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47: Monday Moment: How Do You Want to Experience Today? · Banish the Lies: Outsmart Your Inner Critic

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  Tania: Happy Monday.
• 0:01
  Tania: Recently, I celebrated a birthday, and afterwards I found myself wondering what exactly made it feel so special because it was a really great day.
• 0:13
  Tania: Now, of course, birthdays are typically different than ordinary days.
• 0:17
  Tania: There are well wishes and messages and people reaching out, but the more I reflected on it, the more I realized it wasn't really just those things.
• 0:27
  Tania: It was a decision I had made.
• 0:29
  Tania: I had decided that my birthday was gonna be special.
• 0:32
  Tania: And before you picture fireworks or a spontaneous trip to Paris or something really extravagant, uh, let me say that it was nothing like that.
• 0:42
  Tania: In fact, it was a very ordinary day.
• 0:44
  Tania: After work, I picked up some sushi, I spent time with my daughter, I sat on my balcony with the sun on my face and my puppy, Duke, by my side.
• 0:53
  Tania: So what I think made it different was really how I chose to experience the day.
• 0:59
  Tania: I decided that I was going to receive all the love and the kind wishes people offered me instead of shrinking away from the extra attention.
• 1:10
  Tania: And I also decided to just be really present and do one thing at a time.
• 1:15
  Tania: And if you know me, that's kind of a miracle because I usually multitask my way through life.
• 1:22
  Tania: So when I was driving to pick up my sushi, I was just driving.
• 1:27
  Tania: I wasn't listening to a podcast or an audiobook.
• 1:30
  Tania: I wasn't talking on the phone.
• 1:32
  Tania: I was just driving, and it had a surprisingly calming effect on me I also decided that whatever happened in the day would be enough.
• 1:46
  Tania: Originally, I had hoped that my daughter and I could go out for dinner and sit on a patio.
• 1:52
  Tania: It was a beautiful evening, but she had an exam to study for, and instead of feeling disappointed, I decided to find the next best thing, which for me was picking up sushi and having a quick bite together, and I let that be enough.
• 2:08
  Tania: Later, I noticed that I still had dishes waiting for me in the kitchen, not from sushi.
• 2:15
  Tania: That's another great thing about sushi.
• 2:16
  Tania: It doesn't create a lot of dishes, but from breakfast and lunch and essentially just a bunch of stuff to clean up that had been waiting for me all day.
• 2:27
  Tania: And in that moment, I stopped and asked myself,"What would feel like the most nurturing thing to do?" And you're not gonna be shocked to hear that it wasn't cleaning.
• 2:38
  Tania: That could wait.
• 2:40
  Tania: The answer was sitting outside, enjoying the evening, feeling the sun on my face, and spending a little time with Duke.
• 2:48
  Tania: And when I look back, there was really nothing extraordinary that happened on my birthday.
• 2:55
  Tania: I didn't receive a bunch of gifts.
• 2:57
  Tania: I didn't take a spontaneous trip.
• 2:59
  Tania: There wasn't some magical moment that made the day special.
• 3:03
  Tania: I truly believe that the difference was that I had already decided how I wanted to experience it.
• 3:09
  Tania: I decided to be present.
• 3:10
  Tania: I decided to receive.
• 3:12
  Tania: I decided that whatever happened would be enough, which also left no room for comparison or disappointment, just gratitude.
• 3:21
  Tania: And since then, I've been experimenting with bringing that same mindset into ordinary days.
• 3:28
  Tania: Now, not every day feels like a birthday, but I have noticed that my days feel a little different when I decide in advance how I wanna experience them instead of simply reacting to whatever shows up.
• 3:44
  Tania: So that's my invitation for you this morning.
• 3:47
  Tania: Before you jump into your to-do list, your meetings, your errands, or whatever else the day has in store, I invite you to pause for a moment and decide: how do you wanna experience this day?
• 3:59
  Tania: What will be enough?
• 4:01
  Tania: What are you willing to receive?
• 4:04
  Tania: And what choices might help you move through the day with a little more peace and presence?
• 4:11
  Tania: Okay, have a great one.