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Pokimane is the Karen of Twitch · THINK BEFORE YOU SLEEP

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  Speaker 1: I don't want to be rude.
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  Speaker 2: I don't want to cause drama. I just want to
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  Speaker 2: let this person know. I understand this sort of content
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  Speaker 2: brings in views, but it's just not worth it. You
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  Speaker 2: can do other things. And I want to say it
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  Speaker 2: in a way that really makes them understand. Like that
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  Speaker 2: just makes him like empathize with why it's wrong. Are
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  Speaker 2: people running out of content? This is your content now
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  Speaker 2: reacting to a tweet for 20 minutes.
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  Speaker 3: That's right, content. Because playing video games for five hours
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  Speaker 3: while making minimal commentary is now considered content. If you
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  Speaker 3: guys want to understand how easy it was to find
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  Speaker 3: that literal 35-second clip of Pokimane eating and texting on
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  Speaker 3: her phone during the stream instead of providing actual content,
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  Speaker 3: then go onto any of her streams, click a random
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  Speaker 3: part of the video, and a good 25-50% of the time,
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  Speaker 3: you're going to find dead air.
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  Speaker 2: The key aspect to live streaming is that it's live.
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  Speaker 2: And just like live radio, as the saying goes, you
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  Speaker 2: don't want any dead air. Honestly, you don't even want
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  Speaker 2: like 10 seconds to go by without you actively saying
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  Speaker 2: or showing something to the people that are watching.
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  Speaker 3: Now she justifies this by saying, well, I'm a big
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  Speaker 3: streamer so I can provide no content and still be successful. No,
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  Speaker 3: that's not how content creation works. That's not how any
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  Speaker 3: business works. Imagine if you went to Amazon.com when they
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  Speaker 3: started the business, and they were super careful to ensure
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  Speaker 3: the items that you ordered were delivered to you. But
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  Speaker 3: now that they are big, they can just say fuck it,
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  Speaker 3: and 25% of the time, your item never shows up.
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  Speaker 3: Do you think that Amazon would still be in business? No,
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  Speaker 3: because people aren't getting what they came for. Taking away
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  Speaker 3: the product just because you got big is a great
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  Speaker 3: way to go broke. But that's not happening to Pokimane.
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  Speaker 3: In fact, If you go onto YouTube and look at
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  Speaker 3: her videos from when she was a new streamer, like
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  Speaker 3: this Overwatch video, then you will find that she was
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  Speaker 3: basically doing the exact same thing she is doing now.
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  Speaker 3: Let's compare that to other content creators who also play
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  Speaker 3: video games, like Game Grumps.
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  Speaker 1: Kevin, put this picture up. Holy shit.
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  Speaker 4: Sharkman Frank.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, it's a pirate's life for me. It's spelled F-E-R.
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  Speaker 1: And like, so Brian and I kept playing the song.
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  Speaker 1: By the way, All of his songs are up on YouTube.
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  Speaker 1: And Brian was like, do you want to know how
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  Speaker 1: many views this song has? And I was like, I
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  Speaker 1: don't know. He's like, one.
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  Speaker 2: One view.
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  Speaker 1: And I'm not even kidding.
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  Speaker 3: That's what actual content sounds like. And if you want
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  Speaker 3: to say something like, well, Gang Grumps only does 10-minute videos,
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  Speaker 3: then keep in mind that they do all these videos back-to-back,
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  Speaker 3: four hours straight, and still do not leave long pauses
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  Speaker 3: of dead air or boring reactions. So you have to
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  Speaker 3: think that if these Twitch streamers can still produce money
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  Speaker 3: without providing actual content, then what are they providing? It
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  Speaker 3: could be their brains, right? After all, these Twitch girls
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  Speaker 3: have such fantastic personalities.
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  Speaker 4: You what?
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  Speaker 1: Oh my god! Treats for the doggo and the cat
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  Speaker 1: on me.
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  Speaker 3: Oh my god, I'll do it just for you. Just
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  Speaker 3: for you.
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  Speaker 1: Hey, kitty, you are being rewarded.
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  Speaker 2: Get the fuck off the counter!
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  Speaker 3: Animal abuse aside, millions of people do not sign up
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  Speaker 3: for a service just to get nothing. So if you
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  Speaker 3: aren't skilled at a game and you aren't good at
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  Speaker 3: actual content production, then the reason people are watching you
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  Speaker 3: is because you are attractive. The reason that Pokimane has
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  Speaker 3: all those guys watching and donating to her is because
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  Speaker 3: they are pretending that she is their kawaii anime girlfriend.
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  Speaker 3: I think that this comment on the It's a Gundam
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  Speaker 3: video that started the Pokimane drama says it best. These
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  Speaker 3: girls monetized the friend zone. I mean, hell, if a
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  Speaker 3: guy in Japan is willing to marry his anime doll,
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  Speaker 3: then of course tons of lonely men will donate fives, tens,
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  Speaker 3: or even hundreds of dollars just so that their favorite
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  Speaker 3: twitch waifu Pokimane will read their comment. And Pokimane knows
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  Speaker 3: that's the case. Seriously. Why do women still do porn
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  Speaker 3: when they can just stream on Twitch? You probably make
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  Speaker 3: more money on Twitch anyway with a longer career, and
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  Speaker 3: you don't have to get naked. That being said, Pokimane
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  Speaker 3: still tries to hide this fact from other people.
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  Speaker 2: I know there's going to be so many people in
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  Speaker 2: the comments saying, trying to say stuff like, how to
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  Speaker 2: be successful on Twitch. Step number one, be a girl.
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  Speaker 2: Step number two, profit. And although I don't think anyone's
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  Speaker 2: success should be minimized to just their gender. I do
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  Speaker 2: want to point out a learning lesson in comments like those.
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  Speaker 2: So because girls are kind of a minority in gaming,
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  Speaker 2: or at least they were a lot more when I
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  Speaker 2: first started than they are nowadays, when you would start
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  Speaker 2: off streaming as a girl, it was kind of like
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  Speaker 2: built-in branding.
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  Speaker 3: You were different.
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  Speaker 2: You stood out. And that's really, really good in this space.
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  Speaker 2: You need to stand out in order for people to
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  Speaker 2: want to click on your channel over other channels.
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  Speaker 3: Really, Poki? Look at a list of all the top
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  Speaker 3: female Twitch streamers. Do you think it's a coincidence that
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  Speaker 3: none of them are ugly? How about this girl? She
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  Speaker 3: got $ 120, 000 for dancing to a YouTube video of a game.
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  Speaker 3: Did she get that because she was being unique? Or
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  Speaker 3: did she get it because she was showing her body?
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  Speaker 5: Please.
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  Speaker 3: Women on Twitch by large are not becoming successful streamers
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  Speaker 3: because they are talented content producers. They are popular because
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  Speaker 3: they took a website that was supposed to be about
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  Speaker 3: gaming and turned it into a camgirl website. If Pokimane
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  Speaker 3: wanted to be valued for her brain, then she would
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  Speaker 3: have stayed in engineering school or at least worked on
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  Speaker 3: some entertainment skills. As innocent as she portrays herself, she
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  Speaker 3: knows what's up. Why do you think you almost never
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  Speaker 3: see her without makeup? Why do you think it's impossible
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  Speaker 3: to find out who she's dating? Do you guys honestly
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  Speaker 3: believe that Pokimane is a 24-year-old fem-cell virgin who never
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  Speaker 3: spends any time with guys? Of course not. She hides it.
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  Speaker 3: She knows that if she reveals that she has a boyfriend,
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  Speaker 3: then she will lose a ton of her following like
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  Speaker 3: the OK Boomer girl did. However, the real giveaway to
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  Speaker 3: the nature of Pokimane's content is the ASMR. If you want,
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  Speaker 3: you can have your favorite waifu whisper in your ear
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  Speaker 3: while you look at porn. Look, she even has those
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  Speaker 3: ear things that they use in ASMR porn. How is
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  Speaker 3: this not sexual? How is this not the same thing
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  Speaker 3: as this? People will tell you why you're valuable, especially
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  Speaker 3: on YouTube. If you have a bunch of guys spamming
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  Speaker 3: the word THICC every time they see a shot of
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  Speaker 3: your ass in yoga pants when you walk out of
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  Speaker 3: the room, then you know why they are there. But,
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  Speaker 3: before I go any further, I must spend some time
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  Speaker 3: defending my queen Pokey, because there have been some things
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  Speaker 3: that she was attacked for that were kind of unfair,
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  Speaker 3: and on this channel, everyone has a chance to defend themselves.
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  Speaker 3: So last year, there was some Twitter drama over video
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  Speaker 3: with Pokimane and Keemstar. Someone took the videos of that
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  Speaker 3: drama and uploaded them back to back without any edits
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  Speaker 3: onto YouTube. Pokimane issued a takedown notice or a copyright
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  Speaker 3: strike for copyright infringement. Personally, I'm not a lawyer, so
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  Speaker 3: I don't know if putting the clips of the Pokimane
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  Speaker 3: and Keemstar drama together counts as transformative or not, but
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  Speaker 3: she may have been within her right to take that
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  Speaker 3: video down. There was also similar drama with Pokimane and
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  Speaker 3: a YouTuber known as DavSeb. DavSeb was uploading Pokimane's content
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  Speaker 3: to his YouTube channel without any edits or commentary. She
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  Speaker 3: was definitely within her right to remove those videos. People
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  Speaker 3: said that she bullied DavSeb by showing his Instagram account
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  Speaker 3: on stream, but he makes that account publicly available on
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  Speaker 3: his YouTube channel and she didn't say anything bad about it.
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  Speaker 3: So these things sound like they're not really a big deal.
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  Speaker 3: But that doesn't mean that Pokimane is absolved of all
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  Speaker 3: of her sins, because she did do something that was
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  Speaker 3: really bad in the past month, and it's getting worse. Recently,
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  Speaker 3: It's a Gundam made a video on some Twitter memes
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  Speaker 3: involving Pokimane and her followers. The big eye-catcher was that
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  Speaker 3: one of the posts said that a guy went homeless
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  Speaker 3: so that he could donate to Pokimane. Pokimane did a
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  Speaker 3: reaction to this video during a stream, and in defense
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  Speaker 3: of her again, she debunked the video from It's a Gundam.
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  Speaker 3: Pokimane Ben Shapiro-style destroyed It's a Gundam by showing with
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  Speaker 3: evidence that the tweets were fake and were just a joke.
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  Speaker 2: Wait, this is actually really, really, really disingenuous. I think
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  Speaker 2: the main reason he's blocking out the person's name is
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  Speaker 2: because in the very tweet, he says, I don't, he says,
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  Speaker 2: it's a joke. He has literally said, it's a joke.
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  Speaker 2: May 6th, May 13th.
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  Speaker 3: She got him, which surprised me because usually female streamers
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  Speaker 3: have no comebacks. But to the credit of It's a Gundam,
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  Speaker 3: he immediately admitted that he was wrong.
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  Speaker 4: Pokimane got mad at me and decided to cancel me
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  Speaker 4: in the absolute worst way. I mean, frankly, okay, fine.
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  Speaker 4: So I got some things wrong. Big whoop, it happens, man.
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  Speaker 4: I mean, it's Twitter, and retarded stuff happens on Twitter
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  Speaker 4: all the time.
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  Speaker 3: So you would think that this is a done deal.
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  Speaker 3: Pokimane debunks its Gundam, he admits fault, end of story,
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  Speaker 3: everyone's happy. But that's not what happened, because instead... Pokimane
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  Speaker 3: summoned up all the Karen she could muster up, and
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  Speaker 3: said this.
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  Speaker 2: And I will say, for this company to sponsor a
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  Speaker 2: video that's literally 20 minutes of talking shit about me?
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  Speaker 2: You will never see... Dude, your website's so ass it
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  Speaker 2: won't even load. But if you ever reach out to me,
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  Speaker 2: if I ever see you in my inbox, on site.
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  Speaker 2: On fucking site. Like, no company should do that just
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  Speaker 2: about ever.
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  Speaker 3: Going after someone's source of income is an extreme foul
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  Speaker 3: play in the content creation business. That is basically saying...
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  Speaker 3: I don't like what you have to say, so I'm
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  Speaker 3: going to make sure that you can't pay your bills.
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  Speaker 3: She spends this whole video talking about how it's okay
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  Speaker 3: to criticize her, but don't criticize her fans. However, she's
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  Speaker 3: clearly mad that she was criticized.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, uh, is this a video where some random dude
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  Speaker 2: behind a VR machine calls a girl a thot for
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  Speaker 2: 20 minutes? Really want to put my logo on that one!
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  Speaker 1: Ha ha ha!
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  Speaker 3: If she wasn't mad about being called a name... then
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  Speaker 3: she wouldn't have spent more than 30 minutes talking about it,
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  Speaker 3: and she wouldn't have gone after a sponsor. Now Ridge
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  Speaker 3: Wallet isn't the sponsor that dropped It's a Gundam, but
• 11:24
  Speaker 3: Pokimane said that she wouldn't promote any product that sponsored him.
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  Speaker 3: Right after she said that, It's a Gundam was dropped
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  Speaker 3: from a very big ad campaign for a gaming company
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  Speaker 3: that supposedly everyone would recognize, presumably because they also sponsored
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  Speaker 3: Pokimane and did not want to lose her. Pokimane spent
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  Speaker 3: quite a bit of her time talking about the immorality
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  Speaker 3: of It's a Gundam making that video, but she fails
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  Speaker 3: to take note of all the things that she did
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  Speaker 3: that were immoral. Tell me how her response to It's
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  Speaker 3: a Gundam is not the exact same response that Alinity
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  Speaker 3: gave to PewDiePie.
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  Speaker 1: Stupid Twitch thoughts?
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  Speaker 2: No.
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  Speaker 3: Seriously?
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  Speaker 2: He just said that? I'm gonna copy strike this guy.
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  Speaker 3: Just for that word.
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  Speaker 2: Gonna copy strike him.
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  Speaker 5: Yo!
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  Speaker 2: Can we copy Strike PewDiePie's latest video, like right now?
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  Speaker 3: Not only that, but also like Alinity, Pokimane is perfectly
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  Speaker 3: fine with Twitch double standards. Both of them have shown
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  Speaker 3: nudity while streaming, which is against the rules, and neither
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  Speaker 3: of them were punished for it, something that would have
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  Speaker 3: gotten anyone else a suspension. They won't punish Pokimane because
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  Speaker 3: she is a top streamer and they'll lose money if
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  Speaker 3: they do. So it's rules for thee and not for me.
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  Speaker 3: There is even a witness testimony of that. Here is
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  Speaker 3: Ethan Klein talking about an event where Joey Salads got
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  Speaker 3: banned on Twitch for streaming the exact same thing that
• 12:49
  Speaker 3: Ethan streamed.
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  Speaker 5: And I later spoke on the phone to my contact there,
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  Speaker 5: and he said, and I quote, that we give special
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  Speaker 5: treatment to our partners, to our big partners. Well, we
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  Speaker 5: take care of you.
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  Speaker 3: Not that this wasn't completely obvious. Twitch is so bad
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  Speaker 3: with favoritism that Alinity had to beg to be banned
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  Speaker 3: after showing her boob just so that she wouldn't look bad.
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  Speaker 3: Now if you want to talk about morality, then morality
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  Speaker 3: is what you do during your worst times or when
• 13:19
  Speaker 3: you are under stress. Morality is what you do when
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  Speaker 3: you have power or even when you are in a
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  Speaker 3: place where no one can see that you have done
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  Speaker 3: something wrong. So what have we learned about Pokimane when
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  Speaker 3: she is under stress because she got criticized? She will
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  Speaker 3: go full Karen and attack your source of income. What
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  Speaker 3: have we learned about Pokimane when she's in a position
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  Speaker 3: of power? Well, she is perfectly fine with getting special
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  Speaker 3: exceptions to the rules. Not only that, but she will
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  Speaker 3: use that power and special protection to destroy anyone who
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  Speaker 3: tries to criticize her by doing things like rallying her
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  Speaker 3: fans to mass attack content creators that she doesn't like.
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  Speaker 3: It's been a month, but the It's a Gundam scandal
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  Speaker 3: is not over. Not only has she not apologized for
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  Speaker 3: her actions despite tons of backlash, But she has continued
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  Speaker 3: the attack.
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  Speaker 4: So, I was told my Twitch page was down. Went
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  Speaker 4: and checked it was. Checked my emails, and this is
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  Speaker 4: what I got. Based on a review of your activity
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  Speaker 4: and content, we issued a community guidelines strike on your account.
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  Speaker 4: Most likely, it was Pokimane Stamps reporting me again, like
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  Speaker 4: they did the first day that she told everyone to
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  Speaker 4: mass flag me. You know, that's targeted harassment, I'm pretty sure.
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  Speaker 4: But it seems like Pokimane didn't get a ban or
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  Speaker 4: even a warning. I wonder why.
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  Speaker 2: Hmm.
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  Speaker 4: Weird, am I right? You know what else happened? People
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  Speaker 4: tried to figure out where I lived and where my
• 14:37
  Speaker 4: family members lived. Hmm, that seems like targeted harassment to me, Twitch.
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  Speaker 4: But you know what? I'm the bad guy here. This
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  Speaker 4: is all my fault. Pokimane has Twitch clips of her
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  Speaker 4: rallying her fans to come after me. And she didn't
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  Speaker 4: get suspended.
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  Speaker 3: Just in the last week, It's a Gundam got a
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  Speaker 3: 7-day ban on Twitch for something that he didn't do
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  Speaker 3: while Pokimane spends 30 minutes on her stream basically telling
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  Speaker 3: her followers to harass him, and then asking them to
• 15:08
  Speaker 3: give her tips on how to harass him. But that's
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  Speaker 3: not all. As of June 17th, apparently all of the
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  Speaker 3: content on It's a Gundam's Twitch channel has been removed,
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  Speaker 3: and from the looks of it, the content still has
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  Speaker 3: not been restored. Pokimane is all about giving positive platitudes
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  Speaker 3: on how we should all be kind. Well, how about this?
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  Speaker 3: She has 5 million Twitch followers and 5 million YouTube followers.
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  Speaker 3: She knows that any sort of disgruntled behavior towards her
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  Speaker 3: will cause people to white knight and mass attack whoever
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  Speaker 3: she doesn't like. And she shows those people that it's
• 15:43
  Speaker 3: a good idea to attack other people that she doesn't
• 15:46
  Speaker 3: like by modeling that behavior on her stream. Think of
• 15:50
  Speaker 3: it this way. If it were the case that things
• 15:53
  Speaker 3: just kind of got out of hand and she didn't
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  Speaker 3: expect people to respond that way, then she could have
• 15:58
  Speaker 3: made a video telling her fans to stop and she
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  Speaker 3: could have contacted Twitch to tell them to remove the
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  Speaker 3: ban and restore his content. You don't think she can
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  Speaker 3: do that? She is one of Twitch's top 10 streamers.
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  Speaker 3: Of course she can talk to the staff. Instead, on
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  Speaker 3: June 18th, and I did make sure that this was
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  Speaker 3: a real tweet, she writes this horrendous message where she
• 16:19
  Speaker 3: states that she doesn't condone going after someone or their
• 16:23
  Speaker 3: sponsors simply because you disagree or dislike them. However, if
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  Speaker 3: I dislike you and disagree with the information you have spread,
• 16:31
  Speaker 3: then you shouldn't have sponsors. Did she read this before
• 16:34
  Speaker 3: she posted it? With that said, though, I feel like
• 16:37
  Speaker 3: to the viewer that this picture seems a little unclear. Like,
• 16:40
  Speaker 3: why would Pokimane act in this way? You have to
• 16:44
  Speaker 3: understand that behaviors have origins, and if we can understand
• 16:48
  Speaker 3: those origins, then we can stop people from acting that way, or,
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  Speaker 3: at the very least, we can stop the evil in ourselves.
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  Speaker 3: So here is an interview that Pokimane did with Dr. K.,
• 16:59
  Speaker 3: I'm not going to go over everything because this interview
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  Speaker 3: is three hours long and that's quite a bit to unpack.
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  Speaker 3: So if you want to know more, you can just
• 17:06
  Speaker 3: watch the interview. Pokimane starts talking about her childhood at
• 17:09
  Speaker 3: about the one hour point. However, there are two clips
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  Speaker 3: that I did find that were very interesting.
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  Speaker 2: My mom is a teacher and my dad is like
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  Speaker 2: an engineer but also taught at a university at some point.
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  Speaker 2: So they were always like very supportive when it came
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  Speaker 2: to school and that was like You know, like, I
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  Speaker 2: would do well in school. I would get validation from them.
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  Speaker 2: And that was, like, my cycle of happiness, I guess. And, oh,
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  Speaker 2: they were also, like, pretty strict. It's like, oh, you
• 17:44
  Speaker 2: don't go out late. Like, no boys in the house. Like,
• 17:47
  Speaker 2: you don't hang out with too many boys. Do this,
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  Speaker 2: you do that. A lot of the stuff that, especially in, like,
• 17:52
  Speaker 2: high school, my friends would do or could do, I wouldn't.
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  Speaker 3: So there are a couple things to unpack here. First,
• 18:00
  Speaker 3: we have a heavy need for validation from her parents,
• 18:03
  Speaker 3: and that ends up being a pretty big theme throughout
• 18:05
  Speaker 3: the talk. Second, we have really, really restrictive authoritarian parents
• 18:11
  Speaker 3: who basically force her to stay inside the house, isolated
• 18:14
  Speaker 3: from all her friends. She mentions later that she had
• 18:17
  Speaker 3: to sneak out in high school just to go eat
• 18:19
  Speaker 3: with her friends. That is very abusive. Sheltering your child
• 18:23
  Speaker 3: by not allowing her to interact with friends or build
• 18:26
  Speaker 3: an individual identity is child abuse. Also, if she ever
• 18:30
  Speaker 3: had a boyfriend, then she would have to hide him
• 18:32
  Speaker 3: from her parents, much like she does with her fans.
• 18:36
  Speaker 3: Her dad was an engineer, and she studied to be
• 18:38
  Speaker 3: an engineer before Twitch took off, so basically what you
• 18:41
  Speaker 3: have here is her parents controlling her entire life and
• 18:45
  Speaker 3: deciding who she's going to be. That's not parenting. Good
• 18:48
  Speaker 3: parents facilitate growth, instead of controlling their child's every move.
• 18:53
  Speaker 3: So when she doesn't live up to her parents' expectations,
• 18:56
  Speaker 3: she feels bad, and has to hide her failure. This
• 18:59
  Speaker 3: is why I believe she reacted so violently to It's
• 19:02
  Speaker 3: a Gundam's criticism. Pokimane has said in multiple videos that
• 19:05
  Speaker 3: her mom looks her up online and checks what people
• 19:08
  Speaker 3: say about her. So if she gets exposed as someone
• 19:11
  Speaker 3: who basically is using her looks to make money, and
• 19:14
  Speaker 3: not her brain, and her mom sees that, then it
• 19:17
  Speaker 3: would look really bad. Her parents might remove that validation
• 19:21
  Speaker 3: that she so desperately craves, so anyone who points out
• 19:24
  Speaker 3: the nature of what she does... must be destroyed. It's
• 19:28
  Speaker 3: a Gundam is trying to take away the validation that
• 19:31
  Speaker 3: Pokimane gets from her mom, so Pokimane cannot allow that criticism.
• 19:36
  Speaker 3: But it's not just that. This type of parenting style
• 19:39
  Speaker 3: has side effects that are even worse.
• 19:42
  Speaker 2: I've literally had very popular people say very rude things
• 19:48
  Speaker 2: about me, have their viewers harass me and then that
• 19:51
  Speaker 2: very same evening or next day they dm me being
• 19:55
  Speaker 2: all nice or asking for help or whatever it is
• 19:58
  Speaker 2: and that is such a freaking brain boom for me
• 20:01
  Speaker 2: because like my reflex is like if someone asks me
• 20:06
  Speaker 2: something i want to respond i want to be nice
• 20:08
  Speaker 2: i want to like do the right thing. That's what
• 20:11
  Speaker 2: like I should do. And that's like what I enjoy doing.
• 20:14
  Speaker 2: But then also having to like calculate, wait, but this,
• 20:17
  Speaker 2: this person like has no genuine care for me. Like
• 20:22
  Speaker 2: they just want to say stuff that's going to get
• 20:24
  Speaker 2: like clipped and shipped or have people laugh at or
• 20:28
  Speaker 2: ridicule me or whatever it is. Like they want their
• 20:30
  Speaker 2: cake and they want to eat it too. But actually
• 20:32
  Speaker 2: that brings me to the other point of like kind
• 20:36
  Speaker 2: of being jaded or feeling bad because even though I
• 20:40
  Speaker 2: have a lot of like good friends on Twitch, I
• 20:44
  Speaker 2: never ever feel like anyone would risk standing up for
• 20:49
  Speaker 2: me because it could be bad for business.
• 20:52
  Speaker 3: And there we see how immoral behavior leads to misery.
• 20:56
  Speaker 3: You don't get away with anything. You're going to lie
• 20:59
  Speaker 3: to everyone and attack people who criticize you? Okay, well
• 21:02
  Speaker 3: now you don't have any real friends. She learned so
• 21:05
  Speaker 3: well how to hide her feelings from her parents that
• 21:08
  Speaker 3: now she does it with everyone. When you fake your
• 21:11
  Speaker 3: feelings or your personality and lie about who you are,
• 21:15
  Speaker 3: you don't make strong connections with other people. You don't
• 21:18
  Speaker 3: project a personality that other people would be willing to
• 21:21
  Speaker 3: stand up for or help. If you are trying to
• 21:24
  Speaker 3: make close connections with other people, then it's very important
• 21:27
  Speaker 3: that you reveal who you are, and Pokimane can't do
• 21:30
  Speaker 3: that because she is too busy trying to cover it
• 21:32
  Speaker 3: all up so that her parents aren't offended. There are
• 21:36
  Speaker 3: consequences to that. Plus, she is pretending to like people
• 21:39
  Speaker 3: who she hates, which invites those people in. If you
• 21:43
  Speaker 3: want good friends, you can't do that. You need to
• 21:46
  Speaker 3: vet out the people who suck and pick people who
• 21:48
  Speaker 3: are desirable enough to make you want to help them
• 21:51
  Speaker 3: when they are in trouble. And on your side, you
• 21:54
  Speaker 3: need to actually be the kind of person who is
• 21:56
  Speaker 3: worth helping. but she isn't doing that, therefore she gets
• 21:59
  Speaker 3: shitty friends, and this is the reason why you have
• 22:02
  Speaker 3: to explore these ideas in your own psyche. If you don't,
• 22:06
  Speaker 3: then you'll feel completely empty, no matter how well off
• 22:09
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• 22:12
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