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Ep. 370 Dating After Divorce: The Questions You Need to Ask Before You Get Attached · Dear Divorce Diary: A Fresh Approach To Healing Grief & Building A Life Of Confidence After Divorce

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  SPEAKER_01: Hi, love.
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  SPEAKER_01: Welcome to Dear Divorce Diary, the podcast helping divorcees go beyond talk therapy to process your grief, find the healing you crave, and build back your confidence.
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  SPEAKER_01: I'm your host, Don Wiggins, a therapist, coach, integrative healer, and divorcee.
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  SPEAKER_01: Join me for a fresh approach to healing grief and building your confidence after divorce.
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  SPEAKER_02: Ladies, welcome.
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  SPEAKER_02: So, listeners, our fearless leader is out, and so we're continuing our while the boss is away, the children will play.
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  SPEAKER_02: And we are welcoming Kelly, Christiana, and Joe from our current cohort.
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  SPEAKER_02: And we are going to dive deep into the world of dating.
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  SPEAKER_02: No, no structure, no lead questions.
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  SPEAKER_02: We're just going to free free range our conversation and see where it goes.
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  SPEAKER_02: Ladies, welcome.
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  SPEAKER_02: Super excited.
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  SPEAKER_02: Morning.
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  SPEAKER_00: Morning.
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  SPEAKER_00: We're going to free ball it today.
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  SPEAKER_00: Can we say that?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because it's Thursday.
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  SPEAKER_00: We're totally free balling it.
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  SPEAKER_02: I actually had free free ball in my head, and then I choked myself up because I was just like, I don't know if anybody wants to hear me say those words.
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  SPEAKER_02: I'll say it.
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  SPEAKER_02: All right, ladies.
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  SPEAKER_02: Tell us about dating.
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  SPEAKER_02: What you what have you found?
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  SPEAKER_02: You've all you like you're all recently divorced.
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  SPEAKER_02: You're about ready to graduate, our cohort.
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  SPEAKER_02: And some of you have recently started dating in the dating apps.
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  SPEAKER_02: What are your thoughts, feelings, concerns, questions, hilarities and sues?
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  SPEAKER_02: You know, the man standing by behind beside the truck with the fish, like, give us all the tea.
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  SPEAKER_00: Oh my God.
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  SPEAKER_00: I will say that I had a soiree on apps and I have temporarily taken myself off.
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  SPEAKER_00: I don't know what I was expecting, but I was not expecting what I found.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, I was invited into multiple threesomes.
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  SPEAKER_00: I have been invited to participate in ethical non-monogamy.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, you name it, it's out there.
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  SPEAKER_00: Just because you're 45 does not mean that you're immune to any of that.
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  SPEAKER_00: As a matter of fact, it might make you more susceptible to people out there who are.
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  SPEAKER_00: So it is a wild, wild world out there.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's what I'll say.
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  SPEAKER_03: Well, I I got dragged pushing and screaming by my daughter.
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  SPEAKER_03: I I chose eHarmony and I was like laying on her living room floor going, I really can't do this, I really can't do this.
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  SPEAKER_03: And it's like, give me that phone.
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  SPEAKER_03: I'm gonna just wipe and like for you.
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  SPEAKER_03: And um, well, you know, I I was married to a man who had no facial hair for 40 years, so I had to get like the fear of kissing somebody with facial hair.
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  SPEAKER_03: It's okay.
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  SPEAKER_03: I I can do that.
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  SPEAKER_03: So it opened up my world for me now that I can kiss a man with facial hair.
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  SPEAKER_02: Okay.
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  SPEAKER_03: And I like it.
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  SPEAKER_03: I like it.
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  SPEAKER_03: So as someone who's not dating yet, I want to know why.
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  SPEAKER_03: Why are you dating?
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  SPEAKER_03: No one.
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  SPEAKER_00: I can't like the whole idea of it makes me go, it was good for me to send the message to my head, my heart, and my soul that this was the way forward.
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  SPEAKER_02: I can say that.
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  SPEAKER_00: It it gave me like disagreements that I was uh what the next step, what forward momentum looked like for me.
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