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Under 30 Warning · Let's Ask the Mamas!

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  Speaker 1: We got a question for American mamas. Dear mamas, if
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  Speaker 1: you could give one warning to people under thirty, what
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  Speaker 1: would it be. Well, let's ask our American mamas.
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  Speaker 2: Mamma, Mama, she say, and joining.
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  Speaker 1: Us now are American mamas turn Edville and Kimberly Burlison.
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  Speaker 1: A warning to people under thirty, You guys have a warning,
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  Speaker 1: words of caution.
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  Speaker 3: I don't know if it's more a warning or if
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  Speaker 3: it's just just to let them know. Time is faster
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  Speaker 3: than you think. When you blink, you're fifty years old,
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  Speaker 3: and it goes by.
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  Speaker 1: And then it becomes harder to blink.
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  Speaker 2: It's weird.
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  Speaker 3: It does well. I feel like a lot of young
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  Speaker 3: people they try to rush their life. I feel like
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  Speaker 3: I did. I tried to rush my life and I
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  Speaker 3: can't believe I'm here. I can't believe I'm fifty six
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  Speaker 3: years old and I still have so many dreams inside
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  Speaker 3: of me. I still have so many things I want
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  Speaker 3: to accomplish and do, And I think, what the freak
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  Speaker 3: were you doing? Yeah? So you know, it just goes
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  Speaker 3: by so fast.
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  Speaker 2: I think.
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  Speaker 3: My other thing to people under thirty, debt is a
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  Speaker 3: silent prison. Do not go into debt. You know, avoid
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  Speaker 3: it at all costs because it's going to affect everything
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  Speaker 3: you want, the things that you want in life.
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  Speaker 1: And it's stressful. I mean, debt is really really stressful
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  Speaker 1: on a daily basis, just hangs over you and it
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  Speaker 1: does it makes you old fast, it does.
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  Speaker 3: I think that your job is not your identity. It's
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  Speaker 3: just a job. It's just a way to make money.
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  Speaker 3: Your life should be around the people that you love
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  Speaker 3: and doing the things that you want to make memories together.
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  Speaker 3: I feel like there's too much attention paid to your job,
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  Speaker 3: and it takes priority over the things that really matter.
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  Speaker 3: Because one day, when you're dying, all that matters is
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  Speaker 3: who's around you, not what you did, how much money
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  Speaker 3: you made. It's not big East.
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  Speaker 1: Those are pretty big warnings, Terry. What do you have
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  Speaker 1: warnings for people under We'll say?
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  Speaker 4: I asked Kevin last night, I said, what would you
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  Speaker 4: what advice he and of course he was like invest early,
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  Speaker 4: like like get started on that stuff now. I would say,
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  Speaker 4: be careful what you put online because it's there forever.
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  Speaker 4: I know, you know, you feel strongly about something at
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  Speaker 4: this age, at fifteen or sixteen, whereas when you're twenty five,
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  Speaker 4: thirty five year to look back and kind of cringe
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  Speaker 4: if it comes back to haunt you. We're always saying
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  Speaker 4: as eighties kids were so happy. Yeah, if there were
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  Speaker 4: not cameras everywhere and that we weren't being.
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  Speaker 2: Recorded, it's easy to get away with stuff.
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  Speaker 4: It's easier to learn from your mistakes, oh yeah, without
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  Speaker 4: having everybody else remember your mistakes forever. So I'd say,
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  Speaker 4: just be careful if you get online at all. I
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  Speaker 4: would actually suggest be told just minimal online. You know,
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  Speaker 4: my boys were very and summer to they're not. They
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  Speaker 4: weren't really into the social media thing, especially when they
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  Speaker 4: were trying to get scholarships and playball somewhere. That would
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  Speaker 4: be one of my tips for people under thirty. I
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  Speaker 4: would also say, you pick your partner wisely. Yeah, pick
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  Speaker 4: your partner wisely. Don't settle, don't marry somebody for anything
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  Speaker 4: other than the love you have for them and picturing
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  Speaker 4: yourself growing old with this person who will be a
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  Speaker 4: wonderful father, a wonderful husband. You know that matters more
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  Speaker 4: than money, matters more than looks, matters more than if
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  Speaker 4: he's you know, the quarterback on the football really and
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  Speaker 4: truly be careful, you know, pick your partner. I love
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  Speaker 4: what you said about memories. Make memories. Do those things
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  Speaker 4: that at the end of your life you can look
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  Speaker 4: back and the legacy that you leave behind, people will
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  Speaker 4: be able to say, man, she cared about me. She
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  Speaker 4: did everything she could to make you know, precious memories.
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  Speaker 1: What else, There's some good stuff in there, and I
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  Speaker 1: don't know if it's necessar I take it as a warning,
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  Speaker 1: but you know, the pick your partner, well, yes, I
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  Speaker 1: think that is perhaps my biggest advice. The two most
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  Speaker 1: which it's one of the two most important decisions you
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  Speaker 1: will ever make in your life is who's going to
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  Speaker 1: be your husband or who's going to be your wife.
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  Speaker 2: It is It is.
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  Speaker 1: Critical and everything else happens after that decision. Everything else
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  Speaker 1: in your life is going to come down to that,
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  Speaker 1: and your life is either going to be better or
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  Speaker 1: it's going to be worse based on who you choose
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  Speaker 1: to spend the rest of your life with.
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  Speaker 4: And for young parents, I would say, when you have
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  Speaker 4: your babies, start praying for that future spouse. When their
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  Speaker 4: babies praying for your children, teach them to pray not
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  Speaker 4: just for that but for their life, for God, for
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  Speaker 4: you know, God to cover their life. But when you
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  Speaker 4: do put that into the universe and you pray for
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  Speaker 4: that person, it really does make such a difference.
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  Speaker 1: It absolutely does. I've seen that that come true firsthand.
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  Speaker 3: So I all have I think. My last little thing
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  Speaker 3: is don't burn bridges. It is not worth it. Our
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  Speaker 3: communities are small. You get over things quickly. You'll be
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  Speaker 3: so so shocked at the thing that makes you want
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  Speaker 3: to in something is that person will come back into
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  Speaker 3: your life at another time where you're a different person.
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  Speaker 3: So just don't burn them. Don't burn the bridge.
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  Speaker 4: You know, that's actually something that has summer. I've talked about,
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  Speaker 4: like the things that maybe one thought was so important.
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  Speaker 4: Yes back at one point you grew up and you
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  Speaker 4: realize like.
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  Speaker 3: Who cares thing? Who cares?
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  Speaker 4: So and you're great about not burning bridges. Kimberly does
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  Speaker 4: not burn a bridge. It doesn't matter what they did
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  Speaker 4: to her. She does not burn I burn a couple.
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  Speaker 1: I've got some friends whose philosophy is will burn that
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  Speaker 1: bridge when we get to it. Anyway, if you like
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  Speaker 1: can't really Brothers, and thank you so much, thank you,