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Money Doesn't Change You: How to Stay Grounded as You Build Success · Natty Unfiltered

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  Welcome to Nadi Unfiltered, the podcast for moms who love their
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  kids but know they were meant for more. I'm Nettie,
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  mom of three real estate agent and online entrepreneur.
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  And this is where we talk about confidence,
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  mindset, money, and building a life that actually feels
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  like yours. And today I want to talk about something that doesn't get
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  said enough when it comes to money and success. And that's
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  who you become as you start making more of it.
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  Money doesn't change you, it reveals you.
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  You've probably heard people say money changes people, and honestly,
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  I don't fully agree with that. I think money reveals who
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  you already are, just on the bigger scale.
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  If you're kind, generous, supportive, you'll probably become even
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  more of that. If you're insecure, competitive, or trying to prove
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  something, that can get amplified too. So it's not really
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  about fearing money. It's about being aware of yourself.
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  Because as you grow financially, you also grow in visibility
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  and opportunities, in the way people see you. And if
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  you're not grounded in who you are, it's easy to
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  lose yourself in that. You know, when you people see you
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  succeed, you are going to have people who are
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  going to gravitate to you just because of your standing,
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  of your financial standing, of your how you stand in
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  society. And you yourself also have to protect yourself from the
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  people who are genuine, people who are not. And I also seen
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  people how not the kind
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  of like the money, they changed them, but yes, money amplified
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  of who they were along the way and how they
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  treat other people. Don't lose the version of you that started.
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  I think this is something really important to hold on to
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  the version of you that's starting right now,
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  the one who's figuring things out, who's working towards something,
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  who remembers what it feels, feels like to want more.
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  Don't lose her. Because when things start
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  working, when money starts coming in, when life starts
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  to feel easier, it's easy to disconnect from
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  that version. But that version of you,
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  that's where your humility comes from.
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  That's where your gratitude comes from.
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  That's what keeps you real. And I always remind myself,
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  never forget what it felt like when you were just trying to
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  make it work. How you treat people on the way up
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  matters. This one I feel strong about,
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  because success isn't just about what you build,
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  it's about how you build it. How you treat
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  people when you don't need anything from them anymore says a
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  lot about you. The way you speak to people, the way you show up,
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  the way you carry yourself. And I've
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  seen both sides, people who stay kind,
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  grounded, supportive and people who change,
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  who become distant, who forget where they came
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  from. I've seen even through social media, I've seen people where
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  they've been, where they either were starting out,
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  they were in the middle and when they grew. And I've seen
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  people how they've changed because they became more
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  kind of more recognized, more well known.
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  And when you see them in person, they treat you completely
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  different than when, how they portray themselves on
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  social media. And to me, I frankly find that absolutely
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  disgusting. And before if that would
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  bother me now, a lot of times I just look at it completely
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  different with different eye and I think to myself, you know what
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  you do, you. But you know, I feel a lot better about
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  the person that I am and I, I frankly don't need to be in
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  the same room or kind of giving too
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  much attention or too much energy into people like
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  that. And I always think I never want
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  to be that person because at the end of the day people
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  remember how you made them feel way more than what
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  you have achieved. Stay grounded. Even when
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  things elevate. As your life starts to change, it's easy to
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  get caught up in the next level. You have more money,
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  more success, more goals, more dreams,
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  more visibility. And there's nothing wrong with any
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  of it all for the growth and the
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  expansion. But staying grounded in the middle of
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  that, that's what keeps you aligned. Still appreciating
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  the small things, still being present in your day to day life,
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  still valuing the people around you.
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  Because if you're constantly chasing the next thing without
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  being present in what you already have, it's never
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  going to feel like you have enough. And also evaluating
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  people, your circle,
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  how are people there because they truly
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  love you, they enjoy your company or they just there for
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  the ride. They're there to be in the clique. They're there
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  because they want to be shown where you at or where
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  be by your side. You kind of have to look at is that if
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  you didn't have any of it, would these people be next to me?
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  Don't let money become your identity.
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  This is something I have thought about a lot. When you start building something,
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  making money and growing, it can become a big part
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  of your identity. Like this is who I am now.
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  And while it's something to be proud of, it shouldn't be
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  the only thing that defines you. You're still a mom,
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  you're still a person with values, relationships,
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  emotions, experiences, Money is a tool.
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  It's not your identity. Because if
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  everything is tied to money, what happens when things slow
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  down or change? You want to be rooted in who you are,
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  not just what you earn. And I've seen, I've seen
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  few times and I even have the, like, one example where you
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  would have somebody who was going, was on the way up
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  and doing things, and you would have people who
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  were not really supportive while this person was working herself
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  up. And then once she kind of made it,
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  then you would have another person or people who would
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  be gravitating towards that and now being a little bit more supportive.
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  And I would think to myself, you were not there when this person
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  was working herself up. You were not
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  supportive. You were in a way, kind of fake. And now
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  you were like all about being supportive and being there
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  and all that jazz. To me, that's not real.
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  Like, I see you, hopefully that other person
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  sees the person or what this person is.
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  But in any case,
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  it's just, it's not genuine,
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  it's not real. And I don't think that a lot of people see that.
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  But I'm glad that I can see that.
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  Success with character feels absolutely different.
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  There's a difference between just making money
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  and building a life you're actually proud of. Because yes,
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  you can make money and still feel off, still feel
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  disconnected, still feel like something's missing, still feeling unhappy,
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  still feeling like you're not wanted, you're not,
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  you don't have the right people around you. But when
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  you're aligned with who you are, when you're treating people well,
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  when you're building something, honestly, that feels different,
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  that feels solid, that's the kind of success
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  that actually lasts.
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  You want to build wealth, but stay you.
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  At the end of the day, I'm all for building wealth,
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  for being successful, for being financially abundant.
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  I want you to make money, I want you to have freedom.
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  I want you to create a life that you feels good,
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  but not at the cost of who you are,
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  not at the cost of your values, not at the cost of
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  your relationships, not at the cost of losing yourself.
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  Because the goal isn't just become successful,
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  it's to become successful and still recognize
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  yourself in the mirror. So if you are
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  on this journey, building something, growing,
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  stepping into your next level, just remember to stay
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  grounded in who you are. Because money will come,
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  success will come, but who you are through that process,
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  that's what really matters. If this episode resonates,
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  resonated with you, share with somebody who needs
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  that reminder and don't forget to follow and subscribe to
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  NADI Unfiltered. And because we're not just building success,
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  we're building it the right way. Until next time.