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144. Listening To The Whisper To Shift · The Shift Podcast

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  Hey, you guys, welcome to episode 144, a Front Light
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  Static. I am entitling this episode
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  listening to the Whisper. And if you guys listened to the
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  episode right before this, I was telling you that there's
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  something new coming. And I am really excited to be
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  announcing that very soon at the end of this month of what this
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  new offer is and what I'm bringing to you guys.
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  But this has all been because I chose to listen to the whisper.
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  And I want to let you guys know, listening to the whisper is
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  something that I have been doing for a lot of my life.
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  And I really think it's this willingness to understand that
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  you have this one life to live, but willing to go at it and
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  become the person who lives multiple lives within the one
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  you have. And what I mean by that is we
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  all have these little whispers that go on in our head that are
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  like, maybe I should do this. It's your time.
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  Go for the job, go for the thing, start the business, take
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  the leadership role, have the kids, take the vacation,
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  whatever the little whisper is for you.
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  This is what I'm going to talk about today.
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  Listening to the whisper has helped me shift into many
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  identities in my life. Listening to the whisper has had
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  me go from having a degree in communications with an emphasis
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  in broadcast journalism, going for that, deciding I don't like
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  that, shifting into banking, doing banking for five years,
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  having three kids and twins that were in the NICU, that really I
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  found my love for nursing. Shifting into getting a nursing
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  degree and becoming a nurse for 15 years and then making the
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  huge shift from ICU nurse to flight nurse.
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  And then my last most recent shift was when I decided to go
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  all in on becoming a life coach and retire totally from nursing.
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  And I've been thinking about what has allowed me to do that,
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  to listen to the whisper every time I heard a whisper to start
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  again, to make the shift. And I've kind of narrowed it
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  down into six kind of steps that I've taken.
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  And this is what I want to talk to you guys about today.
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  So this episode is for all of you guys who have heard the
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  whisper and maybe are on the fence about listening to it or
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  not. And I hope by the end of this
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  episode you get the motivation. You feel not only that urge, but
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  you want to start taking action to listen to that whisper.
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  Because I promise you when you do, you will continue to step
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  into the next best version of you.
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  You will live the life that feels full for you.
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  And I want you to live your life confidently, always listening to
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  that. So I'm going to briefly talk
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  about these 6 steps that I've kind of taken myself every time
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  I've listened to The Whisper and I've made big shifts in my life.
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  So #1 is really just having the self-awareness that this is
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  going on for you, that you're hearing it, that you're
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  listening to it. It's, I can't exactly explain
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  maybe what it's like for you, but for me, I remember the most
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  poignant time of listening to a whisper was it was about two
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  weeks after my older brother had passed away.
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  He was 38 years old and died of liver cirrhosis from a long time
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  of alcohol abuse in his life and addiction.
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  And I remember I was working in the ICU and I knew that I'd
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  always wanted to be a flight nurse.
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  And I think it'd been beyond a year of the time that I and
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  experience that I really needed. I think I'd been in the ICU for
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  four years and I was just waiting to feel confident.
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  I was waiting to feel ready, which is this false sense of
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  being able to do something right when we wait, because we're
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  never going to feel ready. We're never going to feel
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  confident. And I remember sitting there and
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  it was about two weeks after and I was going to my shift and I'm
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  like, this is where I'm going to choose to live.
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  This is where I'm going to choose to go for it and really
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  live into what I knew I wanted. And I remember I started
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  applying and those applications turned into interviews.
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  And I interviewed and I got the job.
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  And I remember feeling so much discomfort because I was
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  stepping into something new and I had so much doubt and I was so
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  nervous and I was so scared. And I remember feeling alive
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  though, from listening to that whisper to not feeling like I
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  was holding back, to going all in.
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  And so that was a first step, is having self-awareness of what
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  you really want. Being willing to ask yourself is
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  what I'm doing right now, what I really want are the actions that
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  I'm taking? Is the way that I'm living my
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  life really what I want? And then part of this, listening
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  to the whisper, is deciding and then committing.
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  I remember when I decided to go for flight, there was no turning
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  back. I was going to keep on knocking
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  on flight's door until I got a yes.
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  And that's what's part of this step is you have to decide and
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  then you have to commit. You can't be wavering back and
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  forth about am I going to do this?
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  Am I not going to do this? Is this right for me?
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  Is this not? It's like decide, go all in and
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  then commit that you're going to figure it out until you get it,
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  no matter how many Nos it takes for you to get to it.
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  Step 2 was I had to learn to declutter my brain, meaning I
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  had to just be willing without judgment to get out and journal
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  everything my brain was thinking.
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  And with every shift in my life and every actually this is a
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  daily practice that I do every day, I wake up and I'm like,
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  what are the thoughts my brains offering me?
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  And usually it starts with, you're not good enough, you're
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  not going fast enough, it's not happening quickly enough, you're
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  not smart enough, you're not confident enough.
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  You have so much doubt. And it's just being willing to
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  hear what those thoughts are. Get them all out on paper, type
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  them out, spend time with them without judging them and then
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  realizing maybe what are the predominant feelings that these
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  common thoughts are giving you. And I remember while I was going
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  for flight, the the biggest feeling that I had was extreme
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  doubt. And in decluttering this brain,
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  I realized, oh, this is doubt. And instead of like taking a
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  bunch of action to try to get rid of the doubt, I really want
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  to offer you just become the person who takes whatever the
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  emotion is with you. For me also, it's pressure.
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  I felt actually pressure my whole life, especially as I
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  started in nursing school, as I started in a high pressurized
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  job and not ACU as a new grad. And then as I went into flight
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  nursing and then eventually as I retired from flight nursing and
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  went into full time life coaching and entrepreneurship
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  and owning my own business. A level of pressure was there.
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  And what I want to offer for you is to not let your brain say you
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  can have doubt or be confident. You can feel pressure or be
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  successful. Become the person who fills your
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  backpack up with the pressure and the doubt.
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  You strap it on your back and you start walking and taking
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  action with it. So this is part of Step 2, which
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  is decluttering your brain, finding out what is the emotion
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  that you're feeling because of these thoughts, and just taking
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  this emotion with you without judgement and start taking
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  action with it #3. The biggest thing in this is we
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  have to create your vision, meaning we have to redirect what
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  is your purpose and your why. And you have to be willing to
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  redirect this every second of every day, if not on the daily
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  practice. So when I was trying to get to
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  flight, there was a lot of you don't know enough, you don't
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  have enough time and experience, you're not smart enough.
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  And what I had to keep redirecting and telling my brain
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  was, this is what I want. I want to be able to help people
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  in highly pressurized situations use my skills that I've learned
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  in the last four years. I do really well under pressure.
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  I have high levels of critical thinking to help save people's
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  lives and to do this day in and day out.
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  To go to a job that I know I was meant to be doing, to live out
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  my dream job. And I had to keep redirecting my
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  brain and telling myself, this is my vision, this is my
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  purpose. This is my why.
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  Create your vision story. Tell yourself why you want this
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  dream, why you want this goal and be willing to redirect your
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  brain over and over and over again every time it tells you
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  that you're not capable and that you can't do it.
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  You got to create what is the purpose you want it and why do
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  you want it. Similarly, when I went into life
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  coaching, I went to the certified.
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  I got certified as a life coach through the life coach school.
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  And when I hired my own first life coach, I realized I have
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  the tools and I have the ability to change beliefs about myself,
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  to do things that I've never done before, to create a life
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  that I'd only dreamed of. And when I found out these
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  tools, I wanted to put these tools in the hands of everybody
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  who wanted to make a shift and make a change for their life
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  too, and go after what they really wanted.
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  And I really believe we all have the capacity and capability to
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  do that. And so my vision became bigger
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  than what I loved doing, which was flight nursing.
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  My vision story and my purpose now became how do I put these
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  life coaching tools in the hands of everybody who wants to change
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  their life, who wants to level up, who wants to create big
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  things for themselves, who wants to live multiple lives in this
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  one life and keep doing it over and over and over and over again
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  confidently. And so that became my vision
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  story. So create your vision story.
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  What is your purpose? What is your why?
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  And be willing to redirect your brain over and over and over
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  again to what that is Step 4, you got to tap into capability.
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  Sometimes we think that we're only capable of what we can
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  hold. So for example, like we take a
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  glass of water and we pour water in it and that's our capability.
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  And then when we hit the top of the water glass that we're not
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  capable of doing anymore. But we all know we've done hard
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  things and we all know that our capability is expansive.
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  And the more that we test it, the more that we grow at, the
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  more we expand it. And I can just think of like
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  really hard times in my life where I didn't think I was
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  capable of more. And my very first time of
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  remembering it being really hard was when I was in nursing
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  school. You just will never work as hard
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  as you did in nursing school. I had three kids under the age
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  of two. I just had my twins that were
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  five months old. I took a tech position after
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  doing banking for five years, night shift.
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  I worked three nights a week and then went to school and
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  clinicals the four other days. And I remember getting stretched
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  so far and I'm like, can I keep doing it?
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  And after doing that for two years, I grew my capability to
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  the to the, to realizing that I didn't have a ceiling of what I
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  was capable of, to realizing that I can keep stretching, that
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  I can keep growing it. And in fact, as I continue to do
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  the hard thing, as I continue to put myself in the uncomfortable
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  moments, as I continue to push up against that threshold of
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  doubt and fear, that's how I grow my capability.
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  So that when it's no longer about pouring a glass, of
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  pouring water into a glass, and that's my capability, no, it's
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  about infinitely I can keep pouring the water.
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  And that glass keeps getting bigger and bigger and bigger and
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  bigger as I grow. And I'm willing to be
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  uncomfortable, and with my capability growing, my capacity
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  to have more, to do more, to be the person who can go out and
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  challenge myself and love the challenge grew too.
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  And I still think that I have it in me to continue to grow my
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  capability and, and, and in doing that and, and growing your
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  capability, you have to be willing to challenge yourself
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  and also find the joy in the challenge.
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  Go back and listen to Finding the Joy in the Challenge
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  podcast. Because now I love the
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  challenge. I love playing hard games.
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  I love being competitive. I love giving myself challenges
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  of becoming more, so I just want to offer you guys tap into your
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  capability and know that your capability is infinite.
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  Let's grow it #5 this is a big one.
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  And if you have worked with me in any of my programs or
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  one-on-one, you will know this is what I teach.
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  This is what will create results in your life.
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  A future focus. You have to be pulled from the
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  future. You.
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  We just have this part of us that's like tells us, oh, we
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  can't do something if we haven't done it in the past before.
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  Our brain likes to look to the past to see if we're capable of
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  doing something, but then that always limits us of creating
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  something we've never done before.
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  And so when I think about big goals that I'm creating, big
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  shifts, big transitions that I'm making, I pull to the future me
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  and I have future focus. I think about the me who is
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  already there. I think about the me who has
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  stepped into this new role. What, how does she dress?
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  How does she think? What does she believe about
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  herself? How does she handle
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  circumstances and obstacles that come her way?
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  How does she handle life when it's lifing and you have 0
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  control about it? I think about her who's already
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  made the shift and I think about what are some thoughts that
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  she's thinking and I and, and when I think about that, I think
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  she's thinking I did it bring me the hard, show me the hard.
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  I can handle the hard bring it on.
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  I also think some thoughts that she's thinking is watch me.
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  I know that this person has come up against because with each
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  shift in my life, I had friends and family that I thought would
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  go with me that didn't and I had to hold the belief for them.
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  And one thought that really helped me keep my future focus
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  was watch me. I'll go first, watch me navigate
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  it, watch me do it. If I can do it, you can too.
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  And I really think that this is what the future me is thinking.
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  So you got to go to her. You got to go to him.
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  You have to go to the person who's already made that shift,
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  who's already made that transition, who's already in
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  that role. What does she think?
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  What does he think? And then I always ask myself,
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  what is the first step she tells you to take?
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  Because we as perfectionist or as doers try to solve for all
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  the steps and we just can't go to the how.
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  We don't know the how. If we knew the how, we would
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  already be doing it. What's really important in this
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  step is who, like who is the person who accomplishes it?
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  Who is the person that we have to be?
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  And so I always ask her from the person from the future meet, who
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  has the thing, who's made the shift, who's done the
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  transition. I always ask her what is the
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  first best step I need to take? And then I take that first step
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  and then I take that second and then I take that third.
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  And I ask her, what has she thought when she's when she's
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  arrived? And it's always, I figured it
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  out. I did it.
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  And so the thought that propels me and you guys can take this
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  thought for yourself too, is I'm going to figure it out.
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  I always figure it out. If I keep going, I'm going to
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  get it. O that's number five.
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  Number six, The last step in all of this.
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  I call this action acceleration. You got to take a bunch of
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  action. You have to fail forward.
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  You have to be willing to create a plan, even if you don't know.
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  And this is a thing, a lot of you guys create plans and you,
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  you spin in your plan because you're like, I want to create
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  the one that I'll meet the least resistance with the least amount
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  of work that will get me the result.
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  And here's the thing about action, action acceleration.
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  Action acceleration is failing forward as quickly as we can.
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  Creating a plan, taking a bunch of action, evaluating, asking
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  yourself what's working, what's not working, what I want to do
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  differently, and then taking action and evaluating action and
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  evaluating, but taking action. Not from a place of what's going
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  to be the thing that's going to get me there, but just willing
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  to try a bunch of things. What I think about is these corn
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  mazes or mazes that you guys go into, you're not like, OK, I'm
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  going to just only go left and only go right if I know it's
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  going to get me through the maze.
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  No, you're taking a bunch of action to get through the maze.
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  You're like, I'm going to go left, then I'm going to go
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  right, and then I'm going to see what happens.
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  And then you start over and then you keep going and you keep
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  going. This is action acceleration.
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  But we got to get ourselves into the action.
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  And I think what stops most of you guys is you want to take the
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  simplest amount of action that's going to create the result for
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  you. But action acceleration means
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  we're going to create the momentum and we're going to take
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  a bunch of action. And then after we take a bunch
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  of action, pass or fail, we're going to evaluate what's
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  working, what's not working, what I want to do differently.
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  And then we're going to continue to take action, continue to take
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  action, continue to take action. As you take the action, that's
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  where you create the momentum. The momentum will get you into
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  power. But one thing that I want to
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  preface is the prerequisite to getting to your goal, the
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  prerequisite to making the shift and transitioning into the new
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  person that you want to be is going to be a negative emotion.
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  And you have to figure out what is that for you?
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  For me, it's doubt and it's pressure.
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  I have to be willing to take the pressure and the doubt with me
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  and still take action. I have to be willing to have
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  uncertainty and still take action.
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  The prerequisite to feeling empowered, feeling confident, is
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  a negative emotion. Figure out what that negative
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  emotion is that you're trying to avoid.
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  And we don't want to avoid it by taking a bunch of action.
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  We want to recognize what is that emotion for you.
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  For me, it's doubting and uncertainty and then how do I
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  take action with it, with allowing it and not avoiding it?
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  Action, acceleration, continued evaluation.
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  I promise you if you continue to do this, you will get it.
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  And the next time you want something, you will shorten the
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  amount of time it takes for you to get there.
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  These are the steps that I have taken, these 6 steps to listen
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  to the whisper and to make the shift number one, I listen to
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  the whisper. I had self-awareness, I decided,
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  and I committed. #2I decluttered my brain, I recognize the
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  negative thought loops that I was in and what's the negative
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  feeling I got to take with me #3 I created my vision story.
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  What is your purpose and what is your why?
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  And keep redirecting your brain to it over and over and over
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  again #4 Tap into capability and capacity.
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  Become the person who does the uncomfortable thing, who takes
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  the fear with them and grows the capability in a capacity over
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  and over and over again #5 future focus.
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  Go to her, see what she has to tell you.
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  Learn from her wisdom, glean from it.
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  Find out what are the thoughts and beliefs that she has about
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  herself. And number six is action
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  acceleration. Create the momentum.
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  Take a bunch of action. Be willing to take a doubt and
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  uncertainty with you and take the action anyway, you guys.
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  If anything in this episode motivates you to finally listen
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  to the whisper and to live an abundant life, the one you are
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  meant to be living in. The version of you that you are
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  meant to be. I have opened up one-on-one
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  spots. Book a consult A1 on one console
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  with me. It's free.
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  It's 45 minutes long. We on this console, we are going
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  to talk about where are you now and where do you want to be?
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  We're going to create a vision story and a plan that we're
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  going to walk you through and hold you accountable every week
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  on these calls to really feel the hard feelings and to get the
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  result of shifting into that person.
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  Join me on a one-on-one console. We can talk about build your
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  plan and your vision story of what that is and talk about how
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  life coaching can help you become that person.
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  All right, you guys, that's it. This week, listen to the whisper
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  and I will see all of you guys next week.
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  Bye.