Awake at 3am Every Night? Deep Breathing Won't Fix It

In Your Right Mind with Monique Rhodes · Aug 31, 2026 · 9m

You wake at three in the morning and your mind is already mid-sentence. Not a crisis. A conversation.

You've probably decided this is insomnia, or that something is wrong with your sleep, or that you're bad at switching off. None of those are what's happening. You surfaced the way everyone surfaces several times a night. The difference is that something was waiting there for you, and it had been waiting all day.

I explain why what's waiting is almost always a conversation with a specific person, why slowing your breathing slides straight off it, and the one thing that stops it happening at…