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Autism And Changing Plans (Store Changing Shelves😓) · Aspergers & Autism Podcast [The Aspie World] AuDHD

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  So autism and changing plans. Hey guys, welcome back to the
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  apps. We world.
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  My name is Dan, I have autism ADHD OCD and dyslexia and I make
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  weekly videos on this type of stuff.
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  So guys, what's going on? Welcome Back, different.
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  Thinkers the place where we think.
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  Differently daily. What is going on?
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  I'm your host Dan from the ask me world.
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  Yeah, weird. Isn't it being back now?
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  Christmas all done. Everything is over and done with
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  mouth. Gosh, I was crazy 2021.
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  Some even past the fact that you know 2020 was crazy in 2020.
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  Ones shaping up to be quite an interesting Challenger.
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  I had an interesting experience and I wanted to share that
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  experience with you guys due to the fact that you know, it's a
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  it was caused directly because I'm on the autism spectrum and
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  how does this impact me and all this kind of stuff.
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  So if you are new to me and you haven't already downloaded my
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  soup it up. Okay so guys Awesome and
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  changing plans about, let's, let's just bring it down really
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  quickly. Autistic, people do not cope
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  well with changing routines, changing plant things change.
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  Change is a scary thing for anybody.
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  But especially people on the autism spectrum, why you may
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  ask? Because people on the autism
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  spectrum, like to have things in a certain order in a certain way
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  that they can routinely do those things over and over again,
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  because routine gives people stability and security and that
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  comfortable feeling where they know that nothing crazy is going
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  to happen. Because the world is chaotic a
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  person with autism spectrum disorder, sees the world as a
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  chaotic, kind of bright and Brilliant mess at sometimes.
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  And that is overwhelming overloading cuz cause meltdowns
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  shutdowns overlords burnouts, you name it.
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  So when you have a set of things that you like to do,
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  repetitively in a routine and you know, what to expect, you
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  know, everything's going to be fine and you enjoy those things
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  then why wouldn't you feel comfortable around those things?
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  It's a no-brainer but if those plans Suddenly change, it
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  changes the whole Stratosphere of existence.
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  It's kind of like having, you know, having Domino's all laid
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  out perfectly and then somebody like, kicked him and they just
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  start going off. And I've got my goodness, you
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  know, nothing's gonna happen. Now we've changed it, you've
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  clicked the Domino and something crazy catastrophic is going to
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  happen. That is kind of like the
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  experience of changing plans. Now, I want to specifically to
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  talk today about stores. Like I went to the store the
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  other day, I was confronted with a problem, which I have been
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  faced with Couple times before, but I've never experienced it,
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  in this certain store, the issues, the issue I have is this
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  when I go to the store, I know where things I've been to the
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  store a few times and because of the coronavirus pandemic, I'm
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  being the only person who was kind of like nominated to go
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  outside of my house, because my girlfriend was shielding and we
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  had a little child, he's only two.
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  So, they were in the house and I was wanting to go to the store
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  with a mask on, and do that kind of thing because I was the
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  healthiest, kind of, you know, candidate to go out.
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  So normally we go shopping together, Is when I do my
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  grocery store shopping, we go as a family and Naomi helps me.
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  Do other things that, you know, navigate around the store, not
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  get too worked up, but going on my own, has been quite a
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  challenge and it difficult thing.
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  So I'm going out to the store with a difficult kind of like,
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  you know, straight from the get-go.
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  I'm like, okay, I'm going to go and do this again by trying to
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  go in the store. Now for a while, it's being kind
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  of interesting, right? I've been kind of getting to
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  know where the things out in the store because I've been walking
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  on the store your first time took a couple of hours and I
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  want to take me about an hour so I went To the store.
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  I normally go to called little where I got a lot of our fruit
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  and veg from. So I got a little and have a
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  nice organic section so it's kind of cool.
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  So go in there and as soon as I go in the front door
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  Everything's changed, they've changed the change.
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  The layout of the sorry. Guys they change the layout of
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  when you first Go in all the shells were changed over.
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  You know. So guys what happened and there
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  was a that was a ticket happening because I was nervous
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  about talking about this so please bear with me and they
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  changed all the the change to all of the the show.
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  I was on the left-hand side and the right-hand side and at the
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  shop is basically upside down and I was like, I don't know,
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  where do I go to? Go to go and took me a while to
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  find my bearings. But what happened is when I went
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  in I was like instantly shot like, oh my goodness, you know
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  where's things? I started to kind of think.
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  Okay, we'll put in and I tried to think logically about it and
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  as I went deeper into the store it kind of just got to me and I
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  started panicking and I started worrying and I wasn't really
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  dealing with it very well and I missed out on a bunch of things
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  off my list and if it wasn't for the fact that I knew somebody
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  who was working, On the tills. I think it would have ended
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  pretty badly. Now, what did happen is, I
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  started you know, panicking really, really bad panic.
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  And start having anxiety them because I was thinking, like,
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  you're my goodness, I can't find all these things.
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  Were the gone, the chance to shop around everything that we
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  ruined, I can't do this. And then I and then my stomach
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  started hurting and I don't know if you guys have GI issues
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  because of anxiety and stress and things like that.
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  So my stomach was like just crippling as like you know, I
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  could be just like, oh my goodness, I'm gonna die.
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  And so then I have to buy some nuts and a bottle of water to
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  Eat and drink because I needed to kind of calm myself down and
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  my stomach down, fat feeling, left me feeling hungover for the
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  rest of the day. I felt kind of like I was on a,
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  an emotional hangover because it was such a roller coaster, going
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  to the shop, expecting one thing.
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  And then the whole thing is changed, and you experience a
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  different thing. And I was just like, oh my
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  goodness, like, What the heck is just happened, you know, and
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  that is is scary, you know, like it's scary because I was on my
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  own and I didn't, I didn't know what to do and I was just lucky
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  that my friend worked on the till really, but in terms of
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  like awesome and changing plans, it's so difficult to deal with
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  especially when stores change stuff around.
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  You know, like I have the biggest issue with that and I
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  wish they didn't change things around our, I wish they would
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  just like alert people who are on the Spectrum.
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  Like, you know, maybe work with the national autistic Society or
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  somebody where they put Anna. Like I was saying hey your local
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  store has changed his layout. Before you go there you can see
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  the layout change something that will just help you know and it
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  just really did throw me and and I don't like that that wasn't
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  you know, didn't take kindly to it and I'm kind of like nervous
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  now to go to the store in case I change it around again and the
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  hopefully they won't because they've never changed it and
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  then I was and they changed it. You know I would even preferred
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  a new store like just build a new star because I don't know.
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  Okay, what's the new story? I know I'm gonna expect not to
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  have the same things that I've always thought about this store.
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  So that was kind of like my my biggest Issue with that.
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  But it is what it is. I don't know what your opinions
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  are on it. You do you get those issues were
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  and I just I just found it. Yeah.
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  It's just it just fascinates me that this thing people can just
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  do that and then just think. Oh, yeah, that's fine.
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  It's going to change everything around.
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  Everything we find. Also the parents, you know what
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  I'm talking about autistic people?
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  You feel my pain, guys, I'm gonna go.
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