went to bed or sleep without having nightmares.
• 56:56
  Or have amazing relationships in my life, or love what I do, or
• 56:59
  have an abundance of wealth, or be able to travel the world and
• 57:01
  be able to like, choose how my day looked every day.
• 57:04
  I didn't know that that was even a possibility because my reality
• 57:07
  was just heaviness and darkness and anxiety and fear and
• 57:10
  performance and keep going and do this and be more and be
• 57:13
  perfect and be better. And I had all those same issues
• 57:16
  with all the things for for a long time.
• 57:18
  But when I started to get a glimpse of, Oh my gosh, I feel
• 57:20
  different today. Like, Oh my gosh, I'm actually
• 57:23
  really happy. Oh my gosh, I can still, I, I
• 57:26
  can let go of the story that I have to hold on to this pain to
• 57:29
  continue to perform like I can actually grow from a place of
• 57:35
  pure love and abundance. And because people, and that was
• 57:38
  in William Lamb's training a couple weeks ago and he said
• 57:41
  people will like Pavlov's dog, right?
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  They'll create the story that, oh, I have to have anger in
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  order to get my way right to like, I have to be angry in
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  order for someone to listen because it worked one time.
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  And so they have this story in their head that oh, if I don't
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  the belief. System.
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  Yeah, yeah. Yeah.
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  So like, what are the first steps for people to start to,
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  especially when these habits are already ingrained, like in the
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  household, if you already have a habit of screaming to get things
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  done or punishing your child and in that way or or not punishing
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  and being like this gentle parenting thing of yeah, like
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  what are the first steps to be able to recognize the pattern
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  that is not working and be able to rewire those habits?
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  So one of the core foundations that I teach is when you take
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  someone that's unconscious into consciousness, it's a process.
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  So the first thing is radical awareness around everything
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  you're doing. Are you proactively leading or
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  are you reactively, reactively leading?
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  So you go into the kitchen, there's everywhere.
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  I told you all, let's clean up or take a breath, get back into
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  center, come from a space of intention, radically aware.
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  How are you showing up in every single moment with your kids?
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  So this is a big, big piece because once people start
• 59:03
  awakening, I have this, I have this testimonial and it's
• 59:07
  incredible. This man's Aceo Nikondro shout
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  out. He's going to watch this.
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  I know he's going to watch this. He's a grandfather.
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  He's in my membership, a remarkable human being.
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  He thought he was coming for the grandson.
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  In the testimonial, he said she uncovered patterns that I didn't
• 59:27
  realize I was being reactive that was causing me chaos in my
• 59:30
  home. And he literally is like
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  emotional because he's like, I have been in her program for
• 59:36
  eight months. It just clicked two weeks ago.
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  That's when he had the epiphany. So I don't know if you know
• 59:41
  Michael Bernard back with but Michael Bernard back with he's a
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  big spiritual and, you know, influencer.
• 59:46
  Speaker And he talks about on a level of consciousness is like
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  wavelengths, right? You could keep repeating
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  yourself. You could keep yelling, but the
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  brain doesn't hear. It takes that one gap.
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  It's like that one little opening for something to click
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  in consciousness. So we don't know.
• 1:00:00
  We don't know when it's going to happen.
• 1:00:02
  As long as we're consistently leading from a proactive state,
• 1:00:06
  there's a ripple effect that happens.
• 1:00:08
  So if you are a parent and you're watching, looking at your
• 1:00:12
  home environment, zoom out. Zoom out.
• 1:00:16
  As if you were looking like out of 3D remodel of a home.
• 1:00:18
  Zoom out. What do bath times look like?
• 1:00:20
  What does bedtime look like? What does the morning look like?
• 1:00:23
  If you see chaos, you are leading from a reactive state.
• 1:00:27
  Get your ass into a proactive state, radically aware around
• 1:00:31
  every single thing you're doing. We wake up in the morning.
• 1:00:34
  We don't rush. We're waking up 30 minutes
• 1:00:37
  earlier. Why?
• 1:00:38
  So that we could be calm, we could be collected, we could
• 1:00:40
  have the habits in place that give us the springboard to have
• 1:00:44
  an abundant day. If you're in the morning
• 1:00:47
  running, yelling, chaos, grab your backpack.
• 1:00:51
  How do you think the rest of your day is going to flow?
• 1:00:53
  It's energy, it's vibration, it's frequency.
• 1:00:57
  So you asked me. I That was a fully loaded
• 1:01:00
  answer, but you asked me. It's really just one thing start
• 1:01:04
  to become radically aware of how you show up in every single
• 1:01:08
  moment. It'll show you who you are, how
• 1:01:11
  you lead, and the outcomes it creates, plain and simple.
• 1:01:17
  It all starts with awareness. I mean, that's just it, you
• 1:01:20
  know, Do you have enough awareness to interrupt your own
• 1:01:22
  pattern so you don't go and yell?
• 1:01:24
  I know you don't want to yell. I know no one wants to yell.
• 1:01:27
  Too many parents. I know, you know, send me DMS
• 1:01:30
  like I'm yelling all the time. And I go in my room and I start
• 1:01:33
  crying because they don't want to be that person.
• 1:01:36
  But a brain can't listen to something that they're not
• 1:01:40
  connected to. So I talk about that.
• 1:01:41
  I do this in my live event where I tell you like, you have to
• 1:01:44
  understand how humans are wired. If you're constantly yelling,
• 1:01:47
  the brain literally is tuning you out because they're moving
• 1:01:50
  into safety and security and protecting themselves.
• 1:01:52
  They can't actually hear what you're saying. 2 frequencies.
• 1:01:56
  Go do this because I said so or I would really appreciate your
• 1:01:59
  effort here. We're A-Team operating together,
• 1:02:01
  like, right, two different ways of showing up in the same
• 1:02:05
  experience. So I, you know, happy life
• 1:02:07
  language. I talk about the language, I
• 1:02:09
  talk about the communication. Like I don't, I don't want to
• 1:02:13
  say parenting is easy because people are going to just light
• 1:02:15
  me up. But when when you start to
• 1:02:17
  become radically aware and you start to shift the trajectory of
• 1:02:22
  how you're showing up every day and then wrap that with positive
• 1:02:25
  habits to build personal growth, like you pretty much got it on
• 1:02:29
  lock, right? Well, that's flow, not force.
• 1:02:32
  Yeah, in every conversation, even if it's a battle or it's
• 1:02:36
  uncomfortable, there's a different understanding.
• 1:02:38
  You don't leave that conversation going, my kid hates
• 1:02:42
  me, you know, I'm a horrible mother.
• 1:02:45
  Like my kids will go. I'll go.
• 1:02:47
  Hey. I call it digital cleanse.
• 1:02:50
  So I'll say digital cleanse, like time for digital cleanse,
• 1:02:52
  you know, for like a road trip or we watched a movie or
• 1:02:55
  whatever. They're like, got it, Mom put it
• 1:02:56
  down. We go outside nature like it's
• 1:02:57
  not a battle because they understand the system of how we
• 1:03:01
  operate. So for parents, evaluate if
• 1:03:04
  you're causing yourself more problems by the what you're
• 1:03:07
  showing up, what you're giving into, how you're over coddling
• 1:03:10
  like your children are capable individuals.
• 1:03:13
  All they need is a leader to guide them.
• 1:03:16
  And so so it's really apparent not getting into alignment and
• 1:03:19
  doing the work. Yeah.
• 1:03:21
  It's that trickle down. Yeah, and This is why I think
• 1:03:25
  the foundation of a lot of what I teach in my life as a
• 1:03:30
  financial intelligence, because it's really hard.
• 1:03:32
  I I'm thinking as you were talking and you know a lot of
• 1:03:34
  people, if you don't have the resources to do homeschooling or
• 1:03:37
  private schooling or for you to grow on yourself or invest in
• 1:03:41
  masterminds groups, seminars, things to continue to improve
• 1:03:44
  and your evolution of as a person.
• 1:03:46
  And you're constantly in fight or flight or having to grind
• 1:03:49
  forever to make ends meet. And you can't really focus on
• 1:03:52
  the family unit and optimizing that, it becomes very
• 1:03:55
  challenging. But like, I'm a reminder.
• 1:03:59
  I am a reminder. I married my husband.
• 1:04:01
  My husband was not a billionaire.
• 1:04:03
  OK? We we built a company Commission
• 1:04:06
  only raising 4 kids to the third largest in the nation off the
• 1:04:11
  hustle. Don't make an excuse, right?
• 1:04:13
  You can don't make an excuse. You have ChatGPT going to
• 1:04:16
  ChatGPT and be like, hey, like we have resources.
• 1:04:20
  That's why I can't stand people that are homeless in this
• 1:04:22
  country. I love America.
• 1:04:24
  Like, look at what we're doing right now.
• 1:04:27
  Look at the opportunities that we have.
• 1:04:28
  Stop making excuses and falling victim to your circumstances.
• 1:04:32
  This is why even with like, it's a perspective that you hold.
• 1:04:35
  It's the belief system. Yeah, you're working 2 jobs, but
• 1:04:38
  you have a dream to build a company.
• 1:04:41
  You got to put that work. And it's like biblical, you
• 1:04:43
  know, God gives us the free will, but we have to step into
• 1:04:46
  action. And that's The thing is taking
• 1:04:48
  action with vigor, with passion, with appreciation and gratitude.
• 1:04:53
  You know, the kids situation, the parenting situation, it's
• 1:04:57
  really about the fulfillment of the parent first.
• 1:05:00
  Are you fully fulfilled? Are you overworking?
• 1:05:03
  Where are you at? Where are you at?
• 1:05:06
  And, and like as ACEO running a company, my kids were in my
• 1:05:11
  office all the time with me. Hannah, I would literally, this
• 1:05:14
  is how crazy I am. I would go to work, I would
• 1:05:18
  leave work and go breastfeed my kids.
• 1:05:20
  I'd go back to the office, I'd go breastfeed my kids, I'd go
• 1:05:22
  back to the office, I'd go breastfeed.
• 1:05:24
  That's how motherhood was to me. It was that serious.
• 1:05:26
  So was I exhausted? Was I redlining?
• 1:05:28
  Yes. But I do whatever it takes.
• 1:05:31
  And, and, and that's that resilience.
• 1:05:33
  That's that captivating, dynamic resilience for the people that
• 1:05:36
  fully embody life is a gift. Life is truly a gift.
• 1:05:41
  And the craziest thing is we live like we still have
• 1:05:44
  tomorrow. You don't know what's going to
• 1:05:46
  happen today. Live Today as if you don't have
• 1:05:48
  tomorrow. And people don't realize that
• 1:05:51
  they're forecasting out. It's like there is no past,
• 1:05:54
  right? Like, like it's, it's only this
• 1:05:56
  present moment. So yeah, I had it happen to me
• 1:05:59
  in my life. Am I going to carry that
• 1:06:00
  suitcase with me tomorrow? No, I'm not.
• 1:06:02
  I'm going to leave it at the door.
• 1:06:05
  And, and I think for me, when I talk about like my, you know,
• 1:06:08
  the happy life system, when people are coming into my world,
• 1:06:12
  like I'm literally, I'm shifting the paradigm of their belief
• 1:06:16
  system. They don't actually believe it's
• 1:06:19
  possible. Then they start to understand
• 1:06:22
  this is easy. I need these fundamentals, OK?
• 1:06:25
  I was scared to do. I'm scared to do my family
• 1:06:28
  operating agreement with my kids because I don't know what my
• 1:06:31
  kids are going to think about me.
• 1:06:33
  Did you really? Just say that out loud.
• 1:06:35
  That's how much you lack self love and confidence.
• 1:06:38
  But yet you carried that baby for nine months and you gave
• 1:06:41
  them life. Like how people have lost their
• 1:06:45
  power. And, and working, you know, I, I
• 1:06:49
  have so much compassion, you know, for making ends meet and
• 1:06:53
  all of the things. But there is a ride or die
• 1:06:55
  mentality for the most successful people.
• 1:06:58
  We won't give in to the lower vibrational field.
• 1:07:03
  My daughter was working for her horse.
• 1:07:06
  She did a lemonade stand every single Friday, $500 she was
• 1:07:13
  making at her lemonade stand. Please support my horse.
• 1:07:16
  Please do this. People are showing up out of the
• 1:07:18
  woodworks. It's on the corner of our street
• 1:07:19
  in Newport Beach. She made it happen.
• 1:07:21
  She got out there and made it happen.
• 1:07:23
  She saved $13,000 for her horse. She's 15 years old.
• 1:07:28
  So it's like that mom that wants to build that business.
• 1:07:31
  Go on Etsy, start building the profile.
• 1:07:33
  Go. There's so many resources that
• 1:07:35
  we have and I, I don't allow people that come into my field
• 1:07:39
  to make excuses because I see their brilliance and the excuses
• 1:07:42
  are really just fear. That's just what it comes down
• 1:07:45
  to. So when we look at, you know,
• 1:07:47
  you building your company, me building my company, I didn't
• 1:07:50
  know what tomorrow brings, but I know I was going to show up and
• 1:07:53
  with my kids, I didn't know what tomorrow was going to, but I was
• 1:07:56
  going to show up to give them the best foundation for their
• 1:08:00
  mind and their heart to be world ready to be a leader.
• 1:08:04
  I have like all these videos about like followers and you
• 1:08:07
  know, we talked about gentle parenting.
• 1:08:09
  I get so much hate for this when I talk about this, I'm like, I
• 1:08:13
  don't give a, what you want to call it gentle permissive.
• 1:08:16
  That's the problem is you're in the label and you're out of
• 1:08:19
  leadership. Like how are you Johnny when you
• 1:08:23
  just punched Johnny just punched you in the face at the park.
• 1:08:26
  It's not how are you, Johnny? It's I'm your mother.
• 1:08:29
  Respect me. Do not touch me like that.
• 1:08:31
  Again, they're allowing this gentle parenting.
• 1:08:33
  How are you feeling? Like let your kid feel right,
• 1:08:38
  but also give them the direction of where they need to go.
• 1:08:41
  I mean, look at the Roman Empire.
• 1:08:43
  Look at like, if you study the greats, it's a power, it's a
• 1:08:46
  presence. And that's the same thing in our
• 1:08:48
  homes that people need to really understand.
• 1:08:50
  They only rise to the leadership.
• 1:08:52
  That's the state of what your home is.
• 1:08:54
  Right. And when your children feel
• 1:08:56
  seen, heard and protected. It's a game changer.
• 1:08:58
  It's a game changer. They want a leader like we want
• 1:09:01
  a leader we want and I think a lot of this too.
• 1:09:05
  This is kind of a different topic and conversation, but I
• 1:09:08
  talk about this a lot with Robert Kiyosaki is even women
• 1:09:11
  like we're alpha, very powerful, had to live in our masculine.
• 1:09:14
  And then when we were able to start to bring our feminine out,
• 1:09:18
  then we actually exploded a lot more because we were starving
• 1:09:20
  that part of us but. When you said feminine to like
• 1:09:22
  the romantic side of me, like I can't be romantic.
• 1:09:24
  Like I was like, like, like it was that like candles?
• 1:09:28
  Like, are you kidding me? Yeah, but keep going.
• 1:09:31
  The same way I as I sit here, single, childless.
• 1:09:35
  Stop topic, cancel, clear, delete.
• 1:09:36
  Yes, it's coming into my field. I am open, I am available.
• 1:09:40
  OK, wait, I. Interrupted.
• 1:09:41
  You see what? You're saying so the feminine
• 1:09:42
  so. Anyway, but even even the even
• 1:09:46
  powerful women want to look up to men to lead them.
• 1:09:52
  Like the masculine is such a strong energy.
• 1:09:54
  And even my interview after our interview today is a woman that
• 1:09:58
  teaches flow and the law of abundance and law of attraction,
• 1:10:01
  all this stuff. But we don't really hear these
• 1:10:03
  conversations and male conversations.
• 1:10:05
  But these principles have been so impactful in my life as a
• 1:10:10
  leader, as a entrepreneur, as ACEO, as a friend, as a daughter
• 1:10:14
  and all these things. How do we like instill this in?
• 1:10:19
  Because there's a lot I, I find that most of the people in my
• 1:10:22
  world are men. I mean, commercial real estate,
• 1:10:24
  I have commercial real estate companies and I feel a lot of
• 1:10:27
  them are still in that fight or flight like ego disconnected,
• 1:10:34
  pure force to get things done and not really connected and
• 1:10:38
  grounded. And so I can imagine, I guess
• 1:10:39
  that's my biggest fears. Like before I even think about
• 1:10:42
  the children aspect because I knew I would love my kids more
• 1:10:44
  than anything in the world and can think about all these
• 1:10:46
  things. But I fear building a great
• 1:10:49
  marriage, like finding the right man that has that level of
• 1:10:53
  consciousness and connectedness, but is is a strong and powerful
• 1:10:56
  leader, but also in tune with his emotions and also supportive
• 1:11:02
  and, and connected, right. So like, what do you see out
• 1:11:05
  there in the world? Because it's I can't imagine
• 1:11:08
  running a very good family unit or being a good mother to my
• 1:11:11
  kids if I didn't have a great relationship with this.
• 1:11:14
  Is this? Is actually very it's it's such
• 1:11:16
  an important topic to talk about and hopefully through this, this
• 1:11:20
  threads through to so many, so many people.
• 1:11:22
  The partner you choose will determine the rest of your life
• 1:11:25
  and it's that serious. It's that serious.
• 1:11:28
  If your partner is not growing spiritually, emotionally,
• 1:11:32
  physically and mentally, you cannot be on elevator floor 30
• 1:11:36
  and they're stuck on 6. I always talk about rap music
• 1:11:40
  and classical. It's like you're listening to
• 1:11:41
  classical and they're listening to rap.
• 1:11:43
  It is two people growing together on the path of life.
• 1:11:47
  So for example, me and my husband, we've been on the
• 1:11:49
  spiritual journey. Like we've had to look at our,
• 1:11:52
  it's been ugly. You know, I've threatened to
• 1:11:55
  leave him multiple times. Not because I don't love him,
• 1:11:58
  because he wants to stay in a comfort zone.
• 1:12:00
  I'm not I'm pushed. Let's keep going, let's keep
• 1:12:02
  going. He'll say to me, thank God you
• 1:12:05
  loved me so much that you saw my potential for greatness and he's
• 1:12:09
  so grateful. It's a different type of
• 1:12:11
  consciousness. It's a friendship consciousness.
• 1:12:14
  I love this man. This is like this is a human
• 1:12:17
  being. I get emotional and he's here
• 1:12:19
  but I've never had a man love me more than this person.
• 1:12:24
  I I don't even know how I was worthy of this love because I
• 1:12:27
  had such a destructive again. My father did everything he
• 1:12:32
  could but like I didn't know what love was.
• 1:12:35
  So I remember my dad said I couldn't see Brad and Brad for
• 1:12:39
  the first time called my dad and said you don't even know who I
• 1:12:42
  am. Give me a shot.
• 1:12:44
  Your daughter is the most amazing human I've ever met.
• 1:12:48
  Like, please. And it was the first time I
• 1:12:50
  actually saw a man be emotional, like a man being bodied, a man
• 1:12:53
  really love. His mother was a healer.
• 1:12:58
  His mother taught him how to love.
• 1:12:59
  His mother loved him so deeply that he built that
• 1:13:02
  characteristic in his life. He knew how to love another
• 1:13:05
  person. So Kahel Gibran talks about this
• 1:13:08
  like in a marriage. You're both have your own
• 1:13:11
  stream. The key to a marriage is
• 1:13:14
  building a bridge with each other, but keeping your own
• 1:13:17
  stream. And when a man and a woman can
• 1:13:20
  support each other from that, that's greatness.
• 1:13:23
  It's when we get into these relationships of friction where.
• 1:13:26
  One partner doesn't want to work on the on themselves.
• 1:13:29
  The other partners fighting. You haven't established your
• 1:13:31
  love language. You haven't established your
• 1:13:33
  consciousness like there are words in my home you are not
• 1:13:36
  allowed to say that was established when we got
• 1:13:39
  together. Can't is not allowed in my
• 1:13:41
  house. We always say I'm coming forward
• 1:13:44
  as your friend to help you. We frame our language so that we
• 1:13:48
  are always serving each other. That's consciousness.
• 1:13:51
  So like I, I love what you said about the masculine.
• 1:13:54
  Like I, I have so many men business partners because like I
• 1:13:58
  just love guys. Like I love, I love that
• 1:14:01
  masculine, but you can see that masculine can take.
• 1:14:04
  Over where men are moving more into the ego and they're not
• 1:14:07
  willing to drop into that spiritual conscious state.
• 1:14:10
  And then you have the spiritual woo woo guys where everything's
• 1:14:13
  the meditation and I'm like, OK, we need we need middle, we need
• 1:14:16
  the spiritual and we need the badass warrior men, right?
• 1:14:20
  Like the badass spiritual warrior men.
• 1:14:22
  But like, just because you were mala beads in a white robe
• 1:14:24
  doesn't mean you're a spiritual guy.
• 1:14:26
  Like chill, you know? So I say like I'm like the bad
• 1:14:30
  ass warrior woman that has that spiritual this, the spiritual
• 1:14:34
  awareness and and the relationship with my husband, my
• 1:14:37
  kids have seen us fight. Like fighting is powerful, like
• 1:14:42
  really powerful. If you're not fighting, you're
• 1:14:44
  not growing. And I'm talking about like I've
• 1:14:47
  gotten crazy. I'm crazy.
• 1:14:48
  So I've gotten crazy. Like literally like I, I want my
• 1:14:53
  son to watch this so bad, but I'll be like, I'll literally say
• 1:14:55
  like I one time I said like there are demons in your body
• 1:14:59
  right now. OK, This is not you.
• 1:15:01
  I'm like something has taken over your body.
• 1:15:03
  Like they laugh at me, but I'm not kidding.
• 1:15:05
  Like I'm like, where did that go?
• 1:15:07
  And and like, we'll come back to like, hey, like the way you
• 1:15:11
  showed up. Then we start to look at like
• 1:15:14
  where we are on the planet right now.
• 1:15:15
  It's Mercury retrograde. Mars is in conjunction with
• 1:15:18
  blah, blah, blah. OK, this is making sense.
• 1:15:20
  Like everything we do, we're like what just happened, but
• 1:15:24
  we're always trying to gain a deeper understanding together
• 1:15:26
  versus out each other. There's no right or wrong.
• 1:15:29
  I have my own opinion. You have your own opinion,
• 1:15:31
  right? But we have to come together to
• 1:15:32
  find a middle ground. And so in a relationship, when
• 1:15:35
  you when you when you talk about kids and you talk about family,
• 1:15:39
  if you are not connected, you are going to have major
• 1:15:42
  problems. I'm not talking about like the
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  bright shiny go to Vegas and have a good time and go out and
• 1:15:47
  party. I'm talking about the deep, like
• 1:15:49
  the, the spiritual battles you're facing, you're both
• 1:15:52
  facing your own stuff. So for us, it's, it's, and we
• 1:15:57
  talked like we just started to, to implement this in our home.
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  But we have like our spiritual practice that we said, he comes
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  into my office and we open a page and we, we, we focus on a
• 1:16:07
  paragraph together. And I'm like, what does that
• 1:16:08
  mean for you? What could you work on?
• 1:16:10
  And he'll be like, what does that mean for you?
• 1:16:11
  And I'm like, I feel like this is coming up again, that
• 1:16:13
  Dragon's flaring his head on success.
• 1:16:16
  And if I don't do this and whatever and he'll help me,
• 1:16:19
  he'll help me through it. Like trust God, trust life.
• 1:16:24
  And it re anchors me. But that's because we're both
• 1:16:27
  elevating together and we're owning our own.
• 1:16:30
  And so our kids get to see that. And that's why I know the
• 1:16:34
  partners that they choose are going to be worthy example of
• 1:16:37
  what a relationship should be like.
• 1:16:39
  So the worst thing you can do is choose the wrong partner.
• 1:16:44
  Right, that's the most important.
• 1:16:46
  It's just that's why I'm. Like, so sad, the court battles,
• 1:16:50
  you know, the court battles and the kids are the ones that hurt
• 1:16:53
  the most. They're the ones that suffer.
• 1:16:56
  And again, you talk about like awareness is like, are you
• 1:17:01
  showing up to this relationship? Because I need something from
• 1:17:04
  this man. So a lot of these, you know,
• 1:17:05
  women I need money from. No, you don't like stop relying
• 1:17:09
  on that. Build your own wealth so you
• 1:17:11
  have that independence. Like that was the like when I
• 1:17:14
  started in business with my husband.
• 1:17:15
  This is how crazy. I wouldn't copy him on an e-mail
• 1:17:18
  with my client. I had already married him
• 1:17:21
  because I'm like, that's my client.
• 1:17:23
  I was so used to people like stealing and taking my client or
• 1:17:26
  whatever. He's like, I just, you just
• 1:17:29
  married me. I'm like, I don't care.
• 1:17:30
  Those are my clients. I'm not copying you.
• 1:17:31
  That's my personal information in my Rolodex.
• 1:17:34
  Like I was that like independent, you know, And then
• 1:17:37
  I started to open up my heart and be like, OK, he's a great
• 1:17:39
  guy. Like I could do this, but it
• 1:17:41
  took some getting used to. But it's like when you when you
• 1:17:44
  work on yourself, when you love yourself, when you have your own
• 1:17:47
  independency, when you show up every day, you bring a different
• 1:17:49
  frequency to the relationship. Like relying on your husband is
• 1:17:54
  not the best way for you to get truly aligned and vice versa,
• 1:17:58
  relying on your wife. Like you are the creator of your
• 1:18:01
  math your life masterpiece, so so relationship is about what
• 1:18:06
  are you both bringing to the table to build that bridge to
• 1:18:09
  create a beautiful, you know, flow.
• 1:18:12
  Together. You can't have a person stuck
• 1:18:15
  and a person unstuck. Right, doesn't work.
• 1:18:17
  And it's you're either growing or you're dying, and you're
• 1:18:20
  either an anchor or a sale. 100% and the kids, this is a big one
• 1:18:25
  is I get like my husband yells at my kids, but I'm trying to be
• 1:18:28
  conscious. So you have the mom that's
• 1:18:32
  trying to like anchor them and then the husband will come home
• 1:18:34
  like from a day and be like, why are their shoes?
• 1:18:38
  It ruins the whole it's like it's like the pendulum.
• 1:18:41
  So then the kids go back into fight or flight when the mom
• 1:18:43
  does all the work to try to build that social emotional
• 1:18:45
  intelligence. So it's like doesn't work.
• 1:18:47
  You. Know and that's that's another
• 1:18:50
  aspect of chaos. Like we talked about family
• 1:18:52
  dynamic and chaos, right, like radical awareness,
• 1:18:54
  intentionality, but then we talked about the relationship
• 1:18:57
  building. That's the key is like, how
• 1:18:59
  radically aware are you within your relationship that you're
• 1:19:03
  bringing into the home and like 2 executives, mother and father,
• 1:19:07
  are they bringing their work into the home?
• 1:19:09
  Like our kids will be like stop talking about work.
• 1:19:11
  Like we're not doing that right now because me and Brad are both
• 1:19:13
  CEOs and they'll literally say like, we're not talking about
• 1:19:17
  this at the table tonight. We have to do to your own yes.
• 1:19:19
  And we have to be like, we want to talk about it because we're
• 1:19:22
  like, you know, but they're like, no, we're talking about
• 1:19:24
  something different. We're talking about like they.
• 1:19:26
  It's very good. Because if not, we would just
• 1:19:29
  keep going. Yeah, you know, so.
• 1:19:32
  Yeah. And the people that you love and
• 1:19:33
  in your family, they hold, they, they know the operating system,
• 1:19:36
  they know the values, they know the mission statement, they know
• 1:19:38
  the vision statement and they hold each other accountable.
• 1:19:40
  You all hold yourself. And your tribe so like, what is
• 1:19:43
  what is what a tribes do? It's teamwork, it's sensible
• 1:19:47
  longing, it's value and contribution.
• 1:19:49
  I don't pay, I don't give my kids things.
• 1:19:51
  They have to work for every single thing.
• 1:19:54
  What is the value and contribution you're bringing
• 1:19:56
  into the family unit? If I handed them things without
• 1:19:59
  them working for it, imagine the adult that I'm setting up for
• 1:20:02
  society, right? And that's what.
• 1:20:03
  People worry about with having entitled children and that's why
• 1:20:07
  that's also a fear is like when you when you come from scarcity
• 1:20:11
  and financial distress and then you create abundance because you
• 1:20:15
  don't want that anymore. But then you give everything to
• 1:20:17
  to your child. But there's also the flip side
• 1:20:20
  of being like, this is mine. None of it's yours.
• 1:20:23
  And then they don't feel like loved either.
• 1:20:25
  And you're just an asshole for the sake of being an asshole.
• 1:20:27
  And, and you see that too. And then the, and then these
• 1:20:30
  kids like end up going off one way or another.
• 1:20:32
  They're given too much or they're given too little and
• 1:20:34
  then they end up becoming drug addicts and really depressed.
• 1:20:36
  Because there's a hole in their heart, they're being this so.
• 1:20:38
  So if there's like the main thing, like my Holy Grail of
• 1:20:42
  what I do is value and contribution, you are literally
• 1:20:45
  like building a destructive, destructive human in society if
• 1:20:50
  they don't work for the things in their life.
• 1:20:52
  So I have again, CEO, business CEO of my home, CEO of systems
• 1:20:56
  contracts. Peyton wants to work for
• 1:20:58
  something. We literally write up contracts
• 1:21:01
  and Lauren Bostick was out. She's like, tell me about the
• 1:21:03
  contracts. I'm like, I'm like, OK, the
• 1:21:04
  contract goes like this. She will literally say, OK, I'm
• 1:21:07
  working towards this. Let's say it's a new saddle.
• 1:21:09
  The last one was her new saddle. We go, OK, what's the value and
• 1:21:12
  contribution that you're bringing into your life, the
• 1:21:14
  family unit and the community? We write out the contract with
• 1:21:17
  her. She puts out how she's going to
• 1:21:18
  do that every day. Every day I'm going to be, I'm
• 1:21:21
  going to own taking out the trash for the family.
• 1:21:23
  Great. Every day I'm going to do this
• 1:21:25
  for the community. She signs it.
• 1:21:27
  That's amazing. She signs it so I feel I can
• 1:21:29
  sleep at night where I'm raising this human that knows that she's
• 1:21:32
  bringing value into what she wants in her life.
• 1:21:36
  She's creating that outcome based off her own free will.
• 1:21:39
  And then she gets the. Feeling.
• 1:21:41
  That she accomplished. She was.
• 1:21:42
  So she's like, we did it. Like she was so stoked.
• 1:21:46
  I have it all documented. For the past 15 years, I've been
• 1:21:48
  documenting the story of my life with my kids, with the system.
• 1:21:52
  The last one she did, she wanted boots.
• 1:21:53
  She had to give us a presentation on a flat screen.
• 1:21:56
  Nice. She did the whole thing.
• 1:21:58
  These boots are the reason why I want it.
• 1:21:59
  Da da, da da. OK.
• 1:22:00
  After that, we did a contract. It's not right away.
• 1:22:03
  I'm going to take you and buy the boots.
• 1:22:04
  No, it might be two weeks. It's delayed gratification, but
• 1:22:08
  we are partners. Dad and I are putting up 500.
• 1:22:10
  You're going to make 500 and then we'll get the boots.
• 1:22:13
  I love it, you know? Yeah, yeah, I love it.
• 1:22:17
  I think it's amazing. I I, I think it's a great
• 1:22:19
  system. It gives me more hope to as
• 1:22:21
  somebody. People meet me and they're like,
• 1:22:23
  I could have kids, yeah. Exactly.
• 1:22:26
  Exactly. Very cool.
• 1:22:29
  All right, well, we'll finish up with Rapid Fire.
• 1:22:31
  I'm going to have to get creative here because this is
• 1:22:33
  generally we're like all business scaling companies and
• 1:22:35
  this is like scaling your family, right?
• 1:22:38
  Oh, that's very good. I'm going to trademark that.
• 1:22:40
  Scaling your family? Yeah.
• 1:22:42
  Yeah, how to scale your family into like, actually think about
• 1:22:46
  that rapid fire, how to scale your family into like successful
• 1:22:51
  individuals in the real world. Yeah, that's like really what
• 1:22:54
  we're doing. And we're not scaling through,
• 1:22:56
  you know, money or frequency. We're we're scaling through
• 1:22:59
  identity culture and standards for them to build.
• 1:23:01
  Yes, really good. So good.
• 1:23:03
  I like that. I like that too.
• 1:23:05
  It's recorded, right? Yes, it is.
• 1:23:07
  Live on camera. All right.
• 1:23:09
  How old were you when you became a millionaire?
• 1:23:10
  I want to say like 2720. 8 How old were you?
• 1:23:12
  And you became a mother. A mother to adopted kids, 22,
• 1:23:17
  but for my own kids, I was 23. OK.
• 1:23:20
  What line of business are you in?
• 1:23:21
  Transformational now, so retired at 33 from my media company.
• 1:23:25
  So we specialize in outdoor media.
• 1:23:27
  So billboards, iconic stuff on sunset, Times Square,
• 1:23:30
  Piccadilly, all over the world built and scaled that company.
• 1:23:33
  My husband's now taking it over as the CEO.
• 1:23:36
  And so I retired at 33 to bring, you know, my voice, the Happy
• 1:23:41
  life system to the world, to shift the paradigm of parenting.
• 1:23:43
  What's the happy life system in one sentence?
• 1:23:46
  Happy Life system is raising world ready, empowered leaders
• 1:23:49
  and unifying family. Why do you think so many people
• 1:23:53
  fail as parents? It's not for a lack of love.
• 1:23:56
  Love isn't enough anymore. Your children, they're, they're
• 1:24:00
  failing because they haven't proactively LED them with the
• 1:24:03
  right foundational systems for them to thrive.
• 1:24:07
  That's the gap. It's not for a lack of love.
• 1:24:09
  I know every parent wants to love so big.
• 1:24:12
  They're failing because they're missing a step and they're
• 1:24:15
  reacting and they're winging it and parenting.
• 1:24:17
  You can't wing on the fly. What do you think's a belief
• 1:24:20
  that parents are believing or being taught today that is not
• 1:24:24
  serving their children or family?
• 1:24:27
  Being your being your kids best friend without building mindset,
• 1:24:34
  spiritual aspects foundation it you you said this is they're
• 1:24:38
  scared of their own kids. So they give them everything.
• 1:24:41
  They let them get away with everything because they don't
• 1:24:45
  want the confrontation or they don't want them unhappy.
• 1:24:48
  So we're we're missing the boat is leaders need to lead and a
• 1:24:53
  parent is a leader. So children will only rise to
• 1:24:59
  the standards that the leader sets.
• 1:25:01
  So if you're constantly allowing your kids to get away with
• 1:25:04
  things or giving them handouts, they're, they're never going to
• 1:25:07
  be the adult you always dreamed of.
• 1:25:10
  It's impossible. Don't be your kids best friend.
• 1:25:13
  Be the leader that they need you to be.
• 1:25:14
  What's one thing you think every parent can do today to improve
• 1:25:17
  their family unit? Start to become intentional of
• 1:25:20
  how you show up every single day with your kids.
• 1:25:22
  What's the best piece of advice you've ever heard?
• 1:25:24
  The best piece of advice that I have ever heard, I'm just going
• 1:25:28
  to say it because I told you already on the podcast was this
• 1:25:32
  this universe is run by universal principles.
• 1:25:37
  So Deepak Chopra 7 spiritual laws of success.
• 1:25:40
  The best piece of advice was you're in control of your
• 1:25:43
  vibration. You're in control of the
• 1:25:45
  thoughts that you think and that creates the outcomes in your
• 1:25:48
  reality that you live in. And that was, that's the, that's
• 1:25:52
  the best piece of wisdom that I that I could ever imagine.
• 1:25:56
  What's the number one book you think everyone should read?
• 1:25:58
  I love Dale Carnegie, How to Make Friends and Influence
• 1:26:00
  People, and that was my first sales book.
• 1:26:04
  And I remember I used to teach my team, we're not selling,
• 1:26:06
  we're serving. If you're always coming with the
• 1:26:08
  right intention, if you're always bringing value, if you're
• 1:26:10
  always looking at the heart space rather than the headspace,
• 1:26:13
  it will execute. It's just a matter of time of
• 1:26:15
  how fast it compounds. Who's your hero and why?
• 1:26:18
  My hero is my grandfather. Argentinian.
• 1:26:20
  Took a boat here, started from the bottom as a janitor, worked
• 1:26:24
  his way up. He gave me the American dream.
• 1:26:27
  He gave me the ability to believe.
• 1:26:28
  And that's why I want to protect this country so much.
• 1:26:31
  And I want to protect our families and our children.
• 1:26:34
  Because he was one man that never made an excuse.
• 1:26:37
  He always showed up every single day.
• 1:26:38
  And I just, he loved me more than anything.
• 1:26:41
  And, and I, I really, really believed.
• 1:26:43
  Like it goes back to mentorship, like just mimicking him and
• 1:26:47
  watching him and who he was. He's the one that defined the
• 1:26:50
  path for me to be the successful woman that I am today, truly.
• 1:26:54
  If you could leave one message with the next generation, what
• 1:26:56
  would it be? As you are in control of your
• 1:26:59
  destiny, stop giving your power away to things that don't serve.
• 1:27:03
  You show up every single day, like every day, thinking that
• 1:27:08
  this day is the last. Tomorrow is not guaranteed for
• 1:27:14
  all the generations out there that are listening to this.
• 1:27:17
  You get to design your life masterpiece.
• 1:27:19
  It lives within you. Start to live that out.
• 1:27:22
  It's not out there, it's in here.
• 1:27:25
  Start loving yourself, start working on yourself and watch
• 1:27:28
  that unfolds. I'm a living demonstration of
• 1:27:32
  going from that hardness, the heaviness and manifesting this
• 1:27:37
  incredible life. self-made millionaire, raising these kids,
• 1:27:40
  adopting to. I'm 40 years old and I have so
• 1:27:43
  much more life to live. I did it.
• 1:27:46
  I'm just reminding you that you could do it too.
• 1:27:48
  That's the key. I'm so proud of you and you are
• 1:27:52
  such a good example of what you can create and turning your pain
• 1:27:55
  into power and being that transformational character in
• 1:27:58
  your family to create a better place.
• 1:28:00
  And that ripple effect is going through to everybody that you
• 1:28:04
  teach and everybody that you coach.
• 1:28:05
  And what's one way, the best way for anyone to get a hold of you
• 1:28:09
  Follow you get you have a massive following and an
• 1:28:11
  incredible happy life system. So how can people get a hold of
• 1:28:14
  you? Born majors, Officialism,
• 1:28:15
  Instagram and Majors, this is MAGERS and then my website.
• 1:28:19
  So the Lauren majors, I have my live events that I do and then
• 1:28:24
  my memberships are there. I want to connect with you too.
• 1:28:27
  So if there's like I can give you the referral or whatever for
• 1:28:30
  anybody that's listening that wants to come into my world.
• 1:28:32
  But I think for me, it's really if you Google my name, you'll
• 1:28:36
  see that like we're we're we are the revolution.
• 1:28:40
  We are the revolution. And so I'm, I'm on this podcast
• 1:28:42
  with you because I, I really, I have, I admire your strength, I
• 1:28:47
  admire your beauty. I admire the tenacity that you
• 1:28:51
  hold for bridging wisdom and consciousness into business.
• 1:28:56
  And I feel like there's, there's, it's lacking.
• 1:28:59
  And you are for, you're, you're, you're forging and pioneering
• 1:29:02
  this way for young women and women to really fully understand
• 1:29:07
  that it can't just be business and be business.
• 1:29:09
  It has to be this dynamic ecosystem of what you're
• 1:29:12
  creating as your own portal to business.
• 1:29:14
  And so I just want to give gratitude for what you're doing
• 1:29:18
  and the love that you're putting out.
• 1:29:21
  I, I, I just, I, you know, obviously watching your videos
• 1:29:23
  and seeing everything. I just thank you.
• 1:29:25
  Because not only is it a plug for me to come in and share, but
• 1:29:29
  you're shifting the consciousness of business.
• 1:29:33
  Thank you. And so conscious, such a gift.
• 1:29:36
  Conscious of the capital. Yeah.
• 1:29:38
  But that doesn't mean we don't like making money.
• 1:29:40
  Oh, no. We like making money, too.
• 1:29:41
  Yeah, Conscious capital, yeah. Yeah, still capital with a
• 1:29:45
  capital C. Yeah, yeah, let's go, Let's go
• 1:29:47
  University. Here we go.
• 1:29:48
  Well, you're awesome. Thank you so much for coming on
• 1:29:50
  the show. Laura, beautiful, thank you so
• 1:29:51
  much.