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Season 3 - Episode 79 - Hanging onto the past · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the Good Morning From the Chicken Coop Podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and mastermind set
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  coach. Filled with inspiration,
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  distinctions, perspectives, and possibilities, we help you to
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  cultivate a mindset that leads you to create the best version
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  of yourself you could ever imagine.
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  Join Kim every morning from one of her favorite happy places,
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  her chicken coop along with all her chickens.
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  Hey everybody, good morning from the chicken coop.
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  So today we're talking about hanging on to the past.
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  Now, I'm not saying not remembering the past, because we
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  all remember the past. We most of us do anyway.
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  There are some people who have blocked it out, and probably for
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  good reason. It's lovely how the brain works
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  to protect us all the time. And sometimes it just blocks
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  things out and we can't remember stuff.
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  And a lot of times it has a good reason it doesn't want to
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  remember things. I'm not opposed to that strategy
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  one little bit. However, we're talking here
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  about hanging on to it and lamenting it and bringing it
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  back up over and over and over and over again and not allowing
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  yourself to move forward. You know, this is one thing that
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  Buddhism teaches that is such a beautiful part of it is that the
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  past is gone and the future is not here, and that if you live
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  in the moment, you will always be better, you will always be
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  OK, you can always let go and move on.
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  Now I am not saying we don't learn from the past because we
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  have to learn from the past. As as we go through things, they
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  are lessons. But when we keep hanging on to
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  the past and we keep going back and beating ourselves up for
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  what we could have done different, should have done
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  different, paid attention to differently, going through all
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  the choices again and again and again and again and again just
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  causes the pain to repeat. And as soon as that starts
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  happening, you go from just having the pain in that moment
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  to actual suffering. You start stepping into
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  suffering. And as you've heard me say
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  before, pain is inevitable, suffering is optional.
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  And suffering is one of those things that can it be avoided is
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  always the question, can it be avoided?
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  And I truly believe that we can avoid most of the suffering in
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  our life by stopping ourselves and saying, you know what, I'm
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  going to release this. This no longer serves me to pay
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  attention to, this no longer serves me.
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  And in part of that learning of letting go and part of that
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  learning of understanding that it's the past that's showing up
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  because it's not in the present, it's in the it's in the past.
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  And we keep bringing it forward by what we think about it, how
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  we loop back to it, how it becomes part of our now.
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  In this moment, we are torturing ourselves over and over and over
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  again. So the past is one of those
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  lovely little things that has to have a bow.
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  Put on it again, not to remember it and use it to your detriment,
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  but remember it and let it go. Just say yes, it's gone.
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  Yes, it's gone. Acknowledge.
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  It's gone. You put a bow on it.
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  You bless it. You say I am putting it away
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  because it no longer puts me in a power position with myself.
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  All it does is tear my belief system apart for the present.
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  All it does is it remove me from being acutely aware of what's
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  happening around me now. Like as I'm standing here and
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  I'm with you, I'm just in the run in the coop.
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  Some of the girls are having breakfast, some of them are
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  already left. The sun is coming up over the
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  trees. The farm is covered with
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  chickens walking all in different areas because they're
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  all out looking for bugs. I can notice how the lighting
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  is. I can hear the sounds, of course
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  it's Celine. I can hear all the birds
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  singing. I can see all the dew on every
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  little piece of grass that's in the sunlight.
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  I can hear like all the the other rooster, my neighbor's
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  rooster. I can hear his goats going.
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  I see every little piece of it because I'm present.
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  I'm with you and I'm talking about it.
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  And it's a feeling of being nowhere else, nowhere else.
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  Now the moment I say, oh, you know, I went to dinner last
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  night. Now all of a sudden I'm back at
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  dinner. I'm right back there.
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  One thought, one little thought. I'm back at dinner.
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  Where did you eat? I ate at a pizza place.
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  What did you have? I had a fig and Brazzuto pizza.
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  Yes, it was good. You know who was there.
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  I can tell every, I can tell you every detail.
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  But instantaneously, when I'm doing that, I have left the
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  farm, so to speak. I have left the farm.
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  I can tell you how I felt. I can tell you all the details
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  of it because I'm no longer on the farm.
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  I'm at the pizza place. So do you see how quickly that
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  can happen? It's just a nanosecond.
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  It's a it's one little tiny synapse that fires off and boom,
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  I'm on a different high highway in my head.
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  The bus is now driving down a different highway and all of a
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  sudden I'm in the past. Now if I'd had a terrible time
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  last night, I could have easily taken that time, talked about
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  that, and taken that time to down the road to hell.
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  I could have said, well, this happened and this happened and
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  this happened and this happened, and I would have been reliving
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  the moment. And that's part of what our
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  problem is. As humans, we relive too many of
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  the moments. We don't handle our business and
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  take care of it and get rid of it if it's something that we
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  should get rid of and we relive it over and over and over.
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  So it's important to remember in the now, in the present, in this
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  moment. This is where everything
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  resides. So work on that.
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  All right, my friends, I hope you have a blessed day and I
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  will see you tomorrow. And remember, stay in this
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  moment. Have a blessed day.
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  Bye.