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Good Moms Bad Choices: Love You, Hate Your Politics · The Breakfast Club

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  Speaker 1: Once upon a time there was a good old traditional housewife.
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  Speaker 1: She couldn't. She cleaned and cared for her children and
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  Speaker 1: the man of the house, and of course she didn't
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  Speaker 1: talk back. She was both obeed, hint and soft by nature.
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  Speaker 1: She was a good woman who always made.
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  Speaker 2: Good choices that ship off. We're good mom's bad choices.
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  Speaker 2: Two single mom who said fuck the patriarchy, shared all
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  Speaker 2: their bad choices and sound out they were so bad.
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  Speaker 2: After all, we're experts. Over shares and your new besties.
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  Speaker 2: Sit back and enjoy the ride. I can do a
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  Speaker 2: bad mom.
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  Speaker 3: I can do an d me my Flowers. I can
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  Speaker 3: play it back powers Powers plays.
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  Speaker 2: A welcome back to good Mom's bad choices.
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  Speaker 4: I'm Mela and I'm Erica, and.
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  Speaker 2: We're back, motherfuckers. It's the ogs an uncensored motherhood. I
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  Speaker 5: Key, like amazing music producers.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, so I mean I'm going to start my music career,
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  Speaker 4: my late life music career. Actually it's my reignited music career,
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  Speaker 4: and I might have to hit them.
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  Speaker 5: Up for some hot beats.
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  Speaker 2: Our beat is pretty hot. I don't know if you
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  Speaker 2: guys peeped it, but maybe we need to rewind and
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  Speaker 2: hear it again. Here, I'll do it for you. I
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  Speaker 2: can do bad all on my no for a new
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  Speaker 2: appreciate Oh, and you can't hold me back. I can
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  Speaker 2: do bad all on my own, and you can't hold
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  Speaker 2: me back. Give me my flowers. I can make in
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  Speaker 2: twenty four hours champagne showers. When I heard that, I
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  Speaker 2: was like, yeah, yeah, I'm not a bad mom, but
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  Speaker 2: a bad mom. We're gonna have to learn the rap.
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  Speaker 2: You guys haven't heard the full song yet, because we're
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  Speaker 2: gonna upload it on Spotify.
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  Speaker 4: Caasting, and we can't put the whole thing even though
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  Speaker 4: we thought about it.
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  Speaker 2: We considered putting all three minutes, but we're gonna just
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  Speaker 2: upload it separately on Spotify, So keep your eye out
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  Speaker 2: or some custom bitches that we do custom shit. Everything
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  Speaker 2: we do is custom. There's nothing we do that's not
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  Speaker 2: custom because, like you said, champagne showers custom bitches, luxury. Okay,
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  Speaker 2: no half passing over here Hererie twenty twenty five. Anyway, Hi, Hi,
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  Speaker 2: happy day, Happy Wednesday, Happy Hemp Day. How are you feeling.
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  Speaker 2: I feel good.
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  Speaker 4: I My titties are out for the utibe tubers. My
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  Speaker 4: skin is clear, my hair I'd put a color deposit
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  Speaker 4: in to just boost the red today, so we're boosted.
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  Speaker 2: My jewel you know, I was thinking, how do you.
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  Speaker 4: Guys feel about wearing jewelry from an egg, like not
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  Speaker 4: from an ex but like represents like an X thing,
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  Speaker 4: Like do you throw away jewelry that like someone gifted you?
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  Speaker 4: Like yeah, sure if they gifted it to you, or
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  Speaker 4: like you got it together, like do not wear the
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  Speaker 4: jewelry anymore?
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  Speaker 2: I wear I will continue to wear whatever I want
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  Speaker 2: if it's still cute. I don't feel like.
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  Speaker 4: If Orlando had like a ring that an X gave him,
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  Speaker 4: would you be mad he was wearing, or like a necklace.
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  Speaker 2: Some ear rings. Yeah, I'll just hide it. Okay, where
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  Speaker 2: is it? I don't know what are you talking about?
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  Speaker 2: That's it was ugly anyway, I was thinking.
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  Speaker 4: I was just I was just thinking about that because
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  Speaker 4: I look down and I have this ring on that
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  Speaker 4: I bought, and I bought a match one for me
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  Speaker 4: and my my ex. And he lost his like the day,
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  Speaker 4: like I think the next day that he wore, which
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  Speaker 4: was very representative. He was out in the streets.
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  Speaker 2: He was in came from.
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  Speaker 4: He was in Portugal at the Afro Beats, probably hoeing
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  Speaker 4: and hearing, and he lost it in the sand. And
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  Speaker 4: then I was like, this is very symbolic. But I
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  Speaker 4: was like, I still have mine, And I.
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  Speaker 2: Was like, am I not supposed to wear this anymore?
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  Speaker 2: Because I like it? I don't think it works that way.
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  Speaker 2: He lost his? Fuck him, it's not even connected him.
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  Speaker 2: Yours is connected to Portugal because we're supposed to go
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  Speaker 2: there next year for the festival. That's what I really
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  Speaker 2: like to do.
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  Speaker 5: Anyway, I'm good.
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  Speaker 2: It's just kind of random thought because I looked down
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  Speaker 2: in my hand and I was like, oh yeah, oh yeah,
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  Speaker 2: that persons I'm not so I'm not supposed to wear this.
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  Speaker 2: I don't think it works that way. I'm doing good.
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  Speaker 2: I am really, really really excited to be leaving soon
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  Speaker 2: to go to Costa Rica. I feel like this February
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  Speaker 2: trip is always at a time where I really really
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  Speaker 2: need to get there, So time between August and February,
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  Speaker 2: I'm like, what the fuck has happened? And I need
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  Speaker 2: to reset and refill my jungle cup and eat real
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  Speaker 2: food and be on the beach and like be with
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  Speaker 2: my tribe with our titties out and eating fresh food.
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  Speaker 2: And so I'm really looking forward to this. I'm looking
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  Speaker 2: forward to like just jumping in and turning off. I'm
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  Speaker 2: plugging from this bullshit and treating myself. And so if
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  Speaker 2: you guys are listening and you're like, oh, it's too
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  Speaker 2: late to go, wait away. I didn't. I didn't put
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  Speaker 2: my deposit down because I'm so stupid. I bought I
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  Speaker 2: bought all these presents for all these other niggas except myself.
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  Speaker 2: I bought titties instead of a trip. Titties are nice,
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  Speaker 2: that's a nice gift. I thought you were gonna say,
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  Speaker 2: because I don't know about that.
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  Speaker 4: If you brought titties, you really need to come to
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  Speaker 4: the trip and show them, honestly.
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  Speaker 2: You know, somebody a couple of years ago, I got
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  Speaker 2: some new titties and I saw them recently and they'd
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  Speaker 2: start they dropped, and I was like, those are like
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  Speaker 2: good girl. But anyway, I don't have new titties yet,
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  Speaker 2: but one of these trips I am going to debut
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  Speaker 2: my new titties.
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  Speaker 5: Maybe you should go, I'm Costa Rica.
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  Speaker 2: To Colombia, I haven't heard a lot. Maybe go to Panama.
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  Speaker 2: Do they have good plastic surgery and Panama? I don't know,
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  Speaker 2: but probably they have everything in Panama. I need to
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  Speaker 2: do more research. I feel like everyone even have good
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  Speaker 2: titties in Costa Rica. Maybe I mean everybody has a
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  Speaker 2: good titty doctor, but it'll probably be significantly less. But
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  Speaker 2: I feel like Columbia people go for those those those
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  Speaker 2: teeth in that ass, and I'm I'm not gonna. I can't.
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  Speaker 2: I can't. Those teeth be big, real big. You gotta
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  Speaker 2: go to Turkey.
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  Speaker 4: You don't even gotta go to Columbia for the big teeth, bitch,
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  Speaker 4: you can go here for the big teeth.
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  Speaker 2: But why would I pay all that money to get
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  Speaker 2: big teeth in America?
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  Speaker 4: I could say, hey, womping's it's an aesthetic right now,
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  Speaker 4: the big.
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  Speaker 2: Teeth my homegirls. Shut out to my homegirl, that'd be
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  Speaker 2: called teeth. Shut out to Becky, she actually got big
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  Speaker 2: teeth on purpose. She said, it's a sign of prestige.
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  Speaker 2: Would you get new teeth? No? If you got a bag, no, okay,
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  Speaker 2: if you won the lottery right now for four hundred
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  Speaker 2: million dollars, what's the first thing you're going to do?
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  Speaker 2: Invest I'm gonna take like a twenty four hour period
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  Speaker 2: and lock my door and just sit in it and
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  Speaker 2: just be like, what do I do next? What I
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  Speaker 2: do next?
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  Speaker 5: I thought you wanted me to tell me what I
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  Speaker 5: was gonna do with my fucking money. Not like I'm
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  Speaker 5: gonna go in meditation.
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  Speaker 2: I'm just asking what was No.
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  Speaker 4: I'm gonna go buy some properties, for sure, go buy
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  Speaker 4: some land. I'm going to read you my whole wardrobe.
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  Speaker 4: I'm going to Oh, I'm gonna buy I'm gonna buy
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  Speaker 4: floor an apartment.
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  Speaker 5: I'm going to get an old school car because.
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  Speaker 2: I like my dream. I really want an old school
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  Speaker 2: car too.
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  Speaker 4: Yesterday and everyone me and everyone on a bike ride
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  Speaker 4: and we were driving. We were like on our bikes
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  Speaker 4: and this like old white man, like this beautiful like
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  Speaker 4: cherry red El Camino.
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  Speaker 5: Is that what it's called.
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  Speaker 4: I'm so bad with the names of the old if
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  Speaker 4: that's why, I just know that I want one. I
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  Speaker 4: don't know which one I want anyway. It was a
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  Speaker 4: red El Camino and he had his hair all slipped
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  Speaker 4: back and he had his cool glasses on. And I
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  Speaker 4: just wrote by and I was like, nice car man.
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  Speaker 4: He was like yeah, And I was like he's been
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  Speaker 4: waiting for someone to tell him that all day. And
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  Speaker 4: I was like, I can't wait to get in my
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  Speaker 4: car and someone to tell me that.
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  Speaker 2: I've been dying to do an old timey shoot in
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  Speaker 2: an old car. But it just hasn't happened yet. But
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  Speaker 2: it's on our list in twenty twenty four, right, twenty
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  Speaker 2: twenty five. Shit, I forgot that. It's twenty twenty five already,
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  Speaker 2: sure is anyway? Oh, actually, one more thing about the lottery.
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  Speaker 2: If you win the lottery, don't tell anyone, and you
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  Speaker 2: have to don't sign the back of it. Actually claim
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  Speaker 2: it in a in a business that you opened in
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  Speaker 2: a state where they can't tell you. They can't it's
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  Speaker 2: not public record who owns it, so don't say I
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  Speaker 2: never touched for anything. Any daddy hides all his money.
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  Speaker 2: Interesting probably.
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  Speaker 4: Going by Oh, back to the retreat though, if you
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  Speaker 4: guys do want to come to the retreat, we do
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  Speaker 4: have spots available.
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  Speaker 5: There's a link in this description.
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  Speaker 2: We do have a special code for the last minute bitches,
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  Speaker 2: because I know you're a last minute but last minute
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  Speaker 2: bitches deserve luxury too. Yeah, use code Tribe for a substantial,
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  Speaker 2: substantial discount if you really really want to come and
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  Speaker 2: bring your bestie, and maybe we'll even give you a
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  Speaker 2: better discount. Don't say good moms didn't give you anything
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  Speaker 2: for the holiday season, because we're giving you the luxury
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  Speaker 2: of rest. It's up to you if you take it.
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  Speaker 2: You bitches want to give everything to everybody else except yourself,
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  Speaker 2: but this is us telling you you are also worthy
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  Speaker 2: and important of rest. Amen.
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  Speaker 4: Hm. We have a segment on our show called bad
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  Speaker 4: Choice of the Week, and last week I shared mine,
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  Speaker 4: which was a sex injury, and you guys got a
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  Speaker 4: big kick out of that, and we actually have a
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  Speaker 4: submission for a bad choice of the week this week
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  Speaker 4: straight from our Facebook group.
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  Speaker 2: This bad choice of the week is.
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  Speaker 4: So My bad choice of the week is I've been
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  Speaker 4: entertaining my baby daddy, my current ex. I'm dating a
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  Speaker 4: different new guy, but I let my baby daddy eat
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  Speaker 4: the groceries and I think I'm in love again.
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  Speaker 2: First of all, I just want to say it for
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  Speaker 2: the record. You lying you ain't in love, bitch. No
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  Speaker 2: for a reason you didn't just let him eat the groceries.
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  Speaker 2: That is just as as an adult, it just doesn't exist.
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  Speaker 2: I've been there. I backtracked many times letting a nigga
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  Speaker 2: eat groceries and guess what every time happened, his dick
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  Speaker 2: went in my vagina. I don't know, I've had pussy
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  Speaker 2: aiden left. It's very rare. I feel like the one
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  Speaker 2: time it happened, I was literally like pushing the nigga
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  Speaker 2: out the door and like closing it after fast, because
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  Speaker 2: you can't.
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  Speaker 4: When you do that, you don't. Actually, she probably doesn't
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  Speaker 4: really like this nigga at all, so then you.
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  Speaker 2: She obviously does. She thinks she's in love again, and
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  Speaker 2: she has a new boyfriend, that's true.
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  Speaker 4: I just like when I didn't like a nigga, I
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  Speaker 4: had him eat my pussy and then I kicked him out.
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  Speaker 5: I didn't come. I didn't want his penis inside of me.
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  Speaker 2: I don't play those type of games. I learned early on.
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  Speaker 2: If you eat my pussy, you're gonna want this pussy.
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  Speaker 2: I know how the pussy works, and I know how
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  Speaker 2: my pussy works, and so I'm just gonna do it harder.
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  Speaker 5: You want to give him the pussy.
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  Speaker 2: It's hard for me if I if you start eating
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  Speaker 2: my pussy or my groceries, I'm the likelihood of me
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  Speaker 2: going to the next level ninety nine point nine percent
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  Speaker 2: chance or Hi, wait, and with the groceries, pussy or
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  Speaker 2: ass as. You don't know, Jay, when I know what
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  Speaker 2: you're saying, what we're talking about pussy, I'm just saying
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  Speaker 2: in general, you eat anything below the waist, we're going there.
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  Speaker 2: So her maybe Daddy ate her ass. That must be
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  Speaker 2: some top tier ass eating. I'm assuming he did the
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  Speaker 2: whole thing. Could you imagine just the ass? Actually I can't.
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  Speaker 5: I went through that.
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  Speaker 2: What do you mean? Oh, oh my god, I forgot
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  Speaker 2: about that. Oh my god. We gotta tell him. So,
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  Speaker 2: a couple of years ago, Erica was seeing a guy.
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  Speaker 2: Seeing is a strong strong word. She was having sex
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  Speaker 2: a few times with this guy who she came to
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  Speaker 2: tell me. She was like, so he told me that
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  Speaker 2: he has a condition with his penis. I was like,
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  Speaker 2: what kind of condition? She was like, he can only
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  Speaker 2: he can't get head because it's like the saliva gets bacteria,
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  Speaker 2: but he can get his ass eight. I said, Eric,
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  Speaker 2: that's a fucking lie. She said, no, there's something with this.
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  Speaker 2: I said, but she could put his penis in your vagina,
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  Speaker 2: but you can't put your mouth on it. But you
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  Speaker 2: could put your mouth on his asshole. She said yeah.
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  Speaker 2: And then we talked about on the podcast. And then
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  Speaker 2: and then someone sent it to him a girl, another
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  Speaker 2: girl he had been fucking with it telling the same spiel. Said, Look,
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  Speaker 2: it's so funny this girl is dating someone who has
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  Speaker 2: the same condition. And it was the same nigga. And
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  Speaker 2: she too thought it was suspicious, like I thought it
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  Speaker 2: was suspicious because the nigga was lying. There is no condition.
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  Speaker 2: For those who are wondering, No, I did not eat
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  Speaker 2: his ass. You did it? Know what the fuss? So
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  Speaker 2: would you say? You just said something, I'm gonna go
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  Speaker 2: skip the dick and go to that. I don't know.
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  Speaker 2: I just hell know. I thought that meant that you
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  Speaker 2: just said, Okay, you're absolutely the fun. Okay, I just
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  Speaker 2: don't look anything. Yeah, I know we're not not you
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  Speaker 2: know what. I pictured like, he's got to start somewhere.
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  Speaker 2: We're not had his legs in the air, was like,
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  Speaker 2: so just go a little bit lower, and you're like.
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  Speaker 4: No, this conversation happened before we even started that process,
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  Speaker 4: Like I think we were making out, hooking up, and
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  Speaker 4: then he said it, and.
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  Speaker 2: Can you give me an example, like we're making up
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  Speaker 2: and I like, oh wait, wait, wait, wait, yeah, hold
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  Speaker 2: hold on, I gotta tell you something.
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  Speaker 5: Yes, the labi makes my my dick breakout, but not
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  Speaker 5: my asshole, not my asshole.
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  Speaker 2: Just make sure you don't get us lava in between
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  Speaker 2: the guch and the dick. Is that what he said? No, sure, yes,
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  Speaker 2: that's what he said. Ladies, if you've heard about this condition,
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  Speaker 2: please call in. Yeah, let us know what is it called.
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  Speaker 2: I'm curious. I even google it. He's gonna have to
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  Speaker 2: lead with a real, actual scientific name in the future.
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  Speaker 2: I bet he's figured it out now that he likes
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  Speaker 2: only his asshole played with.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, maybe he's like more vocal about just like being
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  Speaker 4: strong about that positioning.
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  Speaker 2: I would rather say I don't really enjoy head, but
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  Speaker 2: I do enjoy getting that ass ey because the medical condition.
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  Speaker 2: I would have cracked up in his face. I would
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  Speaker 2: have been like, what, I was trying to be kind
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  Speaker 2: until you talked from on the podcast, and I'm pretty
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  Speaker 2: sure that was the last time he ever told bitches
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  Speaker 2: that ever, who's kind on podcasts? Who's kind on podcasts? Honestly,
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  Speaker 2: that's true. I mean we try, really, I try to
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  Speaker 2: be nice in person.
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  Speaker 5: I'm a bitch on the podcast.
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  Speaker 2: No, we're not bitches, we're nice ish. Well, my dear,
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  Speaker 2: with your bad choice, I'm gonna tell you that it's
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  Speaker 2: just an overall bad choice. If you broke up with
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  Speaker 2: your baby daddy, it's likely that you don't want him anymore,
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  Speaker 2: and you probably don't need to let him eat your
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  Speaker 2: groceries or you're pussy or stick it in that it's
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  Speaker 2: not even the tip.
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  Speaker 4: I know it's no fucks given January, but we gotta
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  Speaker 4: give a fucks about this type of shit.
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  Speaker 2: You can't backslide. In twenty twenty five, we got to
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  Speaker 2: move on. We have got to move on. She submitted this,
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  Speaker 2: I think still in twenty twenty four, So I'm gonna
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  Speaker 2: hope that she just left the grocery eating the baby
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  Speaker 2: daddy grocery eating back in twenty twenty four. Just teach
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  Speaker 2: your new nigga how to do it.
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  Speaker 5: I know, yeah, because I'm sorry, I had a vision
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  Speaker 5: of your Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: I was like, you know what, I'm so happy for
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  Speaker 2: growth and progress because right now, it seems you probably
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  Speaker 2: says like, oh, I like him, he's so cute, he
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  Speaker 2: can eat my ass really well. But there will be
• 15:09
  Speaker 2: your time where you're like you're throw up in your
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  Speaker 2: mouth just from we were crying over them. Remembone used
• 15:15
  Speaker 2: to cry about them. Weird, right, it's such a strange time.
• 15:19
  Speaker 4: It's such a weird concept, you know for those like
• 15:22
  Speaker 4: really truly, if you're listening to this right now, you're
• 15:23
  Speaker 4: going through like a breakup with your child's father, or
• 15:26
  Speaker 4: like maybe you guys are broken up, but you're like
• 15:28
  Speaker 4: still kind of in that weird in between, like I
• 15:31
  Speaker 4: want my family bag.
• 15:31
  Speaker 2: I can't believe I can't believe it. I'll never get
• 15:34
  Speaker 2: over it.
• 15:35
  Speaker 4: Like you think that your story is like the only one, Like,
• 15:37
  Speaker 4: no bitch has ever gone through this shit ever in history.
• 15:41
  Speaker 5: We have, And I promise you, I promise you, not only.
• 15:45
  Speaker 2: Will you get over it, it will be so much better.
• 15:48
  Speaker 4: You will get over your baby daddy. We are testaments
• 15:52
  Speaker 4: that nigga will be removed from your not your heart
• 15:56
  Speaker 4: or your mind. You're always in me family, right, Maybe
• 15:58
  Speaker 4: I don't know, Oh.
• 16:02
  Speaker 2: Well, it depends. It depends what the setup is. Yours
• 16:07
  Speaker 2: is different than most, and so is mine, maybe not most,
• 16:12
  Speaker 2: But I will say, like you do you time. My
• 16:14
  Speaker 2: mom always says this time is the greatest neutralizer.
• 16:16
  Speaker 4: It is true, Like I literally could not see a
• 16:20
  Speaker 4: time where I could just be okay, where I would
• 16:24
  Speaker 4: get the news that he had another child and I
• 16:26
  Speaker 4: would not give a fuck.
• 16:27
  Speaker 5: In fact, I was on the blogs eating popcorn.
• 16:31
  Speaker 4: Saying, no way, that's just crazy, Like, never did I
• 16:35
  Speaker 4: think I would be able to do that.
• 16:37
  Speaker 2: That's because yours is a fucking he's like a serial
• 16:43
  Speaker 2: a serial childmaker.
• 16:45
  Speaker 4: He likes to make children, you know. And and thankfully,
• 16:48
  Speaker 4: like now, I'm I'm very It's not even that I'm
• 16:50
  Speaker 4: numb to it. I've just like released it, let it go.
• 16:53
  Speaker 4: I'm totally cool with that. And in fact, like I
• 16:56
  Speaker 4: was telling one of our friends went through a similar situation.
• 16:59
  Speaker 2: Boy did she She went, honestly like what I like
• 17:03
  Speaker 2: seeing her. I like seeing our friends go through break up.
• 17:06
  Speaker 2: But it's so interesting to see friends start where we
• 17:09
  Speaker 2: were at, where they'd be like so sad, can't get
• 17:11
  Speaker 2: over it, can't get past it, crying every day, and
• 17:15
  Speaker 2: then suddenly like something switches and then they're outside. Yeah.
• 17:22
  Speaker 4: But I was telling her, and you know, because I
• 17:25
  Speaker 4: was telling her this like a year ago, and where
• 17:27
  Speaker 4: she was like could not see the time, could not
• 17:30
  Speaker 4: see the day that it would happen.
• 17:31
  Speaker 5: And I was telling her, bitch, I bathed his baby, like.
• 17:35
  Speaker 2: I recently, like this was like two years ago. Oh
• 17:38
  Speaker 2: I don't remember this.
• 17:39
  Speaker 4: Yeah, Like when I went over there with Iri and
• 17:41
  Speaker 4: they both needed a bath, and so I bathed them
• 17:43
  Speaker 4: both and I just couldn't Like it was actually very
• 17:45
  Speaker 4: healing for me to like be able to wash your
• 17:48
  Speaker 4: hands of the bullshit while wash I washed my hands
• 17:50
  Speaker 4: the bullshit, and I was like, this is.
• 17:52
  Speaker 5: Not this child's fault.
• 17:53
  Speaker 4: And I never thought that I would get to that
• 17:56
  Speaker 4: point because I was I felt like, you know the
• 18:01
  Speaker 4: way that she was feeling and like you know, like
• 18:03
  Speaker 4: which was like seeing red. Like everyone has to go,
• 18:09
  Speaker 4: like when you get territory, your territorial over what you've
• 18:12
  Speaker 4: created and it's and it's it's expected, and that's okay.
• 18:16
  Speaker 2: But you will get past it if you allow yourself to.
• 18:19
  Speaker 2: You have to allow yourself to. You have to remove
• 18:23
  Speaker 2: yourself from this situation. You have to stop trying, trying, trying.
• 18:27
  Speaker 2: You have to stop trying.
• 18:28
  Speaker 4: You have to stop trying to pretend, like you have
• 18:32
  Speaker 4: to show this family structure to the world and to
• 18:34
  Speaker 4: your child.
• 18:35
  Speaker 2: Something has to change. And the sooner you release it,
• 18:38
  Speaker 2: and the sooner you let it go, and the sooner
• 18:40
  Speaker 2: you tell yourself, I can do this and I'm okay,
• 18:42
  Speaker 2: the quicker the process starts. I held myself back so
• 18:47
  Speaker 2: long from fucking around just because I'm a slow lowner
• 18:51
  Speaker 2: and I really was just like connected to this idea.
• 18:54
  Speaker 2: And as soon as I really let that shit go,
• 18:57
  Speaker 2: like shit started to move, like like my heart healed
• 19:00
  Speaker 2: so much faster. But sometimes I think as women, we
• 19:03
  Speaker 2: cling so hard to the title and to the family,
• 19:05
  Speaker 2: and you know, honestly, I used to think it's because
• 19:07
  Speaker 2: I'm a black woman, and like as a black woman,
• 19:10
  Speaker 2: you never want to be a baby mama. You never
• 19:11
  Speaker 2: want to be like you know, there's an idea that
• 19:13
  Speaker 2: black families don't keep the family structure, and so you're
• 19:17
  Speaker 2: fighting for like to prove something, not to prove like
• 19:19
  Speaker 2: not to be with the stereotype. But our friend is
• 19:22
  Speaker 2: not black, and she was fighting pretty hard. So I
• 19:24
  Speaker 2: think it's just like a motherly instinct to want to
• 19:27
  Speaker 2: keep the family unit together. But you can still be
• 19:29
  Speaker 2: a family in your own unit and him and his
• 19:32
  Speaker 2: own unit. So just like no sooner whoever is hearing this,
• 19:35
  Speaker 2: and I know someone out there is going through it
• 19:37
  Speaker 2: right now in the midst of the thick of it,
• 19:41
  Speaker 2: your baby daddy is it's just not working. Sometimes God
• 19:44
  Speaker 2: makes shit so bad for you you have to let
• 19:47
  Speaker 2: it go. Let it be bad. And those of you
• 19:49
  Speaker 2: who are still in the relationship and you know deep
• 19:52
  Speaker 2: in your motherfucking gut that it's over, but you keep trying,
• 19:55
  Speaker 2: and you keep praying, and you keep trying to raiki
• 19:57
  Speaker 2: niggas and go to shamans and the church and baptisms
• 20:01
  Speaker 2: and counseling full moons and everything you can possibly do.
• 20:07
  Speaker 2: I'm telling you do one thing. You say the prayer.
• 20:11
  Speaker 2: You say, dear God, if this is not meant for me,
• 20:14
  Speaker 2: please make it so so bad that it's so clear
• 20:19
  Speaker 2: I don't even have a choice but to walk away
• 20:22
  Speaker 2: from this nigga. And let me tell you, be careful
• 20:24
  Speaker 2: before you say it out loud, because it only takes
• 20:26
  Speaker 2: about zero to seven days. Listen. That's the opposite of
• 20:29
  Speaker 2: Sierra's prayer. Okay, and it works. You think Sierra's fucking
• 20:33
  Speaker 2: prayer worked. This prayer, this prayer, this God he beat
• 20:36
  Speaker 2: angwing those prayers on the on fuckation.
• 20:39
  Speaker 4: And let me tell you it's not just for niggas,
• 20:41
  Speaker 4: because we did this shit in our business. Literally, we
• 20:43
  Speaker 4: did this shit in our business and it happened the
• 20:46
  Speaker 4: next day. I did not realize that we did do
• 20:49
  Speaker 4: this in our business.
• 20:51
  Speaker 2: We talked about this last week literally, we said, if
• 20:54
  Speaker 2: it's not meant to be, remove it. Literally the next morning,
• 20:58
  Speaker 2: poopoop I was like, okay, well, God said, so it's true.
• 21:02
  Speaker 2: It's just in general, like when you really asked whoever
• 21:05
  Speaker 2: you believe in, God, the universe, whatever, Buddha, when you
• 21:09
  Speaker 2: ask spirit to remove something that really is not conducive
• 21:13
  Speaker 2: to whatever your goal is or your purpose and you say,
• 21:15
  Speaker 2: please remove it. Maybe you better believe it's gonna remove it.
• 21:19
  Speaker 2: And but you have to say the part make it
• 21:21
  Speaker 2: so clear that I can't ignore it if I tried.
• 21:25
  Speaker 4: And then the other side of that is when you
• 21:27
  Speaker 4: don't listen and then you continue on. Just be prepared
• 21:31
  Speaker 4: for shit to go even worse because you went against God, bitch,
• 21:34
  Speaker 4: you went against.
• 21:35
  Speaker 2: Your own ass. You went against God, you went against yourself,
• 21:38
  Speaker 2: and you know better. You know better. One time that
• 21:41
  Speaker 2: I got the shit slap out of me after I
• 21:43
  Speaker 2: went against my own prayer, literally and I had to
• 21:47
  Speaker 2: tell Erica I got slacked. I remember that long drive
• 21:51
  Speaker 2: to go pick up those sweatsuits. Was that what it
• 21:53
  Speaker 2: was se going. I got in the car, She's like,
• 21:55
  Speaker 2: are you okay? And I was like, no, it's not funny.
• 22:02
  Speaker 5: I'm sorry.
• 22:02
  Speaker 2: I shouldn't be laughing atastic violence. It was funny because
• 22:07
  Speaker 2: my dumb ass brought ass for it and I stayed,
• 22:09
  Speaker 2: and that's what I got. God said, oh, we bitch,
• 22:12
  Speaker 2: you want to play. I'm an ike bitch. I mean
• 22:15
  Speaker 2: I did the same ship. I did the same ship.
• 22:17
  Speaker 2: So and then she got a there was a baby.
• 22:20
  Speaker 2: So just just know that when you do that prayer.
• 22:23
  Speaker 2: It is going to come hard, It's going to come clear. Yeah,
• 22:27
  Speaker 2: not wishing that on you, my dear Facebook friend. I'm
• 22:30
  Speaker 2: just saying, stop playing, stop playing.
• 22:32
  Speaker 4: Stop playing with fire, because even fuck around and have
• 22:35
  Speaker 4: another baby with that nigga rum, you know.
• 22:52
  Speaker 2: Speaking and playing with fire and letting shit go. You know,
• 22:55
  Speaker 2: we're in the year of twenty twenty five. There's a
• 22:57
  Speaker 2: lot of changes happening right now, including this bitch ass inauguration.
• 23:02
  Speaker 5: Oh Lord Jesus.
• 23:04
  Speaker 2: And I've been honest, I'm gonna be honest. I've been
• 23:07
  Speaker 2: actively avoiding it mentally because it's the only way that
• 23:10
  Speaker 2: I can keep saying. Because about six months ago, I
• 23:13
  Speaker 2: told Erica that we needed to be out of the
• 23:14
  Speaker 2: country by the twenty fifth, and she obviously ignored me
• 23:17
  Speaker 2: because we were basically, well, we're gonna be out of
• 23:19
  Speaker 2: the country like three days later, but our kids are
• 23:21
  Speaker 2: not good mom's bad choices. What can somebody send the kids?
• 23:29
  Speaker 2: I watched way too many movies about the world ending
• 23:32
  Speaker 2: and about now and be apocalypses and bad things, and
• 23:35
  Speaker 2: so my anxiety can be at an all time high.
• 23:38
  Speaker 2: So I have I have to put on my blinders.
• 23:42
  Speaker 2: But how are you dealing in this time disassociation the name.
• 23:49
  Speaker 2: You know, I during the time, I was, you know,
• 23:55
  Speaker 2: when it all, when it all went down, I knew
• 23:58
  Speaker 2: Kamala was not gonna win.
• 24:00
  Speaker 4: You know, I know everyone's rallying for this black woman,
• 24:03
  Speaker 4: but if a white woman couldn't win, I didn't have
• 24:05
  Speaker 4: no faith in a black woman winning this election.
• 24:07
  Speaker 2: So I was not surprised.
• 24:10
  Speaker 5: I guess what I was surprised. I can't even say
• 24:12
  Speaker 5: I'm surprised.
• 24:13
  Speaker 4: I guess my anger was like reactivated for some of
• 24:16
  Speaker 4: the people in my life, especially just knowing me, knowing us,
• 24:21
  Speaker 4: knowing the world, taking like I don't know, taking care
• 24:24
  Speaker 4: of our children at times, our friends, just being in
• 24:28
  Speaker 4: circle with us.
• 24:31
  Speaker 2: It just made me really realize how much we are
• 24:34
  Speaker 2: in such.
• 24:34
  Speaker 4: An individualistic society that and I don't know how we
• 24:38
  Speaker 4: go back to being in community in that way. People
• 24:43
  Speaker 4: vote for their own interests, they don't vote for the
• 24:47
  Speaker 4: greater good, and this has been a true example of that. Also,
• 24:51
  Speaker 4: me being Latina and watching my Latina and Latino people
• 24:56
  Speaker 4: vote read every year, which I've never shocked by everyone.
• 24:59
  Speaker 5: There are a lot of people.
• 25:00
  Speaker 2: Can you believe the Latin vote was blah? Blah blah.
• 25:03
  Speaker 4: I'm like, of course it was, it's not every fucking
• 25:05
  Speaker 4: time because they're voting for one particular topic and it's
• 25:09
  Speaker 4: like the topic religion, Okay, yeah, religion and abortion, and no,
• 25:17
  Speaker 4: it's like like the god thing.
• 25:18
  Speaker 2: It's the God thing.
• 25:19
  Speaker 4: And also a lot of I feel like a lot
• 25:21
  Speaker 4: of I don't want to say a lot, but the
• 25:23
  Speaker 4: majority of Latin people in this country, I feel like,
• 25:25
  Speaker 4: have been so whitewashed and they want to assimilate so badly.
• 25:31
  Speaker 4: They don't want to be looked at as those people.
• 25:33
  Speaker 4: They're not the people on the border, those are not them.
• 25:36
  Speaker 2: Well, a lot of people have fought and fought to
• 25:37
  Speaker 2: be here and be equal.
• 25:39
  Speaker 4: So yeah, and they're not like them, even though they're whatever.
• 25:43
  Speaker 4: Maybe their ancestors were like them, or maybe their grandparents
• 25:45
  Speaker 4: were like them, but now they've they've made it, they
• 25:48
  Speaker 4: made it through and so they're not like that anymore.
• 25:50
  Speaker 4: Or they're so far removed from the passage over here
• 25:54
  Speaker 4: that they can't relate to that experience anymore. And so
• 25:57
  Speaker 4: they and because they're they're assimilation to whiteness is so severe.
• 26:02
  Speaker 2: I mean, that's every every minority, because that's how it's
• 26:05
  Speaker 2: by design.
• 26:05
  Speaker 5: I wouldn't say that's every minority.
• 26:07
  Speaker 2: That's like, there's a lot of there's a lot of
• 26:09
  Speaker 2: Uncle Tom blacks, and I mean, I think.
• 26:12
  Speaker 4: I think, but even in this election, they wanted you
• 26:15
  Speaker 4: to think that, and most of the black people didn't
• 26:17
  Speaker 4: vote for vote Republican, even though they wanted you to
• 26:20
  Speaker 4: believe that that was what was happening. So I don't
• 26:22
  Speaker 4: I don't agree with that. I do agree though, that
• 26:24
  Speaker 4: a lot of Latin people I think, have been hit
• 26:26
  Speaker 4: even more because we are part, we are of the Americas, Africa, Africa. Obviously,
• 26:32
  Speaker 4: like we were shipped here Mexican people, this is we
• 26:35
  Speaker 4: were on this land, this was our land, and so
• 26:37
  Speaker 4: I think the assimilation actually impacted us the most here
• 26:41
  Speaker 4: because this is our land and it was literally taken
• 26:44
  Speaker 4: from us here, we were brought from.
• 26:47
  Speaker 2: I would, I would, I would disagree only be I mean,
• 26:49
  Speaker 2: I just feel like in general, when you live in
• 26:51
  Speaker 2: a world globally that is euro cent, like euro European
• 26:55
  Speaker 2: centered in every capacity in media and beauty and everything like,
• 27:00
  Speaker 2: that is by design that you want to assimilate. You
• 27:02
  Speaker 2: want to feel like, you know, like my credit's high,
• 27:04
  Speaker 2: or I'm you know, you walk into a building. You
• 27:06
  Speaker 2: don't you want to be associated with that for survival essentially,
• 27:09
  Speaker 2: And I think for Black people, yes, we were brought
• 27:12
  Speaker 2: over here and it's not necessarily the same land mass,
• 27:15
  Speaker 2: but I do feel like that's even more reason because
• 27:18
  Speaker 2: most African Americans have no direct connection to Africa except
• 27:23
  Speaker 2: that we know that via slavery. What they told is
• 27:27
  Speaker 2: via history books.
• 27:27
  Speaker 4: But just imagine your culture being taken from you on
• 27:30
  Speaker 4: the land that your cure was creating.
• 27:32
  Speaker 2: But for Latino people, it hasn't been taken from them.
• 27:34
  Speaker 2: They have their music, they have they have their food.
• 27:37
  Speaker 4: I'm not I'm not I'm not I'm black. I'm not
• 27:38
  Speaker 4: debating about that. I'm just speaking for Latin people. I'm
• 27:41
  Speaker 4: speaking for Latin people that have Like it's so interesting
• 27:45
  Speaker 4: because during you know, during this time, I went on
• 27:47
  Speaker 4: this field trip with Iri. She's learning about the missions
• 27:49
  Speaker 4: and you know, we went to Solving. I don't know
• 27:51
  Speaker 4: if anyone is familiar with Solving, but it's where a
• 27:53
  Speaker 4: lot of the missions are Santa Barbara, San Diego, and
• 27:56
  Speaker 4: you know, they're teaching my daughter about these missions and
• 28:01
  Speaker 4: they wanted us to come on the field trip. But
• 28:02
  Speaker 4: I'm so glad that I went, because of course they're
• 28:04
  Speaker 4: whitewashing everything and they're skipping over a bunch of shit
• 28:07
  Speaker 4: because they don't want to like traumatize the kids. And
• 28:10
  Speaker 4: I'm sitting there pissed, and I's like, what's wrong, Mom,
• 28:12
  Speaker 4: And I'm like they're all lying, and like some of
• 28:15
  Speaker 4: them parents are like yeah they are, and then.
• 28:16
  Speaker 2: All the other, you know, the other parents like la
• 28:18
  Speaker 2: la la, la la.
• 28:19
  Speaker 4: But when I was sitting there listening to like just
• 28:25
  Speaker 4: revisiting what has been done and for me as a
• 28:29
  Speaker 4: Latina and watching my Mexican, the Mexican side of my
• 28:33
  Speaker 4: family completely assimilate to this side.
• 28:35
  Speaker 5: My grandmother doesn't like to be viewed as a certain time.
• 28:39
  Speaker 2: I think also with that is you they can black people,
• 28:43
  Speaker 2: you can't. You can't assimilate visually.
• 28:45
  Speaker 5: My grandmother can't assimilate as a white person.
• 28:47
  Speaker 2: She could like she's she's fair skin. She says, she
• 28:49
  Speaker 2: god have dark brown hair, like a black person doesn't
• 28:52
  Speaker 2: have the option. So that's true, but certain Latin people
• 28:54
  Speaker 2: can't assimilate either. It goes both ways. It goes both ways.
• 28:58
  Speaker 4: And I'm just saying that because the culture literally was
• 29:02
  Speaker 4: robbed from us, they were told this is wrong, this
• 29:06
  Speaker 4: is right, this is savage. Yes, that exact thing happened
• 29:09
  Speaker 4: to Black people, but it's different when it's on your land.
• 29:12
  Speaker 4: So I feel like the assimilation was more severe here.
• 29:15
  Speaker 4: And that's why a lot of Latin people they don't
• 29:18
  Speaker 4: like to be part of that. They don't like to
• 29:21
  Speaker 4: be part of that group, and so they're more inclined
• 29:23
  Speaker 4: to vote for these said reasons of religion, the religion
• 29:27
  Speaker 4: that they.
• 29:28
  Speaker 2: Were given that they hold on so dearly too, because
• 29:31
  Speaker 2: it was literally shoved.
• 29:32
  Speaker 4: Down their throat, and so this is literally so ingrained
• 29:35
  Speaker 4: in them, deeply, ingrained even more, I would say than
• 29:38
  Speaker 4: Black people, because Black people don't vote necessarily for religious purposes.
• 29:40
  Speaker 4: They didn't vote Republican because they wanted to vote because
• 29:43
  Speaker 4: they're anti abortion. Maybe some people did, but for the
• 29:46
  Speaker 4: most part, the Latin people that voted, that was like
• 29:49
  Speaker 4: the biggest reason religious base.
• 29:52
  Speaker 2: I think Black people have historically always been democratic, period.
• 29:55
  Speaker 4: But I'm just saying Latin people generally vote for religious purposes.
• 30:00
  Speaker 4: And you think about how that was one of the
• 30:04
  Speaker 4: biggest ways that they pilgrimized that culture, this culture Latin.
• 30:10
  Speaker 5: People, it was through religion, and so they're voting for that.
• 30:13
  Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying, Well, I understand like there's
• 30:16
  Speaker 2: very it's very heavily catholic, like you know, like abortions
• 30:19
  Speaker 2: or no, no, there's certain things I think also like
• 30:22
  Speaker 2: for us, it's like going back to the initial conversation
• 30:25
  Speaker 2: about like having realizations about people in our friends circle
• 30:30
  Speaker 2: or people that we you know, you feel close to,
• 30:32
  Speaker 2: and then you realize you pull back the curtain and
• 30:34
  Speaker 2: you're like, oh, you voted for this. I think like
• 30:37
  Speaker 2: a for anybody just joining the show or listening, or
• 30:40
  Speaker 2: who just doesn't know, who don't know. Eric and I
• 30:42
  Speaker 2: live Not only do we live in la we live
• 30:45
  Speaker 2: in the valley. We grew up in the valley. It
• 30:47
  Speaker 2: is predominantly white, you know what I mean. So I
• 30:50
  Speaker 2: think that I wasn't really a lot. I wasn't very
• 30:52
  Speaker 2: shocked to see some of our friends voting a certain way.
• 30:55
  Speaker 2: But maybe because I'm so, I'm conditioned to there's a
• 30:59
  Speaker 2: part of me to understand that some of my friends
• 31:01
  Speaker 2: are just never going to understand, you know what I mean.
• 31:03
  Speaker 2: Like there's a part of me like we can all
• 31:05
  Speaker 2: it's all it's all fun in games until some real
• 31:08
  Speaker 2: shit happens because for us, like for them, it's like
• 31:12
  Speaker 2: it's political, like everybody's racist. But for me, it's like
• 31:15
  Speaker 2: if this person promotes and encourages these racist whites to
• 31:22
  Speaker 2: uproar and like to feel comfortable and their racism, it
• 31:25
  Speaker 2: incites a different type of violence where if you're not
• 31:28
  Speaker 2: if you're not subscribed to it, or you're not a
• 31:30
  Speaker 2: target of it, you could just like pass it off
• 31:32
  Speaker 2: as just like it's just everybody is like that, you
• 31:35
  Speaker 2: know what I mean. Like when I talk to my friends,
• 31:37
  Speaker 2: which I'll be honest, I don't get really deep because
• 31:39
  Speaker 2: I know I'm gonna probably stop fucking with you. I
• 31:43
  Speaker 2: know you're not educated enough, You're not gonna understand. You
• 31:45
  Speaker 2: don't have my experience, and you obviously like your level
• 31:48
  Speaker 2: of understanding for what that like, what that means for me,
• 31:50
  Speaker 2: like just the energy of the world is not going
• 31:53
  Speaker 2: to be the same. And so intentionally I realized that,
• 31:56
  Speaker 2: like back in twenty twenty, I'm like, I'm just going
• 32:00
  Speaker 2: to cut the conversation here or else I'm not gonna
• 32:02
  Speaker 2: like you for real, for real, And because I just
• 32:05
  Speaker 2: don't want to even go through that or like have
• 32:06
  Speaker 2: to be like I'm blocking you or I'm not being
• 32:08
  Speaker 2: friends with you because you've voted this. I'm just not
• 32:10
  Speaker 2: going to have those conversations. But I know like that
• 32:13
  Speaker 2: our experience is so different that I don't really expect
• 32:17
  Speaker 2: you to get it, and.
• 32:17
  Speaker 4: I'm not even I think I was more so appalled
• 32:20
  Speaker 4: because a lot of the things, because so much has
• 32:23
  Speaker 4: happened over the last eight years, and also like so
• 32:27
  Speaker 4: many of our rights as women have been taken away,
• 32:30
  Speaker 4: like roal versus way, Like so many of those rights
• 32:32
  Speaker 4: have been taken away that I would think that those
• 32:35
  Speaker 4: things at least.
• 32:36
  Speaker 2: Would perhaps change their perspective do it.
• 32:39
  Speaker 4: Like I know that there's certain things that they're voting for,
• 32:42
  Speaker 4: because like I said, we're living in this individualistic society,
• 32:45
  Speaker 4: but like as women, I thought, and as women, and
• 32:49
  Speaker 4: as the person that you're voting in, like knowing his
• 32:53
  Speaker 4: track record, it's just like common like that's what like
• 32:56
  Speaker 4: kind of that's not kind of That's what grossed me
• 33:00
  Speaker 4: out about the people that I know that we like,
• 33:03
  Speaker 4: that we know and like you.
• 33:05
  Speaker 2: Know, some of them got I know they were mad
• 33:08
  Speaker 2: at me. One of them is like I'm coming to
• 33:09
  Speaker 2: pick up my daughters or my son's jackets.
• 33:11
  Speaker 4: From her house and I'm like, okay, bitch, I don't
• 33:13
  Speaker 4: That's fine, I don't.
• 33:15
  Speaker 2: I don't hate you. I just don't guess what the
• 33:18
  Speaker 2: jacket picked up. Absolutely, it was immediately. It was immediately
• 33:20
  Speaker 2: after I unfollowed her.
• 33:22
  Speaker 4: Oh, I think that I just a I followed her
• 33:28
  Speaker 4: because she was posting shit, and I was like, I
• 33:30
  Speaker 4: don't want to see the ship. I followed two people
• 33:32
  Speaker 4: and I was like, I don't want to see your shit.
• 33:33
  Speaker 4: It's not that I hate you, It's just that I
• 33:35
  Speaker 4: don't think.
• 33:36
  Speaker 5: I don't.
• 33:37
  Speaker 4: We don't have anything that we actually relate on. Yes,
• 33:39
  Speaker 4: you're Are you a terrible person? No, I don't think
• 33:41
  Speaker 4: you're a teleproper person. Are you a danger to my child?
• 33:45
  Speaker 1: I don't know.
• 33:45
  Speaker 2: If the world were ending, like what kind of I
• 33:50
  Speaker 2: just feel like.
• 33:53
  Speaker 4: This election really highlighted just how much we differ in
• 34:00
  Speaker 4: the values of the human race and society and us
• 34:05
  Speaker 4: as women, and I do believe that for me, I
• 34:09
  Speaker 4: have a lot of integrity about the people that I
• 34:12
  Speaker 4: keep close to me. I am I'm a fucking territorial
• 34:14
  Speaker 4: bitch when it comes to my friends. I don't just
• 34:17
  Speaker 4: I'm not friends with everybody, you know, and like if
• 34:20
  Speaker 4: we don't agree on certain things or we can't see
• 34:22
  Speaker 4: eye to eye on certain things, and you're gonna also
• 34:24
  Speaker 4: hide that's what That's another thing that I don't like
• 34:27
  Speaker 4: is that people like kind of like avoid the conversation
• 34:30
  Speaker 4: or just don't say anything, Like if you're gonna be
• 34:33
  Speaker 4: about it, then just be about it, then say it.
• 34:35
  Speaker 4: Just be about it, you know. I feel like a
• 34:37
  Speaker 4: lot of people were so scared to like just say
• 34:41
  Speaker 4: this is why I'm voting, this is this is why
• 34:43
  Speaker 4: I'm voting for.
• 34:44
  Speaker 2: This first thing, until until it until you came into office,
• 34:46
  Speaker 2: until I I just really feel like, honestly, a part
• 34:50
  Speaker 2: of me feels like, are you dumb? This is someone
• 34:55
  Speaker 2: who is like he to me, he's a joke. Like
• 34:59
  Speaker 2: everything I co out of this man's mouth is a lie,
• 35:01
  Speaker 2: is a joke. And it's not even very well hidden,
• 35:05
  Speaker 2: like he's there's no like he's he's like, I'm there's
• 35:08
  Speaker 2: no problem, I'm not doing product twenty twenty six, twenty
• 35:10
  Speaker 2: twenty five. It's like this nigg is lying. He lied
• 35:12
  Speaker 2: about getting shot. He lied. He just lies. He's grabbing
• 35:15
  Speaker 2: bitches by the kouchy. He's a felon. So if this
• 35:17
  Speaker 2: is not enough to say I'm cool off this, nigga,
• 35:21
  Speaker 2: you're kind of slow, so then why keep those people
• 35:25
  Speaker 2: in your life. I don't feel like I have to
• 35:28
  Speaker 2: have deep conversations about people's political beliefs, because I honestly
• 35:33
  Speaker 2: don't even think that a lot of the people that
• 35:35
  Speaker 2: we're talking about specifically are even educated enough to even
• 35:40
  Speaker 2: defend themselves in a conversation. I think the things that
• 35:42
  Speaker 2: they would be talking about would be regurgitated information from
• 35:45
  Speaker 2: the Internet, and I don't think and I think with
• 35:47
  Speaker 2: this my things would go over their head and a
• 35:49
  Speaker 2: lot of those people, I mean not I don't know
• 35:52
  Speaker 2: if you're talking about the same two people, but I don't.
• 35:55
  Speaker 2: I don't have deep conversations with anyway. It's it's very surface,
• 35:59
  Speaker 2: it's very how are you, it's very let's let the
• 36:01
  Speaker 2: kids play, so on those terms. Sure, I don't mind
• 36:04
  Speaker 2: that our kid our friend, our kids are our kids
• 36:07
  Speaker 2: are friends. They're not talking about political things. If things
• 36:09
  Speaker 2: come up, I'm glad to have a conversation. I know myself,
• 36:14
  Speaker 2: and I just feel like i'd rather keep it surface.
• 36:17
  Speaker 2: And I'm okay with that because I'm not here to
• 36:19
  Speaker 2: necessarily be your best friend and go on trips together
• 36:23
  Speaker 2: and do certain things like I know where each person
• 36:26
  Speaker 2: in my life sits, stands and sits, and I'm okay
• 36:28
  Speaker 2: with that. I don't have to like remove you in
• 36:32
  Speaker 2: order to understand that we have different goal like views
• 36:36
  Speaker 2: that way. I'm black, and especially as a black woman
• 36:39
  Speaker 2: growing up in this environment where most of my friends
• 36:41
  Speaker 2: haven't had the same experience as me, I've come to
• 36:45
  Speaker 2: the place where i'm I know where everybody sits in
• 36:49
  Speaker 2: my circle. I think I just I'm only interested in
• 36:53
  Speaker 2: in like integrity based friendships.
• 36:56
  Speaker 4: I don't care to even have small talk. I don't
• 36:59
  Speaker 4: care to drop my kid off at your house just
• 37:02
  Speaker 4: because I need a break because whatever that I've known
• 37:05
  Speaker 4: you for, however.
• 37:06
  Speaker 2: I don't know how to drop my kid off anywhere
• 37:07
  Speaker 2: and if they want to play. But like we see
• 37:09
  Speaker 2: you in passing, see a birthday party.
• 37:10
  Speaker 5: I'm just speaking for myself.
• 37:12
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm just and a lot of people, like I said,
• 37:14
  Speaker 2: I grew up here. A lot of my friends that
• 37:15
  Speaker 2: I've known twenty twenty five years. I there's nothing I
• 37:19
  Speaker 2: can tell you that's going to make you understand being
• 37:22
  Speaker 2: black in America. And I know you don't get it,
• 37:25
  Speaker 2: so it would be a waste of my time and
• 37:27
  Speaker 2: energy and breath to even attempt to start that conversation.
• 37:31
  Speaker 4: But it's not even just being black at this point,
• 37:33
  Speaker 4: it's about being a woman. At this point, you're voting
• 37:36
  Speaker 4: against my rights as a woman. And then I understand
• 37:38
  Speaker 4: that when you.
• 37:40
  Speaker 5: Need to fuck.
• 37:41
  Speaker 2: I understand people being confused. Also, he also said in Milania,
• 37:45
  Speaker 2: whatever his wife said, she doesn't believe in the government
• 37:48
  Speaker 2: having having anything in her and in the terms of
• 37:52
  Speaker 2: her body. And so that's confusing. If if a nigga
• 37:55
  Speaker 2: is telling you, I'm not gonna do this, I'm not
• 37:56
  Speaker 2: going to do that, but someone else is saying something else,
• 37:58
  Speaker 2: niggas are confused.
• 37:59
  Speaker 4: But he doesn't look at it. Look at the actions
• 38:02
  Speaker 4: they overturned Roe versus Wad under his term he was.
• 38:06
  Speaker 2: That wasn't when he was there. Yes, it was when
• 38:09
  Speaker 2: truck was in office. Yes, that wasn't during That wasn't
• 38:11
  Speaker 2: during Biden's term. That was recently. That was four years ago.
• 38:15
  Speaker 2: That was almost four years ago. Has it been four
• 38:17
  Speaker 2: years yes? And thin it was. That was per state,
• 38:21
  Speaker 2: So federally is one thing. Per state is different. So
• 38:24
  Speaker 2: I think that within the state, a lot of these
• 38:27
  Speaker 2: backwards ass states did that, and he was basically saying
• 38:29
  Speaker 2: that federally, he's not going to be in women's birth business. Obviously,
• 38:34
  Speaker 2: there's a lot of lies that are being generated from
• 38:36
  Speaker 2: the entire political parties. Honestly, the thing about me is,
• 38:39
  Speaker 2: I'm not a government type of bitch. I'm a black
• 38:43
  Speaker 2: person and I don't believe in any like American government
• 38:46
  Speaker 2: is fuck to me as an African American person, I believe.
• 38:50
  Speaker 2: I know people keep saying this like the greater of
• 38:52
  Speaker 2: two evils. America's evil as fuck. It always has been.
• 38:57
  Speaker 2: It's not a secret. So I don't subscribe to either
• 38:59
  Speaker 2: side just because I know they're both full of shit,
• 39:02
  Speaker 2: and it's both. It's both for profit and monetary gain.
• 39:05
  Speaker 2: It's not for the ethics or morals of the people
• 39:07
  Speaker 2: that they contain. So with accepting that, it's like, I
• 39:11
  Speaker 2: live here and let's just keep it moving until I
• 39:13
  Speaker 2: can get to Costa Rica permanently forever. I want to know.
• 39:16
  Speaker 2: I just for me, it's no new friends.
• 39:18
  Speaker 4: I got my friends, if you I mean, obviously, the
• 39:22
  Speaker 4: tribe is always the tribe. But when it comes oh
• 39:24
  Speaker 4: my god, actually there's a bitch in our who used
• 39:27
  Speaker 4: to be in our tribe that.
• 39:30
  Speaker 2: She blocked us on everything. Oh yeah, because we talked
• 39:33
  Speaker 2: about Palestine, and I'm like, wow, interesting. It's so it's
• 39:38
  Speaker 2: such an interesting, fickle time, and you know it's so
• 39:41
  Speaker 2: telling too that like the thing about it is like
• 39:45
  Speaker 2: people get in.
• 39:46
  Speaker 4: This is the thing and I'm guilty of this too,
• 39:48
  Speaker 4: is like we get in an uproar around around these topics, right,
• 39:51
  Speaker 4: and we get mad at our friends, and we get
• 39:53
  Speaker 4: mad at the people that we deem as whatever friends, acquaintances,
• 39:57
  Speaker 4: and then time fizzles out and then we're back to
• 40:01
  Speaker 4: going to brunch and then we're back to you know,
• 40:03
  Speaker 4: having play dates.
• 40:04
  Speaker 2: And it's like, did you go to brunch with any
• 40:06
  Speaker 2: of those people?
• 40:06
  Speaker 4: I'm not talking about them specifically, I'm just saying in general,
• 40:09
  Speaker 4: all of us like this, this is what happens. We
• 40:12
  Speaker 4: get it, We have this like outrage, and then we
• 40:15
  Speaker 4: go back to just whatever it feels normal again.
• 40:19
  Speaker 2: I think there was a turning point in my relationships
• 40:21
  Speaker 2: where I was like over different as like as an adult,
• 40:25
  Speaker 2: and I've kept those people in those places. Maybe we
• 40:29
  Speaker 2: would have contact with me. But am I calling you
• 40:31
  Speaker 2: every day?
• 40:31
  Speaker 1: No?
• 40:31
  Speaker 2: Am I keeping up with my life. No, I like,
• 40:34
  Speaker 2: as an adult as i've especially as a black woman
• 40:36
  Speaker 2: growing up in the valley, in certain situations, I was
• 40:39
  Speaker 2: just like, oh, okay, this is where I'll leave you forever.
• 40:43
  Speaker 2: Twelve degrees. You know, there's some people who are two
• 40:46
  Speaker 2: degrees or some people who are across the mountain around
• 40:48
  Speaker 2: the corner, and I just know how to jeeal in
• 40:50
  Speaker 2: those those distances and not like take it very personally
• 40:53
  Speaker 2: because then it's going to piss me the fuck off,
• 40:55
  Speaker 2: and then I might have to punch you in the face.
• 40:57
  Speaker 2: And I don't want to punch somebody in the face.
• 40:59
  Speaker 2: Late in life, I could be getting in a fight
• 41:00
  Speaker 2: at thirty six years old. Can you imagine if I
• 41:03
  Speaker 2: called you so I got a fits fight, girl, come
• 41:06
  Speaker 2: give me. I had to be her ass, I could imagine. Actually,
• 41:11
  Speaker 2: I'm surprised I ain't got one of those calls yet.
• 41:13
  Speaker 2: Shut up, now, you trying to make me the violent friend,
• 41:17
  Speaker 2: not me thinking about it.
• 41:18
  Speaker 1: I know.
• 41:19
  Speaker 2: Yeah, when was your last physical altercation? Probably like when
• 41:27
  Speaker 2: I live in Atlanta, I can think of two physical
• 41:30
  Speaker 2: altercations as an adult, Like once outside the club, this
• 41:37
  Speaker 2: bitch that was talking shit about me, and I saw
• 41:39
  Speaker 2: her in the club and I could not let it go.
• 41:42
  Speaker 2: I had to say something. And I was like, what
• 41:44
  Speaker 2: was that you said to so and so? And she
• 41:46
  Speaker 2: said we saw each other outside the club and we
• 41:48
  Speaker 2: got into a physical leducation. And then one time I
• 41:51
  Speaker 2: didn't I didn't really participate in it, but I was
• 41:53
  Speaker 2: talking shit because I have a really my gift is
• 41:55
  Speaker 2: talking shit with like a very straight face, with like
• 41:57
  Speaker 2: a smile on my face. And I really pissed some
• 42:00
  Speaker 2: got my gift. I was just like jokingly but like
• 42:03
  Speaker 2: getting under this person's skin. And I was just talking
• 42:05
  Speaker 2: sitting on the bed. It was really late with a
• 42:07
  Speaker 2: bunch of people, and she jumped across the bed to
• 42:09
  Speaker 2: attack me. But that was it. That was about fifteen
• 42:13
  Speaker 2: years ago, What about you.
• 42:15
  Speaker 4: My last one was about eleven years ago at Casa
• 42:20
  Speaker 4: Vega eleven.
• 42:22
  Speaker 2: That's not about actually wait no, it's not. Costaviga was
• 42:24
  Speaker 2: another Oh MEXICALI, oh right here, Ventre. Yeah, shout out
• 42:27
  Speaker 2: to MEXICALI down why.
• 42:30
  Speaker 1: It was.
• 42:30
  Speaker 2: It was very uncalled for.
• 42:31
  Speaker 4: Actually we were all there was a long it was
• 42:34
  Speaker 4: single to mile. There was a very long ass fucket yeah, tequila.
• 42:37
  Speaker 2: There was Keep in mind these physical altercations removed by
• 42:40
  Speaker 2: domestic violent situations because that would have been more recent
• 42:43
  Speaker 2: for me.
• 42:43
  Speaker 4: There, yeah, there was uh oh yeah because second name
• 42:47
  Speaker 4: one of those two, because.
• 42:48
  Speaker 5: That would be last year.
• 42:50
  Speaker 2: Oh sure, yeah for me. No wait, there was a
• 42:54
  Speaker 2: long ass line.
• 42:55
  Speaker 4: We were all waiting to pee and this bitch was
• 42:57
  Speaker 4: in there for a fucking ever and I was next
• 42:59
  Speaker 4: up and I was knocking, like hello, bitch. She opened
• 43:03
  Speaker 4: the doors swinging. No way, Yeah, she opened the door,
• 43:08
  Speaker 4: she fears lf. No, she opened the door because she
• 43:10
  Speaker 4: was mad. I was knocking trying to get in because
• 43:12
  Speaker 4: bitch took Lois in there. I don't know if she
• 43:14
  Speaker 4: was doing some fucking cocaine or what the fuck she
• 43:16
  Speaker 4: was doing, but she was taking too goddamn long and
• 43:17
  Speaker 4: I had to pee and there was a long ass
• 43:19
  Speaker 4: line and everyone was like what the fuck.
• 43:21
  Speaker 5: So she came out swinging and we started fighting and
• 43:23
  Speaker 5: they had to break it.
• 43:24
  Speaker 2: Up and then that was it.
• 43:25
  Speaker 4: But that was that was my last physical altercation. I
• 43:27
  Speaker 4: don't like to fight because I'm like my face, I
• 43:30
  Speaker 4: like it. I don't want to get my face hit.
• 43:32
  Speaker 4: I don't want to get scratched and I might black out.
• 43:35
  Speaker 2: I don't I don't.
• 43:35
  Speaker 4: I don't trust myself in that situation. I haven't fought
• 43:38
  Speaker 4: a lot of bitches in my life. I fought more
• 43:40
  Speaker 4: niggas in my life and the bitches.
• 43:44
  Speaker 2: Yeah, No, I just don't believe in getting in a
• 43:47
  Speaker 2: fight at this grown age, now, will I? I'm very
• 43:49
  Speaker 2: much have two parents from Philly. Absolutely, I'll fucking fight
• 43:52
  Speaker 2: you if need be. But I don't think it's classy
• 43:56
  Speaker 2: as a fucking grown ass adult, and it's not my
• 43:57
  Speaker 2: go to. However, there are a couple of things spinning
• 44:00
  Speaker 2: in my face. Certain words. Yeah, I'll beat your fucking
• 44:03
  Speaker 2: ass and it's gonna be go time, and I might
• 44:04
  Speaker 2: pull a knife or something. But other than that, you
• 44:06
  Speaker 2: got a knife, No, but I would break a glass
• 44:09
  Speaker 2: and make it a shank. I don't know. I've seen
• 44:10
  Speaker 2: movies Flash Bleach. You know, I'm ninety eight pounds. I
• 44:15
  Speaker 2: gotta do what I gotta do. Weapons all around can
• 44:17
  Speaker 2: be weapons.
• 44:18
  Speaker 5: You know, there's the key with the key between the fingers.
• 44:20
  Speaker 2: Listen, I'll bite all the things. I just would recommend
• 44:23
  Speaker 2: you get in a fight with a little person because
• 44:24
  Speaker 2: I'll go love not like Michelle obomb Michello, bombshell bomb Anyway,
• 44:39
  Speaker 2: it feels like a good time to segment into secrets Safe.
• 44:42
  Speaker 2: Is your secret safe that I might beat somebody's ass
• 44:44
  Speaker 2: with a shank?
• 44:46
  Speaker 1: Uh?
• 44:46
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  Speaker 5: Tom, So, this was a write in question, a write
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  Speaker 5: in secret?
• 45:17
  Speaker 2: Excuse me? Okay, please don't judge. Is this has been
• 45:22
  Speaker 2: hard enough already?
• 45:23
  Speaker 4: I just found out the guy I've been dating for
• 45:25
  Speaker 4: the last five months has a whole other secret life
• 45:28
  Speaker 4: with a wife and two kids. He doesn't know that
• 45:31
  Speaker 4: I know, and I haven't told his wife yet. Of course,
• 45:33
  Speaker 4: I'm not going to keep dating him, but I'm torn
• 45:35
  Speaker 4: on whether or not I should tell his wife. I'm
• 45:37
  Speaker 4: a little fearful of his retaliation, so I really don't.
• 45:40
  Speaker 2: Know what to do.
• 45:42
  Speaker 5: What would you do.
• 45:44
  Speaker 2: A I just really want to know, like how motherfucking
• 45:48
  Speaker 2: spy wear all these niggas Because me, as a woman,
• 45:52
  Speaker 2: my intuition is so high. I ask so many questions,
• 45:57
  Speaker 2: where do you live? All the things, so many questions.
• 46:02
  Speaker 2: I don't know if this could pass me, Like maybe
• 46:05
  Speaker 2: it was long distance. Oh, I mean even then nigga
• 46:08
  Speaker 2: facetimey bitch. Yeah. This reminds with an episode he once
• 46:13
  Speaker 2: had I'm triggered, I'm dating a married man, where Erica
• 46:17
  Speaker 2: was stating a married man long distance because because niggas
• 46:20
  Speaker 2: are strange, and they kind of did research because we
• 46:23
  Speaker 2: tell all our business on the internet, and he knew
• 46:24
  Speaker 2: exactly what to do and say. He did and he
• 46:27
  Speaker 2: and he was facetiming, and he was facetiming me. He
• 46:30
  Speaker 2: was face timing me with his son, his son like
• 46:33
  Speaker 2: saying hi, yeah, Yes. He was flying out like he
• 46:39
  Speaker 2: driving out to our show, like he was doing a lot.
• 46:43
  Speaker 1: What was that?
• 46:43
  Speaker 2: Twenty nineteen of twenty nineteen, Please, if you guys have
• 46:48
  Speaker 2: not dipped back in the archives, it is worth dipping
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  Speaker 2: back in the archives to listen to I'm Dating a
• 46:53
  Speaker 2: married man. It is my my dear, dear, my best friend,
• 46:57
  Speaker 2: my brother, shout out to Sebastian.
• 47:00
  Speaker 4: He really coached me through this very dark time in
• 47:02
  Speaker 4: my life. And when as far as just like any good.
• 47:06
  Speaker 5: Gay man would do, he wrote a letter to the
• 47:09
  Speaker 5: wife for me.
• 47:11
  Speaker 2: So you know, did you have done that? Had he
• 47:13
  Speaker 2: not done it for you, would you have contacted her
• 47:16
  Speaker 2: in any way? Or would just let it go? I
• 47:20
  Speaker 2: would have contacted her. I mean I did. I threw him,
• 47:24
  Speaker 2: you know, like that was my choice. I mean he didn't.
• 47:27
  Speaker 2: He didn't do it on his own accord. I mean,
• 47:29
  Speaker 2: I don't know sebas should be doing.
• 47:33
  Speaker 4: I think that you know, and and and granted did
• 47:36
  Speaker 4: it change the situation. No, the bitch was got pregnant
• 47:38
  Speaker 4: and the probably.
• 47:39
  Speaker 2: Still forgot She got pregnant right after that and had
• 47:42
  Speaker 2: a baby with him.
• 47:43
  Speaker 4: And you know, I think sometimes women go like double
• 47:46
  Speaker 4: down even more when that happens.
• 47:48
  Speaker 2: That's never, which is never a good look like ever,
• 47:52
  Speaker 2: It's just never.
• 47:53
  Speaker 4: But I don't know, like I think that as from
• 47:57
  Speaker 4: a woman to woman, I leave that she deserves to know.
• 48:02
  Speaker 4: But do not be surprised if nothing changes you. You
• 48:05
  Speaker 4: really need to wash your hands with this completely, like
• 48:07
  Speaker 4: you said you are. I hope you have, But I
• 48:10
  Speaker 4: would want to know.
• 48:13
  Speaker 2: And I'm gonna tell you just on the just on
• 48:14
  Speaker 2: the karma in general. Whatever you choose to do with
• 48:18
  Speaker 2: this information.
• 48:18
  Speaker 4: Is on you.
• 48:19
  Speaker 2: But I'm gonna let you know, bitch, this is what
• 48:21
  Speaker 2: your nigga's doing. But yeah, I do. If I if
• 48:24
  Speaker 2: it was happening to me, I would want to know.
• 48:25
  Speaker 2: I don't even know how my husband could ever think
• 48:28
  Speaker 2: he was having upside bitch because I'm a nosy bitch
• 48:30
  Speaker 2: on both sides. Yeah, laugh, because it's never happening. It
• 48:35
  Speaker 2: would never happen because I am too nosy. I'm all
• 48:38
  Speaker 2: up in your phone, I'm all up in your whereabouts,
• 48:40
  Speaker 2: and I asked too many questions. But I do know
• 48:44
  Speaker 2: that they're sneaky double live leading men because I even
• 48:46
  Speaker 2: met that guy. I met that guy who was she
• 48:49
  Speaker 2: met to the podcast. She was talking to him for
• 48:51
  Speaker 2: a while. He was sending stuff, being kind, all types
• 48:54
  Speaker 2: of shit. They were really dating. He took us to dinner,
• 48:58
  Speaker 2: he came out to dinner. Was it? Who was I with? Ashley? Oh? Okay.
• 49:04
  Speaker 2: But for the men who are listening and the men
• 49:06
  Speaker 2: who do shit like this, what the fuck is the point?
• 49:10
  Speaker 2: What are you doing? And if you're grown like to me,
• 49:14
  Speaker 2: if you're a late in life cheater, like an old
• 49:16
  Speaker 2: ass nigga that cheats, I don't think they're late in life.
• 49:18
  Speaker 2: I think they've been doing this. I just feel like
• 49:20
  Speaker 2: your I just feel your whole life's a lie and
• 49:22
  Speaker 2: that's on you, Like I don't. I think this even
• 49:25
  Speaker 2: goes to your ex. Like there's a couple of people
• 49:27
  Speaker 2: I could think of specifically who go so hard to
• 49:31
  Speaker 2: to present as one thing and then when you find
• 49:34
  Speaker 2: out you're not. You know what I think also for
• 49:36
  Speaker 2: us as podcasters. For us as podcasters, we talk so
• 49:40
  Speaker 2: honestly all the time, even the things that are not
• 49:42
  Speaker 2: so desirable. You know, like I'm gonna say some shit
• 49:44
  Speaker 2: even if I know it's going to make a nigga
• 49:45
  Speaker 2: judge me, but I'm still gonna say it because it's
• 49:47
  Speaker 2: the truth. So if somebody goes so far to hide
• 49:50
  Speaker 2: who they are, it makes me know that you don't
• 49:53
  Speaker 2: really like yourself or what you represent, and you hate
• 49:56
  Speaker 2: it so much that you'd create a whole facade over
• 49:59
  Speaker 2: who it is. So it's always just like, damn, I
• 50:02
  Speaker 2: feel bad for you because you really dislike yourself and
• 50:05
  Speaker 2: you don't have any self love and that's something even
• 50:07
  Speaker 2: deeper that you have to go on the journey into.
• 50:09
  Speaker 2: And I have no time for it and no guidance,
• 50:11
  Speaker 2: but it does make me feel like, damn, what a
• 50:14
  Speaker 2: sad life to live. Long story short, bitch, Tell her, yeah,
• 50:21
  Speaker 2: tell her and make sure she gets the message. Yeah,
• 50:25
  Speaker 2: like email her directly, like Sebastian did. Yeah. As a
• 50:30
  Speaker 2: matter of fact, can we play that clip? Yeah? I
• 50:32
  Speaker 2: think Orlando. Can we insert Yeah? I think we need
• 50:34
  Speaker 2: to insert the clip.
• 50:35
  Speaker 4: We need to insert the clip of Sebastian reading the
• 50:37
  Speaker 4: message to Kishan Khan.
• 50:40
  Speaker 2: That was his name. Oh Sean, I should have known. God,
• 50:43
  Speaker 2: his voice bothered me. Yeah, beautiful. Before we before we
• 50:52
  Speaker 2: let go of this topic, let me talking about Kishan.
• 50:56
  Speaker 2: It was around Halloween time and he told Erica that
• 50:58
  Speaker 2: he was dressing up as Martin. Shut up, and I said, girl,
• 51:02
  Speaker 2: you know good and god damn, well, no one's dressing
• 51:04
  Speaker 2: up as Martin without Gina. You knew he was married,
• 51:06
  Speaker 2: because how the fuck you just gonna be Martin? What's
• 51:09
  Speaker 2: she gonna wear? You have to have Gina. And sure enough,
• 51:13
  Speaker 2: well we finally got into this, got into the files.
• 51:16
  Speaker 2: There was a picture of him because no one's gonna
• 51:20
  Speaker 2: be just fucking Keishawn as Martin. No one's gonna know
• 51:23
  Speaker 2: who you are. The fact that we say his government name,
• 51:26
  Speaker 2: that's what the fuck? You get? What the fun I
• 51:27
  Speaker 2: should say your last name? What was it? The b damn?
• 51:32
  Speaker 2: All her friends are gonna know he's where was he?
• 51:34
  Speaker 5: North Carolina?
• 51:35
  Speaker 2: Always get the Carolina, one of the Carolinas. There's bored
• 51:38
  Speaker 2: as states where you've got nothing to do. No, sorry,
• 51:41
  Speaker 2: I didn't mean to say that. There's a lot of
• 51:42
  Speaker 2: stuff to do there. It's just him, lots of things
• 51:45
  Speaker 2: to do. You go with your state statism. Sorry, guys,
• 51:52
  Speaker 2: Oh we didn't pull a card? Or is it terrible?
• 51:56
  Speaker 2: Or did we not smoke a joint?
• 51:57
  Speaker 4: Okay, well hold on, oh speaking of this joint, I
• 52:01
  Speaker 4: didn't get to tell you last episode.
• 52:03
  Speaker 5: This is a very very special strain.
• 52:07
  Speaker 2: You did start with saying that, and then you never
• 52:10
  Speaker 2: never shared why why. This comes straight from my parents' backyard,
• 52:15
  Speaker 2: actually not the backyard, my brother's bedroom where my stepfather
• 52:19
  Speaker 2: was cultivating cannabis because my brother went to college, so
• 52:24
  Speaker 2: he made I don't think you should tell their business.
• 52:25
  Speaker 5: But okay, that's fine, schol we're in fororing we're in
• 52:28
  Speaker 5: Cali for.
• 52:31
  Speaker 2: Anyway.
• 52:31
  Speaker 4: Fine, anyway, he grew this. It took about a thousand years,
• 52:37
  Speaker 4: and that does not take two months. It took forever
• 52:39
  Speaker 4: because he takes forever, and this is forever does He's slow.
• 52:45
  Speaker 4: He's slow. I love him dearly, but everything he does
• 52:47
  Speaker 4: is slow. He cooks slow, he talks slow, he thinks slow.
• 52:50
  Speaker 2: And he's a great man. And the cannabis. But you
• 52:53
  Speaker 2: know what I will say, when people take their time,
• 52:55
  Speaker 2: they make good product. I do, and the product is
• 52:58
  Speaker 2: is good product. Taking the shout out to Rory smells good.
• 53:04
  Speaker 2: I don't know what strain this is. It's so it
• 53:07
  Speaker 2: feels like a hybrid. Actually, no, this seems like a og.
• 53:13
  Speaker 2: Basically that all the weed people tell me that everything's
• 53:16
  Speaker 2: a hybrid. Don't get it twisted, which I could see
• 53:22
  Speaker 2: all contaminating each other. Okay, yeah, I've been wheezing lately.
• 53:33
  Speaker 2: Probably I mean me too, probably because we've probably at
• 53:35
  Speaker 2: some point you need to stop smoking weed.
• 53:36
  Speaker 5: But no, I think it's allergies.
• 53:39
  Speaker 2: Okay, couldn't be weed. Nope, it's allergies.
• 53:45
  Speaker 4: Let me just take a moment to cleanse the palate
• 53:47
  Speaker 4: after all the shit talking we did a little palette.
• 53:51
  Speaker 2: Cleanser wherever you are, just take a few deep breaths, sounds,
• 54:05
  Speaker 2: remove the tension from your body. That's nice what you
• 54:15
  Speaker 2: do with wheed. Oh yeah, using weed with the breath
• 54:19
  Speaker 2: work is actually a clutch.
• 54:28
  Speaker 1: Too.
• 54:29
  Speaker 2: Can do weed and breath work together in Costa Rica
• 54:32
  Speaker 2: with me and Jamila February first through the sixth in
• 54:36
  Speaker 2: Costa Rica near the Black Sand beaches. That's strong on
• 54:41
  Speaker 2: the Caribbean side, yuess.
• 54:43
  Speaker 1: It is.
• 54:45
  Speaker 2: For those of you who smoke cannabis.
• 54:47
  Speaker 5: It's also available.
• 54:48
  Speaker 4: I know people always ask me, can we smoke weed?
• 54:51
  Speaker 4: I'm in Costa Rica, yes, and but in fact we
• 54:54
  Speaker 4: will provide it for you.
• 54:55
  Speaker 2: Don't you worry. You've got everything, everything you need, You've
• 54:58
  Speaker 2: took it, taken care of it. Breathing for you. Pick
• 55:01
  Speaker 2: a card, my love. King of Pentacles, hmmm, the King
• 55:10
  Speaker 2: of Pentacles. That's the King of the Money.
• 55:15
  Speaker 4: He looks like he's he's really proud of himself, like
• 55:18
  Speaker 4: he's he's accomplished things.
• 55:20
  Speaker 5: He looks like fairness and show the camera luxury.
• 55:25
  Speaker 2: He stands for wealth, business, leadership, security, discipline, and abundance.
• 55:30
  Speaker 2: The King of Pentacles represents material wealth, financial abundance and
• 55:34
  Speaker 2: worldly success. This king is a faithful provider. He uses
• 55:37
  Speaker 2: his ambition and confidence to create wealth for himself and others,
• 55:40
  Speaker 2: and generates his self worth from what he has accumulated
• 55:43
  Speaker 2: and can share with others. He is also a fatherly
• 55:46
  Speaker 2: figure who provides others with advice, guidance, wisdom, especially in
• 55:50
  Speaker 2: financial and work related matters. When the King of Pentacles
• 55:53
  Speaker 2: appears in a terror reading, you are confident and successful
• 55:56
  Speaker 2: at attracting and managing wealth. Not only do you identify
• 55:59
  Speaker 2: opportunities for growth and success, but you also draw upon
• 56:02
  Speaker 2: your self discipline and control to manage your wealth and
• 56:04
  Speaker 2: invest in wisely for the long term. Hmm my four
• 56:08
  Speaker 2: hundred million dollars. The King of Pentacles indicates that you
• 56:11
  Speaker 2: can translate your vision into something tangible, practical, and often
• 56:16
  Speaker 2: very lucrative. You are the ultimate business owner. Amen, Amen, Amen, Yes, yes,
• 56:24
  Speaker 2: I'll take that. Twenty twenty five. We've gotten some good
• 56:27
  Speaker 2: cards this last two weeks. You standing on business, stand
• 56:30
  Speaker 2: on business. Did y'all see our trailer because we stand
• 56:33
  Speaker 2: on BABS trailer. You saw it right and now you
• 56:36
  Speaker 2: saw it. You liked it, didn't you? You did it?
• 56:38
  Speaker 2: You saw it we're bossy, right. We've she was acting,
• 56:40
  Speaker 2: saw her acting debut. She was not our acting debut.
• 56:44
  Speaker 2: We've been acted so many times, bitch, We've had a
• 56:47
  Speaker 2: two women show. It's not acting, it's real life, but
• 56:51
  Speaker 2: it is entertaining. Yeah. I think we were talking about
• 56:58
  Speaker 2: before we start this episode that a lot of times,
• 57:01
  Speaker 2: at a certain age, people people cap their passions and
• 57:07
  Speaker 2: their creativity and the things that they can tap into.
• 57:10
  Speaker 2: And I just want to say, because sometimes I fall
• 57:14
  Speaker 2: victim to this too, Because society, you could be a
• 57:18
  Speaker 2: late in life whatever you want to be, except a
• 57:20
  Speaker 2: bad person, that would be a waste of time. But like,
• 57:24
  Speaker 2: if you want to act late in life, like even
• 57:27
  Speaker 2: the guy both Well, one of the gentlemen who was
• 57:30
  Speaker 2: in our art. Wait, we got to stop calling it
• 57:32
  Speaker 2: late in life. You know where that came from. I
• 57:36
  Speaker 2: know where it comes from, the late life lesbian. One
• 57:39
  Speaker 2: time somebody wrote us in and they were like, I'm
• 57:43
  Speaker 2: a late in life lesbian lesbian, and ever since then
• 57:46
  Speaker 2: we've been like late in life, porn style, late in life, Peter,
• 57:49
  Speaker 2: everything's late in life. Shout out to that girl. I
• 57:51
  Speaker 2: wonder if she's still lesbian. Oh my god, I hope
• 57:53
  Speaker 2: she is I just live in her truth, or maybe
• 57:56
  Speaker 2: you fall out of lesbianism like me. Maybe she seemed
• 57:59
  Speaker 2: like she was really she really needed to go in
• 58:01
  Speaker 2: there for a while. Can you relate this for me? Absolutely?
• 58:05
  Speaker 2: I know, But I just feel like sometimes later in
• 58:08
  Speaker 2: the latter years, people have a lot of fear about
• 58:11
  Speaker 2: starting something new because there's this expectation that you have
• 58:14
  Speaker 2: to be wildly successful or make a lot of money.
• 58:16
  Speaker 2: And I think it's ridiculous, and I have experienced this,
• 58:19
  Speaker 2: like this year I forgot I mean, I started a
• 58:20
  Speaker 2: podcast with Orlando called Love Like This. Go listen to it.
• 58:24
  Speaker 2: But I had a lot of anxiety around it, even
• 58:26
  Speaker 2: though obviously I know I already podcast, but I only
• 58:28
  Speaker 2: do it with Erica, and it's so I'm used to
• 58:29
  Speaker 2: doing with Erica. And it was very it was very
• 58:32
  Speaker 2: telling for me that I had so much fear around
• 58:34
  Speaker 2: it and like anxiety, and I was like, Pitch, you
• 58:37
  Speaker 2: didn't have fear where you were sitting in the dining
• 58:38
  Speaker 2: room with Erica, and I just had to like do it.
• 58:41
  Speaker 2: And it took some time to feel like, to realize that.
• 58:45
  Speaker 2: And it's just like even with my sexology and my
• 58:48
  Speaker 2: tantric practitionership is like even with writing a book, you know,
• 58:54
  Speaker 2: it's just like we tell ourselves so many lies and
• 58:57
  Speaker 2: it really handicaps us from like expanding and doing other
• 59:01
  Speaker 2: things and literally having fun doing it and like discovering
• 59:04
  Speaker 2: parts of ourselves that we haven't honored. And so I
• 59:07
  Speaker 2: just want to say, if you're late in life anything,
• 59:10
  Speaker 2: do it. I agreed.
• 59:12
  Speaker 4: I've been really thinking about that a lot lately too,
• 59:15
  Speaker 4: because I've recently got back into acting, and you know,
• 59:21
  Speaker 4: acting kind of like broke my heart for a while
• 59:23
  Speaker 4: because I've been auditioning and acting for the majority of
• 59:27
  Speaker 4: my life. And actually it's so crazy now that I'm
• 59:30
  Speaker 4: getting back into it, because it feels like I was.
• 59:32
  Speaker 5: Like, oh my god, that was a whole lifetime of.
• 59:35
  Speaker 4: This thing until like it started to give me so
• 59:38
  Speaker 4: much anxiety that I needed to take a break. And
• 59:40
  Speaker 4: I think there's also that is like not being afraid
• 59:42
  Speaker 4: to take a break from something and thinking it's the
• 59:44
  Speaker 4: end because you need to go focus on that late
• 59:48
  Speaker 4: in life whatever, you know what I mean, like being
• 59:50
  Speaker 4: able to also dissect that idea as well, because some
• 59:54
  Speaker 4: of that is being fear of quitting your job and
• 59:56
  Speaker 4: switching careers. Some of that is like, oh, I'm actually
• 59:59
  Speaker 4: in the art and I'm doing things, but I actually
• 1:00:02
  Speaker 4: don't want to do this anymore.
• 1:00:03
  Speaker 2: Well I'm successful at it, like why would I stop?
• 1:00:05
  Speaker 2: Or you know what, it's just also starting something at
• 1:00:10
  Speaker 2: the beginning, it can be overwhelmed, it could be intimidating.
• 1:00:14
  Speaker 2: And because we do have this idea socially that at
• 1:00:18
  Speaker 2: a certain age you have to be an expert. But
• 1:00:20
  Speaker 2: guess what, you don't have to be an expert at
• 1:00:21
  Speaker 2: anything as long as you genuinely enjoy it.
• 1:00:26
  Speaker 4: Yeah, and then you become an expert because you're going
• 1:00:28
  Speaker 4: to be actively doing it, because you're really going to
• 1:00:32
  Speaker 4: embody it at some point, even if at first you're
• 1:00:35
  Speaker 4: just learning what it is, you know. So yeah, And
• 1:00:39
  Speaker 4: I've been seeing other women kind of tap into that,
• 1:00:41
  Speaker 4: Like I'm seeing some of the women that are in
• 1:00:43
  Speaker 4: my life and in my circle starting to.
• 1:00:46
  Speaker 2: Explore themselves in that way.
• 1:00:48
  Speaker 4: And I think that is also a telling sign of
• 1:00:51
  Speaker 4: like a woman that women that have agreed to.
• 1:00:55
  Speaker 5: Have chosen to heal and know themselves.
• 1:00:57
  Speaker 4: You start to be able to give yourself permission to
• 1:00:59
  Speaker 4: even con that, you know, like sometimes the block is so.
• 1:01:02
  Speaker 5: Deep you can't even consider you want to be what
• 1:01:06
  Speaker 5: you want to sing? Bitch, what are you talking about?
• 1:01:08
  Speaker 2: Well, the mind is such a like like the mind,
• 1:01:11
  Speaker 2: like the the the energetic weight we give other people's
• 1:01:15
  Speaker 2: opinions that actually, like it's an illusion, No it doesn't matter,
• 1:01:20
  Speaker 2: but like the opinions of others is such a heavy
• 1:01:23
  Speaker 2: energetic weight sometimes that it literally paralyzes us from the
• 1:01:28
  Speaker 2: expansion that is sometimes necessary to like tap into the
• 1:01:32
  Speaker 2: get to the next realm, the next level. Yeah. No,
• 1:01:35
  Speaker 2: I was the other day.
• 1:01:37
  Speaker 4: So my partner, he sings, and he's been like wanting
• 1:01:41
  Speaker 4: to me to sing on songs with him, and you know,
• 1:01:44
  Speaker 4: I love singing, but I don't know.
• 1:01:46
  Speaker 2: Like again, I was like, that's done.
• 1:01:48
  Speaker 4: I actively told myself I'm cool, Like I love music,
• 1:01:51
  Speaker 4: you know, I have really great taste in music. Sound
• 1:01:54
  Speaker 4: is really important to me. But I'm not that anymore.
• 1:01:58
  Speaker 4: And so he was like asked me to sing. We did,
• 1:02:00
  Speaker 4: and then he was like giving me notes that I
• 1:02:02
  Speaker 4: can feel myself like the critique like wanting to paralyze
• 1:02:05
  Speaker 4: me and even like like.
• 1:02:06
  Speaker 2: To say not even do it.
• 1:02:07
  Speaker 5: Yeah yeah, And I was like, huh breathe.
• 1:02:11
  Speaker 2: Like why a you're taking it this, Like why a
• 1:02:12
  Speaker 2: you're taking it personally.
• 1:02:13
  Speaker 4: It's not that like having to walk myself through and
• 1:02:17
  Speaker 4: experience like that, especially like this person loves me, like
• 1:02:21
  Speaker 4: he's only he wants to be here.
• 1:02:23
  Speaker 2: But observing that your initial reaction to those, like to
• 1:02:27
  Speaker 2: certain words, even though you get, you had that, you
• 1:02:29
  Speaker 2: had that moment where you get you get to choose
• 1:02:31
  Speaker 2: if it means this or.
• 1:02:32
  Speaker 4: That, but taking that pause and then but also because
• 1:02:36
  Speaker 4: I'm so connected to my body, I can feel how
• 1:02:38
  Speaker 4: my body like what it started to do.
• 1:02:40
  Speaker 5: And I was like, damn, Whereas before I wouldn't even
• 1:02:43
  Speaker 5: feel it. I wouldn't even know it was happening.
• 1:02:45
  Speaker 2: I would literally just flee right Like I feel my
• 1:02:48
  Speaker 2: body going into flight mode. You can identify it, and
• 1:02:51
  Speaker 2: you can you can reverse I can reverse it, like
• 1:02:54
  Speaker 2: I can really truly do that. Yeah, re read redirect
• 1:02:58
  Speaker 2: the energy and say, hey, this is not real. Your
• 1:03:00
  Speaker 2: mind just told you that. Let's redirect it here and
• 1:03:02
  Speaker 2: let it. That's a really good friend. It was cool. Yeah,
• 1:03:08
  Speaker 2: and I'm still working through it and I'm going to
• 1:03:11
  Speaker 2: keep doing it because it was fun and I found
• 1:03:14
  Speaker 2: it good being good, good.
• 1:03:27
  Speaker 5: Hello after you.
• 1:03:28
  Speaker 2: Took the notes willingly so funny it's true, but like
• 1:03:36
  Speaker 2: you know that that's that's the perka being later on
• 1:03:39
  Speaker 2: in life and being aware and intentional. It's like, am
• 1:03:43
  Speaker 2: I staying in the same programming or am I taking
• 1:03:46
  Speaker 2: the time to observe how I feel and like why
• 1:03:48
  Speaker 2: I feel that way and how I'm showing up and
• 1:03:51
  Speaker 2: then like once I figure that out, do I continue
• 1:03:54
  Speaker 2: because it's comfortable, or do I then do this thing
• 1:03:57
  Speaker 2: that's like I'm resisting from because I'm so used to
• 1:04:00
  Speaker 2: doing this. That's how I protect myself.
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  Speaker 1: You know.
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  Speaker 4: It was even more like it's an added layer and
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  Speaker 4: it was probably the thing that kept me going was
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  Speaker 4: Irie like she came she's I realized she was witnessing me.
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  Speaker 4: She was there, she was in the house, and then
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  Speaker 4: she came in, was like, what are you doing? And
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  Speaker 4: she's like I want to hear and you know, it's
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  Speaker 4: like she's witnessing me do something she's never seen me do,
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  Speaker 4: and like she's never she's heard of that.
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  Speaker 2: But you get to make an example exactly, and if
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  Speaker 2: you flee, she'll when she something comes up for her.
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  Speaker 2: That's what I'm saying.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, that's why I was like, Okay, no, this is
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  Speaker 4: this is actually even more important right now, it's not
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  Speaker 4: even about me.
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  Speaker 2: Yes it is, and it's all going to be good.
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  Speaker 2: Only good is going to come from this if I
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  Speaker 2: say yes.
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  Speaker 4: So you know it's yeah, it was interesting, it's interesting,
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  Speaker 4: and that's also I'm like, okay, so then.
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  Speaker 2: I have now I have to commit and how you
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  Speaker 2: grow out of it too? Because even Luna was talking
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  Speaker 2: she wants to like do Broadway. She's obsessed with Hamilton.
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  Speaker 2: And we went to Ashley's and we were they were like,
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  Speaker 2: we were waiting for you, for you guys to do karaoke,
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  Speaker 2: and I was like she called me. I was like,
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  Speaker 2: you called me about carry because she's like, yeah, you
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  Speaker 2: guys hear it. So I turned out was like Luna,
• 1:05:00
  Speaker 2: what are you going to do it? I'm like, do
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  Speaker 2: something for a Hambleton. She's like, no, I'm not going
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  Speaker 2: to do it. And I was like, how are you
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  Speaker 2: going to do Broadway if you won't do the thing,
• 1:05:06
  Speaker 2: And she's like and I was like, listen, you know
• 1:05:09
  Speaker 2: it's like me and Erica we do shows. I'm like,
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  Speaker 2: I'm scared every single time. I'm nervous. I was like,
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  Speaker 2: but then I just have to do it. And I
• 1:05:16
  Speaker 2: was like there comes au point you're gonna have to
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  Speaker 2: just do it. And she's just like I can see
• 1:05:19
  Speaker 2: it all in her head, like she's heady because at
• 1:05:21
  Speaker 2: home with us singing, dancing like vibrant, and I'm like,
• 1:05:24
  Speaker 2: it's so interesting, you know, And it's like, truly we're
• 1:05:28
  Speaker 2: just child versions of ourselves, because truly, I'm so nervous
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  Speaker 2: when we do shows, Like I'm telling Eric, I'm like,
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  Speaker 2: I'm so nervous, like shaking, you know, fifth time we
• 1:05:37
  Speaker 2: did it that week, you know, but still it's like
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  Speaker 2: something you may not ever get over the nerves. But
• 1:05:42
  Speaker 2: it's like, but are you going to be the bit
• 1:05:44
  Speaker 2: she says, fuck it and I do it anyway? Are
• 1:05:46
  Speaker 2: you going to be let it like debilitate you to
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  Speaker 2: not move? And then you have regrets? Yeah, I feel
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  Speaker 2: like I've done both. As a kid, I've frozen.
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  Speaker 4: As an adult, I've put through, I've pushed through, but
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  Speaker 4: felt frozen.
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  Speaker 2: The whole time and knew it was horrible.
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  Speaker 4: Have you ever known that you never had that feeling
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  Speaker 4: where you're like, this is going bad, but you're not
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  Speaker 4: going well at all, And then it's yeah, and then
• 1:06:18
  Speaker 4: maybe you've even fleeed, you know, you like try to
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  Speaker 4: forget about that ever happening, and just like keeping and
• 1:06:24
  Speaker 4: putting it away and drawer at the bottom.
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  Speaker 2: Feelings are so much got I'm so sometimes I'm over them,
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  Speaker 2: but I know that's no way to get over them.
• 1:06:33
  Speaker 2: You gotta go in them. Yeah, I gotta run in
• 1:06:38
  Speaker 2: that shit is. That's the journey. That's what else are
• 1:06:42
  Speaker 2: we supposed to be doing here? We'd be bored as
• 1:06:44
  Speaker 2: hell doing everything was safe. If our nervous system was regulated,
• 1:06:48
  Speaker 2: we'd be fucked. If I don't, there'd be no drama.
• 1:06:51
  Speaker 2: There'd be no drama, there'd be no love stories. What
• 1:06:55
  Speaker 2: would be doing We'll be watching Day Along and ship right,
• 1:07:00
  Speaker 2: you're right. The whole life is all about learning to
• 1:07:04
  Speaker 2: understand your nervous system and learning to regulate it very much.
• 1:07:09
  Speaker 2: But there's always going to be predator. There's always going
• 1:07:11
  Speaker 2: to be the good, the bad, the duality of both. Yeah,
• 1:07:15
  Speaker 2: oh my god, that's for another episode.
• 1:07:17
  Speaker 4: I have a whole episode, because, bitch, we were talking
• 1:07:21
  Speaker 4: about the ancestors and the oh my god, the drama
• 1:07:24
  Speaker 4: of the ancestors, and like, how there's duality up there
• 1:07:27
  Speaker 4: in that space, that there's duality in every is that
• 1:07:30
  Speaker 4: the heaven realm. It's like in between, like because you're
• 1:07:34
  Speaker 4: an ancestor not, you're not necessarily like a fucking like
• 1:07:38
  Speaker 4: a master teacher. You're just up there hoping that you're
• 1:07:42
  Speaker 4: hoping that your descendants are feeding you like they're thirsty
• 1:07:45
  Speaker 4: up there too. There's like probably a graveyard of ancestors
• 1:07:48
  Speaker 4: just underfed, and shit, no one's saying hi, giving offering anything.
• 1:07:53
  Speaker 2: So yeah, anyway, that's that's a whole other conversation, but
• 1:07:57
  Speaker 2: yes it is. Join me on an episode of Erica's
• 1:07:59
  Speaker 2: Deep High Thoughts, the drama Ancestors. There's a hotel novella
• 1:08:09
  Speaker 2: happening up there anyway.
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  Speaker 5: Well, this is Smaniel affirmation affirmation.
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  Speaker 2: There was one I had with.
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  Speaker 5: No new friends, just the ones that accept you.
• 1:08:25
  Speaker 2: No new friends, just the ones I.
• 1:08:28
  Speaker 1: Think, like you.
• 1:08:30
  Speaker 2: Just want to think, just think just like you. I'm
• 1:08:38
  Speaker 2: so high. I think it's affirmation time. You guys were high.
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  Speaker 2: Today's affirmation is the only fucks I have to give
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  Speaker 2: are the ones that serve my mind, body and soul.
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  Speaker 2: The only fucks I have to give are the ones
• 1:08:55
  Speaker 2: that serve my mind, body and soul and soul. And
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  Speaker 2: so tray, Thank you, guys, for joining us today. It
• 1:09:06
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• 1:09:11
  Speaker 2: us a little toasted. It's gonna be a little slow,
• 1:09:15
  Speaker 2: made me feel slow. Damn God, damn, thank you.
• 1:09:19
  Speaker 5: Pick more from the garden.
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