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Fuck You: I Would Do Anything For My Kids · Let's Get Naked

• 0:00
  SPEAKER_00: Hey everyone, I'm Anne.
• 0:01
  SPEAKER_00: Welcome to another mini FU episode of Let's Get Naked.
• 0:04
  SPEAKER_00: I'm here with Casey today.
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  SPEAKER_00: And the topic that we're going to take a few minutes to discuss is the parents that say I would do anything for my kids.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I love this, hate this one so much because I don't want to pick on people, but I do want people to open their eyes a little bit when they say that.
• 0:22
  SPEAKER_00: Because I know that as parents, we all want to do the best for our children.
• 0:26
  SPEAKER_00: And I can look back and have plenty of ammunition to realize where I failed my kiddos.
• 0:32
  SPEAKER_00: And I'm not a perfect parent and things were messy and I totally get that.
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  SPEAKER_00: But the I would do anything for my kids is alarming to me when people say that because they always say it with so much passion and so much like um energy behind it.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then also it's like, prove it, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Show me the receipts that you would do anything for your kids.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because if you have this thing where you're so low-level emotional intelligence that your entire family is in survival mode around you because your whole life is a fucking blanket trigger and defensive, and you lose your cool over stupid shit, or you're the dickhead in traffic that's uh, you know, throwing Skittles and energy all over the place because you can't handle basic stuff.
• 1:14
  SPEAKER_00: Your kids are watching, right?
• 1:17
  SPEAKER_00: I've talked to enough kids, I've talked to enough people that have reformed their behavior in that way.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, so you say I would do anything for my kids, really?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because you're just passing down the same trauma that you were handed because you don't have the fucking sack to go ahead and take a look under the bed at who the monster was in your childhood.
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  SPEAKER_00: So if you don't fix that, you're not just not only saving or protecting your kids, you're the fucking monster in their story, which is hear that again.
• 1:43
  SPEAKER_00: You are the monster in their story.
• 1:48
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• 1:49
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• 1:53
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• 2:09
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• 2:18
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• 2:29
  SPEAKER_00: You know, I was talking to Cameron a while ago about some of the stuff with his dad, and his dad was physically abusive to him.
• 2:36
  SPEAKER_00: And he we were talking about kind of just the way that he was raising, you know, our kids earlier on and whatever.
• 2:41
  SPEAKER_00: And it's like he woke up to a lot of the things that he didn't even realize.
• 2:46
  SPEAKER_00: It was like just because I kept my hands in my pockets doesn't mean I wasn't handing down the same fucking trauma of my kids having to kind of be in survival mode around me because of my defensiveness, because of my triggers, because I would lose my cool over stupid shit, right?
• 3:00
  SPEAKER_00: If your kids spill something and you get crazy and yell at them, what are you doing?
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  SPEAKER_00: Like, and again, same.
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  SPEAKER_00: No judgment.
• 3:07
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, same, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: I used to be a lunatic where if I didn't have control over everything, but then I I woke up a little bit and went, is this the best thing for me and for my kids, right?
• 3:16
  SPEAKER_00: You have to be the best version of yourself that you possibly can.
• 3:20
  SPEAKER_00: You know, people get real snarky about um when I tell people that you have to put yourself first, you have to be the best version of yourself in order to be the best version of, you know, for your children.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so when you say, I would do anything for my kids, would you?
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  SPEAKER_00: Would you?
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  SPEAKER_00: We're not asking you to lay down your life.
• 3:37
  SPEAKER_00: We're asking you to fix your shit so that, you know, go to see a therapist, Bill, uh, so that you don't have a fucking temper tantrum over life.
• 3:44
  SPEAKER_00: Life just happens every single day, you know.
• 3:46
  SPEAKER_00: The other thing too is in a society, we have gotten to a place where um, you know, everyone is so far out of shape physically, and I get it.
• 3:56
  SPEAKER_00: But if you say I would do anything for my kids and a pedo at a park, by pedo, I mean pedophile in case anyone's not certain what I'm talking about, at a park, picked up your little girl and spedwalk away and you couldn't even fucking catch them because you're fucking 500 pounds.
• 4:12
  SPEAKER_00: No offense.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm not trying to shame anybody, but don't say I would do anything for my kids.
• 4:16
  SPEAKER_00: You can't fucking protect your kids.
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  SPEAKER_00: Someone could speed walk away from you and fucking steal your kids.
• 4:22
  SPEAKER_00: Like let that s let that be the bitch slap that it is, because it feels painful for me to even fucking say it.
• 4:29
  SPEAKER_00: And also, I feel like we have to be able to look ourselves in the mirror when it comes to that.
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  SPEAKER_00: How can you say that?
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  SPEAKER_00: And also, you're modeling that behavior to your kiddos that it's okay to not take care of yourself, to not be the best person that you possibly can, mind, body, spirit.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's what we should be modeling to our children is that they are valuable enough, that they are worth enough to put that energy and effort into themselves first, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: They should prioritize themselves first, not someone else above them.
• 4:55
  SPEAKER_00: So when you go like, I would do anything for my kids, would you, when you say that the next time, picture that.
• 5:01
  SPEAKER_00: If a pedophile walked by and grabbed your child, would you be able to catch them?
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  SPEAKER_00: Would you be able to fucking catch them?
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  SPEAKER_00: And if not, open your eyes and fucking do something about it.
• 5:10
  SPEAKER_00: And that's all I'm gonna say about that.