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Season 3 - Episode 222 - Looking at someone’s end result · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the Good Morning from the Chicken Coop podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and mastermindset
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  coach. Filled with inspiration,
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  distinctions, perspectives, and possibilities, we help you to
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  cultivate a mindset that leads you to create the best version
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  of yourself you could ever imagine.
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  Join Kim every morning from one of her favorite happy places,
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  her chicken coop, along with all her chickens.
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  Hey everybody, good morning from the chicken coop.
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  We're talking today about looking at somebody else's end
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  result and feeling bad about yourself.
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  Cannot express what a bad idea this is for so many reasons.
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  But the the most predominant reason that it's bad is that you
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  literally are looking at somebody's effort at the, you
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  know, the end progress. Now, that's not that they're
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  necessarily ended because they're probably not.
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  You watch somebody, you see how far they've come.
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  You look at all the things they've done.
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  They're still doing it. So I'm using the word end result
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  as to what you're seeing in that moment, but it's not necessarily
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  their end. It's just where they are after
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  years of making progress and you're looking at that and
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  you're saying, Oh my gosh, I'm never going to get there.
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  I'm never going to get there. Well, no, you won't get there
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  with that attitude about it. But what you have to recognize
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  is it took them years of effort to get to that place.
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  And this has been one of my personal hardest things to learn
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  just because I love to make progress and I don't like to sit
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  around and have it take a long time to make progress.
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  And it is especially with the farm situation like I have, I
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  look at farms. I look at, you know, let's take
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  my quintessential farm person that I love to look at Martha
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  Stewart. OK, You look at her Bedford farm
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  and forget it. It's it's overwhelmingly
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  beautiful. Or P Allen Smith, for anybody
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  who might follow him, he's Apbs host.
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  He has a beautiful farm in Arkansas called Moss Mountain.
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  I've actually been there. I've done the tour.
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  I've had lunch there. It's incredible.
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  It's the he has a giant party. Part of his farm is called
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  Poultryville. OK, I was in my Mecca to go and
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  see something like that. And it was just unbelievable how
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  much I, I, I loved everything about what he had done, his
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  gardens. It's, it was incredible.
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  But I was looking at a result of years of work and feeling bad
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  about what I had done and how little mine was compared to what
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  his was. And I had to really, as happy as
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  I was to go there and be thrilled about it and feel like
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  it was such an inspiration. If I'm completely honest, I felt
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  overwhelmed with how am I ever going to get there?
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  And does that show up for me regularly in my world?
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  Yes, I want to be completely transparent.
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  Yes, it does show up that way for me.
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  And yes, it really is irritating sometimes when I feel like I
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  really want to be at that other end result and I'm not.
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  And oh, how frustrating it is. And we all have this experience.
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  So what do we do when we have it?
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  Well, I can tell you what I do and I can tell you what I advise
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  clients to do because it it's part of the process.
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  So if I feel that result, then that to me is a testament of how
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  willing I am to do the work. I might not like the way it
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  goes. I might have issues with the
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  fact that it's not happening fast enough.
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  But here's the thing, I want the end result.
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  So when I feel that I hone in on that feeling you this makes you
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  feel bad. Great.
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  Then that's a testament to knowing how much you really want
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  that end result and how much you really need to pay attention to
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  it. So you know, that's your
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  motivation. And when I feel that, I actually
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  sit and write it down, like I write myself a letter, a note,
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  whatever you want to call it, that says remember this.
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  And it's kind of like a dialogue between me, myself and I talking
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  about how if you feel this way, it's a testament to the fact
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  that you want to get to that point.
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  It is not meant to make me feel like I should give up.
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  I'm never going to get there. It's meant to inspire and I
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  think that's why we just in in the from a very spiritual
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  perspective that we have those kind of moments because they
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  give us the ability to say no. That's something I really like,
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  admire, and I admire it so much and I really want it so much
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  that I'm willing to do the work for it.
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  So that's the key, the twist in this.
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  Now, does anyone ever know the amount of work it takes to get
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  to an end result? I am convinced the answer is no.
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  Because if we did, you know, it's like that old saying about
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  childbirth. If I knew how painful it was
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  going to be, I would have never done it.
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  Most women say that if you, you know, if you had known that, you
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  wouldn't have done it. But guess what?
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  When you don't know it, it's all rainbows and butterflies and you
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  think, OK, the end result is that beautiful baby.
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  And then you go ahead and you do it.
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  You have this, you know, opportunity to raise this child
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  and have this beautiful, beautiful experience.
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  And you do it in spite of the pain.
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  Doesn't matter. So thinking of it as a I'm never
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  going to know all the things it's going to take.
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  And I see that result and I want to get there.
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  I mean, it's just a better frame.
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  It's a better frame to move into, to push yourself there.
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  So when you're looking at your path and you're saying, OK, I'm
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  on this path and I really want it, don't always worry about
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  that end result as much as you worry about where you're focused
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  in the moment. Put your attention on that.
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  Make sure you're aware of where you are in the moment to moment
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  and stay focused. You will get there, I promise,
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  just like I will get there. And every year my farm gets
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  better and every year things get better and I see things better
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  and I clearer and you will get there.
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  It's just a process. All right, my friends, I hope
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  you have a blessed day and I will see you tomorrow.
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  Bye.